How Death Can Bring You Back to Life | Jodi Wellman | TEDxBYU

Do you know how many Mondays you have left... in life? You get 4,000 on average, and while the bad news is that you’re totally going to kick the bucket, the good news is there’s still time to live before you die. Learn how your mortality can motivate you to make the most of your precious time above ground. Time’s ticking. Jodi Wellman is a leading authority on living lives worth living. As a speaker and facilitator, she helps her clients live squander-free lives while they’re lucky enough to still be above ground - while cleverly beginning with the “big end” in mind. She named her business Four Thousand Mondays because it shines the light on the finite number of weeks we have to live like we mean it. Jodi holds a Master’s of Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, where she is also an Assistant Instructor. As a certified coach with 25 years of corporate leadership experience, she helps executives, teams, and high performers work well and live even better. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @tommyruk
    @tommyruk Жыл бұрын

    All the ways we have of distracting ourselves from real life have left us complacent, disassociated and bored. What are these distractions really for? What if everyone lived with actual consciousness, all the time ? We'd very soon realize there is a lot more to it than money and reproducing

  • @hildashaw302

    @hildashaw302

    Жыл бұрын

    I feel like the only thing people seem to care about is money

  • @lidiamervis6252

    @lidiamervis6252

    Жыл бұрын

    Money is just a faze, they never last forever

  • @darrellrussell7259

    @darrellrussell7259

    Жыл бұрын

    The worst thing is to worry about you income, and how you can grow it and buy something that should not have been buyed

  • @Benjamin-yh9mr

    @Benjamin-yh9mr

    Жыл бұрын

    Once we die there will be no money to take with us. So enjoy more life as we still can

  • @morleekoopman4503

    @morleekoopman4503

    Жыл бұрын

    there should never be ann unhealthy oppsesion with money in my opinion

  • @rosiealturo14
    @rosiealturo14 Жыл бұрын

    i have lived with SI for a very long time and it's a sure fire way to remind me that no - that's not what i actually want

  • @mattiesanders5102

    @mattiesanders5102

    Жыл бұрын

    We all go through challenges in life, its so nice to look back as a hero

  • @darrellrussell7259

    @darrellrussell7259

    Жыл бұрын

    another day, another challenge, that is life for you right there.

  • @kenoxfps8598

    @kenoxfps8598

    Жыл бұрын

    life is full of challenges that are set for us

  • @kenanxo7384

    @kenanxo7384

    Жыл бұрын

    I feel you , hope you are doing better

  • @diywithderby6069

    @diywithderby6069

    Жыл бұрын

    Death is not a popular topic of conversation. It can be unsettling for most people.

  • @janegeegeehogge
    @janegeegeehogge Жыл бұрын

    This really is a brilliant mindset to take on and into our daily lives. We spend so much more time being dead than we do being alive, and we need to remember that in order to make the most of it!

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Love that line about "spending so much more time being dead than alive"... sad but true!

  • @janetsplace1953

    @janetsplace1953

    Жыл бұрын

    I watched Jane (yes finally) thanks this is terrific...

  • @tarasuppleton

    @tarasuppleton

    Жыл бұрын

    so true jane, bravo.

  • @lorissolfa

    @lorissolfa

    Жыл бұрын

    how very true.

  • @mariaantoniamagallanesmend9447

    @mariaantoniamagallanesmend9447

    Жыл бұрын

    Great and beautiful advice, we must enjoy each new day, death can surprise us at any time, watching your videos motivates me to continue despite my problems, you are the basis of my improvement in this life, thank you very much for sharing this guy of content

  • @therealblackdynasty
    @therealblackdynasty2 жыл бұрын

    When my mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer it came with tremendous pain. When dealing with her own disease she created space in her mind to accept what she could not control. The death of a loved one remains challenging in moving on. Its a process that is individual and private. The outside may look like things are okay, but the feelings must be felt. Its wonderful to be courageous and its beautiful to be vulnerable.

  • @whatmotivatesyou6449

    @whatmotivatesyou6449

    2 жыл бұрын

    yes truth there

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm so glad you shared this. I am so sorry for your loss. I am inspired by your mother's acceptance of what she couldn't control; I hope this wisdom of hers helps in some way with your grief.

  • @andrewmoore1272

    @andrewmoore1272

    Жыл бұрын

    I feel the same way as you do when I lost someone very dear to me. Even up to this day, there are always times when I just sit down and remember the things we did together when she was still alive.

  • @chrizylmoreno5954

    @chrizylmoreno5954

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm grateful you shared this. My sincerest condolences for you at this time. You have my deepest sympathy and unwavering support. Wishing you peace, comfort, courage, and lots of love at this time of sorrow. My heart goes out to you at this difficult time.

  • @NICHAYONTARARAK

    @NICHAYONTARARAK

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm delighted you shared this with us. I am heartbroken for your loss. I admire your mother's acceptance of what she couldn't change; I hope this insight helps you cope with your sadness in some way.

  • @ca-it-lin-ro-ss
    @ca-it-lin-ro-ss Жыл бұрын

    When I was hit by a car a few years ago it was a real wake up call. Despite being in an induced coma for nearly 46 days, I am still so grateful it happened. I used to be so scared to take risks or try anything new, and now I want to try it all! I've stepped out of my comfort zone and am consistently presented with new opportunities. My perspective, my life, everything has changed and I am honestly just so happy to hear this articulated so well. Thank you Jodi!

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    I am moved by your story. 46 days in a coma... wow, wow, wow. I love hearing that it helped you live with more bravery and gusto.

  • @luisaesperanza
    @luisaesperanza Жыл бұрын

    This is a really powerful way of thinking. Kind of like starting at the end and working backwards.

  • @tellmystory9488

    @tellmystory9488

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for link!

  • @joemurray1664

    @joemurray1664

    Жыл бұрын

    Remember that you must die." The phrase has its origins in ancient Rome, where it is believed that slaves accompanying generals on victory parades whispered the words as a reminder of their commander's mortality, to prevent them from being consumed by hubris

  • @barrywells2020

    @barrywells2020

    Жыл бұрын

    Although it’s hard to imagine, what with our 24-hour news cycle that feeds on fatalities, death hasn’t always been such a terrifying prospect.

  • @melindarichardson9342

    @melindarichardson9342

    Жыл бұрын

    Many people use up their life savings in the last six months of their lives on ultimately futile medical interventions.

  • @mattiesanders5102

    @mattiesanders5102

    Жыл бұрын

    It’s a misconception that death is so scary. 99 percent of the deaths I have witnessed are calm and peaceful. It can be a beautiful experience.

  • @justineberne
    @justineberne Жыл бұрын

    It's definitely interesting to think about, the way some people would perceive how others are 'wasting' their lives but really they're having the best time doing whatever it is. Who is anyone to say that someone else isn't living their life to the fullest?

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    I 133% agree with you! I love that vitality and meaning are relative, and one person's version of an astonishing life can be totally different than someone else's. We get to choose what a "life well-lived" means to us, and then hopefully go and live that life.

  • @nyokakilemake2178
    @nyokakilemake2178 Жыл бұрын

    Regardless of how many Mondays they've live when they die every life matters and should be celebrated for the miracle it was.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    So well said!

  • @bonnielange3339
    @bonnielange33392 жыл бұрын

    These comments are so fitting following the memorial for our brother Dave this week end. He was barely 67- cancer cheated him out of some Mondays. He lived fully- until he couldn't. Yes, death is a great motivator.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm sorry to hear about your brother passing on, Bonnie... and also inspired that he lived it up. I appreciate you sharing your story.

  • @brianwellman8398
    @brianwellman83982 жыл бұрын

    Jodi Wellman YOU’VE GOT SOME STUFF! The world needs more of you!

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    Oh B, thank you thank you thank you. 😘

  • @ursulayildrim

    @ursulayildrim

    Жыл бұрын

    I agree!

  • @juliosester281
    @juliosester281 Жыл бұрын

    Talking with someone about these feelings - a partner, a dear friend, a spiritual advisor, someone you trust - can help you process these feelings so that they no longer weigh you down. It may take many tries, but can help you feel that a burden has been lifted. It can help you move on to care for other physical and emotional tasks that are part of the end of life. There are many important tasks at the end of life, but coming to terms with the losses is one of the most painful.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    SO well framed; thank you

  • @AndyProctor
    @AndyProctor2 жыл бұрын

    “Remembering that we are going to die is the secret to a well-lived life.” “Death is life’s change agent.” I think I currently have 2734 Mondays left (if I live to 91). Love the idea of the “roar of awakening.” What a fantastic talk!

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Andy! You were an incredible coach along the way!

  • @thisistheperfectstate
    @thisistheperfectstate Жыл бұрын

    Once upon a time I was the most self absorbed and selfish person... 4 weeks in hospital with a flesh eating bug and nearly losing my leg and WOW... I can't believe how awful I was and have really had to teach myself to be compassionate with myself and others. Wouldn't be here if I hadn't gone through that I don't think. Thank you Jodi!

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    I am so moved by your story. Thank you for sharing it... it helped me to imagine myself in that situation. What a perspective-changer! Glad you're healthy again.

  • @novasux5681
    @novasux5681 Жыл бұрын

    You can have a "meaningful life" by being kind to everyone you encounter every day.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Such a good point

  • @maryatkin3243
    @maryatkin3243 Жыл бұрын

    There's a lot of inspiration in this talk Jodi, sometimes it's easy to get caught up in our struggles and forget what a beautiful gift life is

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    You're so right! It's tempting to get caught up in the negative spiral, when we have to snap out of it and say "I GET TO BE ALIVE"!

  • @maryatkin3243

    @maryatkin3243

    Жыл бұрын

    @@jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays Absolutely, and we're the only ones who have the power to snap ourselves out of it! I forget that part sometimes too lol

  • @summersimonton3440
    @summersimonton3440 Жыл бұрын

    This talk is brilliant. For 38 years I have lived a very vital and blessed life. The blessings came with more & more people I taught information that changed their lives. That is why when my friends said "what if you die of covid?" I replied that I have lived my purpose and know I have made a difference in thousands of people's lives. Because of that, I am not scared of graduating from this dimension. I especially enjoy helping people live their purpose and feel Astonishingly Alive. Thanks Jodi

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm inspired by the way you find peace in your purpose, Summer!

  • @ma-T-oxic
    @ma-T-oxic Жыл бұрын

    Oh Jodi my heart goes out to you... it's so hard to navigate the world in a satisfying way when you're living with an eating disorder.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Totally totally true. Fortunately I'm in a better place with food now, and I hope that others with disorders know there is hope for a full life, beyond the addiction.

  • @ashgadah
    @ashgadah Жыл бұрын

    Death is such a natural part of life, it's hard to understand why it's become so tangled up and perceived like it's the worst thing to happen to a person. It's only sad for the people left behind but within that we should shift our thinking and learn to celebrate rather than grieve

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Great point 😊

  • @lizzaleleflame9967
    @lizzaleleflame9967 Жыл бұрын

    as someone who has always self-sabotaged and had this wish, it is true - it can make you want to do better if you come face to face with your mortality...not so great if you dont

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes! Let's come face to face with our mortality, indeed!

  • @morefunallthetime
    @morefunallthetime Жыл бұрын

    I like the idea of tapping into our regrets in advance in order to prevent them, but there's difficulties within that like, how do you know ahead of time what you're going to care about for the rest of your life?

  • @phillipnorris3rd

    @phillipnorris3rd

    Жыл бұрын

    truth

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Such a good question. I agree that our needs and priorities evolve as we age (look up socioemotional selectivity theory to nerd out if you want!), and I also think the best we can do is to take action on things that matter today. It might not matter as much down the road (to have written that book or to have travelled to Peru, for example), but at least we'll have lived in accordance with our current values.

  • @conniestoudemire9034
    @conniestoudemire9034 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you FATHER GOD for your messages

  • @AndyProctor
    @AndyProctor2 жыл бұрын

    “It seems as though our fear of death is rivaled only by our fear of living.” 🤯whoa. That went deep.

  • @audreylstamford
    @audreylstamford2 жыл бұрын

    I have always lived by the saying "better to regret something you did do, rather than something you didn't" Loved this talk!

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you @Audrey... I try to live by that adage, too!

  • @beitrissavinsky
    @beitrissavinsky Жыл бұрын

    "A squander free life" means something unique for each of us. Sometimes it takes adversity to find it.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    I agree with you wholeheartedly; it's often through hardship that we really focus on living like we mean it

  • @mathewgee6259
    @mathewgee6259 Жыл бұрын

    Jodi lighten up we all make choices in our lives and who can say that we squandered our time. No one has the right to judge.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Love your healthy perspective!

  • @davidhanson8232
    @davidhanson82322 жыл бұрын

    There's that saying, "nobody is getting out of here alive". Though there is much to say about the quality of life we live.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    I couldn't agree more, David

  • @barunkazedonna
    @barunkazedonna Жыл бұрын

    Depending on the circumstances death can be a celebrated as a wonderful release from pain.

  • @hildashaw302
    @hildashaw302 Жыл бұрын

    Time waits for no one and realizing the massive sense of urgency with time

  • @rabiasalas7410
    @rabiasalas7410 Жыл бұрын

    Depression and anxiety are so rampant though sometimes I think the majority of people are looking forward to death

  • @davinachilds
    @davinachilds Жыл бұрын

    I love this talk... I used to get really caught up in the nihilism of how we're all going to die and nothing really matters but this is sort of acknowledging that in a positive way

  • @izayahmayson
    @izayahmayson Жыл бұрын

    it's scary how much time seems to speed up the older I get. I'm realizing more and more how important it is to make the best of opportunities while I have them.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Such a good point that time seems to speed up as we age; thanks for highlighting that, and how we must get on with the business of living!

  • @lustphreak
    @lustphreak2 жыл бұрын

    I love everything about this message. Too many of us are afraid to even think about death...but maybe you're right, maybe that's because we're more afraid to live. I propose watching this every damn day; it would certainly motivate you to do that thing you're avoiding! Jodi is a tremendous speaker and this isn't just thoughtful and inspiring, it's scientific. Fantastic talk, thank you.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for such kind words, Becka!

  • @justinekarl5831
    @justinekarl58312 жыл бұрын

    Wow! So moving, thought-provoking and revitalizing! Really makes you think about the life you're currently living. Jodi, you're AMAZING! So incredibly proud of you! What an experience! Thanks for this very special reminder to live a life of vitality!

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for the support, Justine!

  • @johnrowan9033
    @johnrowan9033 Жыл бұрын

    I have found that taking the hits, allowing myself to "squander" for a bit has always helped me rise a bit stronger and taller for the next moment of fleeting happiness.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    This is such a great insight. I agree that there is a right dose of unplugging/ squandering/ zoning out, and it's different for each person. I appreciate you mentioning this!

  • @iamcomediam
    @iamcomediam Жыл бұрын

    I feel like this would be a very valuable talk for those of us who are permanently stuck in a rut

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you! I like the idea that all ruts are temporary, because we can dig ourselves out of them :)

  • @prepaidguest7169
    @prepaidguest7169 Жыл бұрын

    In my humble opinion: Death makes life pointless. only when I felt invincible did I actually live. Thanks for your input and opinion. At least you had the wherewithal to get this recorded into history. God bless. 🎶

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    I love reading about your alternative perspective... this makes for such good discussion! Thank you. I'll keep this way of thinking in mind as I talk with groups, knowing that a dose of invincibility just might be motivating some folks :)

  • @matveykoshelev
    @matveykoshelev Жыл бұрын

    Most people have a bucket list and strive to do as many of those things as possible before they die. I don't think people actively squander their time.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm right there with you, agreeing that we don't intend to waste our time. Some months fly by in a blur, though, and it would be cool to pay a little more attention to whether we're living wider and deeper, and be honest with ourselves whether we've crossed something off our bucket lists in a while. Life can get in the way of ... LIFE😉!

  • @josefthepichler
    @josefthepichler2 жыл бұрын

    There is nothing more beautiful than an awakening. This is a wonderfully motivating delivery to snap out of an illusion.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Josef... I like your reference to an illusion. It IS an illusion that we'll have all the time in the world to live it up!

  • @winnipooh3212
    @winnipooh3212 Жыл бұрын

    I try to just think of the fact that we're dead for so much longer than we are alive but this is also a nice reminder to not take it for granted

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Ha! Great point!

  • @pablolazares
    @pablolazares Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Jodi! That point of no return, whether it be our own mortality or our created reality, if we really want it, that is the time to truly make a red hot go of what we REALLY want.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm smitten by your line about making "a red hot go of what we REALLY want"!!

  • @dustyevans2130
    @dustyevans2130 Жыл бұрын

    I love this talk and I'm all for being encouraged to live with a little more joy and awareness

  • @AnastasiaCostcalla
    @AnastasiaCostcalla Жыл бұрын

    There's a lot to unpack within this though. There's a reason people become complacent and just... comfortable within their lives. We're not encouraged to be in that 'carpe diem' mindset at all times

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    That's such a good point; sometimes our families/ friends/ workplaces/ cultures don't exactly encourage us to get out there and live it up. I think we need to take the reins.

  • @mattiesanders5102
    @mattiesanders5102 Жыл бұрын

    Realizing that since we are all on a dying process, each day is actually a second chance to live

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Oh wow- what a fascinating perspective!

  • @thegreatemilianosantiago
    @thegreatemilianosantiago Жыл бұрын

    Sometimes death can be a lot to deal with emotionally - especially if it's a sudden or unexpected death. I think remembering stuff like this is a really helpful way to navigate life so that those regrets are minimised.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Such a helpful point.

  • @elliotneason
    @elliotneason2 жыл бұрын

    When you've been given a certain amount of time to live with some sort of an end date, all of sudden a world of appreciation opens up. Funny how that option is available to us everyday.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    I so agree, @Elliot... we have a constant opportunity to wake up!

  • @hirominakahara2285
    @hirominakahara2285 Жыл бұрын

    You gotta love Monday's! Not sure I want to be counting them though

  • @therealmariorossi
    @therealmariorossi Жыл бұрын

    It wasn't until I thought I wasn't far off from ending it all, thankfully, that low of lows helped me to see light that has now given me purpose and motivation to pursue my passions along side a renewed sense of energy and drive!

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    It's really true that the lowest of lows can help us see what's worth living for. Thank you for sharing this.

  • @selitudenow
    @selitudenow Жыл бұрын

    I think a balance is important. It's in our DNA to become comfortable and not take risks - sometimes this gets equated to just doing the same thing and not stepping outside our comfort zones and then very quickly that turns into this zombie like state of living, it happens without us even noticing.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Such a valuable point. We have to work against our default setting, don't we?!?!

  • @blanchebosdet
    @blanchebosdet Жыл бұрын

    My first real encounter with the death of a loved one absolutely rocked me. It was such a shock and it just really changed how I felt about the world.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Blanche, I'm sorry to hear about your loss - that's so hard. I get that it would change your perspectives. Hopefully you feel a bit of that carpe diem mentality amidst your mourning.

  • @bilbobiggens2104
    @bilbobiggens2104 Жыл бұрын

    Jodie's talk is a wonderful portrayal of how to be present in your life and embrace your mortality

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @lannydaslin
    @lannydaslin2 жыл бұрын

    Speaking of 'spark plugs' she has the kind of great energy that wakes me up.

  • @careytmoore
    @careytmoore Жыл бұрын

    Life is a wonderful gift we've all been given, thank you universe for bringing me here and for however many Mondays I have.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    SO beautifully said; thank you!

  • @corkymitzner2786
    @corkymitzner2786 Жыл бұрын

    Bringing forward all your decisions in life

  • @lgbass57
    @lgbass57 Жыл бұрын

    The gift is the brilliant and talented collaboration between the two of you!

  • @therealmr.unicorn
    @therealmr.unicorn Жыл бұрын

    Some people are intrigued by death and simply see it as a continuation of life. I'm quite excited about what my future has in store!

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    I love that openness to experience!

  • @jasonopdebeeck4444
    @jasonopdebeeck4444 Жыл бұрын

    life is a beautiful gift but we all have a used by date that once we have hit, it is very hard to find joy in things.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    I like your point about life being a beautiful gift :)

  • @thomashurbert
    @thomashurbert2 жыл бұрын

    This should be seen more, just brilliant.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Thomas ☺️

  • @iamfitandfab
    @iamfitandfab Жыл бұрын

    It's so easy to just cruise through our time here, kinda sad that it's only things like death that will jarr us out of our rut

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    That's so true! We do cruise, don't we? I've always loved the line that "if you're cruising it means you're going downhill." Let's commit to less cruising and more living (unless we GO ON cruises in cool places, of course :))

  • @Benjamin-yh9mr
    @Benjamin-yh9mr Жыл бұрын

    Confronting death and realizing how insignificant we all are

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes! Like that feeling we get looking out over the vastness of the ocean or at a star-filled sky... we're so small... yet our lives feel so big. Let's widen and deepen them while we're here!

  • @ihavecoolthings
    @ihavecoolthings2 жыл бұрын

    Not what I expected and I'm glad I watched this the whole way though. Really really good.

  • @sukyevers

    @sukyevers

    2 жыл бұрын

    great send thank you

  • @zelmacastricone1228
    @zelmacastricone1228 Жыл бұрын

    Finding people that you can connect with can ease your sense of loneliness. Your health care team may end up being one of your greatest resources in this area.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    That's a good point. Loneliness is a silent killer and puts us in the Dead Zone.

  • @tedbuden
    @tedbuden Жыл бұрын

    I think it's really important to keep this stuff in mind! It also kind of ties in to why we should talk about death openly and healthily.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    SO true! We treat death like it's a taboo topic and yet the idea of it can be so helpful towards living with intention

  • @verapatrizio
    @verapatrizio Жыл бұрын

    I also wasted a lot of time with bad coping mechanisms. I'm glad I came to the awareness that I need to make up for that lost time or I'll end up regretting it when I get older.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm so glad you woke up to life, Vera! Cheers to regret-free living.

  • @veen2780
    @veen2780 Жыл бұрын

    Mind blowing! Love the way the speaker has connected death to living a colourful life..

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Veen... I've been thinking about the idea of vivid color/ colour more and more these days. So glad it resonated with you.

  • @dylanparker4404
    @dylanparker4404 Жыл бұрын

    Fantastic talk Jodie. Death doesn't have to be this sad, looming thing.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Right ... we can use the idea of it to our advantage (and even poke fun at it)!

  • @thecurenotthesymptom
    @thecurenotthesymptom Жыл бұрын

    I have to say the first time I lost someone unexpectedly it affected me to the point where I definitely took life more seriously afterwards. Not in a, nothing's funny anymore kind of way, just everything FELT.... more? Maybe I just wasn't taking things for granted anymore.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Well said. I'm sorry for your loss, even though it sounds like it helped jolt you into living with more intention.

  • @contecrayononpaper
    @contecrayononpaper Жыл бұрын

    I'm homeless in the wealthiest nation in the history of the world --- and I'll soon die because I cannot afford shelter.

  • @sherylrinkler
    @sherylrinkler Жыл бұрын

    Yes I have many could of should of books and then I had to examine them... I realized my drive wasn't so much about what I wanted, but what I thought I should want. At this stage in my life my only regret is I didn't pay attention to the present moment, it was more like a list of to do's, or at some stage it might even have been a bucket list. Desire for more, or doing something better, different etc, left me grateful, yet empty and exhausted. I don't care how many Monday's I have left, I want inner peace and joy in the day I have now and each day. And yes I could die in any moment, as that is as true as living.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    What a helpful insight, that sometimes our desires for "more" can be exhausting. I like your point about wanting inner peace and joy; thank you for sharing 😌.

  • @ihavebigpaws
    @ihavebigpaws Жыл бұрын

    This is a really inspiring talk Jodi, thank you for bringing such passion into your talk.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this kind comment!

  • @gordonharper2961
    @gordonharper2961 Жыл бұрын

    Deciding that any major life challenge will no longer be a disempowering moment in life

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Good point!

  • @cooltidbits
    @cooltidbits Жыл бұрын

    Nice, Jodi this is a very good way of reframing death into something positive.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    I appreciate that. The more we accept and "de-fang" death, the better we live.

  • @theoscarnunez
    @theoscarnunez Жыл бұрын

    This talk is awesome Jodi and much needed for me at the moment, thank you.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm so glad it resonated :)

  • @SusanStewartToronto
    @SusanStewartToronto2 жыл бұрын

    Profound messages and insights! Brilliant talk!!! You nailed it, JW!!!

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    I so appreciate that, SS!!

  • @averyrothschild
    @averyrothschild Жыл бұрын

    I love this talk Jodi, such good techniques for not taking life for granted.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Avery 😌

  • @crashtv6478
    @crashtv6478 Жыл бұрын

    It's weird to think about what I'd do if I was going to die tonight. Like just one day doesn't give you enough time to do anything... I guess maybe that's why it's easy to take every day for granted because you feel like oh it's just one day. But obviously when you add them all up that's your life.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    That's such a good point... we live day to day and that makes it easier to take smaller chunks for granted.

  • @buckpauley
    @buckpauley Жыл бұрын

    Jodi - thank you for giving me a pragmatic way to think about death.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    You are SO very welcome 😊

  • @erikdangor
    @erikdangor2 жыл бұрын

    Seeing this talk today was like a little gift from the universe

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    Made my day to read that, Erik!

  • @11ThaoNguyen11
    @11ThaoNguyen11 Жыл бұрын

    We do the best we can with the information we have. We're all going to die with and without regrets.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Right! Being human means being perfectly imperfect. All we can do is influence/control what's within our realm, like engaging in life to prevent regrets-in-the-making.

  • @ashleyw9411
    @ashleyw94112 жыл бұрын

    Well done Jodi! Thank you or taking us on your Four Thousand Mondays journey, so we don't take our lives for granted ...for reminding us of the power of life by accepting our inevitable death. You've inspired me to embrace my vitality with gusto!!!

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    I really appreciate that, Ashley... thank you!

  • @malgorzatagawenda6661
    @malgorzatagawenda6661 Жыл бұрын

    I was brush by death few times and last time it was in 2017 l learn from this experience great staff and now after 4years I'm living my life to the fullest I'm not afraid of death because it is gently transition to another existence the better one indeed

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Fascinating that you've had multiple brushes with death... so glad they have helped you live more fully

  • @RafaelZCruz
    @RafaelZCruz Жыл бұрын

    So many parts of our lives are just monotonous though... we get forced down these paths where we work jobs we don't enjoy because we have to pay the bills and all that stuff... sometimes it feels impossible to break out of that cycle

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    I completely agree. Sometimes we're stuck in our heads, and sometimes we're stuck in reality. The good news is that we do have some wiggle room, even in the stuck-ness... to add in a bit more joy, a bit more laughter, a bit more meaning. Little bits count. :)

  • @lesiadub1393
    @lesiadub13932 жыл бұрын

    This was incredible!!! What an amazing perspective to get us to realize we only have so many Mondays left to make our Dreams a Reality ! You are a wonderful motivator making things so much clearer. I know now and accept that yes we will die! So I better get to My Life worth living list & DO IT! Thank you !!!!!!

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    I so appreciate your kind words and support, Lesia! Yes, let's get on with the living!

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@horacefriester, I'm humbled! Thank you 😌.

  • @winnclark5901
    @winnclark59012 жыл бұрын

    Inspiring! Worth watching!

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    I really appreciate that, Winn!

  • @thipparatchuri-nagrusk
    @thipparatchuri-nagrusk2 жыл бұрын

    Talk about a reframe and shifting an old way thinking, and might I add living!

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Sometimes we need a reframe to live like we mean it, right?!

  • @natalieshay3142
    @natalieshay31422 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your brilliant words Jodi. You are so inspiring !

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Natalie! You inspire me to be honest and real.

  • @maireadmaccy4336
    @maireadmaccy4336 Жыл бұрын

    She is Brilliant. Super communicator with an amazing message. This should be played in schools across the globe. Especially now, in the time of screen addiction.💪🔥💫🌟

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    What kind words; thank you for your support!

  • @dakjussord821
    @dakjussord821 Жыл бұрын

    I really like the concept of 'widening your life with vitality'

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Dak. It really is possible to add more width!

  • @fortunaterbush8607
    @fortunaterbush8607 Жыл бұрын

    When someone knows they’ve reached their last stage of life, there can be a loneliness that’s different from any other.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    I have heard that from hospice workers. I have also heard that when people believe they have lived their lives fully, their fear of death can be decreased, which is comforting.

  • @makeitso1017
    @makeitso1017 Жыл бұрын

    I resonate so much with regretting the things we don't do.. am definitely going to work towards that edit of my life where I'm taking things off that list instead of adding to it.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes! Let's edit our list of potential regrets, indeed!

  • @jasesyter
    @jasesyter Жыл бұрын

    Very great talk, and living makes me smile.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Living makes me smile too, Jase!

  • @happybarker
    @happybarker Жыл бұрын

    This is a really interesting talk and I think we do often forget that our time on this planet is finite! Embrace that fact and make the most of things.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Well said! It's so easy for us to take our days for granted, isn't it?

  • @johnsondubois816
    @johnsondubois8162 жыл бұрын

    wow, this showed up at the right time, great TED Jodi!

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm so glad the timing was right for you. Johnson!

  • @johnsondubois816

    @johnsondubois816

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays it was, great talk Jodi!

  • @makeitso1017

    @makeitso1017

    2 жыл бұрын

    JOHNSON! I can't believe it took me so long to watch this. TA!

  • @stephanie_filzenn1332
    @stephanie_filzenn1332 Жыл бұрын

    Excellent, very enlightening video, for the intuitive way of explaining how death can bring you back to life

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    I appreciate that!

  • @charliebrownabel
    @charliebrownabel Жыл бұрын

    Everything is a matter of perspective and I think this is a pretty healthy one

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Cheers to that :)

  • @phyllismknapp6038
    @phyllismknapp6038 Жыл бұрын

    Well, counting Mondays is definitely one of the safer ways to remind ourselves of our morality.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    A little scary, maybe... but safe indeed!

  • @justinerather
    @justinerather Жыл бұрын

    Awesome talk Jodi, I think this ties in to the more sensible ways people are starting to approach death and the conversations we're having around it

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Justine! We are coming around as a society, slowly but surely 🙂

  • @12100myts
    @12100myts Жыл бұрын

    Inspiring! Jodi is a great speaker.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for making my day!

  • @archibaldandrews
    @archibaldandrews Жыл бұрын

    The older we get the more regularly we experience death. Having this kind of out look maybe is for the best

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Good point about increased exposure to death as we age ... sad, but true and potentially instructive.

  • @edsaxton1797
    @edsaxton1797 Жыл бұрын

    This talk really is an inspiration.

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Ed. I'm truly encouraged to hear that :)

  • @risapiera
    @risapiera Жыл бұрын

    Great talk Jodi! We're so distracted by other peoples lives and the mundane aspects of our own that we can easily fall in to a rut and stop appreciating what we have!

  • @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    @jodiwellmanfourthousandmondays

    Жыл бұрын

    That's so true... it's all too easy to take our lives for granted. Worth making an effort to stop and appreciate our time.

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