He’s acting like a victim, but it’s just the consequences of his own actions. I hope ex wife never talks to him again. He seems like the type to try to break up her new marriage.

This man’s life is a mess.

How is bro gonna get at the fact nobody wants to hear abt his problems after he cheated

“I guess no one cares about men’s mental health” after he cheated on his wife. Just trying to play the victim. Glad he’s getting help at least

Way to hide he cheated in an update

Wow. That was .. a lot.

you reap what you sow

This time the Womp Womp is on you

OP’s wife is 26F, they’ve been together for 5 years and the wife had 3 children from before. So she was a 21F with 3 kids from whoever knows 😅

Wow

@Snipergoat1

2 ай бұрын

Yeah Our man done fucked up. In the first part it was like dude you are a karmic Houdini who came out ahead despite being an asshole to everyone. By the end of the second he has a costar in the asshole chair and she was his wife. Funny thing is that despite the state of total fuckery they caused they still might come out respectably well. It a bit of a long shot but it's doable. He is going to have to bite the bullet on the affair kids and treat her as well as he does the others. That might be tough because unlike his best friend , his wife actually betrayed him. She is also the wild card in this normally she would be gone but she is a package deal with the kids and he needs those kids as a focus for his rather sketchy moral compass. If she is smart she too will realize tat this is about as good an option as she is going to get especially post affair and affair baby however since they have both shown clinical levels of poor decision making. I wish them luck for those kids sakes if nothing else. If they both work at it they may be able to total together to one respectable parent.

Nta divorce your wife those kids will never love you in the end maybe they will but she may try to manipulate them and so maybe not but you should just get a fresh start stop talking to your ex wife and get a enough money to find somewhere to live get a new life and fresh start new person to date get married don’t invite your parents nore any of your exs or your ex friend

@rubi6330

2 ай бұрын

He is the ah and he needs a therapist too

@icebreakergamez1344

2 ай бұрын

@@rubi6330 how? Is he the ahole?

@p-_-.b

2 ай бұрын

@@icebreakergamez1344he cheated on ex wife to begin with, and also there really was no reason for 2nd wife to bring up ex wife and friend getting together. Lashing out and calling her stupid for not telling him wasn’t the best move. But it seems he’s trying to be better, so good for him.

@Snipergoat1

2 ай бұрын

Man I don't know anything more about this situation than you do but i got to say, your advice sucks. We cannot make any assumptions about the kids. Remember that most reedit stories are pure fiction they love to use standard troupes in endless slight variation to try to get that perfect combination for maximum internet points. Do not use them as a baseline for human behavior. Now after I have insulted you (not intentional other than the advice sucks bit because it does) First lets look at the kids. they are 6-8 years old and he has been with his old lady for 5 years so the oldest was three when he came into their lives Since women who make her types of choices tend to make poor one regarding men it is probable that he is the only father that they know or will ever know. and he has been their for them the for as long as they can remember. Humans cannot form memories before they are around 3. They obviously can learn memories things but memories in the way we think of them takes until brain growth strops it's it's initial sprint. A as assuming that he is giving us at least a close approximation to empirical truth otherwise we are just giving impressions of a story AKA pissing in the wind. As the only father they know and who has loved them and cared for them it is likely that he has bonded with them as solidly as with her. Poisoning them against him is a likely backfire. Although many of the oft repeated troupes are unlikely they do emphasize an very real difficulty that can happen when you date women that have kids. and it is born of the best of intentions. That is when you meet this woman, she seems great and you really think you might make a go of it with her so naturally you set out to for a relationship with her kid(s) as well. Unlike what these types of stories tell you this can and often does work though involving older kids it is usually a bit more arms length. However you can and often do develop a good relationship with them one where you care about them and vise versa. However if you spit up you typically have no legal rights to those kids unless you adopt which is not always possible or even wise to do older kids can be especially resistant and see it as a betrayal of their other parent. Not much you can do there. Also on more than one occasion I have known a divorced person that were just fine with moving along with the former spouse but speak wistfully about the former step kids sometimes this goes well and they maintain some kind of relationship but not often. The current wife (Mom to those kids is a far greater risk than the kids are. although he already knows that the kid is not his and normally that is and instant deal breaker, nothing is ever 100% and in this case contact with the kids is a package deal the wife moves back with mom in another state and frankly being dad to those kids is probably the most emotionally healthy thing he has going on has going on and with a mother like that it is likely he is for them too. I suppose he should count the time between the child's birth ans when she first suggested he get his vasectomy reversed. Not that there is an acceptable timing it can tell you a bit about her personal level of deviousness. Was she knocked up a the new kid story cooked up as cover? Or was the kid something she has wanted for a while and she had been after. It is easy to guess how this all come out. He was having one of his fits over his ex moving on she got jealous of her husband being in love with a different woman and blurted it out in attempt to hurt him back. Another odd thing is her passivity. She says she will abide with whatever he decided but did not express an opinion herself This is almost a rare case of stay with the old lady cheating be damned but she is a constant stream of red signals. Despite all of this they are not doomed. They can hit a sort of meta stability. Stability. It a long shot but is probably the best shot that lot are likely going to get. That is to looks at each other plainly and accept they they are both a mess and they both have enough screw ups to burn every bridge either has ever had. Yet somehow they have each other and a small handful of people who do have their best interests at heart His buddies who told him he was fucking up are about the best assets he has.His moral compass is lose and all over the place. They can help point out if he is starting to fuck up. The old lady is equally screwball and although having three young kids generally put enough head out of your ass pressure that alone was not sufficient to keep her legs together. Also if they do go for it again he needs to adopt those kids. He binds himself legally and financially to them permanently that way but it sounds as it that is not an issue and he would suffer far more for the loss of those kids than paying some money to them. Moreover if he does this he is going to want that 4th child with them that one might personally hurt though as she is the product of a personal betrayal. Man will have to run his zen extra hard because he cannot treat her differently. Kids are very perceptive of that. this man needs some good luck but he's already had a lot of it to fuck up as much as he has and still have a solidt shot at a decent life. As to the rest of your advice I think it is half assed and shows that you are a bit too believing of recycled troupes troupes and their frequency in reallife He is not a kid. starting over is not something he wants to do. He is a 37 year old twice married financially stable man (if not an emotionally stable one) Nor at his age is he looking for a fairy tail story ending. You are not wrong to be cautious about his wife but she is most closely connected to his best shot at long term happiness and stability and they kinda both deserve each other but adopting those kids will ensure that is it goes south with her he still keeps what he prizes most a relationship with those kids. He sounds as if he is willing to do what is necessary to make the long term changes he needs to do. Sh is more questionable and my inner unlicensed pop psychologist is picking up hints of an avoidant personality. It far from the worst disorder out there but comparing personality disorders is like discussing what boots it's best to get kicked in the nuts by. There are no good choices other than none whatsoever. It never really says much about his parents but it sounds as if whatever in doing on involved something they should have with no more information is to ride out the low patch ypor parents are always going to be your parents so so long as things arne't hostile yo can let things chill of a time. They won't be around forever though so keep a steady flow of interest on the line AS to the best bud. FIrst thing he needs to do is to shed every last ounce of the "You betrayed me" energy. His boy did not betray him. 2 years is a respectable time to wait post any length of a marriage. In fact the only thing that this guy did was to disparage OPs current wife. Not cool but understandable all things considered. Once all that is gone from his system send a message via Email apologizing for accusing him of treachery. Mention that it too a long time to write this but it is difficult to admit to being totally in the wrong but their many years of friendship demanded that things be made right as possible regarding him Point out that he did things honorably. Then tell him that He was glad that in all this mess he was glad they had found each other and that they are two of the finest human being he had ever known and deserve all the happiness it the world. The end it with a suggestion that if he is ever in town and wants to catch a game or whatever their favorite hangout activity was that he would be availible. He may or may not hear from his former bud ever again again. Even if he doesn't at least the last communication he had with his long time friend would not be him making a total ass of himself. End things with class if they must end.

@icebreakergamez1344

2 ай бұрын

@@Snipergoat1 he sounds depressed will probably end his life by the sounds and the kids aren’t his he should get a divorce from his current wife cause she’s crap your advice sucks homie