Are you thinking on how to make your wife want you more? Ways to make your spouse want you more? This video is ideal for giving you the kind of insights that will help you set a better path for you to take, than just accepting the inevitable.
This is a big topic for a lot of men -- they're lost. There is so much confusion in the world now about how to treat a woman and it's created tremendous confusion and men don't know what to do. They know what they want and a lot of men are talking about sex, but a lot of men are kind of past that. They just want to be recognized, appreciate it. They want to know that their wife loves them.
It's very hard because you're not in a position to educate your wife and explain your needs to her -- she won't listen anyway. In most cases, women would rather believe an article that they read somewhere, society has gotten so crazy. I'm going to try and help you sort of dislodging the log jam because that's what it is right now.
There's so much confusion that the inconsistencies in behaviors between the two of you because men are messed up too equally so the inconsistencies are building up like this backlog of feelings and emotions and stresses, and if just you as the man can get your act inline it will really help your wife get hers in line because inline means truly showing you love and appreciation, having sex with you but not for the sake of sex.
This is one of the problems in our society. Man has gotten confused and they're not recognizing that sex is a vehicle for intimacy, it is not intimacy. Here's the thing, first thing you need to do is you need to understand that there are certain things that you should never do. The biggest thing you should never do is universal and that is -- impose upon your wife's free will that means not telling her what to do, not criticizing her, don't tell her when she's doing something wrong or how you would like her to do it.
This idea of constructive criticism is insane there's no such thing. Criticism is criticism so all that stuff's gotta go, all of it. You have to be proactive about containing your ideas of how she should be. You have to and when you do that it allows her to express herself and when she does, you need to listen to her from the point of view of understanding not just what she's saying but what she means and where she's coming from. Not to achieve a particular goal necessarily but by doing that you are letting her know she counts, she matters, she's real to you and this will start opening her up.
Right now, she's probably viewing you like this wall -- you don't let her in. You don't let her ideas and you don't let her feelings and it's probably how she sees you and because of that, she can't connect to you as women connect and therefore, she can't have that intimacy with you that you crave, that you need, that you should have.
I've touched on so many topics. If you're really smart, you're going to get one of my books because I lay out the whole thing and I break it down in the genders. You get a really good explanation of what the heck is going on. It saved many marriages and maybe your marriage isn't on the verge which I hope it's not because if it is on the verge then you should take the course for men but otherwise, use one of my books either Breaking the Cycle or Lessons for Happy Marriage and understand your wife better, understand yourself better, understand the framework of marriage so that you can get the most out of it.
You got married to be happy and what happens for men is the default is, "Well, I'm not that happy but at least I should be getting sex out of this deal," that's true. You got to get back into that happiness and marriage is a natural outgrowth when you know what you're doing. It's just like anything else.
You get in your car, you start the engine. You have expectations because it's set up to perform in a certain way. Marriage is the same thing. If you put water in your gas tank it ain't going to perform, it's the same thing. You got to know how to work your marriage. You got to understand it. Go ahead and get one of those books.
I hope this has been helpful. I know it wasn't like a complete, "Oh, just do this and everything will be okay." I'm not like one of those guys. I'm here to tell you the truth. Be candid with you and show you that you're at the beginning of understanding that you don't have any idea of what's going on in your marriage. This is just one little manifestation but it's really doable, and when you do it it's going to make you super happy, trust me on that.
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