What are you looking for in a life partner?

@lindateuling7862

4 жыл бұрын

Somebody who likes and supports what I can and want to do. I also want to be supportive of him. We don't even need to do identical things. If we have differences, it's great when we can see it as enriching.

@franklinmc4457

4 жыл бұрын

Someone who end goal is finding a Soulmate. Someone who is open, honest, and loyal. Medium to high libido. Is open to trying new things. Has a love for people. Willing to support me in a healthy lifestyle including working out, bicycling, hiking, skiing and nutrition. Someone who will call out my bullshit when necessary :)

@marinamarina6687

4 жыл бұрын

* Someone who support me * Is caring * Will put pictures on the wall for me (this last thing makes me so embarrassed to admit but my love language is act of service)

@johndwyer3601

3 жыл бұрын

My Mum, her name was June. Dahil lola ay born mnga June. THEY TOOK HER TO HER BIRTHDAY DINNER AND I NEVER SAW HER AGAIN.

@jenniferprettyhairhudson568

2 жыл бұрын

Not in competition with me. Genuinely happy when I shine. Someone to travel with share new experience with. Someone who listens to me actually sensitive to me. Pay more attention to me more the physically

So nice video. I was 40 when I had done all these decisions about my partner. And then I went out to dance tango 3 times a week and I trusted myself to be good enough for someone. And yes, high self esteem is absolutely the key. I met the guy who wanted me and nobody else. We are happy married and have our family now! :)

1. Enlist what are your non-negotiables wants for the relationship (rejection is filtering out) and be open about that with person you meet to date. Enlist your non-negotiables traits of your partner (this list would be used to filter and as North Star to kind of person you yourself have to become). 2. Get out of your comfort zone. Experiment,learn and repeat. 3. Rationally select/filter (using the list) to the right partner before the emotions take over.

I have been married 26 years, if a man is good for a woman, he will always be there for her

I don't think many people have ever thought of setting out a plan for a partner search. This is very useful information. Thanks for sharing. (BTW, when it comes to being too "picky," I heard a lot of that in the past, but I managed to avoid three for-sure abusive relationships that way by using my own judgement).

@Wenzes

4 жыл бұрын

That‘s a very important aspect! 👍

I met my spouse when I was a Peace Corps volunteer in the Philippines. I had no thought of finding a life partner while I was there, but I made a connection with someone whom I couldn't imagine living without, so we got married. I thought I could not be with someone from a culture that was so different from my own, but I was so wrong. She enriched my life so much in ways I could have never predicted. To me, I make the best relationships when I am not looking for it. It happens naturally, unexpectedly. It's so important to be okay with being alone and just be yourself.

@Wenzes

4 жыл бұрын

"To me, I make the best relationships when I am not looking for it. It happens naturally, unexpectedly. It's so important to be okay with being alone and just be yourself." - exactly because then you are focusing on your life and whoever comes into your life either fits to it or the don't :) no need to compromise yourself...

Yeah, I used to be attracted to people who need me and whom I could save, who really at the end are a burden and don't support me, but that's also true that I didn't know exactly what I want and now I do. Thanks, Wenzes!

My fiancé is an ENTJ, so we have a hell of differences but I couldn’t dream of a better match! We both are ambitious and support each other! But I think most importantly we both understand who we are and we know it’s not easy but we really want to make things happen, we respect and care for each other and we want to become better individually and together ! I really enjoyed listening to you as you put words on the struggles I’ve been through and still am going through. I find it very hard to set boundaries and to be honest about what I want, and I don’t have your gift for words! Ahah so it takes practice! But I’m really glad I found him and that I found your channel! Inspiring! You’re amazingly beautiful inside-out ❤️

I did the same thing as you. And it failed after 3,5 years. I am in shock. Person turned out to be serious people pleaser.

This I soooo helpful, Wenzes! Thanks so much for all your videos! They are life transforming!

This video needs to be viewed by evvvvvverybody!!!!! She dropped sooooo many gems and sooooo much truth!!!! I applied this method to my current dating situation and its the best and HEALTHIEST relationship ive ever been in!

This is soooo enlightening and comforting. I've been single for a very long time. This video gave me hope. Thank you 💌

Wisdom galore, thank you!

I needed to hear this. Thank you Wenzes ⚘

@Wenzes

4 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful 😊❤️

I have been with someone who matched my list ; physically not my usual type ( neither emotionaly) . We had a 3 year relationship very fulfilling , not many fights but a part of me was screaming on the inside everytime we argued (well guess what ? you are NOT my type!) at the end he was unbearable and I had no more tolerance for his ways because the feelings came from my brain not my guts. I ended up with someone who I was crazy about on a gut and heart level ... he did not want to commit ... back to square one. lol.

You radiate happiness :) great to know you found your partner

@Wenzes

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you ☺️

Great advice!

You changed my life

Very Very Helpful...Thank You ....:)

love this video ! cute hairstyle too ! :D

Awesome video

@Wenzes

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you ☺️👍

YEEEES! THAT'S IT!!

I hope you never have to walk the road I did, 7 years ago I was at where you are right now, I am an INFJ who married to my Boyfriend of 5 years (INTP) back then. thinking I am doing the smart thing , marrying the guy who’s personality and everything matches with me but I have no feelings for... well guess what ... that feeling that i was hoping so much and waiting for it to grow bigger never turned into love, and actually after some time it turned into thirst for true connection and ... now I am where I have to decide if I am okay to live without love, and connection for the rest of my life or do I have the courage to leave my marriage at 36 ... be careful of what you preach….

I've never had friends or romantic relations where I felt I was with my equal. Ppl are evil, and seem addicted to it. The rampaging selfishness of most humans has put me off to any type of relationships. Much happier alone than with ppl who are trying to change me, or who eventually reveal their surprising mental illnesses.

so true .

Thank you that use to be me.

A Iittle excitement is good.

She is pretty on the outside and inside.

Waoo wenzes I can't wait now to take your corse and please tell me what is the price of one on one coaching with you ?🌻❤️❤️

So Wenzes, this video came out 2 years ago, and I'm so curious to know how your relationship is going now?

its so right it makes me cry like how on earth ahha

How important do you think socionics plays a role in who you choose as a partner? Ive been wondering for a while if the dual relationship is the only one which is viable for long-term relationships.

@Wenzes

4 жыл бұрын

I don’t think it‘s important at all...I used to go for duality etc. and always ended up projecting on my partner instead of taking care of these aspects of my personality myself

Can you tell which personality is your bf? 😁❤️ I had similar story when I met my current bf

oh please, try being single for 30 years. Going beyond the MBTI as an INFJ and as an astrologer myself, permit me to say: "NOBODY is COMPATIBLE"

@rovli816

Жыл бұрын

Okay

I understand and agree this approach, however, I wonder does it apply to the case that I want to find a good friend first without saying upfront what I ultimately want until we both find each other compatible to go to the next level? Is this in your opinion lack of confidence and clarity about what I want in a life partner?

I am the bad boy. Can’t do much about that.

You have a life partner good job wenzes now you need kids to complete your life get him to put a ring on that finger 😘 love you

What is the personality type of your boyfriend?

That's how we Muslims do it.Plus we add the family into it.

@aleynacabuk7352

2 жыл бұрын

I thought the same thing as I watched the video, Islamic guide on choosing life partner really focuses on preventing unnecessary early romance and allows the two to see if they are right for each other or not by communicating directly and honestly. But unfortunately most Muslim families turn it into a race or something to flex about and miss the most important basics. Then they end up with unhappy marriages, what a shame. I hope we can fix those issues with ourselves..

being an infj I think I'm unpredictable and I think life is also uncertain and unpredictable so too many expectations can also lead to a failed relationship..im single since a long time and it feels great and don't plan on anything..it seems u don't force anything in life of an infj as they r the chosen ones and sometimes universe does it's own thing in their life..also I think girls n guys r totally different as they actually r a different species altogether whether infj or not they think differently ..being guided by universe.. so many girls came into my life but it seems they were there for a reason maybe past life karma or something else and none of them worked out despite so much love n attraction..there r no coincidences in life every one you meet has some connection with your past life.. would like to know how your relationship is going now..hope it's going great..

Dating like a marriage is a two way street it's not a one way and their is no perfect guy people who raise the bar way too high you'll end up single for the rest of your life their needs to be a balance in finding a mate .

maybe asking for romantic failures should bring more comments 😇

INFP.

Pete.

What dating website did you do your personality test on?

@Wenzes

4 жыл бұрын

It was a german site since I live here but I think all internal sides like e harmony work this way aswell

@rammad27

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you@@Wenzes :)

That sounds great, but many women depend on a man to help pay the bills, so they can't go looking. They have to stay with the wrong partner for financial reasons. They can't afford to live alone to even plan the right relationship

Other than factors such as his mindset, life goals, values, principles, etc... how do you see that his mbti type play in the relationship? It is just a question out of curiosity. I know that if one works on oneself, one can develop one’s functions to become more balanced in oneself and one’s relationships with others.

@Wenzes

4 жыл бұрын

When I was younger I thought it had to be someone with my functions, but my current boyfriend is an ISTJ...so not the ‚ideal‘ partner from an MBTI standpoint- and it works amazing

@toopidipoo1153

4 жыл бұрын

Wenzes yes I see. Wow! I had met an ISTJ last year too. He was amazing and mentally stimulating. It was as if I met my soulmate. But as I was not ready to be in a relationship, I only allowed it to stay at the friendship level. But he taught me a lot. We would hang out and sometimes we did not even have to talk. He was funny, a bit arrogant, but I knew that he was very kind in the core. He is also goal oriented.

@Wenzes

4 жыл бұрын

There are a lot of factors that play a role...he has to fit into your life

@annap-g2184

2 жыл бұрын

@@toopidipoo1153 If I remember correctly, Wenzes you are an Enneagram 9, and ISTJs are often Enneagram 1 - 9s and 1s are a good match and pair often with each other.

What online dating platforms did you like best?

@Wenzes

4 жыл бұрын

I live in Germany so we have different ones here - but I think they are all build similarly - something like e harmony

I'm single . wanna mingle . wanna settle down. Who wants this too ?