Staying away from people makes me happy...I love my own company!

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! Same. 💗

@saramatthews7159

2 жыл бұрын

As an introvert I feel this comment

I had a 90 min massage this weekend and relaxed, went to a new restaurant for dinner and then went on a nice lunch the following day. I’ve been speaking affirmations of peace and softness all week and guess what? That is what has been happening.

@SpiritSoulSense

2 жыл бұрын

I love this! ♥️

@divinemissw

2 жыл бұрын

You're giving me ideas, Thanks for sharing

This is the only kind of content I’m binging right now. ♥️✨ Happy, thriving Black women

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

Happy thriving to you too Shareece!

@SpiritSoulSense

2 жыл бұрын

@@StephaniePerry Thank you!!

@TriBeccaDesigns

2 жыл бұрын

Can you make a recommendation for another?...I need to see more of us doing us positively🤎

@easiersaidwithmeg

2 жыл бұрын

Can I also recommend Alecia Renece the artist

@TriBeccaDesigns

2 жыл бұрын

@@easiersaidwithmeg thanks for the recommendation

I bought a Coach bag for myself and my bank put a fraud alert on my account! That let me know that I need to treat myself a lot more so that doing so won't seem suspicious. Lol!

I take a walk in the park every day that it is nice, even when I'm not doing my walks for pure exercise... just for sunshine and fresh air and peace...

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

What a wonderful way to love on yourself. 💗

I take a bubble bath every Sunday for a half an hour. Listen to mood music, burn a candle and wear my clay mask. I love to pamper myself.

I’m getting better at allowing myself grace and peace.

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

It's a practice. I'm glad you're making the effort. Keep it going! 💗

@kimberlybraxton2387

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this reminder. The example of saying something negative to my sister resonated with me. That's my takeaway, if I won't say it to someone else then I won't say it to myself. ❤

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

@@kimberlybraxton2387 It makes a BIG difference. 💗

@SheilaFoi

2 жыл бұрын

Felt this one - it's crazy how much we give others, far more grace than we give ourselves! But we're getting better 😉

I'm hitting all my favorite channels tonight. Congratulations Stephanie, I resigned last week and will be starting my year long sabbatical next week. Thank you for all these videos. I am practicing treating myself better everyday. I am being gentle with myself and I stop myself from speaking negative (our words have power). It is not easy, we've been so conditioned with negative motivation, but this is the year I'm putting a stop to this. It is NOT serving me well at all. Much love!!

@Erica-en2qz

2 жыл бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Congratulations! I can't wait until I can take a sabbatical too 🌞

@cnwonye4932

2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations 👏🏾👏🏾Enjoy your sabbatical.

@IAmTheAnswerer

2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations!

@michonnegrimes880

2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations!! 🎉👏🏾 Working towards my sabbatical and living abroad for 2023! ❤

@AlieshiaTV

2 жыл бұрын

Yesss sabbatical

I so agree. Some relationships don’t serve you and it’s perfectly fine to kick them to the curb.

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

Their season might be over. 💗

I’m doing fewer things I don’t want to do, without further explanation.

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Offering no explanation is a form of self care.

@sonyashelton7510

2 жыл бұрын

I know that's right! Can you borrow $50? No. Enjoy your day.

The person not respecting my boundaries and not treating me consistently with loving kindness is my mother. Currently working on removing that stress from my life. I've asked for respect for 30 years and is never going to happen. It's painful but I can love myself and treat myself well.

@mterrell604

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry that you're going through this. But, yes treat yourself well. Do not accept mistreatment as an act of humility. It will be interpreted as your love language and how you seek affirmation. Be blessed.

One way that I treat myself with lovingkindness is that I am the authority on how much and how long I work even though I don't own my own business. I also don't deny myself pleasure EVER. Sitting here watching this video, I am relaxing by playing in my planner I take classes in the things that I am interested in. You're right Stephanie. We train people on how to treat us by treating ourselves with lovingkindness FIRST. Like you, I am disarming those negative thoughts. They become powerless because I no longer believe them. Feels good to be FREE!

@celiameaux2547

2 жыл бұрын

Amen!

@forevermarcia

2 жыл бұрын

Hallelujah🙌🏾

“I think highly of myself” That’s a WORD. 🔥

I’m really struggling with living for self. As a single woman with no children I find myself filling my time doing things for others then being exhausted afterwards.

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

Please find somebody to help you work through that. For real. You're entitled to enjoy your life. 💗

@LovelyVibrations

2 жыл бұрын

As a newly single woman I understand what you are struggling with! Do not allow others to drain you based on what THEY think you should be spending your time on. I started traveling, getting treatments and doing charity work of MY CHOOSING and there is no time for anyone else to drain / waste my time. Learn to say no to what does not serve you and YES to what you love and you will have more energy to serve others🌸

@myrahj1482

2 жыл бұрын

Same 🙋🏽‍♀️

@saramatthews7159

2 жыл бұрын

Start being selfish...i feel no shame for living a selfish lifestyle

@dominiquefelder1809

2 жыл бұрын

@@LovelyVibrations 👍

Thank you for always treating us with loving kindness. ❤️❤️❤️

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

I love that this community is so good at that. Thank you too, Myrtle.💗

We're trained to go from one project to another, and it's exhausting and jarring. So, the biggest thing I've done to embrace ease is that I've stopped doing things I don't want to do. Nothing and no one is excluded! Thanks for the reminder, powerful message here. 💟

Stephanie thank you for another empowering video. As a single mom, for too many years, I existed in constant state of hurriedness. I'd rush to drop one kid off at day care and the other at school. At work, I'd rush from meeting to meeting. During lunch I'd run errands, go to the bank or take a kid to the doctor/dentist. After work, I was off to a game, piano lessons, gymnastics or wherever. Now I'm retired and the kids are mostly grown. It took me a minute (just one) to get used to having "freedom" AND "time." However, with your encouraging videos, I was a very quick study. I spend my newly freed up time, doing things that support my peace and bring me joy. When I was a child, I loved to color. So, a few weeks ago, I bought myself an African American Self-Care coloring book and colored pencils. And on some days I spend hours drinking coffee or wine (depending on the time of day) and just coloring. Thank you sooo much, for reminding Black Women that WE deserve to laugh, smile and be happy. And there is no guilt or shame in it. Blessings and peace,

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you're discovering / rediscovering what you love to do and dedicating time to do it. 💗

@michonnegrimes880

2 жыл бұрын

I love this!! I used to oil paint, take art classes and write poetry years ago. I stopped due to life getting so hectic and busy, and I lost a part of my self for sure. My artistic creativity is a huge part of who I am and I need to tap back into that side again. Thank you for the inspiration. ❤

The absence of struggle is very important, as black women are so accustom to struggle. We must end it.

I lived in a place of false humility for years. It was rooted in me never feeling worthy or enough. Now I boast in the God-given gifts that I have. I thank God for healing me and helping me see my innate value in simply being me and embracing the fullness of myself.

@TriBeccaDesigns

2 жыл бұрын

Your comment just helped me out. I've often down-played my talents to make others comfortable...not doing that anymore. The gifts of God are irrevokable and without repentance. 🙌🏾☝🏾🙏🏾

I’m all about getting UNbusy🙏🏽🙏🏽

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! Drop everything and only pick up what you want. 💗

I PAT MY HEART AND SAY YOU ARE SUCH A GOOD GIRL WHEN I NEED TO HEAR IT. I LOVE ON MY TEDY BEARS AND THEY COMFORT ME WHEN i SLEEP. I LIGHT INCENSE, RELAX AND GIVE THANKS FOR EVERY CELL IN MY BODY AND PRAISE THEM FOR HAVING A PHD IN KEEPING ME IN DIVINE HEALTH= (THE BEST OF HEALTH). STEPHANIE, ALWAYS SENDING YOU lOVING KINDNESS. IRIS

@synolve

2 жыл бұрын

Recognizing when we do good things really is so powerful

@SongofaBeach2012

Жыл бұрын

Those are very sweet things you do for yourself. I feel like you are in tune and are healing your inner child. Thats beautiful and keep at it!

@Nabisoul28

Жыл бұрын

@@SongofaBeach2012 thank you

My mother always said THE TRUTH IS TOLD IN A JOKE ..GOD REST HER SOUL🙏🏿🙏🏿

For years I have been there for others I have not gotten the same in return Black women needs to break the generational curse of witchcraft/ hatred.

I'm so conflicted about your statement on humility. I try to live my life according to biblical principles, but when you said that humility is over-rated...my heart WAS in agreement. It seems as though sometimes folks tell us to be humble because they want to keep us subdued. I appreciate how you address your content toward us (the melanated ones) because we need these kinds of reinforcements in this world.

This needed to be said and repeated. I'm looking forward to your book.

Self talk can be so detrimental to our greatness ☹️

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

It sure can be. It's mean and destructive.

Hi Stephanie- I love the content you put out..no one to my knowledge has ever told black women that it is ok to put yourself first..My daughter leaves for college soon and I am ready to begin my journeys! I am also hoping to meet some more women who are ready as well!

@marchmello1528

2 жыл бұрын

My leaves in a year... I will be like a kid in a candy shop. Selling and exploring the world.

@sabrinawilks1258

2 жыл бұрын

@@marchmello1528 Good for you! If you are interested in Merida, MX let me know

I get up early and work out so I have ease to move around in body. I'm 65 thriving. You are a amazing woman and I am glad for your timely presence..

@gemaynedorisjeanhoward7325

2 жыл бұрын

Also I am working on my book also.

Wow, I love when you say money is a tool and TIME is more important on treating yourself well. 😊

You have to put it on the table People are very selfish and ungrateful They don’t appreciate good people

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

Some people don't. That's why we form community with people who do.

Thanks Stephanie for reminding us to take good care of ourselves--it’s empowering and impactful. Congratulations on getting to 100K very very soon and I predict will be reached before week’s end! So well deserved-I have learned so much and been so comforted by your channel-you are a Godsend!🙏🏽🥰🙌🏼

Team “Treat Yourself”…Yes Stephanie. I’m all for it!!

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

Agnes, we DESERVE! 💗

I know this info was geared towards women, but this spoke volumes to me as a brother. Black men absorb a lot of psyco-emotional hits from a lot of different sources (i.e.- Parents, teachers, media, relationship partners, etc.) and we internalize them. This often leads to some unfortunate self-fulfilling prophecies and perpetuate the stigma of "lazy", "trifling", "useless", "of no account Black men". I plan on sharing this video with some of my male friends who, like myself, need to hear that first point over and over again.

What a great idea to not say things to yourself that you would never say to others. That changes everything.

You represent an inner freedom rarely witnessed in black women. Your presence is inspiring and refreshing.

I find your voice so soothing. I usually don't watch the Supreme Court hearings but I did last week. Judge Jackson was treated harshly by some of the Republicans, which she DIDN'T deserve, but she carried herself with dignity and class. I liked how Cory Booker tried to uplift her. Thanks for all the reminders in this video. I keep on saying that I want to learn how to crochet! Oh, and before I forget.....I scheduled my FIRST massage today! Can't wait! 😃

@cnwonye4932

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. I cried when I saw Cory Booker perform CPR for our Sister. He was caring protective and responsive (CPR). I believe his CPR helped her to get through the rest of that day. I so felt it. Yaaas to your first but not last massage 💆🏾‍♀

@candacedawn357

2 жыл бұрын

@@cnwonye4932 i like your CPR acronym. I think a lot of us were moved by Cory's remarks. I think that I had tears in my eyes.

@cnwonye4932

2 жыл бұрын

@@candacedawn357 I think you are right 😎

I am enjoying doing nothing and not clocking in. I have clocked out of that Madness for good praise the Lord

I appreciated this video. We as Black women are entitled to love, we are allowed to feel appreciated, and deserve to be cherished. I for one feel that Jada deserves an apology from Chris Rock. She too was humiliated, as he was, as Will humiliated himself. On another note - it is important for Black women to lift each other up and be nurturing to ourselves and each other.

Your skin always looks amazing 👏 💙

I make it a point to go to Starbucks or Barnes and Noble to grab a coffee drink and read a good book. Or go on Google Docs and write ✍🏽 Either of the two are therapeutic 🎯 Sometimes I eat out alone or go to the movie theatre. Alone. I’m okay with that. Recently, I have taken 3 weeks off Facebook and I see a change in my peace of mind lately 💯 Just sitting in your car after getting off work is self-care ‼️ Another thing I have done lately is cut off family. Toxic is toxic 🤷🏽‍♀️

Treat yourself the way you want to be treated.

@tyrahoytt7264

2 жыл бұрын

Self and personal improvement leads financial improvement.

Thank You Goddess ❤️❤️❤️❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿I truly needed to hear this 😍 I’m very grateful for this word 💛‼️ You truly covered all the things that was weighing on my heart and learning to truly love myself and not second myself when I’m being mistreated and disrespected.. by people.. I am tired of people mistreating me.. I thank you❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥🙏🏽 I’m learning to you empowered me where do I sign 🆙 with you You’re truly amazing thank you I’m a Breast Cancer survivor, healing from anxiety and various things but thank God for His Grace.. I must hear from you

In treating your self for some black women is a process because we take so many people. We put our self last. To day being a single parent of teenager. I walk 30 mins a day. I have lunch one day a week with a dear friend. I write and read 2 hers a day. I recently taken a art class. I have learn how to take care of my self by having less. Now I surrounding my self with positive people.

I no longer force myself to do things that cause me stress or anxiety. Some things we have to do of course, but there are many stressful things that are not a "have to," so I don't do them. I save myself from that stress and anxiety.

I love the phrase: I treat myself with love and kindness and if you are not able to treat me with love and kindness, then don't speak to me". I will definitely use it if an occasion arises. Thank you for this.

You are whole guru saving and improving black women's lives. I praise THE MOST HIGH for you.

"When was the last time someone told you to be great. No one ever achieved anything great by being humble. Be great! "

Amazing discussion, Stephanie. I love that you touched on the Confirmation. The parallel of self-love/the Confirmation/career advancement was brilliant. The abuse that I (and our fellow sisters} go through for career advancement is horrible. It's belittling and esteem-stripping. Thank you for reminding me to stop sacrificing me for career advancement; it's not worth it...but, I am.

@thedrflo4558

2 жыл бұрын

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💕💕💕💕

We as black women have this amazing opportunity to LOVE OURSELVES in this moment. Extending the Grace to ourselves that we wish others would extend to not wait and just go ahead and extend it to ourselves first is LIXURY. Self Love just feels good. Self Love really is the most beautiful thing you can do. So Love Yourself. That is Luxuriousness at the core! The thing I do to show myself grace and ease is to say I Love You Each and Every Single Day. It is my reminder to give myself grace and that I am MORE than enough.

This was beautifully said 🙏🏾 thank you! Im so grateful to finally embrace ease. And I love # 3 on your list ❤️

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Ambie. 💗 Yes to using our words!

Not watching the Supreme Court political theater. Periodt.

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

I really don't know why I watched. There's nothing new to learn.

@debbiec9526

2 жыл бұрын

@@StephaniePerry from my perspective it’s like we were expected to watch and support as black women. PAHleeze. I was criticized for not watching ‘history’ in the making and not supporting the sister. I’m like, girl, I took that class ages ago, got an honors A and moved on to the class ‘ living in peace and joy level 201’, next I’m taking the class ‘ maintaining my peace level 315’. There was silence on the other end of the phone. 🤣💃🏾🎊🌈🎉

@intergalacticbnb

2 жыл бұрын

@@debbiec9526 I love this for us 💛

@hymnodyhands

2 жыл бұрын

I didn't watch it either... learning not to give energy to things I cannot control or positively impact...

Old lady here and I'm all for treating myself well with all the good stuff Stephanie mentioned. We still have to admire the "good sisters" who are still into the "struggle" but some of us are way past that. I don't even watch "news" on a regular basis. Not going to get my "knickers in a twist' about stuff I cannot change. Bye to that!!!!!!!!! Great video with so much solid info.

How dare she be confident?? Stephanie I felt that! People have always tried to give me a hard time for being confident and I always double down! I’m not the one! I’m going to always take up for myself because if I don’t who will! We as women of color should not try to tear each other down!! But either why I’m going to lift myself up!!!❤

I’m so glad Black women are doing these hard things for all of us. I hope this is a light momentary affliction for her that will produce many victorious moments of legislation for us all. Go KBJ Go!!!

I'm listening to the way you are describing yourself physically - baby girl I don't need to say it but I'm going to, You Are Beautiful! I thank God I was raised by Malcolm X and Sistah Souljah 😍. There were a lot of terminologies I was not allowed to use and my parents explained, VERY firmly, why I was not to use them. As I grew up it changed the way I view us and I'm so grateful.

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Halisi. I think I'm beautiful too. I don't mind descriptive words. I enjoy being tall and being fat etc. I think people have connotations for certain words that maybe I don't have. Like there was a time when we didn't call ourselves Black and considered it insulting. Same with fat. I'm ahead of my time. 💗

@OurBlackUtopia

2 жыл бұрын

@@StephaniePerry girlfriend, I don't consider you fat, but I was talking more about the colorism stuff that we have in our community. My mom is on one side of the paperbag test and my dad on the other. Either way it goes, beautiful is beautiful and I LOVE the fact that you KNOW you are beautiful!!!!!

Loving on myself by upgrading and upscaling with education. Which brings radiant joy, wellbeing, freedom, financial opportunities and a buffet of other possibilities. Thank you Stephanie for caring and sharing. Peace and Love.

You look amazing Sis!

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I'm feeling amazing. 💗

Good Evening Stephanie: .. You look incredibly beautiful with such glowing skin and a beautiful hair design. Happy I was home in time to listen and view your video! .. God Bless You Always, CC

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Carolyn! So glad you watched. 💗

Beautiful young lady you are, love the hair style. Peace

You say exactly what I want to say. Thank you so much. They say things like, "he/she dresses nicely, he's/she's smart, he's/she's so well spoken as if they don't expect black people to dress nicely, be smart and speak well.

Took me 5 years and 4 months to recover from being overworked like an animal most of my life. Now a senior I am learning to embrace ease. I love it

What a message Stephanie! If you won’t say it to someone else, don’t say it to yourself. 💕 Also adopting the “Same God” affirmation when I become a tad impatient. 😊

Amen the Bible does teach us to not be arrogant but to know your worth and think highly because you are wondrously made. Each one is as good as another.

I treat myself with kindness thank you

I agree Stephanie! We have to love ourselves first. Negative self talk is so destructive and it's difficult to listen to. Most often times it's an unaddressed PTSD from a person's childhood or a subconscious competition with insignificant societal standards. I initiate self-love and self care through affirmation & gratitude meditation and Qi'gong exercises to jumpstart each day. Meditation keeps me energized and in the here and now. I'm also able to repel toxicity because I no longer acknowledge it. ☮️ Dwelling in the past and anticipating the future depletes valuable energy. The beauty of it all is that I'm able to easily extend grace to myself and others because I am clear and am certainly at peace. This is an EXCELLENT topic! Please keep them coming. I appreciate you! 🙏🏽🖤🙏🏽

Yes, if I treated myself even 1/2 as well as I treat others, I'd be doing much better 🙄

So true, self talk is powerful and it works! In terms of treating myself I started being super intentional with what I ate, making sure it is what my body I needed and deserves and I'm now reaping the rewards (wasn't easy but worthwhile). Previously, everyone's needs came first and I was last, so my health suffered - but not anymore. You're right it's the little things we do doesn't have to be luxury 24/7. Please keep inspiring us as we find our way out of the matrix and into our life of ease by choice! 😀

I spend more personal time with self. Resting well and listening inwardly.

Come on Stephanie with the steps! One thing I’ve incorporated is Painting by Numbers. 🌺

I came from s single.parent home and I am a single parent. I have negative self talk every time I see an "intact family." I mos def start practicing reprogramming. Thank you!

@denisenoles3159

Жыл бұрын

Hi. May I ask what the negative self-talk was? Were you able to reprogram that way of thinking?

The Caribbean looks good on you Stephanie!!! You’re glowing from within! 💖💖

Thank you @Stephanie Perry . Since I've removed toxic inhabitants from my environment three years ago, I've been EXTREMELY happy! I wish I had done it even earlier.

Speak on it!

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

🙌🏿

Great message as usual Stephanie. Thank you. I am a Reiki practitioner and for years I volunteered and treated people for free in hospices. I grew tired as I wasn't using this beautiful, healing, relaxing energy, to help myself! The more I grew to love myself the more I treated myself and benefited. Now I do so daily Self! Self love is essential to making good decisions not only for ourselves but it enhances friendships and relationships. People who love themselves don't say negative harsh things to others. Stay blessed and congrats on upcoming 100000!! 🙌

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you gave yourself that gift. 💗

@stormryder1572

2 жыл бұрын

@@StephaniePerry Thanks Stephanie! Reiki can be sent over any distance and since watching your channel I'm thinking about how I can make it available on a wider scale. Mobile Reiki! ⛱hmmm food for thought 🤔 Sharing your channel with friends. Blessings to you 🙏

I’m so glad I found you and your channel…unapologetic self love

Very beautiful, you look lovely Queen 👑🙌🏾♥💕

Hi there Stephanie!! Wow - did I NEED to hear this today. I was at the gym listening to it and then came home and started packing up my office because we are in the process of moving. Well, I came across some of my old direct sales accomplishments from a few years ago and do you know the first thing I started saying to myself was '' See all that work you did and you still didn't make it to where you wanted''. Now isn't that awful talk? After I realized I was feeling a certain way, I stopped and remembered what you said in your video. I went back to those certificates and said OUT LOUD what a wonderful job I did and how admirable it is at the committment I possessed for the business. I had to keep saying it Stephanie, too so that I could really start to BELIEVE because you know what, this black excellence is FO REAL and I'm not even living around a bunch of black people - it's this feeling of ''SHOULD'' aspire to be and I'm realizing that maybe I had other people's dreams you know. It's heart breaking for me at the same time though because I do feel as though I wasted time. Now I'm at a place in my life where I'm trying to decide what I feel like doing - not for money but just doing. I currently have a full time job and have stepped back ( like waaaaaay back ) from my direct sales business. Now I just do it for the discount because I do love the products. I know longer aspire though to be a top seller or recruiter. I'm a musician ( I play with a local symphony here - I'm a cellist) and have recently discovered painting and drawing, I also have thoughts of a book lurking around...lol.I really want to start a KZread channel so that I can share these loves. I live in Quebec City with my family out in the country. Everytime I see your videos I'm like.....WHERE IS SPRING becuase we still have snow...lol. Anyway, I feel as though I'm on a path to somewhere...not sure where...but I'm going to stay on it. Sorry for the long message here..it's just that your message this morning was RIGHT ON TIME!! THank you LOADS Stephanie and keep preaching the encouraging words!! Jen

You’re Absolutely Correct, Stephanie. I Think Very Highly Of My Many Achievements. Yes, I’m a Lawyer & Helped Care For My Mother Etc. But I’m Most Proud Of Exiting a Toxic Relationship, Stopping Stressful Work-Life, Moving Abroad & Focusing On ENJOYING MYSELF. I Now Have a Minimalist But Very High Quality Lifestyle On The Lisbon Coast. Happiness & Fulfilment + World Travel. AMEN, To ALL Of It!💗

@egersis8

2 жыл бұрын

Wonderful😊! From a UK 🇬🇧lawyer who made a big change recently too. We got this!

My teenagers hate me. They won’t listen when I try to advise how to plan for their future . They don’t pay me any mind and are very rude. I don’t want to do anything crazy, so I’d rather just leave and let them sink at this point. Their dad pops in and out and won’t take my calls for help. I want out of here completely.

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

Tania, I'm so sorry to hear this. How can you give yourself some peace every day while you plan your exit?

@SweetUareDesi

2 жыл бұрын

No way! Go to a spa and get a great massage. If they refuse to listen - they will experience the ramifications.

@donnaleak5045

2 жыл бұрын

Tania, I’m very sorry for what you are experiencing. The teenage years can be extremely challenging. Try to do something each day for yourself no matter how small it is. Things are going to get better, this season will change

@vessel4thefather

2 жыл бұрын

They dont hate you..this phase will pass Im going through the same with my 3 & decided Im going to leave them behind (safely in our home) as well & have faith that they will be forced to dig deep & utilize all the tools we equipped them with. Their dad will have to step up once we remove ourselves from the front lines. If we allow them to dump on us..then they will never be forced to rise & change. Map out your plan & stick to it. We got this!💗

@taniabrunson73

2 жыл бұрын

@@StephaniePerry You said something I recently found to be true. The material things don’t do it. I was surprised and alerted how my body chemistry responded when I took a small group trip to Cabo this past October. 1st trip without the kids in many years. I won’t get into the details, but my whole body was just happy and I was glad to be with some women who knew my back story and took my phone and said you are AWAY!!! Lol. So, in the meantime due to strapped funds, I just put what I can aside. I would be interested in any investment advice.

Stephanie I love your platform and have watched you grow over the past couple years you are inspiring. Over the past 2 years I consumed myself in changing jobs and fixing up my house totally neglecting myself. I wanted to take a trip this month and didn't go because I need that $ for dental expenses. But I am tired of it never being me. I dont have children and I am not married the 1 thing that makes me happy is travelling. Hopefully I can take a trip soon

@michonnegrimes880

2 жыл бұрын

Just do it and find a way! Traveling is one of the ways of loving myself and the pandemic had me jonesin for a trip due to lockdown. Although an introvert, my trips are a way to reset myself due to working in both Healthcare (ER) and as an educator. Not being able to leave the country was 🤪 but I planned and went on solo camping trips with nature hikes which were major blessings during the pandemic. ❤ They are a low cost way of getting away yet immersing yourself in the beauty of the divine Mother Nature.

@ForeverLuxeDesigns

2 жыл бұрын

@@michonnegrimes880 omg a camping trip is a wonderful idea wow!!! Im looking up trips now lol

@michonnegrimes880

2 жыл бұрын

@@ForeverLuxeDesigns I went on three and had a blast!!! I went to lovely campsites in Cali and the weather was perfect. I pitched my tent, cooked outdoors with my portable stove (you can get great inexpensive tents and camping gear at Walmart and on Amazon) over a fire pit. And I fixed MEALS! LOL! Hikes and bike rides during the day, chilling by the campfire with a glass of wine, making s'mores and reading a book was HEAVEN. Peaceful sleep in my tent and waking to the sounds of nature is wonderful. If pitching a tent isn't your thing there is glamping options as well. I researched what gear I needed and went to town shopping. Your camping gear will last for years. I have another trip planned for the summer. 😊

Amen!!! Amen!!! Amen!! Stephanie Perry I agree sister we have to be kind to ourselves first and self care is a top priority for me. And it should a top priority for other african americans and black women all over the world. Self preservation should be practiced by all of us african americans woman worldwide. Stay bless!!! Mrs. Perry.

I enjoy my own company.

Thank you, BW don't need to take care of everybody and saving everybody.

That’s the part of my New Years resolution to treat myself with loving kindness alone with you do you and I’ll do me.

Thanks for the affirmations!..I'm transitioning to a life of mostly ease. I feel guilty sometimes because our society says keep doing..doing and doing. But I'm so happy to be retired! and not doing that much during this Pandemic but taking care of myself. You indeed look so rested.. relaxed and like you treat yourself very well 🥰. I will take all your great advice and will keep watching!

I treat myself with loving kindness, by embracing myself with what I like to do.....

Stephanie you are simply amazing; Ive been inspired by you for a couple yrs now. Im excited to use your advice in my life; Im working to travel abroad through teaching, and/or house sitting! Im working to save and clean up my debt and hopefully I'll be out of the US by 2024, God willing and the creek dont rise!! Thank U for all you do..."I think highly if myself" more now than ever and you have helped that 💞🙏🏽☀️

@Kamase318

2 жыл бұрын

Wonderful comment and good luck to you in your goal to be out of America by 2024. Extremely worthy goal. ❤️

@ATunson

2 жыл бұрын

@@Kamase318 I appreciate your kindness 💖

Stephanie you and I share a lot of the same sentiments regarding self-love. It took me a little longer to get to this truth. However, I think my daughters and granddaughters are learning this even earlier and for that I am so grateful. We have lost too many elder wise women, in the prime of life because self-kindness was never a consideration. I'm glad to be a part of Team Ease. BTW, your hair is as beautiful as your energy.💜💜💜💜

I was thinking this very thing. I have been trying to be everything for everyone else these last few weeks and I have completely forgotten about me. I am taking right now a few hours for myself. I need this.

God Bless You sis. You, Cynthia G, Deborah Cooper, and the black woman sphere saved my life 🌹🌷

Same God … yesssssss!!! 😩🙌🏽 Thank you, sis. I needed that.💗 Keep glowing, my beautiful, limitless sista friends! ✨✨✨

God bless you my sista....I will play this over and over!

Thank you Stephanie! Showing ourselves loving kindness on a daily basis is essential to our wellness!!!

I love your affirmation of “same God…” 🙏🏾❤️

Love your channel immensely! I am treating myself with loving kindness when I quit a toxic job last year and now living my best life. I had no idea how much quality time it takes to truly take care of what matters to me and doing things that brings happiness to me and in order to Interact with others. Life does not get any better than this!

Stephanie, you are a gem.

@StephaniePerry

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate you Erika. 💗💗

Girl, tou spoke a mouthful today. Almost every example you gave hit me because I've been feeling the same way. I'm going to replay this again and share it with friends who need to hear it too.

Thank you so much, Stephanie!

Just starting the video but I just want to thank you Stephanie for your timely videos. I find it hard to embrace ease and just hearing you talk about it allows me permission to give myself a break. You’re doing the Lord’s work and you are clearly aligned with your purpose in this life💗

I will pre order your book as soon as possible. Thanks for this.