We’re doing a “first touch” sort of thing! My fiancé actually was very adamant about wanting that moment of seeing me walk down. We’re going to hide on either side of a corner and hold hands and pray!😊

@AlliNW0nderland.

10 ай бұрын

That’s what I want to do!

We are doing a first look and reading our vows to each other. I LOVE when people write their own vows, but we are both very private and don't want to stand in front of a hundred people and say them. So we're going to read them to each other before the wedding and have the videographer capture it. That way I can get all my tears out and still fix my makeup before the ceremony! LOL

@brettbrosius1342

5 жыл бұрын

That is SUCH a great idea!!!

@glamgirl7779

5 жыл бұрын

Jessica THAT IS SUCH A GREAT IDEA! THANK YOU!! ❤️

@starvingbanker1108

5 жыл бұрын

Amazing idea!

@magickaldust1213

4 жыл бұрын

Literally thank you for this comment. I'm a crier, this is a lifesaver 😅

@craziinancy1

2 жыл бұрын

I loveeee this idea

"Got all the finger guns out of his system"

@amandacawley5799

4 жыл бұрын

Nikol Heczková Gotta get those outta here.

I’m getting married today! And I couldn’t sleep, I’ve been awake since 4am so I thought it was only appropriate to binge watch your videos. Thank you! ❤️

@glamgirl7779

5 жыл бұрын

Amanda Kelly very late congratulations but congratulations! 🎊

I just made the decision to do a first look and you answered all my questions...Thank you. You should get your husband to do a video with you "from the groom's side" of the day.

@chloegilroy8422

5 жыл бұрын

That's a brilliant idea, I'd love to see what a groom has to say about their experience

@tilarfifield2407

5 жыл бұрын

YES PLEASE!! That is an awesome idea!

@kristinamola3519

5 жыл бұрын

@@JamieWolfer even if he won't it'd be great to hear about his thoughts on the WHOLE process. My boyfriend is sooo cute and clueless about the whole process. He said he wished there were more videos for him to understand how to pick a ring and propose and he's Ukrainian so the traditions are totally different. I was also searching for a couples wedding prep video where it clues the guys in on budgets, peer pressures gals face, etc...

@glamgirl7779

5 жыл бұрын

Ashley Luna-Johnson I love how thorough she is. She has answered tons of my questions so far.

@maddiehistoryluver

5 жыл бұрын

Same here, I didn't want to do one and he does and now I'm on board

For me doing a first look has nothing to do with photos, it’s more about me and my fiancé being in the right state of mind. We’re both big criers and I think we need to get the ugly crying out of the way, honestly probably won’t have a lot of photos during the first look

@glamgirl7779

5 жыл бұрын

Lindsey Hagen yes I have even heard of first looks being a top secret (so no photos because even the photographer doesn’t know).

@darcyferrigno

4 жыл бұрын

Haha I am a crier so that is a reason I am doing. My good friend can retouch the makeup. And Il be less nervous...I HATE being in front of people so I know he can help calm my nerves

i'm not even dating anyone or thinking about marriage but i love watching your videos!

@katherynkitttty

5 жыл бұрын

Emelina A. Literally same!

@glamgirl7779

5 жыл бұрын

Emelina A. Lol I’m not even engaged yet but I have already started planning (granted, we have been looking at rings and talking about getting engaged)

@shaylaterkalas768

3 жыл бұрын

I spy a wedding dress in your profile picture 👀

I have captured +50 weddings on video and photo and I have NEVER heard anyone regret doing a first look. I have had it the other way, though. So if in doubt, do it

My husband and I saw each other before the ceremony 30 years ago. He is very tall and he had a few hairs sticking up and needed powder on his forehead to not shine in the pics. We then took all the pics before the wedding with all the bridal party and family. We were the first people at our reception and it was great. My daughter is getting married this June and she and her fiancée will do a first look and then we will take all the pics at the church of the bridal party and family. They will be the first ones at the reception and have time to be alone before they are presented without having all the guests to wait to begin the party. The older members of both families will be able to be in the pictures and then partake of the party as they wish and then leave when they need too. A big win for everyone.

“Got all the finger guns out of his system” that made crack up!!!

Love this, my guy is in the military and I have a sneaking suspicion that he will not cry in uniform in front of everyone so a first look is an awesome option for us!

Who else started crying when she said "BOOM" and he started crying? Just me? Ok. 08:43

@NightMaresInTheSky

4 жыл бұрын

Literally me too, clicked on your time stamp and watched it again and cried AGAIN. Ugh I can't with weddings lol

@lauras5359

4 жыл бұрын

Ugh me😂

Your husband’s reaction and then yours! ❤️ Thank you for sharing!

@ericairizarry6563

5 жыл бұрын

Raven Chavez they were soo cute!! 😍😍

@glamgirl7779

5 жыл бұрын

Raven Chavez I know 😍😍😍😍

Umm now I'm dying to watch your wedding video!!!??

@Megan-R

5 жыл бұрын

@@MoonlightandGuitars Thank you!!

@Megan-R

5 жыл бұрын

@@JamieWolfer Yes I did!! So so cute, you can really tell how much love went into that day.

@glamgirl7779

5 жыл бұрын

Megan I am too 😍😍

Omg your husbands reaction made me teary eyed! I love how you pointed out even after seeing you four minutes prior he got emotional. Love it!

6:12 - TWO HOURS!? OH lawd I'm going to faint of starvation by the end of the ceremony.

Y A Y! So excited 🎉 for your second channel!! Definitely going to watch the big hair don’t care video. XO

Yay! I've been waiting for this video!

Wow! I’m so happy I found your channels! I was STOKED when you mentioned your second channel on this video. I’m a new follower but I really connect with your content. Thank you for creating!

I struggle with anxiety. I know that if I could not see my fiancé on the day I would have a panic attack. I feel like it would bring me far more peace to do one Plus the benefit of extra photos is priceless to me.

Yay! So happy you have a second channel!

I love your videos! You are right "ain't nobody got time for that!" Now to convince the other half to do first look (he is also very weird and finger guns will also probably feature highly!) Thank you for putting so much time into creating content :) the videos are so helpful and you are super energetic! 😊

So glad you made this video it was helpful and I loved the clips of your wedding!. You looked so beautiful!! Heading over to your second channel now

Jamie, you are excellent Seriously, the best on KZread

Omgsh!!! I love and appreciate ur video footage so much my eyes are watering rn

These videos are the only thing keeping me sane in the planning process

I love your channel! You should do a video getting the groom’s POV of the rehearsal, the wedding and the after party 🎉

Aww Jamie you almost had me tearing up twice in this video! I am so looking forward to my wedding day! We have decided to do first look as gives more time as we have a later ceremony start time. Plus I love aspect of having a lil alone time together before ceremony! ❤️ Love watching your videos and I let the ads play for ya girl! 😊

We just talked about this!!! Love it!!

Subscribed to that second channel, I had been wanting to follow you beyond weddings because I won’t be engaged forever. Thank you for starting it!

Such a relief to hear that moment when the husband sees you walking down the isle is still special! That was my main concern about first look. Thanks for sharing bits of your wedding too!!

I have been waiting your videos for what seems like forever and I don't think I knew you had a second channel. You need to talk about it more!

Thank you for this!!!! Perfect timing!

Yes! I am so glad that you made this video. This is something that I have debated on when thinking about my future wedding, whenever that may be. You explained both the pros and cons perfectly and are so correct when saying that it's truly a personal decision. I think I have made up my mind to still do the first look just for timing purposes so I'm not stressing. but I like how you mentioned that sometimes the guys don't want to do it because they want that moment at the altar. I'm also glad that you mentioned that it really doesn't usually ruin that moment at the altar, because that is something that I was relatively concerned about. Thank you for consistently being an honest wealth of information, totally going to check out your second channel now!

I highly recommend them! I've had couples on the fence opt to do them at my suggestion and have always told me they were so glad they did!!

Omg your aisle moment was so sweet

Hey Jamie Your videos are keeping me on track as I am doing our wedding planning. I was just thinking about first look a little while ago. My fiance is also a little weird when a camera is around. We just took our engagement photos and it was a weird but fun time taking pictures. I am going to show him this video.

My dad and I will be doing a special father-daughter first look! Especially precious for us since my mom passed away and won’t be a part of the wedding day ❤️ even though I won’t be doing a bride/groom first look, thank you for these tips!

Having more time for photos, getting those prewedding jitters out of the way, and spending some quality time before being swept away by the guests were the exact reasons why we chose a first look. We wanted some time to take in the intimate moment.

Love that you dispelled this myth @ 8:00! I've said this to so many of our couples. I also love you said not to be pressured into doing a first look. We often give pros and cons and then say "We are 100% supportive of what you feel is perfect for you!" Great advice!

Thank you for making this video! It was very helpful!

I was totally against the First Look thing because of tradition... but gosh now you've made me think about this O.O it sounds nice...

I am so thankful for this video. Thank you!!!

when she said boom he wasn't the only one that started crying!! so Beautiful.

My fiance actually wanted to do a first look, because we've been to (and been in) a few weddings over the last two years (including his sisters) and he hates taking a lot of pictures and missing the actual wedding (cocktail hour/reception) for them. I was actually hesitant, because like you said, I thought it would ruin the moment of walking down the aisle and seeing each other for the first time, but I agreed to do the first look because I also don't want to miss all of that time being with our guests and him for photos. But my fiance is a lot like your husband. He's very goofy and silly and so seeing that you both still had that moment, even after seeing each other earlier for first look photos made me cry. I'm not getting married until next February and we just booked our photographer, but now I'm super excited for our first look! Thank you so much for this video and all of your videos!

I seriously love your videos!

Jamie you are the best!

I love the idea of doing a first look, it will be non-pressured time together before the wedding. Plus, I think I will be more relaxed in the photos because I won't be thinking about my guests at cocktail hour and how long we are taking away from them. I love the idea of taking a few minutes for ourselves privately after the vows. Plus, the photographer told me then we can get more photos of our guests during cocktail hour. Good point, I never thought about giving the photographer more time with more backgrounds to choose from.

Subscribed! Oh my goodness! You already have 3 videos! How did I miss this?

This video was super helpful love your channel

Hahahahahaha had a good laugh at your finger guns!! So adorable!!

Jamie will you make a video specifically on DAYTIME weddings, pros and cons, things to consider, etc? Like a 10 AM wedding let's say with a brunch reception.

I’d love a video on microweddings. Specifically... how do you make a restaurant reception special?

I definitely will do a first look♥️♥️♥️

Something that is very common here in Utah is do a bridals photoshoot prior to the wedding. It's separate from engagements and the day of. That's when most people do their first look as well as a big chuck of the couple only pictures. You still get the sentimental pictures but it doesn't take time in your day of timeline.

I'm the weird one in my relationship and I wanted a first look but the groom is not comfortable with it. He wants the traditional moment so that's what were going for 😊

Please share your wedding video! Seeing those little clips made me wanna watch the whole thing lol

Love your channel!!

My fiancé and I are planning on doing our first look a month prior with our dog, photographer and videographer. We will be also reading our personalized vows to each other then. We choose this because we are more private people and wanted an elopement but we care too much about our big families. We also couldn't have our dog at the venue 😢. Just another option!

Your husband reminds me of my fiancé. ❤️ He’s always so goofy in front of the camera

@tigerbiteme

5 жыл бұрын

Jamie Wolfer LoL so true! Never a dull moment with my weirdo 😂

@glamgirl7779

5 жыл бұрын

Sa Lor hahaha that’s so funny 😂

This is definitely good to consider!! Thank you for sharing! I'm struggling to find affordable options to cater an intimate event, I am even thinking of self catering. Help!

Hey hey I'm chezel from south africa. I want to say thank you for all you're you tube videos of weddings and what weddings are all about. We where ment to get married last year but covid happend. Now we are getting married on the 29th May 2021, it's a few weeks away from now. I really want to thank you coz all your videos have been a grate help. I hope I can share pictures with you of my big day and show how your videos have helped me on my day. 😀

Oh my gosh, I don’t know what’s wrong with me today, but I definitely teared up watching this video. I am definitely the weird one out of the two of us, so u feel like I’m leaning towards the first look, but I’m also so traditional. And Jimmy is no help (“I’m going to cry either way, so it’s up to you.”)

Late to the video here, but you just completely converted me from a "never in my life would I do a first look" to "OMG I have to have a first look".

I am still deciding on what I wanna do !!

45 days until my big day and the thing I am looking forward to most is our first look!

That is so cool that your husband still had that reaction even though he is a total joker and already saw you❤️❤️❤️

I wanted to do a first look with my fiance but he has strong feelings about wanting to save that moment for the ceremony and hos feelings are very important to me and I want him to feel heard. He knows I really want to do one so he said I should do it with my dad. But I have two dads *bio and step* and I can't choose between the two. I've decided to do it with my oldest brother. I'm so excited because he's the one that's really been there for me

I was literally just researching this yesterday!! How did you know!?!?

@glamgirl7779

5 жыл бұрын

Danii Popss she always knows 😍

My future hubby does not want first looks, but I do. This is still up in the air. Making him watch this video as we speak. Proud to say there was minimum eye rolling when i told him he was going to watch this with me😂. Love that you have a second channel and I get to see more of you. 😍P.S You and tour hubby are to cute!!!

@spadesgrl

5 жыл бұрын

My fiance and I faced the same thing! He doesn't want one, and I do, so we brainstormed and I came up with a compromise! There's lots of couples that have "first looks" while on either side of a door, or tree, or whatever else. So y'all don't see each other (because my man wants to save that for seeing me walking down the aisle) but you can still have each other's presence, and that's perfect for me because I know I'll probably be a mess on the day of, worrying about everything going smoothly 😅 though I am hoping to have a coordinator the day of, just to help run things, I heard you could possibly hire a planner/coordinator for JUST the big day, so I'm looking into it. I hope that helped at least a little!

@candacekinney7386

5 жыл бұрын

spadesgrl that is an amazing idea thank you!!!

@fxjrulpzxi

4 жыл бұрын

Candace Kinney are you me?! 😭😂

JUST had this convo with one of my couples! I love that I can reference an actual video to them!

Lol im definitely not sitting in hair & makeup 2hrs b4 my wedding I’ll be shiny af by the time i walk down the aisle lol

I'll love you see your ideas of DIY seating charts :)

@sarahgerena7656

5 жыл бұрын

Would love to see it!

Hey Jamie, So our compromise for a first look was to have time to talk and pray together, but not see each other. I'm incredibly awkward and get so nervous, but talking to my fiance can talk me down out of anything. We also are planning on using horses so actually coordination that is also important. Any tips of how to fit that into the schedule? Probably closer to the ceremony?

You are gorgeous!

I made a grand master list of pictures for my photographer amd his assistant and we were planning on 3 first looks. Bridal party, FOB, and groom then an immediate sweep into the wedding party photos so we didnt have to do them after the ceremony.

OMG Jamie I needed this video so badly. We have recently (finally... yay!) set our date and picked our venue and some core vendors. While talking to our photographer she was under the assumption that we would do a first look, which did not make me happy. I originally wanted to do a first look with my dad because hello they are adorable! But since then my fiancé’s aunt (our mistress of ceremonies) has been really trying to convince me to do one with my fiancé. She was basically saying everything you said... more time for photos and less pressure. My fiancé is very emotional so he is going to cry no matter what. I’m very torn because the photos are the most important thing to me, but I’m just not sure I’m willing to sacrifice that traditional side of things. And everyone tells me “oh you do what you want because it’s your day!” No. That does not help me.

@sarahgerena7656

5 жыл бұрын

This is exactly how I feel!

@Swiss_Girl

5 жыл бұрын

me too!!!! 😫 i just dont know

@TheAshyDawn

5 жыл бұрын

Why not have your dad and fiancee both there acting like they are talking and then you'll show up for the reactions?

Asian weddings you’re up at 4am to get ready by 9am to have various different of ceremonies that last til about 12 or 1pm. Wedding doesn’t end til 3am lol. When you have family from out of town party continues to your house or your parent’s house.

You are helping me so much thabk you for all the tips. I swear your saving me so much research time. I love you lol 💜💚💙💛

Another Con (from my experience): Getting stuff all over your dress :D My best friend did a first look in a park and after the shoot we had to scramble to get all the bugs out of her 7! layers of tulle. Oh I also stepped on her and my dress, ripped both (just a little but you know.. Aaaah), because I was walking through grass in heels. Would have been equally bad after the ceremony but there was a lot more drama, because you want to look perfect for your walk down the aisle.

@vickers5941

5 жыл бұрын

@@JamieWolfer It sure was :D

Omg finger guns 😂😂😂love it so much

So I am definitely not doing a first look, one: I’m against it bc it’s so blah sometimes idk and two: I’m having a church ceremony haha but GURRRRLL you made think of some things that never crossed my mind about why people do it haha ... you’re good!

Ok sooooo I was so against doing a first look but after watching this video and I am seriously considering it. 1. Because taking an hour and a half worth of pictures after the ceremony will probably make my fiance super aggravated. (I don't want it to take that long either). 2. I think it would help to calm my nerves and my fiance's before walking down the aisle. I think it might help me from ugly crying down the aisle too. 3. It will give us an opportunity to have a special moment together before the craziness begins. I am so glad to hear you say that it did not have any effect on the moment of you walking down the aisle. One of my major concerns is that moment being ruined because we have already seen each other. And I think my fiance would really appreciate being able to react openly without having 200 people staring at him when he sees me for the first time that day.

Eeeerhmerhgeerd so now I'm not only in love with you, but you and your husband too!! I've been telling my friends for yeeeaaars to get a weirdo, they're the best! I was gonna say something with some sort of point but now I forgot all about it and I'm just giddy over how sweet you guys are! I'll be back once the brain is working again!

@katjaoksanen944

5 жыл бұрын

Whoa that's a lot of exclamation marks! Sorry!

@katjaoksanen944

5 жыл бұрын

@@JamieWolfer Definitely! And mine is a secret weirdo which is so much fun! He looks like a respectable man, especially next to me, but then he imitates a seal when he's hungry and people are taken aback 😂

I'm getting married in over a year, but the last month and a half of being engaged I have been obsessively watching your videos and yes, I'll admit, Say Yes To The Dress. But I would be so lost without your content.

Ahhh girl I'm already crying just THNKING about our wedding! So binge watching your videos today while I attempt paper maché for the first tine sense high school... because weddings bring out the crazy crafter in all of us!

When I asked my fiancé which he preferred his replay was “Do you want me crying in public or private cause it’s going to happen?” Haha love this man

My wedding ceremony was at 5:30 at night. We did all the photos beforehand so we didn't lose daylight and didn't have to have everyone wait for us during "cocktail hour"

I’m the bride in 💕less than a week. I have the case of finger guns it’s just my thing & I was thinking omg what if I bust out with guns 😂 during the ceremony so thank you so much for this information .

When your fiance first says he doesnt want to see your dress until i come down the aisle, to now may be considering a first look....

My fiancé and I decided not to do a first look. Since the beginning the moment of those church doors opening and him seeing me for the first time is all I wanted. However that decision is costing us beautiful outdoor pictures since we are getting married November 29 in New Hampshire which means zero chance of sunlight after the ceremony. We will basically only have church pictures and some manufactured lighting pictures. But that’s the choice we made :)

Love your videos! I just subscribed and I've been watching all of then Haha! I have a question... so I will not have much money at all to spend on my wedding and I know I will not be able to invite many of my family/older adult friends due to cost of the reception. I know invitation only receptions are very rude so I'm not really considering that but the these are people I see relatively often (church community) so if it comes up do you have suggestions for how to handle these people asking about an invite? I guess just saying I'm having a small wedding will suffice but these are still people I'd like to have there a little but really just cannot afford it. Ah man life is so hard... lol any advice is appreciated!! (Others are welcome to comment too haha)

@chloegilroy8422

5 жыл бұрын

I think the best idea would be to tell them youre having a small intimate wedding day. Have you considered having a second day where you keep things extremely casual like a BBQ or a pub? Everyone you wanted to invite could go to that then, it's just a giant party that doesn't have to cost the earth

@hilarys3405

5 жыл бұрын

What type of experience are you wanting your guests to have at the reception? Small budget can mean different things. You have to decide what is most important to you. You can have a small intimate guest list and a nice sit down dinner or you can invite your whole community and only serve cake and punch. Wedding cake doesn't have to be expensive, you can have a small cutting cake and then sheet cake for your guests (with a tight budget Costco cake is great). How have other people in your church community handled their weddings? If your church regularly does potlucks that is also an option, I have attended a wedding that was followed by a brunch potluck that was well done.

@annamoree6604

5 жыл бұрын

Thank y'all for your input. I really want to have a reception with alchohol, a meal, appetizers etc. But on a budget. The overall experience is more important to me than all the people. I wouldn't really consider a potluck. Honestly other people in my community have somehow found the money to invite everyone.

@annamoree6604

5 жыл бұрын

@@JamieWolfer okay.. lol thats always been one of my weak spots as a people please but thank you!

What does the wedding party do/where do they go while the first look is happening? We want to do a first look and get wedding party pictures after

is it okay not to do first dances? - none of us are big on dancing or spotlight, is there something to do in place of first dances? thanks!! love your channel, definitely subscribing to your 2nd one!💖

@uncFAIN31

5 жыл бұрын

💖awesome!! thank you for responding!

My man is one of the guys who doesn't want to be robbed of THAT moment but I'd like to do the first look. Mostly because our ceremony is set for 6pm and the sunset that time of year is usually around 7:30. Should I try and talk him into it because the location is so good for pictures or respect his wishes??

JAMIE - seeing your wedding clips I HAVE to ask, I thought you always advocated for being as true to your normal self as possible on your wedding day? Can I ask why you choose to wear your hair up? It might be different in real life, but I feel like that is the first time I EVER saw you with your hair up!

My fiance wants the moment of seeing me for the first time walking down the aisle, so we're not doing it. I'm also super not a morning person... lol

Possibly weird question, I want to do a first look with my fiancé on our wedding day, but I don’t want anyone else from the wedding to see us. Is there a way to sneakily coordinate this?

Did your first look have your full wedding dress and veil and everything ? (Asking for my fiancée because she doesn’t KZread herself she watches what I KZread)

I aspire to be you! ❤️