Intrusive thoughts are not You. They are the manifestation of your Anxiety. Anxiety latches on to your deepest fears. But here is some instant relief for you, EVERYONE has intrusive thoughts. People without an anxiety disorder are able to quickly dismiss them. But someone with an anxiety disorder (you) it's hard to because your anxiety feeds off of it and will always look for it (OCD). So how do you change that? By thinking rationally and not just reacting with Fear. Look into CBT and DBT (rational mind vs emotional mind). YOU are in charge of your mind. Take control back 💪🏽 Sending healing peaceful vibes to you.

@user-qr3jq2dk5s

2 жыл бұрын

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@StrawberryRie

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@katlegomatlala4392

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this!!

@curlyceibena6514

2 жыл бұрын

I hope everyone that has commented is healing and doing well. I am here if you need someone to talk to or more advice 💕

@user-qr3jq2dk5s

2 жыл бұрын

@@curlyceibena6514you explained in a beautiful and concise way for us I am a pure O patient I whenever see some bad news I feel that happening to my loved ones and start doing compulsions in mind with some gestures too I try to buffer it like if o see a particular disease description I think it happening to my people within a second and I try best to push it away by buffering some other happy thought between the nasty thought before within a fraction of second the images of my own people comes I try to seperate the bad thought and next to it try to sandwich a good thought Because ifi don't do do I feel anxious and guilt that could be I am causing harm to them by allowing a bad thought to be next to my own people's names and images earlier it were 3-4 Content but it's spreading to other things also I beleive that if I don't do the buffering of some good thought in between the bad thoughht and own family people they can be affected I can give you details of the contents But I tried to write it precisely for your understanding It will be a great help if you can say something to on how to avoid compulsions because without compulsions I feel I am causing or bringing harm to them Thanks in advance

1. Acknowledge it's intrusive thought 2. Say "I am having the thought" before each thought 3. Don't try to push the thought away 4. Reduce the stress in your life

@sammathews6634

Жыл бұрын

Great words!

I feel like at this point I don’t really get the bad thoughts or images as much. It’s more the anxiety that they may happen again or the guilt that they have happened. It really feels like a big circle

@evafernandes3969

2 жыл бұрын

i feel exactly the same

@followersofchrist5046

Жыл бұрын

Thank you I feel the same

@Lexlex11848

Жыл бұрын

Yessss

@Sparksflymich

Жыл бұрын

i feel the same.. its guilt of a past action and extreme anxiety of a future event

@ClipzCollective

Жыл бұрын

See that's just another form of thought. Another intrusive thought. You are now latching on to the anxiety fear that it will come back. This thought is no different then the scary thoughts u had before. So therefore u should treat this thought the same acknowledge that you're having the thought it will come back. Instead of saying I'm scared it will come back. You're having anxiety about the future that doesn't exist

Everyone remember, EVERYONE has weird, morbid thoughts. The only difference is that neurotypical people think it and just think "well that was weird" and move on. You can do that, as well, because those thoughts are not you and they are normal. Don't be so hard on yourself. Trust me, everyone is friggin weird af and not one person is perfect and if they seem like they are, ya might wanna run away, because they're usually the most umm "weird".

@lrowe272

8 ай бұрын

How about wanting to push a person who bullies you down a flight of stairs.

@NecR33

5 ай бұрын

@@lrowe272 yes that is more than normal! Sorry for that, it will pas, keep your chin up!

I literally started crying when watching this. Ive been having these thoughts all my life, but since I started college it’s gotten so much worse. It feels so nice to finally understand why I feel this way and to not feel so lost and afraid. Thank you so much for your help.

@Ramonaew

2 жыл бұрын

I feel the same

@ds74878

Жыл бұрын

And when you understand what's wrong with you, you're halfway cured. Good luck. It's a part of ocd btw. Luvox (fluvoximine) works.

@jamesjohnstone1224

Жыл бұрын

Hey just wondering how you’re getting on ? Cheers

@Matt-to1bi

Жыл бұрын

College is stressful

@phil.2159

3 ай бұрын

same for me here, since I started college the thoughts gotten so much worse

1 RECOGNISE 2 JUST THOUGHTS 3 ALLOW & ACCEPT 4 FEEL & FLOAT AWAY 5 TIME PASS WITH THEM 6 PROCEED

@iiammmkiaa

Жыл бұрын

I can’t

@elck3

11 ай бұрын

Step 1 is the hardest tbh

i keep having intrusive thoughts about hurting people i care about. for example: st@bb1ng my sister, hitting my mom, etc. but just remind yourself that as long as these thoughts are intrusive, you're okay. you are in control. if those thoughts about whatever they might be are intrusive, then that's a good sign because it means you're still a good person. it's just a thought. not an urge. your thoughts do not make up you and your thoughts are not reality.

@glenrunner1169

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your not alone. Love you God bless.

I watched a very traumatasing movie about violence and it made my intrusive thoughts a living hell. I had thoughts that terrified me and it repeated on and on for days. I could not eat, sleep or do anything normal. Side note- i have extreme anxiety for years and it made it so much worse. It got so intense that I started to believe those thoughts, it felt like feelings not just thoughts. I went to terapy and with right medication slowly became all good. Ur not alone and these thoughts ARE NOT YOU! Stay strong everyone who suffers from this 🤍

@goojay6696

Жыл бұрын

What movie so i won't come across it?

@iqbalfans5742

Жыл бұрын

Yes these thoughts are not u u are separated from these thoughts

Thank you so much for this video, the past few days have been difficult with intrusive thoughts that came about all of a sudden and I now realize that I am not the only one who suffers from these thoughts even when they are scary and alarming. The tips you talked about are simple but very helpful, and this is an aspect of mental health that isn’t talked about enough. Anyone going through the intrusive thoughts of OCD, I feel you and know we can get through it ❤️

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

Brielle, Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@lapacesiaconvoi

2 жыл бұрын

God help me with this

@sylviawilson9995

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your words of wisdom

@glenrunner1169

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much.

@jamesjohnstone1224

Жыл бұрын

Hey just wondering how you’re getting on?

I think urges are part of the intrusive thought process. You have an intrusive thought, you see it happening in your mind, and then it feels like you're jumping out of your own body and actually doing the intrusive thought. All while standing still. That feeling can be mistaken as an urge. Even though it's the last thing on earth you'd actually want to do. It's a severely scary part of OCD. I got on Luvox and the thoughts gradually went away. And I had them BEFORE they were widely talked about on the internet. I had to go to the library and have the good fortune of stumbling across a book on OCD to know what was wrong with me. Back then they were called Morbid Obsessions. Hope this helps someone struggling with Intrusive Thoughts.

@rory423

Жыл бұрын

Is Luvox a type of medication for it?

@ds74878

Жыл бұрын

@@rory423 Yes. Believe it or not, intrusive thoughts are part of OCD. Luvox treats ocd. I got on luvox (the generic name is Fluvoxamine) and the thoughts eventually went away.

@rory423

Жыл бұрын

@@ds74878 Hey thanks for your response, that’s really relieving to hear & also when you started taking the medication how long did the intrusive thoughts take to go away?

@ds74878

Жыл бұрын

I noticed the thoughts STARTED to go away about 3 weeks into taking it. Give it 3 to 4 months and you'll be feeling pretty relieved of the thoughts. You just gotta stick with it.

@rory423

Жыл бұрын

@@ds74878 Oh wow that’s really good to hear,I have some hope now.🥹Thanks so much for telling me your experience, really appreciate it!

Practice meditation and don't fight with thoughts they are all ILLUSION thoughts are non existential let them float in the awareness that you are When you become fully aware of your self existence the true BEING then you can see and break the pattern of those intrusive thoughts process bring some spirituality into life practice yoga established yourself with the root of your true being and pay attention to the life process to your self to this whole existence not to this small thoughts process om shantiii shanti🍀

I’ve been struggling with this since I was 14, I use to think exactly what you said “am I evil?” And “I’m not like this” and it caused me not to be able to eat or sleep, panic attacks left and right. Now it’s not as bad, every now and then it hits me(usually from horrible sleep like you said) but it goes away. Thank you for putting this out there for people and to let people know they’re not alone.

@sheri4673

Жыл бұрын

There is a newer treatment that has been FDA approved and there are claims that it can be effective for treatment of OCD, it's called TMS (Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation); if you're still struggling with OCD, it may be worth looking into. I'm so sorry for your suffering.

Thank you so much for these videos! I’ve been following you on TikTok for well over a year because so much of your content has helped me tremendously. Thank you for all that you do and utilizing social media this way. The thing I love the most is that you’re one of the very few therapists that ACTUALLY give helpful tips/advice whereas many others don’t really actually give any tools beyond “just breathe.” Thank you! ❤️❤️

I used to think I'm just going mad, thinking that I could totally hurt someone or myself Some thoughts are really awful, especially the ones with hurting babies or animals, because I would never hurt them and just thinking about it make me feel bad To this day I'm scared to get a licence because I would probably have a thought about driving off the road and dying

@NoeliaStGeorge

2 жыл бұрын

Hey there! Unsolicited advice... :) Intrusive thoughts loose power when you face them! I say you should go get your license and face that fear! :) It will not only empower you but also help your mind understand that are the one in the driver's seat and that your mind doesn't control your life.

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

@@thelost_blue.potato6969 Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

@@NoeliaStGeorge Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

​@@thelost_blue.potato6969 Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations and I am feeling relaxed and healthy. It is very simple. No deep breathing needed. Never do meditation with expectations. Let meditation happen to you but do with sincerety. Best wishes.

My therapist sent me this and I'm def gonna keep these tips in mind, thank you so much. One of the things i do is vent art. i basically create how i feel internally into a digital piece most of the time. another thing i find really helpful for intrusive thoughts is shutting everything off and sitting in silence, trying to think of nothing while doing nothing, and once ive calmed myself at least a little bit, i try my best to address why the thoughts im having dont define my mental state, because all they are is intrusive and nothing more. hope this helps!

Thank you so much for posting this video. You don’t know what it means to me. I only got through half of it and then I said my intrusive thoughts out loud to myself and it led to me unlocking a terrible childhood memory and that’s actually been one of my goals in my therapy that I’ve been in for 8 months, to unlock childhood traumas. So this video means more than you know. Because me not understanding that these truly are common untrusive thoughts and that I’m not terrible or evil led to the truth and that means everything. Thank you so much!

Big thanks for this video! Anxiety is terrible but we can beat it!

Solid clear and practical guidance

Thank you so much, this was great. I thought I overcame my intrusive thoughts last year but they made a comeback (I’m under a lot of stress I’m in my last semester of Nursing school) and these thoughts have been making me feel disgusted and ashamed. Your tips are amazing thank you

@pavithrajanarsan1940

10 ай бұрын

Same here..I had a stable months of mild OCD symptoms and anxiety...and past few days it's like they came back again full force...let us have the grace and strength to walk the path of healing

bless this video, i thought there was something wrong with me.

Thank you so much! It’s helping me for sure!

Thank you so much for creating this video. I’m not sure how long ago you may have created this, but I have been struggling with intrusive thoughts a lot lately and this really helped me feel seen. ❤

I've been in the hospital for a couple days for a bad UTI and very low blood sodium level, I just got back home yesturday and have been having intrusive thoughts since I've been home, watching this has helped so much, thank you! I have have an anxiety disorder for many years, and am trying to keep it from snowballing out of control like it has in the past. I cried while watching this, it made me realize the stress of being hospitalized has brought this on and it's temporary, Thank you again!

I still struggle with them but what helped me was the Law of paradoxical intent i.e. "What you resist, persists!". So I stopped trying to resist or block the thoughts & acknowledged that they were there. I let them come & reinforced the idea that they were thoughts, nothing more. They lose significance over time as you mentioned.

Thank you for these tips!

Thank you, so glad I found your KZread channel. You’re an angel✨

This really helps :) Finding out, that there are plenty of people who feel the same way I do, understanding that intrusive thoughts do not mean I'm some sort of terrible person (I used to think that there must be some "hiding evil" part of me because of the unwanted thoughts), but that it is a scientifically acknowledged condition that can be dealt with... I already feel like I've lost a huge weight I've been carrying around :)

Thank you sooo much I am a 23 year old guy who has an tbi traumatic brain injury I needed this video

Can’t thank you enough for this video! Thank you for what you do!

I've had intrusive thoughts of getting my teeth pulled out, and that I am a terrible writer. This video really helped! Thanks so much! Much love to you!

Thank you so much for this video I needed this truly

Thank you for this video, I am a therapist as well who suffers from OCD!

I’ve been having intrusive thoughts the last week this video helps me stay calm but I keep acknowledging them and it helps a bit

Thank you from the bottom of my heart

Thank you so much Micheline ❤️ this was of great help!

thank you so much. i am not exaggerating when i say you are saving my life

This woman is brilliant !

Listening to you calmed me ❤️

My silver lining in this since I am a nerd that once I have separate myself with these thoughts I feel like Two-Face inside my mind. The thoughts feels like the burned side of him telling what to do and the good side is me telling myself I am not my thoughts. 😅 But it is definitely hard to go through this. I'm still working hard with the tips she gave us! Thank you and God bless! 🙏♥️

Your words really mean a lot

Thank you so much! I have had so many intrusive thoughts and I get so anxious and scared. I also thought that I would act if I had too many and I would get so scared because I know that I would never want to hurt anyone. I just wanted to say this helped me so much and I do struggle with anxiety. I am going to start being mindful.

I'm so glad your back on KZread!! I missed the longer videos. 👉👈 This is always one of the most difficult parts of my mind, I'm so scared that those thoughts will lead to action even if I ✨absolutely 100%✨ don't want too. Thanks for the tips and the comfort to bring it up with my therapist ... just not yet, I'm not yet ready for the out-loud conversation.

@Micheline.Maalouf

3 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad you’re here love ❤️ those thoughts rarely lead to action. That’s why they are so scary because they confuse you and make you think that you’re going to do something that goes against who you are as a person. I would remind yourself that they are thoughts and they don’t mean anything about who you are ❤️

Thank you for this. I have a long history or poor mental health and this well presented advice gave me a nice tool to try today. Thanks 😊

Thanks you so much for posting the video.

I have been getting some very dark intrusive thoughts, especially over the last two weeks. I was trying to force them out, this just makes them worse and is extremely draining, to the point that my anxiety and stress levels went through the roof. Also I was on a new medication and this, at first, was making me feel worse not better. After seeing an article which spoke about intrusive thoughts I changed how I dealt with the thoughts. I acknowledge the thoughts are there, then just leave them be and carry on with whatever I was doing. It takes hard work but I have found I am a lot less stressed and anxious, and the thoughts have lost most of their power. I hope anyone reading this finds it helpful and that your thoughts stop ruling your life.

@sarveshtanavade506

Жыл бұрын

You are not alone bro I am also going through same violent Dark Thoughts because I watch a lot of crime Doc so one day I was watching a crime Doc on a serial killer who brutaly murdered little Girls Suddenly my heart started to beat upto a whole next level and after that I am having Intrusive thoughts

@SimonTheShark

Жыл бұрын

@@sarveshtanavade506 having them means you're a good person and you dont want that outcome, thats why you're feeling anxious when the thoughts intrude, you are not your thoughts and will never be.

@jamesjohnstone1224

Жыл бұрын

Hey just wondering how you’re getting on now, cheers

Hi.. thank you for this wonderful information on intrusive thoughts and ways to handle them.. I have been managing my intrusive thoughts for last 20 yrs. They were not bothering me lot and they used to stay there in my head for some days and then go off.. These intrusive thoughts were coming up in my mind about everything.. like my health, social issues, safety and well-being of my near and dear ones, accidents etc.. But for last one month I got stuck in a very nasty and scarey introsive thought about hurting my family members who are everything for me.. It made me crazy that why I m getting these nasty thoughts about my family who are everything to me.. I was feeling shame, fear, disguised, depressed that why I get these unwanted stuff in my mind.. So, saw many videos on this subject so I got some tips how to handle these unwanted and nasty thoughts.. But, i think your video is one of the best videos on this subject .. I got so much relieved of fear and anxiety caused by these unwanted thoughts.. I have watched thrice this video to make myself fully aware about the tips you have given in the video.. Thank you so much.. may God bless you.

You so much for posting this video. I’ve been very much struggling with some intrusive thoughts, and this has helped me out quite a bit. Thank you.

Hi - thank you for doing this video on such an interesting topic. Providing realistic examples of intrusive thoughts is helpful also. Great tips on how to cope and manage them. Thank you

Thanks so much for this. Love you ❣️

This is a great summary, BTW.

I felt i was alone in this. Now i know im a normal person. Thank you so much.

Thank you for this video. ❤️

The mention of sleep hygiene in your video reminded my that I have to stop late afternoon teas and coffee if I want to get to bed early.

One thing that helps me is to, if I feel comfortable, physically react to my intrusive thoughts, like saying out loud, "I don't like that" or "ugh that's frustrating". It's difficult for me to recognize my thoughts and say to myself I'm having this thought, but getting it out physically makes it easier to remove myself from the scary or uneasy feelings they can bring. Thank you for making mental health content! It's been so helpful reinforcing what I talk about in session with my therapist and making me feel more comfortable talking about and accepting my mental health problems

@Micheline.Maalouf

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing that with us, I’m sure someone will find this helpful and may have the same challenge with saying “I am having the thought” ❤️❤️

@jamesjohnstone1224

Жыл бұрын

Hey just wondering how you’re getting on now, cheers

@hey_itsokay

7 ай бұрын

What do you mean by getting it out physically? What do you do?

yes sir !! Thanks for the info !

this was so helpful i love it thank you! i missed your youtube videos😭❤️

@Micheline.Maalouf

3 жыл бұрын

I’m bringing them back!!!

Thank you so much dear 🫂❤️ This video really saved me from going crazy. To all the people who struggling out there, um sending you lots of love and care 🫂❤️ You guys can make it ❤️

I felt Tip 2 on "I'm having that thought that ...(Intrusive thought here)" reminded me how easy these tips are to understand but difficult to implement consistently.

Thank you so much for helping me with this :( I've had this problem for a while

I've had intrusive thoughts since I was little. I never knew the name for what I was experiencing. The persecuting thoughts, perfectionism thoughts, the 'this doesn't feel right so i'll repetitively think until it feels right' thoughts. Sometimes I can't move sometimes because of the thoughts. My brain attacks everything that i love with thoughts. Now i'm realising that my problems are real and that I don't have to suffer alone! I've spoken to a therapist about these thoughts and I'm on track to not being paralyzed by them! Videos like these are a literal life saver too. I need to be reminded that these are thoughts. They aren't me. They aren't real. Even if they are scary, depressing or horrible.

Thanks love for your help xx

Thank you so much for this❤❤

Yes I saw my own spelling mistake 😞 but you’ll get to know that’s how I always am! 😂❤️

@karlmarcelo1000

3 жыл бұрын

if I am having intrusive thoughts, do I have to look for therapist right away? or try to deal with this on my own? because I am struggling with it for months now and it became worse than it was. I am trying to follow your tips and it works for the time being. P. s. my neighbors overheard me talking to my parents about it and my past sins that they think I am my own thoughts even though I am SO NOT. They made look like a perv. But It's just that, an intrusive thought. How do I deal with them because they are bullying me everyday? I need your answer. I am Christian and bad thoughts comes in and out of my head. It's the entire opposite of what I believe as a person. I actually saw your podcast and it was awesome. Really helped a LOT. The examples that y'all gave are synonymous with mine. I felt alone the first time I had this cause I didn't even know what this is. Now I feel understood and like "hey there are others like me out there!". I was so afraid last year that I would hurt anyone and try to change the thought with a good one but really didn't work. Because the more I try to stop it more bad intrusive thoughts comes in and out of my head. Now I know I don't have get rid of this and just handle and cope with it. Thank U and God bless! P. S. my neighbors might send a slanderous message bout me or fabricated pictures and videos. Obviously, i am not in prison. Gosh, those were one of my fears. I live in The Philippines and they don't know much about this and we still struggle with stigma here about mental illness. 😅❤️🙏

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

@@karlmarcelo1000 Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

This was quite helpful. Thank you

Thank you so much for your help 😊

I think the root of my intrusive thoughts is from stress and trauma I experienced from my family during my youth and up until now I’m fighting to overcome that trauma from them, the trust, the hurt how they oppress me before. I’m still carrying those “what if” it happened again, I lost all the trust, and it’s hard to pretend that’s it’s alright. I’m fighting to get over those experiences but I couldn’t give a benefit of a doubt because I can still feel the remnants of it. Still there and is actually stressing me out sometimes. It’s hard when the root of your trauma is from the people you thought they are your ally. But only cares for their good, or for what people would say to our family. I don’t know I wanted to cry when I thought they understand me or just pretend they understand me just so they won’t see me doing something against them or against what they want. Like, I moved out away from them without a notice I felt like I was shackled. It’s been decade I only communicated with them through phone. But I am scared to face them, I was emotional and physically hurt. But I admit that I did something that is against their will or want. I just want freedom to do what I want, but they want something else for me which I don’t want. I finished my college degree as I promised to myself and to honor them but I couldn’t let them manipulate me for what they want. Even they offer me choices “I mean wtf” they offer choices based on what they like but said it’s up to me to decide, like I wanted to curse if only I could do that being disrespectful but I tried to holdback. Since they are already old and I don’t want to hurt them more than what I did moving out and did what I want to do even against their will and what their beliefs. And now Im struggling with this kind of intrusive thoughts and trying to reverse my thoughts instead into good one. But thankfully I came cross to your video.

Wow! These are intrusive thoughts. Now I know the true definition

Thank you I rlly appreciate this video I'll try to use the methods you teached

Very well said. Thank you❤🤲

Great sincere to the point video

Step 1 is the hardest tbh. Recognizing it’s an intrusive thought - since oftentimes it feels so real - that is why you start to feel the fear and urge to check or do something

@yourstruly5498

11 ай бұрын

Yes definitely, but when you do recognise these thoughts are intrusive and intrude your mind you start to feel way better in the long run.

@NecR33

5 ай бұрын

I know the feeling! It s ok!🤗

Thank you so much 😢❤️I hope it gets better..

I get intrusive thoughts from time to time, what helps me a lot is to remind myself that thoughts do not mean they are you, I see thoughts as something that appears out of nowhere from the exterior of myself, so I know it's not me, then I naturally get mad at the thought and start mad dogging talking shit at it, saying to myself that ain't me and stuff like that, then I try to think and say outloud 3 things that are true and contradict the thought, then I feel better and stronger. Remember guys, thoughts are not you, only you know who you truly are, remind yourself.

Thank you 💙

I get certain thought’s that relate to knives, such as the one you listed, I also watched a documentary about a murderer and it got to a part where it mentioned sexual acts with minors and then I thought to myself “when I’m older am I gonna do that?” Or “Could I end up doing that” and it scares me. I don’t know what to do really but I can kinda get rid of them using certain anxiety methods I have but apart from that they stay. The thoughts are sometimes just fine and go away but can also be quite distressing, thank you.

@Kai_Swinson

2 жыл бұрын

brother I'm in the same boat and tbh idk what to do I've been on the internet for so long looking for a awnser. I have autism which means my anxiety is worse and it does hurts but hopefully one day i can forget about it. ik myself im not that person but its just frustrating when your brain tells u lies and u start to kinda believe what its saying so yeah its horrible but as i said hopfully myself and others can get through this. 👍

@berniemcdonagh8150

Жыл бұрын

Me too and lately it’s been saying it’s me and a lot calmer. Saying I want to think and do things.

I've been dealing with these thoughts off and on for probably most of my life (I'm in my early 20s) but it's taken me until recent years to understand that these thoughts are intrusive and nonreflective of what I truly feel. I've been struggling again recently and I can use these tips to help myself feel better. I know what it's like to live with them and be happy but I also slip up sometimes and I let them overtake me. I'm scheduling an appointment today with a therapist because I know I can feel good again and I think I might need some extra help getting back to that.

@Sababyy345

Жыл бұрын

I’m going through exactly what you talked about. I’ve experienced this but it did go away with realizing they’re just thoughts but it’s hitting me again and it feels like it’s not going away and it’s starting to almost become a new feeling ! But I truly understand now that we’re not alone like we think!! Hope everythig is going beautiful for u

@matthewluck9077

Жыл бұрын

@@Sababyy345 I am doing so much better. I struggled for a few months there. I did what I said and saw a therapist and was very open about everything with them. They helped me develop tools to cope with my anxiety and it really helped me overcome a lot of what I was thinking and the feelings that went along with it. Seeking help is the hardest step, but it makes life so much more livable.

This video is relaxing I have facing these now 🥺💔

Hey Micheline! I really enjoyed watching this video and learning how to manage my intrusive thoughts! When you said that we could be having these thoughts because of trauma more started to make sense for me! Like you said in the video the Thoughts that one could be having like “I’m an evil person” and “I don’t really love my family” for me I would change that with my parents. When I was younger and I would get in trouble and be sent to my room I would have the thought “I don’t really love my parents” and I would cry and rebel and sometimes cry myself to sleep every night. Now that intrusive thought comes up from time to time but it’s more of the fact that I have a lot of resentment towards my parents. As far as the thought “I am an evil person” goes I have that thought when I try to set boundaries it’s my parents because they are defensive and they don’t respect me and gaslight me. Thank you for sharing Micheline! You have helped me so many times with what to talk about in Therapy because you aren’t afraid to talk about the hard things and you make your videos easy to understand! Also you remind me of the things I pushed down for so long!

@Micheline.Maalouf

3 жыл бұрын

Emma I am so glad this helped you ! I’m sorry you struggle with intrusive thoughts. It’s definitely not easy and yes, it can come from trauma so discussing with a therapist will be the best option. I hope that you can use some of these tools to make it slightly easier on yourself. ❤️

@emmalfranzblau

3 жыл бұрын

Micheline Maalouf, LMHC Micheline Yes, it’s not easy dealing with them. I didn’t know it was coming from Trauma so that was good to know! My Therapist uses CBT for things like intrusive thoughts. CBT sometimes makes me feel like I criticize myself more or start thinking that all of my thoughts are bad thoughts when my Therapist uses it. So In between sessions I use some of the tools that you have shared! It’s easier for me to unhook from my thoughts rather than challenge my thoughts because I get frustrated easily.

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

​@@emmalfranzblau Detox the mind with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, when on mobile, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

Thank you. I have been searching for many videos about intrusive thoughts and this one i could say on point. Thanks for the disclaimer that at first this very very hard... I look forward that someday this will gone too soon. I have already seek for professional help and eventhough it is hard to say my thoughts . I should have courage to open it up

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

Steven Gems, Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

Thank you so much 🤍

THANK YOU!

The MOST Bothersome Thing For Me Is Going Along Having A Descent Day & BAM !* Outa Nowhere An Awful Intrusive Thought Comes Outa Nowhere That Has Nothing To Do With My Train Of Thought Wile Going About My Day . I'm Like, "WHY" ? I Get Hung Up On "Where's The Trigger" ?* I Feel Like I Was Attacked !*

I've been under a lot of stress lately and definitely feel like they're getting worse. It's weird stuff like harming my partner, myself, and others. I don't really want those things but it's just tough to keep thinking them.

@glenrunner1169

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your not alone. We are good people its just our thoughts get in the way. Try not to fear your thoughts because nothing is going to happen be happy dont feel guilty.

@SizeHappy

Жыл бұрын

I get the same thoughts. It’s called Harm OCD. Therapy has helped a lot. And having compassion.

Your explanation is very good

Hi Micheline!! I just want to say that this video will help me a lot!! But I'm a little nervous about something and I need your help... So a few days ago I started having sexual intrusive thoughts about things that comforted me a lot, and I'm not going to lie but they were on a bit of an extreme level... I'm trying to get over these thoughts!! And I've improved a little, but my biggest fear is that when I'm over I don't like these things like I used to, they helped me when I was sad, but even though I know these thoughts won't change anything about them, I always stay nervous and with an enormous desire to cry. I try to remember the times when these things made me happy but I'm not sure if it will work out very well... But I only started thinking about it 3 days ago so I'm still hopeful. I also felt less hungry today, I don't know if it was because I was getting too excited but I just had dinner now and I'm feeling a little sick. (I forced myself to eat a little bit because since lunch I had no desire to eat, and by that time I was really sick because of my intrusive thoughts.) I'm thinking of talking about this to my school psychologist (the my other psychologist is not available so I want to try to talk to the one at school) as these thoughts made me feel like I couldn't look anyone in the face and was quite afraid to go to school, and I also felt like cutting off contact with most of my friends temporarily as I am afraid of affecting them. I'm afraid I've been traumatized because of this, because the only thing I want is for me to enjoy these things like I used to. Thank you so much for reading this far! Have a great day/afternoon/evening/morning!!

Nice video. One more suggestion. Detox the mind with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

It's so exhausting! In private I often find myself hitting my head trying to get it to stop or ill start talking to myself and say things like “im stupid” “im sorry” etc impulsively. These thoughts get worse when I'm stressed or when something Uncomfortable or embarrassing happens to me. it will invade my mind for days and even weeks.

@glenrunner1169

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your not alone. God bless us all.

Yes, the way to beat OCD is let the troubling thought be there in your head when it enters yor mind and don't argue with it/ "OMG, I think maybe I want to molest that child." If this is your troubling thought, when it is in your head do not argue with it and don't try to prove in your mind that you are not a child molester. Just let the troubling thought be there. You can even tell yourself, "Maybe I am a child molester. I will not try to prove I am not a child molester." Let that the bad thought be in your head and don't arguew ith it. After time, your mind says you know what, maybe I am a child molester and your mind is no longer incredibly bothered by it, cause it knows you are not a child molester. Nothing bad will happen. The problem is the reaction to the troubling thought. Instead of letting it bother you and arguing with it, if the troubling thought is in your head just let it be. Believe me, after time, your mind no longer fears the troubling thought and it knows the troubling thought is not the real you. Your mind no longer goes into extreme anxiety mode about the thought. You end up thinking, "Okay, maybe I am a child molester," and you don't care. You learn to understand the bad thought is not real, it is not you. Finally, the troubling thought is not you, it is the opposite of you and what you are. That is actually why it is the topic of your OCD. You need to understand there is nothing to fear or worry about in regards to your troubling thought, it is the opposite of you and who you are.

@melanie0223

Жыл бұрын

thank you for this advice❤️my problem is i get scared to just let it be there because obviously i don’t want that thought in my head or i’m scared to actually believe the thought if i just let it be there😢although this did recently start happening so slowly i know i can control it

@nycinstyle

Жыл бұрын

@@melanie0223 Your troubling thought that you obsess about is the opposite of you. It is why your brain keeps obsessing struggling with this thought. A person who has pure OCD and obsesses about thinking he or she is a child molester will keep arguing in the brain over it. Am I a child molester? Why do I keep thinking about this, why do I get anxious thinking about it OMG I am a child moletser, but wait I want what is best for children I will never ever molest a child, but wait why when I think about that kid I think maybe I am amolester, etc etc etc. Do not argue back and forth. Uncertainty exists in life. You can never be a million percent sure you wont do something, etc., you don't need to prove it beyond all doubt. Arguing back and forth trying to convince yourself that you are not a child molester or whatever your obsession is - this is the real problem. Again, it is called ruminating. Ruminating, it is the fuel for pure OCD it is in reality meaningless. The reason you obsess about being a child molester is because you are actually the furthest thing away from being a child molester and your brain keeps trying to prove it to yourself over and over and overv and over and overv and... This is pure ocd. The way to beat it, is to not argue back and forth about it in your head. You can even think you know what I am a child molester I am not going to worry about and argue back and forth. When your brain accepts that the heck with it who cares maybe I am a child molester, the brain ends up knowing the truth is you are not a child molester and does not care about it. The rumination is the real problem. It feeds the pure O, pure OCD. It takes time, but you will beat this. Don't argue with these troubling thoughts. Let it be. They will lose all the power they have over you abnd you wont care, you will know of course you are not a child molester. I saw Dr. Phillipson a great person helping people who suffer from pure O, a nice guy, years ago in NYC. He helped me beat my pure O. I saw him in end of 2009. He and his therapists in office taught me this. The OCD loses power. You get better. All better. The OCD loses all its power. You will get all better. You can and will beat this. I was not obsessig about being a child molester teh topic was very different but the steps to beat the OCD are the same. Do not argue back and forth in the brain, DONT RUMINATE, do your best it takes time but you will get all better you are not the troubling thought you are the opposite. Do not worry, you can and will get all better. You can start feeling better very quickly when you realize the OCD is the opposite of you it is not real etc, and understand that ruminating is the problem the brain stupidly wanting to find certainty. It can take months to get all better, etc, but you can feel better quickly when you understand the truth about pure O. The obsession is not you, it is ot going to happen, etc. You are the oppsoite and have nothing in reality to worry about.

@nycinstyle

Жыл бұрын

@@melanie0223 It is very hard to feel good when you are suffering from pure O, but I hope you can realize the truth about pure O, whatever the thing is you obsess about going back and forth in your head trying to negate how importat this issue has become for you, this bad thing that bothers you is in fact the opposite of you and this bad thing is not true. It is why your brain struggles so much. Just try to understand that it is not anything you really have to be concerned with, this troubling thought is b.s., that is the truth. Don't try and reassure yourself this bad thought is not true, etc. Let it be in your head. IT IS IN TRUTH MEANINGLESS. This bad thought you obsess about is not true, it is nothing for you to beconcerned with cause the opposite of this bad thought is the real you, that is the truth. The bad obsession is not true, wont happen, etc. When you try to convince yourself in your head that the obsession is not real, is nothing to worry about then your brain puts more importance on it. If you just tell yourself who cares I wont be afraid cause this obsession is just not me, it is not true this bad thought but if I think about this bad thought I wont argue about it in my head. The brain puts less and less importance on it. Eventually, you realize the obsession is b.s. nothing at all you need to care about. The bad thought is not you, it is not real. Don't put any importance on it. Don't ruminate. meaning going back and forth in your gead thinking about it. Try not to. You can even tell yourself this bad scary thought is true and I will not argue about it. The truth comes to your brain after time and you no longer obsesses over it and you realize the obsession, bad scary thought, is not you, is not real. The opposite is true. You have nothing to worry about. In fact, you can and will get all better. I had pure O since high school. I am 58 gosh darn years old now (i cant believe it life goes to fast! lol. But seriously, I got all better years ago and you can and will get all better and the obsessions wont bother you anymore. People get better from pure O. Best way dont argue in your head, dont ruminate, tell yourself teh bad scary thought is true? Who cares? Not me. The trut is teh obsession is the furthest thing from teh truth, your brain struggles to find certainty that the bad thought is not true. This is ruminating. This si the fuel for pure O. Don't feed it. Try your best not to ruminate. Let it be. Let things be in your head and dont get anxious worrying about it. You are not the bad thing, the bad thing won'r happen, you will be fine and beat this pure O. You end up realizing the obsession is stupid, nothing to worry about, the opposite of you, the opposite of the truth. You can and will get better. All better. I struggled with pure O in my teens and into my 40s I even had these obsessions bothering me, at times. I found out the truth about my obsessions it is just b.s. nothing to be concerened with in reality and that other people do the same thing and it has a name pure O, and you can beat it. I got all better You will, too.

@melanie0223

Жыл бұрын

@@nycinstyle oh my gosh thank you so much for this. i genuinely appreciate this so much and i really appreciate you taking the time to put this comment as well. yes you are so right today i’ve just been telling myself “it’s just a thought, it’s not you” and it’s been working out so much for me and i will definitely do all the things you suggested and you’re right time goes by so fast so i feel as though we should enjoy life rather than be worrying about these things constantly! i am super glad that after so much time you healed and are doing much better now :) it really does give me hope that i will get better. sending all my love❤️

@yourstruly5498

11 ай бұрын

@@nycinstyle wow man, that really helped me a lot you don't even understand this is exactly what I have been doing and no wonder its been getting worse..thank you

Thank you❤ this was realy Helpful😊

Please make a video about bullying! It would help a lot of us who are being bullied. 😅😍

Intrusive thoughts are not facts and they are not true everybody, and I suffer from intrusive thoughts everyday, and I’ve found confronting them helps me a lot, thoughts are just thoughts, thank you this video is really helpful

I tell myself your just like that when i get these thoughts that are negative, just ignore them and forgive youself for having them

wow i really really needed to hear this. thank you!

@kimdem7255

2 жыл бұрын

I- 😿. I am proud👐🏼

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

Kaitlyn, ​ Detox the mind with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, when on mobile, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

Thank you ❤

Thank you!!!

thank you!

Adorei essa explicação, ajudou demais

O my god, I have OCD. And I was helping my dad burn sticks. And I had a really, I mean really nasty thought of throwing my little brother into the pile of burning sticks. When that thought was out of my head, all I could feel is shame and regret.

@melanie0223

Жыл бұрын

i get the same thoughts and it’s weird because they happen so suddenly when you don’t want them. you aren’t alone and just know you can get through this💘

@user-zf1gq5ib1m

11 ай бұрын

Intrusive thoughts thrive because they are the opposite of who you are.Just remember that

@user-zf1gq5ib1m

11 ай бұрын

​@@melanie0223Me to😊

God bless this lady and everyone in the comments. Up until now, i thought i was the only one going thru this. Thought i was going crazy. And thought suicide was the only way out of it all. Never been a bad person at all. I hate all types of crimes, especially sex crimes. And i had these horrible horrible thoughts and visions and it was just too much to bear any longer. Especially since i never done wrong and never would to anyone. Blessings to everybody here.

@dinodango3383

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing💛 I feel exactly the same and it’s helps so much to see people sharing their stories

Thank you.