Grief from the loss of a child is the worst pain imaginable. For moms and dads.

@judygutshall7282

Жыл бұрын

WE BELONG TO A CLUB THAT NO PARENT WANTS TO JOIN

@carmendaniel3734

Жыл бұрын

It is the ultimate tragedy to lose a child. With the ultimate unbearable pain. The memories are like pointy daggers stabbing my heart. The idea of never seeing her again, talking to her or hugging her is something I can't deal with. It's been 423 days of unbearable pain. I can't live without her love. There is no reason to wake up without my only daughter. The love of my life. I know all parents that lost a child feel this excruciating pain. I'm so sorry for all parents that feel this pain. It's not natural to lose a child. Not how it should be. Make the nightmare go away. I just want my Paige. We only had each other. She was only 30. She was such a good person. One second without her love is too long. I just can't cope. She made me so proud to be her mom. My beautiful daughter, who loved me so much. How would anyone think that I would be able to live without her love. Sometimes I feel that people want to roll their eyes at me because they are way over her passing, and my pain is getting worse every day.

@nativequeen1635

Жыл бұрын

😢 so true. I lost my son of 14 years old I can say that a part of me definitely died that day too.

My 20 year old son died may7 2021. The grief and sorrow is beyond agonizing and always present

@salsero397

2 жыл бұрын

I feel you totally. My Son died on January 5 2021 of a drug overdose. 8 months later and I can't believe he is gone . People around me don't understand my pain and sorrow .

15 years ago my 14 year old died. Its just like it happened today. A huge hole was left in our lives. Forever missing him.

It will be 5 years in a few days since my 18 year old daughter died. This is one of the most honest videos I’ve seen. So are the comments ❣️

November 30th 1991 my late husband and I were headed to the mall to get labor to kick in. I was 9 months pregnant. At a red light, a truck with a 24 foot hay trailer backed up and on top of our car. We went up then back down. We had our seatbelts on. I got out of the car and felt fine. I didn't feel well on the 3rd of December. I had a bad headache that afternoon. I went to the hospital. My doctor took an ultrasound of the baby. They found that the placenta ripped inside. I didn't know because I wasn't bleeding. The baby had no heartbeat. I was put in the hospital. The next day they induced labor. They didn't want to put me under in my emotional state. After 12 hours they stopped and resumed the next day. Another 12 hours (December 5th) and I delivered a baby boy. He was dead. My life shattered. I spent another night and day in the hospital while my husband and our families buried our child. I have had many experiences with death after that. The latest was last May. I had 2 seizures caused by stress. I saw my grandfather on the other side. He told me to go back. It wasn't time yet. He grabbed my arms and turned me around. I woke up in the hospital and found out I was there for 2 1/2 days. The doctor came in and said I could go home but I had to wait until I saw him again before I could go back to work. I cannot remember much before the seizures but I will never forget seeing my grandfather. I am blessed to know he is watching and still loving me.

I wanted to add something which may be helpful for the many parents who commented or listened to Penny's talk. First I would like to thank you Penny for speaking about the sudden loss of your beautiful daughter and how you found a place and an action which gave meaning to your life after that loss. Despite my long description of my child's death and some of how it effected me, I did find a way to give new meaning to my life. I went to nursing school and became an RN. Part of my career was spent working as a hospice nurse. Death was no longer a mystery or something to be feared. It was not a friend, but at least it was something I was familiar with. Also, there is an organization called "The Compassionate Friends." It is specifically for parents grieving the loss of a child. There are many local groups, so there may be a group close to where you live. It is worth exploring. As a friend (who lost a son to a motorcycle accident 4 years ago) said to me, in the company of people who have lost a child you don't need to explain yourself. They know...

This is a very powerful and honest woman. I lost my son April 11, 2021. The pain is so bad I almost died because I couldn’t breathe after I found out. It’s so true that people who swore they loved me have turned their backs on me. I kept asking myself “what’s going on? Where is everyone?” I would be there for them if it were their child. I now know that it’s normal for close friends and relatives to do that , it is insane. I am so grateful to have God in my life. I know my son Jaime is with Him now. I will never stop loving, praying and thinking of Jaime even if everyone else wants to. Momma Loves You Jaime...🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻

@julietteferrars3097

Ай бұрын

❤️

The pain of losing your own child is undisputed its been 9 months now since my baby girl died my one and only child,and just like what you said grief is my constant companion as well, im so so broken and I know I will be like this for the rest of my life 💔

My son died of cancer. No one I know ever brings it up. Please, bring it up. When you don't it sends a message that his life didn't have value, that it is erased. And that I should forget and live life as normal.

@curtainup9

3 жыл бұрын

This, I have found, is the hardest part.

@zurinasaville8235

Жыл бұрын

I lost my 9 yr old to brain cancer ♋. Yes, people don't bring up my child and I will talk of her myself sometimes hoping that they will talk about her.

@jefferee2002

Жыл бұрын

@@zurinasaville8235 I'm so sorry. The loss is immeasurable

My son died in a car accident (hit by a dui driver) on 6/4/20 at only 18. Still searching for answers, but slowly getting there. Only those parents who know, know.

I lost my daughter, aged almost seventeen, in a car accident over eight years ago. She was our only child. I am lost. Isolated. Discouraged. Grief-stricken. Why did she die? I’ve lost friends...people don’t want to be around a sad person. I actually understand. Their life didn’t stop; only mine stopped. Their lives don’t revolve around me. This is my burden to bear. My cross to carry. I feel as though one foot stands in the land with the living and one foot dwells with the dead.

@jacquelinestewart3820

3 жыл бұрын

Oh god you took the words out of my mouth i feel the same it’s my cross to bear , but what about compassion, empathy, why when some one loses a loved one, people avoid you like the plague, it’s painful enough, never mind people avoiding you so sorry for your loss

@jefferee2002

3 жыл бұрын

My 17 yo son died almost three years ago. I'm right there with you. I'm stuck. I miss him so badly. I miss what he would have become. I want help but in all honesty I have no faith that their is help.

@jacquelinestewart3820

3 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry for your pain and loss, it’s the worst time in any ones life to lose your child no matter what age they are, they are our baby, I think there’s help out there for you, heard there’s a grieving sight on Facebook, or counselling, again my thoughts are with you, wishing you all the best

@blazgodx7988

3 жыл бұрын

@@jefferee2002 please buy a book called Grieving Dads To The Brink & Back by Kelly Farley & David Dicola

@brega6286

2 жыл бұрын

@@jacquelinestewart3820 I found that even with people whom I had helped through loss. They somehow blocked and were cold. This time, my second loss of a child...I just am numb and have no expectations.

As a mother who had her 16 year old only son die in her arms from a sudden asthma attack,(10/10/2016) I know too well what she is talking about. We need to talk about our children who have gone from this world. We want to remember them. Keeping their memory alive is a need like breathing. We need to speak of their lives, their loves, their achievements just as much as parents of living children. We are still proud of them, still love them, and miss them daily. Please don't be afraid to talk to a bereaved parent, you do more good than harm. Ask them about their child instead of saying, I'm sorry for your lost and leaving it at that. I have grown to hate that phrase. Its cold & supperficial.

@ayudarma1204

Жыл бұрын

My son died 1 month ago..i still saw him in the morning when he say goodbye to school..but suddenly he got accident and died in the same day..I just dont know what to do..every time i miss him i try to see his pictures and videos but it make me hurt more

@ayudarma1204

Жыл бұрын

I just wondering..every place reminds me of him..Can we experiencing happiness again maybe in a vacation after all…

@TEQSUN68

Жыл бұрын

@@ayudarma1204 1 mo. Ago is so soon to have your precious child ripped out of your life , out of your world. I am so sorry that you & I share this heart ache. So sorry that he is no longer with you. I know your pain. This pain is the most excruciating pain I've ever gone through. It took me about a year & a half before I could smile again, laugh again, feel truly happy again, although that pain was still there in the background, because he was not with me. ( then I felt quilty for being happy at times like I was betraying him, just for moments of being happy.) I had to accept holidays without him being there, my friends children having milestones in their life that my child would never have. It wasnt easy .... I still miss him right now as I write this & its been 6 years. You already know loosing a child is not natural. We loose friends to death, parents and it really hurts.... but its expected for that to happen in life. Having a child die is un natural & no matter what we did or didn't do for them, we assign guilt, we blame ourselves. Give yourself time to grieve! Sadly, there is no other way but through it. You never get over it, its not aomething you get better from, ( your not sick ) you learn to cope. You learn to live a new life, a different one. One you never wanted but now you have. HAPPINESS DOES RETURN. Don't Stop talking about him to people. Those who love you understand & know you need to keep his memory alive. GIVE YOURSELF the love, compassion & understanding you would give to anyone who is going through what you are. Give yourself time to heal. I'm not gonna lie to you. I couldn't have made it through this without my faith in God. I clung to him & still do all the time. But it wasn't allways nice my relationship with God. In the beginning it was me shaking my fists & screaming at HIM. But the God of the universe is love & He cares enough to take it. Surround yourself with people who love you, if you can set sessions for someone to talk to who isn't part of your family /friends because we can wear them out. Talk to Jesus he cares for you! Take you anger, your pain & lay it at his feet. God comforts those who morn. Time will make it easier to accept. It really will, just dont lock the pain away inside. God bless you & may His spirit lift you up & heal your heart. May He give you the assurance that you will see your precious child again.

@ayudarma1204

Жыл бұрын

@@TEQSUN68 thank you for sharing this message wwith me.. i dont know if God still want to help me.. i feel that he didnt believe me.. i can raise my son well.. i and my husband try our best effort to love our kids.. but why God take him.. yes.. i felt guilty for being happy at times like I was betraying him.. I hope God still help me to cope with this Thank you.. i hope you live well too

@judygutshall7282

Жыл бұрын

I'm glad to hear your comment. Cause I know a lot of people do this. I couldn't even put his picture out for about 5 years. And that was so wrong. But if I wasn't reminded of him...that didn't happen. He was still working 2 States away. Nobody would even say his name around me. Didn't want to upset me? I was so selfish...but the pain was so intense. I didn't realize that all that did was prolong the inevitable. And it was bad. I also found out later that my family mourned him openly and they wished that I was a part of that. I didn't realize that they were suffering too. Now, we all have many pictures out and talk and laugh about things he did in his short life

My son was killed in March of 2020 while serving in the United States Navy, assigned to a guided missile destroyer. It doesn't matter how you lost them or how old they are, the pain is forever.

no matter the age of the child the pain is the same.

@salsero397

2 жыл бұрын

My son was 39 years old. When I close my eyes I see him as a young man. RIP Luis Jr Jan 5 2021

@nickyrobinson64

2 жыл бұрын

The deepest pain and sorrow ever

My baby girl died just last feb 2019 its true grief is my constant companion .the pain will never ever be lessen the people who also experienced lost of a child Can only understand the never ending pain ...💔💔💔

I also lost my beautiful daughter Amy Sue to a drug overdose April 28th 2018, the worst fucken nightmare ever, I wanted to join her but I had another daughter n I couldn’t leave her too, she lost her only sister, I have the best grieving consular ever, she lost her only child, my Consular was a gift from God to me. It’s been 3 years now and she has helped me to overcome this tragedy. Everyone can get through this with help, never try to do it alone. God Bless my consular Phillis Gordan 💜💜💜💜💜☮️

@Toffee146

2 жыл бұрын

Counsellor.

This is so very true... I'll was non functional for a little over two years - time helps a bit, but you're never right again. I lost my 13 year old Son, Julien - my only child... I'm just waiting to join him...

@stevie0040

4 жыл бұрын

Laura, what you say is also very true. My 14 yr old daughter, Sam passed suddenly due to a rare brain hemorrhage 3 weeks ago. I can't wait to join her either. But I just know we must live our lives that would make our children proud. They are seeing this from above. God bless you.

@phoenixrisin2269

4 жыл бұрын

Laura Lewis I’m so sorry dear. I lost my only son and wife. I to welcome death. I just want to lie down and go be with him. There should be an easy out for us. It’s been 13 years. It’s amazing how long you can go without a good nights sleep. We will always be broken, never able to fully love again, never able to trust again; damaged beyond repair. A fate worse than death. I can’t go a day without longing for my son. My wife died of a broken heart. She is the lucky one!

@sharicer408

4 жыл бұрын

I lost my only son at age of 27 a few months ago. I feel alone, lost, afraid so many emotions! The worst pain I have ever felt! I pray God gives each of us the strength to endure. He loves us and he will give us the strength to stand!

@patriciascott4211

3 жыл бұрын

@@stevie0040 I'm so sorry. It's been 5 yrs since I lost my son. He was 28 with children. It's such a hard journey. I wish the best for you.

@patriciascott4211

3 жыл бұрын

@@sharicer408 So sorry, I lost mine at 28. It's been such a struggle. It's so raw when it's only been a few months. It's been 5 years for me and at least I am not at the point where I am thinking about it every minute but still every day. It's so hard and ya, the worst pain ever. I wish the best for you

I loss my daughter around Mother's Day 5/13/2021 She was my ONLY child.. Lord knows I depend on Him more and more each second of my life. I pray that all grieving parents can make it through. and HEAL. God bless

I lost my Nicholas on June 3 2015 due to an cerebral hemorrhage at 35. My soul child and ally. I'm broken forever.

@zoeaslam7111

3 жыл бұрын

May God heals u from with great loss! May he gives u the strength to see light ahead of this dark tunnel and find peace!

Mommy loves and misses you beyond belief.., my beautiful Julie Lafiura 💕

My 5 year old was just killed in a car accident Sept 4th. It put my 7 yr old in the hospital in a coma she is still in there and I had surgery. Everyone pray for us and my husband has been behind us the entire time. 🙏🏽 my heart is shattered

@curtainup9

2 жыл бұрын

I am sorry, Queen. xoxo

@aliceg8395

Жыл бұрын

Dear Queen, my heart aches for you. How are you doing after going through this for a year? I hope you found some peace. The pain doesn't go away, but after time it hits you fewer times a day. Someday you will sometimes be able to think of your five year old without that heartache. I hope and pray your other child recovered. Praying for you.

@momsfourboys

2 ай бұрын

My deepest sympathy for your great loss. My heart hurts for you as I too am a grieving parent. Continue to ask God for the strength to endure this most unbearable heartache. My prayers are for your other little girl’s returned health and for your husband’s and your strength 🙏

November 26, 2018 we lost our 18 year old daughter. Penny is so right when she points out nobody wants to listen to you talk about this. Friends disappear. For us it will be a life sentence. I just pour myself into work and escape when I can. I like to be alone often. Thank you for sharing your story.

@sharondebrahjacobsdasilva1235

2 жыл бұрын

oh on my birthday...now I shall remember to pray for the mother and father of penny on my birthdays... my son died the next year on Christmas eve...it was a fallen tree as well

Hugs of Love to All Here Bereaved Mother Here💜 Its the deepest darkest grief

@ladyvirgo9514

3 жыл бұрын

@Marilyn Toth oh im so very Sorry for Your Loss💔

My son just passed away two days ago I have a daughter we were getting his personal items yesterday from his apartment his wallet cellphone etc, We had to notify his girlfriend who had just spent the weekend with him she said they a wonderful time he was happy and spoke often about our family.The shock was a bit different for me but no less painfuli.I want him to know he was truly loved and that I was proud to be his mother and hi spirit will be with me forever,Love those around you as she stated tomorrow is no promised to any of us what we can do while we are here is to love learn and cherish what life has to offer.

I lost my son aged 29 to liver cancer, it's his anniversary today and I found you - expressing exactly how it feels. Sending my love to you, and all mothers and fathers who have lost a child for whatever reason xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

@curtainup9

6 жыл бұрын

We mothers are all connected because we know. Sending you my love. xoxo

@karenhogan731

4 жыл бұрын

Helen Spedding-Lowe ❤️

@karenhogan731

4 жыл бұрын

I have a Dead child... nobody speaks his name. Except me, his name is Nicholas. I miss him every day. ❤️

@beachbaby1427

4 жыл бұрын

Karen Hogan I've always liked the name Nicholas. My oldest Ethan died in a car accident 11 days ago. He was 21. We were unable to have a proper funeral because of Covid. I am lost. I know another tidal wave of grief will come and it scares me. Right now I am mostly numb. I'm sorry I made this post about me. I just wanted to say that I always want my son's name to be spoken.

I loss my daughter on June 28th and I am still in shock. My life will never be the same. A part of me died as well. Thank you for your words.

@kathibjorgum6539

2 жыл бұрын

I lost my daughter, my only child, on August 24, and I don't know who I am. She was 38, and mesothelioma took her along with the covid.

@jefferee2002

Жыл бұрын

I'm so very sorry. It's like shell shock. Doesn't compute. Not supposed to happen. But at the end of the day is the realization that it did.

I lost my son, isaac Anthony miller on December 21st 2018. He was a passenger in a car accident. 3 boys in the car and isaac was the only one who died. The driver was drunk. I'm so mad every day at the driver. How dare he drink the drive with my beautiful son in the car. I miss my son so much. He was always doing something funny or laughing. Isaac had a big heart.

I lost my son 1 year ago today, July 24th. The pain is unbearable. I am broken. 💔🥀

@sylviajayasriddperey8956

Жыл бұрын

It is unbearable, I’m sooo sorry…..

My son died in an accident 5 weeks ago. Just need to know that I will get through this somehow. The pain is so bad that I do not know how to live but thank you for your story which gives me hope

@theresapotter

6 жыл бұрын

Janet Pullin I am so sorry that you are going through this pain

@dan.h3335

6 жыл бұрын

I understand your pain, emptiness and pure exhaustion. Sadly my daughter passed away at the age of 5.

@tcw7471

5 жыл бұрын

I also lost my only child, my son at 18yrs old from a medical condition we didn't know about until 11wks before he died. I thank God for the gift of his life. I miss him EVERY SECOND OF EACH DAY.

@TheSandralr

5 жыл бұрын

My 11 year old died in 2007 and it is very very hard. It’s very difficult to move on. I still haven’t

@laperladelplata

5 жыл бұрын

@@djjradio why vitamin D helps?

Thank you for your honest , heartbroken speech ... so very true in all you have said ... I unfortunately lost my 29 year old 5/17/16.. unexpected ,sudden, and I found him which added to my grief , anxiety .PTSD, viral myocardist ,... the loss has changed my world completely .. anger, bitterness, fog..spiritual trails , and I can attest to the loss of friends and neighbors and customers that have totally disappeared. And that is hard to take. It makes me feel like I have some sort of disease ... and it has no cure... I wish ppl thought more about what they said and did to grieving parents .. I hated the most was those who said “I know”. No .. unless you have lost a child you do not know .. the constant pain in your heart ...

@rashidarobertabintrobertpi8451

6 жыл бұрын

INDEED. so true just lost. Son a month ago .

@jelenapetrovicova5782

5 жыл бұрын

@@rashidarobertabintrobertpi8451 I am so sorry,so sorry,please stay strong,you are not alone.

@savahbejin7511

3 жыл бұрын

I had a doctor tell me he understood how I felt...he just lost lost his dog. (He has four children and two dogs.). No. You have absolutely no idea what I’m feeling.

I cried and cried watching this. We lost our 33 year old son almost 10 months ago and exactly like you the close friends and family all dropped off. I feel so angry that people I gave my time and love to could desert me at the worst time in my life. Thank you for bringing this to peoples attention ❤️

@jemmaroberts8972

Жыл бұрын

🙏❤

@magi9224

9 ай бұрын

This is my same anger! My son was 46. A pill. 22 months now. Debilitating! Love this!

Lost my son, 6 weeks ago. He commited suicide. Nobody asks me how I feel, and when they do they don't want to know the answer. I feel completely alone with my pain

@pancakesandtea

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss, I would like to hear about how you are doing and feeling, maybe we can connect. I lost someone I loved deeply to suicide 4 weeks ago, his body was found on the train tracks, the grief and pain is unbearable.

@evaknebel6185

3 жыл бұрын

@@pancakesandtea thank you for your respond. One day I am doing okay, the next day I am a complete wreck. I am reading a lot abour losing someone by suicide and how to cope, about near death experiences, I would like to know what my son sees at this moment. Sometimes I am at peace with my sons decision, and other times I get realy mad at him, afterall he put me in this position. When I laugh I feel guilty, because how can I have fun when he is gone, when I cry I feel guilty because I promises him I will go on with my life. It is all a very tough trip. I am sorry for your loss and I wish for you that you will be gentle with yourself, whatever you feel is alright, nothing is weird. You want get insane, it just feels like it.

@pancakesandtea

3 жыл бұрын

@@evaknebel6185 I've been doing the same reading about losing through suicide but I'm finding it hard to cope also, one of the last thing my he said to me when I saw him was will you pray with me, and I said yes but forgot to pray with him, and never got to meet with him again, my grief is completely isolating because he came back to London so that we could try to be in a relationship together, and now that he is gone Im finding I can't grieve him with anyone who knew him (because I hadn't yet met his family) although I've reached out to his father who has been nothing but wonderful, it's hard not being able to grieve with people who loved him also. Do you have people around you that you are talking to about your son ? People who loved him also. I've been crying everyday asking God to help me, and for God to take care of him. There is so many elements at play here, I know I shouldn't blame myself or feel guilty but the mind goes there with the what Ifs, then I think of how can I possibly ever open up my heart again as it won't be him. Let me tell you something from my rational brain to tell you, don't feel angry with your son, imagine the chemicals in his brains that did him the injustice to cause him to take his own life, he was suffering and for someone to take their own life they must have truly had an illness in their brain that they couldn't gain control over, all we can do is pray for them. Also know that his spirit is stronger than anything that happened to him in this life.

@evaknebel6185

3 жыл бұрын

@@pancakesandtea well I have talked with my therapist, she said it is perfecty normal to feel angry. Allthough I talked with my son on a very open way, and gave him my blessing, knowing he was suffering for almost 8 years, in the end I have to cope with the fact that he is gone forgood. I understand his decision, but it gave me a broken heart and a hollow feeling. I know his soul isn't realy gone but I can't see or hear him so it is difficult to believe in the fact he is still around. You have another situation, and I wish you had someone to talk to who knew him. It must feel very lonely, isn't there any way to make contact with his family? I would like to give you the advice to not go down the road of what if and had I. It leads to so much more pain and is self destruction. I don't believe in a God, I believe that the energy of humans isn't gone after they die, I think it is in a paralel world, you may call it heaven or paradise or whatever, the souls of our beloved ones are there and help us in any way they can. But we still have to learn our lessons, that is a fact. I feel my lesson is to be without judgement and to let go of some old feelings. I started meditation, it is hard for me but I am trying. Please allow me to give you this tip: Steffany Barton, Facing darkness, Finding Light: Life after suicide. It has helped me and still does. Because I wasn't sure where the soul of my son was after he took his walk and never came back. Please stay strong, and remember, this person loved you.

@3nguyen5

3 жыл бұрын

The pain is real; ultimate pain I feel for the loss of my 19 yr old daughter (6-weeks ago). Damnit I am broken in aillion pieces 😞💔💔😞.

Never ever let your child leave your house without a ...I love you

Just over 5 years since the drowning death of my only child, my son Logan 20 yrs. The lack of support has made my pain depression and anxiety so much harder.....i now isolate for self protection.......so quickly they all go away and no one said his name no one asked questions.....but were full of horrible platitudes......the ignoring of my reality has done irreparable damage to my ability to trust anyone......now I just want to be left alone.......i cannot put the mask on anymore. So tired of this earthly pain.....

It’s so comforting to hear someone that understands my pain. So well said thank you for validating my grief. 😢

@staciefrank5058

2 жыл бұрын

I grieve with you. My beautiful boy at the tender age of 13 perished almost two sundays ago. I'm lost and can't live life without him. 😥

I lost my 33 years old lovey son on may 25th also my 7 years old girl on may 8th 2006 ...with in 15 years I lost my 2 kids...I am in lost pain ..

@curtainup9

3 жыл бұрын

I am so very sorry, I cannot even imagine this. Take care of yourself. Penny

I lost my 5 year old daughter very suddenly 3 years ago. Grief stays, I keep going for my other kids but my heart is broken forever. I have found some friends stay and some have gone and not always those I expected. People don't know what to say and I understand that but if you are friends with a grieving parent just let them know you are there even if you don't know what to say, just knowing people are there and they care is enough sometimes.

My 32 year old son was murdered. Stabbed to death in his car. People are AFRAID of us now. It was obvious at the funeral. They just dont know how to handle it. Thank God for this talk! We in western culture MUST change this. We will alll die. None of us get out of here alive 💔. Its a natural part of the journey.

@JeffFaldalen

4 жыл бұрын

I send you prayers and condolences

@gokuvegeta3163

3 жыл бұрын

💜

So true. I lost my wonderful son at age 37...it’s been two years and it’s still so very hard. The worst pain ever.

Amen loss is excruciating. Your so brave. No one tells you friends leave.THEY DO!! They were never your real friends.

@curtainup9

6 жыл бұрын

I think its a matter of bringing this out of the closet and educating people not to be filled with fear. This is what I am trying to do. xoxo

@phoenixrisin2269

4 жыл бұрын

I’ve been alone 13 years since the death of my son and wife. I eat, go to the gym; I’m 60 and train like a madman. I want to hurt so bad physically that it overrides the emotional pain. I haven’t slept more than a few hours in a row in 13 years. I welcome death. There should be a way out for us that is easier.

@jacquelinestewart3820

3 жыл бұрын

So true

I have lost my son Nathaniel , aged 30 to a self road accident , three months ago, it was a cruel dead in the early hours of the 7.1.2024, he suffered grievous brain injuries , was in coma for 21 days and died later . Life is horrific since then . U Madame have put it into perspective from the point of a grieving parent . Your boldness in the midst of your own grief is encouraging to many like me . Adversity, sorrow and pain is all part of our lives , tough and meaningless though it is, no escaping it , we must endure the pain , lifelong pain and live on . Love your bluntness in dealing with a topic such as unfathomable grief.

11/30/22. Trevor my son will be always 18 years old. Miss him so much I don't have words to explain.

Hello my life will never be the same as Penny said and I tell you I went to my parents funeral and that was like a more like a gathering and people saying goodbye and smiling like normal when a child dies I understand very much it's nature backwards like she says literally

Lost our daughter in late 2018. Sudden yet peaceful. The pain is beyond anything we can relay here. We pick ourselves up and put on a mask to get thru it. To make people, friends, acquaintances feel less uncomfortable. The pain will be life long.

@stevie0040

4 жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear. I would say ditto to the "sudden and painless" for our 14 y.o. daughter but in late 2019. Such a helpless feeling not being able to see/hear/feel her. But there is blessed hope even in this desperate time.

Thank you for this is what I needed to hear today. I lost my son at 31 to cancer 6 years ago. I lost friends and family too. Grief is lonely and not contagious.

@jacquelinestewart3820

3 жыл бұрын

So true god bless

@jemmaroberts8972

Жыл бұрын

True indeed grief is lonely. After i lost my son 7 weeks ago and everyone left me to grieve alone. At times i feel overwhelm by the pain and lonliness i know your pain. So sorry for your loss 🙏❤

As someone who lost a child this month, in August 2022. I am new to this. But if you’re reading this, after losing your kid. I promise that we will both get through it. It’s not a gift, but sometimes it feels like it. I appreciate life so much more and my memories of her are more precious than I ever realized.

Penny, I was privileged enough to hear the reading of your play at Denise's house, two years ago.. What you have said is so painfully honest. These are the things I would like to say. Instead, I put on my mask and carry on everyday in a robotic way, so as not to upset anyone. I thank you for being my voice, and for all the other mothers who live in a sick, silent fear of rejection. I applaud you and hold your hand in solidarity. Helen Blondelle

@curtainup9

7 жыл бұрын

thank you so much Helen. I hope we can meet again and have more time to speak xoxo

I just lost my beautiful daughter. I’m completely exhausted and broken down. I struggled all my life for everything I accomplished. Unemployment, homelessness, poverty seems like an obstacle course in life that could be laughable after many years. But losing her has completely crushed me, I don’t have the drive. Some days even a shower causes me pain. Lord take care of her. I know you trusted me with her care and I’m grateful for her time walking on earth with me. But It’s so hard now. 😭😭😭God give me strength.

@hiris1903

Жыл бұрын

I am so sorry to hear you have joined our group of parents that suffer this tragedy. Grief is exhausting. All you can do is take baby steps each day. Get through the next 5 minutes. Nurture your body with healthy food. Go for short walks. Hug anyone who is willing. Cry whenever you feel the need. Keep telling yourself that the suffering you have now is worth the joy of having had her in your life. Be patient with your grief. It will get easier to live eventually. Hugs and prayers to you.

As most talks regarding losing a child there is not a single mention of the father! Breaks my heart. As a surviving single father that lost his son, it once again feels as though the relationship, loss, and grief of the father is ignored or purposely avoided. The role of mother is spoken of repeatedly, even specifically mentioning grandparents, siblings, extended family, but not a single acknowledgment of the loss of a grieving father. The silence is deafening and so deeply hurtful. Happens eighty-five percent of the time in all speeches, forums, groups, and support networks. It is a shameful worsening of an already unbearable everlasting pain.

@FairyGothMotherG

4 жыл бұрын

Patrick, sadly, that has been my husband's experience too. We lost two son's 7 months apart, suddenly & tragically this past year. We have been especially alone since we lost our 2nd son. :(

@gokuvegeta3163

3 жыл бұрын

💜

@gokuvegeta3163

3 жыл бұрын

@@FairyGothMotherG 💜

@marinapap1234

Жыл бұрын

Probably because it is a mother's talk we are watching. She speaks about her grief. Fathers probably do not give speeches.

Living after child death is worst than serving a lifetime sentence... Felt like every breath hurts....

The same thing happened to me when my child died. I am still here, but I still miss my child deeply. Sending love to you and others. Sending peace as well.

thank you for this, i lost my brother to suicide almost 4 years ago and my heart breaks for my mom and how she has been treated.

@JennaDeWeese

3 жыл бұрын

Lisa Jordan thank you sweetheart 💞

@lifemusic1980

3 жыл бұрын

Gonna be 3 years since I lost my brother to it. 💙

@estherjumatv544

Жыл бұрын

Too painful

@debraholt2780

3 ай бұрын

My neice committed suicide four months ago and I would😢 do anything in the world to help my sister. I have said to her, “I don’t know what to say or not say but I am here for you forever.” I will pray for you and your mom. I am heart broken for anyone who loses a child but suicide seems the worst possible way for it to happen.

@JennaDeWeese

3 ай бұрын

@@debraholt2780 it is sooo painful 😓 I am SO sorry 😭 A pain that never fully goes away, but just changes. Your sis is so lucky to have you ❤️

I'm currently grieving now for my daughtercat, Yoko, who died 3 weeks ago today & I've been in grief before several times, especially for losing both my parents. It does get better, but it never fully goes away bc the love don't stop.

I lost my son because a teenager drove too fast in an uninsured car and ran down my boy. There is no word to describe a parent who has lost a child. A wife is a widow, a husband is a widower but the parent who loses a child has no description that explains them. Connor’s siblings have no word to explain that they have lost a brother. I too endured comments like “you should be over that now”. No one asked after Connor nor could people want to hear his name from me. This talk describes much of my own experience and I am so grateful to the speaker.

@curtainup9

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. Penny

Thank you for sharing your story. I too grieve alone. People have stayed away for fear of me speaking of my first born who was murdered April 27, 2013. Six years and I still have good and bad days. People don't want you to grieve and expect you to remain the same. I am a mother who buried a child. I am different. I am grieving. I am living in pain. I love my child still and will always want to hear of him and speak of him. My prayers are with you. Again, thank you.

@datz2105

2 жыл бұрын

I would like to know where you life may be now. I won’t ask you how you are. Because I lost my child and that question is silly.

Beautiful...thank you for sharing. I needed to hear this. August makes 3 years I lost my 18 yr daughter, this time of year is not easy. I try to be strong...but gosh I miss her. And I know one day we will see our kids again

My stepson died three days ago. This is all so raw and so real. The start of a long and painful journey.

I just came across this cite I am comforted by the comments of grief I see here. I left my only son in africa many years ago to seek a better life abroad. I had hoped to rejoin with my son in the future but he got sick and died. It's been 6 years the grief is daily. There is really noone to talk to especially people who have not experienced this. They move on with their lives but you are stuck. Some days are better than others I am comforted by reading all these messages. It's my first time to see so many people who can share. I thank this speaker who has opened up this conversation. I leave you with this (Grief is an open wound of the heart which does not heal.)

I save this to watch in different moments. To remind myself that I am not alone in my grief. I lost my daughter last May. 10 days from her 23rd Birthday. I have never felt such horrible pain. I am not alone in my grief and I am so thankful to have heard this, and to read others comments. 🙏 for all who live with this.

The day you lost your daughter I have birth to my beautiful first son. He passed July 1st 2015 when a dresser fell on him. Our stories are so similar I appreciate your story.

@TEQSUN68

3 жыл бұрын

Broke my heart to read what happened. I added you to my 🙏prayer list. I understand what it's like to loose your son. I'm so sorry you have to go through this agony. May The Holy Spirit hold you up & give you the comfort & strength you need to live each day. Love & Winged Hugs. If you ever want to talk, my email is teqsun@yahoo. 🤗💖😘

Yes, yes yes. Mother of 2 boys lost to homicide. It is unbearable pain that cannot be explained. No one here I have no parents, spouse, family or friends just me and God. You are awesome. Ty

Oh my gosh, she was incredible.

you know on the 25ft of desember 2019 my 14 year old boy was in a park riding his skateboard. IT WAS CRISTMAS FOR HEAVENS SAKE. a big eucalyptus tree fell and shattered my beautiful boy DANILO.

I have so much love for those who have lost and help others through their loss. Thank you so much for telling your story.

I lost my son 25 years old 4 months ago in a car accident it’s so unbelievable hurt and pain I cant breathe not without him.

@carmendaniel3734

Жыл бұрын

I lost my daughter 423 days ago. I just can't live without her love. She was my only child. My everything. My heart and soul. I am also sorry for your pain. The unbearable pain. I feel it too. It is too much I just want to die too. There is nothing without my sweet girl. Like LMP wrote, about losing her Ben and I agree with her: Death is part of life whether we like it or not - and so is grieving. There is so much to learn and understand on the subject, but here's what I know so far: One is that grief does not stop or go away in any sense, a year, or years after the loss. Grief is something you will have to carry with you for the rest of your life, in spite of what certain people or our culture wants us to believe. You do not "get over it," you do not "move on," period.

love never dies. we love with our hearts not our eyes. God Blessed You. with love.

@gokuvegeta3163

3 жыл бұрын

That's so true. My love for my son still grows. I miss 😢 him, but my love for him continues, and it grows.

This was helpful to me, thank you! "I have a dead child now". When you said that, I realized the importance of not shying away from that fact. Accept that it is your reality, but don't let it define you. Our daughter died 6 months ago. I miss her every day. I feel lucky that most people around me seem educated in how to talk to grieving parents. I have only needed to endure a few of the typical unhelpful comments. Still, sometimes the strangest little detail will feel like a kick in the gut. Like you, I like to talk about her. She was an amazing human and I want to remember every bit of her 22 years.

Thanx for sharing & talking openly I lost my 18 yo daughter to suicide 5 months ago. On going pain & grief are unbearable

@tommyornothing7301

3 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry.

@debraholt2780

3 ай бұрын

My 32 year old niece 4 months ago. Watching my sister is beyond heart wrenching. I will do anything in this world to help her….. but I know I cannot bring Kristin back to her family….. we are shattered.

Very encouraging to people like me after the loss of beloved 8 year old son just a month ago on 5th may 2021 have been encouraged to move on with but its quite hectic may with time i will but its not easy

@curtainup9

3 жыл бұрын

Moving on is for people who have never known this pain. It will be 8 years for me this July 3, I still struggle to live with it. It gets easier, less painful but it never goes away

Very moving and heartfelt .The loss of a child is indeed such a hard grief to bear it's indeed nature backwards

2 days before christmas 2 years ago, my son was killed by a vehicle.....he was only 24. life changing......

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your daughter would be so proud of you. I'm proud of you.

Such a powerful speak WOW! Only a mother could do...

My 13 year old son took his life November of last year and sometimes I feel as if am going to die waking up daily not seeing him not hearing him it hurts so bad unbearable at times am jus clinging on to Jesus for strength for I am so weak

@whatsrealiswhatmatters

5 жыл бұрын

Sending you so much love, my sister in bereavement.

@TEQSUN68

5 жыл бұрын

Stacyann, I am so sorry you had to lose your precious son. I'm sorry you had to experience such a horrific tragedy. I wish I had stronger words than I'm sorry, I truly do. I also understand what pain is. I too lost my son. His name is Daniel, he was 16 years old & my only son. He died in my arms 2 1/2 years ago from an asthma attack. We are never prepared for something like this and all who experience it are weak as babies. For well over a year I would sleep and have nightmares, only to wake and be depressed I was still alive. I wanted to die with him so badly..... I hated being alive. I had to cling to Jesus. Clinging to Jesus, first ever minute, then every hour, than every day was how I went on. Cling to Jesus. Take your pain to him, over and over again. One day death will be no more and He will wipe every tear from our eyes. We will be with them again in glory eternally. God bless you hun. May God comfort you and carry you through all the days of your life. My prayers are with you sister.

@RollerRinkStink

5 жыл бұрын

@@TEQSUN68 , I pray for you and Cynthia. I just lost my 12 year old nephew to suicide a little over a month ago. My brother (my nephew's dad) is hurting so much. It pains me because I don't know how to help him. Tammy, the way you describe being depressed about being alive is exactly how he's talking right now. My brother wants to be with his son so bad... he misses him so much. They did EVERYTHING together.

@axumambaye6318

3 жыл бұрын

@@TEQSUN68 i also lost my only daughter 8 years old 4 months ago.please pray for me

You explain it so well. I'm listening when I should be sleeping even on tranquilizers sleeping pills and anti depressants I can't sleep, I barely function at all. I don't want to go on. I just cannot picture life within her. It's been a year and it's worse. I need reprieve from this or I don't think I will make it.

Beautiful, brave, heartfelt. Congratulations. You have given your strong voice for so many grieving parents and opened up the conversation for others to understand and hopefully, reach out with love and consideration. Thank you for speaking and reaching out with such clarity.

I left my son at 22 years old and a water boiler explosion it was just a freak accident. It's been 6 years and I don't think I'll ever be the same this video right here has helped me immensely thank you for all you've done with all your speeches and I pray for you.

I felt something in my heart and soul when my only child daughter Layla had made her transition to heaven. This was unexpected and tragic. August 5th 2021. Her words are how I feel. It's a nightmare when I wake up. I love and miss my Layla so much and my heart goes out to her 3 kids her everything my grandchildren.

@datz2105

2 жыл бұрын

I feel you pain. 💔

@Toffee146

2 жыл бұрын

Made the transition to Heaven???

My daughter Jenny's body was found on 3rd July 2018. She's been stabbed to death. Thank you Penny for putting into words what I cannot. This pain is just so overwhelming.

@JeffFaldalen

4 жыл бұрын

I send you prayers and condolences

@gokuvegeta3163

3 жыл бұрын

💜

@clare5250

3 жыл бұрын

@@JeffFaldalen Thank you Jeff.

Thank you. I am so sorry for your loss and your words help me , as that is how i feel , people do not understand what we have and going through

On October 21, 1985, about 7:00PM, my five year old little boy Russell tried to cross the road in front of the house to join his older brother playing with friends. He didn't make it. A woman driving along the road hit him and stopped briefly. Then she drove off, unable to face what had happened. I didn't know Russell had gone outside. His father saw him go out, but didn't think he was going to do anything dangerous. Russell of course wasn't allowed to cross the road. We had a very large backyard where the children played. But that day, just at dusk, he decided he was old enough to cross the road and join his older brother. That's the simplest description of what happened. Other things were going on which set the stage for my son to leave my care and end up in front of a car. Russell even told me in a fanciful way what he was going to do. I didn't hear the danger. No red lights went off in my head. How could I have not heard what he was saying? He was the youngest child. His sister Laurie was three years older. His brother Jordan was six and a half years older. I felt like I finally knew how to be a mother with this third child. Does any mother feel like they are good enough? Kids don't come with instruction books. I made as many mistakes as any young woman trying to raise her kids lovingly and not damage them psychologically. And I did read many books about this, the books which were popular in the 70s and 80s. I wasn't going to make the same mistakes my parents did. Every generation thinks they know a better way. But the first and most important responsibility of a parent is to bring their children safely into adulthood. I failed. My little child was hit and killed by a car right in front of the house. Grieving the loss of a child is all the things people say about it. When that little child dies because of your failure to listen, it may be something else altogether. I have not figured it out yet.

I lost my son 7 weeks ago. I can't cope. The pain grief and emptiness has overwhelmed me. Thanks for sharing this video. Everyone has ĺeft i am all alone.

@sylviajayasriddperey8956

Жыл бұрын

My heart goes ou to you…. I’m so so sorry🌹

@carmendaniel3734

Жыл бұрын

im so sorry for your loss. I lost my daughter 423 days ago. Her dad was killed in a car accident when I was pregnant with her. I am all alone too. I just don't want to live. Not without my sweet daughter and her love, TLC. I just can't. We only had each other. Now I have nothing. I failed andost her. It's too much pain to bear. The only thing that can help me is death to take me and my pain.

It's over a yr,my son 38yrs old took he's life on father's day,I know that pain,my grief has never left me,6mths later my husband died on the same date,I'm broken,

What a marvellous speech. I so appreciate your candidness, and your wise advice. Were that me, I'm sure I'd have started crying while telling about my daughter. Rachel died 7 years ago, aged 23, and although I consider myself one of those who stepped fully into my grief (I spent two years traveling, leaving her ashes in every place, and the following three years writing a memoir about my journey), I still can't imagine being so bold as to stand on stage and deliver such a powerful talk. Thank you. You are an inspiration. I shall check your website and find out more about the play you wrote.

@curtainup9

7 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Becky. I reached out to you on FB. I will let you know about the play. Is your book published?

@beckylivingston7873

7 жыл бұрын

It's with an agent. Two (positive) rejections so far, and one "still under consideration". Here's hoping.

@ksurey9487

5 жыл бұрын

@@beckylivingston7873 I too lost my son, 22 months ago. I"m trying to step in to my grief...travelling, leaving ashes, like you. I love to write and only just TODAY have I begun this process. Beautiful Penny Kreitxer says everything we feel about being abandoned lost alone in our mourning. The death of a child strikes fear in the hardest of hearts. I've learned to develop my compassion even deeper and deeper for those who surround me that are afraid it could happen to them. That is the truth. It can happen to any one of us parents. SO I understand, I try to remember what it was like for me when I was on the other side of death ... an I get it.......... For me, the most important thing is to hear my son, Peter's name spoken in love as often as possible with as many great stories of his amazing life to live on. I make this happen. I go out of my way on my strong days to bring up his name and tell a story or ask for a memory to be shared. I'd love to read your story Becky.

Thank you from a grieving mother

Amen, mama Penny. Beautifully expressed. Your Anais is indeed a blessing, a light, shining through you. As our Ezra Lee shines through me - as long as I breathe until forever.

Thank you for speaking so eloquently and resonating with us who even after 17 years are charting unknown waters. Your authenticity is insisting. A broken heart still beats. Well done on the play ♥️

this is me totally sometimes there are just no words

We just lost our 18 month old. No explanation. He went to sleep perfect and never woke up. Grief is heavy and unbearable. I don’t know how people survive this.

@Snakemommamandi

Жыл бұрын

I just lost my 14 month old daughter in an accident at home a month ago.. You’re not alone in what you’re feeling. This feels like a nightmare I just want to wake up from.

"No expiration" is an accurate description.

Thank you for this Honest speech. I feel exactly the same.

I have recently lost my only child my almost three year old daughter suddenly and unexpectedly and I am unable to cope and live without her I was never ever away from her she saved my life she is the only good thing I ever had now she's gone I hope she is with my mom who also died a long time ago but I'm alone completely alone I have no one and I have no therapy or support of any kind. I desperately need help or I will have to take my life I cannot live without my sweet angel

@curtainup9

6 жыл бұрын

There are several groups on facebook. You can speak freely there. If you look for grief groups many will come up and you can choose from that list. People will answer you in a very supportive way and do more for you than any therapist. You WILL get support there.

@dawna4185

6 жыл бұрын

i hope you are doing better now....i am hoping and wishing you are OK.....sending you strength, compassion, courage, and hope xoxo

@rashidarobertabintrobertpi8451

6 жыл бұрын

aw I'm so so sorry for your loss and sadness I hope by now you have managed to get some help dear ,

@seacoast4950

6 жыл бұрын

Greywind92, I feel so bad about the loss of your precious daughter. It must be terribly painful. I apologize that I am not great with words in a situation like this. I was wondering if you know Jesus as your lord and savior? I feel he can help you and give you the guidance that you need. I encourage you to call out to him and ask him to help you get through all the pain and grief. He will know exactly what to do to help you. He will give you strength to get through life. Life has its good and bad, but it’s Jesus who gets me through it all. I hope you will give Jesus a chance to help you. He, Jesus/God is real. I will be praying for you. 🙏❤️

@kausarali8328

5 жыл бұрын

Greywind92 I too lost my 3 year 9 month daughter 6 month ago suddenly and unexpectedly she was my whole world I’m also unable to live without her.please share some thoughts with me.

I lost my stepdaughter four days ago . loved her.

I relate to u whole heartedly, inconsoleable! Holding on to the hope in Jesus! 😰🇦🇺

So sorry for the loss of your love, I lost my son on 13th of this February, I can't help myself from this,I never buried him because am out of my country, It's unbearable

Thank you... this will heal.

Soooo sorry, I had loss of 2 children. Thank you for trying to comfort others. What’s journey!,

Thank you.

Spot on. Thank you. It’s hard because I felt that everyone expects me to go and help kids in Africa or somewhere else. I have resisted as it’s not felt right. Just being for me is a tremendous effort after such loss. And it’s right, we all have our own way to journey or simply to get through. Listening to this I can feel how angry I feel about it. Really honest and powerful talk. Thank you.

This is so so important Thankyou xxxxxxx