This scene was so important for peopl who identify as Bi and for all LGBTIQ+ people coming out and for how parents should respond.

@8FLiX

2 жыл бұрын

Let it be a masterclass in parenting.

@JAKELOVESGAGA

2 жыл бұрын

It is, actually it's very close to my coming out to my mom, when I watched it I felt exactly the same I felt back in that day

@annefrankgacha1942

Жыл бұрын

When I came out to my mother, at first she told me to be 100% sure with my decision. But after a day, she finally picked up that this was a forever thing and, she accepted me so well, that for pride month, she placed a sign on her bedroom door with the Bi colours saying, "My son's Bisexual, and im proud of it!"

@xaurui

Жыл бұрын

@@annefrankgacha1942 i absolutely could never:(( congrats on coming out though

@fabioaugustosperanza9580

Жыл бұрын

Não tive tempo de ter essa conversa 😭😭 mas sintia por pequenos gestos e olhares que ela sabia e me amava incondicionalmente. ❤👩‍👦❤

The lines were brilliant. “I’m sorry if I have ever made you feel you cannot tell me that..” is one thing every person struggling to come out wants to hear from anyone.

@joeldogelio7659

Жыл бұрын

❤

@TCMNoah

Жыл бұрын

The most important line in this dialogue.

@taylorkeith4400

7 ай бұрын

Her character could a case study in how to accept someone coming out.

What I love most about Nicks coming out is that he started the conversation saying Charlie's his boyfriend instead of starting with saying he's bisexual. Because when I think about when I have kids, regardless of their gender, I want them to come home a just say mom I have a boyfriend/girlfriend and not feel they have explain their sexuality to me. This is something I feel should be more normalized and I hope the day comes where people can just say their in a relationship.

@8FLiX

2 жыл бұрын

Well said!

@primalfear08

3 ай бұрын

Year++ late to this party, but this is precisely how I came out to my parents as a 26-year old. I said Mom/Dad, I've been seeing someone....and I'd like for you to meet him because he's very special to me. It wasn't about saying that I was gay, just that this is a person important to me and I'd like you to be a part of our life.

When he said ‘it’s called bisexuality.. if you’ve heard of that’ omg my heart😭😭😭🤟

I love Olivia Colman so much, but I had been wondering why she was in the show as she had little to nothing to do. But then this scene in the finale came round and it all made sense. She's such an incredible actress that can convey so much without even saying a word. This was such a beautiful coming out scene that really got me choked up tbh lol

@8FLiX

2 жыл бұрын

This is the EXACT kind of support that demonstrates the unconditional love of a parent to an LGBTQ+ teen.

@lloydtxw

2 жыл бұрын

While he was talking, as soon as it cut to her face I felt a deep sense of empathy coming from her and lost it. She conveys so much sincerity with her soulful eyes and facial expressions. I started crying immediately the way she looked at him and how she responded. Olivia Colman is amazing. I was also disappointed she wasn’t used more until this scene. It was the sweetest ending.

@SuperSuzyg

2 жыл бұрын

I wanted to cry when she reached out and hugged him!❤

@mickandmj

Жыл бұрын

@@lloydtxw I agree so much

@CloudxTifa150

Жыл бұрын

She is. We see in her the reaction we all want to get and her eyes speak so much love it just makes you cry. Gosh ♥️

When he told her Charlie was his boyfriend she looked like she was fighting back a smile so hard it was so adorable 🥰

@maxgarete5435

5 ай бұрын

She already knew I'm sure!

@Mxyzptlksac

2 ай бұрын

It was so adorable and good that Olivia got wrapped up in the moment and forgot her lines.

This. This is how parents should react. "I'm sorry if I ever made you feel like you couldn't tell me" made me tear up

In the bloopers, Olivia forgot her line because she was caught up looking at Kit's 'little face'. Totally do not blame her, I can only imagine what it was like to see in real life, it was more than enough coming through a screen - the acting in this whole scene from both of them is off the charts

@gilly_axolotl

2 жыл бұрын

Do you have a link? I'm afraid I'll watch the wrong one and then forget to find that moment 😅

@clare2439

Жыл бұрын

i saw that too!! so sweet!! ❤😭

@dreamsteddybearsmaster

11 ай бұрын

That's basically what Darcy's parents are like in the show unfortunately and also Nick's brother David

@darkacadpresenceinblood

Ай бұрын

that's so wholesome what😭

To think: There are actual “parents” out there who FAIL at their role by reacting hysterically or cruelly by rejecting, disparaging, or disowning their gay child while conveniently citing pointless religious edicts. This scene is beautifully and delicately presented. “Heartstopper” is an absolute gem of a show.

@quelquunparla824

Жыл бұрын

There is also the ever present gray zone. Parents who fail by having a fearful reaction because of ignorance, or parents who try to crack a joke because of their nervousness but it's at best akward or homophobic, hurtful... (cf love, simon and his dad's reaction when he comes out). But they can still love you and want the best for you, and you can go together on a (sadly hard) journey to understand one another, where each comes from and how your love and family relationship makes you move past that... or not sometimes, it's a sad truth.

@The_Memorial

Жыл бұрын

​@@quelquunparla824 yeah. When I told my mother I am gay her first reaction was surprise/shock. The next 3 days she was ill, then we talked about it again she said it was wrong( christian) and 15 minutes later she came back to my room crying telling me she loves me no matter what. But after that we never discussed it, she never asked anything. I get it might be awkard for her so I never brought it up again. But its been 3 years ever since so yeah... it's not as bad as being rejected, but it's definetily not as good as being supported.

@J_Mock92

24 күн бұрын

​​@@The_Memorial I think a big part of it (at least in my experience) is just the acknowledgement on the parent's behalf, and the fear of what might happen to the child (ridicule, bullying, hate crimes, etc). I came from a fairly conservative and religious upbringing, and when I came out to my Mom like 18 years ago, she mostly just seemed worried for me when I think back on it. She already knew before I told her (as I'm sure many if not most parents do), and said she "wondered" or "had her suspicions" since I was like 4 or 5 years old (before anyone tries to come for me or her, yes I know stereotypes can be harmful, but they do exist for a reason...). Everyone in my family already knew before I officially came out, and my Mom as well as the rest of my family (including those who are still quite devout Christians) are all incredibly accepting of me, but I think there's a bit of fear and worry in the back of their minds, because there are a lot of _other_ people in this world that are hateful and disgusting and have no problem (and may even delight in) causing harm to us, or anyone they see as "other," if that makes sense. (Edit: I realize your comment is from a year ago, and I hope that you and your mother have spoken more about it and come to terms with things. I know it can be hard if not, because there are so many factors that play into the situation, but not talking about it at all can't remedy the situation or bring you closer together. It's sometimes better to speak uncomfortable truths, and maybe even argue for a bit, than it is to say nothing).

@The_Memorial

24 күн бұрын

@@J_Mock92 yeah my mum said she had her suspicions too and that she only wanted me to be safe. Funny thing is she found my STD receipt from a clinic a few months ago and panicked. I had gone home for the holidays and was ready for an interrogation😂💀 but I told her it is just something everyone should do once in a while regardless of their sexuality and she kept going on about wanting me to be safe. “Well taking these tests is for my safety”

@J_Mock92

24 күн бұрын

@@The_Memorial lol the same thing happened to me one time like 10 years ago, after I got tested and my mom saw the receipt on my bedroom floor 😂 I was like "Mom, I'm not fucking a billion people, but I'm sexually active... (I think I actually had a long-term boyfriend at the time lol), everyone who's sexually active should get tested regularly.... Including you" LMAO

This is such a sweet moment, I love how she reassures him that he doesn't have to pretend to like girls, but can if he does. Also, she says in an earlier scene she calls charlie his 'special friend', suggesting she sort of already knew how he felt about charlie.

this is literally the perfect example of how a parent should react to their kid coming out. really wish my mom said those things.

@aishipal857

Жыл бұрын

I mean yeah, that's like so true, parents should be, I mean, ought to be supportive

omg I love this series it's 40 years too late for me but I'm so glad it exists for the younger LGBT+ community now, it's as if we still need permission to come out and the existence of this series makes a huge difference to those grappling with their sexuality and coming out ❤

@hbb5613

2 жыл бұрын

For us who grew with things like Brokeback Mountain (without undermining or diminish it) this is so refreshing, it shows that LGBT people deserve happiness and not just have to aspire to a tragic love story where someone has to die to be understood and accepted.

@lounabrf6914

2 жыл бұрын

@@hbb5613 I'm still young, so I didn't really "grow up" with Brokeback Mountain, but I've watched it before watching Heartstopper. And honestly, even if I loved the movie, I was terrified that all LGBTQ representations would look like that. I don't know if I could watch it again, it was so painful, even if I love the actors who played Jack and Ennis.

@benjaminreynolds5068

2 жыл бұрын

@@lounabrf6914 I recommend the film 'Boys don't cry'. Impactful. Harrowing. You will only watch it once.....

@lounabrf6914

2 жыл бұрын

@@benjaminreynolds5068 thanks for the recommendation!

@brownproductions8391

Жыл бұрын

As an 18 year old the show definitely made a difference for me :)

I love how in an outtake for this scene, Olivia is actually so overwhelmed she forgets her line, I can't say I blame her. haha

@dreamsteddybearsmaster

11 ай бұрын

Colly is the best!!! She's also got her own children in her real life so I bet she is prepped for it if either need to come out to her

I absolutely love this scene with Nick and his mom...it's the just the way that it should be when a child tells their parent they're gay, bisexual or trans. And such wonderful characters and actors. Heartstopper has stolen my heart. I am such a fan!!

"We started going out a couple months ago but I started liking him... way before that..." The way it transitions into the montage of their young love makes me well up and cry literally every time. This is so beautiful and I'm SO glad it's gotten more seasons but imagine if it hadn't gotten renewed, this would have been the perfect little capsule series

I watched this show right after being forced to come out and admit my relationship with a girl to my parents, who ensured I could never see her again and outed me to everyone in our family. This scene is what I wanted, and what my kids will someday have if they ever need it. Thank you God for Olivia and Kit for this scene, I cried for like an hour.

@CloudxTifa150

Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️ sending you a hug

This is by far my favorite scene in the entire 1st season and here's why: the subtle nuances in kits facial expressions. Just based off his expressions and the hitches in his voice you can tell what emotion he's feeling. When he says "we're going out" his eyes light up, his face brightens and he seems excited, but only for a split second when he remembers he's telling his mum and he's scared. Then when he says "I just wanted you to know" you can hear the hitch in his voice, from the nerves and the fear of not knowing what to expect from his mom. He's done so much research and most likely has heard of parents disowning their children for coming out so he's scared but he still wants to tell her because he's just so happy to finally truly be himself and he's willing to take that risk. You can see it all in those two lines and it's just wonderful. Kit is an amazing actor and he's going to go on to do great things after this show.

I'm in love with this scene. Right in the fucking feels. The whole show is like this. Conflict but no drama. Pure, respectful interactions. Teenagers without all the crap added. It's just so soulful.

I have watched this scene over and over. I am 65 and have been blessed to be with my partner -- now husband -- for 37½ years. How different growing up gay would have been if a show like this existed in the 1960s-70s. About the acting: of course, Olivia Coleman is beyond genius. The woman is a master class in acting in just one scene. But can we talk for a moment about Kit Connor's acting? The fact that he can barely breathe as he stumbles out the words rang SO TRUE -- I totally remember that tight-chest, almost breathless anxiety as I told each of my parents. I was fortunate -- while they were not as perfect as Olivia Coleman, they did very well. But this is such a powerful reminder that however much the "macro-world" has changed, LGBTQ young people don't live in that world. They each live in their own micro-world, and it's still terrifying to tell your truth to your parents, your friends and schoolmates, and your extended family and community. The amazement of this show is that every moment with every character rings true. How the Brits pull that off -- talk about these issues without over-processing them or being overly pedantic and preachy. They let the characters tell their stories and show their lives, and that is everything. My husband and I have watched this show through twice already -- with tears more times than I can count -- and I have no doubt we will again. SO. WELL. DONE!!!!!

@brownproductions8391

Жыл бұрын

You and your husband seem awesome! I'm an 18-year-old Brit and this show definitely makes a difference. I'd never seen teen love between boys presented so tenderly and unashamedly before, and so it means a lot. Also, yes, Olivia Colman is fabulous

@douglasduckett3438

Жыл бұрын

@@brownproductions8391 Yes, she is indeed! You are coming into adulthood in a far better and more open world. Far from perfect -- and your generation will, I trust, "move the ball forward" into greater freedom, acceptance, and inclusion. But the life that my husband and I have now was unthinkable in high school (we actually knew each other in high school, though we did not start dating until I was out of law school and he was a fourth-year medical student). It was unthinkable even to come out in high school then -- now it is not at all uncommon. So wonderful! I wish you a lifetime of love and happiness.

@brownproductions8391

Жыл бұрын

@@douglasduckett3438 Wow, what a lovely response! I'm definitely grateful to be coming of age in this era rather than any other before me. It's people like you from your generation who have helped pave the way for the more accepting world we live in now, so I thank you for that. Thanks for going through all the pain and discrimination so that so many of us don't have to! I wish you love and happiness too :)

This is honestly the most beautiful coming out scene I've ever seen and I watch it repeatedly. I wish that it had been this easy for everyone, including me.

Im not bi, I dont identify anything with this, but that doesnt matter at all. I LOVE THIS. The way Kit is acting, hesitating with his lips to say what he wants, not being able to look at her mom in the beginning to her eyes, and finally he could and he spell it out. Freaking hell. And so refreshing and healthy, finally, a NORMAL reaction from a parent. Not homophobic ones anymore, Im so tired of that cliche. Simply a normal thing. Just loving your son. So beautiful 😭😭😭😭

Just his response was perfect alone when Charlie asked him“ so does this mean we’re going to tell people?“ and than he said “yeah :-)”. Like ugh I hope I find my Nick Nelson one day❤️!

I always break down crying to this scene because it makes me so happy for Nick that his mother truly accepts him and his relationship with Charlie

Fear, apprehension, courage, love, excitement, resolve, Kit does an EXCELLENT job communicating the emotions Nick is having during this difficult but beautiful moment. ...gets me evertime. 😢😊😢

Olivia did a great job with her role as Sarah. Such a sweetheart and one off my favorite lines of her is “I’m sorry if I ever made you feel like you couldn’t tell me that” 🥺 everybody should have a mum like her ❤️

"it's called bisexuality if you've heard of it" "i still like girls but um, i like boys too" DJHJHFJHFDHJHJFJHFDJHDFHGHG OMG I WANNA DIE OF CUTENESS THIS SCENE IS TOO ADORABLE

That was me a year ago. Such a relief. Telling my father took me so much courage.

@8FLiX

2 жыл бұрын

That's a huge step! Awesome.

Having been hysterical during my coming out and being supported, I felt the ''oh, baby''. What every teen needs coming out to the one they love most.

i didnt cry a single moment during this season, yet this, this scene made me drop a tear.

this ending never fails to make me tear up no matter how many times i watch it ,,, i love this series so much

I thought when the boys first kissed would be my favourite scene, but noooooo, this heartwarming coming out scene had to one up that

Still love that her first reaction was: "He can't come on our Minorca holiday..." and 0:19 Nick just realizes that was an option. Such a wonderful series! Thank you Alice Oseman and all who were involved in creating this positive, healing series.

Nick's bated breath and stress make this scene feel so authentic. It takes me back to my coming out to my parents. Kit portrayed it so amazingly well.

That sort of knowing look she gives at 0:40 just feels like proof that she already knew and was just waiting for him to feel comfortable telling her. Especially after episode 7 when she said “Charlie’s a very special friend, isn’t he?” You could not convince me she didn’t know.

i was so scared about coming out but when ii showed my mom this she smiled and said " as long as your happy im happy." im crying!!!😭😭😭

This is the nicest scene I’ve ever watched. The dialog is perfect. The parental reaction is perfect and the acting, from both of them, is perfect. Very beautiful and wonderful. Olivia Colman is Olivia Coleman, so… As for Kit Connor, his delivery is outstanding and timed magnificently.

I think its super sweet that she asked ‘how long have you known?’ A lot of queer ppl have surface level accepting parents where they are ‘okay’ w it but never ask questions and don’t want to hear about it. Just a super well written script and honestly something that should be shown to all parents.

Oh my god. This scene will always make me explode into tears.. I love Nick so much. He's my whole world ❤️🏉🍂

My favourite scene of the whole show so special. So many ppl dont have the love from their family in these moments. I love how the whole show portrayed tough moments with optimism and heart. A lovely show which we all need in a time where life aint easy :)

One of the most beautiful coming out scenes I've ever seen filmed.

I'm so glad they got Oliva Coleman to play Nick's mom. She made me cry while watching this, with just the genuine love you could see in her eyes. She's amazing. I just wish more parents were like that.

This scene broke everything in me.

I just love love LOVE this scene. Kit and Olivia delivered it so beautifully and have such authentic familial chemistry.

‘i started liking him way before that’ and then it cuts to them first meeting MY HEART😭

This makes me cry, because I just came out to my father after struggling with the idea for so long and he is basically guilt tripping me for not coming out to him sooner when he never made me feel like I could trust him with that. I don't even needed him to acknowledge that („I am sorry if I ever made you feel like you couldn't tell me that“), but it would have been nice to not be blamed and told I was responsible for our relationship being strained because of that. The whole message was about him not being a bad person and not considering my experiences or feelings. :(

@8FLiX

2 жыл бұрын

You had the courage to come out; that in itself is extremely brave. That's a HUGE step toward self-acceptance! And the fact that you came out at all to your father is very admirable. You're a good person. xxx

@MagicOwl7

2 жыл бұрын

@@8FLiX Thank you for your kind words! Means a lot. ☺️

When I came out my mom immediately tried to think of ways she could “fix” me; I often watch this scene to feel what it would be like to have that pure love to allow someone to just be…well themself. This whole show makes me feel like there is a whole lot of love out there just waiting to be felt.

@Icykaleidescope

Ай бұрын

Me too, I know how you feel. Watching something that I wish happened just warms though my coming out was one of the most traumatic and painful experiences I had.

I honestly wish I had the confidence to come out to my parents.

@Carutsu

2 жыл бұрын

Don't feel like you have to but know it's liberating. We love you either way buddy

@8FLiX

2 жыл бұрын

Same.

@MilosJeremyBesterci

2 жыл бұрын

Me too

@Grobbie.B

Жыл бұрын

Coming out takes time. Only when you’re ready and on your terms. Regardless, you’re all supported, loved, and seen. You guys got this. ❤️

This scene always brings out the waterworks. 😭❤️

How on earth you wouldn't love Olivia Colman and especially here.... She is just a treat, and this scene is just so beautiful.

Oh my God, the way he was showing him to tell his mother this. If I was his mother, I instantly would hug him and say baby I love you no matter what.

i remember the day after watching this scene for the first time i came out to my parents... didn't go as well as Nick's comeout but now it's fine :) i love how the scene was played and written, it was realistic and so emotional 😭😭

*Olivia is soooo amazing! Love her* ❤️

Such a beautifully acted scene and the montage and song are just perfect 🥰 really hope this show gets renewed!

If I ever become a parent, this is the type of parent I want to be to my kids.

My mum just watched heartstopper and i havent came out to her yet, i hope watching this scene can help for when its my turn 😭

Haven't come out to my parents yet, but I think showing them the clip that nick coming out to his mom would make it waaay much easier! 🥳🥳

@brownproductions8391

Жыл бұрын

Good luck!! You can do it

@starrio713

Жыл бұрын

@@brownproductions8391 thx!

this scene made me bawl bcus ik im never gonna feel this acceptance from my parents

@Britishladstuff

2 жыл бұрын

Same, everyday I feel like I'm dying cuz I never get to be myself

Only like my best and closest friends know about me being bi and I’m considering coming out to my parents. So I’m watching this on repeat

@8FLiX

2 жыл бұрын

That's very courageous of you.

This is such a beautiful scene. That's EXACTLY the reaction that any parent should have to their child coming out. Hopefully we can get to a point in the future where teens don't even need to "come out," but until that day comes, this is definitely the way it should go for everyone. Such fantastic acting! Olivia Colman is a wonderful actor, and Kit Conner is so talented and friggin adorable as well lol. I just love this show and can't wait for Season 3!

Ah... I'm definitely not a teenager but a full grown almost 30 year old woman who still dreams of an outcome like this... If I ever come out to my family. I've known I'm bisexual since I was like 19 or 20 so... it's been a long time, sometimes I feel like they know and just play dumb or live in denial. Sometimes I feel they just don't want to pressure me to come out. I'm very open about it to friends and even in work but... I just panic over telling the family close to me. This is beautiful and I wish most people out there can get a hug and those words of love that we all want to hear. It is really something so special.

not me rewatching this video repeatedly 😭

Ive lost track of how many times ive watched this scene

I relate to Nick Nelson more than any other character

every time i watch this i get emotional bcuz its genuinely sincere

I came out to my friends as bi a while ago and they were very supportive of me

Even mom says sorry! ❤

I think I could watch this 1000 times and not get choked up. So Beautiful.

I "came out" to my mom as bi in such a nonchalant way. I just commented on how bucky Barnes gives bi energy and I should know since I'm bi. And my mom was like "did you seriously just come out to me through Bucky Barnes". And I was surprised that I guess that was the first time I had told her. I suppose it just shows how lucky I am to have known my entire life that my mom would be supportive of my sexuality no matter what. I never doubted that in any way. That's why I never felt the need to come out to her because if I one day told her I was dating a girl no doubt shed accept it.

1:57 literally crying at this

@8FLiX

Ай бұрын

Same

After I saw that scene, I felt confident enough to come out to my best friend. The next step is to tell my parents and family

I baaaaawled my eyes out when I first saw this. This is just so beautiful, and it's the way that every young queer person should be received.

Aaaa crying again

sometimes i watch this scene just to cry bc ik that my mum wouldnt react like this

This is beautiful. My parents are both gone, didn't have my own coming out story, but I'm pretty sure it would have gone south. Blessed are those who were not met with hostility, and to those who were, my heart goes out to all of you. And to those who haven't come out yet, do it at your own time.

I have seen this hundreds of times an it makes me tear up everytime. "Heartstopper" is so very important. It's a beautiful show. I wish it was around in the 80's when a 15yo me was thinking I was the only gay kid in the universe. I'm 55yo now and I'm so very glad this sort of media exists today. Kit Connor and Olivia Coleman nail this scene. Just amazing. Craig - Australia

i cried so bad in this scene😭😭

I don't blame Olivia for forgetting her lines and being overwhelmed in that scene

Please send help this is the fifth time i see this scene. It just resonates

Such an amazing scene, the montage at the end, with the perfect music! Beautiful ending to such a heartwarming show! Absolutely brilliant! 🥺😊

"If your gonna ask if he can come on our morjoca holiday the answer is no because ive already booked the tickets," BRO THIS LINE IS SO FUNNY TO ME

@purpledreamcatcher

24 күн бұрын

i love this line

I cried this hurt on a personal level.

This was so well done, so subtle and nuanced and touching ✨💛✨

Eyes filled with tears while trying to text this. His cute baby face and awesome moms reaction. In love with this whole scene.

i like rewatching this scene.. It's all I ever wanted.. instead I got kicked out and yelled at and hit... It made me cry the first few times seeing it.. sometimes it still does

can't stop rewatching this clip and all the clips AHHHH

I was looking forward to this scene so much and it was beautifully done! Both actors were brilliant

Olivia is such a wonderful actress and Kit does such amazing job. Both conveyed the emotions amazingly, Nick was feeling nervous and vulnerable, Sara was being receptive, comforting, warm. My mom did this when I came out by 19 and their response when we show to them who we are is monumental to our confidence moving forward.

Why is it that everything good or absolutely brilliant thing i watch, it involves Olivia Colman

Omg love this scene...both are incredible

i wish my coming out had been like this. i cry every time i watch this scene.

We need moms like Nick’s mom. I love how she was just like:I still love you you are still my son.” I loved this scene so much!

One of my favorite scenes, thank you for uploading ❤️❤️❤️ I wish I could have mom like her but yeah, I still have friends and I still have my partner and I am glad I am still alive and can watch and read Heartstopper😊

God, I wish my parents could have reacted this way..

God, season 2 can’t come fast enough!

I will never get over them and I really love this scene!! I need season to ASAP!! 😍

GOOD MAN GOOD MAN

I’m so glad she excepted that tho

The line "I'm sorry if I ever made you feel you couldn't tell me that". would have been better written as "I'm sorry if you ever felt you couldn't tell me that.' Nobody can make anyone else feel anything, if someone feels something, it's from their own being. I get that he's young, so it was written with that in mind, but there is is much power in the ownership of feelings, which would have made this scene even more beautiful than it already is.

My heart melted

I love this scene so much I love the way that mom talked to her son And her sone gave her reason way of him