In the Roman Empire, teenager's were considered adults at age 16. At first I thought it was because they were more mature. Now I realize they did it to get them the hell out of the house sooner!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Haha, The Huntress. Aren't teenagers wonderful?

@giltgirl1

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@amberisaac55

5 жыл бұрын

Y'all are funny soooo glad I'm not alone starting to feel like I'm on Mars with a teen monster that wants to eat me

@dejaromero5268

5 жыл бұрын

LMAO! That made my morning.

@MrsMakley

5 жыл бұрын

This made me chuckle. I have an unruly 15 yr old daughter who has made my life as miserable as she possibly can for the past 9 months!!! Love her dearly but my GOD, it never ends. I'm hoping to gain some useful information to help save my own sanity here!

The most annoying thing is that they are least bothered about the consequences of their actions and behaviour.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

They might appear to be that way, inam90, and in some cases it may be true, but they need to experience consequences/ It is vital.

@jdm3111

5 жыл бұрын

So true, I see this with my daughter (now 14) she has lost a lot of material priviledges, some 6 years ago and never did what was required to regain them (it would take her 2 weeks of beeing respectful to regain it and she chooses to say "forget about it" yet she keeps begging to get one item back, but won't do what it takes. I stay firm and will not give it back to her until she makes the effort or when she moves out. She acts like she does not care, she says she does not care, but I think it bothers her to to get away with stuff and loose priviledges.... she has the opportunity to regain stuff, but takes a little effort, not even long, but that is not the way she wants to go

@WorkingMomWarrior

5 жыл бұрын

@@jdm3111 My daughter also says she doesn't care. If I don't make her the food she wants because she was disrespectful, she will not eat. She will go all day without eating, even though there's plenty of food in the house. If I ground her and don't let her take the car because she stayed out after curfew, she will sneak out and get a ride from a boy I don't know. If I try to take her phone, she hides it. She bought her own phone and pays for her own service, so I don't have access to cut it off. If I don't do the laundry because she has broken the rules, she will do her own laundry or wear dirty clothes. There are no longer any services or equipment she cares about. Her apathy towards any consequences make it difficult to create any of the transactions discussed in the video.

@swiftkarma4436

4 жыл бұрын

@@jdm3111 mine says she doesn't care also

@blahblahblahblah2837

4 жыл бұрын

@@WorkingMomWarrior Congratulations! She is becoming independent! Sounds a lot like my older sister. The good news is that, despite a tumultuous young adulthood, she has grown into one of the strongest women I know. She was once bordering on being a feral bogan (aka trailer trash to the Americans) and is now a real, mature, hard-working woman who makes good informed choices. Some people are fiercely independent. I think the key is to show them compassion, not anger. Not whining and disapproval, but clear direction and pride in the good that they do.

I need this im going through some very hard times with my daughter i need a godsend in my life

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Hang in there, sarah kelly, honored to be on your team.

@kaykaygang2262

4 жыл бұрын

i hear u i just prayed like take over my body lord

@fooddrugadministrator4079

4 жыл бұрын

Don’t let or make her watch the Maury show

@catdowntheroad5765

4 жыл бұрын

I need this too. I'm having a terrible time with my 18 year old son.

@thecheesewith1ksubs73

4 жыл бұрын

I’m having a sucky time myself as a teen, life sucks as a teen

I needed this so much today! My depression is spiraling because of my 13 year old. I have to take control of my emotions and well-being. Thank you for this 🙏🏼

@LiveOnPurposeTV

2 жыл бұрын

Berenice_dolls, you are very welcome.

This was very good fuel for thought, anyone who is listening to this channel is at least willing to try to learn something new as an adult and I congratulate them for getting this far for now

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Love for Trail, we are all on a journey, glad to be on it with all of you.

I'm watching this at 12 I'm gonna watch the video of how to be positive because I don't like my own attitude :(

@LiveOnPurposeTV

3 жыл бұрын

Willybean08, that is awesome. You can do it.

I’m glad I found this! I have two daughters 18 and 15. I am a single mom. The good news is they don’t give me headache at the same time, they alternate!!! 🤦🏻‍♀️

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Choco Latte, I love your sense of humor, find the good in everything. You can get through this.

@Ace-ke7fq

3 жыл бұрын

your 18 year old,.send off pack up the things and make'em leave,.that is an adult now..your 15 year old, call boot camp, you'll be happy..

@shiela1151

3 жыл бұрын

Ace thank you.

@getu96

3 жыл бұрын

very funny!! Alternate.I have one and little chalenging

I have been very broken over issues with my teens. Thankyou for eloquence and simplicity: I am mastering "my job is to love them", and that's helpful and I am duly humbled you put it into perspective. I appreciate the creative way you highlighted and defined what all control teenagers have, although I was whimpering "buts" and "no's" as the scales seemed to, (at first) tip all their way. Defining the control over things I have REALLY helped. My anger and frustration has CALMED. I feel positively about the future. With tears in my eyes, I thank you. Peace

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

What an honor to have you at Live On Purpose TV, Shaynel Ahmed. Thank you for watching.

Great Videos! I recently taught a series at my church entitled, " Tips on how NOT to kill your kids!". I have used some of your material - good stuff.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Interesting title. I bet it grabbed some people's attention. Feel free to share the videos with your class. Thank you for watching.

I have recently stopped "providing services " for my stepson because of the way he treats me. Thank you for that assurance! Avoiding battles is tough

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

wargo141, very creative. Thank you for commenting.

@jarvickh3712

5 жыл бұрын

Wargo141 I am going through the same thing with my 13 year old stepson he is so rude and disrespectful towards his mother not as much me because I simply ignore him. I don't tolerate disrespect so how I do it you wanna be grown I treat him like he grown I provide food, roof over his head, clothes (whatever I buy) and I ignore him he ends up coming around wanting to talk or help me around the house. Works for me.

@k-luvjones4664

4 жыл бұрын

@@jarvickh3712 tell me why I'm doing that now lol. Silent treatments work

@willjackson4505

4 жыл бұрын

Jarvick H just took this stance with my step daughter who sounds like an exact replica of your step child... I’m done... getting the absolute basics, no extra curricular activities etc if I have to take you or do it..

Freaking awesome video. Being a troubled and disorderly teenager in my past I cant tell you how accurate and truthful this video is. It was always hard for me to pinpoint why I behaved the way I did but looking back I now see as I developed my identity my ego was not going to let my parents control who I was choosing to be resulting in a horrendous battle of control. Not until my parents finally decided to love me for who I was did I decide to comply and find mutual respect. They are now my BEST FRIENDS and I choose to hang out with them more than just about anyone else on this earth. Thank you for sharing the light.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Wow, I love your message, Matt van dyke. Thank you for taking the time to share it. I hope PARENTS READ THIS COMMENT (trying to get their attention!). It will give them hope and remind them to love their children no matter what, and even if.

2 years later and this pops up in my feed right on time. Thank you for this timeless video! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 I have a 16 year old girl and I am not okay!! 😭😭😭

@LiveOnPurposeTV

3 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful! RAWKSTARtm, good luck.

@jasonbeaudry489

2 жыл бұрын

Same, my 15 year old doesn't even want to live with anymore because he refuses to take the schoolbus. His mom drives him everywhere and he's just being very pouty. 15 year old baby. Like I'm going to start going out of my work schedule to bring him to school and back in freezing weather everyday.

@livefromtheground7274

2 жыл бұрын

I have a 17 year old and its gotten ugly. I too am not ok

@tanishamorgan4766

Жыл бұрын

Im with you on this

Thank you soo much, I really needed this, and will continue watching your videos. My son is 12, he is an honor student, but father is not involved to much, I am a single parent. Lately, my son disrespects me by telling me I am fat, and I do not have a good job. Sometimes he makes fun of my accent, my hair..the list goes on. Besides school work he is extremely inactive at home, playing video games, and watching youtubers. I have a feeling that a lot of his "roasting" comes from those "cool" youtube videos of disrespectful teenagers. I took his video game this morning, because he was about to be late for school, and when I nagged him to rush, he spilled out how bad job I have, not paid good...always finding the points to hurt me. So, I have a bad job, but It pays for the internet, so you will be taken it away..that is what I control. I just wish, he naturally starts respecting me more. I feel very sensitive, and emotional, because he realy hurts my feelings..especially he knows how ro press the buttons of my own insecurities. I am just shocked how he talks to me. He has all neccecities provided, and does great in school. He puts me down soo much, that I am loosing my self esteem! I find it constantly trying better to provide him with more quality things, so he does not lacks anything, or I am not a bad providing parent. I am taking him vacations, such as skiing, and historical sightseeing of other cities..yet in my son's eyes, I AM STILL not a good enough!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

His words to you should not be allowed, Iena eleven. This saddens me. He should talk to you as he wants to be talked to and he wouldn't want someone to say those things to you. Money and things do not equate love. Please talk to him and tell him that disrespectful talk will not be tolerated. You are good enough, and more.

@Adam_Zielinski

5 жыл бұрын

It is probably very tough, however war will lead to war. Its important to make interactions between you two friendly. Yes there are great intentions, but if he wants to go with a friend for some event even something very pleasant like a vacation may be irritating. Disrespect shouldn't be tolerated but you also shouldn't blame it on the Games and content creators, they likely aren't the cause. Perhaps the child is frustrated with no father figure or a parent figure he feels like he can talk to. No matter how caring a parent may be then may not always be the Right adult for the child. I'd recommend enforcing rules and not tolerating the disrespect but also not trying to start a war of Shallow threats.

@tfizzle7307

5 жыл бұрын

I think this is an example of training each other. He knows that if he talks negativity twards you, you give him something he wants. Imagine if he didn't get anything from you when this happens. Be confident in your self and believe your a good parent because the most important thing is loving your child. If you have that, then you see what you control. Thank you for sharing this story. I hope this is helpful, as some one who is still a kid, I can assure you that your son is only thinking about his wants and doesn't process you and how you feel. It's so me times learned with time but just teach them that you feel pain like they do. :)

@bigche5859

5 жыл бұрын

He sounds narcissistic...get help now before it's too late...good luck

I like the way you communicate the issues. I appreciate the approach. I just wish a resolution was that easy.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Simple and easy are not the same thing. It takes lots of effort, patience and love, Dino Giosso.

Sir I appreciate your suggestions. My Grandson Is 16 and we are beyond this! He has dropped out of school, he is drinking ,smoking, popping pills, he has stolen some items from me, hes disrespectful! He threatens me, he is nothing but obstructive! Meaning, he will be opposite of whatever I say, ask, of him to do! If I say up, hes going to say down! He loves, being defiant! He sneers this devilish sneer on his face, he purposely is trying to push my buttons, this is what I have an issue with ! He refuses, to bathe, I'm so uncomfortable in my home!!! He refuses to clean up after his self, and will purposely continue, to harass me, going into my room to get what it is he wants that I have removed from his access! He doesnt care what I say! I have tried everything, I barely hanging on to being the adult in the home! He is trying to intimidate me, by the fluctuation of his voice, yells at me curses at me, calls me bitch hoe, I need to take my ass out in the street were I belong and sell my ass! He calls me crack head , crazy, I'm weird, I'm stupid, I need help, all this with the intent to get me to loose my temper! Sometimes I do! I cuss his ass out! I tell him to stop talking to me this way, he says no, he doesnt have to! No consequences are ineffective or rewards really matter to him! Hes hurting! I know he is! Hes angry! I think hes very confused! He doesnt like to be told a dam thing, not even to clean up after his self! He does and says things with the intent to hurt me , my feelings! I tell him, if you dont want me telling you shit then do what your supposed to do! That is go to school, cleaning up after his self, follow the rules! He is manipulative! Vendictive, a liar! Takes no responsibilty for anything! It's always someone else's fault, never his! He wants things, yet will not do what needs to be done to do what he wants!? Playing foot ball, grades and needed to be C or higher, one semester only! The nicer I try to be, the worse he gets! I'm drained, I'm very sad, hurt! Frustrated, desperate, feel like I've failed him! Very concerned about his future! No school, anger management, lies, irresponsible! How will he maintain a job? I'm afraid he's going to be an abusive man to women! Because he is cowardly!!! Hes really a scared kid! But. He displays anger, trying to be a bad ass, someone who he is not in anyway! I'm afraid for his safety because he hangs out with. His behavior! The only thing he is doing is getting home by 11 pm. Which I'm grateful for! He has to be here by 11 or he gets locked out the the night! There have been time when he has arrived late! He doesnt want to hear shit, just open the door he says. Quit talking to me he says. I dont let him in with that attitude! Hell bang ,yell and knock on the door ,Ive called the police! Yhey do nothing! Im the one that can get in trouble necause hes a minor and I'm responsible! I dont care! Take me to jail! He needs to hey his ass home on time, if he doesnt want to get locked out! I mean that shit! I have to do something! I keep yeinh him this is going to happen and nothing happens, no consequences I need to do something to show him I'm serious there are consequences got his actions! I'm am the adult! You will follow the rules here. Or find somewheres else to stay! I'm having a difficult time loving him right now!!! He turns people against me, lies about why things are the way they are! He says it's because I dont want to hey him back in school that's why hes not going! He doesnt want to go ! He would love to see me go to jail! He was dropped from school, please help. I'm making my self ill!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Rachel Raya, you can talk to one of our Live On Purpose Coaches by scheduling a call at www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.

@willjackson4505

4 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry but he would be in a group home or the police called until you gain control back...

@janabalboni1701

4 жыл бұрын

How are you doing Rachel ? Any improvement ? My son has SOME" of these behaviors, but then is very loving again. Hes 17, but I worry like hell that he isn't going to be ok out there as an adult :/

@loveplaysgames2258

3 жыл бұрын

@@willjackson4505 I’m going through the same situation and I agree with you at that point the streets can have them if they don’t know how to act

Thank you for sharing this with parents. You have change my stile of life by just loving my daughter and being positive when talking to her. You are a master of psychology. 🙏🏽 thank you.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your kindness, scordero1967. Honored to be on your team.

I really needed these videos right now. Thank you for posting. It's really putting things into perspective.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Some days can be difficult with teenagers, Carly S. Glad the video helped. Hang in there.

Stay positive and if you have to dismiss them for a moment do that stand your ground and keep it moving because I am a mother not a child.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

3 жыл бұрын

Nancy Rentas, thanks for watching.

I took my child’s toys and all extra inessential items and threw them in 3 garbage bag thinking this 5 year would cave. She only had a bed and small dresser. She played with 3 pieces of paper for 3 weeks and never asked for any of her items back. I knew I was in trouble then and forever.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

3 жыл бұрын

liv, that is one strong-willed child.

@lolli2943

3 жыл бұрын

@@LiveOnPurposeTV ya she’s a teenager now... 😩😩

Dr. Jenkins, I wish I had known about you when my “angel” son was in 7th grade. In middle school and currently a rising Junior, I know believe all/most children will go through these challenging years. I can handle the physical needs, but the mental needs, “Oh boy!” Although, my husband and I have figured it out to choose love and positiveness, we do not want to fall into the trap of enabling, just because we can. Thank you for your advices. You have the qualifications, experiences, and a great way of communicating. I am now a subscriber.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Wow, what a kind and thoughtful comment, positivelybeautiful1! I am very honored to be on your team. I want to let you know that we are offering a free 25 minute parenting breakthrough call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. If you would like to take advantage of that for a little extra help with your son, we'd love to assist you. You can go there to schedule the call, if you wish: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall

All of these teenagers are commenting and making excuses. I'm 25, so I still have good memories from my teen years. Listen teens, even if you are a teen, do not speak for all teens. Everyone is different. Some teenagers have good excuses for their rebellion, but some teens are just lazy and mean because they want to get all of the benefits without putting in any work. Most teens just don't want anyone telling them to do anything

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Cashay Saunders, thanks for commenting.

Wow! Nice tips! You voice it out so well. In my coaching sessions I say don't get into a power tussle with your teenager. By here you put it so well. Permission to use these in my coaching sessions.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Share away, with credit, Nwadiutochats. Glad you are helping others.

This is so great. So needed. Need one for how to deal with a teen/college student.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Oh, yes, rachel matos. Our parenting does change as our child enters new stages and the college time is interesting as they gain more autonomy. Thank you for the suggestion.

@joybaker9164

5 жыл бұрын

Rachel Matos you are so right. Paul when are you doing the college phase? I need it urgently 😲

Thank you for this timeless video . Its given me something to think about

@LiveOnPurposeTV

2 жыл бұрын

Wonderful. Happy New Year.

The first few minutes I didn’t like this and thought this dude was cracked, but for whatever reason I kept listening and I am so glad I did. I’m gonna go watch that Be Positive video next. Thanks sir!!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching, Cana Lingenfelter. Appreciate you sticking with it.

Your Video has helped me so much with dealing with my 16 year old teenager! your videos are amazing! Thank you so very much!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Corporal Jones Jones, thanks for letting me know. Honored to be on your team.

Genius! I love the vids & amazing advice! Thanks Dr. Paul!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

2 жыл бұрын

juozozupaitis, You are welcome.

Thank you so much, your suggestions provide me a lot of inspiration

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

You are welcome, Lilan Wu. Thank you for being a part of the Live On Purpose community. It's an honor to be on your team.

As a step father, I'm struggling to deal with my teenage step daughter. She's scary man. If she doesn't get EVERYTHING she wants right then, she will make up lies about us, threaten to move in with her grandmother, disrespect us. We feel imprisoned in our own home! And to those that say "I'd whoop her ass" this isn't 20 years ago where that was acceptable...We'd have the police here asap!! Any real suggestions here?

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

It is tough to hear, but you need to stand up to your daughter. Have your phone recording the conversation so you have proof. She cannot disrespect you without your permission and you are giving her permission by giving in to her every demand and threat. Consider getting a family counselor.

@tonyoliver2334

5 жыл бұрын

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Actually not a bad idea lol. Never thought about recording her "episodes".

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

You may just show them to her so she can see how out of control she is and what it looks like.

@Adam_Zielinski

5 жыл бұрын

Not exactly a parent myself and I get she isn't exactly young and impressionable anymore but there's more than one way to discipline a child once they are still living with you. Disconnecting a teen is the worse they can experience, they aren't addicted but they do loose the instant contact and entertainment they are accustomed to. The child should be on your terms, but it's up to you to make them fair, and for the "fair" part you need to put yourselves in a teen shoes again.

I love your videos! I will say proverbs says a wise son brings joy to his father but a foolish one brings grief to his mother. We have all been on the wrong side of this as teens. On the parent side I can testify that wise proverb is true. I gotta work on staying positive like you said because my son will probably pull through this like most of us did.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Christian Ministries by Karl, It is so rewarding when they come out on the other side, believe me.

LOVE THIS!! Love your positive attitude to interact w teen. Can u come talk to my teen? 😂

@LiveOnPurposeTV

2 жыл бұрын

We do have coaching services if you want to reach out through the website.

Thank you very much. You are very helpful to us, since it is the high issue that parents need to tackle conflicts with their teenagers

@LiveOnPurposeTV

Жыл бұрын

Our pleasure, honored to be on your team.

Wonderful advice! I'm struggling with my 12 year old son & I'm at a loss... Thank you for posting this video, it's given me so much to think about!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

You are welcome, Candace Stevens. Honored to be on your team! We have more for you on our Positive Parenting playlist: kzread.info/head/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU

@Pausereflectandbreathe

3 жыл бұрын

My 11 years old daughter is going through some mood swings. Dr. Paul is right, she's a different animal now. 😊

Thank you so much for these videos and topics

@LiveOnPurposeTV

3 жыл бұрын

Glad you like them!

Yes you are so right I do it with my stepson who is so disrespectful and rude. I only wish I can get his mama on the same page. Provide food, roof over his head, clothes whatever kind I pick out and I ignore him. He always comes around after acting out when he sees that I'm paying him no attention. Wanting to talk to me and help me out around the house.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

It is so much easier when everyone is on the same page, but your stepson will understand, (if he doesn't already), that you are truly showing you love him by giving him consequences, and loving him.

We need to lower the working age laws. I want to send my teenage daughter to work in the coal mines. She would be the boss I am sure.😂

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Haha, All American Dream Chaser. She could find work to do around the neighborhood, like cleaning houses, yard work, or other things. She would be her own boss then. : ) Just a thought. Thank you for watching.

@annettewandira7858

3 жыл бұрын

Ha ha

@harleypage5789

2 жыл бұрын

Shell probably quit lol

New subscriber here. Excellent video 😁. Thank you for the tips 🙏🏽

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for subscribing, Edosa Egiebade. Honored to be on your team.

brilliant! Thanks for this.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

You are welcome, Avivit Hagby, better days ahead.

I want you to know that I love your videos......I'm grown up myself, now, but since I've left home, My mother has adopted my cousins two young girls. Now they're teenagers, and she is having a very difficult time with them (to tell you the truth, I know from experience that she can be over bearing and short fused). Well, a Professor of mine had suggested this particular video for her and I've gotta tell you, after watching it myself, THIS IS PERFECT ADVICE FOR ANYONE STRUGGLING WITH A WILLFUL TEEN!! Thank you, so much for doing this and take care. :)

@truththestrangerfiction9099

4 жыл бұрын

PS. I also liked: How to deal with your angry teenager"...... Keep these videos coming, they're awesome!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Tim Renner, I am honored by your comments! Thank you very much. I hope the videos are able to help your mother. We just did a "no yelling" 5 day challenge this week - maybe your mother would be interested in that. It can be found at kzread.info/head/PLq2mRDkHEBPAcEW3S3spSI62Xx0mEZwVS. We have a lot of other videos on the Positive Parenting playlist: kzread.info/head/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU. Thank you again, and we have no plans to stop what we're doing!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

I don't know how new you are to the channel, Tim Renner, but I want you to be aware that I am giving away my book for free. It's called "Pathological Positivity," & I only ask that you pay for the shipping. I think you'll like it. : ) Here's the link: kzread.info/head/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU

Wow after listening to so many videos, this has been the most helpful. The T chart was an amazing tool for visual understanding. Thank you so much.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Sabrina Toglia, thank you for letting me know.

Your suggestion sounds very modern and effective. I’ll apply it with myself and my rebel teenager right away! Let’s see how it turns out!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

2 жыл бұрын

Wishing you the best.

Thank u soooo much for sharing! God Bless

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you, sara abram. Honored to be on your team.

Teenagers lie all the time and break any deal you make with them.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Sorry this has been your experience, C. Art. Thank you for watching.

@plusbonus9017

5 жыл бұрын

C. Art. You are right. They can be manipulative lying abusive, destructive deal breakers. And that's the good side! My teenage daughter has kicked holes in our walls and laughed. Drugs,tick. Police, tick. Shit friends, tick. Walks out late on her own, tick. Hates family, tick. And all we need is dialogue,which is when she flies off the handle like a scene from the exorcist!! Sometimes I wonder!?

@joybaker9164

5 жыл бұрын

C.Art...Tell me about it!!!

@tonyoliver2334

5 жыл бұрын

@@plusbonus9017 Sounds like our daughter! I think female teens are the worse!!

@tfizzle7307

5 жыл бұрын

As a teenager I agree with this, and from what I am learning is there is a certain control in a deal. For example when I was in school I'd have a hard time with math and my mom would come in every 10 minutes like "did you finish your homework yet? We're not doing something fun unless you get it done." When she could have said at the start "thank you for doing your homework, when your done we can do something fun" now they can lie and say they did or nake a fake paper because you aren't gonna understand there homework unless your a teacher or regularly practice and learn with them. So there are different ways to combat them from lying. My mom could prologe the fun thing for the next day when I get my paperwork back. Now I'm in trouble because if I want that thing, I have to make a real assignment for my teacher to grade. And it's not about the grade it's self that determine s if I get the fun thing, I'm put in a position where I have to try. I'm sure things get way more complex but I hope this helps to see from a teenage stand point :)

Simply brilliant Paul!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

I absolutely love this thank you

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

phyllis pitts, honored to be on your team.

thanks for the great tips!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

You are welcome, 3 live. Glad to have you at the channel.

Wow I am so greatful I found you You really made me feel better and gave me some valuable advise I think could actually help us Thank you 💚

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Glad to have you at Live On Purpose, amber Isaac. Identify the principle, then apply it to your situation.

Thank you very much sir for your valuable ideas on how to deal with our teenagers. You have really helped me a lot especially to know that I was doing most of the things correctly.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Franciscanisha Gomesbukkam, honored to be on your team.

I hope you get this one and I am a teenager and I love your videos it's awesome and I think every teenager should watch your videos.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

6 ай бұрын

Thank you! Please share away.

My daughter(not bio, I was married to her dad. She's adopted) was kept from me for quite a long time. Now that her therapist told dad she needs her mom, he has allowed me to parent her again. Sadly she's 15 and out of control. Stealing, lying, running away, smoking, ect. I am starting to feel like it's too late. He doesn't follow through with any rules or schedules. Basically he's afraid of her. She does behave at my home but while she's gone he's calling asking for me to speak to her about her behavior. I'm worn out with HIM. I know her potential but he does not. I need help.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

2 жыл бұрын

There is so much going on here. Decide what you are willing to give and then do that.

This is a good video and lesson: Whether the teen complies will determine what we provide will either be a "carrot" or a "stick". Thank you. Keep up the good work!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks Kultrick The Kulprit - teens are a great adventure! DrPaul

@jimcole6423

6 жыл бұрын

Concur.

@ritz25winters98

5 жыл бұрын

thank u,,very helpful very informative

Im just constantly smiling throughout your video,u have such a funny way of explaining it anyway thank u so much for sharing the knowledge,it helps me in a big way.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching, Andrew Kingston. Glad you found the video helpful.

I love your videos !!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Gringa vai te contar, glad you are a part of our community.

Very helpful video .im struggling with my 15 years daughter . Stay positive really stuck with me .thx a lot

@LiveOnPurposeTV

2 жыл бұрын

All the best, marwa.

You've put a really nice simple order to this.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

2 жыл бұрын

Mary Erb, thank you.

I really appreciate this video but this is difficult. How many of us can really feel we can show unconditional love when all interactions of daily life are defined by such a transactional relationship.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

W Shray, thank you for watching and trying to understand. Love is a choice and a verb that you have to choose. Some people seem easier to love than others, yet everyone deserves love. I want to be on your team. We have other videos on parenting teenagers, and we have the Positive Parenting playlist for a wide variety of subjects: kzread.info/head/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU. Please feel free to check it out. I also want you to be aware of a free 25 minute parenting breakthrough call with a Live On Purpose coach. If you would like to take advantage of that, please go here to schedule: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall You can also have your teenagers watch any of the videos from our "Just for kids and teens" playlist: kzread.info/head/PLq2mRDkHEBPCicx6xcJ5ZJzVe9UBlRTQV. We've got a lot of positive feedback from the kids about the videos. It might help them become more mature and responsible!

Thank you so much for this video. I have been having difficulties with my teenager. I just don't know what to do... but your advice will help I am sure.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

3 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome! Kat W, honored to be on your team.

@Ace-ke7fq

3 жыл бұрын

there are camps for defiant teens,.boot camps that work, don't give in to their crap and whining about it, do it ..

Thanks for the tips

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

You bet

Oh my God! You are sooo good. The way you explained the whole concept struck the right cord and I agree with you 100%. My daughters are almost entering the teenage and I can feel the struggle and frustration already. I firmly believe that in order to handle this phase well like a pro, the most important thing to change is the attitude, language and behaviour of the parents. Most of the time it’s not even the teenagers, it’s the parents who make the situation worse. By changing ourselves, we will win half the battle already.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

2 жыл бұрын

I made a video about that also. Watch this one: kzread.info/dash/bejne/qIqnxtyNopnflLA.html.

What drugs can I take to keep me in a positive happy mood all the time

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

A positive mindset, Lamach Williams. I don't prescribe medications and I can help with ideas on how to have a positive mindset. Get my book, Pathological Positivity. In it there is a prescription for positivity.

@jakkifrance

4 жыл бұрын

Gratitude works for me everytime ♥️

@daisyfoster7803

4 жыл бұрын

I Dunno bud, taking a walk release dopamine☺💗

@masarcooper7572

4 жыл бұрын

Lamach Williams 😂😂😂

@icanmanifest

4 жыл бұрын

Endorphins from first thing in the morning walks

I dealt with my teenager everyday and it’s a challenge. Will try to use this method on her. Will come back and watch it again for review. Specially now for online class.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Please do! That is the great thing about KZread, YooBlezz!

I’m so glad that I found this channel, I have a daughter that just turned 16 and thinks that she owns my house. It’s given me a whole lot of inspiration on how to handle some of the situations that come up.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Give her the bills and see how she feels about the responsibility, Kay 32. 16 can be fun, but challenging, good thing they don't stay there forever!

I will try to apply your steps and see how it goes. Thank you! Now I'm headed to the angry teen video u have & see how do I handle his angry outburst towards me & my daughter.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

3 жыл бұрын

You got this! Cristina, thanks for watching.

genius! After watching this I decided to feed my kids oatmeal for every meal until compliance and respect are in place. I'm already at peace 😂

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Gabriela Karl, good luck, let us know how it goes.

@franny5295

3 жыл бұрын

Legit, how'd that go lol 😆 😂 🤣

@vikagris7419

2 жыл бұрын

😂🤦👍

This guy is awesome!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Jeff Matas, glad to have you at Live On Purpose TV.

very informative learn a lot from your videos

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Puertorican / Filipina Adventures, glad to have you at the channel.

My teen invades my space and I can’t handle it and I took it to the streets lord help us all

@LiveOnPurposeTV

3 жыл бұрын

Ryan B, I hope the video is helpful.

Absolutely brilliant amazing

@LiveOnPurposeTV

2 жыл бұрын

Susan Foxwell, honored to be on your team.

Thanks a lot!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome!

thank you, this is very helpful

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

You are welcome, Krismae Dilag. Honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV.

@maimaitofi

4 жыл бұрын

@@LiveOnPurposeTV when I apply your advices, it really helps a lot and now I manage my difficulties on dealing with my kid. Thank you again.

This is coming from a teen. The best piece of advise I can give you is to prioritizing honesty over a positive relationship. I don't want to come out of my room and see my mom or dad smiling at me everyday. Teenagers lives are hell 24/7 and it feels like forced positivity even if its not intended to be. We have constant social drama, puberty, sexual tension, and if you live in the United States a fear of going to school because of school shootings. That's a fear all teens share. Just express to your teen that you understand that their world is very chaotic and scary and that you are always there for them and they can always talk to you, even if they choose not to knowing that they can is a big help. Don't always have a positive view on everything but just have an optimistic view on the problems that they and the world are facing.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

2 жыл бұрын

Ian Thomas, thank you for sharing. We need to be in this together.

@livefromtheground7274

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, so your parents weren’t teens? Would you rather they scoul at you? I pray you re read this and see how unreasonable this sounds

@ArthurMorgan18993

2 жыл бұрын

@@livefromtheground7274 You are misunderstanding what I meant. Honesty is more important than positivity, because false positives can be extremely toxic. No I don't want my parents to scoul at me I am not a sociopath I just want my parents to understand my problems more than just fake smiles, hugs, and buying me things.

I have a 17 yr old who is very disrespectful. She lost akot of her priviledges over the years because of that. She made friends with a group of kids who do pop pills, get drunk, high and constantly fight each other. She started running away. Her and her friend stole from a salon. My husband got her and turned her in. He brung her home after they released her but she put up a struggle. She rather be out because says shes free to do whatever she wants. My husband told her either she gives 100% cooperation in behaviour or she goes straight to rehab. She calmed down and listened. We did struggle with her attitude though. Last night she was so disrespectful that we ended up in a really bad argument. The next day she was ok until we asked to do laundry. She refused to do it right and was so disrespectful. She ended up leaving to my moms. It makes me feel like i failed so badly. Im also scared for her. What do you advise?

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Lupita Serrano, first I want to say that you are not a failed parent. These are her choices that she made, despite you teaching her otherwise. We have more videos for you on our Positive Parenting playlist: kzread.info/head/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU Some I recommend that you start with are: "What To Do When Your Teenager Is Out Of Control" - kzread.info/dash/bejne/X61stJmxhaTNZpM.html "Positive Parenting Strategies For The Teenage Years" - kzread.info/dash/bejne/oIJ3mbSpkbPaY9I.html "How To Deal With A Rude Disrespectful Child" - kzread.info/dash/bejne/oaOA2NynhpaslsY.html I also want to let you know that we have a free 25 minute parenting breakthrough call. If you would like to take advantage of this for more ideas specific to your situation, please go here to schedule: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall I sincerely hope things can improve with your daughter. Thanks for being at Live On Purpose TV.

Lovely video😄. It made me draw a conclusion that teaching does not take place a stage three. We only have 8 years to teach about values and characters or rather it is very minimal

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Siza Mathebula, thank you so much for being here on the channel.

I am watching those instead of my parents and that's sad. but I liked the video. great job

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

My pleasure, Sapir rose. Try watching with your parents.

I remember spending much of my teenage years (20 years ago!) being angry at my parents for not allowing me to experience the natural consequences of my actions (I.e. grounding me if I chose not to go to work one day). Thanks to your video, I can see that they were trying to control the aspects of my life that they couldn’t/shouldn’t. So helpful to see this and am gaining insights on how I can approach this with my own child. Thank you for taking the time to make these valuable videos! ☺️

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Kate Nelson, sometimes the hardest part of parenting is letting the child experience consequences. Glad you are changing things up for your child.

Dr. You’re adorable 😇 . I used two cultures to educate my teenagers works perfectly. When they don’t like something I said, well you have a mexican mom😬. I’m a nanny, I love my job❤️ .

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Norma Olvera, Use what you got. Honored to be on your team.

My child is only 2 and I’m watching this 😂 I am so terrified about what’s Gonna come

@LiveOnPurposeTV

Жыл бұрын

I totally get that, Meredith Elise. Never too soon to start learning ways to deal with teens.

Very nice help doc to understand teenagers. Parents also have to provide education. Right?

@LiveOnPurposeTV

2 жыл бұрын

Sure, parents provide opportunities for education, but loving them no matter what and even if is paramount.

Thank you.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Shireen, have you signed up yet for the Parenting Power-up course? - you can get a free pre-listen here: parentingpowerup.com DrPaul

I loveeeeeeee this! Makes me feel better 😏😀

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Great! Thank you for watching and commenting.

Thanks that was so helpful to me because I have that problem

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

You are welcome, qeen fun coollol. Thank you for trying the suggestions. It's an honor to have you at Live On Purpoe TV.

Fun?! I'm about to have a nervous breakdown

@LiveOnPurposeTV

2 жыл бұрын

S. B., I get it. Teens are difficult. Consider a membership to go.liveonpurposecentral.com. We can help with a shift in your perception that could help.

Love this .... I am raising my grandson he is 14

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

It's an honor to have someone who is willing to raise their grandson at Live On Purpose TV, Daniele M. We have more on our Positive Parenting playlist: kzread.info/head/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU

The teenager - Becomes 'hulk'.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching, Psychic Truth!.

I have a hard time knowing what to do because i basically raised myself. My parents were pretty much absent so I never know if I'm trying to be their friend or parole officer

@LiveOnPurposeTV

Жыл бұрын

Love Life, sounds lonely. I'm not sure what age you are and how present they are now. Decide what kind of relationship you want to have with them and then work toward that.

You are going to save my sanity! Thank you

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Lorry Ann, you got this. You can do it.

Sir, I understand what you’re saying, however, my teen will not control my safety. Bringing men in the house or attempting to run everything but the bills is not an option.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

2 жыл бұрын

Safety is always paramount.

Great video. I came to realize that my sweet little boy and girl are not sweet anymore. So true about enjoy while they are little. However, this is part of life and I knew it was coming. Need insight on my decision. Son really making our life difficult with attitude, not failing school but I know he can do better and refuse to make friends or participate in school activities. Transfer to private Christian school. He wants to go public school with friends…friends from middle school. The answer has been NO. We made decision that a private Christian school would be better for him and reflect our values. We are not happy with what we see in public schools, so I wanted a better environment. I know that private school is not perfect but it was our decision (the parents). Son now telling us that kids in this private school do drugs, they vape, 80% of kids do drugs. That’s why he was offered and tried ( we found out that he vaped and got in trouble) but in the public school his friends never had an issue with drugs. Also, he is feeling sad and I should be concerned with his mental health…depression. I am a nurse and he is saying all the words to get my attention, but I also think that he is full of it. I think he is trying to make me change my mind because he knows how I feel about drugs. He knows how I reacted when I found out about him and daughter vaping…I was devastated. He is willing to give up his Xbox and cellphone, straight A student and participate in school activities. So, just like that he will be my dream boy…I just chuckled when he told me that…willing to consider if he wants it that bad but I am afraid to give in and set a bad precedent. My wife already tired of listening to his complaint and attitude. Your thought?

@LiveOnPurposeTV

Жыл бұрын

What if he doesn't do what he says? What happens then? Make him accountable and responsible. Friends at this age are HUGE for kids and may be a great way for him to check his behavior in other areas. Your call.

I avoid my 17 year old but he comes looking for me in my room after a week, go figure lol

@LiveOnPurposeTV

2 жыл бұрын

Harley Page, they really do need us.

How do you have control when a couple of teens (strangers) come up to you in the street and start to be aggressive? I had a couple of teen girls come up to me while unlocking my bike, one of them started to kick my bike for no reason. I told her to stop many times staying calm but she didn't stop. I noticed they had just been to the shop to by food which she had in her hand she already started to eat and drink, so I hit her food out of her hand onto the floor to stop her fixation on damaging my bike and to show her consequence on damaging my property. Then I crossed the road to bike home when she come running after me to throw the rest of her drink at me but failed because her can was empty. I didn't turn around, I just got onto my bike and rode off. Was this the right thing to do? If I had my phone out and recorded it I could have used this to say stop or i will take this recording to the police but I didn't think of it at the time. There is no respect for the elders these days. I'm a parent of one 8 year old and I'm 45 year old.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

That is horrible, Gillina Cook. Not every teen is like that and I think you did the right thing, distract and get away to protect yourself. You could also yell out something like, You are hurting me to get attention and help if there is someone around. I think you did great!

@Justonevideoplease

4 жыл бұрын

The police! Nothing else here but police!

Can u do a video how to deal with teenagers on their phone? My son always on his phone playing games n I want to know how to dealing without controlling him.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Check out the parenting playlist. I have done two videos on cell phones, one specifically on addiction.

Yes I have a difficult teenage son. He's very defiant and he likes to talk back and he gets punished for it but he still does the same thing. If there's no reward or something in it for him to stop being that way he'll still do the same thing. Such a lazy kid too doesn't want to do anything,no school work,no chores, he claims I'm the maid. Lol ! .

@LiveOnPurposeTV

3 жыл бұрын

Margaret Nicola B, he thinks you are the maid? Wow, he is in for a rude-awakening.

@margaretbatson83

3 жыл бұрын

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Lol Yep

@Ace-ke7fq

3 жыл бұрын

boot camp girl,.send him there..

love air food shelter clothing....EVERYTHING ELSE IS NEGOTIABLE

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Nasima A, yep and even the clothing as in it doesn't have to be designer or what is popular.

@gordietatman7540

4 жыл бұрын

Ikr, ruled out choking right up front! 🤣

If you give your kids enough love they grow up with sound enough judgment

@LiveOnPurposeTV

5 жыл бұрын

Creating that attachment will go far towards raising healthy kids, Ana Lara.

@anaspringett7255

5 жыл бұрын

@@LiveOnPurposeTV yep, I agree.

I came back here to rewatch it after one year. My 13 going to be 14 yrs old boy doesn’t grow any mature yet has becoming worsened. Reading the comments below, I know I’m not the only one who is on this roller coaster ride alone. Teenage hormones confuse me, I’m so discouraged by his behavior & everything going on in our life. I wish there’s a portal that I can speed travel to another time, places where I can be a happy person again. I woke up to prepare breakfast and packed his lunch as usual today. But I didn’t want to look at his face even though he said good morning (reluctantly) to us. No conversation in the car only good bye from him when I dropped him off at school. I don’t know, I am tired, I actually don’t mind paying a bit more so that kids can stay longer in school. Having someone who is not their family members to teach them family value, moral standard are way more effective than us, their own parents.

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

pipiannz c, you might consider going to drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall. You might need some more help to find the joy in this child and learn to connect with him.

@sarahbrennan1342

4 жыл бұрын

pipiannz c I’m re watching too 🥰

Shew, thank you!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

4 жыл бұрын

Buffy Breeden, thank you for watching.

@buffy377

4 жыл бұрын

I think your viewers could benefit from a video on Mother’s with mental illnesses. I have PTSD, BPD and Fibromyalgia. I’ve came a long way since my diagnoses but still I am sometimes given a crossed look or not being communicated with and I sink either to very depressed or angry. We are both in therapy so we are putting forth the efforts to heal. Thanks again!

Well, I've watched a lot of parenting videos from a lot of channels, and have yet to find anything that references the problem I am having and how to fix it. I have an very unloving marriage. My husband has bipolar depression and he goes through very aggressive mood swings with me. He was very abusive to me in the past. He is less abusive than he was, but he is still extremely verbally abusive to me. He used to accuse me of cheating on him, and flirting, even though he admits I actually gave him no reason to believe these things. In actuality he is the one that has cheated on me. Yet, he would call me all sorts of names, cuss, scream at, and threaten me. Now that I am older, heavier, and less attractive, he rarely accuses me of cheating, but he still verbally attacks me, because I am supposedly "trash," "a useless excuse for a human," "a piece of sh**," a "cu**," a "bit**," "a loser," "worthless," a "nigg**," etc. He says these things in front of the kids too. I have tried to take the kids and separate from him in the past, but I always ended up having to go back to him before I got court ordered child support, because I was on the verge of being unable to pay rent and/or utilities. Truthfully, neither he or I can afford to support the children if we separate, because we will both have separate rents and utilities to pay. Anyway, lately, the things he says about me have rubbed off on the kids. The older kids are very disrespectful toward me and the younger children. They are not usually like that to my husband or to each other; and they are always nice to people outside our family. But, when they do something they shouldn't, such as being extremely rude to the smaller children, and I tell them they should stop and I try to reason with them as to why the way they are behaving is wrong, they just mock me, yell at me, insult me, and sometimes call me names. Then I will try to send them to their room or take away privileges (like using their cell phone, or not allowing them to play video games, or not allowing them to go to their friends' house for dinner). But, they will tell me I can't tell them what to do, because their dad is the boss and he'll take their side and let them do whatever they want. I tell them I am their mother and I will discipline them when I see fit. One of them literally told me, "If you don't like what we do, just ignore us instead of disciplining us. If parents love their kids they should let them do whatever they want, because it's better for their kids to grow up to be annoying adults than for the kids to grow up to hate them." Anytime I lecture them about something they've done wrong they tell me I'm "punishing" them. As if telling them how their inappropriate actions affect others and reasoning with them on what they could do instead, is a punishment. I am not talking about harping on a subject and nagging. I'm talking about just mentioning it to them right after the did something wrong. The other day, my older son brought my younger son to tears, because when he asked him to play with him, he told him he was an "annoying loser," and "No one likes you. Go die in a hole." I told him he had to apologize. He then told me I was a "loser," an "worthless," and "no one cares about you," and that supposedly everyone "sees you're nothing but fat, lazy, trash; because all you do is stay at home with kids," (he was talking about his two sisters that are too young to go to school). I told him he wasn't allowed to use his cell phone. He played on it as I told him this, and said he doesn't have to do what I say. Of course, his dad said he could continue to play on his phone. I told my son that I am his mother and I do have a right to tell him what to do. I told him that both myself and his father have a right to tell him what to do. I told him that even though his dad was saying he didn't have to listen to me, he knows in his heart that he does. I reminded him that when his dad tells him to do something, or not to do something, I never tell him he doesn't have to listen to him, because it's disrespectful and rude for one parent to do that to the other. I told him I expect him to show me the say respect he has toward his father, instead of a nasty attitude. Sure, I was frustrated, so I had a rude tone of voice and I raised my voice, but I wasn't calling him names or insulting him, or anything like that. Then my husband said it's his house we live in, not mine, because he has a job and I don't so what he says goes and he says the kids don't have to listen to me. SO, my son told me, "Yeah, if you don't like my attitude you can move out!" My husband has been telling the older children that I am "bullying" them any time I tell them they can't do something they want to do, or tell them to do a chore, or lecture them for something bad they did (like bullying the smaller children, or lying, or talking back when they can't go somewhere or do something they want to do). Seriously, I can tell my 8 year old to take a shower and brush his teeth, three different times over a three hour period, nd my husband will tell him, "You don't have to listen to that naggy bit**. She is just bullying you, because she doesn't like you." Then the next time I say the smallest thing to that son, such as, "Hey, can you bring me your dinner plate so I can wash it, please?" He will say something like, "Stop nagging me! I know you don't like me, but you don't have to bully me all the time!" At one point, my eight year old son's teacher contacted me and said my son was acting odd at school, because any time she got on to him in the slightest, such as saying, "You need to sit back in your seat, stop talking to your friends, and focus on learning," he will start whining ang getting very defensive. He'll say things to her like, "Why are you picking on me? You're just bullying me because you don't like me." Well, both I and his father talked to him about how he needs to mind and respect his teacher and take responsibility of his behavior instad of blaming her by saying she is picking on him. He hasn't done that at school anymore. But, he and the teenagers still act this way and say these things to me. I know it's because their dad keeps undermining me. Of course, I get angry when they act like this, and I have yelled at them and had a rude tone of voice with them when they act like this. I have called them, "brats," and "idiots," and even cussed at my husband and them (I've said something like, "shut the Fu** up! You're being an ASSHO**.") before. But, I have only cussed like that twice, over an 1 1/2- 2 year period, when they are yelling, insulting, and name calling me daily over that same period of time. But, I almost never do that; because I purposefully try to avoid doing or saying anything that makes the lies my husband keeps propagating against me to seem true. But, lately, for about 1 1/2 years, they have been acting like this, my husband and the three teenagers, and now the 8 year old, on a daily basis, over and over again. Sometimes one child will go a day or two without acting this way, but the other kids and my husband will; so everyday at least three people are acting like this toward me. I am to the point where I actually feel like I want to try to take just the two littlest kids and move out and give up on a relationship with my other kids, unless they grow up and realize their dad is brainwashing them against me. I think this is what he is trying to make me do. But, I don't want to give up on them and abandon them, because I love them, even if they don't care anything about me. He is doing this on purpose too. His mother is estranged from him and the rest of his siblings and they call her by her first name instead of mom. He admitted to me that when he was a child and teen he hated his mom nd thought she was a terrible person, and he and his siblings all told her on an almost daily basis that they didn't love her and they wanted her to leave, because their dad kept telling them she was a bad person and she didn't love them. He also slandered her, but at the time he believed the lies about his mom, and only years later did he find out they weren't true (like she supposedly cheated on the dad, over and over again, when she never did). Eventually, their mom got sick of it and left. Most of her kids have admitted to me that they know their dad tried to brainwash them against her and they treated her horribly; but, they still want nothing to do with her and hate her because she left them. So, my husband is trying to do to my kids what his dad did to him and his siblings. I don't want to leave and abandon my kids. But, my heart is breaking every day because I am being accused of being a horrible person, and everyone is treating me like trash constantly, when I really haven't done anything wrong, except for on rare occasion raising my voice (one or twice a week) or cussing (one every 6-8 months), because of the constant verbal attacks.

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5 жыл бұрын

Chante Moody, this has been going on a long time and there is probably nothing you can do to fix it without changing a few things. You can leave or you could get a job and begin saving to leave. Keep in contact with your children no matter what you decide and reach out for some help so you can get clear on what your next step should be.

Im going through hard times with my daugter .i need psychological support otherwise ill fall sick

@LiveOnPurposeTV

2 жыл бұрын

My best to you and your daughter.

Thank you! This was helpful. I am a 23 y/o male , and the ‘difficult teenager’ in my life is not my own child, but my ‘teen-aged’ kid-sister! Her father is absent, and our mother-although she does try (atleast these days)-has never had the best parenting skills. I grew up without a father myself, and I was definitely the “crash-dummy” child. But my sister told me early on that she looks up to me as a “father-figure” of sorts, and I take that role very seriously! (Even though I didn’t necessarily ask for it, I’m happy to oblige- especially if it means that my sister might have a better shot at a good life than I had!) but she’s in those years where she wants to be oppositional to EVERYTHING! It’s hard for me to balance being the “cool older brother who has her back” but also the “man of the house”, and the person who sometimes has to get onto her about things like school & chores and whatnot.. But I found this information very useful! Thank you again!

@LiveOnPurposeTV

3 жыл бұрын

Marcus TheConcept, thank you for being there for your sister, there can be tough years, but I bet you will be close as you get older.

infant, toddler, preteen, animals, adults

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3 жыл бұрын

Stefan Klassen, thank you for watching.