When I was in high school. I was at the makeup mirror putting on makeup. It's the 70s. My BFF is over. My dad walks by and says, Do you think that will help?" I don't care that he thought it was funny. I still look in the mirror and hear that.

@halfpint7301

Ай бұрын

I have heard similar from parents, they don't realise it sticks... could it be that he found it difficult to see his little girl growing up?? It doesn't lesson the sting of the words but most of us project

@ratrm

Ай бұрын

I feel this. My mom used to complain about my acne as a teen. She used to tell my low ponytail made me look like an old woman. She said my nose was big like my dads..the list goes on. She never once told me, that i remember, that I was beautiful or that I should love my body etc. It doesn't leave you..

@Love-bo3df

Ай бұрын

My father would say “if you want to go out looking like a whore go ahead”. I would wash it off, I was allowed to start wearing makeup when I was 16. I still do not wear makeup 40 years later 😂.

@ghostophelia2245

Ай бұрын

I was so in love with these hoop earrings when I was around 9. My mom said it made me look like a p*rn star. I can't wear earrings anymore. It just makes me uncomfortable like everyone is gonna think I'm a sl*t

@TheSecretPassword

Ай бұрын

lol when I was a 14 year old innocent minded kid that hadn’t even had my first kiss, my dad stopped me in the hall and asked if I was pregnant with a disgusted facial expression. I said no and he said “… well you look pregnant”. I was smack dab in the middle of a healthy weight. Those words stuck with me into an eating disorder, and they still echo in my ears 18 years later. Some parents, man.

A good reminder to speak with kindness and positivity to others. “If you can’t say anything nice……”

@Java4Rosi

29 күн бұрын

“….don’t say nothin at all.” ~Thumper

I love having more men call into the show and listen to their perspectives and experiences!

You know what you are going spend your entire life worrying about your body than when you become old and your body starts giving out on you you are going to wish you appreciated your younger self. I accepted the fact that i have stretch marks, my ears stick out a little, my boobs sag a bit from breastfeeding etc etc. Im 41 and not going to worrying about things i cant change and live my life.

@gabrielahamilton1066

29 күн бұрын

i strive to be like this! good job 🫶🏼🫶🏼

@BFku36

29 күн бұрын

Sending you love and dear gawd I strive to be this way myself..but it is definitely hard. I'm 33.. and I feel like I have a fee more years before it will actually take ahold..but I'm feeling closer to it every passing day. ❤ I suffer from body dysmorphia..But I've actually gained some weight the last couple years and look back on my pictures and think "Wow. You were so fit, slim and healthy, and you thought you were f@t THEN!?! Now look at you!!".. it's awful and an awful lot to heal and move on from.

As a member of the OG 17 gang I can’t tell you how happy it makes me to see Dr. John rise to #3 overall on Apple Podcasts. John is making such a difference in this world and he and their wonderful team deserve every bit of success. ❤️🥳

@ReginaPellegrino

29 күн бұрын

Not just from "America." I'm an American living in Germany and listen as often as I can. I can always learn something from just about every call. Thank you for changing the world.

@flashthecorgi2053

29 күн бұрын

@@ReginaPellegrinoHaha that’s what I said “this world” so glad to hear he has listeners from Germany. Hope you’re doing well! 💕

@dabd8175

29 күн бұрын

@@flashthecorgi2053 bigotry

@shehnazahmad5213

29 күн бұрын

I live in JOHANNESBURG, SOUTH AFRICA🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦 I watch daily ❤

@reneeantwi-boasiako3974

28 күн бұрын

I’m from the UK 🇬🇧 ❤ Love from across the pond

7:34 Once a girl told me I was so ugly that no guy would sleep with me. What's funny is I am happily married now to an incredible man and she's single with a string of regrets. High school is a four year sh*t show of someone trying to outdo the next person. Don't hold on to that comment.

@Loganslifewithme

29 күн бұрын

Amazing how many insecurities and issues arise just from those 4 years of high school.

@Magdalene952

29 күн бұрын

@@Loganslifewithme you couldn't pay me enough to go back to those 4 years. Lol

@Loganslifewithme

29 күн бұрын

@@Magdalene952 agreed! It’s always fascinating to me to see people that want to relive those days. People exist in very different worlds through those years.

I love when John said he pulls at the strings of the story because that perfectly explained what he is so good at and probably why the show is doing so well. I've been watching too much for the last month or so. I am learning so much about myself and my boyfriend and our relationship. Thanks to John for being such a great role model for men, I think it's really important these days, you know, with all the "bro" stuff going on.

i hope this guy knows how important it is for people like him (men, generally speaking) to talk about body image issues. it's so typically seen as a "woman's issue" to be insecure. he is helping so many people out there, men and women alike, speak up about their own issues.

Hi Dr John. There are not only people from the US who watch your channel. There are also people from South Africa. Thank you for the valuable input to human relationships. 😊

@martaoliveira1847

29 күн бұрын

And from Portugal 🙂

@khygamerzone2765

29 күн бұрын

And New Zealand

@ma_ncube

29 күн бұрын

And Canada!

@fitkahr

29 күн бұрын

And Croatia!

@tanyamaycock8935

29 күн бұрын

The Bahamas

When people say mean things about your appearance, it’s usually because they feel bad about their own.

@Bird1964

19 күн бұрын

You're right! And they're typically very insecure too 😊

Thank you so much, John. When I click on your videos they never fail to put a smile on my face, these are so inspirational and have helped me really start to leave my depression behind and begin to become the person I once was. Thank you so much.

It's not a physical problem with him, it's a mental problem. He has to overcome that, usually your parents make you or break you. Positive parents give you the confidence and negative parents ruin you.

I’m not exaggerating that you are changing my life! Thank you 🙏🏻

@karij8113

Ай бұрын

Ditto!! I’ve learned so much. 😊

What a beautiful story about his dad and the fight... 😭

@pinkflower950

29 күн бұрын

Was driving to work while listening , I almost cried 😅

Dr John never misses. I can relate to this so much.

Congratulations Dr John Delony on hitting #3 podcast! KNOW, we all appreciate the wisdom you share!

7:31 In college (90's) there was a guy I liked a lot and wanted his attention so badly. He sat down with me at lunch (me thinking he thinking he liked me). I was eating chicken fingers and fries and he told me, "Put the chicken finger down and run. You're fat." 46 now and I still run to punish myself for being "fat". This show has helped so much.

@MrHCify

29 күн бұрын

Ouch what a jerk!😮

@reneeantwi-boasiako3974

28 күн бұрын

@barbiesergio7663 I’m so sorry 🙏🏿❤️ please don’t believe the lies. You are beautiful

MY GOD - Dr. John is SO good and amazing!! WOW

My whole family always told me I'd never marry, because no man wants a skinny girl with nothing to hild onto. I'm married now, 14 years, 5 kids, and I still gear those words everyday. Only now, at 31 am i even acknowledging that I've been anorexic the past 20 years. People suck sometimes.

@sarastrange5282

28 күн бұрын

Right, I've always been skinny, you just can't win, ppl will judge you no matter what, except at 37 years old I'm still single 😂 better to enjoy your own company than settle right !

@reneeantwi-boasiako3974

28 күн бұрын

@GorditaSlim I’m so sorry 🙏🏿❤️ I wish you the best

This one spoke to me so much I ran a business with my dad he died from cancer in 2021 and the business died too a few months later I miss his as an incredible dad but also the best boss ever and now I’ve started again this time on my own using everything he taught me and learning from the stuff he did differently that I won’t do but it’s slow and heartbreaking because I wish he was here with me but this episode totally spoke to me Ugh The pain even now but thank you so much I needed to hear this

Great advice. Women need to love their insides more too.

@notfunny3397

29 күн бұрын

Insides?

Welp the advice you gave to Michael just hit home. I close my eyes when I walk past my reflection.

I workout bc I saw my mom go down hill fast when she stopped exercising due to her lupus flareups. I cannot stop thinking of what her life could have been if she kept moving . I know it's the right thing to do but I need to get this obsession out of my head.

@cosmicorinne

29 күн бұрын

That sounds like trauma. Your need to exercise even if it’s deteriorating is rooted in the trauma of watching your mom. I’m so sorry you went through that

@katherinealba6768

29 күн бұрын

That's ok. Sometimes our motivation for taking an action originates in not wanting to model a poor example and that's a valid motivator.

I feel him. I think so many of us relate to this. Sad… But thus is very common. No matter how many times people compliment me. I am not confident about myself as a whole…

Love the boyish grin when he “accepted” it.

Listening to the 3rd caller frustrated me so much that after I listened on my phone, I came to KZread and found the episode just to leave a comment. The caller painted her sister’s fiancé as the problem who was destroying her sister's life. I mean, at one point she said she had a 50-point list of concerns about her sister marrying him. It’s no wonder the fiancé is insecure and needs constant assurance that his future wife’s family isn’t driving a wedge between them. If the sister truly doesn't feel like she's trapped with her fiancé, then the family probably should have a conversation with the fiancé apologizing for holding him responsible for her choices and offering to truly let him in to the family, IMO.

That first caller felt like if I called in. I've been avoiding the gym for 2 months now (usually go 3 times a week) but just couldn't figure out why I didn't want to go anymore. I used to love it. His advice hit me straight in the soul. Also LOVE mind pump and Jordan syatt!

Body image issue advice is also to stop scrolling on social media and comparing to all of the superficial fakeness that’s out there.

Congratulations Dr Delony and crew!! 🥳🥳🎊. You guys are phenomenal and the numbers reflect that. Keep giving us the permission slips to become the best versions of ourselves. ❤️❤️

What you can do with your body is more important than how it looks. Are you strong for your height/weight? Do you have stamina? Can you push through discomfort to finish something?

Wow, this episode helped me so much 😅 thank you, honestly😢💗

That little celebration at the start made me smile big. Happy for your team! Thanks for all you do!

On that 3rd call 🙄... There's nothing wrong with him being Catholic if she's cool with it. Yes, you're the problem.

@tsx0013

28 күн бұрын

I'm happy, Dr. Delony gave the third caller tools to have a better conversation with her sister. Some people never think they are part of the problem.

John. You’re getting better and better -your compassion is golden and your honesty is helping so many people ! This one on body image helped me❤

That sister is terrible. No wonder the other sister is distancing herself…

@rachel4339

29 күн бұрын

Thank you! Wow, I thought I was losing my mind reading the comments and nobody was saying this. That whole call the only word that kept popping into my head was enmeshment. So, so, so much enmeshment 😩

@futago32

28 күн бұрын

​@@rachel4339 I wondered if it was a cycle: Family tells sister that he fiancé is no good. Sister tells her fiancé that her family says he's no good. Fiancé feels insecure and tries to limit time sister spends with family. Lather, rinse, repeat.

@rachel4339

28 күн бұрын

@@futago32 or when they met in the insulated environment of college she was able to express her actual desires without fear of her family’s judgment, and being the “knight in shining armor” type, he became a barrier between them, encouraging her to create the boundaries that she has already told him she wants and needs. And in doing so has threatened the family dynamic and is thus “the bad guy” in their view. I mean, they’ve already told her they don’t like him, cut her off financially, and clearly gossip about this subject on a regular basis, and still called for advice on how to pull her away from him, because none of their other tactics were working. But yeah, once they expressed their dislike for him I’m sure he heard about it and wouldn’t want to come around and deal with the awkwardness if he can avoid it 🤷‍♀️

Love this show and Dr John ❤🎉

My father's negative sayings about me and fale narratives still haunt me as a 40 something today. It is a daily mindful battle for me to try and remember that others love me and that I am good enough.

@jazz6711

28 күн бұрын

I try to think about a few positive things about myself at night or try to remember good moments I have had with loved ones. It is definitely a struggle to block out the negativity! Remember you don’t have to get it right every single day :)

@reneeantwi-boasiako3974

28 күн бұрын

@msdixieblues I’m so sorry 🙏🏿❤ I wish you the best

Thank you for this Dr.Delony ❤

Kudos to you and your wonderful team!

Congratulations on #3!! 🎉

Dr John. Say thank you to all of us outside Americaaaaaaa😂

"So grateful for everyone in America who listens" My European ass: well okay damn 😂

@smarie3874

29 күн бұрын

Canadian here. I know, right?

@Itwasallyellow_

29 күн бұрын

Aussie here!! Listen all the time 😊

I loved this so much ❤

Congratulations on #3!!!!

3rd caller, Lauren, whoa ! Expressing concerns over your sister's fiancee is legit. The whole Catholic bashing was pretty unnecessary. I hope the right thing happens for your sister, and if marriage is the proper choice, hope you can chill.

@Crinkle821

28 күн бұрын

Out of 50 concerns, joining the Catholic Church was number 2 ?!??!!! She said her family wasn’t into “organized religion” but if the fiancé is serious about his faith, what is wrong with her converting? It’s not like she’s getting on her new, white tennis shoes, drinking the poisoned Kool-Aid, lying in her bunkbed, waiting for the mothership to come and get her! I grew up Catholic but now I attend a Baptist church. It’s amazing to hear fellow Christians go on and on about how evil and destined for Hell Catholics are. The Catholic Church has problems, but so do other churches. Only God knows a person’s heart. This woman needs to practice unconditional love and show up for her sister’s big day with a smile on her face. By her family withdrawing their financial and emotional support when she makes a choice they disagree with, it only introduces doubt and fear into her ability to confidently make tough decisions and stand up for herself. They are driving her into his arms, the exact place they didn’t want her to be.

The last caller 🥹 I too have John to thank for so much & when he said they really just talk & we make the changes, I cried. He does so much more than he knows for people ❤ so thankful to have found this KZread podcast guy lol

I'm a woman and 5'8 inches. In high school I had a chemistry teacher refer to me as "Godzilla" in front of the whole class because of my height. It stuck with some of the guys in high school. Shitty.

@reneeantwi-boasiako3974

28 күн бұрын

I’m so sorry 🙏🏿❤️ Please don’t believe the lies

That’s great advice

Love this one ..

I feel for the girl in the 3rd call. She just doesn’t want to see her baby sister hurt 😢 Visiting her in person sounds like a good idea. Such a sad situation 💔

@rachel4339

29 күн бұрын

That’s so interesting because I interpreted it a completely different way.

@theshunnedBandersnatch

29 күн бұрын

@@rachel4339 Really, how so?

@rachel4339

29 күн бұрын

@@theshunnedBandersnatch the mom and the sisters sound controlling AF imo. Their family dynamic absolutely screams enmeshment trauma. I don’t think the little sister is trapped at all, I think she’s utilizing her soon to be husband as a shield for her own weakness. She’s too afraid to say and do what she actually wants, and because she doesn’t express those things to her family herself, they don’t really know her at all, and they assume her new partner is forcing or coercing her into doing things that they don’t like, when in reality she’s just afraid to disappoint or upset them because of the abandonment fear that comes up in enmeshed families. They don’t unconditionally love her and she knows it.

@YouMissedBro

29 күн бұрын

Lmao she has a miserable, secular life Girl Bossing it and is jealous her sister is trying to be traditional and live a happy life as a catholic wife instead of a future cat lady.

@Casmomof3

28 күн бұрын

​@rachel4339 I completely agree with you! It came across to me that she felt she had to follow the family path into med school and it wasn't for her. She is running for protection. It might not be a good idea, but that is not her sister's choice. They may also be misinterpreting what's happening. It's hard to know from what she said. They're throwing rocks instead of approaching her with open arms. I hope they follow Dr John's advice.

The problem with associating manhood and being a good dad with doing something you hate is it often leads to those calls Dr. John gets from guys who are 45, hate their wives, have no joy in their lives and can see no way forward. Glad John recognized this guy needs a different path.

This third fiancé should have concerns about the woman’s sister. She has some valid points but shes just very annoying

"let's go out to Baton Rouge, Los Angeles!" 😂 ilu John

- “My sister doesn’t come around us anymore.” - “Why would she, y’all hate her life.” Dr. John was spot on with that last call.

Do you have a list of therapist you recommend??

3rd caller probably runs a HOA

LA= Louisiana. When used as a state .👊🏽

you are making the story in your head. I have anxiety listening to her .... I feel like I am still in my marriage ... omg ...

@marthaanhalt481

25 күн бұрын

I did too… it made me think something else is behind it

AW JOHN :') u betttttaaaaaa 🤍❕

I get to is the key wtf be your own best cheerleader . Do good Stanley here probably related John haha anyhow thk u both u n your crew n wife gif bless

😢 gosh father love❤

My son is 24 yrs Old ❤

3rd call.. he's in law school.. lawyers are controlling, in general. The rest of it doesn't make me worried

@x-mess

29 күн бұрын

Maybe the family is too in her business n she likes the fact 1-he puts boundaries, 2-he will let her stay at home, 3-he’s got money… sounds like she used him as a shield…

@x-mess

29 күн бұрын

Sisterssssss oooof! 😂😂 they’re probably jealous that she will be set with him.. but, lawyers n cops are a ‘breed’ so I can see their concern. I would love to hear HER point of view

@rachel4339

29 күн бұрын

⁠@@x-messyesss, exactly! I learned a while back that any time a family member is like “We’re so shocked they’re with this person! It’s so unlike them!” I immediately think “That’s probably because you don’t actually know them.” 😬

QUIT MAKING ME CRY!!

The sister that call she is bored with her life. She must get a life

So who is John Sayat that you mentioned following on Instagram and how do we find him?

@flashthecorgi2053

29 күн бұрын

Jordan Syatt

I see these kids at my gym everyday… when I was 20 we bought protein powder, now the kids buy steroids before they even join a gym.,, and they literally shutdown their natural testosterone production at 19-20 years old… it’s insane.

Right that hurts frm your dad natve he was being iver protected I hope 9:05

My husband has 6% body fat and yes he never has a complete serving of sweets 😂 I always share with him, he only takes 2 bites. He is secure but loves to be in shape like it’s a challenge, not a show off at all.

@MrHCify

Ай бұрын

He’s not secure. He’s a complete slave to his body image. But good job justifying.

Not Lionel just regular Richie 😂😂😂

Are you telling me and others what mattress to buy?? How much are you getting paid for pushing ????

I assumed this call would be from a woman. Bad me.

Ms. Lauren does not understand Catholicism at all.

im.sencere what. we have talk u told. me ur angel had ases u

Richie's dad wasn't a good dad, and he can't heal until he accepts that. His dad put the business over his family, and Richie has been chasing his dad's absent love for his whole life. His dad was doing the best he could, but in the end, his example is not one to follow. You need to make your own life instead of chasing someone else's.

@amamadarkly

29 күн бұрын

If his dad came from the slums, he probably did not have much of a framework for fatherhood except to provide materially, which it seems he did until his deathbed, which I would consider a form of honor/loyalty to his family even if it was kind of misguided and delusional because the business didn't work. But I do think Richie should move away from idealizing his father to viewing him more realistically as a flawed person doing his best. And then he can get over his imposter syndrome and understand that he doesn't need to be perfectly unflawed to be a good father, just to do his best and consistently show up

@stacylee7688

8 күн бұрын

That's not a fair statement to say his dad wasn't a good dad. There are dads that are "there" that don't give their children any time or anything. His dad was there for him. The bully story shows one moment how he was. This guy knew his dad was always there for him ... "I gotcha". He may have worked a lot, but this dad was there. It sounds more like this caller is disappointed in not continuing the business and is blaming himself. He said he's afraid of failure and I think deep down he thinks he's failed his father, and is a failure. He doesn't measure up. And this is pressure he's putting on himself still.

Lmao the sister is feeling her completely natural maternal instincts (have a family, settle down, not Girl Boss into a "career") and the caller cant stand that she herself is probably a future 40 year old cat woman 😂

@YouMissedBro

29 күн бұрын

I did not hear a dad be mentioned. I heard there is a mom and a 3rd sister. So 100% girl boss jealousy that they're alone and miserable while sister is getting married and becoming traditional

@mauviamodi8249

27 күн бұрын

@@YouMissedBro you apparently also didn't hear that this caller has a baby and a family lol. More like biased comment. That said, a tradition that goes hand in hand with settling down would be for fiance to make a connection with the girl's family and recognize the importance of in-law relationships. Since we didn't hear much about what he did to make that happen, you're making conclusions based on incomplete information. Overall, the call was a complete mess and no conclusions can be drawn either way.

Just answering the question in the thumbnail because I couldn't help myself😂, but how do you learn to love the body you have sounds like a 45 second phone call to me, go to the gym, take the body you have and turn it into the best physical shape you possibly can, watch what you eat, intermittent fasting makes this quite simple, there, not rocket science

@sundown6748

Ай бұрын

Yeah NOT helpful It’s a mental block. In the first seconds he said he’s in the best shape of his life.

@dan44zzt231

Ай бұрын

It'll never be enough if that's the mentality.

@rachel4339

29 күн бұрын

😂 I absolutely love that the spirit of this was basically the complete opposite of what ended up being suggested.

My gosh the feminist hate coming from lady 3 is so toxic

Beta john

@sundown6748

Ай бұрын

I’d bet looks a lot younger and better than you

@srobertson422

Ай бұрын

Man, that comment fast didn't last long!

@flashthecorgi2053

Ай бұрын

@@srobertson422​​⁠Haha you knew it wouldn’t. He had to come start harassing me on my channel because he couldn’t stand not berating women over here. 😂

@srobertson422

Ай бұрын

@@flashthecorgi2053 literally cannot fathom how empty his life is

@izzywox8246

29 күн бұрын

@@flashthecorgi2053did he really?????? ☠️ oof

No greater accomplishment in life than when your kid says they want to be just like you. WOW 🤍 This 2nd call literally made me teary eyed 🥹

Omg! So excited to hear you mention jordan Syatt. He’s my favorite fitness coach- he speaks a language I can understand!

Michael’s call 🥹❤️ thank you for all you do, Dr John. You’re a gift!