Girl, don’t let your boyfriend get in the way of finding your husband.

@kathleenpritchard4368

28 күн бұрын

Excellent answer!!!

@rozitagh4479

25 күн бұрын

😂yeah

@JC-di4uz

23 күн бұрын

As a man myself I can tell u this dudes a scumbag. Called her by his side chick's name for God sakes

@janerasimmons3445

21 күн бұрын

I love this response so much!! I am saving this for my girls in case I need it

@thornyrose1235

6 күн бұрын

Perfectly said!!!

Aubrey is scared that she wasted 5 years but doesnt realise she could potentially waste many more.

@kimmassak8276

3 ай бұрын

I know she's scared she has wasted 5 years on this fool....why look forward to wasting any more years on him?!?! Please Run!!! He's showing you exactly who he is!

@Beanzo03

3 ай бұрын

Don't be me and go thru 30 years married to the wrong person 😢😢😢

@debralondon2402

3 ай бұрын

Amen.

@deeh5126

3 ай бұрын

Sunk cost fallacy at work... it's vicious.

@Burncsb

3 ай бұрын

Although he may well not be worthy it, 5 years to a wedding is not actually that long. In fact in most cases I'd say it's rushing it.

Ladies, don't ever let a man tell you more than once that he doesn't want you. Walk away and keep your dignity and self respect.

@blueStarKitt7924

2 ай бұрын

Yes.

@jamesbond1157

2 ай бұрын

Are you married

@mrhoffame

2 ай бұрын

Ladies? I would think that would be for any person?

@blueStarKitt7924

2 ай бұрын

@@mrhoffame Right.

@HSK.Lerner

Ай бұрын

Dignity and self-respect? The guy doesn't have both either, otherwise he wouldn't treat his girlfriend like that!

"I know we have to get married..." No you don't buddy. Let her go.

@lydiaross4801

2 ай бұрын

Another suggestion I have for this couple is separate completely from one another for a month and spend each day in the Bible reading the proverbs. By the end of that time God should have the ability to break through your physical attraction issues to each other. Then you should be able to play some scripture Like the double-minded man is unstable in ALL his ways. Or the scripture says it's better to dwell alone on an open roof top don't you live in a fine house with a cantankerous wife .. One shows that if a man is unstable in his decision-making regarding the marriage what do you suppose the future holds. The second is that this woman is already receiving comments from her husband that say things like well she isn't happy with what I'm doing or she doesn't make me happy etcetera That will escalate exponentially in marriage. Follow the scripture where it says seek the Lord with your whole heart and you will find him. This way you will know what God has to say about your future. Jesus loves each of us equally. Neither one of you have to feel guilty when God shows you yes or no you can more easily obey.

@lydiaross4801

2 ай бұрын

Another suggestion I have for this couple is separate completely from one another for a month and spend each day in the Bible reading the proverbs. By the end of that time God should have the ability to break through your physical attraction issues to each other. Then you should be able to play some scripture Like the double-minded man is unstable in ALL his ways. Or the scripture says it's better to dwell alone on an open roof top don't you live in a fine house with a cantankerous wife .. One shows that if a man is unstable in his decision-making regarding the marriage what do you suppose the future holds. The second is that this woman is already receiving comments from her husband that say things like well she isn't happy with what I'm doing or she doesn't make me happy etcetera That will escalate exponentially in marriage. Follow the scripture where it says seek the Lord with your whole heart and you will find him. This way you will know what God has to say about your future. Jesus loves each of us equally. Neither one of you have to feel guilty when God shows you yes or no you can more easily obey.

@CradleEpiscopalian56

2 ай бұрын

Strings are for puppets and he's pulling.

@UltraGalacticSuperFantastic

Ай бұрын

this guy's an effing asshole. He's talking about going to church and stuff YET he went on dates and messages other girls?! What delusional life is he living?!

@andreanease4215

Ай бұрын

He meant to have sex (morally) and change that aspect of the relationship problems.

If you’re having these problems before you’re even married, getting married is definitely not going to solve them.

@FrancineYeshua

10 ай бұрын

Exactly

@7Mushrooms7

10 ай бұрын

It will make it worse and harder to leave. She needs to leave his ass ASAP. He's staying just to placate her and out of comfort.

@allhailsunshine052

10 ай бұрын

He will eventually cheat on her in marriage and she will question herself why she didn’t leave earlier

@rickjames4031

9 ай бұрын

Even to go as far as engaging with other women in text and also a physical in-person date? Marriage should be off the table for good. Already 5 years down the drain. Restart fresh with someone new.

@sherriflemming3218

9 ай бұрын

So many men have a porn addiction. He's got a wandering eye. Not trustworthy.

If you're moved to tears while you wonder if you should really be marrying someone, YOU ALREADY KNOW THE ANSWER

@courtneyjackson7181

9 ай бұрын

So so true. And how many people do we know who have done it 😢

@ibabymomx3

8 ай бұрын

Exactly

@lucygubernat5516

8 ай бұрын

They should be tears of happiness !

@JasonTaylor-po5xc

6 ай бұрын

@@lucygubernat5516 They aren't in the moment. They only are once you have found someone that truly loves you or come to terms it is better to be alone than with someone that resents you.

@debralondon2402

6 ай бұрын

Amen

She’s what they call “the placeholder” until his right one comes along He’s not a good man for her.

@skimbaweed

2 ай бұрын

Yeah I'm surprised that dude wasn't given more of a hard time seems as I've seen Dr John be pretty tough on some women

@wolfiemcqueen647

2 ай бұрын

No-he is not a good man. He is a liar and a self-centered fool.

@victoriagraham6470

2 ай бұрын

Run for the hills girl

@nellybean69

2 ай бұрын

That are so young and so wrong for each other.

@temposhop8739

2 ай бұрын

I don't think men who use placeholder women ever make a good partner, even for someone who starts out as their dream woman. This man isn't playing with a full deck, emotionally. He's not going to treat anothet woman better, at least not genuinely or long term.

It’s over. He’s told her plainly .The pauses spoke volumes. She needs to summon up the courage to leave .

@freedom4063

Ай бұрын

😢 he's a player

@jeremyholley2978

18 күн бұрын

The fact that he wasn’t even paying attention during the first question that John asked should tell her everything she needs to know.

@ElimEx1

5 күн бұрын

@@freedom4063 I don't think he has enough willpower or ambition for that. He's passive and lets the world happen around him.

When he said Lexi instead of Aubry my heart broke for her. Run girl, run!

@leisalee3287

7 ай бұрын

I think Lexi is her real name! He’s supposed to be using a fake name to protect her identity! He did it twice!

@lisacraft9929

6 ай бұрын

This poor girl is so upset, she can't even speak The guy sounds like he is totally uninterested. Sad to say, she needs to let him go or otherwise she'll be crying constantly.

@juliedewyer1366

6 ай бұрын

He did it more than once.

@name9601

6 ай бұрын

@@lisacraft9929 ain't for him, she didn't want to start over

@Missycrissy323

5 ай бұрын

Same here. That was a big Freudian slip.

He 100% wants to find someone else, but is too much of a coward to leave her without someone already waiting for him. Thats why he flirts and talks to other chicks, but none of them actually want him (what a shock)

@zarahsgarden2097

10 ай бұрын

100% monkey branching.. so gross and cowardly

@kayjeffs3741

10 ай бұрын

Facts! That's why he went on that date last year. He doesn't see her as his wife and he's still looking

@astrea79

10 ай бұрын

Yup. 💯 I wish people like this would just wake up and realize it's worse to keep someone around in case a "better" person comes around. This lady deserves to be with someone who actually loves her.

@KittyCurioso

10 ай бұрын

He’s a crappy guy

@aladdout9454

10 ай бұрын

Gosh men are such whores and bitches always monkey-branching.

I think she is trying to convince herself that he wants to try when he clearly doesn't.

@iloveyoiur9r2r

28 күн бұрын

Exactly. The way he tentatively and uncertainly said “no” after he was asked if he was done says it all.

@veronicalopez6187

Күн бұрын

She wants so badly for it to work out that she doesn’t even see that she deserves more than crumbs.

Girl RUN!!, RUN!!, RUN!! This guy did not even wait for that "so-called" 7 year itch within a marriage. He is not ready!! He has not done anything physical with anybody? Yeah right!! Get rid of him!!!

@jennysantana1687

Ай бұрын

He is probably ready, just not for her. He'll give the next girl all that she craves...

@alyssafuller6306

Ай бұрын

I had completely forgotten about the 7nyeat itch concept oh my gosh, I think that's what me and my partner just went through

@danielleelias685

19 күн бұрын

I agree. If they can't even get physical and they're not even married yet, she needs to run. It's not gonna get better with marriage. And he won't be faithful either.

Your body knows…your body tells you when you are with the wrong person.

@debralondon2402

4 ай бұрын

IF we LISTEN!! And THINK it through logically which is VERY HARD to do when you are in love? Sadly. But you are VERY LUCKY if you do!!!

@sharonrice8255

3 ай бұрын

So true! She wants it to be right & in love & the wedding but she already knows the answer. Her older self will get better at listening to her inner knowing, and the hard knocks she will endure for not believing her intuition will be the lesson.

@jefdby

3 ай бұрын

100%

@kimperes5987

3 ай бұрын

Your gut tells you if the partner is cheating or not all in. This is an unequal partnership.

@mariam6822

3 ай бұрын

She's not being true to her feelings. They should not get married. He is not ready.

As my mom always said, "Better to be single than wishing you were."

@EllysaE

4 ай бұрын

Whew love this

@lachanna100

4 ай бұрын

😮

@sherryd3299

4 ай бұрын

Love it! Thank you

@thefirm4606

4 ай бұрын

Mama is a wise woman ❤❤

@dagobert1234321

4 ай бұрын

Smart Mama

It’s better to feel like you wasted 5 years than to waste 5+ years. He’s a cheater, she’s fighting her intuition, she’s not his dream girl, and she doesn’t value herself enough to walk away.

I’ve been in her shoes exactly. I finally left and found my husband. Trust me girl there is someone out there that will make you feel loved and wanted every single day.

That “Lexi, I mean Aubry” my heart snapped in half for her

@BlueDauntless

3 ай бұрын

Apparently it’s an alias. So he called her by her real name

@simpleman5932

3 ай бұрын

Obviously. That's why there was no backlash from either her or John when he used the wrong name. Because he was just using her real name instead of the alias. People online can be so ignorant lol

@J-B-P

3 ай бұрын

I thought the same but when he did it the second time, I realized it’s just the fake name they were instructed to use for the purposes of this show, to protect their identities.

@Ginn823

3 ай бұрын

He did it twice! Said I love Lexi but talking bout Aubrey and nothing was even said about it! Crazy! I ain't never heard nothing bout no aliases while listening to this show but..whateves!

@followhim4425

3 ай бұрын

Yes, he said that twice!

My golden rule of relationships is this. Things that are bad at the beginning of a relationship...don't get better. 💁‍♂

@SydniAnnBaker

10 ай бұрын

IF THE FIST DATE ISN'T PERFECT...

@sarahburggraf907

10 ай бұрын

You're not wrong

@kathleencooney1518

9 ай бұрын

People don’t change & you definitely can’t change a man.

@kyleranney

9 ай бұрын

totally not true. Just met someone a few weeks ago who cheated on his GF in college while being a frat boy and not they are married years later with kids and a successful business. A great and completely transformed life.

@mariahconklin4150

9 ай бұрын

Or they do get better I mean me and my boyfriend are good it’s not necessarily true. A lot of my family members in relationships are doing well from what I know. 🤷‍♀️ My cousin went through a lot with her husband and yet they are good

Nah, sis. He ain't it. Run.

This dude sounds sooo checked out. She has emotion in his voice and he has none. I feel sorry for women like this :( they’re breaking their own hearts and they don’t even realize it.

@amandasmith3504

Сағат бұрын

They're truly foolish and I can't deal with it.

Never let a man tell you he doesn't want you more than once! She needs to rescue her self esteem from the pit she's let it sink into.

@goodgirlvicki

10 ай бұрын

Exactly 💯

@mekeiawatson

10 ай бұрын

Judge Lynn Toler told em! Now she gotta listen.

@johniii8147

10 ай бұрын

Exactly. He was very clear about that. I give him that credit. I think he's just feeling guilty about leaving.

@rebeccaprewett5014

10 ай бұрын

So so true!

@Solitaire427

10 ай бұрын

Truth! I think he’s having a hard time leaving cause she is so fragile..

I’ve been this girl. Leave. It’s a blessing when people tell you how they truly feel about you.

@farhanah2244

10 ай бұрын

I've also been that girl. Listen to them when they say they are done and they don't want to work on it. I was exactly like Aubrey.. thinking to give my all and above and beyond into it n thinking he would obviously want to do the same (we were already married). Should have left and ended it much earlier!! Ex was exactly like this dude. He wouldn't leave though. I'd convince him to stay. At the end I figured he was a covert narcissist. And this guy really reminds me of him. He has no empathy. I hope she listens to what he has said (he's done) and also to her own body (it's not safe to be with him) and she builds her self worth up.

@mimimonster

10 ай бұрын

Couldn’t agree more. She doesn’t want to lose him but she already has. She just can’t accept it.

@jimsmith8359

10 ай бұрын

I can see this story a mile away. The girl is never going to forgive this guy for whatever it is that he did. Only reason this is still happening is that she is waiting for a higher branch. Dude needs to accept the hurt and leave, because when she leaves, he is going to have no say in it. He has done this on her terms for five years. Now, he needs to do it on his.

@Natalia_85

10 ай бұрын

Agreed. Been there too.

@eetoved1758

10 ай бұрын

YES

“If behavior is a language, what has he been telling you?” WOW. What a question!

Aubrey, sweet girl… if you’re in tears like this and feeling this way during your engagement (which should be the absolute happiest & best time of your life) just imagine WHAT you will go through and feel like in a marriage with this arrogant and selfish boy jerk. DO NOT MARRY HIM. You’ll regret it down the line.

This isn’t optimism, it’s denial.

@anitaclue9868

10 ай бұрын

ABSOLUTELY!!!

@FrancineYeshua

10 ай бұрын

Exactly!

@sherriflemming3218

9 ай бұрын

I wouldn't marry this guy. He needs to clean up his act and make some changes. His behavior doesn't indicate trust or committment.

@ibabymomx3

8 ай бұрын

Exactly. This guy is so selfish.

@jeanwagner7031

4 ай бұрын

RIGHT EXACTLY

Her crying at the beginning is absolutely telling. If someone loves you, hearing you cry like that is heartbreaking and he just doesn’t seem to care

@jacquidanke1263

4 ай бұрын

MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY.

@CrayolaCoffeeBean

4 ай бұрын

He seems bothered. You know? Like it’s more of an annoyance to him, yet he isn’t man enough to walk away.

@maureenhorrigan7151

4 ай бұрын

She is haunted by the past. And men and women can and do look that are other people, but not in front of them and not to acting on it. These 2 need to walk way away.

@amyashlyn2999

2 ай бұрын

Sorry, on one hand, I feel like he doesn’t want to end the relationship because it will hurt her. On the other hand he wants to end the relationship but doesn’t have the testicular fortitude.

@listrahtes

2 ай бұрын

Men and women handle emotion different. You can't extrapolate his inner workings.

He enjoys the imbalance between them. She is invested and inserting all the love and he loves to be on the receiving end. He wants his wife to chase him for a lifetime.

@DineoBaloyi-cr6ky

19 күн бұрын

😮this

@TipTheScales27

6 күн бұрын

Damn you’re right. Him dangling the good times in her face and the promise of marriage gives him power over her. Wish he’d man up and leave her

@slowroastedmarshmallow9226

3 күн бұрын

Not what I got AT ALL. Seems she has cast him for "the role he is to play" as if SHE is the Director of his life. Do you REALLY want to marry a man you can boss around? They BOTH need a break and growing up. Sounds like he has more of a LIfe outside of her than she has of him. She has Roped him in into her Frame... Yet what does SHE bring? Sounds like she doesn't want much to do with HIS FRAME. She has DECLINED his invitation, then complains that he has "checked out."

Run girl… run as fast as you can.

"I hurt her. I hurt myself, too." No, sir, you didn't hurt yourself. You did exactly what you wanted to do. Aubrey, you deserve someone who does not look for other women to give him attention.

@johngreen6938

10 ай бұрын

And he deserves someone who can grow and put in the effort with him.

@kenasssss

10 ай бұрын

@@johngreen6938 nah, you put effort into someone who is loyal to you, not someone who has actions that makes you doubt. Go grow with a woman that flirts with other men too, see how that works. Good luck.

@aladdout9454

10 ай бұрын

​@@johngreen6938he deserves nothing from anyone if he treats them like that.

@BrickKid0416

10 ай бұрын

Nah, they’re just kids. They’re not ready

@sthiggs79

9 ай бұрын

This isn't fair to him.... He probably DOES feel hurt that he hurt her... He's having a hard time because he more than likey does love her, but not enough to marry her. We have lost compassion. Sometimes people just get caught up and cant get themselves out of it.... this is what I like about John... he's empathetic.

Girl, listen to the elder women here: LEAVE HIM. Love isnt supposed to feel like this. You’re better than this, love ❤

This was me. I feel her pain and I relate to holding on even when I know it’s over. However, I took a step of courage and ended my engagement. Boy was it painful but it will forever be the best decision I ever made. I am now happily married to an incredible man, and I can’t believe I’m saying that because 4 years ago I wouldn’t have believed it was possible. It hurts now, but down the road you will be eternally grateful you did.

@hands-to-work1601

6 күн бұрын

And even if you never find this great person, alone will be better than with this guy.

He wasn't even listening when she discussed what is going on. He minimalised her responses, feelings again and again throughout the call. He truly does not care or respect this woman. She is projecting a fantasy onto him.Those rose tinted glasses need to come off. Past behaviour is a strong indicator of future behaviour.

"If behavior was a language, what is he telling you?" That's a great question. I'm gonna keep that for other friends.

@thelucariamonarchs4889

7 ай бұрын

Stealing

@user-wk5pz5ek2e

4 ай бұрын

Right right right...he doesnt respect you...he doesnt love you...

@sherryd3299

4 ай бұрын

You are so right! I love that. Thank you.

@dewilew2137

4 ай бұрын

Definitely. And behavior really is a language.

@gayle2276

4 ай бұрын

I had a counselor tell me -his actions are telling you what he wants. We divorced a few months later and he immediately married his coworker

GIRL if a dude says HES DONE then believe him!!!

@mssophiad03

Ай бұрын

💯 In general, if someone tells you who they are, believe them. His flat affect and mumbling tells you all you need to know.

Poor little girl. She has no self esteem. HE is her self esteem and it’s not working very well.

If you aren’t even married yet and he disrespects you like this you should not get married. Think about a wonderful married man you know and admire. Now think about how that man treats his wife… he probably is very devoted, respectful, and makes sure to make her feel loved and respected.

Aubrey, you're forcing something that shouldn't be forced. Be honest with each other.

@cucar8363

10 ай бұрын

Agree

@-KMA-

10 ай бұрын

Love a man’s pov, even if it hurts but I’d rather a man be honest than play games ❤

@LearsiMusic1

10 ай бұрын

Get out their business 😂WTF

@FFlores79

10 ай бұрын

It's the fear of letting go. Fear of being alone..fear of seeing him with someone new..fear of the pain that keeps you stuck and the addiction to the highs and lows.

@s.m.7635

8 ай бұрын

Yes

If he hasn’t t married you in 5 years you are the string he is hanging onto until the ONE comes along for him!

@jayneanderson8057

3 ай бұрын

he will be this way for life,,,,,,,,,run

@marthamainella3658

3 ай бұрын

That’s not definitely true. I was in high school , my husband was 3 years older. He got drafted and went to war. It was 8 years, we finally got married. We were happy for the rest of our lives. 44 years later I lost him. He was the love of my life for 50 years and will be forever. She loves him and he’s a cheater she caught him!! Run,Run,Run!!

@debipalmer5775

3 ай бұрын

Trust is broken He treats you like an option Aubrey

@melissabrown3976

2 ай бұрын

100% agree!! This woman needs to run! I married a man I knew I shouldn't because I was afraid/ start over. All it did was mean that instead of starting over at 27, I had to do it at 37. Huge mistake!

@yoursuchababe

2 ай бұрын

I don't think this is necessarily true, I think some people have their own issues that they have to work through. I don't think thats the case here, as he's clearly still looking for the right woman

“The one for you” would never make you feel this way Aubrey. He’s not good enough for you.

Run girl! You deserve someone who is actually into you.

Life is too short to be with the wrong person.

@starlingswallow

10 ай бұрын

It is. I spent 14 years with someone who neglected me and abused me. I left and found my One. He is my One in every way....like, I'm in awe of God/our Creator every single day because we found each other.

@alluringbliss4165

10 ай бұрын

@@starlingswallowglad to hear that

@MattCasters

10 ай бұрын

You can't negotiate attraction. Either it's there or not.

@jennyk.8349

10 ай бұрын

Agreed. She should cut her losses now. She deserves so much better than this

@adriennewithington6115

10 ай бұрын

Word

He tells her “I’m done” and she keeps “trying to make things work”. Girlllll he’s been more than clear

@TahTwinkletoes

4 ай бұрын

That's why I don't feel sorry for some women they just don't LISTEN! You shouldn't have to convince someone to be with you 🚩🚩🚩

@virginiaka5902

4 ай бұрын

What so she’s to blame for the relationship continuing? It’s both of them that need to act appropriately.

@ToMaSsS10

4 ай бұрын

@@virginiaka5902 The woman is acting retarded for trying to keep the relationship yes

@thefirm4606

4 ай бұрын

He’s still hanging around and won’t walk away either. Why is he still there if he doesn’t want her?

@jeanwagner7031

4 ай бұрын

@@TahTwinkletoes EXACTLY!

Ohhhh he called her Lexi. Run girl run!!!!!

If you marry him he will be having the good times with someone else and you will be the one home crying. Let him go, there are a million better guys out there.

She knows the answer, she is just struggling to accept it. It hurts now, but ending it will save her from more heartache. My dad once told me after I ended an engagement (6 years together) when I was younger "it hurts now, but you'll look back and realize it was the best decision you can make" ..... he was right.

@ashleyduckworthyt3224

2 ай бұрын

I wish I had a dad who said things like that to me. I would’ve learned so many lessons sooner

@blueStarKitt7924

2 ай бұрын

Bless your dad.❤

It’s so easy to see from the outside that this relationship will never work and should be broken immediately

@c.edales740

10 ай бұрын

Yes . They are so wrong for each other. Its on both parts.

@patriciasadlertrainor6771

10 ай бұрын

Yes, she doesn't want to say goodbye, but isn't happy with him. They should take a break, and maybe a permanent one. He's so hesitant but has said he wants out. If they marry it will be even worse.

@terryellis7692

10 ай бұрын

10000% I was like nope time to end this. It's forced. Not natural

@deirdrekiely6187

10 ай бұрын

But when girls are IN WUVVVVVVVVVVVVV they think every dysfunctional relationship should be saved.

@drollette08

10 ай бұрын

True

RUN! Take it from someone who ended up going through the marriage and I have been consistently been lied to. His family has supported his unfaithfulness. I was in this position, crying and didn't want to give up. Realize your worth. He will change for who he wants to. You're not his one, unfortunately. It's hard to hear but you are worth more than this. He sounds exactly like my husband.

“I love Lexy, I don’t want to hurt her” WHOS LEXY?!?!

@VaughanMate

Ай бұрын

How dumb do you have to be? Clearly it’s an alias.

@scrapykat3028

Ай бұрын

Exactly! Sounds like a narcissist

@momfromnj911

Ай бұрын

They are using fake names to protect their privacy

@TASmith-ou3is

Ай бұрын

Hey! I heard that too!!!

@llexiinator

Ай бұрын

@@scrapykat3028 no that’s her real name, they used an alias during the call and he accidentally used her real name

My Mom always said, don’t let a man tell you twice that he doesn’t want you. It’s time to let go sweetheart

@coriemmett1363

10 ай бұрын

Good advice!

@nope9790

4 ай бұрын

Is your mom Judge Lynn Toler?

@user-ig9ri5er1c

3 ай бұрын

Absolutely!!

I’ve never heard in someone’s voice how little he actually cares for his partner. My goodness, she’s desperate. Heartbreaking.

@patpatmoomoo5524

3 ай бұрын

Try listening to testimony from Scott Peterson or Chris Watts

@hillarybillary21

3 ай бұрын

@@patpatmoomoo5524 ah ya ok you’re right. But they’re raging psychopaths. I meant in the “normal” spectrum

@flyandshy00

3 ай бұрын

You don't need to be a killer to be a psychopath. Psychopath is a cunning person who just takes and doesn't feel anything for anyone just like Kyle. @@hillarybillary21

@satomlin1

3 ай бұрын

You can tell by the tone of his voice; a giggling sound in his voice initially. Thank goodness John, you made him face it.

@nathaliekovacs8140

3 ай бұрын

He could not possibly care less about her. Poor girl I don’t know how she’s still holding on to this dude

This man has zero enthusiasm! He seemed to be practically falling asleep (or off in la la land) while his fiancée is crying. He is not ready for the commitment of marriage!

@jereni-solpoetry5994

7 күн бұрын

Exactly!

Cry now but be happy later you made the right decision

He doesn't want her. SHE NEEDS TO REMOVE HERSELF FROM THIS RELATIONSHIP!

"I don't want to hurt her." Dude, it hurts more sticking around and sending mixed signals than it is to just leave. At least when someone leaves, you can spend the time grieving and moving on.

@tinam761

10 ай бұрын

He’s using her until something better comes along.

@alluringbliss4165

10 ай бұрын

She s become the appetizer while he waits for the main course

@KVW110

10 ай бұрын

If it was ME, I'd'vd been gone already. SHE doesn't want to leave. HE clearly doesn't want to stay. Trust me, some of us women wouldn't put ourselves in this position, but this call is about them, not us.

@cashwalk7253

10 ай бұрын

Like, did he not seriously hear her on the phone?!? Poor thing is heartbroken-if you are not at least in tears over this, you don’t deserve her.

@georgewagner7787

10 ай бұрын

He's using her. Don't be intimate before marriage. Too much heartbreak.

Unfortunately is his choice of words. That denies his responsibility. Yuck.

I was married to a guy who oogled other women every time we went out. I nagged at him about it for a few years, then just gave up and tried my best to ignore it. One night we were at a Chinese restaurant having dinner and suddenly another male patron appeared at our table. He proceeded to confront my husband about the way he was staring at his 14-year-old daughter! The guy was really pissed (understandably) and my husband apologized repeatedly and the guy eventually backed off and went back to his table. I never said a word and my husband never pulled that crap again.

@zajarcairuda

14 күн бұрын

I think you're the red flag that you moved past your husband checking out a 14 yr old child. Damn, girl.

Oh honey... You deserve better than this. He just told you that he's done... Take him at his word. A breakup is hard, but not as hard as a divorce. Take some time to heal and become whole again. And then find someone who won't look at you as an obligation and cheat on you. You just broke down crying and he didn't care at all... He's over it. And you deserve to be LOVED. Not to be married to someone who is "over it" before the marriage even started.

@AN-jw2oe

10 ай бұрын

SO true, a breakup is not as bad as a divorce. Really helpful perspective for sure!

@johniii8147

10 ай бұрын

They both deserve better. Obviously just not a fit.

@traceejohnson290

10 ай бұрын

Yes and Not Married and 2 kids later😏

@kimyoung3484

10 ай бұрын

♥️💪💪💪💪💪

@djregina6897

4 ай бұрын

​@@johniii8147He deserves someone he loves dearly to talk to other men online and go on dates

People don’t realize that you can genuinely care about someone but not be right for each other.

@Mom99004

2 ай бұрын

Absolutely. You can be in love and let them go!

@kelrogers8480

2 ай бұрын

Or you can be trauma bonded to an asshole and not realise it!

@irener3259

2 ай бұрын

Hard, but true

@ashleyunderwood4855

2 ай бұрын

No. Him messaging others is not because they aren’t right or wrong for each other. It’s him being a pos.

@ennuiblue4295

2 ай бұрын

​@@ashleyunderwood4855 I do believe he cares about her on some level, but he cares about himself a whole lot more. He's hurting her more not letting her go

He legit called her a different name, GIRL RUNNNNNN

@hannahdonnelly

17 күн бұрын

Twice!!

@tutin4090

15 күн бұрын

No he didn't. They use anonymous names and he accidentally called her by her real name.

That pause/silence on his end said everything. He is definitely done. She deserves better and needs to break this off with him.

After 5 years . He said he’s confused , he said he’s done . Let her go . Let him go. It’s painful , but use the pain to move you forward .

@johniii8147

10 ай бұрын

I credit him for saying he's done. So they both need to just move on.

@astrea79

10 ай бұрын

Yup breakups suck but sometimes they can be very necessary and healing.

@catherinewilke5583

4 ай бұрын

He sounds done and like a hood rat. Why won’t she just leave?

@onlyhispresenceohp2607

4 ай бұрын

Not confused! Just too cowardly to let her know he wants out of the relationship - -periodd

She already knows what she needs to do. She just needs HIM to dump HER. She’s incapable of ending it even though she knows she should.

@Songbird36able

3 ай бұрын

Yep!

@RG-hf4et

3 ай бұрын

She's incapable of ending it & letting this guy go bc this is a self esteem problem. She also down deep wants that wedding gown & fairy tale wedding most females dream about. Plus, all of her friends are probably getting married & she doesn't want to be out of the loop. I really feel for her, but this is not a stand up guy to marry.

@dannellecarroll

3 ай бұрын

@@RG-hf4et Yeah but when Prince “Charming” keeps trying to escape the castle…………..

@STak-ju7gx

3 ай бұрын

This is exactly it. She wants to know that she gave it her best shot and it's failure wasn't her fault. It will give her the closure to know that it just wouldn't have been and any negative cpnsequence wasn't her making.

@RG-hf4et

2 ай бұрын

@@dannellecarroll She already knows that her Prince Charming 🤴 isn't so charming!

5:45 Did he call his fiancée Lexi? What the hell? He then wonders why she won't open to him intimately 😢

He asked him a question, and he asked him what he asked! I don't think he was even listening 😢

I was literally her. With a guy for four years who had 1 foot in 1 foot out and “wanted to marry me” but wasn’t sure if I was “the one”. I’m now married to a man who was sure about me after our first date and proposed after a little over a year. One day she’s gonna be so happy that things did not work out with this man, And she’s going to see how unhealthy the situation was for the both of them.

@paolalopez518

10 ай бұрын

💯

@d.baileyspeaks

10 ай бұрын

Every woman is. All men have sexual needs but women don’t take them seriously.

@ST-rj8iu

10 ай бұрын

Women need to focus on how men see things sometimes. It might not matter to a woman a man proposes quickly, but it matters to men. You are right, when they know, they don't hesitate. He is stringing her along until the right one arrives.

@teenyverse7707

10 ай бұрын

I'm sure that guy is regretting for treating you the way he did... he missed out...

@andrew8168

9 ай бұрын

​@@teenyverse7707Chad doesnt regret.

I have a friend who just filed for divorce because they’ve been married 25 years and he is still continuing to have emotional/online affairs with other women. This was the 9th or 10th time, and she’s finally calling it. Aubrey, do not put yourself through that hell. Get out now.

@deirdrekiely6187

10 ай бұрын

tell your friend to clean out the bank accounts - NOW. Because this guy is sketchy and might leave her high and dry financially.

@flowerchild3312

10 ай бұрын

​@@deirdrekiely6187And get a good Lawyer!!!

@lindajones4811

10 ай бұрын

The sad thing that women don’t get it cause this behavior doesn’t get any better. This is not how men think! If you stay with a man who display cunning and disrespectful behavior early on and you don’t leave they think you’re not strong enough to stand up for yourself! Men don’t respect women who don’t respect themselves!

@flowerchild3312

10 ай бұрын

@@lindajones4811 That's why if married you want to hire a good lawyer , That way you get what you are entitled to monetary wise money home. Than you see who get's the last laugh !!!

@GUITARTIME2024

10 ай бұрын

Unlikely they weren't physical, at least some of them.

He’s not capable of being loyal, choosing one person and being a man. Hes not going to be what she wants him to be. She will greatly suffer with this joker.

When we know the truth and we still ignore it

She doesn't want to believe she's wasted five years, but she has. Time to stop wasting more time, Aubrey.

@howmoon67

Ай бұрын

Hey, being in a relationship is never a waste of time. You learn so much about yourself and other people. That is what relationships are for. Ok to learn lessons and move on.

If any partner makes you question yourself like this, leave them.

@TEM14411

3 ай бұрын

And go inward and explore why you ever accepted it. I learned the hard way. May others observe behavior and act accordingly. I kept listening to words....

5:43 Did he say what I've done to "Lexi" but hid fiance on the call is Aubrey???? Wth

He is too cowardly to tell her he wants to be single or that he wants to play the field. She’s a good woman. She needs to end it and move on. She could find a true love somewhere else.

Are we gonna ignore the Lexy part?! LOL

@VS-fo9py

10 ай бұрын

😮

@starlingswallow

10 ай бұрын

We think the names they used when calling in were Aliases and he slipped up and used her real name. That's prob why Dr. J didn't say anything.

@ericeiber4911

10 ай бұрын

Yes

@Shalerboy101

10 ай бұрын

That’s what I’m thinking too!​@@starlingswallow

@goodgirlvicki

10 ай бұрын

I caught that too!

If you have been with a man for 5 years. He hasn't asked you to get married. The time is up. He has flat emotion in his voice. You deserve more.

@amyashlyn2999

2 ай бұрын

They are engaged.

@kelrogers8480

2 ай бұрын

​@@amyashlyn2999it means nothing.

@vaska1999

Ай бұрын

​@@amyashlyn2999 There's a flatness to his voice that's deadening. They should part ways.

He's done. But they are both too weak and immature to end it. Girl, run. Teach him about life. You can do it. It will hurt for 30 days at most, then RELIEF and JOY.

He called her the wring name TWICE. That seems like a huge red flag!

You cannot “work” with someone who isn’t loyal and trustworthy. Commitment requires both.

I was in this girls shoes. And I got married. He ended up having multiple affairs and leaving anyway. Girl please, please, don’t make the same mistake as me. I am now a single mom and he’s already living in a new relationship and moving on with his life with zero hesitation. Please listen to your tears. It will end anyway. Choose it to end NOW. Not 5-10 years from now when your older and exhausted.

@kimyoung3484

10 ай бұрын

Thank you 👍♥️💪💪💪

@peterramirez2184

9 ай бұрын

Yeah don't be this clown ,just because your married doesn't mean you own him😂

@monicamiller9345

9 ай бұрын

@@peterramirez2184 are you calling me a clown?

@eileen21

4 ай бұрын

And kids come along! What a nightmare that would be.

@tzunano

2 ай бұрын

​@@peterramirez2184 are you in a happy relationship?

"Sometimes I feel like we disagree on a lot. That's kinda where I'm at right now". Translation: he doesn't really want her.

Sweetheart, 5 minutes in and I am already hearing that he doesn't want you. Value yourself more ❤

Girl leave! I left my fiancé for doing the exact same thing 3 weeks ago. I FINALLY LEFT!!! It will hurt but better than being hurt for years

@ibabymomx3

8 ай бұрын

💯💯💯

@luisfernando5998

4 ай бұрын

I hope u didn’t let ur fiancé use u …. Feel sad for the guy marrying u then

@carolinenachtrab4357

4 ай бұрын

Good for you! Respectfully, you could use this time to see a psychologist, who can help you find the tools to love yourself more.

@jennacisterman7479

4 ай бұрын

@@luisfernando5998 you must have a lot of time on your hands to go and comment something about being “used” or damaged goods on every comment from a woman claiming that she left a partner she was formerly with. You clearly are very passionate about the subject of other peoples sexual marketplace value, is it perhaps because you have none of your own? Because your a little low on the totem pole and are resentful that women will have sex with men that don’t even treat them well but you can’t find any that want to have sex with you? Maybe you should call in to talk to John because you very evidently have some cinderblocks in your backpack that you seem to be carrying around due to your seeming inability to get laid.

@onlyhispresenceohp2607

4 ай бұрын

Truth DAT!!! Yet we Blocking who God really has for us!!…Why because stuck in the wrong relationship…

Dearest Aubrey, the young man told you flat out that he is done. Believe him! He hasn't left because he doesn't want to hurt you and doesn't want to be the bad guy, he's waiting and hoping that you'll leave. By no means do I think he's a bad guy, he's honest and told you straight out. Don't wait for him to make a decision on your life, make the decision yourself. Y'all should NOT be married to each other.

@anthonybrown06

10 ай бұрын

All facts well stated. Perfect comment

@-KMA-

10 ай бұрын

❤ wisdom and I wish these younger folks would listen to the wisdom but of course they think they know best

@jonathanmitchell5171

9 ай бұрын

He’s caught in a guilt spiral. She’s making this marriage happen. He’s too weak to make his life what he wants. Remember, he brought up the arguments not her. We are always taught to win the girls it’s rarely taught how to leave the wrong ones

@tinahilliard4447

3 ай бұрын

He referred to her as Lexi twice!!!!!

I am an older guy. I never ever cheated while I was married twice for 13 years and then again for 20 years. Both of the women were graat friends to me but there was a lack of passion from both sides Twice we decoder to divorce. I am alone now for years. It is better then to get stuck in a marriage that doesn' t work from both sides. Life is short so young lady be wise and find a guy that really wants you or stay single like me and be happy with yourself. You will sure find your person. Cry and go on.

Dr Phil “The best predictor of future behavior is relevant past behavior.” Girl, “you better run, run, run away, run away, baby” fast.

If he treats you like this now he DOESNT WANT YOU. Run. Love doesnt hurt or make you cry.

My fiancé began seeing another girl about 4 weeks before our wedding. I was willing to go through with the wedding, but thankfully, he called me 10 days before the wedding and said he couldn't go through with it. While I was sad, I felt such peace that God had intervened and spared me from marrying this man when I was too weak to break the engagement. He married this girl and they divorced a few years later. I married a wonderful man and we've been married 39 years and have 5 children and 9 grandchildren. If you're in doubt about whether he will stay faithful, leave the relationship. It will not get better; it's a sign of what's to come.

@marcusmagnificus1984

2 ай бұрын

Wow. God saved you from a life of misery!

@barbspencer64

2 ай бұрын

@@marcusmagnificus1984 I have so often thought about that. God had mercy on me.

@jennysantana1687

Ай бұрын

What a beautiful testimony.

@ciggytwiggy

Ай бұрын

Beautiful. You are blessed

@Her.Serene.Feline.Cuteness.

Ай бұрын

So happy for that you got your happy ending. This caller doesn't understand yet that one day, she too will be vindicated. There will be proof one day that he had the problem, not her.

This guy does not want to be married. He is wasting her time!

End things. He will never stop. You will never feel good enough.

If you’re not his one, he is NOT your one! Don’t force it. Move on and look for someone who cherishes you and wants no one but you.

@streamerssaymyname

3 ай бұрын

It looks like they grew up religious and believe because they went all the way together they need to marry.

Girl, never let a man tell you he doesn’t want you more than once…

@Ellely143

5 ай бұрын

Later on when he cheats on her he’s going to tell her he told her so and blame it on her.

Dr John, you are sooo good. You don’t give the easy advice, you dig down and tell them the gritty truth and find out the root cause.

The dude said he's done, and yet... This woman has literally zero self confidence

She is in tears less than a minute after she starts talking, and he is totally unmoved. What more is there to say except STOP! End this now! He's just stringing her along while waiting for someone "better".

@s.m.7635

8 ай бұрын

He wants out! Tl

@user-ig9ri5er1c

3 ай бұрын

Noticed that too…so sad!

@simpleman5932

3 ай бұрын

Yeah but also the fact that she's coming on a podcast and just starts bawling immediately tells you that she's probably extremely emotional and he's most likely become desensitized to how emotional she can be. I have been with a woman like this. It is not fair to judge him based upon how she is breaking down. Her mental health and ability to deal with difficult situations is not necessarily indicative of his behavior in the relationship.

Going on dates with other women "Hurt him too" wow (3:54) what a keeper.

@tinam761

10 ай бұрын

I heard that too! Actually dating other women hurt him?!?!!!!! Girl!!! LEAVE him!!! He is only focused on him!! How does cheating on you hurt him … he’s NEVER going to see the pain he caused you … he’s just going to blame you for him “having” to cheat.

@isay207

10 ай бұрын

Never let a man tell you more than once he doesn't want you!!!@@@

@alluringbliss4165

10 ай бұрын

@@isay207heard that many times

@zarahsgarden2097

10 ай бұрын

Narcissists always make it about themselves even when they're the one that hurt you 🚩

Very raw conversation; both of them know the answer. He knows he doesn’t want her and she better run now. Wish we could get an update on these 2

@forhisglory-spreadingthewo6202

2 ай бұрын

I was thinking the same thing. A follow-up would be great.

Rough. Not a relationship to hang on to!

As soon as he started talking I started yelling: "girl run! Run far, run fast!"

Yes, as a man I will tell you this: he has no respect for you and values his own sexual desires and validation over you. The fact he does it right in front of you means it's much worse when you're not around, in fact he's probably already cheated on you. Do not commit your life to someone who is going to break your heart and treat you this way.

@paolalopez518

10 ай бұрын

This was 100% percent my ex that you just described and exactly what this guy sounds like.

@maureenhorrigan7151

4 ай бұрын

Agree, he has already broken her heart , maybe times. Stop torturing yourself girl ,breaking up in so bad, but being with someone who truly does not love you, is even worst. Work on your self esteem

@duvessa2003

Ай бұрын

Great hearing from a man on this 🙌🏻

@jen8595

Ай бұрын

@@paolalopez518me too

Dr. John is wise beyond words. He's saying so, so much that Inwant to remember to use later.

I wish we had updates, I want to know what they decided. The calling of the other girls name is a biggggg red flag 🤦🏻‍♀️

@BagznBirdz

Ай бұрын

They're using aliases and mot likely that's her real name.

@StephaniePasq-hg7vt

12 күн бұрын

There are tons of red flags in this but it’s obvious that was an alias they were using and he accidentally used her real name instead.