How Do You React to the Things That Happen? | Eckhart Tolle

Eckhart shares with us that a bad reaction to things in our life can cause even more problems. It's a response of the ego, and it conditions how you live and experience things.
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  • @vm3016
    @vm30162 жыл бұрын

    Through Eckhart’s teachings, I was able to be present with my dying mother. I intuitively accepted the situation and cherished every moment with her, even as she took her last breath. I was honored to be present for this beautiful and peaceful transition shared by a mother and daughter. Although I grieved, I believe I will be with her again on the other side.

  • @soulstreams333

    @soulstreams333

    2 жыл бұрын

    🙏🏻

  • @storm4515

    @storm4515

    2 жыл бұрын

    ❤️

  • @TerriblePerfection

    @TerriblePerfection

    2 жыл бұрын

    My condolences. I was also present at my mother's death, holding her tiny, warm hand. It's a gift, no? 🥰

  • @vm3016

    @vm3016

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@TerriblePerfection ❤️

  • @renoandjoycepascucci314

    @renoandjoycepascucci314

    2 жыл бұрын

    The last act of LOVE you did for your mother.

  • @bettinarossi7908
    @bettinarossi79083 ай бұрын

    I hope those who find themselves without a home..hear Eckharts words. So life changing.🙏💜

  • @arirenae3864
    @arirenae38642 жыл бұрын

    "Be friendly with the present moment" really hit for me. Thank you..

  • @dannykidwell4271
    @dannykidwell42712 жыл бұрын

    Will Smith needs this teaching.

  • @yvettetorres7829

    @yvettetorres7829

    2 жыл бұрын

    True, but be present for your own Self.

  • @yourcalmplace
    @yourcalmplace2 жыл бұрын

    - I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨

  • @mr.c2485

    @mr.c2485

    2 жыл бұрын

    Is this Joel Osteen?

  • @begoabad5447

    @begoabad5447

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you! Blessings, Peace & Love.

  • @jr6200

    @jr6200

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@mr.c2485 No, I'm Joel

  • @aanchal17aug

    @aanchal17aug

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you 😊

  • @BethellJack

    @BethellJack

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@mr.c2485 oh yeah I got the

  • @agtree1800
    @agtree18002 жыл бұрын

    "Wisdom is the ability to see the totality of a situation, rather than one particular thing"

  • @VishVibezREACTS
    @VishVibezREACTS2 жыл бұрын

    “An emotion is your body's reaction to your mind.” - *🙏🏽ECKHART TOLLE , 💜❤️Your WISDOM KZreadr🌸☀️*

  • @FreeFlow__

    @FreeFlow__

    2 жыл бұрын

    Not true. The emotion, or pain body always comes first. The thought is just an interpretation to that emotion.

  • @soulstreams333

    @soulstreams333

    2 жыл бұрын

    🙏🏻

  • @LucidLivingLL
    @LucidLivingLL2 жыл бұрын

    Being present is the best thing to do when you don't know what to do. Your presence gives you the ability to take in all the circumstances and transform them into conscious expression. Thank you Eckhart -Much love from a growing KZreadr

  • @darkcellador

    @darkcellador

    2 жыл бұрын

    I like your KZread name, created a change in my perspective 🙏🏼💜☮️

  • @LucidLivingLL

    @LucidLivingLL

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@darkcellador thank you! That's the plan 🙏

  • @Alchemystic_Official
    @Alchemystic_Official Жыл бұрын

    Eckhart sums it up brilliantly again. A blueprint for living regardless of what stage in the ascension process you are in. The acturian, andromendan master.

  • @katerusse6173
    @katerusse61732 жыл бұрын

    I like how he stops between the phrases and lets the silence come in)

  • @Parkitloveit
    @Parkitloveit2 жыл бұрын

    I should come here more often. A minute of listening and I’m already relaxed. How could I forget this resource? I’m so grateful for your friendly and peaceful explanations.

  • @user-oo2lb1mh6b

    @user-oo2lb1mh6b

    2 жыл бұрын

    same for me! love him :))..

  • @anderspettersson2179

    @anderspettersson2179

    2 жыл бұрын

    True, true. He’s a source of never ending inspiration as well of love and compassion. Every time I close after watching and listening I’m calm. And present.

  • @AtortAerials

    @AtortAerials

    2 жыл бұрын

    I’m listening because I can’t sleep from bad anxiety hoping his grace can calm me.

  • @Parkitloveit

    @Parkitloveit

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@AtortAerials 🍀🍀🍀

  • @denisehay8895

    @denisehay8895

    2 жыл бұрын

    I feel much the same! Why do I ignore this amazing help?

  • @WernerLangbauer
    @WernerLangbauer2 жыл бұрын

    The BEST 7 Minutes of Eckhart Tolle I ever heard. 7 minutes of essential instruction "how to enounter life happenings with wisdom". ABSOLUTELY GREAT!!! Now I have to practice... Thank you so much Eckhart 🕉️

  • @VishVibezREACTS
    @VishVibezREACTS2 жыл бұрын

    “Don't judge or analyze what you observe. Watch the thought, feel the emotion, observe the reaction.” - *🙏🏽ECKHART TOLLE , 💜🧡Your WISDOM KZreadr🌸☀️*

  • @soulstreams333

    @soulstreams333

    2 жыл бұрын

    🙏🏻

  • @AtortAerials

    @AtortAerials

    2 жыл бұрын

    Easier said than done.

  • @InspectorMortimer
    @InspectorMortimer2 жыл бұрын

    Definitely Not Slapping Anybody 🤟🏼

  • @jzdev8462

    @jzdev8462

    2 жыл бұрын

    Lol Smith will vs rock Chris

  • @kolarz2128

    @kolarz2128

    2 жыл бұрын

    Ha ha ha

  • @QuietlyCurious

    @QuietlyCurious

    2 жыл бұрын

    Ikr this has to be the reason for their choosing today's lesson 🙂

  • @Alphacentauri819

    @Alphacentauri819

    2 жыл бұрын

    😁I just wrote a comment "will smith...here's a message for you"... or something like that! I totally thought about Eckhart Tolle when I saw that clip. Oh, and Don Miguel Ruiz...his 4 agreements, especially the "don't take anything personally". Slapping someone is definitely letting the ego win. Pain body in action😬 He let a narrative form and bought into it...instead of zooming out, take a 360 view, and taking a deep breath. He def has unhealed trauma.

  • @now3210
    @now32102 жыл бұрын

    This man teaches from Wisdom, Truth, Peace, Being.

  • @ellabeyer7035
    @ellabeyer70352 жыл бұрын

    To react and not respond alludes to ego. To respond and not react alludes to conscious awareness. Thank you for your wisdom and sharing to uplift humanity.

  • @alisagremore9051
    @alisagremore9051 Жыл бұрын

    God's power is much more easily accessed when one is present.

  • @rogerlin9602
    @rogerlin96022 жыл бұрын

    Life isn't determined by what happened to you, but by how you respond to it. Thanks Eckhart. 🏍🌎🔔🎵🤡🍮🤩

  • @RB-rx6hr
    @RB-rx6hr2 жыл бұрын

    “You react out of the conditioning of your mind.” Eckhart Tolle True wisdom 💞

  • @elizabethplane9868
    @elizabethplane98685 ай бұрын

    ET helps the world ! Thank you. ❤

  • @Rayon.Miller95
    @Rayon.Miller952 жыл бұрын

    One day, you will tell your story of how you overcame what you went through and it will be someone else's survival guide.🙏🏽🖤💫

  • @johngreen4683

    @johngreen4683

    2 жыл бұрын

    I agree totally,, the things that have helped me so much already I like to share with those I meet who are currently struggling. I've learned so much from not just Eckhart and a small handful of other professionals but from people who post comments too. Last weekend I read a comment by someone who has very different beliefs and opinions to me on life but despite the fact that our beliefs and views are so different, within their comment was an absolute brilliant gem of wisdom that I hadn't realised for myself that suddenly became so obvious to me. None of us know all the answers but between us we can help each other have happier and more peaceful minds 🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @Flyer-SR-71

    @Flyer-SR-71

    Жыл бұрын

    He has and you're right. It is.

  • @poppymoon777
    @poppymoon7772 жыл бұрын

    Eckhart is too cute

  • @sepratx4317

    @sepratx4317

    2 жыл бұрын

    yeap i love you too

  • @TerriblePerfection
    @TerriblePerfection2 жыл бұрын

    "Friendly with life..." I love that. 🥰

  • @FrancisTrach
    @FrancisTrach2 жыл бұрын

    We always have a choice, that choice is not necessarily the circumstances, although perhaps maybe we do choose our circumstances on some level, but true choice in my own experience is that we can choose our frequency. Our energy and how to choose to respond to a situation is ultimately up to us and we can always choose to fully embrace the moment as it is instead of being reactive to it and get lost in unconscious patterns. Great video Eckhart. Thanks for being one of the people that inspires me to post videos every single day and pursue my Life Purpose. Much Love 🙏

  • @mlvsls83

    @mlvsls83

    2 жыл бұрын

    Nice comment. Please could you give an example of how you chose your frequency in a difficult situation? For instance, when someone wanted to pick up a fight with you or was verbally attacking you?

  • @suntzu2ya358

    @suntzu2ya358

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@mlvsls83 Understand that that person picking a fight has an ego issue, and is another human being like you with a stronger pain body. Let go, move on unless you are physically threaten and if you can't walk ou,t you'll have to defend yourself. Be Here Now

  • @mlvsls83

    @mlvsls83

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@suntzu2ya358 Thank you so much. I see what you mean. For me, it's hard to move on since my ego too gets attacked in such situations. It is also hard for me to move on since it is a family member who pushes my buttons and there is a history of similar events that were very upsetting to me.

  • @natureisallpowerful

    @natureisallpowerful

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@mlvsls83 ask them why? What is the purpose and what will it serve to fight? Be honest with them about how you feel get vulnerable.

  • @mlvsls83

    @mlvsls83

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@natureisallpowerful thank you for the advice, I will ask these questions. Yet, I have explained several times how I feel with no lasting results. For a month or two things get better until his ego kicks in again and destroys the previous efforts. Thanks again for the reply to my comment and your interest.

  • @natureisallpowerful
    @natureisallpowerful2 жыл бұрын

    Awareness is a gift

  • @corinnefisher166
    @corinnefisher1662 жыл бұрын

    I am so grateful for this man & his consciousness!

  • @michaelthompson6080
    @michaelthompson60802 жыл бұрын

    I am ready to see the truth of what is around me. I let go of any illusions and step further onto my divine path. Knowing the Universe is my truth, I trust and release.

  • @rawadsheikh476

    @rawadsheikh476

    2 жыл бұрын

    Beautifully narrated thank you for sharing bless u 🙏 😊

  • @michaelthompson6080

    @michaelthompson6080

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@rawadsheikh476 bless you 🙏

  • @davidm1149
    @davidm11492 жыл бұрын

    Eckhart has achieved a level of humility that is impressive, I think it's one of his chief strengths.

  • @musicfxmaster4873
    @musicfxmaster48732 жыл бұрын

    This goes deeply into self creation because life events/circumstances, particularly of course when or if negative.. tend to make the conceptual mind interpret them as defining who you are. This is happening "TO ME" and reflecting the result of what and who I am... MY LIFE sort of thing. Therefore the pain, the anguish, even the depression.. which continue to worsen and perpetuate the conceptual state further (Samsara/Karma). However, a response is creative in the sense that it does not see the event as that which defines you but as an opportunity to keep you centered in the present and in knowing to stay in the NOW present aligned with the creative energy (wisdom) that manifest life itself (even when things haven't manifested yet). Decide, create the what, the who regardless of what it looks like... and don't let the ego distract you. 😇

  • @mlvsls83

    @mlvsls83

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi Music&FXMaster, nice comment. I am struggling to understand the wisdom part. Please can you give an example of how to apply wisdom when someone is attacking you verbally or let's say physically? The reason that I am asking is that I live in a place where there's a lot of such violence on a regular basis.

  • @annabellacrewe8858
    @annabellacrewe88582 жыл бұрын

    Gold for my soul ! I have listened to this many times now and it is always great help in being present in the situation instead of complaining and being reacyive. Getting wiser ! Thank You dear Tolle !❤❤❤

  • @beckyhelvaci3492
    @beckyhelvaci3492 Жыл бұрын

    Thank goodness for the wisdom and clarity , I think personally I would be swamped and alot more confused and lost , with out this insight . Very grateful🙏

  • @dmgsoultogetherness6667
    @dmgsoultogetherness66672 жыл бұрын

    Trying to be present while homeless/ very unwell etc has to be one of the hardest things ever

  • @abbyereid8761
    @abbyereid87612 жыл бұрын

    I have carried a heavy pain-body with me for years, and these teachings have helped guide me so much. I hope it does the same for anyone who is watching and know I understand your journey ❤️❤️

  • @Jad3dJane
    @Jad3dJane Жыл бұрын

    You are continually directing me towards a peaceful path, Thank you Eckhart.

  • @MissDoreen
    @MissDoreen2 жыл бұрын

    Much gratitude for your teachings Eckhart Tolle ❤

  • @soulstreams333

    @soulstreams333

    2 жыл бұрын

    🙏🏻

  • @lenakrupinski6303
    @lenakrupinski63032 жыл бұрын

    Love that he said' ,your inner state is reflected back at you'🙏🙏🙏🙏 The world is our mirror🙏🙏💙💙🌈🌈💙💙💚💚

  • @user-tz2pf7sr2n
    @user-tz2pf7sr2n2 жыл бұрын

    Just finished meditation wonder why this time meditation doesn’t feel like last few times.. then I asked myself "what’s wrong with this moment ? I feel good in this moment ,right?" Then this video showed up! this is how Eckhart lives in my everyday life❤

  • @LucidLivingLL

    @LucidLivingLL

    2 жыл бұрын

    I love it!

  • @user-tz2pf7sr2n

    @user-tz2pf7sr2n

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@LucidLivingLL 😆

  • @daniloa.ferreira8918
    @daniloa.ferreira89182 жыл бұрын

    I guess the biggest problem for me to be present is that weather I like it or not, I live in a world that has some urgeness and pressure concerning some specific achievments and roles I must play as a citizen and social person(in the sense of living in a society). How am I supposed to find balance, calmness, peace when I am living in a such a world? Nowadays it's so much information and people sayint what's best for us, it's sickening almost unbearable. I just want to know and feel real things but it seems impossible in this world we live in. Everyone and everything seems to be loaded with pre concepts about everything. IDK. I guess, as Eckhart said, it's all about acceptance.

  • @dmgsoultogetherness6667

    @dmgsoultogetherness6667

    2 жыл бұрын

    Id suggest be in nature as much as poss,the local park,gardens etc sit by water, maybe even turn off devices and all the things that attack the senses.....sound,light,temperature, chill as much as poss,surround yourself with amazing calm supportive people..it really is a daily operation,..you can but try.... right? Peace

  • @madu251

    @madu251

    2 жыл бұрын

    Good suggestions from Soul’toget. I’d also suggest trying a regular meditation practice. Give it some time and it can really help to ground you and keep you centered.

  • @Noahsg1
    @Noahsg13 ай бұрын

    What a wisdom. ❤❤❤

  • @gavinspeaks
    @gavinspeaks2 жыл бұрын

    One of the biggest secrets I discovered in life is to figure out how to love life more than you love to sleep! ~Much Love from a Law of Attraction KZreadr💜

  • @soulstreams333

    @soulstreams333

    2 жыл бұрын

    🙏🏻

  • @mistylee3591
    @mistylee35912 жыл бұрын

    🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 Thank you for showing me now❤️❤️❤️

  • @chickboomcrash
    @chickboomcrash2 жыл бұрын

    I don’t know how many years I have sought your counsel, but each time I see a new flower…🙏🏻❤️

  • @UzairKhan-vc3ob
    @UzairKhan-vc3ob2 жыл бұрын

    Make your present moment better and your life will get better

  • @dianeyoung8068
    @dianeyoung80682 жыл бұрын

    How timely.

  • @rogerlin9602
    @rogerlin96022 жыл бұрын

    Your life is determined by how you respond to what happened. Karma is action, reaction, action, reaction... Thanks Eckhart. 💡✔😎🍇🦌🍮⚽️

  • @tanis1111
    @tanis11112 жыл бұрын

    Love it?! Love you!! You've been my hero since 2005! I teach your ways as often as I can. Thanks ♥️✨🙏

  • @peterknyk1942
    @peterknyk19422 жыл бұрын

    The aim is to respond impartially but that is incredibly difficult because we are always analyzing judging categorizing etc. etc. etc.

  • @starlight3363
    @starlight33632 жыл бұрын

    So True, so very true, that is how I live now. It also keeps me healthy and younger.

  • @ashleyhouse9690
    @ashleyhouse96902 жыл бұрын

    Maybe Oprah could pass this on to Will Smith...

  • @rawadsheikh476
    @rawadsheikh4762 жыл бұрын

    Very true, golden words of wisdom " any conceptual reality about your self will make you sad sooner or later "

  • @hammerbet7140
    @hammerbet71402 жыл бұрын

    Well said. It's you who chooses how to deal with any situation you are into.

  • @usharaghuthaman4619
    @usharaghuthaman46192 жыл бұрын

    Yes Eckhart.,two days back,i had to face dirty situation. I responded

  • @Stream49er
    @Stream49er2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, your clarity is nourishment for me.

  • @postscript5549
    @postscript5549 Жыл бұрын

    Superb. Helpful. Challenging.

  • @eliriehl4657
    @eliriehl46572 жыл бұрын

    Oh Echhart sir,how is it you see right through me?

  • @zovalentine7305
    @zovalentine73052 жыл бұрын

    Self-love = self-control

  • @lazydaisy649
    @lazydaisy6492 жыл бұрын

    A though is just a thought but an action has consequences.

  • @glennkarg1331
    @glennkarg133111 ай бұрын

    Ego makes it worse👍

  • @elenajerkovic4250
    @elenajerkovic42502 жыл бұрын

    Prijatelj Božiji

  • @NClark1
    @NClark12 жыл бұрын

    I have been following along with your teachings for years. Thank you so much for continuing to feed us.

  • @jeanash9502
    @jeanash95022 жыл бұрын

    Very good to advice, every word an inspiration👏 🙌 life is wonderful

  • @kittyvanwijk968
    @kittyvanwijk9682 жыл бұрын

    Thanks You 🙏

  • @arirenae3864
    @arirenae38642 жыл бұрын

    thank you

  • @jamiebanks2215
    @jamiebanks2215 Жыл бұрын

    I love this so much

  • @sj4267
    @sj42672 жыл бұрын

    This ones a powerful one

  • @alberthutchinson7569
    @alberthutchinson75692 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this video

  • @rogerlin9602
    @rogerlin96022 жыл бұрын

    Big difference between reaction (conceptual mind) and response (consciousness from presence). Thanks Eckhart. ⛳⛩🎪🎪✔🦌⚽️🤩🐥🏍🌎

  • @LvlUp.
    @LvlUp.2 жыл бұрын

    Ich bin nicht meine Gedanken , nicht meine Emotionen , nicht mein Körper . Ich bin .

  • @peayen5008
    @peayen50082 жыл бұрын

    Thanks to your teachings I'm now managing brief bursts of present awareness in between rampant ruminations of the ego.... and that makes all the difference as to whether I'm getting dragged deeper in to the dwellings of the pain body or whether I'll be able to respond in a neutral way. Thank you, Eckhart!

  • @OfficialJBlair
    @OfficialJBlair2 жыл бұрын

    Sitting with Eckhart has given me words for the deeper wisdom I've always known 🙏. Gratitude ❤️‍🔥

  • @dabbog5518
    @dabbog55182 жыл бұрын

    HolyHealingLove&Truth&Peace

  • @benoitalcide3979
    @benoitalcide39792 жыл бұрын

    To me presence came in a moment of extreme spiritual pain, I think sometimes comes like a gift that the brain gives, like a self defense mechanism against destruction by pain.

  • @weare1energymessages414
    @weare1energymessages4142 жыл бұрын

    ❤️❤️❤️ Re-act reactivating or Cre-ating .Wisdom is knowledge Applied

  • @inakaifi9535
    @inakaifi95352 жыл бұрын

    This is an awesome talk that came exactly at the right time to me. I love the thought of accepting in a friendly way what is going on. That changes so much. Thank you Eckhart! Best wishes from Berlin

  • @suntzu2ya358
    @suntzu2ya3582 жыл бұрын

    When under duress I learned the 6 7 8 method i learned from a Buddhist monk: breed in for 6 seconds, hold your breath for 7 seconds then release the air for 8 seconds do it for 3 times, you'll feel more relaxed.

  • @jimerwin4535
    @jimerwin45352 жыл бұрын

    Thankyou eckhart ! Much love !! One love !!!!

  • @cleverkins
    @cleverkins2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Eckhart.

  • @yokohamamike1041
    @yokohamamike10412 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for helping slow down this ride, ET. Love to you, friend.

  • @ChangeYourLife1122
    @ChangeYourLife11222 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for the video eckhart😊🙏

  • @hannahlily11
    @hannahlily112 жыл бұрын

    THANK YOU!!!

  • @sharonrush4344
    @sharonrush43442 жыл бұрын

    Soooooo helpful. Thank you ❤️

  • @ychristopherz9649
    @ychristopherz96492 жыл бұрын

    Wonderfully said!

  • @prabhabagepalli3129
    @prabhabagepalli31292 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @jennifermichener9152
    @jennifermichener91522 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your wisdom

  • @austinekennyakunne8346
    @austinekennyakunne83462 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Eckhart.......

  • @ShinMitsume_000
    @ShinMitsume_0002 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your valuable video. I always want to be aware of my friends now.

  • @auroravioletlight
    @auroravioletlight2 жыл бұрын

    I appreciate you Eckhart ❤️ Thankyou🙏

  • @DavidVelez1111
    @DavidVelez11112 жыл бұрын

    Blessings all, you are powerful creators 🦋 You read this by Synchronizity! Follow your passion 💛

  • @roz352n
    @roz352n2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Eckhart 🙏❤️

  • @gretanavarauskaite2904
    @gretanavarauskaite29042 жыл бұрын

    Thank you🙏🏻🌸

  • @samhem2259
    @samhem22592 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @giselar.12
    @giselar.122 жыл бұрын

    🌈Thank you very much.🙏❤️🧚🏾

  • @shivani2926
    @shivani29262 жыл бұрын

    Life reflects back to you your inner state🙏

  • @Green-ie1dn
    @Green-ie1dn2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, life, for my heartbreaks. It feels good to have experienced this beautiful moment🙏

  • @clickonthis
    @clickonthis2 жыл бұрын

    I love the New Earth 🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️

  • @VJ-uu7bq
    @VJ-uu7bq2 жыл бұрын

    So true 👍

  • @tracezachdaniels4264
    @tracezachdaniels42642 жыл бұрын

    SO SHWEEEETTT...much love Tee with LIONS NAMED LEO.[the music worldwide} AND YES.......GREAT VIDEO..!!

  • @jilltisdale8857
    @jilltisdale88572 жыл бұрын

    ❤️ from California

  • @kareemmohammed5270
    @kareemmohammed52702 жыл бұрын

    resonate

  • @dmgsoultogetherness6667
    @dmgsoultogetherness66672 жыл бұрын

    Its almost futile to keep reacting to every situation,and exhausting....so im getting better at accepting things and non judgemental views..sometimes we will have to react.....but until then...im just going to sit in my middle lane for a while