‘Feeling ugly stems from a deficit of love, never of beauty.’ Wow.

@escarlit

2 жыл бұрын

🤯💯

@jJust_NO_

2 жыл бұрын

i am 'obsess' with beauty because i want to have beautiful children. i always judge my physical appearance, and my mood is greatly affected by that.

@Sabadiver

2 жыл бұрын

Makes perfect sense - relief and sadness at the same time

@michaelmecham3477

2 жыл бұрын

Cmon everyone one else, it’s your fault I’m ugly

@nifftbatuff676

2 жыл бұрын

Is so obvious that is shocking.

“Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.” - Malcolm Forbes

@JoinDrSuri

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly - We tend to focus on what's not there, because we take what's there for granted!

@noahhradek5426

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with this completely. Most of the time people are trying to be what they are not. The shy girl trying to be a socialite, the fat funny guy trying to be a jock, the awkward man trying to be suave. However when you do that you just end up reverting to how you were before.

It's funny how the things that bother us the most about our appearance are in many cases not even noticed by others, and if they are noticed, the other person seldom if ever cares about it as much as we do. Realizing that you are not the center of other people's lives can be simultaneously frustrating and yet immensely liberating.

@ian_silent

2 жыл бұрын

A person might not consciously notice some aspect of your appearance, but even then, their thoughts, feelings and behavior are always unconsciously influenced by the way you look.

@pagethreemodel

2 жыл бұрын

@@ian_silent explain?

@hq4290

2 жыл бұрын

@@pagethreemodel well looking at your name, height would be a pretty good one. Outside of dating, it is quite likely for people to unconsciously not take you as seriously because you were smaller, for eg. even if they dont mean to. Some are more openly mocking though.

@JCResDoc94

2 жыл бұрын

so...you didnt notice my nose? -JC

@pagethreemodel

2 жыл бұрын

@@hq4290 ooohhh makes perfect sense! I had a blonde moment there. Thanks for explaining.

The School of life changed my life. Your videos makes me calm and I can enjoy my life a lot more. Whenever I feel depressed or tensed I rewatch some videos. That helps a lot.

@teaMmMate

2 жыл бұрын

Happy to hear that, Mob :)

@melancholicpeach4568

2 жыл бұрын

Can’t relate

@jonathan5175172

2 жыл бұрын

To relate, you have to come out from under the bridge.

@SaintBirdie

2 жыл бұрын

Same 😊

@bosaboma4235

2 жыл бұрын

i also have a friend who likes rewatching stuff :) u guys are great!

It’s interesting how, when you love yourself, it’s easier to lose weight and care for yourself better, merely because you no longer fear rejection and judgement.

@mofomartianp

2 жыл бұрын

It's also interesting how, when you hate yourself, everything you do backfires and everything you touch turns to shit, to the point where you stop caring about anything and everything.

"The issue is never about our appearance. It's about our vulnerability to humiliation." "Feeling ugly comes from a deficit of love, never of beauty." Wow. Thank you for this video. I wish I could like it more than once.

@OCAQelvin

2 жыл бұрын

Me too. I am thinking same

"The more anxious we are about the judgement of others, the more our refection has the power to horrify us. The issue is never that of appearance. It is about our sense of our vulnerability to humiliation." This is so well said.

@johnfran3218

2 жыл бұрын

When things were at their very worst: 2 Suns, Cross in the sky, 2 comets will collide = don`t be afraid - repent, accept Lord`s Hand of Mercy. Scientists will say it was a global illusion. Beware - Jesus will never walk in flesh again. After WW3 - rise of the “ man of peace“ from the East = Antichrist - the most powerful, popular, charismatic and influential leader of all time. Many miracles will be attributed to him. He will imitate Jesus in every conceivable way. Don`t trust „pope“ Francis = the False Prophet - will seem to rise from the dead - will unite all Christian Churches and all Religions as one. One World Religion = the seat of the Antichrist. Benedict XVI is the last true pope - will be accused of a crime of which he is totally innocent. "Arab uprising will spark global unrest - Italy will trigger fall out" "The time for the schism in the Church is almost here and you must get prepared now." The Book of Truth.

For anybody feeling down about your looks, I just want to say a couple of things from a fellow "ugly" person: 1. Beauty is a young person's game. Once you hit 40+, it won't matter as much because everyone is middle aged, mellowed out, hopefully, more mature. Just be patient. In the mean time, work on things that get better with age: Good Relationships, Intelligence, Skill. 2. You get used to somebody's face. There are SO many instances in my life where I watch a youtuber and think "They're so weird looking" but watching all their content gets me used to their face and suddenly they start getting more attractive. This happens to co-workers, classmates, etc. people you see daily. This can work in your favor as well. 3. If you're not attractive, focus on hygiene and health. If you are always well kept, smell good and look clean/smart/put together, you up your attractiveness points. Imagine a really hot person walking up to you, and then they open their mouth and let out the stinkiest breath you've ever smelled. Are you still attracted? lol 4. Unless you want to pursue a career in media, you don't have to be SUPER attractive. No need to bend over backwards to aim for celebrity looks. Just aim to be pleasant and healthy (see number 3). Chances are, you're already fine. 5. Recognize that "feeling ugly" equates to "feeling unworthy or unwanted". Like the video said, ugliness stems from feeling "unworthy" when you were younger. The line "people were not happy when you arrived", struck me so much. I'm always in the constant battle of feeling unloved or unwanted. This requires some self-searching and meditation to fully understand what it means to you. I can't tell you what works for you, but for me, I found joy in pursuing a career I can excel at, and that helped with feelings of worthlessness. Bonus: Statistically, you're probably average, and not as ugly as you think you are. I say this because when everyone tells me "it's the inside that counts" it just sounds so hokey and sentimental. I found that using logic and science works for me. Maybe it will work for you too.

@tga253

2 жыл бұрын

Wonderful @valerie moon thank you!

@victoriadasilva6793

2 жыл бұрын

i love how you worded this can you write a book pls😂🙏🏽

@deepaksrinivasmondal

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for writing this!

@latika662

2 жыл бұрын

Really true

@souvikdeb2523

2 жыл бұрын

So true!

I see pics of girls with different size noses who are not willing to change to be in line with “beauty standards” and they look shimmering and stunning because they hold their heads high. I’m envious (only in a healthy appropriate way) of how they STAND OUT)

"Feeling ugly stems from a deficit of love, never a deficit of beauty" Profound & true words, School of Life, profound and true words........

@cloudoftime

2 жыл бұрын

Not true at all. A deficit of beauty can lead to a deficit of love.

@cloudoftime

2 жыл бұрын

@@sallyhope2137 "Love" takes many forms. That is why the video is too vague to be reasonable. People feel less loved because they get less attention than their peers. Ugly people get fewer romantic opportunities, they get fewer job offers, they get less of so many things. Yes, it is good to treat people well irrespective of their looks, but that doesn't change the objective results of attraction.

@garethmorgan3665

2 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, there in truth in this but no one said life was supposed to be fair.

I’ve grown a bit disillusioned with this channel. The writers assume that our problems stem from a traumatic if not abusive childhood. This pops up in many of their videos. I think they do us a disservice by assuming this. I suffer from mental health issues, and I had a wonderful childhood. I am sorry to say that I’m finding this channel more frustrating than helpful. For those of you who have been helped, I wish you peaceful, happy lives in the future!

@garethmorgan3665

2 жыл бұрын

I kind of know what you mean. I have Generalsied anxiety disorder, perfectionism , approval seeking and yet have wonderful, loving and supportive parents and many happy childhood memories. I guess the point is these things happened when we were very very young and the things we experienced weren't necessarily that bad and certainly not intended to be hurtful but its just the way our developing minds interpreted the experiences based on multiple factors including genetics.

@andrewcrump8853

2 жыл бұрын

There is no way to have a childhood without 'trauma'. Most of us did have a wonderful childhood.... but one that also included trauma that still plays out today in our mental challenges and habits. It is in the process of finding these origins and observing, truly accepting (and then finally becoming grateful) for them that many people have been able to move past their mental health issues. Side note - it is less common it seems (but still relevant) that our mental challenges are routed in trauma of later years.

@RaRa-eu9mw

2 жыл бұрын

It's a pseudoscience channel. Always has been.

@user-ju6zx3rm8d

2 жыл бұрын

yup this channel is just copium. Check Wheat Waffles channel for the statistical, scientific and observable reality truth about looks

@JackRabbit1612

2 жыл бұрын

@@user-ju6zx3rm8d this is a philosophy channel. they never claimed to be “scientific”

My mum is and always was a loving, understanding and encouraging mum. Her mum, on the other hand, was a mum that was very critic, judgmental, she never gave her daughter the ensurance to be good enough. What happened, was that my mum ALWAYS tried to make me feel good about my self. She complimented me on my appearance, told me how beautiful and smart I was. I can tell you, even if she did it with the best intentions, today I am obsessed with looking good, being smart, and I feel like everyone can immediately see my flaws if I am not trying to hide them under a loud and extrovert self and nice clothes. Ones relationship with appearances is always complicated and telling people they‘re beautiful does sometimes even make it worse.

@nomorejoy5412

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. Now my appearance is the only thing that matters to me and i get so depressed bc of it

@katherinewilson1853

2 жыл бұрын

It sounds like: is because she did it without dealing with her own need to feel validated--what you truly heard was not genuine and free, but sub-consciously neediness from your mother. A child cannot fill a providers needs however hard they try, and is not supposed to be their job. Your fulfilling her lack of praise as a mirror does is not your job.

@JoinDrSuri

2 жыл бұрын

It can certainly go both ways... especially when it comes to the patterns you develop with your parents. The developing brain engrains those early experiences deep into your personality, and so you absorb the same worldviews as your parents. It's clear that your mom's intent was to ensure that you don't develop the same insecurities as her, she inadvertently passed on the inter-generational pattern by "teaching your subconscious mind" to prioritize looks (and being flawless in other ways too) like she did, and so did her mom. That's not to say that you can't change these neural pathways in your brain. You will just have to work a bit harder on them at this age, but you got this. Start by accepting your "flaws" to yourself... the moment you stop running away from them, you will stop being "embarrassed" about them. If you are not embarrassed about them, then you will feel less of an urge to hide them from others.

People usually don’t consciously notice our appearance. However, subconsciously, we’re constantly noting things about others. We will talk to good looking people with a little more attention to what we say. We will feel a slight sense of superiority talking to someone shorter than us. Its just part of our flawed human nature. But these subconscious judgments are only surface level placeholders for our actual personalities. And most people are willing to change those placeholders easier than we think. So we’re better off just not giving a fck what people think of us.

@deepaksrinivasmondal

2 жыл бұрын

That's a beautiful point. We do innately respond to external beauty but it is easier to change that perception through confidence and body-language than we imagine. Thank you for writing this so eloquently.

@Aww_som

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for saying that people are willing to change those placeholders.

@noralee6793

2 жыл бұрын

That is so much easier said than done!

I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨

@garethmorgan3665

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely. This too, shall pass :-)

“The prince says that the world will be saved by beauty! And I maintain that the reason he has such playful ideas is that he is in love.” 😁 - Fyodor Dostoevsky, The Idiot

@YNGM1991

2 жыл бұрын

The beauty of Love. Jesus is Love

How the heck did you guys know I was thinking about this?!

some of us have really fucked up childhood , careless parents,siblings,uncles,aunts and all those who were there when we grow and there comment really matter im in my teen but i still feel ugly because my aunt always said you dont look like your father u dont have fair skin etc but i swear to god you are not alone we are here together and maybe not today not tommorow we will overcome it and we will stand with our head held high . i wish you all an amazing life .peace and love

One is caught up playing the impassioned protagonist in one’s Subjective Narrative of Self. 🎈

@kamrankhurshid8497

2 жыл бұрын

That's all one left with in a subjective world.

@julieh8898

2 жыл бұрын

I’m slow, please explain. I want to understand.

To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.

@km4230

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

This is so true when I was child I was always differently depending on how I looked that day, and having a pedophile father did not help. I hope to heal the trauma soon It's manifested into body dismorphia symptoms and everyday I see myself a different way than the day before it sucks

@pagethreemodel

2 жыл бұрын

Damn, I'm so sorry. Wish you healing, sis. ❤️❤️

@aritheplebian

2 жыл бұрын

I feel the exact same way ❤️

I turned to sweets when my alcoholic mother would neglect me when I was a child. Because of this I was a big kid. I got teased & shamed by my peers, daily. By high-school I was excessively exercising and starving myself. It became an obsession to stay in shape. By college, that was all I ever thought about. I would wake up at 4am to get a workout in before my first class, & be exhausted through classes all day. To this day, at age 46, I exercise daily, watch my calories and pay more attention to my appearance than needed. I feel if I am able to look a certain way I won't attract the negative attention from hecklers and naysayers. It's a defensive mechanism. I know it's not healthy, but accepting myself has always been the hardest task in life for me. 😔

@Deeplycloseted435

2 жыл бұрын

You’re too hard on yourself. There are SO MANY positives in your life that comes from your daily exercise. There are probably a lot of people in these comments who just can’t figure out the daily self-care routine that you have been doing your entire adult life. To them, exercising once is a big deal, let alone daily. Be proud! You’re being so good to your body and your brain. When I am not exercising 4-5 times a week, I slowly begin to lose my mind. I can’t even describe or understand what it does for my confidence. I stand taller. I sit up straight. I look people in the eye. I’m more assertive. Its never a bad thing to be able to fill out a t-shirt nicely either. It takes a while, but if I stop (illness, work problems, etc)......slowly my stinking thinking creeps back in, telling me that I’m a shit person, that nobody likes me......it happens EVERY TIME.

@Leo-mr1qz

2 жыл бұрын

@@Deeplycloseted435 I agree that the endorphin kick is exhilarating. Although, I have my own personal reasons why I lift heavily 4 times a week. It has to do with past abuse. Which is apparently too graphic for the KZread oligarchs because they won't let me describe it to you. I appreciate your positive response. Take care 🙂

@katherinewilson1853

2 жыл бұрын

@@Leo-mr1qzcaloric restriction and exercise can become addiction--anything can. It is a way of dealing with pain over time...sometimes letting go of all of the pain is hard.

Thank you for dealing with such a relevant issues and thus helping at least few people in need who aren’t lucky enough to find support anywhere else

Feeling ugly stems from the deficit of love, never of beauty... This describes my own source of depression. Opposite sex often remarked that I always put myself down, acted weird when complimented, and withdrawn when showered with affection. It's not false modesty, when I say I'm not that beautiful. Literally, I mean to say I'm ugly. It's truly how I feel about myself, no matter how my bf tells me I am beautiful. I can't believe it. I realized I can't take compliment or believe that I am beautiful becuz I always believed to be the ugliest in the family when I was a little girl. Being compared to other cousins, makes me feel unwanted. I could have outgrown it if only my own mother have told me that I am worthy of love and I am beautiful in my own way. But the biggest scar was inflicted by her, my own mother. She told me that I am not beautiful and she made me think that she's disappointed in me that I am not as girl as she idealized me to be. I am now 35 and have shunned all potential long-term relationships becuz I can't believe I deserve to be married cuz I won't look beautiful on wedding dresses bcuz wedding dresses are for beautiful girls only, and not for ugly girl like me. I am frozen not bcuz I am ugly, but bcuz I am made feel ugly and inadequate.

@latika662

2 жыл бұрын

Ohh sort of same upbringing i had. And all that childhood trauma and abuse manifested in the form of serious ailments like paralysis and even cancer.. it is indeed a tough load to bear..the horrific childhood memories😪

@existing..6235

2 жыл бұрын

you deserve love.

@latika662

2 жыл бұрын

@@existing..6235 😌

@mofomartianp

2 жыл бұрын

@@existing..6235 why does anyone deserve love? Are we all entitled to love? Then why do so many live without it?

@mindfulmatters3856

2 жыл бұрын

My reason for low self confidence is also my mother. But in my case it's the other way. My mother always tells me I'm perfect and beautiful. But when I grew up people around me started to point out my flaws. I fought with those people. Now I don't believe my mother at all. I listen to what other people tells about me. And it always crushes my self esteem. Cz for others I'm useless, good for nothing. I lost all my charm and enthusiasm. I'm depressed. My mom feels really bad when she sees me in this state. But she never prepared me for a cruel adult world. I love her more than anything. And I hate myself more than anyone.

As someone recoverying from an ED, his hits hard

@ashiksaleem360

2 жыл бұрын

erectile dysfunction?

@SS-yl5wo

2 жыл бұрын

@@ashiksaleem360 eating disorder 😕

@camez2345

2 жыл бұрын

Best of luck on your journey, Evanonter. You got this!

@medeawashere7574

2 жыл бұрын

@@ashiksaleem360 lol🤣🤣🤣🤣

A Friend of mine once said "beauty is when love becomes visible." I ever since remembered this sentence (maybe not often enough) and I like to think, that this appeals for all of us, even through a mirror.

I wasn’t fortunate enough to have a good childhood, so I’ve experienced that lack of love and the self-hatred that follows. As an adult however, one of the most important things for me to be able to like or love what I see in the mirror was for me to earn my own respect and do the hard work of taking care of my health and dressing in a way that makes me feel great. Outer appearances and your physical body are not the only important things, but they ARE important things.

@notaclue822

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, but we are constantly bombarded with the message that physical beauty is important, in fact, way too important, and it's in no sense undervalued. People's mental health is suffering.

@frocksole2275

2 жыл бұрын

@@notaclue822 oh for sure, I don’t disagree with that at all.

My mother always cared about my looks. Even when I was little. She dressed me up in pretty dresses, styled my hair, and what not. Once I found a pic of kid-me and she told me how big my stomach looked. Dude. All kids look like that. They all have "big stomachs". No wonder I have so many insecurities about my looks... even thought my mother states she loves me. Maybe she does. In her own way. Or maybe she just loves a certain idea or image of me. It's painful.

"Feeling ugly stems from a deficit of love, never beauty."

I was dumped by someone I've dated online for 5 years and was engaged to because she said I wasn't attractive. We exchanged pictures and video chatted many times without her ever mentioning this and she accepted my proposal. I try to keep my thoughts positive, but it's really hard to do when you have the thought that, "I'm so ugly that even someone who loves me can't stand to be with me."

*“Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one.” - Marcus Aurelius*

@HelloKitty-st9wo

2 жыл бұрын

This video isn’t about goodness. But pop off I guess.

@AlxKrusher

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, how useful 🙄

@Juka161

2 жыл бұрын

“Waste no more time arguing about a good woman should be. Be one... Marcus Aurelius the feminist 😉

@earnestlyaditya4261

2 жыл бұрын

You are everywhere

@jofac22

2 жыл бұрын

How do we know what a good man should be unless we discuss it? Shut up, just do it. -Nike

Missing Alain’s superb narration …. but the female reader has a lovely tone.

"Feeling ugly stems from a deficit of love, never of beauty." These two things are not necessarily mutually exclusive, and the concepts are vague. Depending on the kind of "love" one is referring to, a lack of love can absolutely stem from a deficit of beauty. It has been scientifically demonstrated that people are attracted to certain traits more than others. When someone has a deficit in beauty, in this way, they will be much more likely to experience fewer romantic engagements and opportunities. They will get less attention as compared with their peers. These things are very important to humans, and permeate social activities. The likelihood of love or attention someone gets is demonstrably contingent upon their beauty. It is important to see value in people beyond that, but this is a descriptive point about human nature. How we feel about ourselves has so much to do with our experience of acceptance within our communities, as social beings.

@yuk498

2 жыл бұрын

More traditionally good looking babies do get more admiration esp for their looks from their families, relatives and communities growing up...

@mofomartianp

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly. The accumulated reactions that other people give us, forms a big part of our self-perception. Of course there are psychopaths and narcissists who literally don't care about anything but themselves. But most of us judge ourselves based on the feedback we get some other people. If that feedback has been overwhelmingly negative, how are we supposed to perceive of ourselves as otherwise?

@cloudoftime

2 жыл бұрын

@@mofomartianp Well, I think that is the intention of the video. It may be flawed, but that's why self-awareness is important to remember and encourage. The way we feel is determined by things we are usually not aware of. The more we can understand these things, the better we will become at having power over them. In this case, self-knowledge is power.

"They were, when it mattered, left painfully unloved and ignored to an extent that they are liable never to have recognised or mourned adequately; their arrival in the world did not delight a few people as it should have done, and therefore need compassion, sympathy and emotional validation far more than they will ever require the tools of outward beautification." This is just so poignant and beautifully true.

I agree with this video; you feel beautiful by being loved, not compliments. However, purely from a practical standpoint (i.e., dating), looks are still important. I’m not a 10/10, but I promise that putting effort into small things like your hair and clothes can make a dramatic difference; it makes you look and feel more confident. I’m privileged to be able to afford replacing my wardrobe and hair product, though.

@ian_silent

2 жыл бұрын

There are also things about your appearance that you cannot change. You simply have to learn to live with them.

@pagethreemodel

2 жыл бұрын

You need to listen to this video again if you think that they were implying that people shouldn't take care of their physical appearance.

Though I have been loved and adored by my parents and my relatives, the way my first boyfriend shamed me for not being beautiful left an irrevocable scar in my heart and left me feeling ugly and unloved. Fortunately, I have met a number of people who love me genuinely regardless of my appearance and began to feel whole again. Even though sometimes I still couldn't help but feel physically inadequate, I try to remind myself that things aren't as extreme as my inner demon try to convince me. I do have my own beauty and there are people who recognize such beauty as well. In a way, I have regained the love within myself and began to spread love to others just like how I was raised to be. The tough part now is learning to accept my physical appearance without stigmatizing it. It can't be denied that I'm overweight. So, I'm planning to gradually lose weight and become more fit. To that end, I am trying to remind myself that I'm losing weight not because I am not beautiful but because it would be more healthy to do so. Honestly it's still a challenge. But I hope I'm going into the right direction.

@hughnicolson8157

2 жыл бұрын

It sounds like you've come a long way already. Fighting your own thoughts and perception is a struggle and a half, I wish you continued success :)

@Amina088

2 жыл бұрын

@@hughnicolson8157 That's really kind of you. Thank you! ☺️ I wish you a nice day!

@dzanegulles

2 жыл бұрын

Cheering for you!😍✊✊✊

@madonnauchehara7755

2 жыл бұрын

Wow! Your ex seemed like too much a jackass to have been in a relationship with. I am happy, on your behalf you're no longer with that toxic human. You deserve happiness and love. Wishing you all the best💞

@katherinewilson1853

2 жыл бұрын

That's right

got me in tears crying THANK YOU

"There is no definition of beauty, but when you can see someone's spirit coming through, something unexplainable, that's beautiful to me." - Liv Tyler Love the video, keep it up guys ❤️

It’s difficult to start off in an unloving childhood and then try to reverse that negative self esteem, especially in a society that praises external beauty. Thanks for this video.

@m2pozad

2 жыл бұрын

Not that hard, maybe.

@Aethelhadas

2 жыл бұрын

@@m2pozad It is hard for some people.

" _The way to help someone feel beautiful is not to compliment them on their looks, it is to take an interest and delight in their psychological essence._ " Well said.

I was unloved but also abused. My nose was broken when I was very young and it has grown badly, and my jaw is uneven and clicks. I obsess about saving up enough to fix my nose because wearing a face mask for this past year has shown me how much nicer I'm treated when it is covered.

We should learn that it's ok to be ugly instead of lying that we are all beautiful, because no one is perfect so it's ok to not be perfect

As a professional makeup artist for over 10 years in downtown Chicago, I can absolutely attest the the accuracy of this message. I was privileged to have thousands of strangers from all different ages, races, genders, and socioeconomic statuses confide their deepest physical insecurities in me before I spent 45 or so minutes applying products and getting to know them. I’m a good makeup artist and I really enjoy making people feel attractive. But over the years, I had to come to terms with the fact that neither the products I was selling nor the well-meaning compliments on my clients’ physical beauty meant anything at all. Worse yet, I was making my living by planting more seeds of insecurity in them and myself by maintaining a focus on superficial changes-which I knew would never solve the real problem of needing to heal our individual and collective shame. Thanks so much for making me feel better about being unemployed, makeupless, unshowered, and unashamed, School of Life!

@mofomartianp

2 жыл бұрын

Take a shower, but otherwise, good for you for realizing how parasitic and superficial the beauty industry really is.

This is sad but true...that this problematic self-image comes 'from a deficit of love, never of beauty.' We must learn self-love and self-reliance. No one will be a better friend, than you to yourself.🙏❤️

I love 's way of thinking so much, can literally talk about any topic and I'm hooked You've got this :)

We don't need to be beautiful, we need to be comfortable in our own skin.

This was by far one of your deepest video. Thank you.

The voice is so soothing

i'm crying. thank you.

Just so y’all know, I’ve never seen an ugly person in my entire life, so if you think you’re ugly, trust me, you’re not.

@madonnauchehara7755

2 жыл бұрын

Same. I really don't see the ugliness in people who others say they're ugly.

Life is indeed simple. Realising the same is very difficult, as we are all frail to judgement & perceptions. Thanks to this channel and the beautiful people of this community, who elucidate and help us to feel less worried and liberated.

TLC "unpretty" played in the back of my mind as I listened. I needed this. Thank you.

Thanks for the video! Insightful as always.

So beautifully said❤️

"Defiant good humour"! Loved that!

All dreamers out there keep going this is temporary situation it will pass don't lose hope your success will don't give up 💪 💪

I think my issues started in childhood, my mums friends would say how handsome I looked and it felt like the only value I had was looks and when you find out your just average, you feel you have no value anymore. I don't think we should compliment kids on looks at all even if it's just a self esteem boost, I think it just adds pressure and makes it seem like it's the most important thing about you, so you fight to keep up your only sense of worth they had for you.

Without watching the video I have always had issues with my self image because of a narcissistic mother who crushed my feelings every time as a child about my appearance . Being 20 now I just don’t care , leave it as it’s meant to be . You are only beautiful as your smile so have a huge one on your gave and walk out 👍 .

I'm so grateful of this channel. Y'all give such good advice and are so caring. Thank you for helping people evolve with each video y'all do. It really helps all of us heal. Ily the school of life :°)

You just spoke my heart out...

This is just amazing.

This video has been released at right time I think ! I don't know whether God is ture or not but I hope always something out there to help us to get back into the track . Thanks for the school of Life .

A 4 minute video that's filled with so many beautiful gems of wisdom! ❤ To avoid myself quoting the whole video, I am restricting myself to highlighting few parts from this satisfying speech. 🌟😇 00:23 How beautiful we FEEL has nothing to do with the objective structure of our face or body; it isn't what we look like that counts, it's how we FEEL INSIDE. 02:08 The truly blessed among us are not those with perfect symmetry; they are those whose past affords them the luxury, not to give too much of a damn whatever the mirror happens to say. (I loved the part leading to the above words as well!) 03:58 Feeling ugly stems from a deficit of love, never of beauty.

This is so precious.

Wow.. this really knocked the wind out of me and made me sit down....

I’ve been a subscriber for longer than I can remember, yet continue to derive so much wisdom from your uploads. Thank you 🌟🤩

@mofomartianp

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Here, I'll sum up every SOL video for you: Just love yourself and everything will always be wonderful.

The last thought blew me away! ♥️

What a great series of videos

Your videos have been helping me through my darkest episodes Thank you 🌹

Such an amazing video. Every sentence is accurate! Love this channel

wow that made me cry a little

School of life is amazing

The graphics of this video are spectacular! And very well supportive of the "text" ."

Right to the core.

Too beautiful for words...

PLEASE BRING THE VOICE OF THE MAN IT WAS THE MOST PEACEFUL LOVELY VOICE

This is such a classy and beneficial channel

Having a signature everything made me feel significantly more attractive. I wear the same style everyday with the exact same makeup. Once a began to feel familiar with the way i looked, knowing exactly what i look like at any given time, i stopped checking mirrors and reverted my focus to internal. And no, not tge cliche being a Better person. My personality features that i genuinely find attractive i enhanced. One of which for example are my interests in science. I find intelligent people immensely sexy regardless of their age. 1. Find a signature everythings and stick to that so you grow familiar with how you look and hence more comfortable. 2. Find your favorite non physical traits about yourself that don't involve other people. Fo you think you have an attractive music taste? Do you have any hobbies that make you feel unique? Do you have a particular talent that you can feel good about showing off the fruits of? Express them and focus on them. Make them part of everything in your life and who you are. Grow into yourself

well done

Adore this channel

This hit hard

Can you do a video on how to be less vulnerable to humiliation please? 😥

This video is just soo true

This essay was a big step up over "how to love ugly people" I'm very interested in this subject. I think Alain makes some important points

"The issue is never about our appearance; it's about our vulnerability to humiliation".

Dietitians aren't all weight-loss oriented! S lot of us, including me, are body positive and anti diet, working hard to improve our patients' relationships with food and their body.

@TeKeyaKrystal

2 жыл бұрын

good for you

So amazing 🥰

Beauty is in the eye of it's/the beholder

I love the school of life and like this video. I am also a Dietitan. I don’t get referrals to help people feel beautiful, only to help empower people improve there own health 😎

Thanks

Good effort

I am objectively ugly but I don't mind. I still have my hobbies and interests and what I look like doesn't affect these.

I find self-love to be a big part of how beautiful we feel but I must say for me, when I am active (particularly cycling) sweating, excited about what is happening in my life suddenly the inflammation disappears, my weight stabilizes and I feel great about my appearance. It’s all connected

HOW TO LOOK BEAUTIFUL ME: Click as fast as I could 😅

Animations are sick 👏👏👏

i wanna cry

Inner beauty is good, but things are always changing.

‘It’s about a lack of love not a lack of beauty’ call me jaded but in my experience these are directly linked to each other. The prettier you are the happier people are to see you, so if you are average or below you need to compensate with charisma to be in the same realm

The timing of this video seriously makes me question whether my thoughts are my own

Feeling ugly stems from a defecit of love, because you are perceived as ugly subconsciously by others. No one wants to admit it though.

Wow I feel like this is meant for me. 😌