Own Your Behaviours, Master Your Communication, Determine Your Success | Louise Evans | TEDxGenova

This speech is a call to action. We spend about eighty percent of our day at work, the rest is at home. If we have a bad day at work we are likely to take that negativity home with us and vice versa. It is of paramount importance that we create healthy environments in the spaces that most affect our lives by giving of our best and receiving the like in return. The 5 Chairs is a powerful and systematic method which helps us master our own behaviours and manage the behaviours of others. To be a good leader is to contribute to the success and happiness of everyone, at work and at home, on a conscious level. The 5 Chairs offer 5 Choices. Which will you choose?
Behavioral Coach, Corporate Trainer, Author of ‘5 Chairs 5 Choices’. Louise Evans heads up her own organization in Florence, Italy from which she offers international leadership development, cross-cultural transitional coaching and personal development programmes for individuals and teams working in international contexts. She is English but has lived and worked in Germany, France and for the last 30 years in Italy.
Three things have always been important in her life - people, travel and the performing arts - all three of which she combines in her daily work. Having travelled to seven-five countries and experienced culture shock three times, Louise brings multiple perspectives to the present moment to help people connect across their differences. Louise believes deeply in people’s ability to grow and transform. What she values most is helping people strengthen their self-awareness and their understanding of others so that they bring their best selves into the world in every situation.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

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  • @louiseevans3534
    @louiseevans35346 жыл бұрын

    Thank you all so much for your appreciative comments. It really warms my heart deeply.

  • @rozzieonodera1560

    @rozzieonodera1560

    6 жыл бұрын

    Louise Evans .....So beautifully explained. You are one of the most articulate teachers I have ever listened to!

  • @lauransengiyumva5524

    @lauransengiyumva5524

    6 жыл бұрын

    The colors match exactly the chakras philosphy... blue:expression,words , yellow: self-esteem, etc... wonderful...

  • @winterbaby9208

    @winterbaby9208

    5 жыл бұрын

    I absolutely loved your presentation. The content, the pace and the clarity of your speech and ideas. While listening I was thinking if I put a comment would Louise see it? And then I found you! Thank you 🙏🏻

  • @gemelse2674

    @gemelse2674

    5 жыл бұрын

    Louise Evans thank you I have just listened to this before work you are a great teacher. I am on a journey myself learning how to do things differently in life and a big one for me is being aware of how I behave and realising I can change that. Thank you x

  • @simojandie2904

    @simojandie2904

    5 жыл бұрын

    You're quite unique. Every TED Talk is great. But there is something particularly ingenious about yours. I will study this talk and teach it someday.

  • @sabrinacalabrese3410
    @sabrinacalabrese3410 Жыл бұрын

    "Do you want to be in a relationship with that person or do you want to be right?", very powerful question!

  • @LifewithNono

    @LifewithNono

    Жыл бұрын

    @@wingit7335 well her mom was not does people.

  • @tylerdurden7764

    @tylerdurden7764

    Жыл бұрын

    You are gonna regret that

  • @Salsero12

    @Salsero12

    Жыл бұрын

    @@wingit7335 her mom exaggerating is not a big deal

  • @terriepehrson3103

    @terriepehrson3103

    Жыл бұрын

    I know, right!! Well put. 👍😃

  • @Michelle721014

    @Michelle721014

    Жыл бұрын

    I want to be right. I have self love which is doing the right thing despite how hard it is.

  • @RamnathDixit
    @RamnathDixit Жыл бұрын

    Arguably one of the finest TED talks one could experience. Louise Evans subtly manages to make us reflect while helping us navigate the complex world of interpersonal communication. Simply outstanding!

  • @shewayneshbeyens0168

    @shewayneshbeyens0168

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your amazing in saying very interesting 👌👌👌👌

  • @navoditashrivastava6469

    @navoditashrivastava6469

    Жыл бұрын

    True

  • @ebrelus7687

    @ebrelus7687

    Жыл бұрын

    Subtle world of lack of any communication and not knowing own children...

  • @fredjones554
    @fredjones554 Жыл бұрын

    Attack - Judgement of others, correct others Self doubt - Judgement of ourselves, play the victim Wait - for evidence, be present, curiosity Detect - My needs, self aware, create boundaries, assertiveness Connect - The others needs, compassion, understanding, empathy

  • @bjuliene

    @bjuliene

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much!

  • @learnenglishwithpallavianand

    @learnenglishwithpallavianand

    7 күн бұрын

    Very well summarized! 👍

  • @louiseevans3534
    @louiseevans35344 жыл бұрын

    I am so grateful to all for you for your feedback. It makes me feel both humble and useful knowing that the Chairs can in some way bring a shift into your lives and contribute to your happiness. Thank you s much for your appreciation Louise xxx

  • @astoryofafrica

    @astoryofafrica

    4 жыл бұрын

    Such a beautiful talk. I would like use this for myself as well as communicate this through film. You are a lady to look up to. I would be honored to meet you come visit Kenya, Africa and watch the giraffes! Will watch this video twice right now, and many times in the future.

  • @mogulmade

    @mogulmade

    4 жыл бұрын

    @louise do you have books?

  • @kijalaful

    @kijalaful

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Louise, I have this morning used a stinging judgemental comment on my sister and afterwards as I watched this presentation, I saw how terrible I can be to others. I know I can be a better person and I will work on it. Thanks you so much for impacting my life!

  • @kh-ze5ub

    @kh-ze5ub

    4 жыл бұрын

    I wish I had your chairs with me at all times.

  • @sleeepchen5630

    @sleeepchen5630

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing this! You have made something which seems so complicated crystal clear. I'm really moved and touched by what you said.Thank you!

  • @Krystal620
    @Krystal6203 жыл бұрын

    “The more we judge others the less time we have to love them..” brilliant

  • @deehope9477

    @deehope9477

    2 жыл бұрын

    Lol said comment!!

  • @musiclava9621

    @musiclava9621

    2 жыл бұрын

    I believe Mother Theresa said thatxoxo

  • @kingquinn3897

    @kingquinn3897

    9 ай бұрын

    "The more we judge others the safer we are".

  • @sincerelym11
    @sincerelym11 Жыл бұрын

    Oh I wished I would’ve found this earlier, I’ve messed up so many opportunities by overreacting 🙄. I’m definitely learning, thank you, this was extremely helpful.

  • @gabrielthewarrior7144

    @gabrielthewarrior7144

    Жыл бұрын

    I literally mess up all my conversations with my girlfriend because of how I am and it makes her feel less in love with me because of my actions and this like really is an eye opener for me on my actions my attitude and how I communicate with her

  • @amandlakhumalo4728

    @amandlakhumalo4728

    Жыл бұрын

    You and me both. There’s another TED talk about how we are not at the mercy of our emotions. It helped me, it might help you too

  • @cheruiyotkirimigodfrey6178

    @cheruiyotkirimigodfrey6178

    Жыл бұрын

    I've been a victim too and it really affected my relationship. I hope I'll be better in my next relationship

  • @julie-annathao6275
    @julie-annathao62752 жыл бұрын

    " everybody is going through something " and " they have their reasons " are my life mottos . Everyone is doing what they do . don't judge - wait and see why they are doing it . I whole heartedly live by this and it makes you live life with little worries and it makes you stop and realize you shouldn't be judging one based on what they look or what they are doing because you don't know why

  • @davidsmith-oi3zg

    @davidsmith-oi3zg

    11 ай бұрын

    Hello Julie how are you doing today i hope everything is fine with you?

  • @vivianzhao3090
    @vivianzhao30903 жыл бұрын

    "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." Victor Frankl

  • @rupalshah1466

    @rupalshah1466

    3 жыл бұрын

    👍

  • @wafaanoureddine2542

    @wafaanoureddine2542

    3 жыл бұрын

    👍

  • @juveriasweet5354

    @juveriasweet5354

    2 жыл бұрын

    That's merely a few seconds to choose the right response. Sometimes it's people pleasing and not being yourself..

  • @apthra2016

    @apthra2016

    2 жыл бұрын

    One question

  • @vivianzhao3090

    @vivianzhao3090

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@juveriasweet5354 yeah, it really takes practice to set the boundary, and respond in way that being ture to self and not not offend others

  • @lacilangston2633
    @lacilangston26333 жыл бұрын

    1. Attack, misbehave,blame,complian,gossip, punish,judge. 2. vulnerable, judge ourselves, low self esteem, feeling of rejection, self doubt , fear of failing and disappointment, feeling of a victim like no body cares or loves me 3. Being vigilant, being mindfull, observant,we stop, pause, wait and be conscious and WAIT (What Am I Thinking ). Observe the person and wonder why is she behaving in such a way 4. Detect our own behaviour, being self aware, we know who we r, we know what we want, we know where we r going, we r not afraid to speak our truth but we know our boundaries, we r powerfull, here we grow we r free and become our full power,we become assertive but not aggressive. At no1 we lose our power 5. Display of empathy, compassion,understanding, putting our egos in the back seat, listen to people and care for them, embrace other reality, other perspective, other diversity, being tolerant and what is important for the person sitting before us and to stay connected

  • @susanllequis3832

    @susanllequis3832

    3 жыл бұрын

    How wonderful to listen and learn without. Putdowns. Elegant and intelligent,Thank you..

  • @masangoiyanda3123

    @masangoiyanda3123

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hey, how are you doing today dear

  • @afeedashukoor5348

    @afeedashukoor5348

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thankyou

  • @bjacob9998

    @bjacob9998

    2 жыл бұрын

    Truth is many in the country were beat down. Then comes the behavior modification stage. Often there is a responsible person and a good person will address their bad behavior and not victim blame the one they provoked or triggered.

  • @temimegraham1904

    @temimegraham1904

    2 жыл бұрын

    U are the best ! Thank you 🙏

  • @mbrown5440
    @mbrown5440 Жыл бұрын

    "I don't like that man, I must get to know him." Many times, I've misjudged others...always happy to learn that I was wrong. Deeply, profound quote! Great video! Thank you for sharing.

  • @marynussio9880
    @marynussio98808 ай бұрын

    I am a middle school teacher and on Wednesdays I play a video to help the students learn a skill. Sometimes it is a learning skill, organizing skill, and once in a while a life skill. They take notes, rate the presentation and speaker, but also learn something. My eighth graders will watch this on their first Wednesday back to school. Thank you for an insightful presentation.

  • @brynneisafaerie1762
    @brynneisafaerie17626 жыл бұрын

    The highest form of intelligence is the ability to observe ourselves without judging

  • @walterpaton8698

    @walterpaton8698

    5 жыл бұрын

    Exactly. The mind is a terrible thing to listen to.

  • @noneofyourbusiness8278

    @noneofyourbusiness8278

    5 жыл бұрын

    But if you vent to a psychiatrist on this as a patient everything you say should be in private. Not to be shared by everyone outside those office visits and triangulated.

  • @spaceoddity2485

    @spaceoddity2485

    4 жыл бұрын

    Nope 👎. The highest form of intelligence is to be able to get in the head of other people. Especially across age ranges ...

  • @shailzasharma7513

    @shailzasharma7513

    4 жыл бұрын

    Jiddu K

  • @idanwillenchik3050

    @idanwillenchik3050

    4 жыл бұрын

    Judgement is good.Judgement helps you choose right from wrong.Overjudgement may be too much.not in my opinion.

  • @cjoviac
    @cjoviac6 жыл бұрын

    This talk just prevented a major confrontation with a teammate at work. I was planning the 'attack' tomorrow morning at work...but on the way home today (in traffic) I randomly selected this video from all the choices my KZread page presented. And now...I'm suddenly in 'giraffe' mode. THANK YOU Louise. Tomorrow will be a good day!

  • @louiseevans3534

    @louiseevans3534

    6 жыл бұрын

    So happy it helped you xx

  • @violettewambua1390

    @violettewambua1390

    5 жыл бұрын

    Joyousj 🤣🤣🤣

  • @aleksandar9571

    @aleksandar9571

    5 жыл бұрын

    How was your day in the end, my friend? Did it went well?

  • @Mel0Cat

    @Mel0Cat

    5 жыл бұрын

    Aleksandar I would like to know as well

  • @MienaMini_

    @MienaMini_

    5 жыл бұрын

    me too 🤭

  • @krislarsh7796
    @krislarsh77962 жыл бұрын

    As a teacher working on becoming a future principal this video is probably one of the most meaningful videos I have seen. I think as a teacher, we are not just just educators, but leaders, mentors, and facilitators of life. Which chair a teachers sits in can really impact the outcome of student success. Just imagine the impact of the teachers if he or she sits in the red chair all day long?

  • @bizunehnigussie8795

    @bizunehnigussie8795

    8 ай бұрын

    💯 Agreed

  • @Renee11123
    @Renee111232 жыл бұрын

    I'm deeply moved by your speech. I'm in the process of being more aware of my behavior, thoughts, and communication with myself and others and this talk sparked something in me that I was trying to figure out this whole time. Thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart ❤. Thank you for helping me start the new year on the right foot.

  • @stanleyatalakpa9995

    @stanleyatalakpa9995

    Жыл бұрын

    Please do add your left foot so you can stand balance

  • @wakeupwithmara7860

    @wakeupwithmara7860

    Жыл бұрын

    @@stanleyatalakpa9995 😂😂😂

  • @rhythmforlife7058
    @rhythmforlife70582 жыл бұрын

    Dear everyone who reads this, we don't know each other but I wish you all the best in life and happiness :) ❤️

  • @obarnwon

    @obarnwon

    2 жыл бұрын

    Wish you the same dear!

  • @rhythmforlife7058

    @rhythmforlife7058

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much.....

  • @obarnwon

    @obarnwon

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@rhythmforlife7058 you are welcome

  • @yve4889

    @yve4889

    2 жыл бұрын

    Same to you💖

  • @kianadrummond7329

    @kianadrummond7329

    2 жыл бұрын

    Your a beautiful soul

  • @MarkFeaGuitar
    @MarkFeaGuitar7 жыл бұрын

    I watch a lot of TED talks and have to say, this is one of the best presentations I have seen... well thought out, well paced and delivered.... absolutely fantastic. Thank you Louise...

  • @pavlamuzikova1141

    @pavlamuzikova1141

    6 жыл бұрын

    I completely agree :)

  • @brittanyluke1207

    @brittanyluke1207

    6 жыл бұрын

    I knew someone shared my sentiments. Bravo Louise.

  • @raghadhabash1370

    @raghadhabash1370

    6 жыл бұрын

    MFGuitarStuff Couldn't agree more!

  • @rupeshbora

    @rupeshbora

    6 жыл бұрын

    MFGuitarStuff completely echo wit u...!

  • @user-dp4yx9lz6t

    @user-dp4yx9lz6t

    6 жыл бұрын

    Thanks to the easy and clear introduction

  • @saumyachaudhary5527
    @saumyachaudhary5527 Жыл бұрын

    This has been the most easy and beautifully expressed way of different actions and perceptives of how a person behaves/reacts, be it ourselves or others. Amazing🙌

  • @dbguru500
    @dbguru5002 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Louise! You have very successfully, condensed all the self-help books into 20 minutes! I cannot thank you enough. You have changed my life, and many others, as these comments will attest. This is one reason the TED talks are so powerful. Brilliant people sharing wonderful ideas in 20 minutes. God bless you Louise take care and be safe.❤️❤️❤️

  • @strongfaith94
    @strongfaith945 жыл бұрын

    Should we talk about how this Lady is beautiful and elegant!.

  • @astoryofafrica

    @astoryofafrica

    4 жыл бұрын

    Love this about her so much!!

  • @ajaoadejoke8931

    @ajaoadejoke8931

    4 жыл бұрын

    I thought no one was going to mention that. She is elegant, composed and has such a beautiful spirit. She exudes love.

  • @DavidLopez-gn3bi

    @DavidLopez-gn3bi

    4 жыл бұрын

    Muy Bonita,

  • @Annie261.

    @Annie261.

    4 жыл бұрын

    Class!

  • @tiffanysar-lecluze5679

    @tiffanysar-lecluze5679

    4 жыл бұрын

    I wanna be like her when I grow old!

  • @lesia4703
    @lesia47032 жыл бұрын

    It was incredible, Louise! You've gethered so much wisdom to share with everyone! And every word you say is so meaningful. I'll rewatch it over and over again, not to miss a single word. Thank you so much!

  • @salim.3761
    @salim.37614 күн бұрын

    Every time I have a meeting, interview, or presentation, I go here, and I watch or read the book 5 chairs 5 choices.. who does the same ? Since 6 years ! Thank you, Louise 😊❤

  • @sanjanapathak433
    @sanjanapathak4334 жыл бұрын

    One of the most brilliant talks I've seen on TED

  • @takudzwajerrymaponga7173

    @takudzwajerrymaponga7173

    3 жыл бұрын

    true

  • @camoimusgrove146

    @camoimusgrove146

    3 жыл бұрын

    I have listened countless times

  • @winterzhi7314

    @winterzhi7314

    3 жыл бұрын

    Listen "own your face" too. Amazing

  • @annbooth9552

    @annbooth9552

    3 жыл бұрын

    Sisterwives

  • @alicelafleche5999

    @alicelafleche5999

    2 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely

  • @zohakarimi2983
    @zohakarimi29833 жыл бұрын

    “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”

  • @peggyhavard1546

    @peggyhavard1546

    3 жыл бұрын

    AMEN🙏🏻

  • @deehope9477

    @deehope9477

    2 жыл бұрын

    Lol knowing God as well.....!!

  • @simplyk8767

    @simplyk8767

    2 жыл бұрын

    Knowing God is the beginning of wisdom

  • @gideonmendoza2067

    @gideonmendoza2067

    2 жыл бұрын

    Fear of the Lord is the Beginning of Wisdom

  • @kaylee8869

    @kaylee8869

    2 жыл бұрын

    So. True.

  • @frustratednoname
    @frustratednoname2 жыл бұрын

    Brilliant. As someone who's rushed through life, always in a hurry and often feeling like a "victim" of having too much on my plate, it's a gift to be able to pause. Think. Detect and perhaps act out of intention rather than impulse. This life is a journey and even someone like me, decades in, can learn new behaviours. I recently learned that I very much run off a script in my head that has been programmed over the years, but can be rewritten. Thank you for this. You are wonderful.

  • @digitalpatricia6125
    @digitalpatricia612511 ай бұрын

    If we all learned this at school when kids, it would have saved us from so many heartbreaks, heartaches, misstakes, lesson learned and helped us to connect and learn about each others. I wish I knew this long time ago. But I will always go back and watch this. Thank you!! this was amazing and one of the top ted talks so far. I get teared up....I wish I could turn back time.

  • @amitamehra9529

    @amitamehra9529

    10 ай бұрын

    Its never too late

  • @villapoggiodigaville
    @villapoggiodigaville2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you all so much for your appreciation of The 5 Chairs. If they can help you in any way with your daily lives they are fulfilling their mission :-)

  • @kindnessmaku5969

    @kindnessmaku5969

    2 жыл бұрын

    You did absolutely great in the explanation loved it

  • @kristin1459

    @kristin1459

    2 жыл бұрын

    I just finished watching your TedTalk....changed my life....I am 48 and in the midst of many difficulties as are so many people in the WORLD...this SPOKE TO ME....I feel different...I feel empowered and hopeful. Wow. Brilliant.

  • @kristin1459

    @kristin1459

    2 жыл бұрын

    honestly this was more informative, practical and life-changing than graduate school in Psychology :)

  • @HealthiaMedica

    @HealthiaMedica

    2 жыл бұрын

    How can I connect with you Louis ? Im guilty as charged, I think I'm more on the red chair. I love your analysis and background. Would love to learn more

  • @michellebiland5163

    @michellebiland5163

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Louise. I have shared this link with many friends already. 🌻🌻

  • @renstarhurst3302
    @renstarhurst33023 жыл бұрын

    Who is watching this 5/2020 we need this more than ever today.

  • @karthiksanugula8537

    @karthiksanugula8537

    3 жыл бұрын

    I have been watching this video since 2017, when situations around me make aggressive. Yes, you are right we need this more than every now and then

  • @thefashionskunk

    @thefashionskunk

    3 жыл бұрын

    Me, watching NOW! 😊

  • @bridgetmary9867

    @bridgetmary9867

    3 жыл бұрын

    Here

  • @guppyfamily5533

    @guppyfamily5533

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thought provoking

  • @Mirelleinternational1

    @Mirelleinternational1

    3 жыл бұрын

    RenStar Hurst 🙋🏾‍♀️

  • @jessicagalusha6987
    @jessicagalusha69872 жыл бұрын

    I just was "called out" as having adhd. I have watched your video multiple times. I have sat in every chair. Sometimes all in one day. I thank you for the knowledge and the perspective to see and understand things differently.

  • @wood7772000

    @wood7772000

    2 жыл бұрын

    Me too… In one day 😳

  • @lauraedens9830
    @lauraedens98302 жыл бұрын

    This just changed the entire course of my Thought Life, and I realize it has the power to change my Entire Life! “Do you want to be in a relationship with your mother, (insert any name) or do you want to be right?” Thank you!!!!!

  • @jeanmarkbadibanga8689
    @jeanmarkbadibanga86892 жыл бұрын

    80% of your success is linked to how you communicate.

  • @kingquinn3897

    @kingquinn3897

    9 ай бұрын

    I shout myself to the top!

  • @patriciamartin9515
    @patriciamartin95154 жыл бұрын

    This is such a good talk: it makes me realise that I've been sitting way too much in the red chair lately, it's time to change... one choice at a time. Thank you so much for enlightening me, this is really a life changing speech.

  • @anja1789

    @anja1789

    3 жыл бұрын

    I hope you're not at the red chair anymore

  • @utewavkdo8515

    @utewavkdo8515

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you all so much for your appreciative comments. It really warms my heart deeply.

  • @geraldoalvesdelimalima2071

    @geraldoalvesdelimalima2071

    3 жыл бұрын

    Lula

  • @elvismolefimolf

    @elvismolefimolf

    3 жыл бұрын

    Very powerful

  • @andybrown8613

    @andybrown8613

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi beautiful. HiI would loves us to be friends and also love to know more about you...what do you say?

  • @hunpiya
    @hunpiya Жыл бұрын

    Such a timely talk for me. Yesterday I wrote, “I will be better”today, I am watching this. Thank you Louise. I will definitely be using all of these

  • @dishonb188
    @dishonb1886 ай бұрын

    This was one of the best ted talks I’ve ever seen. Exceptionally articulate, well informed, and eye opening.

  • @louiseevans4882
    @louiseevans48826 жыл бұрын

    Thank you all so much for your appreciative comments

  • @mariajaffary2697

    @mariajaffary2697

    5 жыл бұрын

    Really Magical and life changing words.hats off to you

  • @sarnabchakraborty1323

    @sarnabchakraborty1323

    5 жыл бұрын

    Great mam.

  • @Neldidellavittoria

    @Neldidellavittoria

    5 жыл бұрын

    The best Ted Talk I've listened to in a very long time. Well thought out and well presented. And very meaningful to me at this moment in my life, when I'm re-thinking a lot about myself, my life, and my relationship with the people around me. Thank you very much indeed Ms Evans.

  • @ogarelizabeth8084

    @ogarelizabeth8084

    5 жыл бұрын

    Louise Evans Thanks so much Louise. You've made my night

  • @mrinalgadhade9304

    @mrinalgadhade9304

    5 жыл бұрын

    Louise Evans -that’s something I’m gonna remember all my life. Thank you ❤️

  • @DBoyuh
    @DBoyuh6 жыл бұрын

    Awesome talk !!! It reminds me the quote: There are only three things you need let go of Judging, Controlling, and Being right. Release these three and you will have the whole mind and twinkly heart of a child. ~Hugh Prather

  • @louiseevans4882

    @louiseevans4882

    6 жыл бұрын

    I love that quote Oyun. Thanks

  • @dsstudio76

    @dsstudio76

    5 жыл бұрын

    Perfect! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  • @elegantfifi

    @elegantfifi

    5 жыл бұрын

    Exceptional video x

  • @zakiplayzhashimi8802

    @zakiplayzhashimi8802

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@louiseevans4882 you are the best teacher !! i studay english today.very uesfull. tank you very much

  • @ahmedghazwan4747

    @ahmedghazwan4747

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for the beautiful words.

  • @cheruiyotkirimigodfrey6178
    @cheruiyotkirimigodfrey6178 Жыл бұрын

    Honestly, this is an eye opener for me. I've spent most of my time being a jackal to attack, judge and later on have self doubt. Thank you Louise Evans

  • @jaypandit915
    @jaypandit9158 ай бұрын

    12:34 : it shows how even if we have a slip of tongue, if we continue with flow without getting anxious about it, we can go on with our work

  • @yutisima
    @yutisima3 жыл бұрын

    7:01 // The Red Chair - The Jackal: Attack, Misbehave, Blame, Judge. "The more we judge people the less time we have to love them." - Mother Teressa. 9:34 // The Yellow Chair - The Hedgehog: Self-Doubt, Fear, Vulnerable. "The highest form of intelligence is the ability to observe ourselves without judging." - Jiddu Krishnamurti. 11:06 // The Green Chair - The Meerkat: Wait, Patience, Mindful, Pause, Observe. "You have your way. I have my way. The only right way... it does not exist." - Fredrich Nietzche. 12:39 // The Blue Chair - The Dolphin: Detect, Self-Awarness, Powerful but Set Boundaries to Ourselves, Growth, Assertive but not Agressive. "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom." - Arsitotle. 13:54 // The Purple Chair - The Giraffe: Connect, Vision, Empathy, Tolerant, Understanding, Listen to People. "I don't like that man, I must get to know him better." - Lincoln.

  • @etttie1

    @etttie1

    3 жыл бұрын

    👍

  • @liammoreland2972

    @liammoreland2972

    3 жыл бұрын

    Saved

  • @rosalissa260

    @rosalissa260

    3 жыл бұрын

    Wonderful thought

  • @GarethKing1

    @GarethKing1

    3 жыл бұрын

    That is exactly the summary I wished the talk had. Thank you kindly.

  • @shanetterussell2451

    @shanetterussell2451

    3 жыл бұрын

    À

  • @definitelymaybe_cath
    @definitelymaybe_cath3 жыл бұрын

    One of my favorite Ted talk :) I always keep on re-watching this whenever I feel like I'm losing mindful self and I'm drowning in my emotions.

  • @Harith5

    @Harith5

    3 жыл бұрын

    💪🏻💪🏻🌻💚

  • @Karlacook89
    @Karlacook8910 ай бұрын

    This brought so much healing to my heart. Thank you Lord Jesus for placing this video in my path ❤

  • @hreina999
    @hreina9996 күн бұрын

    I showed this video to my creative thinking class and they made great connections between Six Thinking Hats and the chairs/animals/behaviors. My point was to help them create their own lenses as they go through training. Emotional and social skills are very important and they are still undervalued. I thank Louise for her approach and contribution.

  • @cebolla3922
    @cebolla39224 жыл бұрын

    her voice is so goddamn calming and this TED talk is so important

  • @maureen95
    @maureen957 жыл бұрын

    We often talk about shifting behaviors but Louise's talk helps us to pragmatically feel and do exactly this. Even more so, we learn to stop the stories we tell ourselves which are fabricated in our mind until we open the communication. Great tool: W.A.I.T. - What am I thinking? What am I telling myself? Tweeting, texting and tech are with us forever. How can we be so connected yet so communicative. Louise gives us the answer. Thank you.

  • @heathersaydyk4891

    @heathersaydyk4891

    6 жыл бұрын

    Maureen Rabotin is

  • @ericmoore1173

    @ericmoore1173

    2 жыл бұрын

    How are you doing today my name is Eric Moore

  • @AlexBeldi
    @AlexBeldi Жыл бұрын

    So much wisdom explained in simple words so everybody can understand. Many Teachings for all in this video! Thanks Louise

  • @danielamicallef9592
    @danielamicallef95922 жыл бұрын

    Dear Louise, what a gift. You have made a complex subject so simple, even a child can understand. Not being constantly on the defensive does help us grow into leaders worthy of the name. Thank you and Merry Christmas.🎅🎄

  • @abr2648
    @abr26483 жыл бұрын

    "Stepping into someone's else shoes and understand them is a great act of generosity"❤️

  • @peggyhavard1546

    @peggyhavard1546

    3 жыл бұрын

    AMEN🙏🏻AMEN🙏🏻AMEN🙏🏻

  • @sammy_lynn
    @sammy_lynn6 жыл бұрын

    This just made me a better person and helped me recognize where I sit most of the time...I'll be changing seats now lol

  • @mazey2896

    @mazey2896

    4 жыл бұрын

    Been playing musical chairs with myself for years now how can i just sit in 1 ?

  • @neemakaegele1174

    @neemakaegele1174

    4 жыл бұрын

    Lol move on girl

  • @zcmdwane

    @zcmdwane

    4 жыл бұрын

    Me too lol

  • @dustbehindthehat2237

    @dustbehindthehat2237

    4 жыл бұрын

    Hahahahaha

  • @offxgraysee8886
    @offxgraysee8886 Жыл бұрын

    Watched this video because of an assignment, but it ended up being something I needed personally - thank you!

  • @minhhanhto1965
    @minhhanhto19658 ай бұрын

    "we listen to people, we hold people in our present" - beautiful words, thank you Louise !

  • @reallifelove
    @reallifelove3 жыл бұрын

    Great talk, and I must say the brother's comment "do you want to be in a relationship with her or to be right", struck very deeply and to the point.

  • @TellTheTru

    @TellTheTru

    2 жыл бұрын

    On her brother’s comment... I understand that being in a relationship is important but it’s also important to correct the person in a good way only for good. And can’t we correct the person in a good way and still be in a good relationship? Why do we need to choose between the two?

  • @imeldafani
    @imeldafani3 жыл бұрын

    I love her voice and intonation! She'd be great to be a voice-over artist 😀

  • @doradeerangel3052
    @doradeerangel3052Ай бұрын

    Someone shared this with me and I am blessed to share it with others! Thank you for this!

  • @sevimcicek3239
    @sevimcicek32392 жыл бұрын

    I am 64 years old and a pediatrician.For a long time I haven't heard so much valuable and praticable speech.Thanks with my heart.

  • @mkim7715
    @mkim77153 жыл бұрын

    I watched this three times today. As I am going through difficult time personally, this message was enlightening and exactly what I needed.. I am red chair person.. i will continue to watch until I memorize the signals of each chairs .

  • @myownlittleworld9216
    @myownlittleworld92166 жыл бұрын

    Girrafe chair.....the giraffe has the biggest heart of all land animals...longest neck so it has incredible vision. In this chair we display empathy, compassion and understanding so in this chair we let go of our ego, we hold people in our presence and we care for them and listen to them, and stepping into somebody else's shoes and understanding them is a great act of generosity. To embrace diversity and to become tolerant.

  • @dougraddi908

    @dougraddi908

    4 жыл бұрын

    Three horns don't play with long necks

  • @darlingnyibz
    @darlingnyibz Жыл бұрын

    One of the best ted talks I have heard Just makes us aware of the impact we have on others. And how we can improve relationships often

  • @gwalker5826
    @gwalker58262 жыл бұрын

    This perspective really helps when dealing with my children. Very much appreciated ❤️

  • @dbguru500

    @dbguru500

    2 жыл бұрын

    Wow. Good luck with that! LOL! I’m sure you will master the five chairs in no time! :)

  • @leulitascro
    @leulitascro7 жыл бұрын

    If we only allowed a tiny bit of our daily spare time to observe and to assess our behaviours and our way to communicate to others, we would dramatically contribute to change this world for the better. The Five Chairs is a stuggering practical tool to make it happen. Thank you Louise!!

  • @louiseevans3534

    @louiseevans3534

    7 жыл бұрын

    You are so right Matteo....even just one behaviour a day :-)9

  • @kimberlyrosssegovia203

    @kimberlyrosssegovia203

    6 жыл бұрын

    I'm proud to honestly say that I favor the green and both blue chairs. 😄 I'm disappointed in the realisation that I act & react in either the red or yellow chair with my husband of 20 years. Honestly I'd have to admit that i spend most of the time in both red and yellow chairs when remembering past events, talking to, thinking of and reacting to my husband. This talk has been an eye opener. Much gratitude Louise.

  • @nishakuttan2822

    @nishakuttan2822

    6 жыл бұрын

    Matteo Baronti Becky. A. Bailey's book called Easy to Love difficult to Discipline is a great parenting book.. Must read for all..

  • @kellyewright4845
    @kellyewright48453 жыл бұрын

    Definitely one of my favorite TED Talks. Louise's presence is so calming. I could listen to her all day!

  • @stewart6830

    @stewart6830

    Жыл бұрын

    Yup it is a

  • @_Demon_100_yt_
    @_Demon_100_yt_2 жыл бұрын

    O my god.....her voice is so soothing and easy to get understood ........every word I understood without getting to use the subtitles which usually in other English videos I do when it's the peak of my understanding gets blurry .....................

  • @karankapoor2701
    @karankapoor27012 жыл бұрын

    One of the best tedx talk to ever have happened

  • @annahnabalayi1090
    @annahnabalayi10903 жыл бұрын

    Having been raised by my very or should extremely harsh, tough, iron lady African mother as all most African mothers are, I was never given a chance to express myself. I was always told off, never good enough, always comparing me to my peers, it was hard to make Friends who were scared of being my friend because of my mother. Traveled to England for the first time in 2008 on one year placement at a retreat house where the wardens were a wonderful elderly couple. The love and attention i received, these people taught me to love me, encouraged me to use my voice. Alot of that pain and anger was released because of what i received from this couple and people who came to the retreat house. Louise thank you for this talk, i can self evaluate, i know what to let go of and what hold on to. i am watching this like for the fifth time now. Love the idea of chairs, i have been in all those chairs all my life but i must say this is WISDOM. Thank you

  • @aishammanga654

    @aishammanga654

    3 жыл бұрын

    African parents can really be toxic

  • @commedesigns836

    @commedesigns836

    3 жыл бұрын

    My name is Dennis. I also understand how you feel, I was also a victim a toxic parenthood actually from Dad, Nigerian, I was forced to run away (self decision) after a domestic abuse but one thing i learned after leaving was calmness and had the opportunity to express myself and inner giant. I am a creative and found that gift spontaneously ... I now have a good respectful relationship from my dad and found that life is worth staying positive

  • @Honeybeememez

    @Honeybeememez

    3 жыл бұрын

    💓

  • @anja1789

    @anja1789

    3 жыл бұрын

    This is inspiring to read, thank you for sharing, I hope you're well

  • @annahnabalayi1090

    @annahnabalayi1090

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@anja1789 thank you. i am well

  • @louiseevans3534
    @louiseevans35347 жыл бұрын

    Thank you. So glad you enjoyed it

  • @belib820

    @belib820

    7 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much.

  • @salwaalhajel5634

    @salwaalhajel5634

    5 жыл бұрын

    Louise Evans awesome thank you ! The great lesson in the right time ! God bless you

  • @ericmoore1173

    @ericmoore1173

    2 жыл бұрын

    How are you doing today my name is Eric Moore

  • @arielzuidema7193
    @arielzuidema71932 жыл бұрын

    I cried when you mentioned Viktor E Frankl and his book, A Man's Search For Meaning. It is my favorite book and drastically altered my mind, along with the ideals of chakras, which are in favor of being self-restorative until you are physically capable, emotionally capable, and socially capable of being empathetic, open, and truthful.

  • @suanyangelaoliveira949
    @suanyangelaoliveira949 Жыл бұрын

    I do love this speech. Thank you very much. It is a helpful and encouraging moment. god bless you

  • @psychopathinthemaking
    @psychopathinthemaking7 жыл бұрын

    She deserved that standing ovation. That was amazing! So many of the issues I've been having with myself and my family suddenly became clearer. I'm going to have to set aside some time and sit down with these chairs, see how best they can help me in changing my life.

  • @louiseevans3534

    @louiseevans3534

    7 жыл бұрын

    Love the idea of you 'sitting' with the chairs to get clarity ;-)) I've written a book called 5 chairs 5 choices (Amazon). That might help !

  • @psychopathinthemaking

    @psychopathinthemaking

    7 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for replying! I will check it out!

  • @veravera2874

    @veravera2874

    5 жыл бұрын

    f2fc😈😈😈😈😈😡😈😈😈😈😈😈😈😈😈😈😈😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😈😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😆😊😆😅😊☺☺☺☺☺☺☺😆😆😆😀😁😉😄😃😇'

  • @christakounine
    @christakounine7 жыл бұрын

    You are an amazing speaker, Louise! I loved your talk, the concept, the story/ Vignette you used to illustrate the 5 chairs and the way you presented, so clear!

  • @louiseevans3534

    @louiseevans3534

    7 жыл бұрын

    So very glad. Thanks Christa

  • @nammyohorengekyoooooo

    @nammyohorengekyoooooo

    7 жыл бұрын

    +Louise Evans One of the best Ted talks I've seen, too bad the people that really need it won't see it..

  • @ice-chills5153

    @ice-chills5153

    7 жыл бұрын

    👍

  • @elsagrace3893

    @elsagrace3893

    6 жыл бұрын

    Christa Schreiber glad it made sense to you. It takes all kinds of teachers.

  • @christinerugambwa3579

    @christinerugambwa3579

    6 жыл бұрын

    Arianna Kamal k

  • @gloriayohana1832
    @gloriayohana1832 Жыл бұрын

    Love the message,the presentation, composure and how calm @Louise is during the presentation. One behavior at a time!

  • @user-kv8dp3ib7w
    @user-kv8dp3ib7wАй бұрын

    Rewatching again! Thank you.

  • @Relachi
    @Relachi5 жыл бұрын

    i absolutely ADORE this ted talk

  • @jubileetsuyuki9505

    @jubileetsuyuki9505

    3 жыл бұрын

    I agree. She has great points and story.

  • @jagmeetsinghfan1019

    @jagmeetsinghfan1019

    3 жыл бұрын

    me too love Louise Evans

  • @sayusayme7729

    @sayusayme7729

    3 жыл бұрын

    Wow, love this!!’ 🦋 5 chairs and change ♥️

  • @princesstah-tah1461

    @princesstah-tah1461

    2 жыл бұрын

  • @ckim5021

    @ckim5021

    2 жыл бұрын

    Relachiiiiii

  • @raindropsonroses3919
    @raindropsonroses39193 жыл бұрын

    Eloquent , articulate and intellectual... what a woman! One of the most inspiring ted talks I’ve seen

  • @larryewaen4945
    @larryewaen4945 Жыл бұрын

    Wow it's so amazing as I have found a solution to most of my problems, I am quick to attach instead of connecting.....thank you so much for this wonderful teaching ❤

  • @scenesane
    @scenesane Жыл бұрын

    Making myself, my home, work, world better one chair at a one.

  • @Tebony2
    @Tebony27 жыл бұрын

    Please more talks from Louise Evans. I love this!

  • @kryliegentler530
    @kryliegentler5305 жыл бұрын

    This is amazing - self-awareness chairs. I’m always working to be less scathing, less judging, less aggressive. I know it is deeply embedded due to my upbringing, but putting self-awareness into practice I have always struggled with due to being very compulsive. I have listened to all the ted talks on self-awareness and related topics, but this is the most compassionate visualization I have ever seen. Brava, Louise Evans✨

  • @ericmoore1173

    @ericmoore1173

    2 жыл бұрын

    How are you doing today my name is Eric Moore

  • @RainyorSunnyEnding
    @RainyorSunnyEnding Жыл бұрын

    My therapist recommend this video to me as she could see I often have a journey from red to yellow to green. I'd love to be more green, blue and purple. What a wonderful analogy.

  • @nellykoskey5073
    @nellykoskey50732 жыл бұрын

    Many years ago and her teachings still making sence and inspires, what a piece

  • @sonalibhat5149
    @sonalibhat51493 жыл бұрын

    I think a person is a combination of different chairs..what matters is which chair is dominant !!

  • @yaoiblfan

    @yaoiblfan

    3 жыл бұрын

    sonali bhat You're right. I like your answer.

  • @owlfeathers6615

    @owlfeathers6615

    3 жыл бұрын

    "Hello Patricia"

  • @muhammadghiffary2110

    @muhammadghiffary2110

    3 жыл бұрын

    well said sir.

  • @blertaklevis

    @blertaklevis

    3 жыл бұрын

    I would say, which chair YOU decide to be dominant. We all have those chairs, but do you decide to be angry, to be doubtful or sad, or you could be a Giraffa if you want to ;)

  • @Onlinesully

    @Onlinesully

    2 жыл бұрын

    that makes a lot of sense

  • @veshk3241
    @veshk32416 жыл бұрын

    I was just on the verge of a breakdown. My Masters year isn't going so well and life is shit around me. Now i have some tools to make things close to me better. Thank you so much Louise Evans!

  • @louiseevans4882

    @louiseevans4882

    6 жыл бұрын

    Your comment made me feel so grateful Vesh. I really hope the Chairs help you come into a better place in you life....a place you deserve :-))

  • @agbemabiese3
    @agbemabiese32 жыл бұрын

    This is a powerful teaching. Thank you for for showing me the sunshine, a brighter and better way of living.

  • @kuklabota
    @kuklabota2 жыл бұрын

    This is one of the best TED Talks I have watched. And I like the metaphor. Thanks for this wonderful talk!

  • @konmylona
    @konmylona3 жыл бұрын

    This is one of the most enlightening speech I have ever heard! Thank you!

  • @ericmoore1173

    @ericmoore1173

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello how are you doing, my name is Eric Moore how is the weather over there toda

  • @pannnu894
    @pannnu8947 жыл бұрын

    Dear Louise, after watching this video for twice , I am sure that you are my favourite teacher. I am very glad to see you and hear your powerful and lovely voice. I live with my mother who is similar with yours. Actually I have very hard days with my mother. I am going to take your 5 chairs and i will try to solve my problems. Thanks you so much for your great talk. May God Bless You!

  • @xjjll8572
    @xjjll85722 жыл бұрын

    Powerful Speech! 5 Chairs, 5 Choices, great fruit of thought, love it. ☺️

  • @BubblesPothowari
    @BubblesPothowari2 жыл бұрын

    Sincere. Believable. Doable. No Jargon. Wonderful quotes from real leaders. Grateful.

  • @sandrangarka9855
    @sandrangarka98553 жыл бұрын

    Who is watching 6/2020. This is so inspiring It has spoken directly to me We all need to carry the 5 chairs along

  • @loribrejcha4676

    @loribrejcha4676

    3 жыл бұрын

    Listening in July now, brilliant women!

  • @ginamccollum7237

    @ginamccollum7237

    3 жыл бұрын

    I completely agree! This touched me to the core!

  • @peggyhavard1546

    @peggyhavard1546

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@loribrejcha4676 listening in April 2021

  • @TR-vh1fi

    @TR-vh1fi

    3 жыл бұрын

    4/2021 here

  • @cherylsmith5998

    @cherylsmith5998

    2 жыл бұрын

    Wow profound. Thank you for highlighting my 5 chairs.

  • @chrisbooth9867
    @chrisbooth98675 жыл бұрын

    That was an amazing talk, Louise! Thank you. We met in London at a WorldWork conference in 2012 and you talked to us about the 5 chair NVC tool then - and then 5 years later you showed that you've obviously learnt so much more - so it's a powerful tool. Bravo!

  • @gildaenger2440

    @gildaenger2440

    3 жыл бұрын

    One of the most brilliant talks I've seen on TED

  • @chickenhope1389
    @chickenhope13892 жыл бұрын

    She really opened my eyes. Thank you. Also, I was doing the same thing with my mother's exaggerations, I'm gonna change my attitude now.

  • @thecatzi4134
    @thecatzi41342 жыл бұрын

    Thankyou Louise Evans. Wonderful Presentation. Best Learning experience.

  • @coleman6203
    @coleman62033 жыл бұрын

    I've spent my entire life sitting in the wrong chair! Thank you for this presentation!

  • @mindvolution
    @mindvolution7 жыл бұрын

    "This power we always have: to choose our attitude in any given set of circumstances." Very engaging talk! Wonderful and insightful!

  • @faridahalihassan8005
    @faridahalihassan800518 күн бұрын

    Thank you for this. I want to watch this every day ❤ sounds like something I need, I wonder why I am just seeing it 😮

  • @achievetoday7103
    @achievetoday71032 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much dear Louise Evans . I am from India. You are my favourite English Teacher. I am proud to say you are my teacher. Love you so much …

  • @melissajohnson9668
    @melissajohnson96684 жыл бұрын

    This presentation hit home, hard. The introspection begins.

  • @rc....

    @rc....

    3 жыл бұрын

    And then what??? ONLY introspect???

  • @maheshpatil5022
    @maheshpatil50226 жыл бұрын

    you explained human behaviors using creative way. what a out of the box thinking. I really appreciate your views on how to connect with people.

  • @pmugenyi
    @pmugenyi Жыл бұрын

    Never too late 5 years later, thank you for the beautiful words of wisdom indeed one behaviour at a time.

  • @iannaash8383
    @iannaash8383 Жыл бұрын

    I'm feeling goosebumps because this talk resonates to me so much. I felt vulnerable while listening to this talk because it feels like it is exposing some of my inner conflicts that I didn't even realize I havem

  • @visionairenomek379
    @visionairenomek3794 жыл бұрын

    Excellent presentation! She's found a way to explain many perspectives in the most creative way possible.

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