I am going to say something that is a little unpopular and candid here. In my much younger years and after a few drinks (I hardly drink but if I actially did) if a woman I dated was absolutely awful to me and I wanted to I guess scold her I can see myself rather briefly thinking of following her home to go that way. Mind you thinking of it, but I would never act on that b/c it is just, just no. And as an old guy there is God zero excuse for it. There is a difference b/t thinking of doing something and actually making the very poor decision to go ahead and do it. You just have to cut your loses and go home.

mabe they both had too many drinks

Why is she even communicating with the guy. Just get away immediately. And the fact that she's filming him and sitting there. Not smart on her part. There's a reason why you don't argue with someone on a dating site as to why you aren't right for them. Doing it person is danger zone!