Being more feminine and soft has been a beautiful journey for me. It’s changed my perspective on my daily life and my future. It’s also made me feel a bit more happy with myself. I love who it’s making me become

He who angers you, conquers you. Thats one of the most important things I learned in my life and it’s very true.

I'm not gonna lie I really identified with being aggressive. As a Jamaican woman born and raised, we don't have many ultra-feminine role models and we are raised to be very aggressive, fiesty and all of the above but as I have entered the beginning of my 30s I have the strong desire to be soft and just a more calming and warm spirit for myself and others

@186hamilton

2 жыл бұрын

same here

@jddouet5192

2 жыл бұрын

Me too girl. My mom is very masculine in her ways (not looks) and Im trying very hard to become more feminine

@nikkiwoon

2 жыл бұрын

Hi, As a Jamaican woman born and raised as well, I totally identify with what you are saying. Having gone to an all girl High School, I can now she that they were grooming us to be feminine but we didn’t appreciate that way of life as we should have. I had to learn a lot about femininity here on KZread. However, it’s never to late to learn 😊

@shanieacampbell7577

2 жыл бұрын

@@nikkiwoon same! i Also went to an all-girl school and they were definitely grooming us and we just didn't want to conform lol haha but now I wish I did

@kraziikiim

2 жыл бұрын

@@shanieacampbell7577 same lol. Went to an all girl high school in Half Way Tree and the principal use to preach to us and in my head I'm saying this didnt apply to me because I wanted to be a sketel🤣🤣💀💀

I am so proud of this Afro women community of sharing knowledge on how to look good eat healthy and mentally be free!

1. I want to be more feminine to balance my energies and in a flow state. I want to care for myself and others. I also want to feel more calm and at peace. 2. Get a routine. Wake up earlier and do a little workout 3. A better wardrobe clean things up look more polished neutral colors 4. Make up routine (less is more) skin care routine body care routine 5. attitude how u carry urself and speak grace and power maintain composure 6. cleanliness hygiene and environment 7. Vulnerability open to love open to help open to compliments 8.

@Dahmer_Jeff

Жыл бұрын

What's #8

it’s perfectly OK to not always “be strong”, most especially as a WOC. Resting in your femininity is powerful. 🥂

You’ve indeed influenced me on so many levels. The way you dress, talk, and carry yourself just calls for respect and appreciation. You are so elegant Octavia. So delicate (in the best way). One can tell you actually love yourself. Thanks for the inspiration gorgeous

Channel my inner Octavia the other day ! Dress up inna mi black sweat suit with a coat and shades and step tru target like mi a celebrity

@Username0029

2 жыл бұрын

This comment took me out!! I FEEL YOU SAM

@OctaviaB

2 жыл бұрын

Woiiiiiii yes I’m love this ✨🤍

@ashana876

2 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️ YOU BETTER STRUT GIRLY

@luckyhall741

2 жыл бұрын

Your a Hall like myself 🙌🏽

I watched this with my nine yr old .. I want her to see we can simply be women instead of the stereotype of either angry or vixen … as opposed to our counterparts that are simply always seen as feminine by nature , great video Octavia

@ericamoore7128

2 жыл бұрын

Hats off to you!! I'm sure trying to raise a girl in this day and time is hard because it's so many different things that young girls have to deal with!!

@janas_portfolio

2 жыл бұрын

counterparts? there are more races than just two, you know?

@ericamoore7128

2 жыл бұрын

@@janas_portfolio does counterparts mean 2?

@janas_portfolio

2 жыл бұрын

@@ericamoore7128 Yes. Definition: 1) a person or thing holding a position or performing a function that corresponds to that of another person or thing in another place. 2)one of two or more copies of a legal document.

We all embody both feminine and masculine energies. The key is finding balance. We live in a world where masculine energy is in excess. We need to lean into the feminine and do things that keep as ‘soft’.

I started my feminine journey years ago and had some of the same issues that you stated. Growing up in Chicago as protection many girls like myself felt we had to be hard so no one would bother us and in turn resulted in us struggling with vulnerability. Being feminine has truly changed my life for the better and I’m happy to see more and more black women are spreading the message. Thanks for sharing the practical tips because I feel practicality is important.

@ayannashipp8786

2 жыл бұрын

This is soooo true. It’s like a second nature to us!

Such great advice, and timely too! Just today, I was carrying a bunch of bags and heavy items into a building where a gentlemen offered me a hand. I instinctively said no even though I clearly could have used the help and would have actually appreciated it lol, plus he was quite handsome. I immediately regretted it because being open to receiving help has been on my list of self improvement for a while! But, I figure, each time is practice and the fact that I was mindful about how I could’ve reacted instead shows some growth. There’s always next time!

@taniadenise5145

Жыл бұрын

I have been in moments like that also and saying, actually I would love that after we have said no is still possible to redeem that moment & recreate it. Men love it so appreciating them will make their day!!!

I want to be more feminine because for a while now I have been choosing myself. I gree up thinking I wasn’t beautiful, but that was before. I know I am, and I wanna prove love to myself by taking better care of myself and feeling more feminine

@teammotivation1952

Жыл бұрын

Exactly that's how I feel I want look in the mirror and say woow I look good😊 never said that to my self😔

Octavia, since watching your videos, I have elevated my overall look. From my hair, nails, makeup, etc. Thank you because I have received so many compliments about my overall growth. Like everyone can tell the difference. Thank you for being a representation for black women. I love it. You’re my favorite KZreadr- many blessings to you.

I want to tap into my feminine energy more because I grew up the same, a very hard tough environment and I felt like I always needed to be firm. My soul is screaming for me to settle into my femininity and I’m ready for this journey for me!!!

You look EXTRA gorgeous in this one, Octavia!! Loving the bob, and the white look. Totally agree - neutral colors always look good, and make dressing well much easier. I always preach that when giving style tips. The photos you showed were givinggg. Loved, loved this video!! ❤

I love that you are sharing these tips with the young ladies.. This is so important. It reminds me of how my granny taught me to present myself. Big up yourself 🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲

Not going to fight you lol but I did try the neutral thing for so long. It's so interesting because adding colours like pink, red and yellow to my wardrobe has made me feel WAY more feminine than my usual black, white and grey clothes. I love being a bit brighter and it does make me feel beautiful. Also, block heels and ankle straps have been a game changer for high heels, which I always thought I couldn't wear! Love your first point that you have to do it for yourself! It's so true. Great video 🤩

I am with you when it comes to having a clean space you feel so much better inside. I make it a habit to make my bed every morning and tidy up my room before work (I work from home) and it makes me feel so good inside.

@nicolataylor536

2 жыл бұрын

I do the same..

Loved this video & your tips are always on point. The having a neutral palette for your clothes is 100% true to feeling more feminine. Im a mom of 2 & no matter what I still go for neutral clothes since they never go out of style & feel like im being stylist. Also loved your tip about being vulnerable especially in the latin culture were always taught to be very independent but im truly loving being vulnerable & showing others that I struggle too & learning to accept help has been a game changer.

That last tip on being Vulnerable is everything!!!! I recently moved to the U.S to work and the initial set of people I lived with made it so uncomfortable (they wanted to charge me money, even for the bed I slept on and to use the items in the kitchen). I am now in my new apartment and I am receiving so much help from people who care.... sometimes I feel so overwhelmed by all this help, I even broke down in tears this morning.....all because of pride and me thinking that I'm too much at the moment for others. Being vulnerable is truly hard especially for strong women. Thanks for these tips Octavia. I am open to learning and becoming the upgraded ME!

@nicolataylor536

2 жыл бұрын

Glad u are in a much better place🙏🏿

Attitude is most important. Bad attitude in a pretty dress ain’t it.

Thank you so much for this video, you made a very valid point. Personal style will always come with time. Last I made a decision to stop fixing my nails, simply because I didn’t find them cute anymore. Also, deculter my wardrobe to suit the woman, I am becoming.

💯 agreed; staying with neutral colors are great and also minimal makeup 🙌🏾

Everything about being a woman I love

I have recently started this journey for MYSELF. And I love it so far. Im so much happier with myself and iv'e built so much more confidence. So glad you made this video. Thank you so much!

I feel like being raised is in Jamaican household can make a child/person miserable. My childhood has always made me questioned who I am? And what the heck am I doing? But bae, your videos have definitely help me understand that i’m not alone. Thanks for sharing. ❤️

Grew up in survival mode without any female role models in my life. It was always just me, my dad and my brother so I have very strong masculine energy. Recently started trying to get into my feminine energy and I've already noticed some changes like keeping my room cleaner/neater and over all it just makes me feel better

Love your videos, Octavia! Came across your channel last year, as I decided I wanted to be more intentional in my aesthetic and creating space to care for myself in ways I’ve been neglecting (like getting enough sleep, reading, praying intentionally). I’m also Jamaican and raised by a mostly single grandmother and later mostly single mother. My grandmother was tough. And although my mom often embodied feminine energy (in her style and manner of speaking), I saw her harden over the years as she worked longer hours, slept less, and felt the need to do everything on her own as a single mother. I started to notice similar patterns in myself as I transitioned from an entrepreneur to a more corporate role where I work longer hours and felt I had to become somewhat more sterile/direct and say everything with a period at the end. Self-awareness and willingness to evolve are such important parts of this journey. Agree with all your tips here. Thank you for sharing!

I just want to say I absolutely love your hair like this. The short curly bob fits you so well!

this video came at just the right time. ive been more intentional about prioritizing many of these items and ive been loving how it makes me feel. plus, that if it’s not for me, it’s gone is a whole mood! soft life only 🥰✨

The most btfl,adorable Octavia,you have no idea how you have helped me.Your videos help me to love myself so much and embrace every piece of myself.not to forget to be more classy even though I was raised to be a very classy person by culture,when I moved to America I changed.Thank you my love

I’ll be honest. Im in a house full of boys and I literally started to dress just to get though the day. I love your feminine style and honestly these types of videos has been helping gain my confidence again. I love your channel on a whole. 💖💖💖

@KimIsSoDope

2 жыл бұрын

Same

Thank you Octavia!!! Because of you, I started my KZread journey. You’re super inspirational!!❤️

The video last year that you made on this topic is how I came to adore you. ❤️ Literally applying some of your tips have been a game changer.

Started following you when you were 24 and now ur 27 lol time flies. Your videos have helped me throughout my journey and while, I’m still working on my habits and sometimes regress - these videos remind me of the kind of woman I want to be. Thank you!

Hello my love, I actually love the tips that you gave, I'm a huge fan of your video because I feel relate to you, specially when you speak about the first step. I had an aggressive past full of pain, and I build a big wall. Hopefully, I changed, and I share my feminine journey on my KZread channel. Happy to see that we have things in commons. Carry on ! 😘

You’re stunning! Your skin. Everything. I gasped

I Wanna Thank You So Much Octavia 😌 . You Have Really Been An Eye Opener To Me . I Have Been Watching You Consistently For Some Time Now . & I Have Seen Some Drastic Changes In Myself 😄 . You Have Inspired Me To Be More Feminine 💕 . I've Always Felt That I Had To Be This Tough Hard Person & I've Noticed That Tapping Into That Masculinity Energy Is So Draining 😩 . I Have Two Little Girls That Are Looking Up To Me & I Want Them To See & Know It's Ok To Be Feminine & For Them To Truly Love Them & To Always Look Upon Themselves As Ladies 🦋🤍 . You Have Been Such An Inspiration ☺️

Your top and look is highly sophisticated🌸. Love it. Keep doing what you do best Octavia. You are inspiring so many of us, myself included. I sincerely have a deep appreciation for your content wether it's on KZread or Instagram ☺

I like how you encouraged us to put our own style and spin on it!

Hi . Great video. Thank you for this. I especially like the comment about not "being drawn out" and not reacting or responding to negativity.x

That short cut is everything !

Always looking forward to your videos they brighten my day or night ! And I'm always trying to be more feminine. Getting into a routine has definitely been my most struggle area.

Octavia I love when you make these types of videos! Very relating and authentic. Love you girl ♥️

You’re an inspiration. Love it 🤍

Love this . Thanks Octavia for sharing 😊🤍🌸🎀

Unlearning reacting .............When I feel triggered, I pull back from the situation, reflect and respond.

Got to say I'm glad and happy to be influenced by you. Thank you so much Octavia for changing my life in a positive way🤍

I love that if it doesn't serve then no need to respond

I’m glad I found this video . I subscribed immediately. I have been slowly stepping into being more feminine and I can see results . It’s a process tho nothing happens over night. I decided that no matter where I went I wanted to look nice and put together even if it’s jeans a tshirt . I loved full beat makeup and big lashes but I’ve taugh myself how to do softer makeup and I like it . Big hoops but I like smaller ones now too.I still like full beat depending on the occasion . Invested in fragrances Tht smell amazing and working on my wardrobe. But that’s just the outside. Still working on the inner feminine me .

Thanks Octavia!! I love how you also focused on the internal!! I also come from a JA family and naturally I can be defensive to protect myself. I always have to remind myself to be gentle with my husband🤍. Not everything has to be aggressive. Lmao especially when others aren’t used to it. They look at you crazy😂

So true about the clean space. Exactly what I am teaching my daughter. 💕

Changing makeup and clothes has made me famine and I’m loving it

love embracing my femininity. 🌹♥️

Tree new video this week!!! I’m screamingggggg you have no idea how much I look forward to that

You’re so beautiful Octavia. I always enjoy your videos and love it when I put Jamaican accent just sprinkles through. Love from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤️

You are awesome - and loving that hair style on you! Wishing you Love, Peace & Blessings.

So glad you touched on vulnerability because that really is such a huge part of being feminine i.e. recieiving. I really enjoyed this as I'm trying to tap more into my feminine energy.

Always great to be reminded 🙏🏽

Love when you make these level up videos 💛

Gah! I can listen to you talk all day! Love the points made

Loved this video! It’s you living in your truth for me 🤍🕊

Great Tips! Love these type of videos!! ❤️

This is so helpful to me at 50yrs old mom thank you 😊 🙏🏾❤️ beautiful tips👏🏾

I’m a transgender woman, and this help me so bad. Especially being suicidal and stuff. This video really HELP ME SO MUCH SERIOUSLY. I have the worst insecurities in the world. Thank you so muchhhhhh

@meditationmama70

2 жыл бұрын

The world needs you. We love you and thank you for being here.

@OctaviaB

2 жыл бұрын

aww sorry to hear! im very happy this helped

You look amazing, vibrantly gorgeous! Thank you for this clip!❤🙌🏾🌻

Vulnerability makes you more human & relatable.

Octavia to be honest, me being looking clean and simple n put together is something I learnt from u.u have been helping me alot by me learning a lot of things from u.thank u so much .I am liking this other side of me lately. Thanks Girl.

I simply loooooved the haircut!

I clicked this immediately because I admire your Grace and I'm trying to be more feminine as the day go by. So let's learn. BTW, you look so stunning and chic.

Thank you for posting this💓

I love your tips, thank you for your time and energy ✨

After all these years watching you ....... I just found out you're a yaaaddddiiiieeee !! This video is so educational. Thank you

Such great tips. To have these tips down as a young QUEEN is so beautiful. I really want to get a realistic routine down for myself in the morning & night- I strongly believe it will help me overall (You are so right about that discipline mindset)-THANK YOU🤎

Thank you for another great video. I watched your previous video on being feminine and thoroughly enjoyed and learnt from it and now this one as well. I just realize I wasn’t subscribed but I just did 😊. I also had no idea you were Jamaica. Big up yourself! Keep these videos coming 🇯🇲

That’s amazing 🤩 Octavia….. I am doing these things and also my little teenage nieces watch you, and it’s amazing how you positively impact their lives ❤❤❤love you

Love this..I relate to aaaall of this! New fave! 💕💕

Woahhh… favorite type of video from our favorite girl. I am ecstatic for this one ❤️

I’m definitely trading this masculine energy that came from no where😩 I don’t want it

@lameens1

2 жыл бұрын

Me and you both! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

1. I'm 35 years old and have been a "tomboy" my entire life. As my children are getting older, I am wanting to tap into my more feminine side and upgrade myself (style, looks, hair, etc)

I love it, "don't draw me out"!❤

I love your hair this way ❤️ beautiful!

My coworker and I went into the unisex bathroom at work and a guy was in there putting on mascara. The minute we walked out she got so upset and said, "why is he more feminine than me? I don't even use mascara". I laughed so

Thankyou so much for sharing, Octavia 😍🥰.

Your makeup is at level 1000%....... you are sooo gorgeous. I need to work on making my makeup look as perfect as yours. I have a long way to go.

I love you.. you are on point about everything! 💕💕💃🏽

Really nice video!!! Octavia you look gorgeous 💞💕💞

Octavia where have you been all my life😭😭 I feel you on the “all beings tough to protect the soft exterior.” I’m ready to be soft, plush, and delicate!

@OctaviaB

2 жыл бұрын

soft life!

That was some very good advice. Thank you 😊 Needed to hear this ❤️

your glowing, your seeing you a happier

Loving the video and your look!

Heyyy Octavia Loved today's video You're an inspiration to us all I loved the look 😍 from the hair to the makeup 💄 to the outfit Sending love 🤍

Am so excited to watch❤

Loving your hair

Thankfully, I have always felt comfortable being ultra feminine. I love being not only a woman, but also being a lady…… Treat yourself like a delicate flower and others will do the same❤️

I really needed this, I also love that you are a Cancer 💜.

You look so PRETTY!!!!

Love the tips and I agree all of these are great ways to be more feminine

Thanks so much for this video ! It's so helpful