1. Moving towards the conflict 2. Asking questions 3. Keeping quiet

@daviedood2503

4 жыл бұрын

4. Take a stand on what you will and will NOT put up with and tolerate. People seem to play word semantics and keep trying you because you never SAID that you don't like that.

Have the maturity to sometimes know that silence is more powerful than having the last word.

@ugazbethebest8

3 жыл бұрын

What if that silence is observed as being a push over

@charlottetait9566

2 жыл бұрын

Op

This is actually really important because conversations become so tense in an instant now.

@thevapingauditfrog2387

4 жыл бұрын

Trump.

@Roncass4

4 жыл бұрын

I agree, Trump has created something that needs to be changed.

@thevapingauditfrog2387

4 жыл бұрын

@@Roncass4 And you are part of the problem.

@CaseyFinSF

4 жыл бұрын

Especially in an elevator... see Example above.

@CaseyFinSF

4 жыл бұрын

@@thevapingauditfrog2387 Not if he votes Trump out. Then he's part of the obviously needed solution. 😖🤣🤣🤘

I’ve always asked naive questions to keep conversations going, and it really works

I have always had tough conversations whenever needed , it served me well in most cases , but there has been exceptions too where the other person was a bully and he wouldn’t listen to my point of view no matter what but only tried to enforce his opinion . You don’t always succeed but it’s always best to speak your mind .

Be more transparent, more intention , sharing is an opportunity for others to understand you better. Love this.

@luxceekeydeey2288

3 жыл бұрын

Great comment define transparent

This advice is profound. The ability to do what he suggests was fundamental to my job as a psychiatrist. It condenses my higher education re human behavior and how to deal with its aberrations and why there is no shortcut to achieving change but certainly hope for same if it can be conveyed to the patient as well as oneself

My brother laughed at me when I said I wanted to take a course in communication or learn something about it. I'm happy to see that some people have studied something related to it on a higher level. I think learning to communicate better is very important for anyone who isn't entirely self relient and isolated (which is very uncommon).

Don't knowing anything - even if you do - is an essential one. Just used it by chance the other day and it worked very well.

The symptoms of not having difficult conversations or having them poorly are real! 2:50 it could be minor issue. but it goes unaddressed • frustration sets in • communication constricts • tensions rise • trust evaporates • and collaboration is done.

Every conversation is a tough one for me.

@mind-of-neo

4 жыл бұрын

Same here

@3rdvoidmen594

4 жыл бұрын

Practice makes perfect. Good luck

@luxceekeydeey2288

3 жыл бұрын

How so? Things can be irritating sometime esp if people are the thing and the people are irritating already on their own anyway . Whats so difficult for u? Jw.

@oilyremedymama

3 жыл бұрын

As I get into a conversation I think getting to know the person is a really good way to understand their point of view and move reward from there.

That was beautiful, really inspiring. What he doesnt mention but points at through his examples is 'vulnerability'. A lot of people are scared of laying their cards on the table even though thats exactly what they want to do. Be the first to share and it opens up an opportunity for others. Depending on the situation that is sometimes a challenge for me as well, also because I'm not a very good smalltalker, but I've seen it work for me many times.

@luxceekeydeey2288

3 жыл бұрын

Why are u so paranoid who hurt u

@rachaelyoung6456

Жыл бұрын

Brene Brown - Dare to lead, 😍

That's the biggest truth... I see that daily at work with the team... Everytime a good conversation change everything...

I've also experienced that asking questions is very powerful. Ask and you'll lead.

This is brilliant, superb! Thank you very much for sharing this.

Yes, Conversations create the future, we need it in every moment from our life, actually we need it to live our life. thanks, Adar.

@yemen-rz9jm

4 жыл бұрын

Hi. Are you from Yemen ?

@user-ej1sl5rw7y

4 жыл бұрын

@@yemen-rz9jm Yes, I am

@yemen-rz9jm

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the reply. Residing in Yemen or elsewhere ? Best of luck.

@user-ej1sl5rw7y

4 жыл бұрын

@@yemen-rz9jm In Yemen

@yemen-rz9jm

4 жыл бұрын

بالتوفيق. مع اطيب الاماني...

Thank you, now I’m ready to talk to my estranged daughter...

@luxceekeydeey2288

3 жыл бұрын

Excuse me ?

Mediation is the most beautiful job in the world.

This is so very amazing and different and thank you so much for awakening material Mikayla

This is the first TEDx speech since weeks that is actually useful and not just pandering to the "cult of woke".

@donnacallahan4198

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. Thank you for phrasing it so well. We don't need pop experts to coach us further on how to maintain our place in the *group think tribe.* We need the confidence to weigh information, think independently and share opinions respectfully...and be heard respectfully.

awesome, thanks for sharing the three principles of leading difficult conversations.

I use this technique all the time and it is the best ever.

Great speech, and very powerful rules for conversation

thank you this is what I so need conversation

Great ending lines... Thank you!!

Wonderful perspective and instructions

Reglas de la comunicación, 3:54 Representación de las caras, 6:52 Colaboración del público, 10:46 Frase, 14:25

Good talk. We also need to work more on the way we talk and address ourselves in a way that we understand each other and appreciate one another. PS : I personally been told that I’m not an expressive person, I mean emotionally, so I’d try to be 😌

We need to send this guy to the Congress and the White House.

@luxceekeydeey2288

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely ! Great manners very patient .

Well done! 👏

Thank you for sharing your insights and stories in conflict resolution. I wish one day we can all go to Disneyworld.

Conversation create the future.

Excellent.

I will start exploring difficult conversations in my communities.

@bad_azz_punk

4 жыл бұрын

All the best soldier

There,s just one little problem tough ... not every conflict has the luxury of a mediator like yourself...

This TedxTalk is amazing. Thanks for sharing!

@Briae

4 жыл бұрын

He was incredible! Unfortunetly I was the speaker who went on directly after him. Before he went on I told him "following you is cruel and unusual punishment!" 😂

Thank you. I know this. But, it’s just what I needed reminded of. ❤️ courage and questions

@luxceekeydeey2288

3 жыл бұрын

No, thank you so much love 💞 for taking the time out of day to right this

@luxceekeydeey2288

3 жыл бұрын

God bless !!

beautiful

The secret formula for finding solutions to tough challenges is right here in this video.

Lead our government into a conversation please!

@gailmgreenlee7039

4 жыл бұрын

Yes we need this guy to do it too.

How can we contact with Mr.Adar Cohen?

Good stuff

I really like the video

I love this guy , the crow-

Just to clarify, is the purpose of this advice to help someone HAVE a difficult conversation or LEAD others through one? Or both? Just wondering, Thank you!

@luxceekeydeey2288

3 жыл бұрын

Austin-

this guy has balls.

Amazing Ihis facial features iooks very arabic egyptian ,but he is amazing has the tools of the job

Some people straight do not want to have not only tough conversations, but no conversations at all. They deliberately change the subject or don't say anything at all and are extremely passive. Like someone I know. She would rather use another real estate agent to list her house. Someone from church. I'm her adopted daughter. Or at least I am coming to believe that "family" word was used to get something from me. I am an accomplished horse trainer and if I had charged her for the countless hours I spend training her horses, I'd been thousands richer. Family. I haven't started a talk yet. But I don't how this will go. I'm not actually family to her. Perhaps she doesn't mind me, and we've had fun, but she's listing with someone else, moving to another state and I'll never see her or her family again.

It's all about vulnerability

My son keeps procrastinating and whenever I ask him the progress on one thing he refuse to address it. How should I have a conversation with him about getting that one thing to finish?

Angel angel angel angel angel 👼

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Fantastic presentation but it would be interesting to hear it from a 1st person perspective rather than a mediators perspective

mantap djiwa

Where's TEDxDetroit 2019?

@luxceekeydeey2288

3 жыл бұрын

Tex x America 2021..?

Não sei inglês e não oferece a opção de legenda em português.

@JoakimHallgren

4 жыл бұрын

Então você precisa aprender inglês!

🙌🏽🇬🇧

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@thevapingauditfrog2387

4 жыл бұрын

Trump 2020.

@fatimazrar2217

4 жыл бұрын

It not clere

@thevapingauditfrog2387

4 жыл бұрын

@@fatimazrar2217 Not, "clere"?

@fatimazrar2217

4 жыл бұрын

@@thevapingauditfrog2387 😊

if you're here because you got caught smoking in your college dorm, you a real one

@ my first comment You as in hypothetically ... No one. Not you (@ the motivational speaking activist ). Thanks for reading ! I

From my experience the antithesis of dialog is a political debate. The mediator is either biased or encouraging conflict where it doesn't exist. Both sides care more about "owning" the opponent rather than trying to find a common ground. Both sides use cheap dialectics to make their voters feel good for choosing the right side... Ugh, can't stand watching those clowns There's a special place for the people who try to bring more peace to our very divided world. Sadly sometimes only violence works

How old is this guy that he was involved in The Troubles? THe Troubles ended with The Belfast Agreement in 1998 apart from a couple of internal faction skirmishes.

@WillyJunior

3 жыл бұрын

I was going to say! This guy had a conversation once in Northern Ireland...

Somebody let's out a horrid fart in an elevator. Man to group heading toward conflict, "Was it YOU!" Group looks at man and stays silent.

@michaelmills9105

4 жыл бұрын

Man in the spotlight, his eyes focused a thousand miles away, inhales deeply... responds slowly articulating; "Not bad" then sighs.

@luxceekeydeey2288

3 жыл бұрын

Is this a joke

15 minutes of a guy explaining that he's some type of linguistic savior, but he's saying it slowly and has a PhD. This is nothing but typical motivational speaking. Wow, listening is so groundbreaking. Such grand observations in a very controlled setting of inmates that have to behave or they are going back to their cells. Take that security guard out of the equation and that guy wouldn't have lasted 5 minutes. Psychologists are some of the biggest self-absorbed head cases on the planet. I can't stress that enough.

Here Im to help new KZreadrs

@heavysleeperassclapper6054

4 жыл бұрын

You are from North East India?

@NAGAWARRIOR

4 жыл бұрын

@@heavysleeperassclapper6054 yes

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4 жыл бұрын

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Guy doesn't look nearly old enough to have been in Ireland at the times he claims. Of course talking is better than a fist fight, war, genocide. I bet Ireland cant even remember how their civil war started. I also bet that it goes back to St. Patrick. St. Patrick was credited with taking all the snakes out of Ireland. Yet, Ireland is too cold for snakes. No snakes lived in Ireland. So what is he talking about? Everyone once worshipped the serpent. So perhaps it was the worship of the serpent that he banished. But did he really? No. He sure didnt. Just another religious war gone civil in my opinion.

@godmon8

Жыл бұрын

Nothing about his NI story sounds true. But that's about the only part of this comment I can abide, because the rest of it is nonsense. The Irish, Northern Irish, and people identifying as Irish/British in NI remember fairly well about what started the conflict. Of course, exactly what is remembered depends on the side of the argument you're on. What it is certainly not about is St. Patrick. St. Patrick's banishing of snakes from Ireland is an allegorical tale, like most religious stories, about banishing heathenism from the island and introducing Christianity. Absolutely nothing to do with anything. There are plenty of sources to learn more about the Troubles before making strange comments on the internet.

He kinda lost me at this initial story. Maybe it's ADHD but I had difficulty following his message with that speed and lots of unnecessary decorative words.

@lizslack2669

10 ай бұрын

Agreed

The guys mouth is dry af

@shembeliever6095

3 жыл бұрын

How rude!

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Why is there so much lip smacking sounds

@Nattyog

4 жыл бұрын

he had dry mouth. they need to give presenters water before going on stage.

@tomoeagentlight

4 жыл бұрын

I like those sounds though

@asokoron

4 жыл бұрын

ASMR😂

When speaking to Trump supporters I keep asking , if your partner or spouse lied to you about virtually everything, all day long, would you stay with them? Most the time I’m shocked at the response, silence!

@soraaftp

4 жыл бұрын

Ronnie Cassady ok boomer

@Roncass4

4 жыл бұрын

Owen-Boomer? What? 😳

@volcanowb

4 жыл бұрын

@@soraaftp ?

This dude's voice is annoying lol. good stuff though!

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@sonnybowden6030

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