I am 16, and I'm soon to start T. I'm choosing to freeze my eggs just in case. It's hard to delay my T process but I don't want to regret it.

@CM-qy2fm

5 жыл бұрын

Same I don’t no what to do

@toasty5393

4 жыл бұрын

On the same boat, hoping this person replies??

@itaygavish6694

4 жыл бұрын

I'm 14 and I'm going to be freezing my eggs in a month. I want to start blockers already but I know I'll be happy in the future that I froze eggs before starting blockers and then T in case I want a biological child

@actuallysstutters

4 жыл бұрын

Oh god, I now just saw this. I didn't end up doing it, my clinic never referred me unfortunately. And, I said I could wait, but I ended up just saying "fuck it.." Even for IVF, I think freezing eggs is a difficult process. I'm almost 21 now and 4 years on T. We'll see if my eggs are in shambles in the future lmao. I'm no where ready to have kids yet, and my IUD doesn't expire for another 11 years lmao

@aromanticfranziskavonkarma

3 жыл бұрын

I have a huge fear of being pregnant(the idea of having to push a human being out of my body squicks me out a ton, also y'know, dysphoria and such) so once I'm able to go on T I'm probably not gonna freeze my eggs

As an intersex woman, I'd be a high risk pregnancy. It would be possible, but I don't want to risk hurting myself and a belly child. I know there are lots of kids out there who need good homes, so I'll adopt one of them. Yes, there are risks to adoption and foster care, but those are predictable risks. Me getting pregnant is an unpredictable risk.

I have just recently come out as transgender, and I just wanted to say that your videos make me feel so much better about myself and make me feel like I have hope. So thank you. I have hope for my future. I support you so much.

@Jammidodger

8 жыл бұрын

+My Name Is Savy Congrats on coming out, it's a massive step! I hope everything goes well for you. Thank you :)

I agree, Jammi. There are lots of us who are sterile, who are missing parts of our reproductive system and therefore need to find other ways to experience being parents..

I definitely find it easier to imagine I never could have biologically had children than to dwell on the fact I chose not to, but I know I wouldn't have been able to afford it anyway. I think more importance should be put on it by the healthcare provider for younger transmen and transwomen before they decide to risk their fertility. They should definitely explain the options a lot more thoroughly. As you say, it's easy to ignore it when you're eager to start hormones but it's a decision that could be regretted later.

Heavy topic. I think I am still working through the grieving process of not being able to have biological children, as I didn't freeze my eggs and have had a hysto. I don't regret the path I've gone down but it really is something to think hard about before making these big decisions. Nice job with this video and sharing your experience. And thanks for bringing up the point about what helped you process it. Thinking about how cis men are not always fertile has helped me too and it's a great reminder.

This video means a lot to me Jaime, I just got back from my Gender Therapist and we were talking about me starting hormones because I should be starting late this month and this topic came up. I've been doing research on egg fertility in transmen and you made a very valid point by stating that fertility is not guaranteed regardless of being transgender or cis-gendered. Thank you so much!

you can still freeze your eggs after starting T, you just have to go off of T for a few months beforehand. Cayden Carter made some videos about his experience, thats exactly what he did

@Jammidodger

8 жыл бұрын

+Juvenale I have heard of that, but just like before, it's not a process I feel I can go through.

@juvenale5660

8 жыл бұрын

Of course, just letting you know incase you didnt!

@Jammidodger

8 жыл бұрын

Juvenale Thank you :)

Jammi, none of us should look back and question decisions we have made in the past. We all suffer from selective memory and can never duplicate the mindset at the time. If we keep wondering about the past we will not focus on moving ahead and will stumble in the present moment. Be so happy to be where you are in the present moment..........Ray

@Jammidodger

8 жыл бұрын

+okimlistening2u I'm very happy with where I am now, I feel very lucky. This video was less of a questioning of my previous decisions and more a topic I would have found useful 5 years ago, and a discussion of my thought process at the time and how I feel now on this issue. Thank you for your comments, they are always incredibly nice and supportive :)

@okimlistening2u

8 жыл бұрын

Jammi, you are truly the best and I am so happy for your insights and your positive role modeling for other trans people. Thank you so much for your courage and efforts here.......love you...........Ray

This video is really helpful to me; as a trans guy, I should be starting T soon, and I was worrying about this exact thing. I am quite young but I believe I have made my decision, and it is that 1. pregnancy would give me quite a bit of dysphoria, and 2. there are many different ways to have kids such as adoption. This channel has been so helpful to me in my transition, so thank you ❤

I'm 16 and I really wanna start T and become male but my height is stopping me from doing it. I'm 5'2 and I hate it as a girl, I couldn't imagine staying this short as a boy. It's really frustrating.

This is a question I really wanted to ask but thought it might be a bit too personal and invasive. Glad you did this video.

I’ve got my first appointment in the morning and I’m nervous, not because of the procedure or anything like that. I’m more scared that it will take a long time to sort out, because this is the last thing I need to do before testosterone, so as soon as it’s sorted, I get my hormones. So I’m just anxious and impatient. So much is going on in my head, I’m 16 and the idea of kids is not important in my head right now. So I’m just wanting this all to be over as quick as possible.

In my country you have to be sterile and you have to go to a therapy at least for a year if you want transdiagnosis. It sucks really hard because they treat you like a crazy person and you have to do all kinds of weird tests. You have to go trough all the surgeries (expect downstairs) to get the hormones. Also it's illegal here to give birth a child to someone else. You are one lucky fellow.

i love your large brown eyes!

Probably one of your more profound vids. The FTM trans I know all made the same decision you did (at least the ones who told me). It's not an easy decision, and one of the important things to remember when beginning T. On the flip side, of the half dozen or so MTF trans I know, 2 of them opted to have their sperm frozen and stored. Of course, it's a lot easier for a MTF to save than a FTM. Neither of those 2 ever used their stored sperm though.

Thanks for sharing your opinion on the subject. I admire and respect your personal choice in the matter and at 17 is incredible. Still, I have a feeling you would make a good parent even though you won't have biological kids yet nevertheless you're a wonderful person and that's all that matters.

I am 14 and I was told that I need to decide soon (I am hopefully starting blockers in a few months) and I have NO idea what to do! Ahh!

@Jammidodger

7 жыл бұрын

Sorry you're feeling confused about what to do. The only advice I can give is to make sure that you make the right decision regardless of any delays it might cause or what it will mean for the future. All the best!

@myotiswii

4 жыл бұрын

Blockers normally do not make you infertile for long term....

I was in a similar position as you tho I am mtf I was given a choice at 17 don't start e and sperm bank or start and take the risk at the time and still now the money is not there to throw $1k and if I may never have bio kids I am fine with that I don't regret the decision I took at all and I wont go off of hormones but what helped me is that I have a sister and a brother and they would help me if I really wanted it or I can just adopt kids and give them a second chance at life.

hey jammi, i have a question. how old do you have to be to freeze your eggs?

you are a beautiful person

Did your opinion change?

I waited a long time to get on T. I starting viewing myself as sterile several years ago.

Even if you don't carry a child. You have the option if you and your partner agree to of course you could give her your eggs

I kind of want to freeze eggs but mine are probably too fucked to live

wise and all mighty comments section, Im trans (ftm) and pan. I have no idea how to come out to my mom. she is bi but idk how she would feel about the whole trans thing, how should I go about telling her im really a boy?

@Jammidodger

7 жыл бұрын

Hey! If you're really nervous maybe you could try and find out her general opinion on trans people? Try bringing up a TV character etc. that you've seen and just start a discussion about it. Also think about how you'd like to tell her, what would make you most comfortable? Telling her in person? Giving her a letter (that she could either read with you there, or privately)? Have you come out to anyone else? Telling someone else first who you are confident will be supportive can really help - they could even be with you when you tell others. When you're ready to tell your mum, be open to her asking questions, needing time, and not understanding straight away. I think it's always good to hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst. Hope this can help, all the best! :)

@hyperactivegamergal3879

7 жыл бұрын

Jammidodger I have come out to others close to me like my friends, so far everyones been excepting and supporting. thanks for the advice it means alot to me.

@hyperactivegamergal3879

7 жыл бұрын

also how much does taking T cost?

@Robb3636

5 жыл бұрын

@@hyperactivegamergal3879 If you live in the UK, it's free. If you live in the US, it can be a bit expensive, but definitely affordable if it's a really big priority. (I know this is a year late so you probably won't see this but ah well)

i can't freeze my eggs in my country :( if i start t i won't have any chance of having my biological child

I am 16 and I might want to get pregnant. But since eggs get damaged by freezing, I just hope that in a few years I might have enough fertility. I am on T right now and ok with how I acted, that I didn't want to freeze them. I have no idea if it will work but that's ok.

How long have you been on T?

@Jammidodger

8 жыл бұрын

+Hanna May Nearly 4 years

@bobtheburgerman2105

8 жыл бұрын

+Jammidodger Omg, you actually answered, didn't think you would, you look awesome though by the way (:

@Jammidodger

8 жыл бұрын

I try my best to answer :P Thank you :)

@bobtheburgerman2105

8 жыл бұрын

+Jammidodger I look up to you though Jammi 😜

Wait, I thought you came out and started T after your second year at college! And now you're saying you were 17?

@Jammidodger

5 жыл бұрын

UK college, it's the equivalent age to the last two years of American high school

@Dhor16

5 жыл бұрын

Jammidodger Oh! I did not know that about the UK school system. So do you graduate school at 16?

@Robb3636

5 жыл бұрын

@@Dhor16 Well, that's how it is in England (and maybe Wales?) In Scotland we leave school 18/17 (17 for me). I think in England maybe it's more integrated into school? But essentially probably yes.

Stopping T, freezing eggs, and having a healthy child is still an option. Just so you know.

first comment c:

The pressure was kinda.. falsely put onto you, because you can always stop T for a few months, begin getting periods again, go through the 2 week process of freezing eggs, and then start T again. T doesn't do anything negative to fertility, but it's recommended trans men get hysto/oophorectomy within 5 years of starting T b/c of the increased risk of endometrial cancer. Buut I guess for you, personally, it doesn't matter 'cause you're married to a woman anyway. I'm more just saying this for viewers.

It's expensive to freeze your eggs. 10000$ who has this kind of money when teenager?

@dudetime3092

7 жыл бұрын

In the UK, we have the NHS which means we get free health care, but it takes a while for you to move forward in your transition

WTFF! still dont get why pple transition?