The middle child ❤ she is the one who will break the generational curse. Very articulate, and soft in how she express herself, making the changes to not be like her mother, and actually healing from that trauma. Kudos to her !

@AkireMaru

11 ай бұрын

She is NOT articulate. She is also NOT soft spoken. She is very contentious

@ChrixyRenae007

11 ай бұрын

@@AkireMaru you must be like the mother ...hmmmmm

@des5257

11 ай бұрын

I 100% agree with you, amazing woman doing the best for herself ❤

@kkimberly2004YT

11 ай бұрын

She sees a difference in her that's why she bumps heads with her the most.

@whoneedslovewhenyouhaves..859

11 ай бұрын

She is gorgeous

Accountability does not mean apologizing. It means understanding the problem and working to have a better solution

@onnie.6815

11 ай бұрын

Oh how they “don’t understand” that

@ChristRecords-ny7mt

11 ай бұрын

Wow, never saw it like that. Thank you for upgrading me

@mzshanti2012

11 ай бұрын

People don’t understand that. People use the word accountability as an attack and try to force people to be continuously in a negative light.

@kermitpurple8963

11 ай бұрын

And admitting your mistakes

@Unknown-lp9mu

10 ай бұрын

right -- all that i want you to hear is bull crap too - i want you to DO! be the adult and guidance that a child needs - how many generations came before and the children still starting from scratch?-- BULLSHIT

The only reason why Icelynn was getting interrupted EVERY SINGLE TIME SHE TALKED, was because her mother knew that the way she delivers herself is FAR more better than the mother herself. So she decided to cut Icelynn off so the audience and Karamo won’t have to hear what she says, knowing what she is going to say mostly is true.

@yeseniamendoza5844

10 ай бұрын

Yuppp!! Thats how my mom was with me.

@lovettewilliams4114

10 ай бұрын

A strategy to make chaos and deflect from the crisis at hand 🖐️

@speaklife404

10 ай бұрын

The sad part is some mothers like her notice that characteristic and try to take their child's voice away starting at a very early age to feel more alpha especially if their parenting skills are being questioned by their own kid they see it as a challenge to defend their title and territory over them as a mother.

@neilbowman5334

8 ай бұрын

That's true. That's what manipulative people do

@sophiaandre139

7 ай бұрын

Narcissists always try to shut off the truth tellers

Icelynn is breaking the generational curse, so proud of all the young ladies

@sharonfranks4031

11 ай бұрын

But mom's sex life is none of her business, besides that how she got here.

@4dyamondx745

11 ай бұрын

How is she breaking the generation curse, she has children out of wedlock, probably more than one dad.

@bigdawg9826

11 ай бұрын

@@sharonfranks4031 So you don't think as a child you'll be affected by having to see every sexual partner your mom has and then a different one on top of that?

@sharonfranks4031

11 ай бұрын

@@bigdawg9826 as a child who controls mama? As a child what do you know about mama's issues really? but she still raised you to be strong, voice your opinions and puck you up if you don't have the mind to get the hell on out mama's house and leave mama's crazy azz alone so her sanity can come back you get what you get. But she loves ❤️ 😍 you and got your back

@jaii7487

11 ай бұрын

@@sharonfranks4031 yes it is when you growing up with men coming and out the house, especially with daughters in the house

It’s like she doesn’t like the most healed and articulate daughter.

@joydanleigh7711

11 ай бұрын

💜💜💜

@SuperShepard1

10 ай бұрын

That daughter isn't healed. If she were that healed, she wouldn't have humiliated her mother on national TV by calling her promiscuous and telling the world she had 40 boyfriends! True love covers.

@Benjibarbie

10 ай бұрын

It’s because she knows she’s in a path to become a better women then she ever was she jealous of her own child trust me ik!

@bhuddalocs4406

10 ай бұрын

@@SuperShepard1 she’s healed enough she could’ve said much worse !

@RyanTheDark

7 ай бұрын

@@SuperShepard1 By the words of someone who clearly hasn't face trauma and what its like to recover from abuse and have been given everything in life with a gold medal.

Mothers never remember what they do🙄

@PITTSBURGH06

11 ай бұрын

THATS GASLIGHTING AND MANIPULATIONS -THIS MOTHER IS A CLASSIC NARC! THEY NEED TO ALL GET DISTANCE FROM HER..

@Honestlycurls

10 ай бұрын

Yah my mom never remembered as I went through my career in dancing since 6 and still present day dancing.. calling me fat, disgusting, a pig, because I exercised so much and burned so many calories and would get hungrier then normal 🤣. Compare me to other girls and tell me I needed to look like them or be like them. Call me stupid, an idiot. Oh boy narcissist mothers.

@mamiecollins9761

8 ай бұрын

At all 😂

@AsiaArielJanae

7 ай бұрын

Or fathers

@AsiaArielJanae

7 ай бұрын

Or fathers 😒

The middle child articulates and expresses herself so well and I believe the middle child is able to deliver her truth in a way that “it holds up a mirror “ and her mother keeps interrupting her because she doesn’t like the way her truth feels and what it forces her to see within herself.

@candicelollie4305

8 ай бұрын

DANM, you worded and expressed exactly what I was thinking but I didn’t know how to put it into words 😅😂

@talisarose

3 ай бұрын

right on the money

It’s always us middle kids that gets disrespected the worst by our parents.

@wildfiregirl1556

11 ай бұрын

Facts.

@justfamily3692

11 ай бұрын

FACTS

@brittanybrown5899

11 ай бұрын

Very true 😢

@essiekaayy8755

11 ай бұрын

facts

@jessmiles6013

11 ай бұрын

Nahhh my middle sibling was the Golden child

The mother was abusive.Let's call a spade a spade. Nothing calls for beating your child in the shower...nothing. That was the mother unleashing her rage on them

@jaygotgame8632

11 ай бұрын

Umm y’all ain’t grow up in a real black house hold😂 them whoopings come wit discipline and an understanding also with respect

@Muva2Tymes

11 ай бұрын

@@jaygotgame8632 facts

@material-cheshirekhatter2413

11 ай бұрын

@@jaygotgame8632 being black has nothing to do with it, abuse is abuse, no "respect" or "love" behind it

@apriljoy425

11 ай бұрын

No Abuse is Abuse.

@athroughzo9

11 ай бұрын

@@jaygotgame8632 this is the narrative that must stop in black households. We took the whip from massa and unleashed it in the home, on children, and try to call assult “love”. Misquote Bible verses to justify what would be a charge in the real world. And do that to children. It's abuse. Call a thing a thing. Beat the community into submission and no we have now leadership.

Icelynn is soooo beautiful, inside & out! the way she carries herself & creates boundaries to protect her peace is impressive. 😍🥺

@lb1798

4 ай бұрын

Icelynn will be the one to be done with the Mom.

That Icelynn... she stands out from ALL of them. She is the curse breaker. If you see this.... keep moving in the direction the Most High leads. ( It's not been in vain. ) Your family needs you to.

@amabarrbrown3585

Жыл бұрын

We all stand out and none of us is like are mother thank you but you don’t know no us personally. We are all well off on life. Thax

@icelynnhamilton

Жыл бұрын

I was able to see this! God will forever get the Glory out of all of my trials and tribulations!! I appreciate this more then you know!

@jaeeluv

Жыл бұрын

@@amabarrbrown3585 Sending Hug's ✨🙏🏿

@curtislaster2160

Жыл бұрын

Icelynn got issues. The mom was a child when she had them. She is not perfect. And has work to do.

@4dyamondx745

11 ай бұрын

TOO, ICELYNN pretty much did the same thing as her mom, children out of wedlock, more than one daddy.

The mom is acting like she's their sister, calling them names and fighting with them. She needs to be the bigger person as the parent, and show them geuine love and respect.

@laawaer7265

Жыл бұрын

The way I see it is that you can't give what you don't have !

@jyadidtnova1051

11 ай бұрын

​​​@@laawaer7265 So if she knew she couldn't give them proper love and respect, then why keep having more children?

@summera4019

11 ай бұрын

@@laawaer7265 yeah I feel like parents like that deserve to be left to fend for themselves and to never waste time on them. They will never change. Hurt people hurt people, but don’t nobody care at this point.

@calebdouglas7622

11 ай бұрын

Especially the youngest one

@livvn9845

11 ай бұрын

@@jyadidtnova1051 cus they don't care , they don't see they're in the wrong with how they behave . it could be the mom is a product of her environment

I noticed that all of her children are hostile towards her. Even Icelynn, not disrespectful but hostile. Hostile tones, her voice is shaky. But they all grew up in an environment where they constantly have to defend themselves against their OWN mother. Whether it been emotionally or physically. This is extremely hurtful; I experienced something similar and I'm sure most black children with either one if not both parents are toxic, experience these traumas.

The daughter with the braids is very beautiful 😍 love her face structure

@twylamoses1471

11 ай бұрын

The middle daughter really is almost model like

@4dyamondx745

11 ай бұрын

What does her looks have to do with ANY of this? You people focus on the wrong things, the point was sorely missed here.

@heathab...._-_

11 ай бұрын

@@4dyamondx745 OK

@twylamoses1471

11 ай бұрын

@@4dyamondx745 what you gotta do with this conversation? girl shut up we can say somebody pretty fool..

@thelionandthemouse9933

11 ай бұрын

@@4dyamondx745 exactly! Beauty did not stop her abuser!

Can’t stand that there’s almost a glorification of abusive mothers in the Black community. It’s seen as “strict taking no disrespect” etc. This mother looked proud so many times recalling what she did it was embarrassing to watch. And lady, no you’re not the reason Icelynn is mature and articulate - SHE did the work.

@fromama2011

11 ай бұрын

Who do you see glorifying this? Y'all say anything.

@jollymollyramram9702

11 ай бұрын

There’s definitely a general consensus among many Black people about this. On here the audience will even clap at times hearing about abuse but they consider it “discipline”. How do you not know this when it’s very common?

@Nurse_Shelly44

11 ай бұрын

​@JollyMolly Ramram What's sad is that many in that same audience would cringe if the children weren't black. I've noticed how the media spins the narrative dependent up on the race of the family. I know that doesn't apply here, but we as a community need to wise up.

@poohchi6205

11 ай бұрын

Ironically the so called traumatized whoooings. The most disrespectful child did not get. Y’all killing me with whooopings are traumatizing

@jollymollyramram9702

11 ай бұрын

@Nurse_ Shelley - You’re right about that.

The mother may try to talk over Icelynn because she is very intelligent and self aware. She’s jealous and knows Iceland will call her out on her actions so she has to over talk her.

@SoleahWright

Жыл бұрын

Jealous???

@Indigal

Жыл бұрын

​@@SoleahWright 🤷🏿‍♀️

@NubianP6

Жыл бұрын

I agree. The fact that she can articulately identify the mom’s issues, and then request accountability probably makes the mom feel judged, and deficient. Maybe in her daughter, she sees the emotional intelligence that she wishes she could have had at her age, but rather than celebrating and being proud of her daughter, she pushes back against anything that she says. I applaud the daughter for recognizing her triggers, and for choosing to protect her peace, rather than engaging her mom.

@sandyr9081

11 ай бұрын

And, she did it with all respect. As she said I have to love my mom from a distance. Iceland’s boundaries are set! I love a healthy minded person.

@4dyamondx745

11 ай бұрын

JEALOUSY? Of what?

The daughter in the middle is so gorgeous 😊

@lovelythoughts8855

Жыл бұрын

Intelligent and well-spoken too!

@keepitreal335

Жыл бұрын

And intelligent too😊

@prettygirltee8

Жыл бұрын

Yes indeed she is. 😍

Icelynn proved herself. My God what a strong and independent woman. Sticking up for herself but not degrading others like her mother does. BRAVO! 👏🏽 🎉

The middle daughter has the right idea. I love her train of thoughts. She’s breaking generational curses, and setting necessary boundaries. Her mother is intimidated by her, that’s why she wouldn’t let her speak. Icelynn you are amazing!

It really irritates me when these parents act like they can't understand why their kids hate them. Delusional af

I don’t know how parents expect their kids to be the most respectful people when they aren’t respectful themselves. The mother is irking me she had to talk over every single one of them, your daughters are just as disrespectful as you ma’am

@chriswhite7323

6 ай бұрын

I always tell my mom that I will respect my little kids because how will they learn respect if not.

y'all callin the youngest child rude but she was livin under the same roof as icelynn. i don't see nothing disrespectful, i see a return of energy.

The middle daughter mentioning boundaries is actually very helpful to me. Thanks for sharing that. Boundaries are really so important. Some family dynamics view boundaries as a disrespect or being inconsiderate and not helpful even though you may be drained or it's taking everything out of you.

What the middle child said hit me like a ton of bricks. I'm also very passive and permissive with my kids because of the way I was raised. I don't want them to feel the way I did but that too is not always good. There has to be a balance.

@cassandraduncan-tx5xi

11 ай бұрын

When I was young my dad whip us with 3switches and with our clothes off because that's what we needed but it's 5 of us 3 girls and 2 boys we never went to jail and was not disrespectful he didn't have to do all the time when I got older I told him thanks for the whipping he made me the person I am and I love my dad and mom . So girls get over it .

@vb593

11 ай бұрын

​@@cassandraduncan-tx5xiwhat college did you go to? How long have you been married? What career do you have? We should want our kids to do more than just turn out ok, we should want them to be better than us and thrive, not just survive

@calebdouglas7622

11 ай бұрын

@@cassandraduncan-tx5xi My brother and I also got spanked when we were growing up and I can definitely say we turned out great and both of us are very respectful law abiding citizens. Now of course it wasn’t whippings all of the time as they would still talk to us and give us warnings as well so there was always a balance. Now I don’t want people to get the wrong idea and think whippings and abuse are the same thing because they aren’t. There is nothing wrong with discipline as long as you aren’t name calling, punching, or kicking.

@n.b.johanson4732

10 ай бұрын

@@cassandraduncan-tx5xi I remember seeing my aunt beat the hell out of kids with a cord and rip the earring out of her ear. Some parents have a balance view of discipline then there's some take it a whole another level. There are some parents kick, spit, rip hair and bite to get their point across.

@ilovegio9445

5 ай бұрын

​@@cassandraduncan-tx5xiYou're a victim and gaslighting yourself.

she talks over her because she knows she’s right, it’s hard navigating life without a mother but honestly a toxic one is even worse. It ruins every relationship you have unless you take the steps to heal yourself im proud of her for trying to get out of that

That first daughter reminded me SO MUCH of my sister - immature, refusing to take accountability, irresponsible, etc. How are you honestly upset that someone called the police on you when YOU DECIDED to 1) do something to get a warrant out for your arrest and 2) destroy thousands of dollars worth of that person’s property??? She’s annoying the hell out of me, but the fact that she acts so much like my sister is rly making it easier to accept that I’m not the only one dealing with a person like this in my family.

@Marieeee125

11 ай бұрын

You mean the youngest daughter?!

@mekhiachandler1927

11 ай бұрын

@@Marieeee125no she meant the first daughter to come out on stage.

@Marieeee125

11 ай бұрын

@@mekhiachandler1927 oh ok, thank you!!!

@brigiles5163

11 ай бұрын

The first daughter that came out is the youngest one

@mis3ricordia

11 ай бұрын

well if your sister is living the same life that girl is living i totally get it. That girl is angry. If we are to believe her sisters that mother is terribly abusive. Everyone reacts to abuse differently and this girl who has grown up being abused and watching her sisters be hurt too is clearly furious. We all want abuse victims to be weak and meek but the truth is a lot of abuse victims end up like that girl. Tbh that mother deserves it. Yeah she's impulsive but you can tell if she gets away from the situation she could learn to heal. If you notice she doesn't come at her sisters in that way..... just the person who hurt her and her sisters

That middle child is us breaking down barriers and generational trauma in our families

These parents got to accept accountability and how they actually impact their kids. Own up you contributing to their mental health.

@antonivi8968

11 ай бұрын

They’d rather die first than do that.

@ladyylomonroe

11 ай бұрын

@@antonivi8968 facts

I love when the mothers apologize from the heart, she's a broken person too

Icelyn, sounds so healed, yess sis. Same with me, i love my sister at a distance because being near her just reminds me of the abuse from childhood. Sibling abuse is real yalll

@ZoegirlBev

6 ай бұрын

It really is.

Icelynn shines babyyy! I wish her the best in life. The more boundaries the better for her.

Iceland the middle child, God bless you sug!! We see you and your counseling is working keep doing it! Up top +they need you!

Iceland is not lying on her mother.

She was a young mother, and she did not parent properly and that's exactly why kids shouldn't be having kids. Being abusive and promiscuous and putting boyfriends before her children had a huge impact on them and they are still hurting. There needs to be a lot of therapy, healing, and accountability. That is the only way I see her relationship with her daughters improving.

The middle child always gets the short end of the stick (even with great parents), but they always seem to come out best

@boothkris

11 ай бұрын

So true I’m a middle child and I can attest to that.

@bossladiee

11 ай бұрын

I agree

The young girl needs to take accountability. You’re borrowing your mother’s car so bring it back no matter the reason

@Caramel1109

11 ай бұрын

I understand. But I get where she BBC ok’ing from if I just told u what I was doing why u hitting me up then telling me u gonna put ur car out as stolen it’s extra af and bad as a parent. Like this aged black parents and grandparents wanna control everything the child does. So she probably felt mom making up another excuse she need the car just so I can’t go nowhere

@4dyamondx745

11 ай бұрын

@@Caramel1109 it does not matter what the mom reasons were, IT WAS THE MOM CAR, that is what's wrong with you people?

@Caramel1109

11 ай бұрын

@@4dyamondx745 it matters when they obviously made it clear she can use it her mom is power hungry bitch just like mine who fake sick just to make u not have any fun idk why it’s so hard for y’all to believe being a parent doesn’t give u the right to dismiss and be an asshole to ur children and they feeling. My mom literally does the same shot we agree I can use the car if I put gas in it but when she wanna be petty she’ll pull sick shot or just some dumb shit. Sorry I can’t understand that parents can be wrong at too

@Yfntyyy

11 ай бұрын

@@4dyamondx745it’s about respect 🤷🏽‍♂️ and how you say things. As you can see the mother don’t want to own up to what she did to them. Trauma cause you to act a certain way

@blkluvchnl

11 ай бұрын

@@4dyamondx745 That’s her car, but the daughter said that they usually use the car whenever they need it. That day the mom went off the rails so the daughter was like “wtf?” And respect goes both ways. You can tell the mother hasn’t respected her children a day in their lives.

11:50 HI, daughter of a narcissistic mother here:) BIG HINT: notice how the brother isn’t in the room, and it’s ONLY the daughters that have a bad relationship with the mother. mothers cherish the bond with their sons more than with their daughters.. that’s a BIG trait of narcissism…

Mother over talks because the truth hurts

My mother is my BIGGEST trigger . I’ve been loving my mother from a distance for the past two months and I must say I’m at peace !! I’m creating boundaries myself and she’s mad asf about it

The mother is gaslighting her daughters to death glad her daughters have each others back

As a mom I don't have a problem apologizing to my children even though they are grown. A lot of people have learned to identify with their abusers and I'm not just speaking on this situation. Some people do believe beating on people will make them a better person. But when these same people get into abusive relationships or become abusive, before you know it you have people identifying with their abusers. Some children have a violent approach when it comes to things and they are quite destructive because that is how they learned to communicate. I do pray they work it out.

@onnie.6815

11 ай бұрын

Literally! I don’t understand the black community, they want respect and manners, without showin what it looks like… then get mad and want to beat they child Bc the child doesn’t know

@takeishawhite4964

10 ай бұрын

Your right

@globalprincess5471

10 ай бұрын

@@takeishawhite4964 ♥ 🙏

@ilovegio9445

5 ай бұрын

Literally ‼️ Right on point. And then they be surprised when the child fights back.

This is a case of narcissistic Mothers in the black community. They think talking at their children , hitting them, and not allowing them to express themselves is okay, and then brings up what the Bible says when it goes both ways. Don’t provoke the child and then play victim. The daughters just have had built up anger and it unleashed.

If you don’t want to go to jail, don’t commit a crime while on probation. 🤷🏽‍♀️

@Caramel1109

11 ай бұрын

As a parent idc wat u DID but I’m not gonna put my BLACK CHILD in a life or death situation by calling cops on them. Plain and simple

@gab19guerin72

11 ай бұрын

@@Caramel1109 and she isn’t you. 🤷🏽‍♀️

@stone6135

11 ай бұрын

@@Caramel1109so I see you’re the type that would let your kids run all over you. Last time I checked if your kids are grown ass adults they should be able to face real life consequences.

@justIvy98

11 ай бұрын

@@Caramel1109 FACTS!

@fountainmedia4683

11 ай бұрын

@@Caramel1109 And that's why black teens do not respect their parents, grandparents, their elders, or the church today. Because of parents like you! You coddle your teens, and allow them to disrespect you and get away with all that they do. That young girl was way too disrespectful to her mother on stage. Generation Alpha and Generation Z ARE THE WORST Generations out of all 7 of them. I wonder which generation you're from. You're probably from Generation Millennial, because we all know the people who were born within the first 4 Generations have always shown respect to their parents, grandparents, and elders. SMDH!

Karamo is a good listener and gives good feedback but he look like he going through something too. It’s in his eyes..

@bredgethardison7372

Жыл бұрын

@Miss J I see it too

@vickychillin3255

Жыл бұрын

Yup. Well he's gay, he's going through a lot as a beautiful gay black man

@vickychillin3255

Жыл бұрын

Yup. Well he's gay, he's going through a lot as a beautiful gay black man

This mother is just like mine. As a black woman I can only speak from my own experience and I hate to see other women who look like me have the same stories generation after generation. It’s one of the reasons why I don’t desire to be a mother myself. Wishing everyone involved healing and restoration.

I knew the reason these girls are outta control is causa their mother....this is sad...a true reflection of the mother!

I really hope they heal and come together . Wish it was longer tho.

@LoganTaliaferro

Жыл бұрын

The second sister said her past but didn’t keep saying it she actually did stuff to help her

I read the comments first, and y’all were correct about Icelynn!! I’m a middle child with two sisters. We all embody what these sisters embody. We all experienced a different version of our mother. But I was definitely the one who started the healing to be able to communicate and articulate to my mother where she hurt me, or where she dropped the ball. My older sister followed and my younger sister still has healing to do. They have very little to no communication whatsoever, she grew up fighting and arguing with my mom and definitely disrespected her on so many occasions. So the dynamics are very similar and I pray for healing with them.

"Love you from a distance." Thank you. I won't feel bad like I'm doing something bad or something is wrong with me again. 🙏 Bless your familes. Your all beautiful souls.

My moma trigger me too. I thought I healed from her past mistakes but she still does things and I’m now in my late 20’s

@bossladiee

11 ай бұрын

Therapy is the only way to truly heal from that trauma

I wish these young ladies well. I had a mother like this and had to go "No Contact" it's been 11 years since I left. No Regrets!

Their mother is acting like she hasn't done anything.

Whew…this hit home. Growing up my two sisters and I felt our mom put men over us. Honestly, a part of us still feel this way with her current husband. Now that we are in our 30s, we’ve learned to accept it. I’m literally the calm middle child too. Therapy has helped my sisters. Girls need a mothers love - not with material items but emotionally and with time. I hope my daughters feel unconditionally loved. Sending healing energy to that family.

That lil one sorry today. Mama gonna get cussed out again SOON!!😂😂😂😂

The middle daughter is 100%. She avoids accountability and over talks them to stop them from telling her the TRUTH about herself. The baby is outright disrespectful. Period. Her attitude is out of control. If all 3 of your daughters consider you problematic, you should stfu and reassess the type of mother and PERSON you are.

@susieblanco2722

4 ай бұрын

!!

I've seen several commenters mentioning that the mother is a single parent and did the best she could as if that excuses her abusive behavior. Single parenting doesnt have to equal abuse, emotional neglect, and toxicity. Unless I misunderstood, is there a son as well? I wonder what his experience has been.

@joydanleigh7711

11 ай бұрын

Yes💜💜💜

Anyone else see how the kids that were beaten and mistreated are more respectful than the one that wasn't? The youngest admits she was spoiled compared to the other two yet she came out nasty af. She didn't experience the trauma her sisters did... she was just mad that her mother gave her a boundary and a consequence.

@poohchi6205

11 ай бұрын

Meeeeeeeeeeeeee but whoopings is sooooooo traumatizing and abusive. This gentle parenting style getting on my nerves.

@msamariab

11 ай бұрын

That young one needed a whipping! Being a parent is hard and finding the balance is hard. Lack of discipline is what has caused our youth to be so disrespectful! Now with whippings I believe you also have to provide positive feedback and guidance in order to balance the discipline.

@sleepyminkz

10 ай бұрын

@@msamariabmaking massa proud. getting so angry you have to put your hands on someone is beyond me.

@SuperShepard1

10 ай бұрын

​@@sleepyminkzYou don't have to be angry to administer corporal punishment.

@theiswithin3649

8 ай бұрын

"My parents beat me as a child and I am not traumatized," said the man whose ex-partner reported him for physical violence. "When I was a child they left me crying alone until I fell asleep and it was so bad I did not go out," said the man who spends long hours in social networks, affecting his sleep. "They punished me as a child and I'm fine," said the man who, every time he makes a mistake, says to himself words of contempt, as a form of self-punishment. "As a child, they put a heavy hand on me and I suffer from a trauma called 'education'," said the woman who still does not understand why all of her partners end up being aggressive. "When I became capricious as a child, my father locked me in a room alone to learn and today I appreciate it," said the woman who has suffered anxiety attacks and can not explain why she is so afraid of being locked in small spaces . "My parents told me they were going to leave me alone or give me to a stranger when I did my tantrums and I do not have traumas," said the woman who has prayed for love and has forgiven repeated infidelities so as not to feel abandoned "My parents controlled me with just the look and see how well I came out," said the woman who can not maintain eye contact with figures of 'authority' without feeling intimidated. "As a child, I got even with the iron cable and today I am a good man, even professional," said the man his neighbors have accused the police for drunk hitting objects and yelling at his wife. "My parents forced me to study a career that would make me money, and see how well off I am," said the man who dreams of Friday every day because he is desperate in his work doing something every day that is not what he always wanted. "When I was little they forced me to sit down until all the food was finished and they even force fed me, not like those permissive parents" affirmed the woman who does not understand why she could not have a healthy relationship with food and in her adolescence came to develop an eating disorder. "My mother taught me to respect her good chancletazos to the point," said the woman who smokes 5 cigarettes a day to control her anxiety. "I thank my mom and my dad for every blow and every punishment, because, if not, who knows what would happen to me," said the man who has never been able to have a healthy relationship, and whose son constantly lies to him because he has fear. And so we go through life, listening to people claiming to be good people without trauma, but paradoxically, in a society full of violence and wounded people.

Icelynn is GORGEOUS!

I believe tf out of them. Narcissistic parents always choose their partners over their kids.

@diamerist88879

7 ай бұрын

The parents always also go after the kid that forced them to realize the messed up traits about themselves. I was the scapegoat so ik first hand how it goes.

@nana8135

3 ай бұрын

True❤

Icelynn you rock! Continue to work on you and protect your peace.

Icelynn have the most beautiful spirit ❤ I pray that you guys can find happiness together if not it’s ok to love people from a distance.

Icelynn is BEAUTIFUL and any therapy she did is working ! Boundaries are extremely important with toxic parents. You have to love them from a distance or else you’ll drive yourself crazy. A lot of our parents think they did their best because that’s the only thing they knew but I don’t think they understand that sometimes their best isn’t good enough.

The fact that I must go through this with my own mother makes me feel for the middle child. I'm the oldest and I will say this shit is far more common than people realize. It is scary to see how the mother is so happy for what she did.

Only 5 minutes in and I am so thankful for my mother and the sisters I have! What children have to do is understand that their parents are HUMAN. They have flaws, they sin, they are not perfect. We as people put so many expectations on folks just because of their title. A mom, dad, sister, pastor, doctor, and so on does this and not that! No we are humans and all deserving of understanding.

@material-cheshirekhatter2413

Жыл бұрын

Exactly, parents are human That means they need to take accountability as well, thats not an extreme expectation, asking an adult to acknowledge the pain of and apologize to their kids.

@sicilysscenarios365

Жыл бұрын

They might be human but the day you sign up to be a parent you should at least try to do your best for your kids. Don’t expect sympathy when you signed up to do this job, they never asked to be here.

@Itzyhani

Жыл бұрын

@@sicilysscenarios365 so because I am a parent I don’t deserve sympathy and understanding? Who said she didn’t try when she clearly allowed her grown child to live there, spoils her, allowed her to drive her car, takes the abuse she spews and still reached out for help. No one is perfect and there is no blueprint to being a parent. So children can forgive a horrible cheating ass man, ain’t shit as friend, Pervy boss, or trick in the street- but they can’t forgive their momma. Na that don’t make sense to me.

@Itzyhani

Жыл бұрын

@@material-cheshirekhatter2413 did you mean to reply to someone else. I never said anything about a parent shouldn’t listen and take accountability. I actually heard the mother do that. But you can clearly see that there is a severe fracture in the way they communicate. It can not all just been attacking and pointing the finger! Her daughters didn’t come on there to take accountability also, they came to point out what she did wrong as a mother. How can you expect anyone to give you a heartfelt apology and listen when you are disrespectful. It won’t work. Not a parent, boss, or a bum in the street. Communication is not just stating your opinion it also includes active listening, mindfulness and open minded people who are looking to resolve issues. Look I held so much resentment towards my dad for not being there. I used to watch him on tv and at high powered events protecting some of the most famous ppl in the world. I used to think how can he care about them but not me his daughter. It took for me to go through life, F up a few times and need forgiveness from others, and have a child myself before I could forgive him. I realized that I had to meet him where he was and accept it or walk away. I wanted this box office movie apology and I wanted him to change everything I didn’t like. But that is not possible. So once I let go of the hate and the need to be validated by him it was easy. Her daughters pain is real and their own. There is nothing the mom can do or say to alleviate that. Whenever it happens it will be because they decided to release it.

@sicilysscenarios365

Жыл бұрын

@@Itzyhani I said don’t expect and I’m referring to this situation in particular because the mother is obviously a narcissist that feeds off the fact she did the job she signed up for. I can’t believe you are defending this sorry ass excuse of a parent but hey you might be just as bad so let me me not speak

Can we talk about the boots the mom has on? They are fire.

The middle child is so beautiful 😍😍😍😍

7:15 “I learned a lot of behaviors from my mother” that’s exactly what her daughters have done. Mainly the youngest.

@_Sororita

10 ай бұрын

I guess when your a child growing up in a toxic household where your own worst enemies is the world AND YOUR PARENTS you feel like you need to push your true self down and match their energy for a little while, just until you get out of it. Unfortunately by the Time you do, you don’t realize you might’ve been infected by the bad environment.

That little one got a foul a** mouth. Too disrespectful for me towards her mom.

@lifewithyana2924

Жыл бұрын

fr. I'm sorry but I did not like her energy at all, or towards her mom.

@jazzyjennshighway

Жыл бұрын

Yea her attitude is a no go, she should e been addressed! No need to disrespect your mom like that on tv especially when she was in the wrong.. that was her moms car

@MianaBella

11 ай бұрын

But it is what it is , the youngest is usually the craziest and most angry

@_Sororita

10 ай бұрын

Wasn’t their mom like super shity to like-all of them in different ways. Like what are y’all expecting. Do you treat everyone close to you(family or not) like crap their whole life because you feel entitled to and still expect them to be good to you after!?!?🤦🏾‍♀️

@thesugarcase7431

10 ай бұрын

@@_Sororita there's a level of respect you have for your elders especially your mom. You can get your point across as the "child" without the hostility or just walk away. There should never be a point where you want to fight your parents. Trust me on this. I've been through a lot growing up and I have 10 kids all with different feelings and or attitudes and not one has ever approached me like they lost their mind.

The young one is the type who will kill her parents because she was spoiled all her life and can’t handle being told no.

@Lady.Pressed

11 ай бұрын

Sure would. Then she brags about never being disciplined. Girl we can tell. 🥴🥴

I agree and This is exactly why kids dont talk to their parents at all and cut them out of their lives

My mom and I had a very turbulent relationship and now that im a mom i understand. She was dealing with grief on top of everything else. My mom took accountability and apologies for where she fell short and even if she doesn’t remember everything she never calls me a lie and acknowledges how I feel. She did the best she could and far better than what she knew. They have the potential to heal beautifully if they all do the work

Icelynn...pertaining to her, that therapy/counseling has worked wonders for her and it shows. Keep up the good work!! That mother has a lot of work to do. If she wants her girls back as she stated, she's gonna have to have a Come to Jesus meeting and admit her faults and take ACCOUNTABILITY!!!!

the middle daughter is beautiful. shes graceful poised ladylike i bet she smart tooo.

This reminds me so much of my family dynamic back in the day. I wish as a black community, we could change a lot of the ways that we interact with our kids and break those generational issues. Its like a lot of black parents have kids and resent having them and then it shows in how some of us are raised. Its a sad cycle

@joydanleigh7711

11 ай бұрын

💜💜💜

@CerseiLannister999

4 ай бұрын

Yes . Most of them were not ready for kids.

Respect,shaking his hand/sit down,it’s sad for real n see this a lot n families/mental health is seriously on the arisen

You see tht little one sense she catered to her there is no respect - tht middle child I feel for her and the oldest

It’s unfortunate because no one wants to take accountability. I can not stand a parent that feels they never do anything wrong. Just own your shit!

13:47 the most realest thing ever said on the internet

That youngest one something else! Very disrespectful and whoever agree with her is sick. She is extremely entitled.

It’s crazy to hear this… my mom was a lot like this mom. Those beatings were brutal. I know there were good times too… but the ptsd is real and I wish I could just get over it so we can have a better relationship for time we have left together. Somehow I gotta accept she will never communicate well. Somehow 😢

That little daughter is so rude! Icelynn is beautiful inside out.

@I3love92

11 ай бұрын

Very rude

@_Sororita

10 ай бұрын

She should be, her mom was terrible TO ALL OF THEM!!!

@shortyduwhop319

4 ай бұрын

She’s just like her mom, actually.

Everything starts with the parent!!!! That’s all I’m saying 🙊

The mother is just as disrespectful

The one that didn't get whoopins got warrants....😂 bad and mean asf.

@chandralafayewalker-smith6104

11 ай бұрын

And the older two are traumatized from their whoppings. As parents, we can't just win. Smh

@toniduval4350

3 ай бұрын

@@chandralafayewalker-smith6104There is a balance. If your child is being reasonable, you don’t beat that out of them. When your child is being unreasonable, use every tool on God’s green earth to make sure you’re not ‘sparing the rod and spoiling the child.’ If your child is engaging in behaviour that will get them arrested, then you beat them to deter them getting in trouble with the law. That’s reasonable. If your child has taken the family car with a perfectly reasonable explanation for why she thought it would be okay (such as you were camped in bed, late at night, watching a movie with your fiancé, and looked like you had no intention of moving/using the car - all of which the mother affirmed) then it would be wrong to punish the child. Instead, to deal with your irritation instruct your adult child to bring that vehicle home as soon as they can manage, and once home calmly explain that ‘it causes me to resent you when you use the car for anything other than work. I need that vehicle to last, and you running off with it won’t make my vehicle last, especially when it’s night time and your chances of getting into an accident-we-can’t-afford increase.’ Once that boundary is set and your child knows it exists, it is reasonable to get angry should your kid decide to violate it.

This video made me cry and helped me heal from some pains I have with my own experiences

He is my new favorite talk person, mostly because he’s one of the realest men I’ve seen so this. So sophisticated, funny, REAL, like he better not go anywhere

Sadly the mom only respects the children who are the most disrespectful toward her

The mom may need to get another therapist..because whoever she been seeing doesn't have her take accountability..maybe he /she is a yes therapist 🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@4dyamondx745

11 ай бұрын

WHOMEVER

There’s so much that went on, I just pray they each find the peace they need. It may be apart. The mom doesn’t want to listen to Iceland bc it’s too much truth for Mama. She can’t take it. Sadly smh

The youngest one need a foot in her *** - mad disrespectful. The way the mother disciplined the older two is how she should have done her.

@2intriguing1

Жыл бұрын

And judging from the comments I hope none of these ingrates have kids, they think it's ok if a mother isn't perfect they can disrespect her. I don't like her nasty @ss

@deshawnbrinson2298

Жыл бұрын

I said the same thing

@Godchgshe

Жыл бұрын

Yeah her mom should've fcuked her up when she was kicking her down😂😂....

@Toriab

Жыл бұрын

It’s like the youngest is so disrespectful to the point the mother is scared of her. Cus I would’ve beennnnnn put my foot up her a s s

@silogreen8976

Жыл бұрын

She’s a product of her mother so why should she be blamed for the bad parenting of her mother? What she needs is healing and some compassion. Y’all always want to blame the kids for their behavior while glancing over the parents and the environment that created them.

The daughter in the blue,girl….. smh.

@BOSSLADY-cu8vs

Жыл бұрын

She need to be on somebody's runway modeling

@Toriab

Жыл бұрын

@@BOSSLADY-cu8vs nal she needs her a s s beat for disrespecting her mom like that!

@JJ-kx8gi

Жыл бұрын

@@BOSSLADY-cu8vs the youngest? Absolutely not lol Icelynn though,I agree!

@samanthac.7965

5 ай бұрын

Right!

Watching them apologize towards the end really warmed my heart ❤️

Being the middle child myself .. whew I felt that . Idk if it’s being that middle child but I’ve certainly had to love my family from a distance . I only speak to my sisters . Anyone that brings me head ache or heart ache , I can’t let in my space .

‘ Yes ma’am 😹 ! icelynn is very outspoken 🥰 .

I was beaten/whooped naked many times. It took me a long time to realize that wasn’t ok. Many kids around me were treated similarly so I thought it was normal.

@bossladiee

11 ай бұрын

I’m sorry you endured that and I pray that you have found peace and healing

I identify with the middle child *sooo* much - being the sensitive, insightful child of a toxic abusive mother

I’m sorry but spanking a child when they are wet, and naked is most definitely abuse, and when parents try to defend their actions by saying things like *”You’re not in jail, you’re not prostituting”,* that implies that every person who isn’t in jail, or prostituting has been beaten by their parents, and that couldn’t be farther from the truth. I’m glad that the mother had matured some by the time she had her 3rd daughter, but how can you acknowledge that you “knew better” by then, but in the same breath proudly proclaim *“Sure did, and it made you blessed”* It can’t be both. You can’t claim that you’ve humbled yourself and taken accountability while still being proud and even boastful about the wrong that you’ve done. I can only remember one spanking from my dad, and it was well-deserved 😂. As a mom myself, I think that constantly beating a child is just lazy parenting. JMO.

@oyoisubliminals5548

11 ай бұрын

Oop never knew that. Thought that was normal😗

@jasminewillison1139

11 ай бұрын

Spanking a child in general is abuse

@tincredible

11 ай бұрын

I agree with you for the most part. Those girls turned out well in spite of the beatings, not because of the beatings. If you look into the history of most prostitutes, it's evident that there was no shortage of beatings and violence in their early lives. So, that's not what keeps girls' legs closed to paying men. I'd also say that raising a child who isn't in jail or selling their body is a very low bar. That's like a student bragging about passing their classes with a straight D minuses (the bare minimum). What functional parent brags about being the parental equivalent of a "D" minus student? I don't believe in hitting people of any age except in clear instances of self-defense. There are other innovative, nonviolent ways to correct mischievous behavior in children.

@Unknown-lp9mu

10 ай бұрын

@@tincredible right - thats all she wanted for their future was to make sure they weren't prostitutes ? wtf - this shit is sick

They need all go to the alter, and pray. And keep a distance from each other. I believe all of them.

Respect is earned not giving the mom is disrespectful too

Unfortunately I can understand the mom. Hurt people will hurt more people and sadly it was the children who got hurt. It's a ripple effect. This mom has been thru a lot of abuse herself as a child and could not recognize the pain she put the kids thru. She was acting out of her own pain. Sad that the girls had to suffer the brunt thereof.