Thanks for posting this! Whenever I feel triggered- I let myself feel it for 5min - no Ruminations- no Obsessing. I'm a Shifter!! :)

@LaudauteDominum-er2mr

Жыл бұрын

I'm trying to practice this. Ita hard for sure.

@shweetiepetina1563

5 ай бұрын

👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻

Thank you. All of it, this is worthy of a relisten. Lots of truth. I feel that story (stories), playing out in mind and they're just not helpful: I get angry , hunched over, having huge blanket thoughts about my eminent demise. The stories are very real and haven't been healed -- so for me it's also like, it's all too much for me to resolve and no one will get it. But... Yeah lots of things you said spoke to me. Thanks

Hi Julia! Senior Shifter Chris here! How to Be LESS Emotionally Reactive: 3 Simple Steps This one is going back to the basics what I have learned in The Shift Society. My takeaway is I am noticing that I don’t always just stop and take a breath and just have that moment of calming myself when I am triggered or having an emotional reaction to something. I want to be more mindful of that and commit myself to work on that whenever something comes up for me in a situation. Here are my notes: *Reactive statements can be all-or-nothing or overgeneralization thinking. *Think differently to get a different reaction to feel differently. *Emotional reactive statements can exaggerate or judge the situations or people. *If you already feel bad, your brain will make us feel worse. (Like to blame others or turn against ourselves and self-pity) *Instead of being over all-or-nothing or general with your comments and villainizing a person, you can just be honest and have a clean and classy conversation. 1. Take a breath: Calm down the emotional and reactive part of your brain. 2. Noticed what was coming up: Noticed the thoughts. What are you thinking? Can you dispute your thoughts about a person or situation? Are you having all-or-nothing thinking? 3. Identify what feeling it is: I'm feeling hurt because… To anyone and everyone reading this, remember you can love and accept yourself just as you are now. ❤

@juliakristinamah

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for serving our community so generously Chris.

@chrisdigitalartist

Жыл бұрын

@@juliakristinamah You're very welcome! Thank you!

I find that people often get upset with me when things don't go their way, but i avoid conflict, and try not to take responibility for other peoples feelings, so i just smile, and consider what happened to them when they were little and see their wounded inner child or ego conscienceness to be understanding but then on my own I get mad at myself and beat myself up for making mistakes...

@niki.ktronsgard8507

Жыл бұрын

Sorry thank you, I just had to make it about me for a min.

@shweetiepetina1563

5 ай бұрын

Well, I found it was useful so thank you for sharing.

All you need is 1 positive thought❤ put it in your back pocket

@juliakristinamah

Жыл бұрын

I love this!

This is insightful. I sometimes say in my head "I always", "they never", "this is bad", etc. Let's see how I catch myself and consider other perspectives.

@juliakristinamah

Жыл бұрын

give it a try - I think you'll notice a shift in how you feel.

@blondesert

Жыл бұрын

I subscribed about a week ago , I think , and everything you teach has been so helpful. Thank you.

Your topics are always interesting, & presentation delivered perfectly !!

Hey Julia, love you so much. Pease make some videos on how to fix a broken relationship/marriage due to personal anger issues and anxiety. Would be really helpful since I only trust youuu

Thank you for this video! It really helps me.

Hey Julia! I have been watching your videos for 5 months now. I feel stronger and more confident!!!! You are really great!!! Thank you so much for everything!!!❤

Thank you for this. Your videos are so helpfull❤ I am also thankfull you're videos are not interupted by any annoying advertising👍👍❤

Your videos always come at a time when it’s exactly what I need

@juliakristinamah

Жыл бұрын

wonderful! I'm so glad to hear that.

Such great information! I love using the three words to describe how you're feeling instead of saying "I'm feeling like..." Definitely going to try to remember this! Thank you so much 💕🙏💕

Ty for this

you are....so passionate!!!❤

@juliakristinamah

Жыл бұрын

I truly am about human psychology :-)

You are the best Julia!

@juliakristinamah

Жыл бұрын

You're so kind - thank you for your generous words.

Julia....Julia .....Julia!! I watch your videos almost every day!!❤ Love you so much!!! Love your accent, your voice, your way of speaking.Everything!! I like your black and white videos on KZread.They are so powerful! You are brilliant and bright, really gorgeous!!! You are doing a great job! Thanks for all!! ❤❤

Really upset when things don’t go as expected or as they should. That’s definitely me! When things don’t go as advertised I get really upset. My husband tells me life’s not perfect and things go wrong. He is right, but I can’t help getting upset when things don’t go as they are supposed to.

This is me or has been in the recent years. My brain works anger first, frustration, prayer and calmness then clarity. But I am very reactive to my partner who doesn’t show any sign of compassion or understanding. I’ve understood my ways and patterns and been doing so much work to heal yet if we meet a roadblock and I say even the littlest of things out of frustration there’s no mercy. I feel I’ve failed my self in the progress I’ve made overcoming my thoughts and belief systems from a child. I am now trying to journal everything in the hopes of reaching clarity before anger and frustration 🙏🏾 Thank you for your videos

Thanks Julia for your helpfull videoes ✌️

@juliakristinamah

Жыл бұрын

you're welcome! really glad you're here.

Thank you for today's video, Julia. It's a topic I am familiar with in that I learned it from my mother (Lord rest her soul). I'm really trying to think and feel positive about myself even trying to positive self talk myself.

@juliakristinamah

Жыл бұрын

great to hear it. how's it been going?

Wow. its a lot to unpack from this video. its great! I really needed it! my conselor challenged me on something and I feel like a total mess. I dont know whether Im coming or going. so I needed this. Thank you Julia!

@juliakristinamah

Жыл бұрын

So glad it came at the right time for you Marek.

@Marekcatholic

Жыл бұрын

@@juliakristinamah thank you!

I have this problem for sure

@juliakristinamah

Жыл бұрын

I hope you got something out of this one.

wow I had no clue you just made this vid! Divine timing

@Mjfitworld

Жыл бұрын

thank you

@juliakristinamah

Жыл бұрын

Excellent! I love it when that happens - really glad it came at the right time.

Thank you so much, JK❤

The video was very useful. 👍👍 Could have been shorter though if repetition was avoided.

🐻thank u !

💎 Gems being dropped at 15:30.

Mine is what is wrong with me? I don't say the shoulds, always, ect. anymore or try not to do so. Mine is more directed towards myself.

Bless you 🇮🇳

@juliakristinamah

Жыл бұрын

Thank you. you as well.

Omg that's so me 😒😒 I will work hard to break free

Hi, Julia.What about how we make ourselves martyrs… “my sister NEVER does the dishes. I come home on the weekends to find dishes from LAST weekend still in the sink!! If I want a clean kitchen, I have to do it. If I want it done RIGHT, I have to do it.” Then o go and complain to my friends who agree with me. So I get attention. I’m recognized as the long-suffering, responsible sister. By comparison, my sister looks like an irresponsible slob. But I recognize that it’s all so petty and unhealthy. I don’t want to feel good about myself in comparison to someone else. That’s like a false positive. “She’s not a good housekeeper, it’s not as important to her as it is to me. But she’s a much better cook than I. And I love a clean kitchen, so I guess I’ll do it.” Then that’s the story (or truth) I tell myself and others, and I feel much better (at least 75% better).

What a great video. Mindfully and intentionally. ❤

I had a difficult childhood in terms of negligence, abuse and my mother who suffered from schizophrenia and my father who didn't take care of me. Now as an adult, I'm trying to figure it out and why I react to things so intensely. My 'adoptive parents' who aren't legally my adoptive parents but carers have said I need dbt. Is this something that could help? Thank you so much for making this video as all the points you made, spoke to me ❤

19:40 - Not only Jay-Z got bars, J.K.C also got bars

@juliakristinamah

Жыл бұрын

haha! Better believe it ;-)

Pss...GREAT VID! TYTYTY

Hi Julia. I was just wondering if you could apply some of your good information to someone my age group. I'm nearly 60. I love listening to you, but I feel that the situations you give as examples (young family, career, social life etc) doesn't apply to my situations. I have health issues, live alone and don't have friends. But I still experience these highly charged emotions I've suffered with most of my life. Big thanks x

But Iam with you

This too can be habitual thinking?

I have developed this particular skill to overlook messes. But I live alone, so it's my own mess.😉

You wont solve any recurring issue if you don't tackle the cause.... Componded negative thoughts about issues happen Exactly as you say... So deal with the cause not the symptom, or you will stay in the vicous circle ... Kill the rot ..!! Lean on positive thinking and the thought ...'im ok here and now ' and you will get through Great video...as usual Keith UK

I DEFINITELY could have used this video yesterday when I legit blew up at every CNA and Nurse on the floor I was assigned to clean at the nursing home. Let's just say some very unprofessional language was used at very unprofessional levels in very unprofessional tone of voice and that's just the mild version of what took place!

@juliakristinamah

Жыл бұрын

Did you find something helpful from this one?

@axlfox4048

Жыл бұрын

@@juliakristinamah Well of course but as far as helping yesterday's situation... kinda late now lol

I ALWAYS make universal statements. 😉

So basically we can step back, look at the big picture, and not criticize myself or others. Brain, thank you, but no thanks! Heck I could write a book on the dramatic thoughts. I would be rich.😮

Sounds good. Just so you know, your gonna be whispering sweet nothings in my ear late at night into the wee hours of the morning. 😊. My brains not smart enough to know the difference, have to keep a close eye on it.

Hello everyone I've past that cycle of self pitty

Can u pls consider doing a video 4 ua parents who's kids r so enmeshed w/ culture and it's detrimental to the previously good child/mother relationship. My 27 yr old only xhild, dtr is so toxic, I walk on eggshells, I am not allowed to b near her very often because of her anxiety and hell-bent ideas of "mother, unless you deal with your issues.....or don't touch me or get in my way while I am cooking, sitting down ect" this isn't healthy and regardless of her words or thgts, how do I as the mom get resoect from my child and respond to nasty/toxic texts? My heart is broken. P.S. she believes she had a good childhood....if this was a friend or even lover,, I could diatant myself but this is my child! Help!

I’ll tell you why

And that rag is cause of the dishes in the sink 😂 how crazy is that.

@Youngquavo2

Жыл бұрын

Rage

Hi Julia I'm not 😊 upset today.

@juliakristinamah

Жыл бұрын

great to hear it!

@stevecatanio8532

Жыл бұрын

@@juliakristinamah I'm ok

@stevecatanio8532

Жыл бұрын

@@juliakristinamah I love you Julia Kristina!

@stevecatanio8532

Жыл бұрын

I love you. Julia Kristina!

What if those thoughts ARE all legitimately true! Then....what?! LOL...

Because our feelings weren't 'talked though' as children. No-one validated us - and so drama brain is the hurt child behaviour. Mature behaviour is rational, moderated.

😤

I think you give helpful tips and this was a good video but you spent a majority of it giving the same example over and over again using different situations and I think it really took away from the point you were trying to make.

I just feel like she could have gotten to the point a lot sooner.

Everybody is against you