No one is you and that is your power!

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly!! Coach Samira

@CandyLina23

5 жыл бұрын

Amen that is true man sucks jesus

@victorianorris1916

3 жыл бұрын

Amen,my Sister

@cherryundercover8558

27 күн бұрын

I love you for reminding me this

That is right on, time to get on with my life & see what happens in the future... The grass is never greener ... His loss 🙌🏼

@nicolewinters

4 жыл бұрын

You are so pretty tho! Did he come back?

"Men place a high value on their word and sticking to what they said" LOL!!! LOL!!! Never have I or my friends met a guy who followed up with his promises like fixing stuff or purchasing something he promised to get ;D In my case even his wedding vows didn't mean anything to him after a year. I think they pick and choose what words are conveniente at this very moment

"Nothing in this world is permanent. The Love that she gave you the first time or The Hatred that she gave you this time. Be Genuine and Authentic, be a better version of yourself!". Some words to myself and anyone who needs to hear.

I must say Coach Steven has very good understanding of a mans psychics. The way he explained a mans behaviour after break up is so true and relatable.Great Job Coach Steven.

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

Yes! He does a great job relating the topic out too! Thanks for tuning in! Coach Samira

@Alexandrecormont

5 жыл бұрын

He is the best!

My ex never kept his word. That’s one of the reasons I cancelled him. That’s a representation of someone who lacks integrity and is of poor character.

I've been in bed all week and I don't see the point of getting out of bed, I am hurting and I feel broken. All he has been doing is partying and going out with friends. How do I take control of my life again? I don't want to feel this way anymore, it's like I'm waiting for him to say "I've made a mistake, can we start over?" PLEASE HELP!!!

@maviswilliams9848

5 жыл бұрын

Me2. In my 3rd month.

@AMANDA-iz7ow

5 жыл бұрын

:( This has been me for 6 months. I feel like it will never get better

@globalspiritualrevolutionmedia

5 жыл бұрын

LEAVE HIM KELLY!!!!!! NOW! You Deserve Much Better!

@queenyuu4282

5 жыл бұрын

Noo you need to get out and get yourself busy so you don't think about him..It's just a matter of time and you will be okay..if you don't go out there you will never see how valuable you really are and how someone else is dying to have you. You are loved hun. Don't lose yourself. Men are not attracted to ladies who have self pity. Go out and have fun as well so he can see you are doing well. One step at a time, you will get there.

@ahaanahearts8585

5 жыл бұрын

Today is the 3rd day of break up.. I need help

He did breakup with me.! But now he's stalking me on Social media I don't understand anything.😑

@basicinfo2022

4 жыл бұрын

Feeds his ego or out of boredom that he could possibly have you or had you.

@sabsab1914

4 жыл бұрын

Same same

@lisahuotari4253

4 жыл бұрын

Mahima Jha Bruh same🤣😭

@thv16

4 жыл бұрын

same

@gabrielastefania4236

4 жыл бұрын

Mahima Jha lucky you

My bf ever told me if he will not break my heart but in the end..he the one broke my heart😭😭😭

😭 I dont think I can make him come back, he's so stubborn.

If men see green grass land y wouldnt a girl see green grasses.... His loss... Bad girls are expensive but real ones are priceless... ♥

My ex doesnt even care...he says he is happier without me...he doesnt even think of me at all...

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

Hey Marie, If he says he is happier without you then he is trying to make you feel bad about yourself. Don't fall for it. You go make yourself feel amazing and remind yourself of what an incredible person you are! Coach Samira

@danielledahlgren8117

5 жыл бұрын

Marie Blind Most guys say that when they want you to feel bad I believe it was Rihanna that said never underestimate a That can make you feel bad for his mistakes which means he’s going to tell you that he’s happier because he wants you to change into what he likes you didn’t fall apart and crumble like he expected no you simply picked up and move Don trust me sweetheart you dodged a bullet

@pwidiwipee8581

5 жыл бұрын

Me too :(

@lizmeloche3150

5 жыл бұрын

@@LoveAdviceTVCommunity yes mine she he has no felling for me after 26 year they thy to hurt you

@cosmof.4652

5 жыл бұрын

Lmao my ex said that too and then two months later he came back

They want to make sure they stick to their word after they break your heart, but all that goes out the window when they have professed their undying love for you, right??? I mean that was a promise,they swore, the fought for you to believe them. But when it comes to that they don't care about being a man.of their word, just when they leave....hmmmm

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

If they have professed their undying love for you then they cannot get you out of their mind. Coach Samira

@spectranet6882

5 жыл бұрын

It happened with me when my wife filed for divorce and left me texting me that she felt embarrassed by being with me as it would affect her modeling career. She even had the audacity to email me and also WhatsApp me to pay her college fees after texting me that she is filing divorce . I of course never paid her fees because I knew she had taken all money out and transferred to her account which made me realize how easily within seconds a person can change . I hope one day I will find someone who loves me for me and is ready to invest with me together emotionally and spiritually.

@aishamadiha8357

5 жыл бұрын

@@spectranet6882 ppl ppl o

I honestly believe this is correct in my situation at least. Me and my ex still connect in a lot of ways but it just seems like his pride is getting in the way.

Separation is also a part of love ... truest of loves never made it in the end :)

My ex said he’d never leave me. Two weeks after visiting me , he was with another woman. Why do they lie about those things? Can’t keep their words there.

@lmawiong2076

4 жыл бұрын

Neydis Maldonado words have no value anymore.

@mywater6796

4 жыл бұрын

wow so sorry

My ex broke up with me yesterday for no reason when everything was great 4 days ago

@JazzaLv99

5 жыл бұрын

I met my bf on Tuesday, we talked about getting tested together so we can have unprotected sex, we talked about meeting his friends for dinner on Friday, we talked about going on a trip together to a nearby city the weekend after. At the end if the day I told him that I love him ( he never said it before ) two days later, we met again. He broke up with me because he doesn’t feel the same and doesn’t want to lead me in. I’m in NC it’s been a month and a half now I’m miserable while he’s traveling and having fun in East Asia

@emmelinafrederick6815

5 жыл бұрын

Stephanie Campbell I’m so sorry! My boyfriend broke up with me too yesterday and my heart felt like it was roped into shreds. He said he wanted to be “single” and not see anyone. I’m very confused but now he is stalking me in person and on social media 😪😂

@xhenared7461

5 жыл бұрын

Stephanie Campbell he's been thinking about breaking up to you probably months or weeks..dont question yourself.. the only confused person was your ex ..

@moniquewatts232

5 жыл бұрын

Lmfaoo me too I jus made him dinner sunday aroun 4 or 5 and was singing me love songs and by 2am he tellin me "Im jus ready to call it quits on all this" MAN WTF!!??

Coach Alex thank you so much I'm blessed to listen u always ❤️

This hit home for me. My ex actually said "I need to rip the band-aid off" when he was breaking up with me. I've also always thought he mainly stays away because he tries his hardest to always stick to his word. How annoying lol good to know he is just a normal guy throughout all this.

It’s been a month since my ex broke up with me and I am still with slight heart break. We had a good talk before ending things. He told me to focus on myself and see what the future holds for us later. But i now cant always keep hoping he’ll come back but I know deep down inside I want this guy in my life. I am working on myself mentally, spiritually and physically.

I'll just take a moment here n appreciate you guys....you guys are just awsome a month earlier you all were new n i was heart broken but i felt truth n practicality in your vedios n started watching them as per your advice i did no contact i grew myself n today I'm with my ex again sm person who said me he didn't loved me anymore sent me a txt that he miss me n love me all bcoz of you guys.... I was in a depression state your motivation gave me strength n I'll continue watching your video's and grow my relationship more strnger than ever.... Guys u are doing a fab job continue doing there are many more like me who need u ....love u all thanks😘😘😘

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

Hey Pooja! Thank you so much! I am so happy we have given you the strength. You got this!! Coach Samira

Needed this video, thank you!

@Alexandrecormont

5 жыл бұрын

Our pleasure :-)

Great content, guys! Thank you! Your work keeps my hopes up. :)

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

SO glad to hear this Elena! Coach Samira

Hey guys, thanks for the videos! It's great work! The funny thing is my ex girlfriend really has that "guy" mentality, being stubborn, not wanting to change her mind, afraid of "love" and "relationships". She broke up with me. And I'm certain that one of the reasons was in order to feel "free". She said I was holding her back, that I "cut off her wings". It's been more than 2 months since the break up and the last we spoke. I feel it was my mistake and I want her back. I'm trying to improve myself and I'm certainly in a better place now. Where do I go from here?

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

Hey Prog RQ, You have to give her time if she is being stubborn. Here is a great video we have on Is your Ex Being Stubborn? kzread.info/dash/bejne/dK54k8WKe9OaetI.html Coach Samira

Talented handsome men!!!! tks always guys

My fiance broken it off after 3 years, I'm about to move out into a condo. And now that it's happening. He says it feels like I don't care, and he says he is in a dark place. This ALL started back in August, and we didn't talk for a good month, but have started communicating and "dating" again, but the moving is still taking place... He says part of him wants to work it out and go back to how we were, but part of him says to just walk away. I'm stuck in a constant battle of flip/flop.

I think 🤔 my ex won’t feel the attraction anymore once the relationship ended I just ate all the food and got fat😭

I go to law school with my ex and I have to, unfortunately, see him every day. He broke up with me out of no where and gave me cop out reasons like, “we aren’t compatible” “I don’t make you happy,” which is not true. I was distraught and just in complete shock after dating for 9 months. Thankfully school is almost over so it will be easier to do the no contact. I am afraid that I have been pushing him away even thought I dont text him, merely because I have to see him daily and we are usually always at the same place at the same time. I tried to have a couple conversations with him regarding why he broke up with me, and he gave me nothing. Any suggestions?

My ex (M24) broke up with me (F23) nearly two weeks ago, I’m absolutely devastated and did see that we’re getting a bit distant due to us both working a lot but nothing talking and spending time together wouldn’t remedy. However, he ended it saying he think we’ve been distant for months and has thought about ending for a while cause he no longer wants to be in the relationship, doesn’t love me anymore and is terrified of commitment. We’d been together for just over two years, we’d started to making little future plans such as moving in with friends first and then finally together when we’re about 26/7. He was the one that was always thinking about future plans, I was very happy just talking and living in the moment. I think he might have scared himself out of the relationship, that combined with the fact we’ve distant recently, I think has got him convinced that I don’t want to be with him either. Which is not the case at all and I’ve told him so. Breaking up is the last thing I wanted, he is the first thing I think of in the morning and the last thing before I go to bed, i literally can’t get him out of my head. It now sounds stupid when I think of the things I’d do for him and he can’t even talk to me about his issues and doesn’t even want to try and make the relationship work. He’s proper messed with my head, he was saying how much he loves me only 5 days before he ended it, am I suppose to think that he was faking the last couple of weeks/months as he says he hasn’t loved me in a while. I’m a confused and very hurt mess.

@YoungJusticeLuv

4 жыл бұрын

Rebecca Smith same with me sadly.. whats worse is that I found out from his friend that he was actually beginning to like another girl the past few weeks before the break up. Hearing that made it worse, because he lied and broke my trust, and did not respect our relationship.

@gioovannabp

4 жыл бұрын

How are you?

@Lea-le6qo

4 жыл бұрын

I have same situation now, what happened later? Did he wanted to come back to you?

@RA-fg6kd

2 жыл бұрын

Update?

Thanks a lot for this video it was very helpful. My boyfriend broke up with me today and I feel very confused. He said it was over then he said he wanted to be friends then changed to saying he wanted time apart to sort himself out as he isn’t ready for a relationship (after a year of being in one with me...) then he said he didn’t want to do this and it wasn’t over and we could try again if I waited for him. I told him that if he need time to himself I understand but I may not he here when he has figured everything out because it isn’t fair on me emotionally. I told him I would have tried anything to continue and fight for us and that when you love someone you try and sort things out. He admitted that he could never love someone like he loved his ex and that she messed up his emotions and feelings forever. I am confused as to what to do as he told me it was done and over then was saying maybe we can be friends and see if we can try again in the future. I told him that he has to respect that I feel too broken right now to see him as a friend and it would be too painful for me. The reason for the breakup was that he has always had issues in the bedroom and I tried discussing it openly with him to go and see a doctor or counsellor to try and get through this together and he said he felt pressured and it wasn’t healthy. He lied to me saying he went to the doctors for blood tests to see if he had any deficiencies and invented huge conversations and appointments that didn’t even happen. I found out then wanted to discuss it in person and from there it all went downhill. Suggestions?

My ex just recently broke up with me. We had been having some issues and he had been saying for a few weeks that he doesn’t feel like himself anymore and doesn’t have the same energy anymore because he’s so emotionally drained from arguing things like that. Things were fine for a while but as weeks passed it got worse. He wouldn’t act the same anymore or give me the same love and attention. It then got to the point where he even said he’s so stressed and confused that he doesn’t want a relationship anymore. I convinced him to stay a couple of times and give us some time and see how he feels. It didn’t get any better for him it just got worse up to the point where this was an everyday conversation for a week. I’ve asked him questions like “do you still love me” “do you still have feelings for me” and his answer will always be different. So I asked him why do your answers keep changing and he just says because he himself is still confused. His answers are that he still loves me but he feels numb to the relationship and that he loves me but he just can’t feel it because of how numb he is to it. I’m not sure what to do or how to take this information.

Its been about a month Me n my bf broke up n he swore he won't coming back ..... I'm moving on in my life doin good .... Nd no hope *indeed* thanks coaches 😀

@lovinursmile525

5 жыл бұрын

same thing. he said "do not expect me to come back. I dont love you anymore."

@cosmof.4652

5 жыл бұрын

Ella Mae S mine said the same thing too

Someone please help me understand!! My boyfriend told me he need time to figure out things so I gave him that time a week and two days so last night I reached out to him and he said I ended our relationship cuz I didn't reach to him!!! He was mad at me for not doing so.. please help me understand why he thinking this way..I'm so hurt and sad about this I really wanted us to work

I think you guys just described my ex to a tee! He has not budged one bit and that scares me because I tend to think there is no chance sometimes. I hope we can start working on our relationship soon but until then I know that I need to focus on my healing and growth.

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly :) - Alex

Granted this started off as an affair 9 years ago (wife knew about me and made it very difficult to leave as they had a child). I ended it twice because I was sick of the circumstances. I did no contact eventually on the last one (finally divorced) and he wandered back. Great 4 months and said he was making more effort and it felt like he was. Then he asked me about moving a girl in from work temporarily (he’s still living with parents because of divorce) and I said no. Found out he moved her in. Said there was nothing going on when I confronted him and said he didn’t know if he wanted a relationship anymore. He said he didn’t have feelings for her. He kept saying he didn’t know when we were chatting and I said I wanted this. At the end he said we should split up and go our separate ways “for now” which I questioned and he said “I don’t know” again. I asked him what the problem with me was and he kept saying nothing and it was all him. He also said he was not in a good place and needed this for his sanity. I have not contacted him for 3 months now. I’ve blocked him on social media so he can’t see anything of me. 4 days ago I got upset as it was his birthday and unblocked him and this girl. They’re together. I suspect very close to when we split, if not before. Apparently she knew about me coz I asked what she said when I said no to her moving in. I said she obviously wasn’t threatened by me to which he said “why would she be threatened when she has no feelings for me” I’m destroyed and so hurt. He said he didn’t have the energy for a relationship and would tell me if there was someone else. I don’t understand it. The pain is immense.

He said he wants to remain friends and i can call him if i need someone to talk to but also said he didnt want to "give me the wrong idea". He said he still cares about me. But to me i feel like hes only saying this to make himself feel better. He seemed to move on pretty quickly. And like the video says, he feels free. Ive accepted that this is what makes him happy but my heart is still chasing him knowing he's not going to chase me back. Our entire relationship i was the one chasing. Letting go is hard. I just hope he's happy now. 😔

Wow, this described my ex of 12 yrs to the t. He cheated on me and out of nowhere said he crossed that line because he just didn't love me anymore.This was literally out of the blue because we have 2 kids a toddler and a 5 month old so idk at what point it happened. Anyways he told our close friend he wants to be by himself and have fun. He moved a few towns over when my friend was giving him a place to stay in our same city. He tells people he doesn't want to be close because he doesn't want to give me hope but I really think he is trying to just keep his word like you said. My friend even told him I was seeing someone (which I'm not) to see his reaction and he was actually happy about it. I just can't understand all of this. Its so heartbreaking for me.

I work with my ex. My cardinal rule has always been....NEVER DATE A CO-WORKER. But I let him manipulate me, and I fell for his BS. There were many red flags, but I chose to try, believe in him, although, I truly knew he was the wrong one....mostly because I was trying to keep the peace at work. Once I finally broke up with him, a year later, for a very good reason, he has trashed me to my co-workers & supervisors...etc. He has tried to make my life miserable, while looking at me with longing, with that lost "puppy dog" look. I have held my head high, refused to talk about personal things at work, refused to get in the muddy ditch with him....and I smile & ignore all that drama....all the while, having horrible anxiety, as he has made my job a living hell. Co-workers have chosen to take sides in a situation they know nothing about. He was physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive. But I have said nothing. I did have to file a formal complaint, against him, with our Human Resources department, as he threatened me, at work. He has left me alone, but everyone says how he longs for me...states at me...etc. I just ignore it all. But I am now looking for another job, in another state, just to rebuild my life and get away from this drama. It is confusing, as he & I were close friends first. I know he has regrets, I don't. I can walk away knowing I have my all, while he will always wonder what he could have done better. Moral of story: NEVER GET INVOLVED WITH A CO-WORKER. I did that one time....and I live with that bad choice.

Coaches, so you are saying that if the relationship towards the last few months of it was tumultuous there is no hope? He did come back after the first month he left (I had been working on myself and he must've noticed my glow) and said he loves, adores, and misses me so much and doesn't ever want to let me go, that everytime he looked at me when we were apart he felt like I was his home... only to leave again a couple of days later saying he is too exhausted from the relationship, he's sorry for giving me false hope, and that I need to find someone else to be the love of my life. Now he goes out of his way to turn his back to me and get super loud talking to people and act happy go lucky when we are in the same area at church. It hurts so much to feel so rejected by him. It's so tough to continue working on myself after having the rug pulled from under me, especially since I still have hope he loves me but is just being Marine Corp-stubborn. It's been almost 4 months.

Thanks for the video.

Thanks for the video... how often do you think guys would reconsider the relationship again after (you explained it was the guys firm choice to end it).. and is there a sort of timeline to know when the chances of getting back together is over or not? I mean, how long is it when you’re sure that getting back together is never going to happen again?

Wow! I loved this video! My husband and I separated a month ago...and that’s exactly what I’m doing after being all sad and depressed now I’m working on my self! ♥️

@glamv2291

4 жыл бұрын

WRONG WAY my husband and I separated as well too, it’s been hard. I’m working on bettering myself too.

@artbysara1781

4 жыл бұрын

WRONG WAY hi im in the same Situation and i need some tips from you :( how do you feel now and what are doing when you miss him

@krystlemulay5726

4 жыл бұрын

My husband decided to leave to try to be with his cheating ex wife lol.

@mywater6796

4 жыл бұрын

wow so sorry

I have been dated a guy (19 years old) for about four months ( and we have known each others before) and the last three weeks he was pulling away, so I decided to ask him about it. We had a conversation and I ask "why it is not working anymore, what have changed?" And he told me that he does not know what he wants and that he wants space and time to figure things out. He also mentioned things like "I have a great time with you, but I dont know what I am feeling right now" and stuff like that. I was really confused, but I agreed to give him space and we both decided that he will contact me when he realizes what he wants (either it will be break up or our relationship to go on). We also agreed not to contact each others until he realizes what he wants. But it has already been a month now and and he does not conctact me, so I am really confused and dont know what to think about it... how long should I wait? Or should I initiate contact? Any advice for me?

#Love Advice TV it depends if both person are normal what if the other person is Mentally Damage!

Thanks for the advice's👌👌👌

It was confusing when it happened. I mentioned breaking up because he was unhappy and that he could see himself marrying me but would divorce me 30 years down the line. He said that we both need to grow and that he is not giving me false hope and that we are always connected. I'm just conflicted. After about 4 months there has been nothing. I'm doing better but I feel like we could be great (I know this is my opinion and that his is important too). Thank you for the video!

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

Hi Mangachanie, You need to give it some time. If he was giving you false hope then stay in no contact. He needs to realize his loss. Coach Samira

I know I shouldn't checked on his social media, but I did and saw he just delected our pictures. That hurts me a lot! I really tried to move on and I was fine .. but after that, it just drove me back at the beginning. Did he just moved on or he will still come back ?

Great video guys much appreciated... however , I do have a question ? Everyone says to me if a man loves you he wouldn’t of left or would of already came back .. can you please tell your intake on this ? Coach Steven I’m asking you because your straight to the point ! What if my ex decides to come back and it’s now a year of our breakup ... he still reaches out once a month ... what’s this all mean ?

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

Hi Nicole, If your ex is still reaching out to you then he is still interested in you. It sounds like he is starting to come back, like you said earlier, when a man is in love with you. Please don't hesitate to book a strategy session with me. I can help you with a great approach on his once a month calls. Coach Samira www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/

So my ex and I were in a LDR for 7/8 months, we saw each other every month for at least a week or two weeks. We were only a few states apart. Anyways, he broke up with me because the stress of the relationship was effecting his performance at work, so he says. I mean I did see first hand some examples so I believed what he was saying. Anyways a couple days after the breakup I realized he was on tinder and my heart broke. We broke up in person after I was visiting him for two weeks. I cried and he even cried during the breakup. What does it mean that he went on that site so quickly? He’s been faithful the entire relationship so I know he didn’t have it before the breakup. I just don’t understand why he went on it so quickly after we broke up. Help! :(

he is parting my ex and said he has no felling for me and doesnt care its DONE how childish after 26 years

My ex and I broke up 2 weeks ago. We were together for 3 years, living together and even got a dog together. We initially broke up on thanksgiving when I found out he was cheating on me “virtually”. I was crushed. I planned on moving out but he kept asking me to stay and we eventually spent the holidays together. I didn’t plan on living with him and for the past 2 years I had been looking to move out because we started to live together too soon because I lost my job. The market for apartments was always bad but I was constantly looking. I could see the longer I stayed the more he would think I was prolonging the move. I got an apartment in mid December and we came up with a plan that we were going to separate for a while but still be in each other’s lives when we were ready to talk again. We would still be there for each other and even share custody of the dog. Things kept coming up so I couldn’t start living in the apartment quite yet. I eventually had all of my stuff over at my apartment by the 2nd week of March. We still were sticking to our plan. Well I went to Georgia to visit my sister and she and I got into a huge fight so I came back down to his house because he said he would take care of me. When I got to his house he made me listen to a recording of him breaking it off with me completely. I couldn’t believe it. He then carried me over to my parents house who live next door and I haven’t heard from him since. He even took the dog and told my parents he was no longer willing to share custody. We are still friends on social media still but he has restricted me access from posts, pictures and friends. I don’t know what to do. I haven’t reached out or anything. I need help.

What if I was in the wrong? He struggled with forgiving me and couldn't decide to stay or go then finalzed it being "over for sure" but what I didn't mention was out of my control. And he reassured me at first saying it's okay.

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

Hey Emily, you don't need to continuously apologize. If he has forgiven you, then both of you need to move forward, and you need to focus more on re-attracting him and seducing him. Get back to basics by showing him your fun side and rekindling your attraction for each other :) - Coach Steven

That ,,we need to stick to what we said" part is pretty spot on. My ex is this super stubborn word-keeper. Can I ask when the time ,,Huh, maybe I should have tried harder..." or ,,The grass is not greener" usually comes? Like for example about 30 days after the break-up? That could be the best time to strike back. :)

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

Hi Elena, I think you will find one of my other videos helpful. It's about stubborn exes: kzread.info/dash/bejne/dK54k8WKe9OaetI.html Coach Samira

Great video

Coach; the problem with this video is my bf moved on during our last "attempt" to rekindle our relat. By the time he walked out on me again and for the last time he was already with someone else "moving on" I finally decided to practice no contact and committed, he was already going out with his employee two weeks later to see the band we saw when he asked me to be his gf. I didnt know at the time and he would email me for the next three months how I was his twin flame and missed my cooking etc. Until I saw him with this woman in his truck at a gas station by my house. His face was dumb founded but got in his vehicle and drove away. Since then, hes never written again, but keeps in constant contact with my mother and brother. I dont want him back, i have too much anger and have been humiliated enough. But I do want to know if he feels guilt, if I meant anything to him, just so I believe I have self worth. Not that hes going to tell me the truth if Id ask. But I need something somehow, to tell me I am valuable. 8 years is a long time, I am having a hard time being kind to myself, and I know he was very manipulative but I choose to be with him even though I knew,, but couldnt prove my suspicion since year one. Hes cheated before and when Id confront him hed flip it on me and say I overreacted. Year one a girl that told me they were having an "intellectual affair" when confronted I choose to believe what he said that she misunderstood him. So, Ive always known hes had a way with words and I choose to ignore his behavior so we can stay together and try again at being happy. It was constant the amount of situations that would get turned on me, and Id say maybe I do overreact but if it happens again, its no coincidence. Its happen again, and everytime Id lose a little more self respect for myself. And hed take all that effort and emotion it took me to forgive him each time as an expectation. Rathr than what it was, a form of proof that I loved him and forgave him and choose to believe his remorse to move forwardand be happy. When we were happy, we really were, but it was few and far between in the last 4 years of our relationship. In the end, the girl that was rumored he was cheating on me with, which he denied it to my face and insulted her by calling her a "psycho" himself and me a dumba$$ for believing the rumors, well... she is the one he took to see the band two weeks after our breakup and is now the gf. He was already cheating on her those days he was emailing me about his "feelings" while he was posting pictures on fb of them kissing and going out with his friends. (News that I would find out months later by friends I stopped talking to for the same reason, to remove the toxicity. But at that moment all that progress I made on myself, came crashing down. I felt humilitated because it seems he finally proved all my suspicions were true with how he did it to her with me) He is trash, I know this. Its me I need to help motivate, find self worth again, and lift out of this dark sadness and heart break. Help!

Who else is just in love with his accent?🤤

How long after do men after breaking up realize like they regret their decision or "have the confidence to let the ego down" and want to talk back to their ex and reconcile things? My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me and we were far from toxic or arguing couple. We talked everything out no matter the disagreements or arguments. We both always felt like nothing gets achieved when yelling at each other and streaming no matter how angry you are. It was a sudden breakup over text after him. He had leave for 2 weeks and stood by my house for the first three days with me and my family and we were perfect. He went by his family for one night and came back to get his bag only to tell me he's done over text later in the day. Any advice? I tried reaching out the first few days but just stopped and he blocked me on all social media right after he send me the breaking up text.

Dear Coach Steven, My ex and I have reconnected, and 2 days ago I found out that he had sex once with the rebound, just under 2 months after we broke up. Although theoretically there is nothing wrong with this given the fact that we were broken up and he was not cheating, I can't help but feel so hurt and betrayed to learn this piece of information. She even gave him a perfume, and he still wears it now, and I don't know why even this drives me nuts! I am trying to deal with all this now. I've pulled away and not talking to him as much at the moment. I feel so stupid for feeling this way. I mean we were broken up and it's not like he was cheating on me. But it really does feel as if those 5 years meant nothing to him and he could so easily go sleep with that woman...this is what hurts. And now that he is back in my life I also can't help but feel that he is using me to get over his rebound which didn't work out. I am so mad at both of them! Am I crazy for feeling like this? What do I do? Please advise.

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

You're not crazy. This is normal. The fact of the matter is that ALL MEN can easily go sleep with other women. We're MEN! Not WOMEN. MOST women need emotions to sleep with a person. Most men do NOT need emotions AT ALL to sleep with a person. So don't take it personal. You also need to make peace with the things that happened outside of your control. He's not a disobedient pet, who didn't listen to you. He's a man who made his own choices, independent of you. The best thing you can do is meditate on this or try to find a way to stop replaying the constant loop of "I can't believe this happened" in your mind - Coach Steven

@AntheaPeter

5 жыл бұрын

@@LoveAdviceTVCommunity Thanks so much Coach Steven. Appreciate you so much for taking the time to reply. Reading your advise made me feel a lot better and has helped me to look at things in a more rational perspective. Thank you.

@shanteriadavis1422

5 жыл бұрын

Anthea Peter this made me realize so much

@kkittycatkat1990

5 жыл бұрын

@@LoveAdviceTVCommunity Dont take it personal. Men don't need emotion to sleep with women. I guess that included you too?? I'm sorry but a high quality man is not a pig. Your ex, a pig. Of course this hurts you. I don't feel like these 2 guys know anything about decent men but know a lot about the everyday p.o.s manchild. Be better than him. Do not get back together with a guy who sleeps with other woman with no emotion, the fact is he could be hurting these woman too. Toss him. Stay away forever. Your revenge will be a quality man. Honestly, that will get him...if you even still care by then.

@00mylovey00

2 жыл бұрын

That's so painful, I'm so sorry. That happened to me years ago too. I remember feeling betrayed, beyond hurt. But a man who let's his sexual desires control him, instead of controlling it is a slave of it. That's not a person of character and principles.

Hey coaches i love this video ..any advice when a guy says he isn't ready for a relationship after 5months of dating and also says he feels like his been forcing himself and it isn't coming out naturally..

My ex broke up with me and uses the excuse of the interaction with me and my family. He suffers from anxiety and says that it’s the best option as he believes that it will never get better. That is not true. I’m trying to tell him that family will fall in line if we’re happy but he won’t listen. He broke up with me 3 weeks ago however I saw him last week and he said he has a lot to think about but haven’t heard from him other than him liking things that I post on Facebook. It’s been day 3 of NC as I stupidly liked a post of his, couldn’t help myself, so I had to restart it. Does no contact work with people who suffer from anxiety?

I was with my ex for 3 years. He heard a rumor obviously not true) that I cheated on him. Later the truth that this was false came out (a month later) and he told me he still sees a future with me but he wants to “conquer the world on his own for a little bit”. Im also going on a trip in 2 days with him that we had planned before the breakup. We are going with other friends. How do I get him back? I don’t want to lose him.

Very good to the both of you! 👌

I worry that as I get stronger and feel better without him (being in NC) he could be doing the same thing ?

My boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me two weeks ago and we haven’t spoken yet since, we were so happy and it seemed like such a rushed decision and there was no attempt to try and resolve the issue, he was really upset when we broke up and we are meeting up for a chat as friends in a couple of weeks, i have no idea how to act about getting him back as he is stubborn so probably wants to stick to his word but he is also upset about the situation, any advice?

Thanks for sharing

My ex is a stubborn and consistent scientist. Somehow the combination of those 3 hints to me that he will never doubt his decision and come back. He was also married for 17 years and now as he said looking for the perfect fit. So even if we had few problems, he didn’t want to work on them, he thought he can find someone even better.

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

Hi Olga, I have a video on exactly this topic. Check it out: kzread.info/dash/bejne/dK54k8WKe9OaetI.html Coach Samira

Im on the 3rd week of the breakup and it was a mutual breakup, i feel lost because i miss him too much, it feels like my emotions are making me forget why we broke up ( a lot of things piling up , and he cant find time for me "literally'' lately ) so its gotten hard. now i feel totally blind. I cant seem to know or understand anymore because of how much I miss him which makes me scared of how im going to react if he reachs out.

Thanks for this, I begged for a month, found your videos and started no contact for 30 days, we've been talking again for about 30 days but he's still the same as he was just a couple weeks after the break up (which came out of the blue) we are supposed to be meeting soon but I just feel like he's still not interested, should I do no contact again after meeting? Or continue chatting?

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

A meeting wouldn't hurt. Be your new and improved self and make sure to know you are ok without him. This energy will reflect on him and will make him want you back. Coach Samira

Hey Coaches! My Boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago and he said the only reason is the distance and he can’t handle it anymore. We always had a great time and we had some months where we lived in the same city or the distance was not too far, but now we live on two different continents with 7 h time difference... He said he loves me and misses me but because I’m physically not there, he misses this part of the relationship and he doesn’t want one just over the phone. And seeing me only a few weeks in the year is not enough for him and we have no ending in sight with the long distance... so he decided it would be the best to break up. I wanted to try it with the distance but he can’t no more. Was it really just the distance? Is that so hard for guys? Should I not write him at all and wait until he writes me? I feel so hopeless and hurt right now ...

if you were together for three years and thing we really good but started fizziling away after year 2. i then went and started speaking to another guy and he found out, told him about this but he feels that he can not be with me because things were not good i could not commit and now i have broken his trust. what do you do to try and get him to realise that actually you love him and want to be with him.

You mentioned that guys initially feel liberated, but after some time will start questioning their decision. Would you say this period of time is around the 4 month mark? It’s been 30 days NC

@kawaiisenshi2401

5 жыл бұрын

Jacksonville nc here

here I am post 2 days after break up. Our relationship lasted 10 years. we surpassed every challenge and through out the years i was always crying and crying and crying. and now he finds himself too guilty for everything. is this even the right REASON??? i think its true when they want to break up it wont change at all. Currently binge watching wedding videos listening to Moira's songs of moving on to cry my eyeballs out. He was always with me through out med school and now soon getting my license i cannot believe he wont be there anymore. i do not want to hope at all because when he wanted to break up we were having a good time then suddenly..... I am so confused at the moment as to why. maybe i will just sacrifice and volunteer to fight COVID even though i am under license.

I feel like my ex will forget about me, he goes out to eat, movies and stuff, i don't, i feellike he's going to move on before i have the chance to show him ive changed, our that I'm better

my boyfriend and I broke up as we just fought way to much about simple stuff - i always thought he was too good to be with a girl like me, so most of our fights went about that. after the breakup he messaged me saying that he still loves me & will always care for me and be there for me. and that we should use this time to work on ourselves before getting back in a relationship... and that he is not ready for a relationship right now. i have sent long messages to him as i really think we can make this work, but i dont want to force him to do anything. should i just give him some space?

It has been like three or four months since he muted the relationship and I have applied the no contact rule for o month now, and yesterday he replied my status by saying”come let’s be together” . But he shows that he really doesn’t want the relationship back😩 it deep down hurt me and today I’ve decided to delete his number so that I can never view his status anymore.... Is it a bad decision or?

If a guy said he needed to get his world in order ...do you ever hear of people getting back together when the timing is better?

i really need your help coach. 🙏🏼 My bf broke with me around Christmas en after that we were still meeting each other. But after I ask what he wanted he doesn't know what he wants or feels. And 2 days ago he told me that he doesn't want a relationship and that it's not what he wants anymore... So I said that we need same time alone to work on our self and to see how we feel without each other since we talked every day since the break up. And if he knows what he wants that he could contact me. Should I stick to no contact? Or what should I do... When he's with me he so kind and sweet and says he missed me and those things..

family was a big part in the break up on his side, his family called me a liar.... I do still have hope or what should I do?

I have been watching a few of your videos and also followed your advice like the NC. The thing is my ex & I are both on the same class everyday but didn’t try and talk to him as much and did coach Natalie’s “how to act around your ex”. Within that month, he ask my friend to hangout with her and watch a movie, then telling our classmates how depressed he is. He also keeps staring at me but dont say anything, if I try to look at him he looks away. And then one day, I overheard him saying that he got laid but I did not act as affected as I should be and the day after that my friends notice that he looks so sad. Do you think it’s over now and no chance for me to build up a bridge again?

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

Hi Goddess of the stars, He is doing all of this to get your attention and for you to approach him. Don't fall for it. You continue to focus on yourself and he will approach you. Act as though you are happy in your life (and also actively do this). Coach Samira

@KClight7

5 жыл бұрын

Love Advice TV thank you coach Samira! I’ll do as what you said and I will reply to this post to more updates. The only thing that I’m stuck now is that I can’t help but think that my friend and him are seeing each other. I know its bad but I just cant help but think coz they went out and got close.

My boyfriend of three years says he doesn’t feel attracted anymore and this isn’t working out and that we fight a lot ( though the not is an exaggeration). He moved out as well. He knows very well I want this relationship very badly. And he is okay to think about it in a few days or weeks. But isn’t meeting me until then. He did this once before , and was in touch but no meet up. He says his life is messed up and he needs to fix his life and he can’t do with me around. He said that last time too but didn’t do nothing than work and hang out with his roommate. I’m moving out of town in six weeks. And he also wants to get married and settle down soon, but doesn’t feel like I’m the right person. Thoughts and any advice plz

We broke up a month ago. He said "do not expect me to come back. I dont love you anymore."

@hellenmartinez1710

5 жыл бұрын

Ella Mae S i feel you atm

PLEASE HELP💔💔 I fell in love with a guy that doesn't love me and never had feelings. So my "ex" left me about a month ago. We weren't actually dating, we acted like a couple and did things that couples did. The first time he used me as a rebound and left me. 3 months later he came back because he was over her and I gave him another chance. 2 months later he said he didnt want to be in a relationship with me and we had lost our connection and he didnt want anything with me no more. I was so heartbroken and I still am. Please help me because I love him but he never loved me.

I’m in college and my ex broke up with me after two months of dating because he was super busy with school and college ball. We only saw each other once a week but it was the happiest day of the week for both of us we had so many good memories and before we dated we’ve been good friends since grade school ,but all of a sudden one night he shows up at my door wanting to breakup. I want to get back together because I wasn’t ready for it to end. He told me that he wanted to get back together eventually but not right now. I’m lost and I don’t know if I should keep hoping and reach out to him or if I should just move on. I also have to see him in may because of a family function. What should I do?

It’s been almost two months since my ex broke up with me. He ignored my text the week after it happened and I also made a mistake of reaching out to him two weeks ago. He’s ignoring me I guess cuz it was really over in his mind like you guys describe but even after trying to better myself and continue on with life, how will this even make it work again between him and I. Will he truly rethink the whole break up?

I work with my ex, he initiated the break up. Said he wasn’t in a place to give everything that is required of him at this moment. I was a mess at first, begged and pleaded with him. I tired to make him realize that what we had was real. I realized that wasn’t working it’s almost two weeks since I’ve stopped texting him. It’s about a month since the breakup. We communicate at work share laughs here and there. But it’s just a difficult situation bc desk is right next to mine. I feel like he has no interest in rekindling things, I feel like he’s being cordial bc we work together. Any advice on situations like this?

Thanks for the video

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

Your welcome! Thank you for tuning in! Coach Samira

He broke up with me out of the blue, everything was perfect for 3 and a half years, and he said he need to be single for a while, that he really really really cares about me but is not into this relationship and not into me as much anymore. I still feel like he loves me, but he's taking the breakup really well and probably doesn't want to get back together any time soon. I really want him back because our relationship was perfect, until he started changing his character. Is there a chance he will go back to normal and get back together with me or is it hopeless? During the breakup, I sent the breakup text but it was mostly his decision and I didn't beg or plead and initiated no contact immediately.

Yes are right he may mean what he says but at least be a adult about it and not play mind games.

My ex and I just broke up. Dated for almost 2 years and on and off for the last 6. Changes in our lives made it that way but recently within the last week, she left but told me I was her soulmate, love of her life and her bestfriend but she has to go. There’s someone else knocking on her door so of course I know that has something to do with it. I just want her back but I know I just need to move on and leave it be. What are your thoughts ?

What if a guy says he's not ready for a relationship? He was in a 4 year relationship, 8 months prior to us starting to go out together. The thing is we connected like crazy and had this chemistry I at least never felt before. I used to think that he felt the same but when he broke up, now I'm not so sure. We could've gone a long way together, I gave him the space that he needs, we haven't spoken since the break up but I feel like I'm losing something big if I don't act. What more can I do?

I don't understand why these are in my recommendations. Ofcourse you guys have an amazing and great content and are helping thousands heal and move on but I believe NO ONE in this world should beg someone to stay with them or chase those who defy them.Do our parents leave us or abandon us in difficult times, even if things are going bad with them they love us unconditionally and we don't have to think what our parents are feeling about us because LOVE is reflected in their actions. If a person loves us he/she will stay with us no matter what. We don't have to drain ourselves of our energy to make our parents love with us same goes with relationships with our partner. So the moment they start treating you badly, let them fuck off, realize your worth and move on. Close that chapter once and for all.

we were in love since highschool. couple since 5 years. have been in a long distance relationship due to our studies n then career,. didnt spend much time together but always in contact and love. and now after 10 yrs of relationship he went abroad for further studies and after feeling lonenly their for 7months he broke up with me. during those 7months i tried to comfort him any way possible but slowly slowly he was shutting me off and not sharing his problems with me. few days after saying i love u for the last time he got engaed in other stuffs, he says he vl call tomorrow but tomorrow never comes. 1 month after that i confronted him argued and he broke up with me. and within 1 month of breaking up his new gf moved in with him. and he says he dont love me anymore and is in love with his new gf who is 10yrs younger than me. i am heartbroken. and i m unable to forget him.

What if after my personal transformation I want my ex bf back but I want him to have a transformation too? I know he can make me happy but I’ve realized the things which I wasn’t happy with in the relationship. I’m in so much of a better place now but from seeing his social media it seems like nothings changed he’s still doing the same things as if I never made an impact on his life. What do I do?

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

Hey Heather, Once you are both talking again and back in the groove of things you can tell him these things you want to be improved. You can also do it by showing your new actions so your ex gets motivated to do the same. Coach Samira

Coach Steven stopped talking to my ex on Christmas eve because I told him he was taking me for granted.he never responded and then implemented NC. On new year day he texted me to wish me a happy new year,I texted back hours later wishing him the safe.since then nothing.I am of the mind that I should continue with NC,whereas my friends are telling me to reach out. Our relationship suffered as I'm constantly out of town because of my work as a consultant.

@kawaiisenshi2401

5 жыл бұрын

Cont. No contact. A man is to pursue a woman if he really wants her

My ex and I have been broken up a little over 6 months. The past month we have been texting consistently with a couple phone calls. The 2 months before that I tried my best at NC.. (we have lots of friends in common and go to the same church) I don’t know what my next step should be. Should I still send a letter? Or should I bring up us trying something again? Thank you in advance Coaches!

@LoveAdviceTVCommunity

5 жыл бұрын

Hi NNV, If you have been texting consistently, has there been an opportunity to hang out? I think it would be good to send a letter then suggest a meet up after church. I can help you edit your letter in a coaching session too. Coach Samira

Okay great video. So silent is key, but what if I don't have social media, For him to see anything of me doing well and being happy?

My ex broke up with me 4 days ago out of the blue when he was the one at fault. He said cruel things like I'm a liar, I'm not remorseful, where as it's the opposite. He said he wanted to get his stuff that's at my place so I've been saying I'm not around cos I'm scared if he takes his things it will be over for good, forever. So he keeps quiet one day then another ask for his things. Should I give him and just accept the break or keep saying I'm not around up until he realizes hs wrong apologies and undump me?

Will a man walk away from a women he deeply cares about if he knows he's not emotionally ready...example he's recently divorced as of 8 months ago...says he's not ready to date, cares deeply but can't emotionally give.

This guy called me on first date for dinner at his flat...I was reluctant at first but then agreed to meet him at his place for the first time. He made a move n we did everything. I came back n told him that I had a great time but I looking fr just hookups cz he wasn't a boyfriend material. Then met a couple of times he told me he had feelings for me n he want to date me till we are in same city i.e for 3months. He use to say he has feelings he thinks I am someone he wud not just be casual with etc n so many things. I did started liking him. They one day he said altho he has feelings but he don't want relationship. I was like okay but why are u telling me this I was the who told u this before. That day idk it just triggered me n I started asking him I don't wanna date anyone I want u n want more than what we are doing. I said this after a month. He constantly said he LL be leaving in 2 months. n he don't believe in long distance relationship cz he had a very bad experience last time. N he can't do it now. We had small fights then we also use to meet n had sex. One time I went to his place to talk about this seriously. I wasn't letting him touch me then he agreed okay u want this!? Okay I am asking u to be in a relationship n I want u to move in with me right now..I will be loyal but I will freak out n u have to handle that. I said yes n we had sex after that. In morning I asked him twice if he is sure about that. He said yes but later that day he started freaking out n asked me for one more day to rethink about this. I got angry what is there to think about. U said that to me yerstday that u want it now u want more time wtf. I was already kinda desperate by this time. I am telling u I don't want this. But then I said okay take ur time tell me tomorrow. Then he said I don't want this thanks for making it easier. Although I was trying hard to get away from him but I just cudnt cz sex was great. I had sex with him like 4 times after this. I know too much details. I kept on meeting him cz I thought he is not good looking not Rich... he use to ask me why I am with him cz I am out of his league etc. I thought this is just temporary feeling I LL get over it easily. But after realizing he is emotionally unavailable n I am clearly more invested than he is I flipped n shouted at him n ended everything on very bad term. I still cry sometimes. I know it was a long comment but I want ur suggestions cz it's totally hampering my studies.

You have a point