This is what companies lack today a willingness to help and grow employees into what they could be, instead of being short sighted and only hiring what they think they want

@chrisanthony579

10 ай бұрын

I disagree. There are many companies willing to invest in people that work for them. The problem lies in many people aren't willing to invest in themselves and certainly not their employer, So why would a company be interested in investing in these people? In my experience the recent college grads are the worst offenders, they just don't understand that they need to continue educating themselves, investing in themselves, realize they may have a ton of confidence but lack the skills to back it up.

@dr._breens_beard

10 ай бұрын

​@@chrisanthony579college grads need one thing and one thing only: perspective. There truly needs to be a law that states upon graduation of a university and achieving a bachelors degree or higher, you MUST work as a cashier at a retail store for no less than 5 years. Treating employees like disposable assets has completely ravaged the work ethic of generations. Why bust your ass when its rewarded with more work for the ssme pay? (More work is fine as long as its compensated accordingly) It is due to the mindset of people with 4 year degrees or higher, that have never had to work retail or lower jobs to survive long enough to gain an understanding of how much bullshit is be asked of these employees, that lead to this current mindset of "shareholders first, ceo second, executives third, the ones that we literally have no product or service produced without? fuck em." Men like James are so desperately, DESPERATELY, needed in this country full of useful idiots in suits.

@mikeandbeverleygodfrey1907

10 ай бұрын

I as well have a disability and was given extra time to take tests as well as a quiet room as I was distracted easily. I succeeded because of this and was forever grateful. I also worked hard at the job I was hired for. I was hired to do water treatment and wastewater treatment. I was the only employee able to run water plant when it rained. I was asked how I said I followed the steps in the book.

@Suisfonia

10 ай бұрын

@@chrisanthony579 I've yet to encounter one company that is willing to invest in their employees, even companies that I've worked for that CLAIM that they do that, end up not doing so. I work for one such company that loves to advertise that they will help their employees grow, but whenever those employees try to do that they are given the run around by the company. For example, my company has need of licensed EMT's (we are one of the few casino companies that have dedicated EMTs) and I told my boss that I was interested in becoming an EMT. Her response? "No, I need you to remain in your current position" this is despite having gone now almost four months without an EMT, many of my coworkers have *offered* to get the training nessecery to be an EMT, much like me, but the company goes against its own words of wanting to help employees grow. So I disagree with you, there are a lot of employees out there wanting to grow but sadly we have companies that are hypocrites and don't want to help these employees despite advertising that they will.

@1Ocqueoc

10 ай бұрын

My former employer (US Based, multinational, 450,000+ employees around the globe) "Updated" the requirements for an employee to work in management as a bottom rung supervisor. The employee desiring to advance into management, MUST either A) Hold a degree .. any degree or B) Actively working towards a degree. In either case, the degree does not have to have a single aspect that would actually benefit the company. The company totally ignored centuries of hands-on experience and dedication

That guy may have had an undetected learning disability and was told by his parents that he was stupid and would never amount to anything. It's so destructive to one's self image.

@johnp5250

10 ай бұрын

Been surrounded by that. Sometimes it's environment

@JohnPaul-ol5zl

10 ай бұрын

That's what I was thinking as he told the story. Although I agree that his company cannot lower their standards as it is not doing either party a favor/benefit, realizing the psychological/emotional/mental and spiritual state of the guy is key. I wasn't there, but I can clearly picture they on the outside and inside. I have been though alot in my almost half a century of life, not to the extent of this poor guy, and a few moments I could almost have been broken like this guy had been. Only through the grace of God did I overcome. Some of it comes from Curel individuals that just live to inflict pain on others. Some just from very tough situations. Not all humans are built to withstand blow after blow from life. Some can overcome great odds, yet others will fracture much sooner. It begins in childhood, not only in terms of parents (2 preferably) but also friends and teachers alike. If noone is willing to observe a child that needs extra help, and the child is timid/shy, in adulthood the once child will not be able to succeed. They will either turn to crime or just be struggling all the time and be prey for individuals like the awful boss mentioned. This guy seemed to have reached the point of no return in his own mind well before entering the interview process that was described. I pray for this individual and those like him , young and old. God bless.

@MrBonney1990

10 ай бұрын

This is your best video James…ever. Kudos M’Man

@grmpEqweer

10 ай бұрын

@@JohnPaul-ol5zl This is very similar to what I was thinking.

@dracodraco1982

10 ай бұрын

Environment, and systems in general. Systems have a way of strongly suggesting that the way things are, the way things were, and the way things ought to be in the future are all the same, just as they dictate. 90% of problems I've known, that are solvable, is just reaching one person with authority and reason. And systems, in my experience, seem to spend an awful lot of time and effort making it virtually impossible to get a hold of anyone who can listen to a complaint, have the decency to think it through, and the authority to at least get the ball rolling on a solution. So's been my experience, anyway. But, at least so far as being considered dumb goes, there's a seemingly simple lesson that mitigates some of the harm. Knowledge is knowing things. It's right there in the name. You've memorized facts, and you can bring them to mind when expressly asked. Wisdom is knowing how to apply knowledge to the problem at hand. Knowledge is knowing a hammer drives nails; and wisdom is applying that idea in a useful way to achieve a fruitful end. And clever, that's looking at a hammer and realizing the general way it works. Mass on a lever that, upon impact, will drive a nail, to which the clever person won't despair if their hammer breaks because, in a pinch, a rock can drive a nail. A brick, a wine bottle, even, if you're careful and use the base, could work on a crisis, too. Knowledge is lovely, but I'd far, far, far rather be clever and wise with what little I know, than to know a great deal without having any clue how to use any bit of it to make my life or my world a little bit better. In the modern age, finding data and facts has never been easier. Knowing how to translate facts into solutions, hell, that's what humanity needs most, both now and long into the future. Be smart if you can, more tools in a well-stocked kit ain't a waste. But it's far more useful to know how to creatively use the few tools you have and the resources at hand into solving problems. Be dumb, but clever. Be a fool, but a wise one. So it seems to me, anyway.

As a person with ADHD who spent 13 years completing a 4-year bachelors degree, this video literally brought me to tears. Your message is spot on, sir, and I appreciate the encouragement to everyone and the down to earth way that you shared it. Please keep sharing your wisdom with the world. If KZread is useful for anything it's videos like this.

@DaveInPA2010

10 ай бұрын

It took almost 50 years for me to learn how to turn my ADHD from a “brokenness” into a superpower. But now I understand and appreciate my differences and strengths and weaknesses and I know how to make it work for myself, my company, my customers, and my family. God bless you bro’!

@practicalpolitics1119

9 ай бұрын

I graduated high school at the second lowest class rank. I was lost but you are correct. Now I have my bachelors and am almost done with my masters.

@smigletat9634

9 ай бұрын

A M EN 😊

@katwilliams2950

9 ай бұрын

Literally almost about to cry because he's right. I gave up on myself once I burnt myself out during College. I got the degree but I've been a shell ever since my Junior year basically and let myself go. Physically and mentally even though I finally got the treatment I needed to handle some symptoms of ADHD. I didn't get diagnosed till years after graduating when I thought I just had horrible depression and was just dumb since graduating HS and going to college.

@brianstrauch7440

4 ай бұрын

When I was in school they needed dishwashers gas Pumpers and ditch diggers teachers intentionally taught you wrong

I own and operate a small electrical company and lately I've been feeling very unmotivated and having lots of self doubt. Watching and listening to you tell this story gives me the feeling of needing to scream and shout just to get some negative energy out of me. I think I'm very close to giving up on myself, although like you mentioned, I haven't labeled my thoughts that way. This speech has given me a renewed desire to improve myself and work on my deficiencies, rather than accepting them and using them as an excuse. I know I can do better. I was an A and B student through high school and was top of my class in the electrical apprenticeship schooling. I know I have the ability. I just tend to not have the desire to improve. But I'm here to say, that changes right here, right now. Thank you James for the encouragement!

@CARyan08

9 ай бұрын

How are you doing, are your finding a path forward? You can do this, set little meaningful goals/tasks for improvement. Achieve them, reset, repeat. Best of luck, you can do this!!

@285fuckups

2 ай бұрын

7 months later, I'm commenting to remind you, keep pushing !

1 Day, 24 Hours, 1440 minutes, 86,400 Seconds. Thank you, you have just given me a way to tell my eldest son something I've been telling him for years. But you know kids don't really want to listen to parents. But they wil listen to a stranger say the same things. Thank you James

@JamesButlerWellAndSepticLife

10 ай бұрын

Anytime!

@dqauto500

10 ай бұрын

Yep knew that!!!! I’m a stepper. I’ve been sober for over 10,000 days….

@stringlarson1247

10 ай бұрын

We need metric time for everything over one min. There may be some cosmic issues.

@TheKrispyfort

10 ай бұрын

Strangers don't have skin in the game

@TheKrispyfort

10 ай бұрын

​@@dqauto500congratulations 🎉

This is so heartbreaking hearing him just throw away an offer because he didn't believe in himself

@grmpEqweer

10 ай бұрын

I've done somewhat similar.

@cannack

10 ай бұрын

@@grmpEqweer we all have at some point and in some capacity, but we can all learn from that

@robertmooberry725

10 ай бұрын

Maybe he will be back. I wonder how hard his life has been that it has him beat down like that. I'd be shocked if it didn't begin with one or both of his parents.

@rickwest2818

10 ай бұрын

Maybe tell him how his current company is scamming him and point him to a lawyer.

@grmpEqweer

10 ай бұрын

@@rickwest2818 Wage theft is a huge problem in this country.

His inability to do the math that would protect him from fraud made me really sad. That he couldn’t even see his way to stopping it broke my heart. I was a teacher and slow processing is real. My husband had 2 massive strokes when our kids still lived at home. No physical effect. All cognitive. At 45 he had to relearn math and language- like relearn words like a toddler. I homeschooled him 10 hours a day and he worked his butt off. It was brutal for a man who had been a nuclear researcher and scored perfect on the SAT. I have never been more proud of someone not quitting.

James I was so touched by your wife's generosity and willingness to help this young man. If he changes his mind and takes her up on the offer? I know we'd all love to know about that

@shadow_td

8 ай бұрын

I think it would have to be the man acknowledging he should've tsken the offer firdt time and hoping they can take him in.

James, I respect this greatly. Not only did you offer that person a new path, you offered him something MUCH bigger - you offered him love.

@PossessiveK

10 ай бұрын

I agree with you. Unfortunately many people still look down/are extremely impatient with people with disabilities. He might've had so many such experiences before this that he couldn't believe that James and his company wouldn't look down on him no matter how nice they were trying to be.

Dude......99% of companies would just say, naw, your not worth our time. Good on you and your employees as well as wife for being willing to say, yeah, we'll give you a shot. People could learn from this video bro!

Mad props to you and your wife for the efforts to help this guy get ahead, even if he had already given up on himself. In his situation, it is possible he was used to a certain level of failure, or just kept setting the bar lower to avoid the pain of failure. It is TOTALLY amazing what we can accomplish when we believe we can, or refuse to quit. Conversely, if we convince ourselves that we CANNOT do something, we usually end up failing.

Damn man, I feel like you've been following me around the last few years, almost. I was the exceptionally smart kid in school, advanced beyond my years, well beyond my peers, as close to a 'sure thing' to be successful as there could be. But once out of collage, in the real world, I was terrified of taking a chance, risking anything BECAUSE I had never failed. Not at school, not at tests, not sports, not anything. So I never risked anything, never growing. Later in life, it turns out I had failed, badly at a job I held for a very long time. It absolutely obliterated me. At this point, everything was new, I failed again at on next job, again, and again. Started my own business, which, you got it failed, over and over. Some years later, i'm on the right path finally, grown a small home repair business into something mildly successful. Currently at the point where I sleep 4 hours a night because i'm like you, learning. Thank you for being an inspiration to me as I progress to being the husband, father. And the motivated man I am today.

I have yet to run across a video I have not watched to the end. Quite entertaining, a great story teller.

@chrisanthony579

10 ай бұрын

Yep, James is one of the few I rarely fast forward through. The dude has a gift and it isn't running a business.

@jeremyroberts5982

10 ай бұрын

​@@chrisanthony579It isn't *just* running a business. FTFY

Oh my heart hurts for that guy. I'm a retired teacher and tutor and I've seen this lack of self-confidence in students. I've also seen students who have given up on themselves and I was so privileged to be able to see their attitude change, just from some time, care and affirmation, and watched them blossom.

@matthewellisor5835

10 ай бұрын

Absolutely with you on that! I wonder just how often he was told that he was stupid/worthless/ever a failure... by those who WERE too willingly ignorant (the worst kind) or just plain lazy.

@heatherreich2687

10 ай бұрын

Your a good man and you have an amazing wife!!! Thankyou for being a good human.

@jeanjaz

10 ай бұрын

I've seen this "no child left behind" policy implemented in such a way that causes so much damage. I did volunteer tutoring for a local middle school and several kids had just been passed to the next grade even though they hadn't made passing grades. The signal that sends to those kids is they aren't worth it to teach -- they are too stupid to learn the material. They could barely read, and could barely do basic adding and subtracting without a calculator - in seventh grade! I tutored them but their real problem was disinterested or even abusive parents. Kids grow up SO fast! Why wouldn't you take a few years to invest in them? 😮‍💨

Good message. This one hit home as I have a learn disability plus ADD and was told what I could not do. I now have a equivalent of a doctorate in my field and run my own business. As I have gotten older, I realize the only person holding me back was me. Forget what the others said I could or could not do. If you have a learning disability, learn your strengths and adapt to utilizing these strengths in learning. It works and don’t let the bastards grind you down! Don’t believe the lies of “you can’t” or “you can only”. Example was for me is, I have ADD so I learned how to utilize it for multi-tasking. Don’t give up and fight the good fight as I have started and close business just like James. Learn and adapt.

I've been enjoying your channel for awhile, and yesterday introduced my guy to your content. This was the first video I showed him. He sat quietly through the whole thing, which was unusual for his easily distracted self. At the end his eyes were wet, as were mine. This one hit hard. We appreciate your ability to share insight and experience in a concise, articulate, relatable & relevant way. He binge watched your videos until 3am. ❤

It really bugs me, having been a teacher, that a lot of teachers will just push a child through a class to "get them out of their class." Happend to my ex, and started to happen to my child until I pulled her out and am doing online school with her at her pace. She's getting straight A's now. I appreciate your wife trying to step-up and help that man.

I feel so bad for that man (and his family) for his walking away from an absolutely golden opportunity. He just could not see far enough down the road.

@odnamsrazor2364

10 ай бұрын

no. . after getting beaten down his entire life, he doesn't see any point in trying any more. because after he tries his best, often even if he exceeds or even excels, his only expectation is that he's just going to have another bucket of shit waiting for him that he's going to have to eat.

@ruthlewis6678

10 ай бұрын

I think that Occam's Razor thing says the simplest explanation is probably right. Yours is not simple and sounds like the opening of a dime store novel. I can't help but wonder what he is afraid of. Wish we could ask him. Your turn. Blast away.

@rogerray7820

10 ай бұрын

I can feel for the guy. I was once the same way. Embarrassment played a big part in his thinking. You tried, bless you for that. But ask yourself deep down did you try hard enough. I would say yes, but possibly would have given him more work time and time to get familiar with the company before springing the plan on him. Sometimes going slow will yield better results. I fully understand your company policy and agree with you standing firm on it. Love your videos.

I am in the middle of a career change. I am being medically retired from the army after 6 years. I am starting HVAC school in 2 weeks and have been feeling kinda lost in the whole process and having to alter my plan for life. Listen to your videos have given my a LOT of encouragement to go back to school to better myself for myself and my family. Thank you for being one of the few honest men in this world still and helping people and providing encouragement to constantly improve.

@michaelakc

9 ай бұрын

4th year sheetmetal apprentice here; Good on you dude! Investing in your skill set and education is ALWAYS worthwhile. If you can, look into Testing and Balancing! (Or Commissioning) In my Local it's almost entirely self taught, not enough class time (our JATC doesn't prioritize this for our area). Testing and Balancing can be way easier on the body than the everyday industrial and residential installations; it's one of the easiest areas to start a business in ("low" start up cost), and you get to work in better conditions typically.

That's the number one problem in the work world. Nobody wants to help people improve. BUT the PERSON MUST WANT IT TOO

As a math tutor, I always told my students that the ones who caught on quickly also forgot it almost as fast. The ones who struggled to understand held on to it much longer. Everyone learns a little differently, and the difference between success and failure isn't because of intelligence, it's being willing to work hard.

@tcmtech7515

10 ай бұрын

Honest question and I don't mean to be insulting to you personally here. Why is it that every math department at every college seems to have the most dillsuinal out of touch with reality people in it? I'm a former OTA student who did my two degrees spread out over several colleges and this pattern was painfully obvious and well-known everywhere I did class work. I can't count how many math professors/student assistants that acted as if they were the world's greatest mathematicians only to be absolutely destroyed by anyone who had any degree of reality-based applied math skills. Beyond that was how wildly bad so manys basic people and general functional adult skill sets were. Out of something like around 20 - 30 people I had to deal with in math departments over my years in college, I can say that maybe 2 stood out as functionally normal people. The rest were various degrees of arrogance and proudly stupidly out of touch with reality or worse. (Don't get me started on their wildly socially destructive child-like ideologically possessed political views they all had too.)

My mom was a tough old broad. She worked an auto parts counter in the 40s. She told me to do every job the best I could whether using your back or your brain. I've done jobs that some consider menial or even distasteful, learned something from every single one. I've been fired for standing up for what's right & I'd go without before cheating anyone. It's something not taught at school, how to explore natural curiosity, how to feel like you can figure something out. Be sure your kids get this at home, current education isn't cutting it!

@thedirtprincess3293

10 ай бұрын

Amen. I want to learn and try everything. (Well, almost.) Always have. Im about to turn 59 so i will fail at that "everything" wish, but curiosity and a "do it right" ethic have served me pretty well.

Its been 3 months since I got out of a bad 8-year relationship, working on my own for the first time in years, and have lost my son to the state, I am dealing with the consequences of my actions. I feel I have no real meaing left in life. At times I feel like giving in, letting the oil in my head take over. I have people whom I feel overextended themselves for my sake, and, at times, it feels like they are being selfish for keeping me alive, despite my own wishes. It's tough. Life has never been sweet, but there have been times worth living for. I hope one day, the time comes where I can find true peace, and that those around me can find it too.

You are NOT stupid. Your insight into people is an indication of intelligence. Just because you cannot regurgitate facts on demand is not because you are not intelligent. You are an inspiration.

So sad for this man and the wife who loves him and believes in him. Some folks carry the pain of previous failures for so long that they no longer even recognize that they can set it down and move on. I was that person until 40 years ago, when the Navy saw something in me that I didn’t, and gave me new hope and confidence. I hope and pray this man will muster the strength and courage to try again.

@Das_Beachy

9 ай бұрын

Sadly the guy probably grew up with every significant person in his life telling him he is worthless, dumb, and can't do anything. Not saying James had to bend over backwards for the guy and I greatly respect everything James and his crew did to try and help him. The guy probably had that lifetime of negativity screaming in his brain and just couldn't get past it. I truly hope he gets the help he needs.

More applications, recruiters, interviewers, and trainers should give the "low-down" like this guy is about their application process. The way this guy is doing it, truly gives you an understanding of what the job entails. I'm a jobber, I change jobs frequently every 4-8 months. I've only ever had 1 person be as thorough without being condescending, same as this guy is right now. I stayed at that job for 15 months.

As one who re-tooled quite a number of times (oil business, law enforcement, medical), I was always saddened to see folks who were literally beat-down in life and had no confidence in themselves. Beat down so badly--like your illustration--that they couldn't see an opportunity laid right in front of them. I credit my parents with my ability to "go forward" and passed that off to our kids. This was truly a sad vid, but one that needed making.

You're a saint. Your employees are saints. I wish this man would have taken the offer. He had zero to lose in saying yes.

This video needs to be a legitimate PSA ....best motivational speech I've heard in years !!!!

James, a learning disability doesn't mean you're not smart. You process things differently. You & your staff played your parts in helping him. Hopefully, he will find his way to believing in himself. That's really all we can do, do our part to make people's lives better and hopefully some day he will see himself the way you and your staff saw him.

@nobodynowhere3322

10 ай бұрын

this. learning disabilities aren't an indication of lack of intelligence. Most learning disabilities are really just a difference in the way the brain works. for one example, there is a theory out there that ADHD is really a carryover from hunter gatherer ancestors, since many ADHD traits are beneficial to surviving as a hunter-gatherer.

@bradkroboth5490

10 ай бұрын

My youngest child has autism, he has a learning disability, but when he wants to do his homework or learn a new hobby or sport, he will far exceed any and all expectations because his mind refuses to fail and accept anything less than perfection, and it pisses him off to the 7th depths of hell if he can not figure out a solution

@sandralmoore1360

10 ай бұрын

Learning "disabilities" are just a different way of looking at things. The way society, in general, look at something is considered the norm is not because it's the right way but because it's the general way that majority look at it. All great things have been done by the "abnormal " who look at things w/o the rose colored glasses on that just make it look purdy. It took me nearly 20 yrs to learn to knit. Everyone was trying to teach me the "normal " way-- cute rhyme for how to make stitch (like, I went out door to get paper, walked around house, back in house, and cant get 1 for last part). Took someone to think about fact I learned to crochet 1st so the way I held was diff, and had diff way knitting mentioned to me ( new version is called continental) where you hold more like crochet , person who mentioned it to me didnt hold like that so couldnt show me but was into computers and youtube had got big so I looked it up and w/n a day I'd gone crazy knitting. I'd FINALLY got it figured out. I was happier then a pih in slop. Yrs later a friends daughter taught me saying her teacher used, "1st you stab them, 2bd you choke them, 3rd you rip out their guts , and finally you throw them off the cliff" (yes, I have a dark side and it resonated w/me). You do you boo, it's working and that's what matters

@reszin

10 ай бұрын

Having no self confidence in your self is what stoped him. I would have given up too.

@msskaggs3911

10 ай бұрын

I 100% agree with this statement. I think it's criminal that we only consider a "traditional" education in our definition of intelligence, but there are so many other forms of intelligence and learning than what we've been taught. When most of compare the grades/test scores of the people in our class against their career success you'll find that there's not much of a correlation. When it comes to a person's career, things like adaptability, dependability & "EQ" are much more determinative of success than someone's SAT score. (I think this applies to most other types of success as well, outside of academia). Just because someone isn't good at one task, doesn't mean they won't be excellent at another task. I also think that stubbornness can be a type of intelligence since it demonstrates that person's understanding of their circumstances witch the unyielding knowledge that their situation isn't hopeless, and that the hard-work and sacrifice is more important than any momentary pleasure derived from avoiding the required tasks.

WOW! What a GREAT inspirational talk! I feel sad for that guy that walked out because you gave him a BIG chance to improve and somewhere deep inside, he didn't have the self esteem to take your offer. Truly sad and I hope that guy does succeed. Your wife is a very giving person too as she offered to give of herself to help and teach him... what a WONDERFUL woman you have!

"sleep faster" totally agree. Truly heartwarming / sad story.

Wow. You’re an amazing person James… most people go a lifetime without having someone give them a chance.

42 years old, went to rehab for alcohol use last December to April, a month after getting out, I was in welding school, 2 weeks out of school, I started my first welding job. Currently in my 4th week at the new job and loving it. Everything takes time. Learning discipline, new skills and new habits. I've spent a lot of time feeling out of my depth this year, but I have kept at it. I finally feel like I'm on the right track in life. I feel proud of myself. Haven't felt that in a long time.

@xAnAngelOfDeathx

10 ай бұрын

Best of luck to you Richard, keep fighting the good fight sir.

@michaelrichardson5505

10 ай бұрын

That's absolutely awesome bro keep it up

@Richard-Freeman

10 ай бұрын

Thank you. They say 42 is the answer to life, the universe and everything. Heh, it's definitely been a big year for me.

@xAnAngelOfDeathx

10 ай бұрын

@@Richard-Freeman Do whatever you can every day to make tomorrow a better day and a day closer to realizing all of your hopes. dreams and goals. Best of luck man.

@Maybe-So

9 ай бұрын

So, there's a show called 'Matt's Off-Road Recovery' - where, over the last year or so, this 19 year old girl learned to weld, and Matt & Friends worked with her, and I think she probably helped them weld probably 70% of an off-road wrecker (from scratch, all from Matt's head). My point is this - YOU CAN DO THIS. If some kid can do it, you've got life experience, you know the consequences of failure as well as the pride of success (I've failed a few times also). You know the benefit of hard work, you know that good results require conscientious effort. At this point in your life, you know so very much. You can recognize need in others, and you know how to help. I just turned 58; I'm still learning. Keep up the good work - it is simply amazing what you folks (welders) can build. I'm hoping in a few years I'll have time to learn a little and build a few things myself.

I'm old and retired. I don't have enough money to live on. I am starting a business of my own. Never give up.

Priceless words of hard-earned wisdom. Good work.

James, Thank you for being an amazing human being.

He has failed, in school, so much and so often that he cannot imagine learning what he needs to learn, even with a one on one tutor. I taught for 35 years and saw this far too often. I tried, and tried, to get students to overcome it. Sometimes I succeeded in the student overcoming their doubts and learning. Other times I was unsuccessful at reaching them. Hopefully some teacher reached them at some point.

@robrowe9174

10 ай бұрын

Some people have had one on one training their whole life. He probably knows it won't work. Everyone learns different. If you looked around a little you will find great examples of successful people that can't read and write. Theyj ust found other things they could do good.

@earnestmosier3519

10 ай бұрын

Amen, we can be our own worst enemy. My father only had a 6th grade education and always took every opportunity to learn something new.

@weeepsalotts723

10 ай бұрын

You really don't know that you were unsuccessful. I know one of my teachers thought she failed when it came to me, she told me the day that she signed my drop out slip. What she never found out was that she taught me some of the most important lessons that i ever learned in school. Teenage me just refused to let her see that they were sinking in. It was because of her that i was signed back into another school within weeks and went on to college and a pretty good life. I wish i knew where she was now, to talk to her.

@eldonhoward7925

10 ай бұрын

@@weeepsalotts723 I'm glad you went on to finish your education!

What a heartbreaking story! Did you ever hear from him again? Your video was very moving and has caused me to examine my situation. I concluded that at 48 years old, that I no longer wish to identify my identity with what I do for a living & took a job at Jiffy lube. The idea at the time was that it was a job I could leave at work & in my free time I would do what I care about, veterans rights, especially advocacy for individual veterans with the VA for healthcare and flying RC planes. The reality is that while the job is easy, it's very arduous and I have zero energy for those other things. I have gotten zero of my models in the air and spent no time with vets. So what the hell am I doing? "Top off your coolant with that oil change, sir? Want fries with that"?!

Humility, Drive and treating people with respect, regardless. Love it, Brother. I didn’t know the significance of the numbers but I’m glad I learned it. Your efforts in making this content and sharing your journey certainly makes a difference in my life. Thank you, James.

I love this guy so much! Sharing his own story and being vulnerable. And "sleep faster"!

@servus6267

10 ай бұрын

And if you have to wait somwhere, wait faster

I am a 63 year old getting ready to go to work at my 3rd shift manufacturing job. I was ready to quit because i kept telling myself that it is too difficult. I am too tired. Ill just sell my house. After listening to this story I have suddenly adopted a whole new perspective about the reasons why i can not just give up. I was reminded of how i am a fighter and, although i may be tired, i will keep on keepin' on. Ive come too far to throw it all away. Thank you for the reminder to keep trying.

Great message at the end. Just as applicable to those of us who have built a decent career. There is always room for improvement - stagnation and atrophy can sneak up on you at any level.

I'm in tears😢 Every time i hear someone say "I can't", I ask, "Who told you you can't?". When one takes a few minutes to search out that answer, one will find out that there is deep seated terrible programming done. We all have mental voice recorders that play when it comes to life decisions. For me, when I get those ideas that I can't or shouldn't, I start trying to recall the voice that said it in my past. Usually it is my mother's or sister's voice. Identifying that for other people, helps them realize that they can do whatever, if they merely practice shutting up that voice and pushing through. Even the most insignificant looking tasks or goals can be stymied by those voices on autoreplay. I love this video, not just because of the obvious example of self improvement need, but also how it shows the most beautiful business model and leadership in business!

I'm loving these longer, more in depth videos, they're always interesting to listen to Keep it up 👍🏻

@JamesButlerWellAndSepticLife

10 ай бұрын

Glad you like them!

@davidowens1132

10 ай бұрын

​@JamesButlerWellAndSepticLife I'd like you to know that these in depth videos are ,not required watching, but of high enough value, that I counsel my oldest two children to listen to experience speaking solid, positive advice and way of thinking. Thank you for your efforts.

I grew up poor and with autism, so I completely understood where this guys mentally was. Growing up me and my family was not very comfortable taking handouts, less so a pride thing and more simular to a "survivor's guilt" mentality but not the same. Combine that with the learning disability side, confidence issues, and social issues, your in for a very rough time. Took years for me to break some of that mentality (still not perfect but alot better) For me it took moving 1k miles away, working my body to the bone, making enough money to live a comfortable life, and meeting the right people to realize that. All you can do for people like this is be there, try to understand, give options, and hope.... you cant help someone if they refuse the help for any reason.

@UserName911-km6gl

10 ай бұрын

I have the suspicion, that I have autism spectral disorder too. I'm in my 30s. I'm in a similar boat like the guy in the video, that was need to be teached. Where I should begin the process of making my life better now? Thank you for your story and if you answer, thank you in advance

@brianlempa

10 ай бұрын

@UserName911-km6gl on the autism side, I would seek a professional for help (doctor, psychologist, therapist). it's very difficult to diagnose and just as easy to miss diagnose... As for everything else, learn to self reflect just and TRY to push yourself to improve step by step financially, physically, mentally, or whatever your issue in life is regardless of if you succeed or not. (With some exceptions and not pushing over the edge, of course) If you fail, reflect on what you did wrong, and either try again or use that knowledge for the future to your benefit. It took me time and constant mistakes to know what I'm very good at and what I struggle the most with the most... I use that to either know to focus more when dealing with said issue or to find an alternative solution. Lastly, don't think less of yourself if you do or do not have a mental illness. All it means is that your brain is wired slightly differently than everyone else's, and all you need to do is adapt....I know too many people that use it as an excuse, and never even try to improve themselves when they actually have alot of potential. All that being said, remember, I'm just some guy on the Internet, so take what I say with a grain of salt

I'm crying, when I heard how far you're willing to go to help the man, that was it.

“I’m not a smart person, I am a stubborn person.”-James. We are so glad you are so stubborn. We were in western NC this past weekend and I thought of you often. It was a beautiful weekend.

❤❤❤ more employers would SERIOUSLY benefit from adjusting themselves to your mindset.

As someone who has been on both side of reading issues, this is a problem that can be mitigated. You would be surprised what a year of suck can do to fix it. And I did pick that word carefully. It is a process of pure hell to uproot the foundation of the fundamentals they should have taught you in school and mend them. Because I as of yet have to meet someone with those problems that is not also dealing with a crap tonne of drama that got buried in that foundation.

@grmpEqweer

10 ай бұрын

Yeah, it's not just the learning problem, it's the sheer terror that has been added to the mix. ...I had a panic attack so bad in a remedial algebra class (college) that I started hallucinating during the first exam. ...This was not very helpful, I got a 53 and couldn't bring myself to finish this NONCREDIT course I had paid for. That 53 is still burning a hole in my brain, because I tried so hard to do better.

The part about getting up early to do things for your boss or school but not yourself needs to be made into a KZread short! That’s gold!

Nailed it! At 39 years old I began an apprenticeship and now successfully work in a new position where literally every day I can pick out gained skill/knowledge. Another utuber I enjoy has a saying that ‘If you don’t learn something new every day you must be dead’ Mustang Rebuilder. I work for Toyota and a failed Kaizen (process improvement) is considered to be a good thing if steps were followed and the results provided a learning opportunity/path to a different solution. The best fighters are the ones that realize when they have a choice to stay down or stand up for themselves! Great message James, Thank You!

Its amazing that you as an employer take an active interest in improving the lives of the people that work with you. Thank you James keep being amazing.

James, I'm not sure why I enjoy your videos, but now I do. I watch them to the end because you provoke thought. Thank you for your wisdom and presentation. You are making a difference in the world.

You’re not a Boss…. You’re a Leader.

Thank you! I needed that.

Stubbornness and perseverance can help more than you know.

You are a good man. You care for your company, and your employees. Keep making videos and being who you are.

Your wife is a great teacher! She finds a way for people to succeed.

Thankyou. I needed to hear this.

I recently went back to work at 64, I'm a veteran and went through years of PTS therapy. I received SSI benefits and vet benifits. I felt like I wasn't progressing and felt stagnant. So I went back to work 3 weeks ago and I have not felt this good since I was 35 I'll be 65 in three days. Always enjoy your video's and I have to say you inspired me to grab the bull by the balls and make a change. Thank You

@jjr6929

9 ай бұрын

I'm 65, will be 66 in just a few months. Been collecting SSI for over 20 years. Finally, remodeled the bathroom so that I can properly clean up etc. Now I can go start work again...at anything.

@bobfg3130

9 ай бұрын

Videos.

@Mach11976

9 ай бұрын

@@bobfg3130 Okay I guess?

@MrRAGE-md5rj

9 ай бұрын

Thank you for your service. God bless you, and I hope you are & continue doing great!

@Mach11976

9 ай бұрын

@@MrRAGE-md5rj I am, and serving my country was a honor. Thank you.

Mr James. Hire programmers and get them to make you a septics app to do those calculations. Then release it. You split the royalties with your programming team.

@spritemon98

10 ай бұрын

That's a good idea

@lynnebucher6537

10 ай бұрын

Retired programmer here. If you can hand calculate a result from a formula with input of one or more variables, an app can be written for that. It never hurts to know what the manual steps are, but an app would be faster and cut down on mistakes.

@squiddwizzard8850

10 ай бұрын

Hell you don't even have to do that in an app. Write it in R, use their web server and you can develop a web page. Then just bookmark each page on your phone; open it up add your inputs and hit submit. I wrote my own program to generate DCC characters (it's an rpg). Just type in how many you wanted and it would spit them out. There was a time I'd toss my name in the hat for this project but I have too much shit going on to manage it realistically. But anyway, using that approach there's no need to get it approved through the app store or anything like that. It's w web browser page. Cross platform with any OS, any browser. Provided there's no customer data being stored there's no real issue. I assume these numbers are calculated on sight and not stored. Now, the downside here is.. It's a web page. Unless you self host (which i have no idea how to do) it's public.

@grmpEqweer

10 ай бұрын

@@squiddwizzard8850 I figured James could make coin from the app. Run ads. Other septic people in the world...

Everyone, especially every student, needs to see this. Extremely well stated.

Thanks James. I needed to hear this.

It makes me sad that he gave up on himself. Shows how much a negative self-esteem can sabotage our life. You offered him 10,000% more than almost any other employer would. Just paying him a legit $12/hr would have been a raise. You have my respect as a boss and as a human being. Thanks for sharing.

Thank you James, Definitely got me thinking!

Thank you James for that. I very much appreciate the message you are trying to convey.

James, you have the best way of interacting with ppl. Straight forward, no bullshit and a heart of gold. You're awesome man .

Yes, I've heard those numbers before. It's a sad thing that this relatively young man is so down on himself that he passed up this great and generous opportunity to better himself. Y'all did everything you could to help him. You sharing your personal story can't be easy for you but it's very inspiring. You have some of the best content on the net!

Thank you I never really thought of it like that. THANK YOU!!

Amen brother. I quit school two days before I enlisted in the navy. Working on jet engines at 18 years old. Got my GED. Studied for advancement test. learned the trade for four years. Went to an Aviation mechanic school, got FAA certifications Airframe & Powerplant mechanic. Worked at a repair station. Moved across the airport and ran a repair station like it was my own. Made good money. This all started in January 1969. Retired 50 years later (2018)as an FAA Aviation Safety Inspector. Making over six figures yearly. Living good in north Florida, planned very well for retirement. JUST HAVE TO WORK HARD, TAKE THOSE CHANCES, LEARN EVERY DAY. Had some failures on the way. Todays date 11-24-23 married to the same woman over 50 years. Have almost everything that we want.

I too have a learning disability. I wasn't tested for it until I went to college and was struggling. It was such a relief to to finally learn that it wasn't my intelligence that was the problem, but how I processed information. People with learning disabilities actually have higher than normal intelligence. I got some help with classes and I went from dean's probation list to the dean's honors list. I graduated with a BS in engineering. Stubbornness goes a long way to being successful. I am pissed at the people in this man's early life that convinced him that he was a hopeless case. I hope that you reported this company to whatever state agency that deals with employer fraud.

Dude keep this stuff up man. This video will make a difference in someone’s life. Thanks for the inspiration.

You, Sir, touched my heart. So true, everything you said.

I strive too find a company like yours , i need more people like you in my life constantly leveling up too many stagnant people

You're an inspiration, James. I dropped out at 16 and had zero career aspirations. I partied and slept on couches for five years until I met my wife. I had a dead-end cooking job and not a nickel to my name. I'm 33 now, and for the first time in my life, I am going to break 100k gross this year. Dropping out definitely hindered my success, but through sheer determination and power of will, I have accomplished more than I ever thought possible. I've always said that if I can do it, anyone can.

Honestly, this should be shared with more people. Very well said and put together ❤️

Thanks James for being so open and genuine it gave me a lot to think about much appreciated

Great message! Good for you!

Love these videos. Being inundated with bad news 24-7, the positivity and inspiration is so welcome.

Outstanding story,real life ,not fantasy. Some people are so beat down,anything other than failure doesn't look like an option. Mental health counseling may help,but only if the adult will volunteer for help. Also,vocational rehab is a possibility.

Damn man, hitting hard. Deeply inspirational.

Awesome message for anyone who needs to hear it, thank you so much. 😊

I know EXACTLY how that young man feels. It's very difficult for us to see in ourselves what others can see in us. Thank you for being willing to go the extra mile to try and show him that he can do it. Maybe have your wife reach out to him and let him know the offer still stands. Would do more for him then you think.

Man you never come across a company that would be willing to do so much for someone. Kudos to you and your business man.

Thank you for this video James. Your story touched my heart as I saw a lot of my self in it.

Preach, amen!!!! Never give up!!!

Although you are arguably probably the best story teller on KZread, it’s not enough to keep me from giving up on myself. I was always good at getting jobs, I have a well paying job now. It’s not enough. I’m missing something inside. I raised my family, my children are all doing well on their own. My wife left me 10 years ago after 32 years of marriage. I’m sure it was my fault even though I gave her anything she wanted, never raised a hand to her, never cheated on her, and kept her safe. I tried not to be controlling and made sure I told her that I loved everyday. It was enough, I wasn’t enough. It’s time to for me to move on, see what’s on the other side. I’ll wear asbestos underwear just in case. But if I had to choose a last video to watch, this would be this one. Such a great story.

@angelsgranny

10 ай бұрын

Your comment worries me. Please don't give up or harm yourself. My children were babies when their dad called me on the phone and shot himself. That's a permanent solution for a temporary problem. And it only passes your pain onto those who love you. Best Wishes for your future.

@ruffshayv4363

10 ай бұрын

Keep yourself busy, I know it's easy to say on the Internet but just remember that you only have the one pair of hands! Try not to compare yourself unfavourably to others and talk itt through with a professional if needs be. Look after yourself 👍

@venems24

10 ай бұрын

I wish I knew the right words to say to you but I don't, so the best I can do is to speak without a filter. There's no point in rushing to the end, we all reach it eventually. Yes today might hurt, tomorrow might too. But neither you, nor I know that for a fact. If you choose for today to be your last day you're choosing your last day to be that of pain and potentially regret. I don't know what it's like to be you, and I'm not gonna pretend to know. Maybe the things I say have no relation to how you feel, maybe they match perfectly. Never the less, you have more options than you can imagine. Your own thoughts are the things that make you think this way, you can change that. We can't force a change to the universe, but we can change how we see it. You don't know where the rivers of life flow, so why choose to swim head first into a rock?

@venems24

10 ай бұрын

Also let's just say it is your fault your ex wife left you, so what? Seriously so what. We all make mistakes, we all fail sometimes and sometimes those failures hurt us and those around us. That doesn't mean we should just accept that that's who we are and who we always will be. As long as there's life there's change. The thoughts you think, the words you speak, and the actions you take all change the world around you little by little. You shouldn't give up, you should change. You aren't the same person you were 11 years ago, you aren't the same person you were last week, so why do you think you'll be the same person tomorrow

@wishicouldspel

10 ай бұрын

Hey Yoda. From your handle im gonna take a wild guess amd assume you were born in 61. If so... so was I. Been a good life. Mind me. not a. perfect life. Sure as crap not what imagined or hoped for. More so a rough one filled with lots of grace shown by people left and right. Actually wouldnt trade it for anything considering who ive become as a result. Praying right now that someone very quickly shows you a little kindness and hope in the midst of the shit you have experienced.

you're a good guy James, wish there were more like you out there.

Thank you James, well said. Hope it strikes a cord with ears that need this! 🙂

What a speech I’m 63 years old and retired I’ve worked many different jobs over the years Just kept working and we are comfortable now but I still try to learn something new everyday If you stop learning you start dying Gotta keep going

I believe it's important for humans to have a sense of control. When you brought up the issue of his inadequate pay at his current job and offered a solution, he understood that he wasn't in control of his own life. Because the solution didn't come from him, he may feel the need to reject it to maintain control, even though he knows it could be harmful. I believe he's come to understand his strengths and I hope he can embrace his potential. Well done!

@hosmerhomeboy

10 ай бұрын

Man, you have no idea how much this comment resonates with me. I've been struggling to get a sense of control over my life for 20 years. And to be bluntly honest, I'm completely sabotaging what should be wins, and it's because as I've been successful other people have stepped in and taken over control. I can build anything, but if it's not mine, I'd rather burn it all down.

Thank you for sharing this story. It gave me a lot to think about.

Thanks a bunch for having the courage to put this up. I found it very uplifting.

Thank you for speaking to your audience about your learning disability and it just taking you extra time to work through school. I’ve had a learning disability, all my life, and it has been a real struggle for me to do well at school and has placed a real burden on my family growing up. If I didn’t have that family support structure and being stubborn as hell I wouldn’t be where I am today. I have a masters ofAccounting and I’m currently studying to sit for my CPA license.

James you're such a good guy with apparently a great wife behind you. I wish I could work for someone like you.

You a real one bruh . I needed this.

Thank you, James! Words of wisdom, hitting home! No matter my age or physical issues, I can't give up!! You have been given a gift from the Lord.

As someone who has very bad dyslexia and learning anxiety up the wazzo, i totally get both sides of this. Currently trying to learn japanese, i run a small business with my so, i do our book keeping. Stuborness goes a very long way. I hope the guy gets some help and a big smack up side the head from his wife.

Never give up Never surrender

@joelbrown3479

10 ай бұрын

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