My father always told me "It's better to be stupid for a minute than to be stupid your whole life". So when there's something you don't know, you shall ask despite of your anxiety, rather than to remain ignorant forever.

@britneymitch3711

5 жыл бұрын

A girl has no name kzread.info/dash/bejne/oaxnureLpdPKlrQ.html

@ruffalynfincalero502

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@fortnitekostyk6512

5 жыл бұрын

you father was indeed wise.

@immiemassey2060

5 жыл бұрын

your father is a wise man, thank him.

@thepragmatist5741

5 жыл бұрын

This is true. I have a feiend who asks when he doesn't knkw instead lf thinking "ill google it later" or being afraid of people thinking hes dumb. And we all admire how brave he is for it

when you risk nothing , you risk everything

@Aresous

7 жыл бұрын

Solid TL;DR.

@Lawlsworth1337

7 жыл бұрын

a paradox isn't supposed to make sense

@ava1193

6 жыл бұрын

Ahmed Elshiekh y r u even here ur too confident

@INameIsGood

6 жыл бұрын

When you don't risk, you forfeit the possibility to win. That's would be better way of putting it.

@marcd695

6 жыл бұрын

What

"Once you've accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you" - Tyrien Lannister

@soseikiharagatatsu7859

2 жыл бұрын

But how can you accept yourself if you don't even love yourself

@Diana-eh1rf

2 жыл бұрын

@@soseikiharagatatsu7859 that's a very sad but common line

@joyyan4344

2 жыл бұрын

So true. Tho those flaws are still flaws. If you have been aware of these, then it's also your opportunity to make a change. I feel like accepting who you are isn't the only thing that is encouraged, but also paying efforts and being who you wanna be :)

@soseikiharagatatsu7859

2 жыл бұрын

@@Diana-eh1rf no really I wanna know the answer to what I said

@soseikiharagatatsu7859

2 жыл бұрын

@@Diana-eh1rf if you know the answer please tell me

Confidence isn’t “I know they’ll like me”, it’s “I’m okay if they don’t”.

@epicrelius

Жыл бұрын

Just what I needed.

@bhagyashreeurao7931

Жыл бұрын

💯❤

@allftw2677

Жыл бұрын

Facts

@nikos.1644

8 ай бұрын

Powerquote!!!

@16tsering

Ай бұрын

Great🙏

this was the video equivalent of getting a hug. It was so reassuring. I have never thought of it that way and this makes me so happy.

@safardebon9720

7 жыл бұрын

This video has made my day - and then to top it off - your comment - thank you

@NightHoundd11

7 жыл бұрын

1337 thumbs up .. this comment is lit

@GreatJobTy

7 жыл бұрын

Look, if you want to be a better person,if you're looking for confidence, advantage, meaning in life, whatever it is you want I make videos on it. *Come watch my videos* simple. Easy. I make this videos easy to grasp, you just gotta come to the channel!

@techshaman7863

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly what I felt. Thanks for putting it into words

@INF1NI73

5 жыл бұрын

And hugs just fucking solve everything right?

No one has ever insulted me with such delicacy!

@ktkt9982

5 жыл бұрын

😀

@theruthmyster

4 жыл бұрын

😅

@macdul13

4 жыл бұрын

😂

@kedartewar7445

3 жыл бұрын

Haha nice one.

@soseikiharagatatsu7859

2 жыл бұрын

So all we need is to accept that we are ridiculous

This video taught me that to be truly confident is not to act confident. Just accept and love who you really are, no matter how weird people may view you.

Great video! Thank you. Here is summary: 1. We hold back from opportunities in which there is any risk of ending up looking ridiculous. In a concerted bid never to look foolish, we don't venture very far from our cocoon. 2. Everyone, however important and learned they might be, is a fool. 3. Once we learn to see ourselves as already, and by nature, foolish, it doesn't matter to us if we do one more thing that might make us look stupid.

I'm an idiot to think that everyone cares what I do 🌚

@user-is7fk7tb4w

7 жыл бұрын

Father Louis Williams Suga Adams Junior the third same

@rorschach7423

6 жыл бұрын

What a royal name you got there mate. And about that, "fake it until you make it"

@user-yw9yj7rr8e

6 жыл бұрын

me tooo

@emmy7562

6 жыл бұрын

Father Louis Williams Suga Adams Junior the third ARMY

@hala-vp1gc

6 жыл бұрын

ARMY!!

"Life is far too important to be taken seriously." - Oscar Wilde

@dudesqr

7 жыл бұрын

"Don't worry about life, you're not going to survive it anyway" -Anonymous

@arewestilldoingphrasing6490

7 жыл бұрын

Alexander Schirmer " I'm a goofy goober (rock) we're all goofy goobers(rock)" -Spongebob Squarepants

@caseyjones9621

7 жыл бұрын

loll wow are you 11 years old?

@lvvke4791

7 жыл бұрын

dudesqr XD

@jorgefunes4697

7 жыл бұрын

Oscar wilde

my whole life I've tried to always avoid failures & be perfect, because I want to be respected. but this video is prefection itself, I'm coming out of the closet now, I'm an idiot 🤣.

@Hamza-uh6oy

4 жыл бұрын

I assume we all relate.

@goodgriefwhatarelief8899

4 жыл бұрын

Hurray, I was toiling my entire life to preserve my dignity, overcome my faults, build physical strength and strength of character, to conquer my innate shyness only to find, that in the end I’m still a sore looser, idiot and buffoon.

@droppingnostopping3534

3 жыл бұрын

@Mynameisyamell I forgot about posting this comment, 92 likes wow people either support my idiotic nature or think I'm gay lol. I mean't I was coming out of my idiot closet 🤣. I'm a straight male that is currently engaged to a female, But I still appreciate your support & thank you 😂😂😂.

@droppingnostopping3534

3 жыл бұрын

@Mynameisyamell no need to apologize, Appreciate your comment. I support you too, live bravely 🤘.

@zairaguevara8360

3 жыл бұрын

Haha same this made me realize it is okay and I feel better now thank god really.

Bro his voice.... So soothing Can u read me a bedtime story

@Skatepakistan

5 жыл бұрын

thats gay

@JeMoedeerr

5 жыл бұрын

You want a bald man read you a bedtime story?

@ktkt9982

5 жыл бұрын

Agree tis a beautiful voice

@Seabee156

5 жыл бұрын

I prefer Morgan Freeman to read me a bedtime story.

@dr.house.md.3969

4 жыл бұрын

Bro. This channel is my bedtime story.

The fear of what other people think of us is one of the biggest barriers to success. But it can be overcome.

@maxcoseti

7 жыл бұрын

Jeffry C. Larson It can be overcome by propper grammar

@maxcoseti

7 жыл бұрын

Martin Wilson certaindly

@RonnieHouseJr

6 жыл бұрын

this is good!

This one might be my favorite so far, well illustrated, extremely helpful and funny as hell. I love this channel

@BlackDagestani

7 жыл бұрын

hamu Agreed! Shared a personal story on a video i made recently about how even a kid like me gained confidence. I don't think confidence is what we're after; it's self-esteem.

@odinxrk1424

7 жыл бұрын

and simple at the same time, I love it :D

@rc_3887

7 жыл бұрын

hamu really funny? You must have a really boring and shitty sense of humour

@odinxrk1424

7 жыл бұрын

it's not having a boring sense of humor, it's more you being boring and depressed so that you can't even laugh/smile at the simplest of jokes

@subatomicjulie

7 жыл бұрын

Please don't be rude :l You don't have to attack another person if you didn't think the video was funny. You could have just said so and maybe state your reasons why. Like, "Oh, I dunno, I didn't really find the the video all too funny. Probably because I have a really boring and shitty sense of humor." I'm sorry for my example. I know it's hypocritical, but I'm merely using your own words against you? It isn't too nice the other way around, is it? So let's all please be nice and respectful. Thank you ^_^

When ever i can't sleep, the school of life is my destination

@kanseidorifto2430

3 жыл бұрын

Smart move.

@pyakz2906

3 жыл бұрын

Programmer sleeps at 3am

I was an imbecile today, actually. I’m trying to learn a new language and failed at communicating at those fluent in it. It was embarrassing to realize they didn’t understand me, but I still will keep trying and learn from this mistake. I love the language too much to give up.

@Zanator1

3 жыл бұрын

For your baby. To eat.

"We don't venture very far from our cocoon" - perfect line.

@britneymitch3711

5 жыл бұрын

Charisma Academy kzread.info/dash/bejne/oaxnureLpdPKlrQ.html

@gamechep

5 жыл бұрын

I didn't notice it until you pointed it out! I did hear it, though, but I guess my brain just ignored it.

@saurabhp9480

5 жыл бұрын

Please explain this line

@gamechep

5 жыл бұрын

@@saurabhp9480 He's talking about how we *keep ourselves* into our *comfort zones* ( cocoons) and *do not bother taking risks* .

@ScilexGuitar

5 жыл бұрын

@@gamechep Same, my brain ignored it wtf

During a time in my life when I was kinda down, I was only able to get back on my feet and say, "screw this, I'm going to have fun". And I did. It was tough at first, but soon I was able to let myself go. I stopped caring about what others thought about me and began to enjoy life. Everything is fun now!

@davecrupel2817

6 жыл бұрын

Jacketeer : i just need the mo ey to do what i want to do. Without taking loans and debt. Thats all. :(

@watercownumba1542

6 жыл бұрын

Julie Ahouse Does your solution work if you have a face like a nuclear bombing site (i have a terrible acne and also some scars left from when it began)

@MunkeyyCANA

6 жыл бұрын

Sobakatron 9000 yeah, just have fun. You and everyone around you is an idiot and we all fail all the time whether it is evident or not, so just do what you wanna do! Who cares who's watching or what people think. Failure is the norm.

@teo5146

6 жыл бұрын

I should pick this advice up! Quick!

@finalosada3402

6 жыл бұрын

Good for you but be careful , caring only about youself is good for you but not for your country , western civilization is destroying itself because newer generations care about their desires before their obligations as citizens ...

Ok. I just gotta remember, *confidence is extremely sexy*

@dory6673

4 жыл бұрын

@Josip Nah it's confidence

@dory6673

4 жыл бұрын

@Josip Not really, based on my personal experiences I've seen people who aren't that much attractive really confident based on the way they talk, the way they perform, and their way of pursuing people in terms of sales and debates. I think what you're saying is purely your opinion and you shouldn't force me to it. And this is also my opinion so whether you agree or disagree with it is not my problem anymore but yours. Argument aside I respect whatever your point of view is. HAGD :)

@jamesbuckley1722

4 жыл бұрын

@Josip With that mindset, of course its gonna be that way

@tobiologbenla9650

4 жыл бұрын

It's not one or the other, it's a combination of both.

@nekogorgontheomnipurrtent4145

4 жыл бұрын

@Josip Lots of strawman arguments buddy. Eloquence doesn't make you immune to your apparent cognitive disability. Multiple women just provided you with actual information on their opinion. What they said can perfectly co-exist and doesn't necessarily contradict any of the "science" you mentioned at all which, by the way, you are only cherrypicking with confirmation bias. As women and individuals, they might be, but also aren't wholly, representative of their gender at large. So it might be wise and actually more scientific to fucking listen to an actual person of the gender you're trying to impress, and not form her opinion for her because she is entirely capable of doing so herself. Since you are not a woman, you have no authority or insight into what any given woman in front of you actually thinks, feels, or finds attractive, regardless of whatever empirical 'evidence' or psychology statistic you pull from elsewhere. If you were actually concerned with real science instead of cherrypicking incel-bait to accomodate your skewed views, you would realize that when dealing with individual cases (which is always when dealing with another human being - you know, there's a reason people are called individuals and yes that includes women) you shouldn't lump all women in the same boat based on statistics and start thinking about them as actual persons with actual emotions, opinions and preferences, just like you have yourself. Once you succeed at that then perhaps you might be able to grow into a mindset which allows you to not generalize an entire gender, and have an actual back-and-forth conversation with someone (instead of holding reactionary monologues where you constantly go against whatever your conversational partner is actually saying without even trying to consider their point of view) because you're honestly just being pitiful, bitter, and needlessly dismissive. Not very sexy qualities indeed because you're just being self-absorbed in giving in to your own prejudice, unwilling to step out of the train of thought you've grown accustomed to, which is inattentive to the other person. If you're going to confidently be a misogynistic asshole than yeah, good luck with impressing any woman with 'confidence'. In the meantime, lots of women are indeed attracted to confidence and positivity which you, entirely regardless of how you look, simply fail to provide. Dickweed.

The video essentially tells us that the key to being confident is to not fear failing. It is okay to fail, just don't be afraid to fail or get ridiculed. What is important is to back ourselves and keep trying.

Embarrassed? Try to think like this: 1. If you are feeling down about something that makes you think “What will he/she/they think of me now?” try to calm yourself down and understand that you cannot know what others are thinking. It is IMPOSSIBLE!!! There is a good chance other people don’t think about you or what you said or did that you find embarrassing AT ALL - they have probably forgotten it already! So cheer up and move on :) 2. If you are in a situation where you are trying to prove yourself and it ends up showing your weakness instead, remember the message of the video: EVERYONE is like this! We are all both strong AND weak at times, and showing your weakness is nothing bad, it is a proof that you are human and not alien (which is a good thing, assuming you don’t want to be an alien of course)! 3. If you made people laugh at you for some reason, don’t feel sad about it. Think about how at least you made them happy! And if you hate these people that laughed at you, you shouldn’t even bother, because you don’t want their approval anyway. And I bet you can find lots of stuff about them to ROFL about! 4. If someone have spoken ill of you or one of your character traits, remember that either the person was right and you can learn from the critique OR the person wasn’t right and in that case, what the hell, there’s nothing to be sad about! You shouldn’t feel embarrassed about something that isn’t true! So stay strong and keep being brave

@carolinacastelan3094

7 жыл бұрын

Bernhardina Hörnstein well explained 🌞

@carolinacastelan3094

7 жыл бұрын

Bernhardina Hörnstein this is exactly what I was saying to myself yesterday, I said something really stupid at school and I was thinking about it too much. Now I'm like, nah I don't really care 😊😅

@GrumpyStormtrooper

7 жыл бұрын

"You'll worry less about what people think of you when you realize how seldom they do" -Eleanor Roosevelt

@danilthorstensson8902

6 жыл бұрын

Yah I like this a lot! With your first point, though, I think you can go even further. Instead of thinking "they probably don't even think that about me," it's even better to not even value others' opinions in the first place. The only opinion to listen to is your own, and how you act authentically (without deceiving them and pretending) is the best you can do. Accepting that mistakes will be made, but making the conviction that you'll always tell the truth, i.e. be authentic, makes you immune from the opinions of others and allows you to improve.

@fardinrahmankhan6747

6 жыл бұрын

actually it would be cool If I was an alien.

I have to give a presentation today and this is just what I needed to hear.

@vikneshmaniam5618

7 жыл бұрын

Good luck *=)*

@jayfawn8478

7 жыл бұрын

The most scary and hated part on school is presentations... yay!

@UnDeRwOrLd06

7 жыл бұрын

Gamer 89 Good luck!! Tell us later how was it, and if it worked!!

@thebeesknees2762

7 жыл бұрын

I hope that it goes well for you!

@safardebon9720

7 жыл бұрын

Wishing you a great presentation, a few mistakes and an abundance of confidence haha fellow nitwit

"At the heart of underconfidence is a skewed picture of how dignified it is normal for a person to be" - says it all.

I like to think of it this way: normalize the idea of failure but don’t predict it

@MM-yk7iz

Жыл бұрын

I don’t understand it?

@laylaajamesss

Жыл бұрын

@@MM-yk7iz i think what they're trynna say is that.. it is totally normal for a person to fail at anything. not something new right? but that person should not think ..that i am gonna fail..this is not gonna work..just do your best and leave the rest to fate. idk i perceived it this way .hope it helps

The quality of the content on this channel is extremely impressive. The editing, choice of words and humorous enthusiasm about serious topics is well beyond anything else I've seen on KZread. The creator deserves credit for this.

@kaaamaaaniaaak

6 жыл бұрын

Oliver Dylan Alain de Botton. hes amazing.

@mryan4452

5 жыл бұрын

Well said. Excellent video. Endearing.

Someone put it in words!!!! In some way I got into this conclusion right in the beginning of this year and I started experimenting with this: "feel ridiculous? Do it. Feel afraid? Gooo. Did I just think about what others would think? Oh I've gotta do it now. I'm afraid of oral exams and the teachers are really mean and Idk enough. Still going cause who cares? What's the worst than can happen? I already know that I suck" (btw Passed all of them 💪🏻) And it gets so addiciting! for some reason it just made me more and more confident! A lot of my friends started seeing a side of me they didn't know and they praised me for it! When in fact I'm just being myself with no fears of ridiculousness. I already know 2017s gonna be life changing 👀

@carolinacastelan3094

7 жыл бұрын

PM YES! Keep growing 🌱

@isabeladiaz7012

7 жыл бұрын

PM I am also having this kind of "who cares?" mentality now... And what you say is so true. I'm more confident about what I do and who I am. And that change has been huge for me, because last year I was struggling with anxiety and overthinking everything all the time, which was emotionally draining for me. I also noticed that I'm more sociable and open to people without caring whether I like them or not.

@Alina-yw7fj

7 жыл бұрын

PM I

@wazzap500

6 жыл бұрын

PM Started with caring less... Now I'm at Nihilism. f*ck

@vroushkys.2147

6 жыл бұрын

thank you, thank you so much random dude on the internet this video also your comment really and I mean really , boost my confident level over +9000!!! I've been having so much anxiety and stress since the start of high school all the negative stuff in my head is suffocating me, but now I feel like I can conquer the world. Again thank you this means a lot to me

How truthful all your videos are and how uncannily things connect in the real world to the videos astound me. The fact that you’ve been able to see the underlying causes to everyday problems that are just there is insane. I never knew how much childhood affects daily life or how we think of ourselves affect others. It’s like your channel is magical with all the truths spilling out

I remember a quote and try to always remember it when I’m embarrassed or anxious about something it’s simply “Others opinion about you is none of your business.” It shouldn’t matter what they think about you cause you’re you and no one else will ever be like you, it’s quite amazing really.

Pretty much the conclusion of my 10 months therapy

@vikneshmaniam5618

7 жыл бұрын

Get well soon!!

@kinocchio

7 жыл бұрын

Amarina E. I need therapy

@apivlogs6230

7 жыл бұрын

I stopped going to my therapist after like 4 sessions It just didn't feel right and I got scared and uncomfortable opening up.

@Em-kg7qn

7 жыл бұрын

My therapist told me that not all people can go easily to therapy and that it is natural however it is a matter of finding a person with who you can click and find yourself comfortable talking to! Give it another shot! I also went to another before and she wasn't that great but the one I have now is really a gift and she has helped me more than I could imagine

@emiliawilson4378

7 жыл бұрын

Amarina E. Same here omg!!

This is so beautiful, charming, and comforting. I hope everyone who lacks confidence understands the message behind this video and embraces their idiocy.

@nomanabdullah8406

4 жыл бұрын

Olivia Hesson I didn’t get it

@margarethakloots5287

Жыл бұрын

Too many times, we waste a lot of time while eventually making the decision anyway!

IM UGLY AND IM PROUD! IM UGLY AND IM PROUD!

@ademolaowoeye7664

5 жыл бұрын

Sauce Man You did nothing to bring about your looks so theres nothing to be proud of. Better to be content

@gpepeitan3373

5 жыл бұрын

Ademola Owoeye idk if your joking but it’s a spongebob reference

@Brutusthecreatorofficial4862

5 жыл бұрын

"Is that what he calls it?" - Squidward 🐙

@agnosticpreacher6911

4 жыл бұрын

Love's gonna get you killed, But pride's gonna be the death of you

@reagle9315

4 жыл бұрын

@@ademolaowoeye7664 guy, no reason am like that. Na for inside SpongeBob dey talk that one

"Placing ourselves beyond mockery" - Honestly that sounds pretty nice! No but I definitely agree with everything being said here!

your voice makes me less depressed

/sighs in crippling anxiety/

@chakijzftw

7 жыл бұрын

creeper alert :(

@edublox4790

7 жыл бұрын

It takes time but if you try you can grow more comfortable in your own skin and that is where confidence comes from

@mephistophelesthesilentchi3446

7 жыл бұрын

Nachelle Baylon You'll realize that anxiety is a discomfort of oneself more than a discomfort of others.

@GajanaNigade

7 жыл бұрын

Nachelle Baylon that was so... precise. thank you!

@Londonguy1987_

7 жыл бұрын

/ sighs in crippling anxiety / paranoia / depression / no confidence / no self-esteem / no social skills /

I could binge watch The School of Life all day, I think this is one of the best genuine channels out there, it's almost a public service!

This is a topic I'm very passionate about and just did a video about it as well! I must say for me it has to be affirmations. I speak how I want to be! I eventually believe my own words (lol) and gives me a HUGE CONFIDENCE BOOST! Love your channel!

I've never felt so empowered by being degraded. Thanks

I admire the quality of your videos. It is really useful to me. This critique mix of culture, philosophy, psychology is enriching and makes sens in the evryday life. Thank you so much

@nickyfrenchdoc

7 жыл бұрын

I know right !? Imagine the kind of society we'd get if more people tuned in on this kind of content.... A world of mutual understanding, polite high-spirited dialogue, kindness , love and scientific reasoning... et pourtant, et pourtant..

@nruzette

7 жыл бұрын

The "pop" side of the school of life is also nice for this reason, according to me, it makes affordable and entertaining ideas that usually are presented without any concerns of being enjoyable. As Bukowski said "Genius might be the ability to say a profound thing in a simple way".

Lotta truth in this. And this is where the saying "just be yourself" comes in. I've noticed that when I'm the more uncensored version of myself I have a lot more fun going out. It honestly works.

Your videos feel like painful splinters being pulled out of my soul, bleeding tears but letting wounds heal. I am grateful to have found this channel.

@OdeezyBaby18

Жыл бұрын

Wow. Very powerful.

Oh my god! I feel so confident right now after watching this. Thank you 😊

@RJTroncoso

7 жыл бұрын

RJ and PAULA hahaha! I feel confident now too.

@paulinejade8019

7 жыл бұрын

RJTroncoso I feel like i'm level 9000 right now.

@annajames1397

7 жыл бұрын

RJ and PAULA me too! How crazy!!!😀

@user-is7fk7tb4w

7 жыл бұрын

Pakalolo smkr. jealous or what?

@dragon123456650

6 жыл бұрын

If that is you in your profile picture then let me tell you you're so beautiful

Good reminder that we're all in the same boat; but for those who have low self-esteem (exhibited in lack of self-confidence) negative self-talk is not a great piece of advice. Calling oneself a cretin, nitwit or otherwise is counter-productive. Try some positive affirmations in the morning, instead!

@kristoferiskvedaras4575

7 жыл бұрын

True... As a person with low self-esteem I already call myself all these words daily but it doesn't help at all..

@JeffRMuncy

7 жыл бұрын

But don't those positive affirmations increase your feeling of self importance? Leading to the fear of failure? I don't know where to draw the line as far as this video is concerned.

@bl6516

7 жыл бұрын

I'm drawing the line at self-esteem issues; if you have them, you're not likely to suffer from a feeling of self-importance - just the opposite, in fact. Generally, the message "we're all going to look like fools sometimes" is a good one; but they went a bit overboard with the reco for negative self-talk. It's just not helpful.

@maxcoseti

7 жыл бұрын

nah, I think I'll stick with self deprecating statements

@bl6516

7 жыл бұрын

Nullik Yep, the point was totally clear. My comment is merely to disagree with their last little bit of advice.

This is very liberating! Thank you for delivering such a great message. “Everyone’s an idiot.(including myself)”

I love this. People should be genuine in accepting their mistakes, and even proudly call themselves idiots! It's a uniting feeling really

Why doesn't this channel have 10 million subscribers?!?

@tylerdurden9161

7 жыл бұрын

daniel henderson because people are dumb idiots.

@pennymac16

7 жыл бұрын

Have you advertised it?

@NOVAsteamed

7 жыл бұрын

Because people prefer looking at pranks in the hood.

@TheReddaredevil223

7 жыл бұрын

All you guys have picked very poor explanations for why this channel doesn't have 10 million subscribers. The real answer: It is too new to have 10 million. They're getting 5 thousand subscribers a day. You don't hit 10 million overnight.

So in other words, don't give a shit about what other people think, cos you're not going to be able to change their thoughts, so just go for it in whatever you want to do in life.

@retardpillprovider492

4 жыл бұрын

Thank u I am too dumb to understand this vid

This is one reason why I like The School of Life. They never fail to make me feel good about myself and teach me new things. Thank you!

I've struggled with self confidence most of my life, and is by far one of my favorite takes on the subject.

@nabeelhakeem3593

3 жыл бұрын

And how has it changed you

The editing in this video is low-key groundbreaking.

@rea-lb6bu

7 жыл бұрын

yeppp

This is so true! After I accepted that I'm a hot mess, I slowly became a cool clutter. Now I got it together. Kind of... My mess warms and cools like the seasons.

I knew it! This channel looks like it wants to bum you out, but really it's reaching deep down inside and yanking the motivation out. Brilliant.

One of most reassuring videos, I ever watched..... Accept yourself as an idiot and do whst your heart tells you to do..... ❤️

Failure is the acceptable normal

@ally6193

6 жыл бұрын

love this quote, material for wallpaper

:D Thats really nice. Sir Peter Ustinov said something like: 'We are not loved for our strong characteristics, but for our flaws.' Probably, we should love ourselves for the same reason;)

Not sure if you realize the amount of love you are giving to the world through this amazing work you are gifting to us ❤️

Ive been seriously anxious at school recently, and I have very few friends and Ive been trying to push myself to make new friends (as I started this school a year ago) and this video has helped me in so many ways

Basically don't over think things

Understanding how weird we all are is great, but there should also be another video about how to come to terms with being an average idiot.

@eleonoramustafaeva1303

7 жыл бұрын

Dega Westerhoff-Mason Oh my god you could not have said it better

@leoki4804

7 жыл бұрын

Dega Westerhoff-Mason , read the book. The subtle art of not giving a fuck - Manson

@yngv1

7 жыл бұрын

I love being average! If I don't try my very very best, I'm painfully, painfully average. And that's great, being average is a great place to be. Being average keeps me humble and down to earth and makes me ambitious and terrified of failure. There's no other way to boost my own productivity than to remind myself of how average I am. Because average people have to put in work to reach their goals, they're not naturally gifted so they get nothing for free. And whenever I think I've progressed past being average, there's another - higher - goal to reach and another score to settle and I'm back to being average.

Thank you for making this video. It's calming the scream within me about how I don't worth of confidence. Thanks for the advice. I need to make peace with myself.

This is, without any doubt, the BEST motivational talk I have ever heard. Thank you!

This channel completely goes in the opposite direction of the philosophy of other motivational channels!

@halambick939

6 жыл бұрын

What do you mean ? (did you mean perhaps haha)

@rachelkarengreen99

6 жыл бұрын

@Hal - It's what the video says at the beginning, the common thing people (and motivational videos) tell you is to just push through challenges like speaking on stage (the example in the beginning) by thinking of what matters to you, maybe encouraging yourself or pumping yourself up. But this video is saying this can lead to other problems and not be a healthy response to the original problem, which is the anxiety. It's better to understand the true nature of the situation and the root of the feeling, which arises from you not wanting to make a mistake because you think that other people in your situation would not make the same mistake. But reality is that they do. Noone is perfect and everyone is a fool. So it makes little sense in being afraid of making mistakes. So say, "it's okay if I make a mistake" instead of "you can do this, you're going to rock it".

@theruthmyster

4 жыл бұрын

I love it

@----zd1od

3 жыл бұрын

And I like that, I've always valued honesty over "a beautiful lie".

This is perhaps the best video you've ever made. I guess I'll be returning back to it from time to time. Thanks for uploading it!

Nit being attached to the outcome is the greatest form of confidence. Great video.

Just thank you Alain de Botton and School of Life for this wonderful job you've been doing for us. It's an amazing content. It's making me question lots of things in my life! I'm spreading your videos for lots of friends. Everyone should see this vids!

Never have I ever been so reassured through being called an idiot, in my entire life. Into it

I think it's fantastic advice, too often do you see people unwilling to communicate or participate due to fear of embarrassment. We're all people yet we tend to place worth on a phantasmagorical image of ourselves, then in a circumstance where this image is contradicted we shame ourselves for not living up to the expectations set in our head. Simply allowing yourself to not take yourself too seriously allows you to take the stress off and grants you more freedom to express yourself honestly, then in the circumstance where you fail you have the option to laugh and learn from the experience instead of loathing it. Reminding yourself that you have an inkling of foolishness inside of you helps in appreciating the absurdity of the world, turning a hard situation into a joke that everyone's taking part in.

Wait, you're telling me that I, A BUNDLE OF MESS, AWKWARDNESS AND ANXIETY, am confident by this video's standards? Thank you!

the most cheering thing I've watched in a very long time!

Is there a transcript of this video? I need to make it into a bible

@theschooloflifetv

7 жыл бұрын

There is, always look for the transcript in the MORE section.

@debbyy0747

6 жыл бұрын

Tf

@69LOLIN

5 жыл бұрын

The School of Life I might look stupid 😊...but where is the MORE section?

@habildesilva8864

4 жыл бұрын

@@69LOLIN you're into a great start

@xiaomaytech

4 жыл бұрын

Idk why i laughed for you 🤣🤣

I liked that a lot! Earlier today I was just thinking that when you acknowledge and accept your weaknesses you just gained a strength.

This approach to building confidence is so counterintuitive. Also, 10/10 for the animation ❤️

As a perfectionist this really did make me feel better, thank you for sharing such elegant wisdom !

One of my favourite "How to" videos from this channel.

This is spot on. To go a step further, it's important that we also become intimate with the accompanying emotions. When we do experience an embarrassing moment, it's important to be mindful of our emotions at the precise moment it happens. A burning shame will come up. With practice, we learn to see that it is just an emotion. Accepting that we are inherently screw ups AND that shame will arise when we do screw up AND that it's perfectly ok is all we need to rise above our limits.

Everything discussed in this video is exactly what I needed to hear.

Thank you so much! This idea is really helpful - to be gracious and forgiving not only to other people, but to ourselves too.

Ladies and Gentlemen, this is indeed a philosophical video with a poop emoji in it. We've come far as a species.

I love this kind of animator, nice video :)

@vikneshmaniam5618

7 жыл бұрын

The best I've seen so far in this channel.

@dbartholemewfox

7 жыл бұрын

Yeah, this animation was top notch. And it had a lot of nice visual jokes too

This may be one of the greatest , warm and eyeopening video I have ever seen.

i love everything about the video, the visuals the most. i laughed so hard watching it. Thank you for videos, my personal favorite school!

You guys are making the very best videos in the world. Thank you! :)

You don't know how much I needed this video. I ended up with this great responsibility and I've been so anxious to even do anything out of fear of looking stupid.

This video genuinely makes a good point . We fear our imperfections and try to avoid them just because we think they make us look bad. As the saying goes no one is perfect and we'll always continue to do stupid things. Why worry about it? Embrace it to attain maximum confidence in oneself.

Thank you. I needed this. Having a tough day being worried for no real reason.

"They'd only be confirming what we've already accepted in our hearts." ❤️

Life would be much easier if we were all like fools - beginners, learners and always curious. Thank you for the beautiful video! 🙏🏻

Wow, have been coping with confidence issues for years but never thought about it that way, thanks The School of Life

I love the art and literary work you included and how it fits in the video

Just in time when all of my confidence is lost

This is the opposite of what I was expecting but it makes so much sense! You guys are awesome

Honestly this is the best video I think I've ever watch and has increase my confidence by 20 million times

I have multiple sclerosis I search for information on utube grateful I found this gem and u got a new sub

I think this is your most beautiful animation so far!

The older I am the more I realize how imperfect I really is. I've been chasing perfection since I was young. And here I am being a mess, stupid, lonely, and scared. Change it isn't going to be easy since this is the character I've "played" on since I was young. Charismatic person is an out of reach goal. And yet again... i'm afraid of change because of the dignity I have towards people I've talked with. I'm too afraid of other's opinion towards me...

How liberating to know in truth how everybody feels ridiculous! It's not just me! Thank you!

i love people who so obviously throw their dignity aside, because then, they truly are themselves! who are able to talk about their own flaws not in a i’m-trying-to-be-relatable way but because they’re comfortable and at peace with them. i hope to become that one day.

when we be ok with showing our worse we become good at showing our best

I love this video, it gives a positive outlook on life. We're all flawed humans underneath the perfection facade we put up, so why not embrace your flaws? I think the moral here is don't take yourself or life too seriously 😝

This Video made me smile a whole lot. I love the kind of unusual words they are and the animation is soooo on point and just beautiful and witty. 🤍

I am starting at a new school and was trying to get my confidence up so then I can get used to the school as quickly as possible this really helped