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I've always loved the saying from Ann Landers- Love is friendship caught on fire.

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

Love love love that quote...

@phxarizona7201

3 жыл бұрын

@@JonathonAslay Yaaaaasssss absolutely ❤ it

@dianneciresi6324

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah but what if ur got sent to the friendzone? How will that work? Not... I guess...

My father used to say he had the last word all the time, which was "yes dear" 😊

@viajoconestilo4332

4 жыл бұрын

Jajaja :=)

@faa1412

4 жыл бұрын

lol!!

@matthijssejr

3 жыл бұрын

🤣

@elfa9191

3 жыл бұрын

Hahaha

@kdphotos4691

2 жыл бұрын

That's sad. Sorry to hear your father had so many issues.

It’s nearly impossible to get a guy to hang around long enough to even become friends. They push for sex, and then if you say no, they’re on to the next girl. I have lots of guy friends from work who are married, and they see that I’m a good girl, because they deal with me day in and day out. They ask me why I’m single, and I ask them, “Do you know any single guys who might even give things a chance beyond 3 dates?” Guys won’t even give me a chance, because they’re so interested in sex now, and it doesn’t matter their age. The last guy who pulled this on me was 50 years old and still acting like a f*ck boy.

@mimisjems8158

4 жыл бұрын

50 is THE WORST!... Mid-life crisis girl. I dated 57 & 58 y/o thinking they're mature and wanna settle down... NOPE!!! UGH🤬 It just seems like dating becomes more difficult with passing time!😔

@lorenamares1427

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly. We lost men to boyhood. These guys never finish graduating. Your situation is mine exactly.

@sageartchannel3363

4 жыл бұрын

Old men are even worse! They act like they don't have time left so they focus on sex as much as they can

@heide-raquelfuss5580

4 жыл бұрын

You are so on point. It is true and so sad. So hopeless in a way. This generation and so on will be alone, older and probably die allone, without a meaningfull life journey and bonding with someone. With a real loving, caring compagnon. It takes so much to learn. So much time to find a match. So much time to know eachother. So much time for everything. I am allready 48. If i meet someone, we will not have much time left. The years fly. But i hope for everyone to find that for you and eachother special person to travel time together. The time that is left. Bless you so much from the bottom of my heart. Kind regards from belgium 🌿🌸🌿

@lorenamares1427

4 жыл бұрын

@@heide-raquelfuss5580 Yup. My father was one of the most selfish people that I’ve ever known. He died alone because he never wanted to take responsibility and didn’t learn how to treat women respectfully.

Wow! My parents were married 65 yrs. Until my mom passed two years ago. They were a beautiful couple. I met the guy I'm seeing at ballroom dancing. We have a great time dancing while enjoying one another's company!

Friendship is very essential in a love relationship. You must LIKE the person. So many couples (including married couples) are missing the friendship component. They love their partner, but may not like (their spirit) them.

@viajoconestilo4332

4 жыл бұрын

I agree. I strongly believe that there are 3 pillars in a loving relationship: friendship, accomplices and lovers. If any of these is missing, then there is nothing to last.

@lorenamares1427

4 жыл бұрын

Can't believe how confused men are when it comes to friendship! Friends with benefits isn't love, yet they wonder why romance ceases to exist.

@pelekoa4414

3 жыл бұрын

:)

@jacquelynhoagland3371

Жыл бұрын

My husband and I were best friends. We were together 7 years before we were married so we had a good long time to get acquainted. It's a standard I'm holding to now in my first relationship since his death.

It’s like I’m listening to a good friend, I enjoy every minute, thank you dear Jonathon

@JonathonAslay

3 жыл бұрын

Happy to hear that!

@UnlimitedAspirations24

3 жыл бұрын

@ Tunde Molnar- I Agree with you! I enjoy listening Jonathan’s videos as well ! He’s such a warm person makes you believe that he’s your best friend that wants nothing but the best for you !!

What a beautiful picture of your parents. Yes, going to sleep with bad emotions after an argument is the worse, you have to care about each other’s feeling not to do that!! Can’t get enough of your videos!!

The book the secret changed me in a profound way to.... mutual interests and being friends a big yes... But also listen to hear ... being a good listener a huge +

Friendship that evolves into love , is the Best Love! Your parent's are the perfect example, And such an attractive couple 💕 Thank's for your message { Hug} 🌹😃💕

Couples that stay together, play together ;)

@rebeccacarraway480

3 жыл бұрын

I think Johnathan meant “couples that play together, stay together.” 😘

I love the way that you explained that live stays out as friendship and grows into love!! It's the best feeling. I've ALWAYS made it a standard practice in my life to never go to bed angry or upset

I was with my late husband almost 30 years and I’m not the best at serial dating. I am kind of on auto pilot bring a mom and wife as that’s been most my life. I keep coming across men that are emotionally unavailable and I just got turned off and gave up. I’ll never go online again. Always looking to learn and be the best person I can be.

You are always so “right on” the exact truth about human actions. Totally a NO- “BS” Coach! I’ve been inspired to grow deeper and study even more they your recommended books.

I can't believe you mentioned The Secret I've watched it over and over trying to get every bit out of it. Reading the books you suggest also trying to fix myself. Lol!

I love your advise and absolutely agree! I think we sometimes forget that it is all about balance and respect...feeling free to express yourself and it is key never to go to bed upset❤️💋

you have SO MUCH information. I am so glad I found you and joined your group. Thank you.

My issue is that I know I personally "bond" with a man over sex, but I've been SO disappointed in my past- dealing with men who obviously did NOT feel "bonded" to me, after having sex... Such a letdown... 😔😔😔

@juneelle370

2 жыл бұрын

Bonding for men takes time … and even though some women may be able to bond with early sex, it’s not WISE for her to bond with someone who may be an AWFUL person! It takes time to know someone! Early sex is literally lose/lose! Even if a man did stay after early sex, then you could be bonded to a disaster! Women need to be very careful who we allow to touch us because we get large dumps of oxytocin! Slow and steady courtship is the way! I recommend John Grey and Adrienne Everheart too 💖

Hello Jonathan, I just want to say that I truly appreciate you sharing a genuine insight on a man's perspective about dating and relationships. I hope that your tips, advice, and information helps me find my life partner. Thank you and be well. Mimi.

This so rings true! My parents are married 50yrs.

I absolutely agree about the man being your best friend. Yes social activities are so important and intimacy. I also think deep respect is essential a man hates to be disrespected as well as all of hate that. Thank you. Great video. ♥️

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

Awe... thank you 😊

If you're into manifesting, then you know it's a mix between psychological and personal beliefs elements how we get everything in life. I'm really deep into the law of attraction, but your content is the missing puzzle piece I wanted

@UrsaBella

Жыл бұрын

I think in all this coaching people forget about the importance of attraction and love. I personally prefer to have love to a « relationships ». Relationships end...love and devotion are forever.

Wow definitely interesting! I'm new to the relationship world I'm in my first real relationship so thank you so much I truly enjoy and appreciate your videos because I feel like I'm learning so much about relationships

Got both of your books and love them both. I've also been building and my library from your list and have found a lot of great advice and information. Love, love, LOVE Why Men Love Bitches. So glad I happened upon your posts. My best to your lady too. She's gorgeous.

*How to Emotionally Bond as friends/couples: Social Activities Hobbies Mutual Interests Love it 😊

Dude. I was trying to watch vids about Otters. They're adorable. Why did your content come up in my scroll? So I went with it. You said after 100 dates you realized the problem was you. And then got to work on you & self-care. Respect. I've listened to thousands of vids on everything. Lots of self development in general, for years, as I've had the luxury to do so while I work. Your 100 dates is like my billion vids. Seeing patterns, connecting dots, bigger picture coming together in new ways. An upward evolution cycle. I love How you call out b.s. or well meaning skewed/incomplete perspective content. (the mars venus crap pls stab me) There are things in your delivery/style that I didn't know I needed at this time that have Nothing To Do with Dating! But with being a more aware and expansive human in general. So thanks!

@JonathonAslay

3 жыл бұрын

If I'm reading your response correctly, I get a sense you appreciated the message and while you had no intent to watch a dating coach speak... you got value nonetheless. Happy to help shift perspective a bit. All my best 🙏

I have been friends with a guy he over 60 we been friends for over 9 months then we started having a romantic relationship,he is not ready for a commit but we are still involved . We do things together. Thanks 😊

Thanks Johnathan for your honesty and making the world better. you have a beautiful smile. 🤗

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

Awe... thank you. 😊

Thank you for your interesting video. W.O.W the picture behind you is a photo of your mom and dad. And did you say they were married for sixty six years. By the way sorry about the passing of your mother. But being married that long is beyond any lengthy marriage I've heard of. 😃 What a TRUE BLESSING. 😃😃😃Its So nice of you to share that with the viewers 😃. You know, I could of sworn it was You and your wife in😀 the picture. Wow! I could only HOPE for such LOVE.😊😃😃😃

Thank you for sharing your experience . Very sound guideline. Thats so true in my case not feeling safe to show my vulnerable me kept me away from him, how to trust him thats the challenge for me.

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

Feeling safe and trust is a big thing for sure... and it starts within.

Your story is so fascinating and inspiring!! Thank you so much Jonathan!

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Olga, much appreciated.

It’s not about being right It’s about being happy This alone will weed out Narcissists

Lol! " who wants to play Gin Rummy" I love that. You're Awesome!

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

Awe... thank you 😊

Just got your Self Love book in the mail! Reading it now!

@JonathonAslay

3 жыл бұрын

Hope you enjoy it!

Right on my experience also thanks for your wonderful videos

Very helpful Jonathon! Thank you!!

Thanks. I like the length of your videos and how to the point they really are ...! 🙏👊

@JonathonAslay

3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate that!

Great balancing act! I agree with you.

I love listening it’s so interesting a lot of info I had never thought about

I love you're words of wisdom and knowledge

Thanks for the good advice!

Another great video with advice!

my friend is an artist and carpenter. He only Kayaks alone. We did go to the Lake lots of fun. He did want intimacy, but i feel he doesnt really care about me.

Thank u for your advice and information…..your super informative and genuine…..much love to your life as well.💜

@JonathonAslay

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

If friendship is how men bond with women, why are they usually so eager to have sex with the woman, and so quick to leave if she doesn't give in? Can a man stay friends for long with a woman he loves even if they're not having sex, and then marry her?

@mrs.paulschmetz3912

4 жыл бұрын

Because for men, they need sex and they need friendship, it's for men two different THINGS. Like they need wealth and they need power/throne. So the needs of men are: -Power/Throne -Wealth -Sex/WOMEN -Friendship

Can't stand serial daters. They bring no quality to a date.

3:21 Thank you for sharing the story of your parents! ❤

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Of course!!

Always love watching you Jonathan

Thank you, Jonathon, for your great insights...much appreciated...:-)

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

My pleasure and thank you 😊

Sooo good!!!!! 💞

Always enjoy your podcasts !!

@JonathonAslay

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for listening

Hi Jonathon! I graduated in Philosophy, you reminds me of Saint Augustine… 😃😃😃

@JonathonAslay

2 жыл бұрын

Oh really... is that a good thing? 🤔

@MariaTUKTUKinPORTUGAL

2 жыл бұрын

@@JonathonAslay kkk, when you said that had 100 affairs… He said in the “Confissions”, his book (I think) that he was a perverted… lol I love Saint Augustine… He wrote so nice things like “ I didn’t love yet and already loved to love”

Yes I agree with you Johnathon 💯 👍

I love Lucy, my favorite show! Funny I was watching Lucy last night!

Those who have pets may keep relationships going due to the unconditional love of the pet. Yes friendship is needed since lust is not love and wears off. If you can't talk to them it won't work. There are too many unhealthy people now due to gluten/GMO/vaccines/low sunlight etc..

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

Can you elaborate about the pets?

@Shasha8674

4 жыл бұрын

@@JonathonAslay Pets are like kids and hold a family together and give the love that may be missing in the relationship. One guy loved his dog more than his wife and they stayed together until she cheated and they divorced. His dog died and on Facebook it is like he can't get over the death of the dog. A new dog doesn't help. People have needs and the dog met the needs of the owner more than the wife did which takes the strain off the relationship.

@lyndapeoples8127

2 жыл бұрын

@@Shasha8674...I figured that's what you meant about the pets. I remember a dog my ex-husband and I had. He treated the dog better than he did me and he later regretted and apologized to me. I had already forgiven him but no way did I agree to his request to remarry me! I guess all of this is the opposite of what you meant about couples and pets. 😁

@Shasha8674

2 жыл бұрын

@@lyndapeoples8127 Pets require attention like babies so people maybe jealous of the baby/pet and divorces may happen due the other person not feeling they are getting enough attention/love.

I am not sure if its just me but your audio is a bit lower than most other channels. I usually watch ur videos a few times to get the essence of it.

Men bond with women through activities, hobbies, mutual interest, sometimes through family and friends, and ultimately, intimacy. They bond from a friendship level. (From video)

I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone. Women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way. Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. Most women like to do affectionate things with their female friends like cuddling with them and holding their hands and be touchy-feely towards each other, while most men would never do affectionate things with their male friends (especially not cuddling with them or holding their hands or be touchy-feely towards each other). Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends. Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do.

Great advice. I meet many men that don’t have hobbies or activities outside of going to clubs or drinking . Oh course the Netflix and chill. I often find the conversation hit a wall, cuz these men a content with where they are . Only connection they know of is the sexual connection. Sexual relationships is not strong enough to keep a long term. Conflict resolution is big , guy was say he is direct , which is fine . But in reality he has a lack for respect for other , which creates conflict. Then it’s a Im right contest, instead of wanting piece

Men and women beautiful relationship with the everlasting love and bond life future

Yes. Yes, yes and yes.

Best friends also cheat. I've seen this with a friend of mine and the husband.

@bonniebuckner3399

4 жыл бұрын

If you believe a thing to be true, then so it is.

Your the first man who says men bond through sexual intimacy. Every person i have heard says men never connect emotionally with a woman, thru sex. It means nothing to connect to a woman. Maybe nirvana as you say is what they feel. (But a woman it seems gets emotionally connected cos of this intimate act.) Thats why a man can have many sexual relationships with many women. ( though the Bible says it different, similar like you say.. Tne two shall become one flesh.. Thats also why one can guess that sex with anyone before marriage is dangerous for bonds are formed... etc).

@kimsikorski5691

4 жыл бұрын

I agree but I like how he never responded to your comment. I believe it is an excellent point.

@daniellewatson9969

4 жыл бұрын

Dev, I'm totally with you on this one.

❤️👍👌❤️ its so nice and awesome

I don’t really have a comment about this video, just always notice your bracelets, are they significant for any special reasons? I wear several myself, all having special meaning for me. Just curious. Thanks

@JonathonAslay

3 жыл бұрын

Yes they are! In a future video I'll show them and what they say, one is about my son who passed away.

So if you can answer this question. Is it too fast to bond with a man after four dates with intimacy? Should all the other bonding be done before sex? Just not sure if there’s a particular amount of time that should be waited until you have sex with a man. I don’t want to seem easy And I’m looking for a long-term relationship with this guy. As always thank you!

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

Scroll through my videos, I have one about when to have sex. 👍

Why is it that a man wants to stay friends with you after a break up. For example sending birthday card s.

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

Because he likes you...

@kimsikorski5691

4 жыл бұрын

I say he wants toeave that door open so if the new woman he's chasing isn't for him them or she don't want him then he can always come back to you. I read where men and women can never be just friends because men can't do it because they have to have sex. But women can be friends with an ex or just men in general but nope not men.

Cannot imagine being friends with a man and then developing attraction. I develop attraction and affection first. Friendship comes later. Friendship is the « boring « part of a mundane and mature relationship. This is where you expel gas in front of each other and feel totally fine. Not into that...sorry...Be a kind and accepting lover to your man...not a mommy, not a successful leader...

Oddly enough, I'm approached by younger guys who want to get married. If my libido was lower, I might not mind a husband closer to my age. Too many guys now looking for short-term lust instead of long-term love!!!

What if you get along great and do things together, are very much friends, but he is not intimate, flirty or sexually available and she is and gently talks to him about it and expresses her concerns and how she feel un-bonded due to lack of touch or intimacy.... she will eventually end the relationship ....what a shame....

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

This happens with men as well... a shame indeed.

@finna5970

4 жыл бұрын

Norma Muniz, I'm in a similar situation with my hubby, been married for 28 yes, but don't want to leave him because of that as he has been a good husband otherwise and a good father, what I am thinking is to have an affair to satisfy my intimacy needs, is that such a bad thing @ Jonathan?

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Jonathan, do you think that you parted with the lady you played card with because you had really nothing to talk about so you had to play cards instead?

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

We were simply misaligned and honestly, I didn't feel like she was that into me...

The men who are looking for love do not take the time to get to know women ...,I met a man a few years and we were just communicating via texting and phone calls .....and trust me Jonathan very sentence had something to do with SEX!!! I blocked him after 3 weeks... a big problem with interracial relationships is the fetishized factor.. I was afraid of that.. so I got out real quick... I do agree with what you are saying but some men just want SEX!!!🙏🏽

@feminineone9610

4 жыл бұрын

Btw, Jonathan.. I am new to your channel and after seeing you holding your book up for the upteenth time.. I just purchased it off Amazon... I am looking forward to reading it.. I read a few of the reviews and I am particularly looking forward to chapter 13... about childhood wounds... because I buried those deeppppppppp... I am looking forward in seeing how you address that topic 🙏🏽

@viajoconestilo4332

4 жыл бұрын

I usually avoid by all means these type of relations

Question... How do you inspire a man to do things with you when he's giving off mostly sexual vibes?

@viajoconestilo4332

4 жыл бұрын

Doing all those things with ANOTHER MAN! jajajaaj... Just joking. I think you have to cut off the supply and push him to do other things you like. Hope this helps.

I heard that men bond to a woman by investing in her??

@JonathonAslay

3 жыл бұрын

That's shows he's bonded to her

Jonathan, you went on actual 100+ dates?

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

Yes I did... I had no clue what I wanted.

@Th3Fab3

4 жыл бұрын

@@JonathonAslay Well, I'm grateful for your generosity in sharing what you've learned. Thank you.

@lisaevans6000

4 жыл бұрын

Jonathon Aslay ...so, you went on 100+ dates in an effort to figure out what you wanted and came away from 100+ dates, still not knowing what you wanted? 🤷🏽‍♀️ WOW!! What a royal waste of your time, and the time of others!! 🤦🏽‍♀️

@JonathonAslay

4 жыл бұрын

@@lisaevans6000 i was such a train wreck then that yes, I wasted lots of time... and sadly, I wasted others time. That's why I coach, helping women recognize men like how I was...

@Th3Fab3

4 жыл бұрын

@@JonathonAslay it's good now that you are aware. It would've been a waste only if you didn't come out aware! This is probably why I never really got into serial dating. It just looks like it would cause you confusion.

What about sex on 1st hookup. There's no bond there, so ur wrong in that sense..