"Challenge, change & complexity", I like how she pulls this together with vulnerability.

@phillipnorris3rd

Жыл бұрын

me too

@iamnotjustintrudeau7850

Жыл бұрын

It's a wonderful talk to share DT!

@phoebec232

Жыл бұрын

Only a woman could do that DT!

@suebakernottly

Жыл бұрын

Love this so true

@gabekilljoy

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the link, and yes the 3 C's are the key...

This definitely has made me contemplate a few things in my life and I appreciate having come across Taryn's talk here. Needs to be watched through.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Woody, I am glad to appreciated coming across the talk and that it give you reason for contemplation. I am grateful you’ve invited others to watch it all the way through!

@woodychuck

2 жыл бұрын

@@dr.tarynmarie1729 wow, thanks for replying, so cool!

@viccromtron

2 жыл бұрын

Woody! thanks finally watched!

@onurgalbas

2 жыл бұрын

Me too I get this.

@woodychuck

2 жыл бұрын

@@onurgalbas cool

I'm so amazed by the fact that this woman was ever able to feel safe again, let alone work through the trauma to become a well adjusted human who wants to help others in such a personal way. Just... wow.

@tellmystory9488

Жыл бұрын

agree!

@virgillopez5889

Жыл бұрын

We often think that showing our vulnerability is a sign of weakness when actually, it's a foundational practice of resilience

@joemurray1664

Жыл бұрын

resilience is the essence of what it means to be human, and this is a really important area in this field that is so catastrophically misunderstood

@barrywells2020

Жыл бұрын

resilience and vulnerability to psychopathologies have been suggested to depend on the early background

@melindarichardson9342

Жыл бұрын

Resilience (is our ability to adapt and bounce back when things don't go as planned.

I realised I don't have to have all the answers with no need to freeze by not knowing what to do. Routine keeps me present as its too easy to get stuck in thought. Turning resistance into resilience and a 'just get on with it' self cheer works for me.

@erikashik

Жыл бұрын

As long as we aren't projecting our own experiences on others, assuming how we see life is how it actually is for others.

@dotheyrock8637

Жыл бұрын

Its a good concept for sure.

@NICHAYONTARARAK

Жыл бұрын

Definitely well said, we have different kind of resiliency. And assuming how we see life is how it is for others is fine as long as we aren't projecting our own experiences on others.

@Iam-ok7oc

Жыл бұрын

I do completely agree with you. Keeping moving will help us no matter what. Thank you.

@Adrian_Ciupe

Жыл бұрын

That was great, indeed.

This talk was pretty tough to get through but I think that ties in to the whole point she's making here. It can be tough to sit and listen to someone's trauma when we don't know how to respond. But if we face that with openness and an ability to express our own vulnerability it creates understanding, empathy and kindness. All of which we quite desperately need at this time

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

I really appreciate your perspective and how your experience feels very “meta” to having the actual experience of hearing my resilience story while I talk about the importance of sharing and bearing witness to others resilience stories! ❤️🙌🏻

“We all will face our own moments of challenge, change and complexity”. This is a truth that runs very deep

@jodikennedy8886

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks, I get it too!

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Dang! Yes. So well encapsulated!!!

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Yessss! Right? This has resonated deeply for me. I am glad to hear this spoke to you as well.

I can definitely understand how sharing your trauma makes other people feel safe to do the same thing, but in doing that, you're still being so vulnerable, there is no guarantee as to how that person will respond.

Lots of people have unbelievably heartbreaking trauma stories and most of them are people you would never expect.

Resilience will always be important, because in life there will always be setbacks.

KZread won't let me use the kind of words I want to express how I'm feeling but she is definitely the right person to be talking about resilience.

@thisislife8931

Жыл бұрын

haha, you must have impure thoughts!

@bridgettemsanders

Жыл бұрын

@@thisislife8931 just a few lol

"Vulnerability, as it turns out, instead of being the opposite of resilience, it's the cornerstone of resilience." 💯💯💯

A clear-calm mind within acceptance is what I think everybody wants. There is graciousness that comes with it, a silence of the mind with quiet focus. This speaker has this and listening to her is very calming.

It breaks my heart that so many women have a similar story that began as a child or adolescent.

I have found the generational gap to be the biggest issue when sharing resilience stories - there are certain pockets of people who no matter what will always go by "keep calm and carry on"

There is a real obsession with ‘sharing your truth’ ‘being vulnerable’- yes, it has its place and can be healing for you and the listener. But what I believe the world really needs is to be taught to LISTEN to the stories and experiences that people share. No point in talking if no one is capable of listening.

@thisislife8931

2 жыл бұрын

so true, thanks for sending to me!

@dr.tarynmarie1729

2 жыл бұрын

I love your point about both telling and listening!

Taryn is a woman who has truly looked within herself and opted for growth in the face of trauma. What a force

There is something really empowering about being honest about the instances in life that change our views, our security - instead of hiding away out of shame.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

I couldn’t agree more! Shame, unworthiness, lack, and pain all run rampant in the darkness of not sharing. Bringing them into the light allows us to shake free of their hold and see our stories and ourselves in a new light!

It really is remarkable how much resilience and vulnerability go hand in hand.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Right? I was initially surprised by this too. AND it makes total sense now.

@bagostan1898

Жыл бұрын

@@dr.tarynmarie1729 Cool, thanks for replying, thats very cool too?

I always feel a bit self-critical when I share stories about trauma, so I appreciate Taryn's perspective here.

What she talks about around the 9:00 mark is seriously knowledge that everyone should have.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Leo!!!

I love the storytelling aspect of this, I have been in companies where I didn't really know who I worked with. And then in a few cases learned about the people next to me and discovered the wealth of ideas they have based on what they went through. VERY GOOD TALK!!!!

@justinerather

2 жыл бұрын

Ha you saw it first, she is very good isn't she?

@suebakernottly

2 жыл бұрын

@@justinerather lol!

@dr.tarynmarie1729

2 жыл бұрын

Sue, thank you! Wow! I am reading through your comment now, along with you and Justine’s interchange, and it makes me giggle and feel so grateful that all this courage I mustered to tell this story and share these practices has been meaningful to you. It makes it all worth it! Thank YOU!

@suebakernottly

2 жыл бұрын

@@dr.tarynmarie1729 I loved your talk Taryn, some times I find if I just listen I learn so much, and I listened to your talk...

It takes a lot of courage and yes - vulnerability, or rather, willingness to display vulnerability - to be able to go there with some people.

It wasn't until I started going to a men's group did I realise just how important vulnerability is and the strength it can add in my day to day life. Really appreciate this one Taryn, will be sharing with my group.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Alan. I am honored that this was meaningful to you and that you plan to share with your group.

I will show this video to my brother who needs a little more resilience in life

Our perfectionist driven world means we hide the most important parts of our humanity, not only from other but also from ourselves.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

2 жыл бұрын

I could not agree more, Jeff!!! There is such a high standard to have it all together, and the pressure to be perfect is exhausting, and often detrimental, because it cuts us off from being truly real with others!

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Yes to everything you said here!

"Vulnerability is the cornerstone of resilience" Thanks Taryn something to think about.

Oh this is so good!

@emmashubert

2 жыл бұрын

Hey, thanks for sending me this talk, she is awesome!

When faced with trauma I agree most people would respond with either "fight, flight or freeze" instinctive behaviours hardwired in us.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Yes, exactly. These initial responses can save our lives. However, overtime they are not adaptive, and we get to cultivate other skills and behaviors!

Definitely can break us out of our cage but there is something to be said about knowing when to reserve your energy and when to face the things that confront us the most.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Indeed! agree!!!!

The deeper we can dig, the further we can go!

For someone who has been fighting the duality of ignoring the feelings I have on certain events - I'm quite often told to "just get over it" or "stop holding onto things" but in reality, I just need to be able to talk about stuff in order to regain my sense of self and motivation.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

2 жыл бұрын

I feel your comment so much!!! I have been exactly there - just trying to be okay, feeling like I “should” be over it, wondering what’s wrong with me that I am still not over it! In reality, yes, I need to talk about it. And I will never be fully over it. It’s what formed me and shaped me, and I get to do my best to heal!

@thisislife8931

2 жыл бұрын

eat some cement and harden up is what my dad says

I've had an experience very much like this woman though far less severe... the feeling of being so vulnerable and exposed in what is meant to be your ultimate safe place is one of the hardest things I've ever had to recover from. I can not commend this woman enough for the emotional and mental labour she must have done to get past it.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Noah. I feel seen and understood by what you shared and how my talk resonated with you. This. Is. Exactly. It. It’s taken decades to learn and grow and rehabilitate, and sometimes it comes back up for me. Thank you for being here with me in this journey!

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Thank you. Your words, empathy, and understanding mean so much to me! Yes, it’s been a difficult road, and I am grateful I get to share my journey in service of supporting others now!

Resilient people have solid goals, and a desire to achieve those goals.

I'd be interested to hear Taryn's thoughts on holding trauma in our bodies... She's certainly experienced and worked through enough of it to know.

Resilient people don't let negative thoughts derail their efforts. Instead, they consistently practice positive thinking

Resilient people have a positive image of the future. That is, they maintain a positive outlook, and envision brighter days ahead.

PTSD walks with shame and fear. Wouldn't it be great if we could easily let this go.

There's something from her that just glows strength and peace. I adore her!

I was so shocked by her story. I know that sort of thing happens all the time but I just really wasn't expecting that to be where the story went.

@tarasuppleton

Жыл бұрын

me too

I appreciate the perspective behind sharing our vulnerabilities and it would be great if we could help each other and support each other as we unravel in order to find our peace.

😬🤥😪 it's sad we have to continue to have these conversations, ensuring that people not only BELIEVE but UNDERSTAND. You would think by now with the access to information we have people would figure out what is actually important in our healing journey... Ms. Stejskal is a true angel here helping us, I just hope we listen!

Brilliant thinking! I see why she has the role and company that she does! Long gone are the days of stifling what we've been through to appear "strong".

@sudden-impact

2 жыл бұрын

Yep true G.

For me, Covid 19 provided such a valuable lesson in what it means to be on the frontline of society. Talk about resilience and vulnerability on a daily basis. Really, in this light I have no problems except for the ones I choose to hold on to.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Jax, what an incredible perspective. I really appreciate you’re looking at life now!

I hope this gives voice to the reminder that sometimes, those who go onto act the same way to others as they were acted upon, is a sign of of needing to do exactly what Taryn is saying here - talk about. Talk about it, to a professional especially.

@thisislife8931

2 жыл бұрын

good send, thanks

@dr.tarynmarie1729

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this! You perspective is so important here. We often keep our resilience stories hidden, and when we bring them into the light, we can heal and grow. Thank you 🙏, Knock it down!

You hear a lot about growing and developing resilience - both in ourselves and in children - for good reason.

"Productive perseverance" I think it's important for us to learn the difference between that and unproductive perseverance. You can only keep knocking your head against a wall for so long.

Wow... I am in shock about what this woman has experienced.

sometimes it's also important to be detached from the outcome of sharing. Not everyone is capable of responding well, not everyone has the emotional intelligence to understand that need to share. If you share without expectation, that is a powerful place to come from.

This is a powerful talk and quite heavy subject material. I have a lot of admiration for Taryn to be able to articulate all her thoughts and feelings around this without completely falling apart - regardless of whether or not you agree with her, opening up her story to be discussed like this in such a public way requires a level of courage I can't even fathom.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Lizette, thank you for your thoughtful and encouraging words. It has, indeed, been quite a path getting to embrace this story and the courage it has taken to learn to tell it in a way that I can share my resilience story with others in a way that is helpful.

I think this is going over some peoples heads. The whole point is that as you share your own story you are both stepping out of the 'vulnerability cage' and into your own sense of power through allowing yourself that vulnerability.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Suru, so succinctly said! Thank you!

She shares her story with such poise.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

It’s taken a whole boatload of healing ❤️‍🩹, courage, and practice!

I'm blown away by how brave this woman is. Amazing Taryn, just amazing.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏 Blockchain Bob. I appreciate your thoughtful response! I am deeply grateful for your response!

Yes, sometimes there is strength in not telling your WHOLE story... Though not in this instance. I think it's important for her to have told the whole story, so we have a full understanding as to why she's an authority on the subject - and an incredible one at that. Well done Taryn for all that you are and all you have achieved.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

I agree and thank you. This is a great comment and addition to this conversation!

@hubert-olszewski

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sending me this Sandy!

Loved your talk Taryn and glad I got to see it in person! Congratulations!

@dr.tarynmarie1729

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so grateful for your kind words Immanual! So glad you got to see it in person too!

Every mistake has the power to teach you something important, so look for the lesson in every situation.

Saving for when I need a reminder.

Some people have been so tangled up in their trauma for so long that if they tried to explore and share it, it would just devour them. There is a very visceral physical feeling attached to our trauma and we often don't know it's there until we prod at it

Brave and courageous how Taryn has managed to break through these obstacles and truly advocate the way she does. I appreciated her speech so very much.

In awe of people like Taryn who open their hearts so effortlessly, even after suffering something so traumatic.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, I am deeply honored 🫶🏼

Taryn, I can't even find the words to say how grateful I am to have seen your talk today. I will be looking up more of your work. Thank you

Resilience, I love that word. It helps me look for ways to stay present and connected. I've been meditating in this past year and it has changed my life for the better. This is a skill that, once honed, can be used again and again and again.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

This. Is. Amazing! Thank you for sharing!!! 😊😊😊

Quotable. Well worth the watch.

For me, everything changes at least a little bit every day. Those of us who live with vertigo know that sleep, food choices, and even the barometric pressure can cause changes in how we feel. Sometimes, minute to minute. Definitely day to day.

This is such a good talk articulated perfectly and brilliantly.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Max!!! Thank you. Your words mean the world to me. 😊🎉

It was interesting to read about the impact reliable transportation had on a patient's recovery and their sense of independence.

I'm just... amazed that this woman can be talking about these things and have so much strength and poise. I literally can not imagine how difficult it must have been for her to work through all of that, let alone come to a place where she can comfortably share in front of a room full of strangers.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Kaia. Your words mean so much to me. It has taken many years of ❤️‍🩹 healing. I am grateful to have the grace, courage, and poise to share my story now!

Living independently, she explains recovery very well based on observation.

We've been inside these cages for way too long. Good work Taryn!

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Time to break out, Alan! I feel you! I have been there!

Very well-said, Taryn.

Love this!

@dr.tarynmarie1729

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Carol! I am honored and delighted that you do!

@caroldendy851

2 жыл бұрын

@@dr.tarynmarie1729 Bless you, and thank you!

What Taryn said at the 10:00 minute was empowering and relatable. Knowing yourself and being able to connect to your intuition is hard.

Much respect Taryn, you should be incredibly proud of your achievements.

I use meditation for a deeper connection throughout my body and control of my thoughts, or lack of thought. This moves me from fear and past discomfort.

Taryn, this is brilliant. Thank you for this realness.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for these incredible words and encouragement. It means so much to me!

Self-learned resilience, as the name implies, is the resilience that you build up in yourself through concerted effort. It is the result of being aware of the opportunities for self-development and the courage to take advantage of them.

You're really onto something here Taryn, sharing your talk to a few groups I'm in! Thank you so much!

How heart breaking for you to have experienced such a violation in your own bedroom, your safe place.

What a lovely woman. I listened to her every word elegantly delivered, genuine, soft, emotionally strong and yet vulnerable.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Chantel! I am honored by your amazing words and feel encouraged by your share!

Since doing a 20 minute meditation practice twice per day for the past 6 months I feel less emotionally attached to my own drama. Between me and me, we were quite the drama queens.

I needed this today. I’m a mess of tears right now but feel so seen.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Paula, it is amazing to hear that this talk allows you to feel so seen. I am grateful!

it's an inevitable part of living that we make mistakes and occasionally fall flat on our faces. The only way to avoid this is to live a shuttered and meager existence, never trying anything new or taking a risk.

Your honest and authentic voice is inspiring.

This is a brilliant talk, will definitely be sharing as I think we can only benefit from learning how to embrace vulnerability!

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Liz B! I am honored and excited you plan to share the talk!

I love you Taryn! We need this so much as we move forward with our resilience - I think for so many it has been thought that resilience means to be hardened by your experience and to carry on - but when we allow ourselves to let these times flow in and out of us and allow ourselves to be honest and real it brings such peace and stead-fastness. Thank you so so much!

@dr.tarynmarie1729

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Angela! What came to mind for me when I was reading your comment is that in the face of challenge, we can be wood or water, flexible or rigid. I like how you pointed this learning out and brought a new perspective too!!!

Dr. Taryn Marie shares her reslience story and discusses the five things that people can do to address challenges, complexity, and change. Worth a watch.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Mark. I am absolutely delighted and honored to read your comment. Dr. Taryn

AMAZING!

@dr.tarynmarie1729

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Juni! 🙏🌈

@nataliyabelova

2 жыл бұрын

agreed, loved that you posted this!

@junipruit

2 жыл бұрын

thanks

very good this content of this video contribution friend, the explanation is absolutely good it helps me a lot with this information about this video

So very very true. Our minds carry loads of life data that can lock us in.

@janetsplace1953

2 жыл бұрын

it does for sure.

It's funny I've always considered myself to be a strong and tough person in terms of rising above the struggles I've faced... it wasn't until a couple of years ago that I realized being vulnerable is the thing that takes the most courage 💪

It's not just a cage but it's legit like festering inside of you if you don't release it. Allowing ourselves to actually feel our feels, regardless of the experience is a mighty healthy thing.

The way she breaks down what it means to be vulnerable, and how it's the cornerstone of all these wonderful qualities like resilience and authenticity is pretty amazing.

Loved your talk Taryn and glad I got to see it in person! Congratulations!"Challenge, change & complexity", I like how she pulls this together with vulnerability.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! I was so nervous before I got on stage. I still can’t believe I was able to string together a sentence let alone articulate all that!!!

Taryn, thank you for leading by example the way you are. I can't imagine how that first story of resilience would have impeded on your mind and spirit. You are testament of what you teach and I truly am so grateful for coming across this today.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

2 жыл бұрын

Tony, thank you for your encouraging comment and uplifting words. It’s a joy and an honor that you took the time to write me this message. Thank you for being a part of this resilience movement. I am so happy this story brought you a sense of gratitude when you heard it!

@dr.tarynmarie1729

2 жыл бұрын

Tony, thank you so much. Whew! Telling this whole story has been a lot to gather up the courage to share, and I have been both terrified and honored to be my own case study. I really appreciate you stopping by and leaving this comment to encourage me! The words that resonate with me are that I am a testimony to what I teach. That is what I aspire to do and be, and I am grateful that has come through to you!

Oh Taryn, you are heavent sent and a true leader in healing work!

I think the tricky thing here is that often resilience doesn't form until after we've had the traumatic incident. You may know that you're a strong individual and all of that but it's not until something awful happens and you work through it that that gets proven. It makes me wonder what the world would be like if nothing bad happened to anyone.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

This is such an interesting and insightful question. 😊

8:40- this is where this talk really begins to deliver!

@dr.tarynmarie1729

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Caitlin! I am delighted this section spoke to you!

Sometimes having a "fear of vulnerability" is a plus especially if you've experience betrayal

I'm so constantly inspired by people like this who are willing to put themselves out there and encourage others to do so. I think engaging in this kind of open and meaningful dialogue with even strangers is definitely something we as a society could get better at.

@dr.tarynmarie1729

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Hudson. This comment made my day!!?

Brilliant talk. Thank you Taryn. Sharing.

When you take care of your mind and body, you're better able to cope effectively with challenges in your life.