Also forgiveness is indeed key for the healing proces but it does half the job though. Because if you look at the markings and scars from the past, they will always be there and never go away. Its just a matter of how people to choose and deal with it. I forgave my evil doers. But the harm thats been done scars you still and never go away.

this is extremely helpful. I've been going through a lot and not really sure how to handle it, but I will definitely be keeping this close. thank you for sharing

Incredible video! I have a lot of things to incorporate into my life. Thank you for the content!

I feel like i have my PHD in narcissism at this point. As someone who carries a wounded healer archetype the narcissist is always showing up in my life. Forgiveness has been a key component in getting through these relationships. Learning “radical acceptance” and knowing its not your job to be someones scapegoat to offload their pain on to. These things are not taught to us growing up. Especially within the walls of religion. In many ways its a life long journey. But having these tools in our arsenal can def help us manage and work our way through it.

@stardustsparkles22

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I'm having a problem running into ppl who desperately try to make me a scapegoat and psychological dumping ground for their own personal issues with anger and trauma. How can I stop them from doing this?

@matthewmichaelmoschella9548

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@@stardustsparkles22 short answer is know your worth. We attract to us those who show us what we need healing from in our own life. Personally, feelings of inadequacy and a need to please (which gave me self worth) lead to many years of dealing with narcissistic people and those with a vampire archetype. The universe is always teaching us. One of the best questions to ask is “what is this here to teach me?” I would venture to guess if you have alot of narcissistic people that come in and out of her life, you may have a savior complex. Know that you cant save everyone or please everyone. I used to run my tank dry doing for others. Now days people get the overflow. What’s in the cup is for you. Whatever flows out of the cup is for others. But you must make sure your own cup is full first! Doesn’t mean that these narcissistic people still won’t try to enter into your life but when you have clear and precise boundaries and you own who you are and your worth, they wont stick around very long. Just be prepared for them to call ya every name in the book and make you out to be the bad guy. That’s their go-to whenever you cut of their supply.

@stardustsparkles22

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@@matthewmichaelmoschella9548 thanks so much. You have such excellent insights. Yes I have weak boundaries and a savior thing going but I'm learning to just let go. I trusted the wrong ppl and now I'm going through a bit of difficulty. But I'm learning so much. Hardest person to forgive is myself for ignoring red flags that were waving so hard and fast that I almost thought I was a bull LoL.Add being tormented and almost killed and I was so mad at myself for ignoring red flags. I've got a sociopath ex and he's wrecking havoc, but I'm learning.Vampire Archetypes indeed. With my x he's very very dark. Darkest person I ever met. So I'm letting him go and we just lick my wounds and pick myself up and keep going. You're very insightful. Thank you.

@matthewmichaelmoschella9548

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@@stardustsparkles22 all things are lessons. Theres a beauty in the darkness that can be found when we allow ourselves to let it teach us and mold us into what the universe would have us become. Pay lose attention to the things that spark joy and fulfillment in your soul right now. Dark nights have a tendency to unveil our callings in life. The best way to heal yourself from a narcissistic relationship is to be able to say “thank you” to the narcissist. Thank you for being the catalyst for changing the trajectory of my life. Because of you, i have become a better version of myself. Yes theres is lots of homework to do to get to that point. But i always say, do the work so you don’t have to repeat the class. Blessings!

@stardustsparkles22

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@@matthewmichaelmoschella9548 so true!! Thank you so much.💛🌷

Your channel has released me from my karma

Good to see you back man. Sure has been a while. And again a interesting and good vid to running thoughts about. Keep up the good work lad. iam at a very interesting crossroad myself now atm. Now its the question when will come my goal and purpose onto the surface. In a very dramatical way to say the least.

Thank you for sharing your journey.

I been trying to get over trama and trust again. I'm LGBTQ it's really hard to be yourselve when your scared people will reject u. Goodluck Nate ❤

Hello MisFit! I so appreciate this video and at this exact time! My son (a 32, living@home w/mom, late-college blooming graduate) with a fear of moving forward in life & a narcissist to boot! Not sure 🤔 how to explain BUT, You DID! Thank You… I forgive his explosive disrespect towards me, I want him to see this video but can’t help him at this time (he smokes weed) that I know about… we keep bumping heads only when I try to give advice… if that makes sense? Idk, I’m just happy I stumbled upon this gem of a video/share of yourself. Any advice is welcome 🙏🏽 P.s. now I’m going watch the rest of the video 😊😂🤣

The biggest misconception is that they know not what they do you see that's one of the reasons I've not been believing in God because I believed that they did not know what they were doing they were not intentionally choosing to say and do the things but they were and because I didn't realize that I was a punching bag for the narcissist and you don't have to forgive them you need to protect yourself from them you need to understand that they are choosing to do what they do and say what they say and only then you can look at them with different eyes with a heart that doesn't feel obligated to regulating their emotions and their Joy and putting them first. You will start to see how they crossed your boundaries not because they don't know better but because they know they can and they want to. My narc called 79x when i said im gonna take a nap i had migrane and thats 79x yall. Why she didnt remember said she had to ask me a question thing is she was pissed that I chose to take care of myself at that moment

I have forgiven, yet no sooner than I do it,they go and do something else horrible. So I have to forgive again and again. And I do try hard to let the pain go and practice radical acceptance. But I'm still in SO much angst. But I refuse to allow this to take over my life anymore,so here I am. I hope that I can forgive someone for repeatedly trying to kill me, and for sexually abusing me. And yes ,they do plan and calculate exactly how they can inflict maximum pain. It makes me feel sick when I think about how they hurt me and are getting away with it all. I even felt betrayed by God. How could He let me go through this? Doesn't He care...I have survived several attempts on my life and I wish I knew why this is happening and that I would be vindicated by God. I'm trying to forgive,but the PTSD just keeps bringing it back. I feel so stuck. And of course he keeps trying to bully me into suicide. How do you forgive someone who does that in a calculated manner with zero remorse?There's a lot of sick people in this world.

what kind of philosophy books do you like? I’m just getting into it and idk where to start. Also, if your okay w this question, how is your dad doing?

@anonymous_3856

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also, im still watching the video, but it sounds like a great topic, going through a heartbreak rn. And she just msged me last night and i wasn’t sure if i wanted to reply or not