I lived in a fantasy world as a kid too. I didn't feel safe at home, I felt like I walked on eggshells all the time. Also I didn't feel real, because I constructed this false self to sooth my mother and father. And at 20, I was diagnosed with social anxiety disorder, but now I know is codependency, anxiety, emotional flashbacks, trauma ...

@scrappy3471

7 жыл бұрын

Irene Irene I can relate . I didn't have a safe family environment and I did also develop a fantasy world to live in. Still do now sometimes

@daisydoogle9926

7 жыл бұрын

same here Irene, same thing happened to me.

@thehotcoffeehouse6081

7 жыл бұрын

same here.

@-anaamna5616

7 жыл бұрын

Irene Irene same here :(

@tedjames3820

7 жыл бұрын

Ditto

One really great thing about your videos, they're anxiety reducing, and comforting in a way, for me anyway. Aside from clearly articulating a lot of the unconscious thought processes that become our nature as the objects of abuse, when I watch them, I find myself thinking, there is at least SOMEONE out there who understands, instead of people telling me I'm crazy for analyzing human behavior. As you paralleled in the Matrix, most people live in the illusion.

@stuvs830

9 жыл бұрын

I hear "Hello, Boys and Girls" and a happy state of relaxed anticipation settles 'round me. Along with the footpads, nail clicks and sighs that signal Max' presence. ;)

@laurieduncan6096

5 жыл бұрын

Well stated Jayne Hathaway.

@karagraham9764

5 жыл бұрын

People say you are crazy when they are too lazy to do any analysis themselves 👍

@absimusmaximus3921

4 жыл бұрын

He is good at what he does " fair play

@vydawg

4 жыл бұрын

100% agree about richard and his videos

Job thought it didn’t matter if he walked with evil men. Once Job stopped walking with evil men, his life turned around and he lived a long, prosperous life. The lesson is to go no contact with narcissists and other evil people.

I overcame narcissistic abuse from my mother. I empowered myself by watching You Tube videos about it and went to a therapist for a short time. I did lots of journaling along with endless prayer. As a result I got stronger. I have my own channel here on KZread and I'm helping others to overcome. Great information that you gave here.

@erinwheeler6772

6 жыл бұрын

Mary Allen What is your channel? This is all new and overwhelming to me.

@LIVdaBrand

4 жыл бұрын

Good for you! My mother was too. Had to cut her off.

@reg8297

4 жыл бұрын

So are u healed and free now

It’s been 2 yrs since I took off my ring and I learned that this was an addiction like alcoholism I was dealing with. I applied the twelve steps finally and treated the x like a drink. First step total abstinence no contact. And I admitted I’m powerless over the narcissist and step 2 came to believe that a power greater than myself could restore me to sanity Let go and let God

@bonnielucas1941

4 жыл бұрын

That's a great approach!

@prometheuspredator7971

4 жыл бұрын

Awesome analogue. I so agree with you.

I'm out 3yrs, on my own. My flashbacks are gone away, my obsession of the narc is leaving. Finally starting to feel good. I'm a survivor of a very abusive situation. I was entangled for 37 yrs. I'm lucky I'm alive! Thanks for doing these videos. For people who are locked in and can't reach out for help. Those who are in hardship. Prepare, and leave. Don't go to relatives, they are too close to the situation. My daughter went and got a degree from one of the best universities to try to deal with her father. Dealing with a narc is crazy making.

Heck yes! Overcoming narc abuse means you have to take yourself right back to when the abuse first started and learn how to function as a functioning adult. Thanks for saying this aloud!

Willing participant..... When you said that, it hit me so hard inside. The first truth I've heard in months. I get your point, even in the perspective of my will being somewhat corrupted. Yet I KNEW that the crazy behaviour was not acceptable in any circumstance. Still I stayed or kept going back (for 36 years!) You have helped me so much in the last few days. More than my therapist who is treating a victim. Enough BS. Time to get on. Stronger and wiser. Thanks so much. Your style of communicating is refreshing.

I always get sleepy when I watch your videos not because I'm bored...absolutely not, but because I don't feel alone. I feel safe and understood and so very relaxed. I hear you loud and clear yet I'm still stuck with a monster. It's only a matter of time when I wake up. Thank you Richard for what you do!

Yeah....I remember daydreaming to. Staying in my room, too scared to leave my room. I cried lots and felt empty constantly. Or somewhere away from where I lived trying to survive, and too scared to try to go "home" because even though I had a fantasy it would be ok, i knew nothing would change.

I just know that NPD was cherry on top of cake of my failed love relationships to teach me a final lesson to LOVE MYSELF in a first place and not to seek love outside of myself because Mom was emotionally distant and Daddy was physically distant due to being workoholic

After so much mental physical and emotional abuse, he picked up his (MY) one year old son, shook him and threatened to hurt him (TO HURT ME) and threw him at me, I realized exactly what kind of person I was dealing with. Thank you so much for your help and advice..it was my OMG moment!

@marylouleeman

5 жыл бұрын

You're out of there now, right?

@HUMILIATRIX

4 жыл бұрын

🚨 Riiiightttt?

Thank you for explaining this phenomenon, is a very painful lesson in life to fall in love and be used selfishly by these people who are extremely narcissistic, and exchange you once they are done.

There is no doubt that this course "How to overcome narcissistic abuse" is helpful,I've bought the course and it's awesome.What I've noticed is that the DISSOCIATION (as one of the disorders caused by narcissists )makes huge obstacle in recovering from Nabuse.Tremendous difficulties in maintaining concentration,focusing makes recovering very hard....Richie,I was wondering if you could make a video about recovering from DISSOCIATION?It would be great if you would do that.Thank you for these videos,peace and much love

@RICHARDGRANNON

9 жыл бұрын

Good suggestion Luka.

@nancylpr

6 жыл бұрын

Luka Morić, yup, through Richards videos I have learned that my life has been equivalent to a Master's degree in dissociation.

Sir, you just changed my life, you gotta know it. This is like a massive shot of antioxidants in a world of toxicity. Im looking forward to get the courseand update me!

@theforeigner6988

4 жыл бұрын

How are you doing after 3 years?

About the whipping bit, a friend of mine had that same scenario occur when he was younger. To this day as an adult, every day at the scheduled time it used to happen he has anxiety and a heightened sense of urgency and expectation. It's really sad. Thank you for posting these videos. These are incredible resources.

I love the way you explain it, I'm just starting my recovery

I listened to this in bed before going to sleep and it's really helpful. Especially the part about being deceptive and lying when your feelings are at risk of being exposed.

In job Satan challenged that he was only faithful because of what God gave Job. God didn't do all that to Job he let it happen to show how faithful job was under narcissistic pressure. He was blessed in the end better than the beginning.

@geraldyouns6720

5 жыл бұрын

Victorious Bal

@marylouleeman

5 жыл бұрын

@@geraldyouns6720 not

@wackthatmole1798

4 жыл бұрын

Victorious Balla an example of important it is to know scripture. Even "pastors " say things that make me go, no it didn't say that!

@danashannon8234

4 жыл бұрын

What God put Job through was absolutely sadistic narcissistic abuse.

@psychologicalsigma9917

4 жыл бұрын

My issue with this story is God put children and wives (of job) under the bus over a bet with one of his angel workers. And the big payoff was: replacement wives n kids plus extras. What reality are we in that this is a win for job? Bring back the wife n kids I loved.... Make the pain disappear. Not just new people to replace the old. That's Gods answer? Seems a bit lazy, and man-made

Thank you

I'd also like to give the 10 Star Rating for the Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse Course. I am 2 years out of a 10 year relationship and although I have made some progress I felt like i was stuck with my life 'on hold'. Suffering from cPTSD flashbacks and nightmares meant a good day could be followed by 4 or 5 really bad ones. The course specifically has helped with genuine validation of the experience I went through.. and more importantly given practical exercises that have helped instantly reduce anxiety, bring calm and centred thoughts and allow for positive and productive change. Richards style is relaxed and informed, fun and refreshing. I have watched and read so much about NPD and other personality types in trying to make sense of WTF happened to me and why I have been left so broken by the relationship as well as the eventual degrade and discard and then following smear campaign. This course has helped give me hope for the future.. that there is every possibility that I can go on to lead a normal life and hopefully meet a suitable partner/fall in love again.. and this time form a healthy relationship with healthy boundaries and genuine care and equality with those people I am closest too. Thank you Richard for your time and energy on this subject. Sending all fellow victims/survivors and thrivers Peace and Love wherever you are on your journey

@RICHARDGRANNON

9 жыл бұрын

Paul Judd Thankyou Paul, all the best mate.

You are a brilliant and amazing man. So articulate and well versed. I could listen to you for hours and I think I HAVE. Love all your videos. Thank you SO much for the time and effort you put into these videos. You rock!!

@littlerascal5150

6 жыл бұрын

Same here. Thank you for these videos. Thank God for you.

LMAO. ur sense of humor is life

I think in regards to myself and others who grew up in an abusive environment we are often taught that our instincts can't be trusted. I realized that I have ignored my instincts when I first came into contact with the narcissists/abusers. I have often sensed there was something out place; not right about the person/group of people which of course I ignored at the time and regretted afterwards. Still trying to learn to trust my instincts/ first impression of others I meet.

I am really glad I stumbled upon your videos. Though I have not been in a relationship with a narcissist, I used to be "friends" with one (I still don't know whether she classifies as a narcissist or a histrionic, there are quite a few traits that overlap). After I saw through her façade, she did everything she could to destroy my self-confidence and went on this never-ending smear campaign. Even after 3 years, she still tries to get in touch occasionally as if she was trying to hoover me back. By now I managed to go no-contact and even if I have to deal with her (I work at a local tanning salon and she goes there on purpose), I know I am in control because I am not feeding her by giving any reaction to her whatsoever. Knowledge is power. These videos helped A LOT understanding what I'm dealing with. Thank you! :) :) :)

@eszterannavoros9078

9 жыл бұрын

***** Wow this sounds terrible... :( Thank you for sharing it with me, though... It is frightening how far these people are willing to go... They have no boundaries whatsoever... Hopefully many of us can get out in time and though there are some scars that will always remain we can learn and improve ourselves, including putting up stronger boundaries. :)

Much reference is made to the narcissist being exciting. Is it the drama that they create that is exciting rather than the narcissist themselves? To truly overcome narcissistic abuse do we have to acknowledge that we liked the drama? The roller coaster relationship in which we didn't feel secure was exciting, the constant up and downs of it. Is it adrenaline that we are addicted to as much as the person themselves. A healthy relationship with no drama and up's and down's would/could seem very boring in comparison.

@karagraham9764

5 жыл бұрын

Brigitte Cuthbertson Yes, adrenaline addiction. Similar to why some people are addicted to the news, fear responses feel good and familiar to some.

@Phoenix-kf4xo

4 жыл бұрын

To overcome NA we have to disengage from the drama. This allows your mind the time and space to think for itself and function differently, rather than reacting to pushing buttons/stimuli all the time. All our states of mind, create moods, which create hormonal changes in our bodies - good and bad. Constant negative stimulation release stress hormones which are as addictive as happy hormones. Its whatever you allow yourself to get used to. What's scary is, over an extended period of time, even without the stimulation, your body goes into autopilot/defaults to the predominant state, unless you become aware and step in to change this. Take care and all the best :)

@EllaDuncan_

4 жыл бұрын

I remember after I ended up going through what felt like legitimate withdrawers. And to this day, it’s been 6 months since I ended it and almost 2 months since no contact, I can tell my body is finally starting to acclimate to my new more stable baseline. But there’s still a part of me that misses it. Like a drug addict with always remember their first highs. The memory of it stays. But in my heart, I know I must keep going in this direction, to protect my heart.

You touched on repetition compulsion here, have you ever heard of the book: The Betrayal Bond, by Patrick J Carnes? It goes into this issue more as well as breaking free of exploitative relationships and has some great exercises to do.

Oh I totally agree that I was willing. Ignoring red flags and not running away. I now know I was set up in my design to allow my life to be in turmoil. Well things have changed! New sheriff in town. My milkshake not his or anyone else. Love the way you explain the concepts no one ever told me. Ramble on.. Ramble on! It's my red pill!

I just found this channel a couple of days ago. This is a survivors club one doesn't want to be a member of. Alas - your material is so relevant to my life!! Thank you for sharing yourself and this content/information in this format. It's incredibly useful!!! Cheers & hugs. ~Adult daughter of a NPD mother & a NPD ex boyfriend (an enabling father & golden child sister)

I like your "software upgrade" analogy. Throughout my childhood I recall consciously rejecting some of those upgrades ... I think I had an unconscious belief that developing my own viewpoint would be threatening to those around me. In my 20s I started to unpack and challenge these beliefs and started the download process again. And the updates keep coming...... :-P

Ur a wise man … I consider you my friend even we dont know. Thank you Mister Grannon for sharing

Thank you for sharing your experience! It's so incredible to hear someone point out all those conclusions and relate it to myself as I had to go through a lot of experiences to start understanding something was wrong in my family system, and start questioning the 'normal' I was convinced while growing up in my family. Then I found so much useful content here on youtube that helped me. When I saw that Richard posted this video in 2015, felt a bit of regret....here it was, I just didn't know about it. Anyway feels good to know that I'm not alone and expand my knowledge, adding new pieces to the picture. When I think of all those young people who grew up in the twisted realities of their families, who have troubles understanding themselves and others, I think that learning all these things is something we must learn at school. These are the skills that really help you becoming a properly functioning happy independent adult, not maths or chemistry.

It is actually called compliant victimization. People do actually play about in their own abuse and other people look at it and can not understand why.

When one reaches or comes close to recovery, one realizes they were strengthened in fire. One can come out the other side of narc abuse an even stronger empath. I drove a cab when I met the covert narc I would marry and I had very little in the way of personal boundaries. In fact I thought I was the last cowboy on earth and I was full of myself. I was fierce because I was also a single parent and that's really who all my empathy was for until I met my wife. Everyone else paid up or got beat up. Yes, I was a halfass thug. I had backslid years before and ended up being this! I needed to be humbled. Boy did I get it. Btw, I also daydreamed allot as a child and also during my 18 years with a narcissist. I was spaced out all the time. I'm glad I saw this video. I never would have made the connection.

I have never heard anyone who talks as much like I do in my life. He can start a thought and circle around leaving it hanging (with a half-dozen little digressions along the way) until you are sure it must have crashed to the ground--now but cinders-- and still sail in, catch and deliver it a long time later, as neatly as I can. Well done. And look how many people listen!

BEST VIDEO YET!! This has been happening to me since 2012, and it was the hardest thing to awaken to, but all he says is correct and once I had began expanding my consciousness, I also started channeling all this amazing truth about life, wisdom, and just started writing for about 2 years. I mostly accept what happened to me but sometimes I can be brought to anger, when I catch myself focusing too much on the fact that I was kept so blinded intentionally and so primed to be so controlled. I choose to go deeper inward rather going and seeking revenge, which I thought of many times and am SO GLAD I didn't. THIS VIDEO IS SO TRUE, and SO RIGHT ON!! Nice video Rich, thanks for making it.

Yes, you can help people with what you do here. I don't know if I'd even have come close to healing without you. Thank you.

Thanks again for an illuminating video. I downloaded your course and I am stunned. I honestly thought I would die never knowing what it felt like to be ok. It's babysteps for this old lady. Plus, I love the playlists on your KZread page. Thank you again, and again.

@lynn5246

3 жыл бұрын

Can you help me I cant find the link to the course, he said it was in the link below but its not showing, can you send me the link please

How does one handle being born in a narcissistic family, and then finally, after decades, while taking care of your aging parents, figure out that your brothers are complete narcissists, raising their own slaves (sociopaths)? It's like I am not being able to see "soul" within their children. They utterly lack empathy, and are not effected by anything of others, though it seems they do not lack empathy for themselves. "Sociopathic"

@Natalie-gb8tt

4 жыл бұрын

CAZUD they are wicked.

@Phoenix-kf4xo

4 жыл бұрын

Once you get to realise you are being controlled, there are some serious decisions and choices to be made, so long as you choose not to be consumed with your suffereing. None of them are easy and for the most part it is a given, that you will be treading this path alone. But the end goal is to get your freedom, life and happiness back ; so it has to be worth it. In so doing, you free yourself from your own hell : a mental and emotional prison. I completely broke off from my immediate and extended family and divorced hubs. It was very painful. I suffered PTSD and very nearly went on antidepressants to cope. 3 years down the line, I still have good day and bad days. Migraines are decreasing in frequency. But the good days are increasing and my creativity is resurfacing. So I know I'm moving in the right direction even in the absence of external validation. I hope this helps. Good luck :) and on a final note, this has made my faith and belief in Allah even stronger. Otherwise when dealing with so much evil and oppression, it wouldn't be so difficult to swing the other way and become like that yourself, in my humble opinion. Take care and all the best.

I relate to everything you are saying in this video. I will look at the course you mentioned ☺ Thankyou Richard for using humour, my favourite coping mechanism, to lighten the heaviness we all feel trapped in.

When you talked about things remaining in the dark rotting (and how people in therapy withdraw and speak w/ a forked tongue at a certain point in therapy) it reminded me of a situation I was part of and could not figure out why the other person withdrew./shut down/closed off. Your use of the word dark brought to mind a verse which is found in the New Testament in the book of Ephesians. It says that Light makes manifest the unfruitful works of darkness. (Light in the NT being the Word, being Jesus (He declares he is the Word, the Way, the Truth, the Light), being God and in the OT the Law.) Until those unfruitful works are made manifest by the light, one will continue to be mired down in them and in bondage to them. I find it of great interest that Jesus said he came not to condemn us, (because we were already condemned) but to set us free. One must ask 'free from what?' The answer is free from bondage. Generally the bondage of sin. Specifically the bondage that keeps one bound and unable to be hale/whole/well. Thank you for the insight you share here on this complex issue of narcissism.

@littlerascal5150

6 жыл бұрын

Dinahsoar, I love your answer. I already knew all this but you put it together beautifully.

Best video ever!! Thank you so much. Your humor and insight is the best therapy I've ever had (and I've had 30 plus years of it....)

This is so deep like, prison song (no ones listening) and plus you have people that are being hurt, that are “being brainwashed themselves to hurt people on even lower levels” and they think “they are in power or in the clique” it’s bad

I love your stories and metaphors! Thank you for being you!

You're hilarious....mushroom...kept in the dark, being fed shit....so accurate so true.....your videos are awesome! Thank you!

@krishnak3954

Жыл бұрын

I actually bursted out laughing at that part

Spot on 🙌🏽 as always. It’s been a series of things, over the last few years, tugging me into the reality of my “situation” (in a 12 year abusive relationship with a narc), and slowly pulling myself out of the depths of the abuse & my own “attachments” to the narc. It’s such a journey & process. However I am so thankful to be “awake” now and not still blaming myself exclusively (as the narc always has). I’m still working on it all...like setting boundaries and not allowing people to push or break my boundaries. @RichardGrannon thank you for all your help! It’s been a tremendous life change with more to come, I’m sure. xo

@sarahreyes2558

3 жыл бұрын

I’ve been with a narcissistic man for 12 years too I got with him when I was 17 now I’m 29 had 3 kids together I ignored a lot of the red flags in the beginning of our relationship I didn’t know anything about narcissism at the time we were probably just dating for 3 or 4 weeks I was on my phone texting a friend and he was driving I had a habit of deleting text messages after they were sent he told me who are you texting I said my friend he said whatever you do don’t delete the text message I wanna see it just as he said that I deleted it he said I’m taking you home and was driving really fast the whole way as soon as we pulled up to my house he told me to get the F off his truck and me I started crying and begging him not to do this he didn’t wanna talk about nothing or hear what I had to say so I got off and he took off I went to a friends house that day and he called me when I was the most vulnerable I was completely drunk and high out of my mind wasted he told me he was sorry that he didn’t know what got into him and if he could see me tomorrow I should of never answered that phone call it had destroyed my life as I’m still living with him it gets harder and harder to leave each time especially now with 3 kids he threatens me to take them away if I leave him I don’t know what to do I just feel stuck I want out so bad

Relief at last!!!! Thank you Richard. After decades of therapy, your videos have pulled me out of the myre in days rather than years. Thank you. I'm going to get "The Discipline" today. Can't thank you enough!

Your videos explain it as we lived it, validates us that were not alone, not crazy, that we can heal. It helps me so much. And joking a bit lightens up the seriousnrss of it in a way that we can look at ourselves in a way that we can put it behind us and how miserable of a person the narcissist is and how they will never be happy. Its very helpful. Makes us look at the narcissist in a different light, not just our problem. I love your silliness sometimes. 😊😊😊

Thank you for being there with your wisdom. Keeps me sane from a lot

While u are my favorite KZreadr I am gaining knowledge from other channels. I am also working on turning my BSN into a masters degree in psyc. Knowledge is Power! Thank You

Love your video. You are nuts and you make me feel strong and confident about the future after a f****+ up childhood. Please keep it coming!

You are an absolute “delight” to listen to, not to mention extremely informative. Thank you so much for the time and effort you put into helping other. GOD Bless!

Thank you for what you're doing, videos like these are extremely helpful to those on the path to recovery and moving forward.

Great video! Very helpful and thought provoking. Thank you, Richard!

Life just got a whole lot more interesting! Thank you. You have a great sense of ha ha which helps with this topic.

Hoped you would upload something today and viola! Anyway, thank you Richard! Your videos have been incredibly powerful to me. Also, thanks for mentioning Pete Walker. C-ptsd sums it up for me. Infinite gratitude! :)

Thank you for this important discussion. I truly appreciate your videos.

That was really cool and stuff:) And it feels like home as if I knew all of this new content, but just could not put it into words. Thank you!

This is awesome Richard, thanks! I'm already googling Slavoj Zizek, please keep mentioning these sources in your videos, because it's so easy to search info about narcs or psychology and read tons of made up articles and waste too much time, instead of getting the quality stuff. I used to daydream for months as a teen and now sometimes still do and never knew there was a why to that! I'm mindblowned! It's a relief to know you were not just doing freakish stuff for no reason.

This is so relevant to my life, my hat comes off to you sir. Thank you so much for your uploads

Thank you for this! This is huge for all creating breakthroughs in their lives including me:-)

Best video I have ever seen on this subject!! because I like lots of seemingly random information ;) but it’s all so great, all of your references and deeper almost metaphysical information...thank you!

Thank you Richard. I really appreciate all that you have done, and continue to do. I looked for your course in the description below this vid but I couldn't see anything about a course. I'll go to your website & have a look there... :)

I'm glad I found your channel. It's quite nice listening to your colorful stories and intelligent arguments. Thank you for your work. :)

Just wanted to say I found this video extremely helpful and insightful. You have a wonderfully intelligently humorous way of putting things in the vernacular that's sensitive, thought out and relate-able. I started to cry at some points of the video because I could relate so much it hurt. Strangely enough, it was these points that made me feel better and makes me think I can get through the abuse experience. Thank you so much.

Thank you Richard, from what I've taken from you helped immensely.

Id like to begin with a thank you, You have brought so much awareness of this kind of abuse in my life. I do believe I suffered as a victim of this abuse beginning around age five, to young to make the connection. I thought I had done a good job of blocking much of those experiences out. I haven't experienced for many years, until several year's ago when I was least expecting nor was I aware of these personality disorders. I had no idea what exactly I was experiencing considering this was the shy/quite/covert narcissist that became engaged in my life as we grew to be friend's. Thanks to your understanding and experiencing narcissist abuse yourself, I feel as if I hit the jackpot knowing someone understands!! I as you have spoke of am also a people pleaser. I also now know Im a prime target considering my personality that may come across as gullible to some just because Im friendly. No Im not and very aware now of disorder. Its the KZread videos that drew me to you like a magnet. Your way of explaining the red flags I can relate to well. I've tuned into many and I completely agree with the Fbomb rule, as adults, we should be allowed to say fuck it without feeking guilty. Your are actually as entertaining as you are in your teachings so the two for one works well with me. Also the movie skit analogies make it even more interesting. Who doesn't Remember Shawshank Redemption or the The Matrix? Ive watched both of these including all the Matrix movies along with many more. So I appreciate your association using this method involving your awareness to those who may also be victims. My situation has become more involved than emotional abuse alone, although thats been a huge portion of it before the physical abuse. I actually was givin a red flag but I was caught up in the love bombing stage. "That thought of it to be to be true." It is, trust me on this. And I'd say it was a heavy thick layer of it BS as well! Much of it I was blinded by before the bomb dropped and mask changed. I would rather not put my full experience for all to see as I am now going through my healing phase. I believe the covert are the most manipulative and sneaky of all as they sit back watching and studying as if hunting their prey/next victim or supply source. The thing is I'd never experienced this so I was fooled big time and caught off guard!! Actually he refered to me as a narcissist sociopath so i began thinking WTF is he talking about. This is what lead me to KZread and researching with many different coaches then I found you! Everything I've learned definitely puts me in the victim category and him in the sick category. With the grand illusions of life's he's saved, and unbelievable stories not to mention how quickly I was deemed as his best friend and best in all other areas of this relationship. Before knowing He has a personality disorder then looking it up the different types I found the match. My mistake was confronting him that I'd done some researching about it and it seemed I was his supply source he choose. Well needless to say that only made things worse. At this point Im steal watching, listening, and learning as much as possible. Im considering the self help package. I've had many situations in my life involving abuse. I must say I'd never experienced this type before in my 54 years of life! So Thank you for all you are doing to help victim's out there. You are excellent at relating in ways I completely understand. You spoke of philosophy in this video and before tuning in as I do in the weee AM hours of night considering I have many sleepless nights, much of it due to this. If not for medication as a helper It would be much tougher. I've thought about antidepressants and how they may help.. Its been a rough rollercoaster ride without a doubt!! Getting back to my philosophy, "Life's to short to worry about the things that don't matter. Its only worth the worry of the things that do matter." It's similar to what an elderly black said that Sticks with me daily, "Don't block your blessings." You, Me or anyone that is looking to retain self love and our self confidence again as much becomes lost. It seems to disappear once the vampire has sucked all of our sweetness/milkshake out of bodies. Awareness is the most important key ingredient.. So learn all you can from the right coach, trust me on this.. I checked them all and He's the man!! Thanks again for all your support and lending help for us to better understanding.

Dude this video of yours are really helping me! thanks and keep it up :)

Thank you in advance for all the healing I will gain from these videos. Thank you

I have quite significantly relapsed in my recovery and this video was very helpful, thanks Coach! As the daughter of a vindictive, neglecting, covert Nasty-cyst I did not get the software upgrades needed to defend myself as a child or adult. I was wide open to all predators...easy pickings. I have spent nearly 50 years blaming myself for being a total wanker for making a mess of everything I touched. I had no awareness at all - in complete denial. I got unplugged in 2012 and I'm looking forward to more healing.

@madisonimogen1028

2 жыл бұрын

Wish you blessed journey 🙏🙏🙏

You crack me up. So funny, humble and profound. Love you to bits bro 😍

Thank you for your insight, man. I only discovered your channel last night, and, already, I feel as if I've gained some perspective on the trauma I endured. I was in a relationship with someone who I thought was the most amazing, caring, affectionate person imaginable. After three years of existing within a false reality of blissful romance and intimacy, I found myself enraptured by a person who was devouring the very core of who I am. After almost four years since I reclaimed my soul from this succubus, I'm finally coming to terms with the damage done. The reality of what it's going to take to heal is daunting. Glad I found these videos as part of a healing process.

Whipping analogy cracked me hahaha, great video and thank you for everything you do!

I have watched so many of your videos and have learnt so much! You are amazing....I did not have a clue what a narcissist was until one of my friends mentioned my ex as being a narcissist. As soon as I started listening to you, a whole new world unfolded for me and continues too. Thank you so much for your help! A side note....your quite nice to look at as well:)

What is refreshing....you make me laugh with recognition....thank you

Love it! THANKS Richard. I really enjoy your videos!

Keep up the videos man, they actually help out a lot. After getting out of the military, a lot of extreme relationships, and an abusive father I was diagnosed as bipolar, depressed, have PTAs, among other things. And even though day to day is extreme and hard because of the extreme anxiety and depression when going out in public, your videos are helping me to overcome these problems. So thanks man!

@Inflatable_Loin

7 жыл бұрын

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Richard, your question at about 9 minutes in about whether youTube videos etc can help someone get over narcissist abuse? HELL YEAH! You've been a big part of my healing! Your software upgrade metaphor particularly xxx

Your going around the houses is amazing !!! Keep it up . And don't worry about the haters... You are doing great work helping us with our malware !

Mr. Grannon, very helpful & informative videos. Thank you!

i like the way you mix in humour and talk about your own experiences, it makes difficult subjects easier to listen to.

Thank you. I've been trying to educate myself being NC for 2 months now after being discarded from a (certain now, I just watched your other video) covert Narcissist. Thank you for all the information, your diffrent voices and sense of humor are also email and really help. Look forward to watch more

This is the best video yet that I have seen....really explains so much about my upbringing as one of Jehovah's Witnesses. I am learning more and more how controlling and codependent my entire life was and why I have chosen that over and over again in my adult life. Thank you so much Richie!!!

I just wan to say thank you for all of your videos regarding Narcissists. They are really helping me.

You make me laugh out loud! And your material is fascinating. So helpful for you to put your knowledge & experience on the outside for others coming to terms with narcissistic abuse. Thanks!

I love you Richard, and your work is amazing. I find it the most helpful I've found.

Great video Richie. I have been working your Overcoming Narc Abuse Course for a few weeks now. I wish I had it when I was really hurting, it would have relieved a lot of suffering I was going through. I've been no contact with my X for about 9 months after 8 years on and off of being a hero/devalued/discarded with this woman. I got a good portion of self esteem back a while ago, but I still wasn't right. I wanted to know why I was comfortable shutting out everything and everybody, and retreating into my own little cave. You explained why in this course, and your assessment is spot on with my situation as a child. As I look back at my past, I always attracted these types, only not as horrific as this one in particular. People pleaser much bro? LOL Yeh, I was/am. But now I realize it, and with that I can learn not to make the same mistakes. I received a call, or what I call a reconnaissance by fire, from my X about a month after I started your course. 2 calls went to voice mail saying she has put me on a life insurance policy of hers, implying she's in dire health. I didn't reply and went on with my day because I learned from your course that she was manipulating, and I said Non serviam. She called repeatedly a dozen more times over the next 4 hours. Finally the last call she left a shitty message stating I'm not that cool and a dickhead. I was rolling laughing, and would have hugged you if you were here. I would have never ignored those calls, thinking she was ill if I hadn't learned too from your course. Thanks for that. Lastly, you'll laugh to hear that when I'm in an insomniac state. I play your affirmations and inner dialogue meditation tracks, and they knock me the fuck out. It has work many times now. I'm still a work in progress, but I'm happier and in a better place now then I was a couple months ago. Looking to download your assertiveness course as well when I find the link. Thanks again and I dig the new doo. Stan

@RICHARDGRANNON

9 жыл бұрын

" I would have never ignored those calls, thinking she was ill if I hadn't learned too from your course. Thanks for that." Excellent progress sir, well done! "Lastly, you'll laugh to hear that when I'm in an insomniac state. I play your affirmations and inner dialogue meditation tracks, and they knock me the fuck out. It has work many times now. " A lot of people say that, Im really struggling with insomnia right now, I might try it. Bit creepy listening to my own voice but if it switches me off I'll give it a go! Cheers :)

i never knew about personality disorders till couple yrs ago seemed after retirement -the shtf-and i wondered how i got my self into this and looked for help-now at 72 its pretty hard to walk away-money is tight-no family no friends and county/state dont take care of elderly for long-but i have had to actually guard my life carefully-i find your video here of the best help-my software was definitely damaged andd i was way too naive-the hard thing about covert narc-is most of time you dont find out till much damage is done-i appreciate this video and thank you for your help.this was an AHA ! moment for me.

@hang-sangitch

8 жыл бұрын

+LAKE LEMON More power to you you! Well done for still working to sort these issues at this stage in your life, we all have them but not everyone faces them. Congrats! :)

I just wanted to say thank you to you for making these videos.

Yes, your videos definitely help mate. This is great work.

Extremely inspiring!!!Thank you.

Yes, please keep up the videos...I only found you recently and it's really helping me as I don't know much about it but am recovering from a 36 yr marriage with a narcissist.

Thank you, Richard, you´ve saved my soul ...

Informative, interesting and in spite of such a heavy topic, even funny. I love your way of presenting it.

Thank you so much for the course. It really helps me a lot and also to heal myself. I publish another video about how to deal with a narcissist in the church. All your videos and record I repeated again so that I can remember them.

Thank you so much for what you do! You've no idea how helpful it is to hear someone explain things I can't put into words. In an entertaining way. Bonus! I love pop culture. So that works.

love your work rich. i don't suffer really from any of these problems you talk about but it gives me great insight into how and why people around me behave the way they do.

thankyou for putting your heart out there .. you may not realize how much you help .. and maybe you dont need to .. but thankyou.. you have helped me to understand this chaos .. to cope with where it has taken me and to find my way out .. thankyou so much

I laughed and learned watching this . Thank you so much

I'm overcoming as well, slowly but surely. Thanks for your videos.