“DONT TALK TO HIM HE’S MARRIED”

@Vera-dg3hf

5 жыл бұрын

Especially if they approach you first! And say hi to all the women they see to see which one falls.

@justsomecyborg788

4 жыл бұрын

HAHAHAHAHAH

I cried... Not even my parents talked to me this way. Very important. I love her.

@nadayahiaoui4355

6 жыл бұрын

Elena Guzman you right... That's true.. She is amazing... And that's important..

@armstrk3

5 жыл бұрын

Makes me rethink the way I talk to my daughter. Glad I listened to her. She made me cry.

@annifrag5475

5 жыл бұрын

11

@mariapazam6128

5 жыл бұрын

I cried too .. from the beginning to the end . What a great video

@singingthroughtherain70

5 жыл бұрын

Elena Guzman Me too.

lessons to take from this talk: 1. self confidence is knowing you'll become bigger and stronger than you are right now. 2. perfection is not a human quality - let go of it. 3. be authentic. if it's not your thing, don't do it. 4. trust your gut. 5. if someone doesn't value you, cut them from your life right away. 6. Tess rhymes with Mess.

@uyennguyen5741

5 жыл бұрын

That's so helpful

@tokyoa7649

5 жыл бұрын

Also, 7. Find a mentor

@nabihaashoor4712

5 жыл бұрын

Joanne iguizz

@khadijakolsawala9323

5 жыл бұрын

6 really helped Me

@anabanan63

5 жыл бұрын

8. every guy you meet wants to sleep with you ( 07:20 ) :P

She talked so fast, she left right after she stopped talking.. it feels like she's not from this world or this age and she needs to quickly give the message and then travel somewhere else. She's like a heroine, like some angel saving the world. It just felt like it because i feel something has awaken inside of me right now.

@matchettelopez1220

5 жыл бұрын

I loved her energy and drive! Wouldn't of been the same message or have the same impact without get enthusiasm!

@louisaamabel708

5 жыл бұрын

You’re totally right she’s amazing

@geewiz8253

5 жыл бұрын

Human Being Very wise observations.

@mvrii.a

5 жыл бұрын

the survivor ahaha true

@veryexciteddog963

4 жыл бұрын

Lucina_irl

"Perfection is not a human quality" a quote i will remember forever

@OliveraK

5 жыл бұрын

Same here. It's awesome!

@At-kc1rc

4 жыл бұрын

I needed this

@sinaport6265

4 жыл бұрын

SubhanAllah so true

@summer271290

4 жыл бұрын

I had to write that down

@hajime6939

4 жыл бұрын

Just don't use this as an excuse to weasel out responsibilities !

If I were that girl I would have cried through the whole talk and gave that incredible woman the biggest hug! We need more women like that all over the world to uplift the girls because the world does nothing but make us more confused about life and our self worth. She has an incredible energy and passion!

@freefallwefall

4 жыл бұрын

Protip: it's just as harsh to boys, if not worse. Boys need this kind of help too, and it's rare.

@freefallwefall

4 жыл бұрын

Boys might even need it more. While society by and large is helping girls every chance it can, it is turning its back on boys.

@amadamarquezsimula5128

4 жыл бұрын

@@freefallwefall So true. Maybe you can be the hero for boys and do this talk for boys. Are you inspired to do it?

@gaeloarmel7726

4 жыл бұрын

Anna Pyatkova yes her speech left her being empowering others

@johannaramos3538

4 жыл бұрын

Anna Pyatkova i wasnt ever there and I cried 🤣 she is amazing 😍

wow. her kids are lucky to have been blessed with her!

" you have to remember that your physical decisions are inexplicably tied to your emotional well being."

@chocolatephuong

4 жыл бұрын

Queen Empress i love this

Ahh love her energy!

@hazemghaith8887

7 жыл бұрын

LeendaDProductions

@veronicablanco8457

6 жыл бұрын

LeendaDProductions ¡excelente presentación! Me encanto las ideas que mostró y las historias eran graciosas

@EricaHardymoremakeupplz

5 жыл бұрын

Hi! im looking to expand my women empowerment circle! I want to surround myself with women who are going after it! Hope to hear from you :)

@dummy_god67

5 жыл бұрын

+Erica Hardy m in..... I want that too... 9774007882 from India

@peace1137

5 жыл бұрын

+Erica Hardy 👍👍👍 mee to

So you're my mother now. I never got anything like this growing up and have struggled with alot of mental health issues because I didn't have the mentoring and wisdom at the times I needed them most. This is what I will share with my children. Thank you.

@2225ram

6 жыл бұрын

Rachel Priest same here!

@lareekeith510

5 жыл бұрын

Serious what I woulda gave to have that

@olatokunboadeeko3299

5 жыл бұрын

Rachel Priest

@bellasue2540

5 жыл бұрын

i dont think kids look to their parents as mentors. I dont think they pay attention to a parent the way they do someone else. all you can do is try, like she said noone is perfect.

@louisavillarreal437

4 жыл бұрын

Likewise!!

As a 19 year old girl whose mother passed away at the age of 5, I must say.. this video is something that I’ve needed to hear my entire life. No one has told me these things before and now I have a better understanding of what I should be asking out of life. Thank you

She reminds me of Monica Geller

@Bbhjdidbsbaut

5 жыл бұрын

Her name is also Courtney. :0

@subhaiyer6810

5 жыл бұрын

Yess totally

@hannachambers753

5 жыл бұрын

omg SAME

@namitaann4984

5 жыл бұрын

Exactlyyy.

@rhondarose8180

5 жыл бұрын

Asmaa Tarek yeah !

This is one spectacular speech I’ve ever heard.. “Every men you meet wants to sleep with you and it’s not a compliment “ great saying. 🙏🏻

This Tedtalk brought tears to my eyes! The beauty of a woman empowering young women!! This one ought to have millions of views.

@tweetyspecial

5 жыл бұрын

Lorna Blake same

@rachelw821

5 жыл бұрын

SO agree!

@EricaHardymoremakeupplz

5 жыл бұрын

Hi, I would love to connect with you! I am looking to connect with other women who are getting after it and achieving their goals

@sinaport6265

4 жыл бұрын

What a SHERO ❤️

I am so happy and grateful to have seen this now as a 16 year old.

I am a 46 year old woman from Australia and I can tell you she is 100% spot on in everything she is saying. I take my hat off to you, that was brilliant!

I think she gave one of the best Ted talks I have ever seen!

I am so beautiful and smart and valuable. I am powerful. I can do anything I set my mind to. My value is not based on my looks. Nobody can tell me what I am worth. I am a force of nature. No one can stop me or tell me otherwise.

@heee302

4 жыл бұрын

YES TRUE! 👏💖

@aandm7772

4 жыл бұрын

Yes!!

@allisonrussell5160

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! Woohoooo! Love this comment!!

everything is making me cry recently

@laylenhope9327

5 жыл бұрын

JJustJJ *me on my period*

@thaliafano3466

5 жыл бұрын

oh u okay? do u wanna talk?

@johannacannella909

5 жыл бұрын

i forgot i even posted that, its sad that a month ago i actully ment that. Im doing so much better now, the first week of senior year hit me too hard. I'm happy again.

@thaliafano3466

5 жыл бұрын

JJustJJ thats great:) yeah i know the feeling, sometimes it’s just a phase but it can still help to talk and i’ve been there before and u know in case u kinda lost perspective it gets better. im happy you’re better now:3

@shihtzupuppy823

5 жыл бұрын

JJustJJ OMG IKR

She basically summed up what has taken me 30 years to learn... lol. Simply amazing. And absolutely hysterical. Thank you to the speaker 💜

@ceciliay1404

4 жыл бұрын

a 31 year old agrees! And about to make some decision! Girl Up!

@louisavillarreal437

4 жыл бұрын

Wish I had this when I was younger! We need to bring every girl up!

@espem88

4 жыл бұрын

31 here and finally figuring this out too.

This made me tear up a bit...I wish my sisters would have mentored me like this.

@ferfleur

6 жыл бұрын

Joy Sams but maybe, just like you, they weren't mentored themselves, so they didn't know better...

@Nitchmaster5000

5 жыл бұрын

Mentor someone else!!

@peace1137

5 жыл бұрын

👍👍👍

@erinrusmi329

5 жыл бұрын

i wish i would have mentored my sister like this. i was only a few years older than her and there were some... circumstances... that might have contributed to me not having the skills or perspective to do this, but yeah.

@ajen1270

5 жыл бұрын

Mentor someone it can change you forever

I'm 43 and I cried at the end hearing her say "you're not an acorn, you're an oak tree"... because how often does this society make us feel so small and less JUST because we are women? Too often. And I get so tired of trying to prove myself to everyone and even myself sometimes... I just want to be the beautiful me that I know that I am. And I just love this lady for reminding us of how beautiful we ALL truly are... no matter our scars and the ages we carry. Thank you Ted Talks for sharing her with us!

This woman is incredible! THIS is what girls need. The whole community thing, too...YES..Sooo needed right now. I also very much agree with mentorship and self-esteem building for young men, but that should be and probably is another TedX talk!For a very very long time in human history, girls have been completely brainwashed to only keep aiming for a nebulous (and, no one tells them), impossible 'perfection' -i.e...the ability to nurture ALL others and give until exhausted, depleted, while unassisted, no less, and inside they are sad. This is all while ignoring and berating the self, and of course trying to be the society's standard of beautiful, just to be acceptable as female, and always hearing 'get used to accepting less', (as so many are STILL being told) in so many arenas... these are just three common examples of what is reality for women. Society needs awareness of this reality, and needs to encourage what this woman calls, 'girling up'. There is so much greatness, and, there will be, finally, balance, in this world, when these encouraged, equalized and loved women grow up!!! Thank you to this incredible woman for this Ted-X talk!

@peace1137

5 жыл бұрын

👍really good

@miladyartistic5324

5 жыл бұрын

👍👍👍👍

@esseanthony3688

5 жыл бұрын

and thank you for your equally incredible and on point comment!

@blueshoes915

4 жыл бұрын

And that you for your thoughtful, well said reply. 🙌

@aandm7772

4 жыл бұрын

Seriously the amount of things women have to do to fit into societies standards is so exhausting

Sobbing my eyeballs out. EVERY great person in history has had at least one mentor. If you have the ability to mentor, do it. Every. Chance. You. Get.

I haven't watched many Ted Talks, maybe a couple dozen. I've liked most of the talks, but this is by far my favorite. So much so that I am now commenting on KZread for the first time ever. I don't understand why this video is not as popular as others. This was amazing!!

@rachelmargolin9684

5 жыл бұрын

completey agree

@reni1610

4 жыл бұрын

Really amazing 🎉

@Efflorescentey

4 жыл бұрын

Boys have hidden it from us because if all us girls bring each other up, we would be unstoppable and they’re scared

I really wanna hear Tess now, it's been 5 years since this video got uploaded. I wanna hear this incident , this Ted talk from her perspective. How she felt then and now it helped her become someone bigger now. This is really incredible.

That was kinda badass. What are they putting in the water down in Texas? Wow.

ok well im in love with her

@VeeShay1

5 жыл бұрын

You have to get in line behind me

My dad told me when I was 9 or 10 something similar: U r my daughter and you're meant to make a difference and be someone bigger. It has changed everything prob, my life couldn't be so smooth and good without his words.

she has the energy that each and every teenager lacks she is so confident and amusing she is daunting one of the most moving ted talks xoxo

If you have a daughter you need to watch this.

So beautiful!!! And Just because this talk is for and about young women doesn't mean it's anti-boy. It just means that empowering young men and women separately and differently is appropriate and in doing so both are positively impacted. I think when we expect more for ourselves we offer those around us opportunities to want more for themselves. Everybody wins (or at least can choose to).

@sandrabiekmann7424

5 жыл бұрын

You are right.. and we have a choice.. to believe we are beautifull inside an outside...

I wish I was watching this as my younger self ... the world needs this now more than ever!!

I wonder if the people reading this can offer advice and support for each other. This is exactly the kind of community the internet affords, and there is so much potential here.

@GWENDOLlN

4 жыл бұрын

That would be great! Does anybody have any tips for finding a mentor?

I’m not sure I’ve ever been more impressed with another human being. Absolutely stunning and powerful. If there were only one video our society should re-watch every day, it’s this one.

I cried at the beginning and I cried at the end. I'm 33.

Acorn to an Oak Tree! Brilliant!

Beautiful points hit in one discussion: - Emotional being tied with the physical - Love in three ways - Mentoring and cultivating the youth, society’s “untapped resource” - Being authentically yourself

I’m a man and i cried so hard watching this

@johns8065

3 жыл бұрын

@@wanderingbelleasmr1054 what is your comment?!

@wanderingbelleasmr1054

3 жыл бұрын

@@johns8065 at one time there was a comment here calling Good Karma a bad name for crying, I was responding to them, I guess they deleted their comment! Now I’ll delete mine since it’s no longer relevant:)

THAT WAS FREAKING AWESOME!!!!!

One of THE best TED talks I've ever seen. I needed this lady in my life when I was in my 20's. I LOVE her! I am crying as I am typing this. EVERY woman and girl needs to see it over and over again. EXCELLENT!

Oh my goodness There really are people out there who can really change the world. I try to do it. We all should!

Me : Yeah, I'm gonna break up with my boyfriend right away. *Rises from the chair, determined and then realises something* Wait a sec, I do not have a boyfriend.

@ceciliay1404

4 жыл бұрын

Gonna do it today :)

@zoeygodfrey

4 жыл бұрын

@@ceciliay1404 so, how was it?

@ceciliay1404

4 жыл бұрын

@@zoeygodfrey Did it but got back together after one day, then he dumped me in end of Oct. But kinda know thats what i wanna do, so if he did it i let go :). How are you so far?

@zoeygodfrey

4 жыл бұрын

@@ceciliay1404 I'm good. Never been in a relationship... Just flirt around. It's so much more fun. 😀 Where are you from?

even though im only 16 i can't wait to show my (future) daughter this

@susiefrades-white3088

5 жыл бұрын

YESSSSSSSSS! She is ten...and I cannot wait. This affected me more than I would have dreamed....

@sc6155

4 жыл бұрын

@@susiefrades-white3088 consider showing her it now :)

@dudamendesmili1071

3 жыл бұрын

Don’t aspire to have a daughter, aspire to be that daughter

I'm so looking forward to hearing Tess's future Ted Talk.

OH MY GOD! I am so moved. It’s always a reality check for me to keep on pushing for the sky. I believe in my dreams so much I can’t give up. So many ideas. So much self love. Just incredible.

This is one of my favourite Ted - talks. Courtney manages to unite people, she is not only explaining and lecturing, but instantly turning it into action and shows how easy small efforts create big, big was. Good work. Soo good. And thank you ! Greets to Tess and Courts children and husband :)

"Hello beautiful, I say that, because I am, I am!" This came from her soul. When a person knows and is confident about something, you can't shake them a millimeter

I love this so much!! She's so raw, and unashamed about herself. It's so refreshing the way she speaks so honestly.

what happend to tess, i need to know

@zephaudi

5 жыл бұрын

She's doing well we all hope! For you, you're amazing, you're just like Tess. I promise, everyone who ever reads this silly comment is. You've got a world of. possibilities, and you are worthy. Love and peace.

@isabellarichardson1568

5 жыл бұрын

Back at you! :-)))

@sarahhaider1

5 жыл бұрын

@Zephy thank you for this. Needed it.

@akanksha5040

5 жыл бұрын

@@zephaudi thank you& so are you!

@joyitadarling5815

4 жыл бұрын

She is an oak tree. ☺️

The best TED Talk I have ever seen!!!! I love her energy and how she presented it

I have watched a lot of TED Talks, but this is my favorite! I love her passion and the fact that she's not afraid to be herself. Such inspiring, meaningful advice!

This is profoundly powerful and I just realised I need to start today, I am inspired and more so, I am 24 years old so today is the day!! Thank you, God bless you Courtney. " Don't aim to be perfect, just be good enough" Taking that with me

This is SO empowering !! Her energy takes my breath away

I ADORED this TED Talk! Her energy was contagious and what she speaks of, is how I approach work with the youth I am fortunate enough to support. If I run a girls group next year...this is SO going to be a part of it to inspire each other. I WISH I had had a mentor and that's why I go hard for the youth I work with as I know I would've reached different heights if this type of sister love existed when I was entering the work force. And this is 3 yrs old?! It's applicable to today...probably even more so considering all the movements over the last few years.

That was so inspiring I watched it a couple of times and I actually cried. I've never been told that. You are someone I look up at, you stirred something in me,I guess hope. I loved your energy, body language, presentation skills and charisma as much as I loved the content. Hopefully you'll be able to do more of these talks in the future. The world needs people like you.

"Any individual can inspire others through throughtful action"

Where were u 30 years ago?! This is awesome! Glad to at least hear today. ❤️

@assmaall5726

5 жыл бұрын

She was learning all this amazing things haha..it's never too light to watch this. Loved Every Minute!!!

This was the motivation I needed to hear. Thank you for this beautiful presentation! I will watch this everyday to remind myself to reach my full potential and to live myself.

@randompenguin6376

4 жыл бұрын

How did that go?

This talk came RIGHT ON TIME!!!!! I love this talk. I love her energy and her message. This message isn’t just for women aged 17-24. This is for ALL women. You’re never too old to learn new things.

@sandrabiekmann7424

5 жыл бұрын

You are right.. every day.. for every one.. Starting with.. You Are Beautifull..

I've watched this video so many times now. I love it. Definitely one of my favorite TED talks!

This. is. fantastic.

I loved seeing people actually passing their papers over in the audience, and I cried when she looked at Tess and said "the applause is not for me--it's for you."

I loved this this episode-so many tears of joy and love. I believe every young girl should have mentors. A very empowering message for young women. Thank you

She's Amazing! Real Goddess !! I started to reflect in my teenage period, how much time I wasted catering other people's bullshit thoughts about me! Love who you are, and girls gotta live for their original beauty~

Had I heard this 35 years ago, my life would be a whole lot different! I appreciate this and I'm pretty sure this is the best TED I've experienced to date!!

Her speech is super energitic, fun and attention gathering... I can see the spark in her eyes

Well this has changed my life.

girl up!

Great! So much important, practical stuff is packed into this talk with energy, humor and sincerity. Thank you!

This is awesome! I'm a 26 year old Oak Tree that thought I was an acorn. This moved me so today, if you're scrolling the comments before listening please listen, and send it to a girl you love.

I love her spirit. Best talk I've heard. Be a mentor by simply sharing this video. Always remember man/girl up! Love you!

Easily one of the best Ted Talks, I have EVERRR!!! heard. Thank you

she's awesome!

I cried, I usually don't leave any comment on videos but this woman moved something in me. I love this talk and I think I will always re-watch it if im feeling down. Thank you!

This is one of my favorite talks. Love her tenacity 💞

This is so lovely, I wish they had people do talks like this to young girls in schools, or make it into school classes

I wish I had a mentor. This is emotional and very significant

This was so incredible. I love that when we receive the invitation, most people are so willing to help. Spaces like this one are so important for reminding people of that. xo

Just what I needed right now. Thank you

In my opinion this TED-talk is absolutely amazing! ✨

This is the best ted talk I've ever seen! 2019 is gonna be an amazing year!

This was amazing. I dont have anyone in my life like her but thank goodness for the internet where great messages like this can be shared. I needed this!

she is amazing. many good points highlighted and explained in short time. its very important to have guidance while you are growing up and we definitely need someone to discuss about the ongoing issues in our life especially in our teenage. i feel motivated to make a positive change in my young loved one's life. thank you courtney ferrell for sharing the knowledge.

Infectious speaker! What a beautiful message. Thank you for sharing.

women should help women!

This was by far one of the best TT's I have viewed since starting them. I loved everything she said! .

Amazingly Beautiful, it made me cry at the end, fantastic energy and mentoring, may we all continue to help each other rise up!

Wonderful lady, the sky is the limit.

I'm glad that more people like her and others are telling the truth about "love" and how misinterpreted and misunderstood it is to us millennials and the younger generations. We must start with ourselves FIRST and really get to know who we are and love ourselves instead of finding meaning or a purpose within some guy/girl that you will be dependent on because you thin you're experiencing true love but its all an illusion. I've experienced it myself and I gotta admit I fell in love with the illusion of "love" and the tingly sensation I got every time I saw him..... but in reality he wasn't perfect, in fact, he was someone I would never have seen myself dating or getting married to but I was so desperate for attention and meaning that I was blinded from the truth. But now I am awakened by the fact that I need to still live IN THE NOW!!!! (VERY IMPORTANT) rather than always planning/thinking in the future. I need to know who I am, I am still a stranger to myself and I am very surprised with who I was, who I have become and what I am doing every day and how that impacts my life and goal.

Her, this, and her energy are amazing

Courtney you are an absolute gem! I'm sharing this with my daughters, thank you for the shot of inspiration and enthusiasm and passion and self-confidence that we all need. Love you and your work!

I loved this! This is what we need in the world. We have to leave all the bs aside and mentor the person next to us. The teenager, the elder, the friend, the neighbor, the kid, the co-worker, the sibling Just leave your prejudice and be that person to mentor. And if you can't do that then ask for help. It could only make us better...

I felt like I could have listened to her forever! ❤

I loved when said something like: believe one day you are going to be something great. Because I always felt this but around me believes in me really. This motivated me to keep believing in myself, no matter what anyone says.

One of the best TED talks! I literally cried. More power!

This is tooooo amazing - I love it. I really really want to start a movement like this in Johannesburg South Africa and focus on very young girls.

so powerful! nobody has ever talked to me this way, this was great

Beautiful!!! Truly inspiring. Thank you for the message!!

I can't stop watching this. LOVE HER