I was so busy thinking about the future that i forgot to live in the present and always putting things off that i wanted to do for another time

@Lia-fe4lj

3 жыл бұрын

I was literally just saying this the other day. I’m learning to live in the present.

@ValerieChigbata

3 жыл бұрын

Guilty. Any tips on how to live in the present?

@Lia-fe4lj

3 жыл бұрын

@@ValerieChigbata I’m not there yet but I’ll give u tips on how I started. First step is therapy, this is a form of anxiety and may need professional help. The next tips are more for enhancing your present life and taking your mind off the future.Try to pick up new hobbies, travel to different places, do things outside normal routine, try to be busy, practice mindfulness. During covid, I picked up different hobbies and honestly, I felt happier and didn’t spend much time obsessing on the future. For traveling, I recommend starting out slow and just going to a different city or a unknown area close to you to explore. For me, I often start to think about the future because I feel stagnant in my present situation and everyday life. I try to do different things outside of my normal routine to keep changing things up and keep that monster away. Not having anything to do allows time for you to think about the future and think yourself into depression or into anxiety, try to do things to keep your mind and body occupied. Lastly mindfulness. I’m not even going to lie to you, I have no idea how to practice mindfulness. I more so focus on my self love, self image, and self esteem. One of the reasons I think ahead a lot is because I want to be “better”. I take note of things that I think would be better in the future and focus on things that I like about present me.

@Lia-fe4lj

3 жыл бұрын

I came to this conclusion during covid actually( quarter life crisis). I realized one of my flaws is I can never enjoy present moments and when they pass, I miss them. In 2018, I studied abroad in Spain. I never been out the country and Its Spain so you would think I would be enjoying myself and wilding out. Nope. Outside of summer classes, some friendly meetups, and mandatory group events, I spent a lot of my time sleeping. Even my host mom got on me about it but I still wasted a lot of my time sleeping. This is a reoccurring issue in my life, I been taking long naps since middle school and they have only gotten longer since then. It started out with two hours of napping the poorer my mental health became, the longer I would sleep. There would be days I would sleep the rest of the day away. I quite literally slept my life away, the time I used for napping could have been used for creating moments and different life experiences. When I was in middle school, high school, and college, I hated it for different reasons, but now that it’s over, I kinda miss those parts of my life. Yes, I realized that I been hitting on more of depression than anxiety so let me get back on topic. Whenever I wasn’t sleeping, I was obsessing with the future. Obsessing with my future, I would become frustrated and mentally tired causing me to take a “ depression nap”. The thing is, depression and anxiety thrive off each other and creates a dangerous cycle. Back to the Spain example, when I wasn’t wasting time napping I was getting in the way of my own happiness by thinking about the near future, the far future, steps I needed to take, the impeding doom of death( why, idk🤷🏾‍♀️), losing a loved one, and just simply not enjoying my current situation.

@franciscauju5034

3 жыл бұрын

Dear I sat on that table and it hurts how much I missed. Now I be decided to leave in the present.

A relationship with God is the best, most authentic relationship you will ever have!🙏🏾 It’s amazing that you started on your journey in your early 20’s. You’re doing so great 💕👏🏾

@ShanerraBrooks

3 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you❤️ agreed

@Fatima-rz9vt

3 жыл бұрын

💯💯‼️‼️‼️‼️

@CleeraNeshay

3 жыл бұрын

GOD is #1 always!! YES YES YES

@nemonaalem4471

3 жыл бұрын

In early 30's also don't you think??? Or this it to late?

1.Get a Therapist 2.Start Praying and building a Relationship with God 3.Ditch Toxic Friends and stop being Toxic yourself 4.Set boundaries 5. Love yourself first before loving others 6.Change your mindset 7. Focus on the present She broke it down really well so would recommend anyone reading this to watch the video. Tremendously inspiring

@veetee4826

3 жыл бұрын

how to develop a relationship with god? does god even exist ?

@danahalmotawa5325

3 жыл бұрын

@@veetee4826 that’s a pretty deep question I’m not sure if you should take any KZread comment as an answer I believe that’s an answer you should find out your self through reading research or getting into discussions with people that you trust and think that they can really help you in finding the right answer, I have an answer but again it’s what I personally believe, so make sure to settle on an answer that you truly believe in and to know why you do. Excuse me poor English I tried my best. Good luck

@shadinewitter405

3 жыл бұрын

@@veetee4826 Trust me God does exist.I am a living testimony to that.I will be praying for u that get an experience of him in your own life.

@Mary-dk7mc

3 жыл бұрын

Danah is right but speaking from experience. God is real, The God of The Bible I mean.

@Fatima-rz9vt

3 жыл бұрын

@@Mary-dk7mc God wrote the Torah, Bible, then Quran as the last and finalized book.

❤️❤️❤️At 36 I’m learning to stop wearing the mask! Breaking my perfectionist mindset and live! Great content!

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️

@lexi6797

3 жыл бұрын

I am 35 and going through the same process. Boundaries, spirituality, therapist and all. Best of success to you all.

@cpeacenlove

3 жыл бұрын

I'm 37...same...

@sabrinanolan3175

3 жыл бұрын

Just thank you for this video 🙏🏾❤️

@akaHobbs

3 жыл бұрын

Definitely going through this same “awakening”. 30s glow up!

I honestly can relate to this whole video. The 20s can be so dark, I am glad that you took charge and turned your life around.

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you !

I am a Licensed Therapist and I commend you on the content you shared in this video. I hope an exponential amount of young people come by this video. It will surely help them. Keep up the good work!

Watching this at 18, I am ready to put my past behind me. I had to move out of my home at 17 due to a toxic negative household. This doesn’t come easy to me, but i’m trying & learning. It’s not easy💗 God bless Youre beautiful girl

There is just so much peace in knowing and loving God. The joy and peace that comes from that can’t be compared to any . My joy comets from the Lord. Even when things are not going your way , you trust and believe everything happens fro a reason and a season. God knows best. 🙏🏾

The topic was so authentic and perfect timing. I’m currently on my spiritual journey(growth) and seeking God more. Octavia you’ve grown to be your best version authentically! Thanks for sharing Blessings ♥️

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your kind words! You got this ❤️

That “appearance” one hit me! People would always remark how I seemed mean and they didn’t even know me. I felt like that was there problem but I now realize it’s how I come off and it doesn’t hurt to soften. It was just my way of self protection

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

I feel this a 1000% So true

I finally began my healing journey last year. I've watched my entire life change for the better over the last 12 months. Prayer, meditation, forgiving myself and others, setting boundaries (with Everyone), consistent yoga/exercise, setting goals then following up with action and expecting to be supported and protected in every conceivable way has ver literally changed my reality. Thank you sincerely for being so open and honest about your path!

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

Yassss love this ❤️

@TishaMoriah

3 жыл бұрын

This sounds like the journey im currently on, its not hard but I know it will be worth it

I loved this video. Paused it to seek a black woman therapist. We take on so much and think it's important to just hold it all together on our own. The strongest thing to do is realize you don't and accept help.

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

Love this! This is true

@mrs.dillon8587

3 жыл бұрын

What if you do accept help but it actually doesn’t help you because “the help” really didn’t touch basis on what you vented / tried to receive help about...

@praisehonorfaith7293

3 жыл бұрын

@@mrs.dillon8587 drop them and seek someone else

@jashaehall154

3 жыл бұрын

I say see a man therapist if you really want your money’s worth. May God bless your journey babe 💕

@purpleviolet9046

3 жыл бұрын

@@jashaehall154 Really? A male therapist?

When i tell you this video spoke to me on so many levels. I’m turning 30 next week and i definitely needed to see this. I’m so ready for change...positive change that is. I can’t wait to start this new journey. Thank you so much Octavia ❤️

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

You got this! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for watching & for the support

Learning to put your self first is a never ending journey that I have to constantly remind my self of. Thanks so much for sharing Octavia.

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

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So glad I stumbled on to this video. I am in my sixties and I have to say I am so impressed with the generations coming up. And you are a perfect example. You sure have figured out a lot in your twenty-six years. Thanks for the help. It was just what I needed to hear.

I’m in tears right now because I’m also in my early 20s. I resonate with the internalized suffering and fragility. I thank God that you created this video. Thank you Octavia🤍

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Aww you got this , I promise you

I just love how your channel feels like a family. Self-care and wellness have been top of my priorities the past few years and the results have been amazing 🤎

I love everything this video has to offer. Growth and the neutral background 👍🏾

I took this journey of finding self love and eliminating negative energy out of my life a couple of years ago and it was the best decision I made. So happy you’re on this journey, trust me once you look back at your progress, it feels so rewarding. Awesome video 🥰🥰

Also adding that “Boundaries” book to my tbr 2021 list !

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!

@tiyyas3022

3 жыл бұрын

Same!

idk how i stumbled across this but i'm so glad i did. i'm 21 and can relate heavily, i'm trying to navigate letting go of bad habits and limiting mindsets so i can become the best version of myself. def would love a part 2!

I am 51 years old,and listening to a wonderful young lady like you for the very first time in 2021:Thanks Kelly stamps for cheering me up on 3/7/21:

I needed this video so much 😭 I just turned 30 last year and I've been feeling horrible about myself. Everything that people say you are supposed to accomplish by age 30, is completely out of the window for me. I've made a lot of mistakes and working on recovery now. Having a relationship with God is very essential. Just like you, I've found myself not going to church anymore - but in my case, I'm outgrowing tradition. I'll be starting therapy again soon. I'm so proud of you for beginning your journey in your 20s. Thank you for your transparency! You're beautiful 🥰 New subbie 💕

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

Aww you got this ✨❤️

@paranthamanv5609

2 жыл бұрын

age is not matters you can do anything whatever you want to do

It takes a lot of courage to make a video like this. Glad you posted it!! 😊

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

So true I’ve made this video so many times

When I read the boundaries book the hard part for me was implementing it in established relationships. Like my marriage and my relationship with my mom were tough but i became happier and eventually others realized and my well-being took priority

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

That’s great! Boundaries were definitely the hard part for me as well

@Bint_Khadijah

2 жыл бұрын

Pls can you recommend the books on boundaries

OG subscriber but never comment Bc my shyness😂😂😂❤️ Being 18 I was tired of the ratchet side of KZread and octavia really became my YT big sis. Helping with my feminine and self love side. Will be using these tips

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

Awww thank you so much

I can definitely relate to having my family be a huge motivator to live. Thinking about them hurting hurts me more than ambivalence about life. Really loving the transparency here! 💕💕

Yess. I started therapy too and pray more too

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

That’s awesome! You’ll get through this , just be consistent

@myriamwilliams

3 жыл бұрын

Therapy changed my life for the better and also brought me closer to God 🙌🙌.

I'm happy you were able to recognize that you needed therapy. I'm in my early 30s but I experienced the exact same thing in my early 20s but sadly, I let it persist. Glad to be past it now but I do have my moments where I wish I would've gotten it together sooner. Better late than never though :) Cant wait to see where this journey takes you. Keep inspiring!

I learned to change my life by praying to God more and giving my life to him and being more focused on what he thinks about me. A relationship with God is what’s helped me.

Listen, we sometimes say that God doesn't speak to us because we don't hear an audible voice, BUT GOD speaks in different ways and through different avenues. God has truly used you to minister to me through your video. Your OLD life is EXCATLY where I am RIGHT NOW in my life and have struggled with the the SAME attitudes and behaviors even down to being unapproachable or not likeable person. This video is God speaking directly to me concerning my life right where I am TODAY, AND showing me how much time I have wasted, where I should have been 5yrs ago and how God will raise up another to do what you were DESTINED to do, what you were WILLED, what you were PURPOSED to do. Octavia, thank you for sharing, thank you for being open, thank you for being strong. I just want to encourage you sister, you are walking in your destiny, fulfilling your God ordained purpose. Sis you are Blessed and EVERYTHING you touch will prosper. Praises to GOD who is a KEEPER !

A beautiful reminder that we can evolve and become a better version of ourselves always.. Thank you for sharing your journey Queen..

The Power of Positive Thinking is also a great book. I have been watching you and just love who you are as a person

Girl, AMEN!! I just started setting boundaries in my life and people aren’t happy about it. - I have anxiety too! But, I am feeling a lot better and that’s all that matters for me! 🙌🏾❤️

Girl you are preaching!! Can totally relate to everything in this video!! LOVE

this video was on time. thank you for sharing queen - so blessed by this! ❤️

Putting you first is very important Thais is a journey I have been through and came to a conscious decision to put me first to give out my best. I have five kids and nothing stops me from doing what makes me happy because I have to be happy to be a good wife mom friend etc God is the ultimate

I’m so happy that you put in the work to love & cherish yourself, and came out stronger, happier and healthier Lil Sis!

Thank you for sharing and being so open and vulnerable. Keep shining your light!

I LOVED this video!! Thank you sooo much for sharing this part of yourself!!

"Love yourself enough for everybody else!" - Thank you, I needed that! ❤️🙏🏻

Yes part 2 please... love the PJ's its giving grown and mature vibes

Thank you so much. Thank you for this. A lot of us are in this space. When you inside is calm, happy and fulfilled it shows on the outside. I am thankful that I got the chance to listen to this. Thanks 😊

I can relate to all this. Thank you for being open!

Good for you for recognizing that you wanted to grow and putting in the work. Self work is not an easy thing, but starting and sticking with therapy is definitely helpful 🥰

This video is literally what I’m going through now. Thank you for sharing!

Thank you so much for this beautiful soul, I've already watched this video a couple of times & took notes! This is just what I needed! I would highly appreciate a part 2 whenever you are ready, no rush

Thank you so much for sharing your testimony and your journey!!!

Becoming a better version of oneself is very important. So proud of the lady you are . you inspire me alot❤❤

This video was absolutely fantastic. Thank you for sharing your experience with such honesty and rawness.

This was so awesome. I really needed this Octavia♥️♥️ God bless you 🙏🏽🙏🏽

Thank you for sharing this Octavia! Definitely can relate ! I pray for your continued success and happiness 🤗

May God be with you love...Your too beautiful to have a negative mindset and I am soooo glad that you was able to turn everything around, because your too beautiful to be stressing. Glad you have a support team to push you through boo. Self love is always the key!!

This was absolutely beautiful to watch. You are so special & I am proud of you.

I can’t thank you enough for this video, I watch it all the time as a reminder!

Thank you for putting this out there and being so vulnerable with you audience. You couldn’t have said it any better or clearer. I hope everyone gets to see this and understand that everyone has a journey and it’s what they take from it, that truly defines who they are and who they become.

Thank you for bringing awareness to this topic, as a culture we don’t really talk about this. I’m proud of your growth and I’m looking forward to Part 2. This made my day!!! 😃

I love this video, very cozy and I feel safe here💕 I’m glad you’re in a healthy space now and you’re still here💕🌺

Yesssss! All of these tips are on point. Thank you for your transparency sis🙏🏽

I came across your channel today & I instantly subbed! I love your personality and the way you come off ! Keep exuding peace & positivity

I’m so happy you pushed through and into an healthier space. God loves you and we do too! 🤍🤍🤍

This was such a real video. I’m sure a lot of ppl needed this testimony 🙌🏾 continue being a light Octavia ❤️

glad that youre still here!! This video was so inspiring, literally everything i needd

Thanks for the transparency Octavia, your uploads are truly inspirational. Keep doing the dang thing goodie!

This talk really hit home. I really had to walk away from some friends and even family members in order to gain a more positive outlook. I’m so glad you posted this!

I love this video!! Different but very much needed. Therapy is so important and I always encourage my friends to see therapists when I can see them going through a tough season in their life.

I love this video 💕 love your honesty and so glad you pulled through the tough times.

Yes please! I am waiting for part 2. Loved all the tips, thank you❤️

Thank you so much for being vulnerable with us! You are a light in a dark place! You are doing an amazing job! I pray you continue to just get better and continue to evolve! This video has an important message!

I really enjoyed this video. Yes girl prayer is so powerful! The friends part and the acceptance part really hit a chord.

Seriously thank you for this video! I’m working on myself as we speak and your tips definitely helped me push forward❤️

Such an amazing video! I love the way you broke each and every step you took to grow and change...very helpful and honest....thank you ❤️

More power to you for doing all the inner work! I know it was not easy

Proud of you for putting in the work in yourself. And my family kept me going as well so I definitely understand why you were crying. 🤗

I would’ve never thought you were that type of person, I’m happy you were able to overcome that obstacle in life. I’m trying to become a better person as well, that’s why I always say you inspire me❤️ thank you bringing light to other peoples lives. I just placed the order for this book too.

This was awesome, touched on so many similar areas. thanks for sharing!

This was good we appreciate u opening up

You can’t tell you have a speech impediment at all ❤️ this video actually inspires me, as I’m working on overcoming my speech impediment, and adore how clearly you speak 🙂 thank you for this video!

Thank you for sharing your story! And thank you for sticking around ♥️

I love the part about being in the moment and being present. Life can change in such amazing ways if we learn to be in the moment. It makes our relationship with ourself and others SO much more authentic.

I am speechless! This is the exact process I am going through right now!

I'm happy you made changes and you're still here!!! Therapy is very effective! I was always a glass half empty kinda person which really creates unnecessary strain in your life. Therapy helped me focus on things I can control and moving forward even when things happen that I can't control. Time moves no matter what you do so you can harp on your problems and live your life being negative or you can focus on solutions. As long as you're alive and healthy there's time to recover. Great video!!

This gives me hope currently going through a hard time and negative head space and it seems never ending.

Thank you so much for this video!! It has really helped guide me on what I need to improve and how to better myself and live the happiest life I can

I've literally been doing all the things you've mentioned except for therapy which I'm actually starting tomorrow! I can't wait!

Love this, ❤❤❤❤❤❤, Love this. Many young women need to hear this. I too am going through this process. It's a little harder because it involves potentially walking away from a 10 year marriage and moving out of state with 2 young children. Thank you hon, for being transparent and vulnerable. You are super amazing. God bless you ans i wish you success. Yes to part 2/3/4.....lol

Just came across your video. Loved it. Your video was perfect timing! Thank you so much and continue to be a light in our community!

Octavia!! I love you! This video was everything.❤️ so happy for you and I love the randomness of how your accent pops out!! I just heart you and I hear you girlie. Thanks for this!

I never really comment on videos but I loved this video, definitely showing my young teenage daughter, she reminds me of you. Thank you

I think u r amazing u helped me gain a lot of confident in my self and I am 31 keep up thè good job it would be amazing if u did a part two on this topic

This was just what I needed to start my morning! Thank you so much ☺️

Very helpful. Thank you for being so relatable and open. You're truly a gem! 💗✨

My God!!! This has blessed me tremendously! I can relate and I started these practices at the beginning of the year and I am so much better. Therapy, exercise, changing my mindset, and thoughts have REALLY been essential. I'm getting this book! Thank you!

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

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Octavia is indeed my fave NOTIFICATION. Every piece if advice in this video is golden. You are such a mogul for young women!

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

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Such an amazing message! 🤍 Thank you so much for sharing. God bless you x

Thank you so much 🤎🤍🤎🤍!! Your video was recommended to me and I couldn’t be more grateful! Thank you for sharing 🙏🏾

Yes! This is what I’m doing now.... setting boundaries. Boundaries is a great book. Thank you for sharing!

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

Tysm for watching ❤️

the first thought I had when I saw this opening was...wow, I love the aesthetics in this video. Love the decor/background, your pj's, your makeup, the lighting and camera. Beautiful. Also, love your voice and the way you speak!

@OctaviaB

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

Octavia my girl, you are the realist. Love you and bless you for sharing this.

Thank you so much for sharing your story! I have felt like this in high school for sure but God is good! 🙏🏽