1. It's never too early to get started. 2. Take your Time. Nothing wrong with a long engagement. It gives you longer to research and plan. 3. Research Everything! 4. Keep it Simple. 5. Plan in bursts. Plan for two weeks and take three weeks off and don't even think about planning/wedding stuff. 6. Pawn off the little things. You don't have to do everything. Your family and friends are happy to help you with things so let them! 7. Trust your vendors aka the people you hired. 8. Cut the Silly stuff. 9. Put the Pinterest boards to bed. 10. Know yourself! and prioritize accordingly. 11. Enjoy the Process! 💕

A friend of mine has reminded me that there will always be things that go wrong, but that as long as you are married at the end of your wedding day, it was a successful day :)

"I don't think people realize how weird it is to sit by yourself in a room, talking to a wall..." 😂😂😂 Jamie, you're such a mood. I love you.

“We live a fantastic time to plan a wedding!” -said no one in 2020. Ever.

@jadedixon3641

2 жыл бұрын

Actually, I thought it was a great time. Absolutely no pressure to have anybody at my wedding. Nice and quick online elopement over Zoom. Crazy introverts like me weren't really looking forward to having a bunch of people at a wedding anyway, and covid was the perfect escape.

I’m planning my wedding 21 months ahead and everyone seems to think I’m crazy. Thanks for this video! Nothing wrong with being organised. 🙆🏻‍♀️

@jenjenjen170

3 жыл бұрын

I know I'm a year behind on this, but I planned my wedding a year before I was engaged because I know I get overwhelmed easily and I still want a 3 year engagement (engaged two weeks now)

I'm nearing the end of a 24 month engagement. I got all of the big stuff out of the way early on, and now just have some small details to iron out. The biggest stress-reducer for me has been delegating to my mom (she's type A and can make phone calls/do research for days), and forgoing all of the things that don't matter to me (or, according to you, my guests). My mantra has been "I don't have to do anything I don't want to do". It's working great so far.

I'm using wedding planning (for a wedding that is presently non existent) as a sanity break from the stressful life of becoming a doctor of medicine 😂😂😂 I don't even have boyfriend right now. But I'm loving the process, even if im just compiling ideas, researching prospective vendors, compiling inspirations, watching vlogs and Jamie 😂. I love it. It kinds of give me something to look forward to in the future 🥰

THIS!!!!! I can't say the amount of times we've almost called off the wedding due to the stress. Planning all of this gives me the huge urge to say "Screw it let's just go to the courthouse now."

"You only get to do this once" *laughs in divorce*

I’m doing my reception a couple months after the ceremony when the weather will be better for an outdoor reception. Also, since the wedding is the part I super care about I’m keeping control of the wedding and letting my soon to be MIL run wild on the reception. She wants to pay for things so I’ve told her what our concept is and what will be 100% be skipping and have sent her forth to do what she will. It’s surprisingly non-stressful since I’ll be getting what I want for the wedding.

I'm getting married next week and have been binging your videos!! I 100% agree with every single tip here. I started to get whiplash from nodding my head in agreement so much!! Instead of a traditional wedding shower, my MoH and I came up with the idea to have some drinks and food at a local bar and called it "Wedding Planning is Hard, Let's Drink" and invited family and close friends. It was one of the best decisions, because it really kept everything in perspective :)

I’m going to be engaged for the next 2.5 years...but it’s all good it gives me a bunch of time to plan and take it slow. I’m also in college so I need all the time I can get.

@OurKindofCrazy

4 жыл бұрын

It's so nice to have a good buffer like that, cause now you get to enjoy being engaged!

I love your attitude and bubbly personality! I have LITRALLY binge watched a million and a half of your videos (not really but A lot FRFR) because I am getting married in less than 10 days and I am just so so so nervous something is going to go wrong or get out of hand so this video really helped me so much. Thank you thank you thank you.

@eveboily4491

4 жыл бұрын

SAME here but this year!! My wedding is in 10 days and your vidéos soooo help me!! Thanks a lot from Québec, Canada xxx

My finance and I got engaged in November and we decided to wait on talking about the wedding at all until I finished my fall semester at grad school. And I'm naturally a planner, but I absolutely agree with planning in bursts. We've selected our venue and photographer together and my fiance is a music teacher and musician so he's handling the music. And I like crafts, so I have ideas about how to DIY the centerpieces, bouquets, wedding signs and other decorations, but I'm not going to get into that until after I graduate this May. School has been a wonderful reason not to think about the wedding, because I have to focus on finishing and graduating. It also saves me from spending too much money at once lol. But it also makes me really excited to continue to planning and not feel like I'm rushing through anything

OMG do a tutorial about how you did your hair in this!!!! Love it

@mariahbrowning3790

3 жыл бұрын

Yes please!!!!!!!!!🥰🥰🥰

Don’t always think about your wedding... as I binge watch these videos 24/7 😅

I am so glad I found your channel. I have watched like 6 videos in a row and feel better about planning. Thank you

@candacekinney7386

5 жыл бұрын

Jamie Wolfer Thank you!!

I totally agree with the planning in bursts! I’m at uni so I plan when I can and then forget 😂 my partners says we have one week on and one week off 👍🏻 Keep up the videos!!

Just got engaged on June 23rd 2018 and we are getting married August 31st 2019!!!!

@yaiyasmin

4 жыл бұрын

Omg I’m watching this video on your wedding day, congratulations!!

No bride maids. Zero stress guaranteed.

I've been binging all of your videos like crazy over the past week. You have such a fun personality! We got engaged in December 2018 and our wedding isn't until October 2020. A lot of people think that's a really long engagement but the reason is because my mum passed away very suddenly in November so I don't need the stress of planning a wedding on top of going through the grieving process.

@loreenkomora

4 жыл бұрын

Ooooh honey,,, I hope you're doing a little better now? Sending love and hugs all the way from Kenya!

Watching your videos in 2020 and they have been a lifesaver... I’m glad I can binge watch them...

@OurKindofCrazy

4 жыл бұрын

Hope your wedding planning is going great!!

preachhhhhh!! i'm taking so many notes!!!

Thank you!! I definitely have been planning in bursts and it helps so much

I wish I had seen this a long time ago! Or knew of you! This is so helpful!

So my husband and I haven’t gotten to have our wedding yet. We are hoping in a couple years we’ll be able to afford it. But when we got engaged and were right in the midst of planning, we would take a break from doing all the busy and expensive things to just go do silly parts of the process. We were bored one night and didn’t want to discuss details of the actual day, so we decided to got to target, download the app, and go NUTS with the wedding registry. Trex salt shakers and all. We’ll of course need to redo it when our actual day comes since that was two years ago, but we had so much fun just imagining all these things in our home, running around target in sweatpants and messy hair at 9pm on a like a Wednesday. We didn’t take it too seriously and we just let ourselves laugh. It is so important to just make these moments fun with your spouse.

This makes me feel better for taking more than the normal 6 months to a year and buying up all of my pieces as I go it makes things so much more relaxing and fun because you don't feel a giant time crunch waying down on top of you I gave myself extra time since after we got engaged we also found out the at I was three months pregnant its been three years since then so now we are taking everything slow so we don't get over stresses with the wedding planning and being parents to a crazy and adorable toddler hopefully we can be married before he's five but if not oh well lol

I LOVE your personality and watching you speak!! These tips are fantastic thank you for making these videos!

I have been binge watching your videos ever since I got engaged! I love them! Best wedding blog I have seen 🎉. Thank you for sharing your genius and quirk with us! You rock!

I just found your channel and I'm bingeing your videos like CRAZY! I have an event planning background, but NOT wedding planning! I had our entire wedding planned and then my fiance got sick and finances took a hit, so we're replanning everything! Loving alllllll of your tips!

Amazing tips!! Love all your video thanks!!!

I'm loving your content! Recently engaged and eating up every one of your videos

Your videos have been soooo helpful! Thank you for all the information and awesome energy! Side note: love your hair in this video

I am so glad that I found your channel! Even the Fiancé is enjoying watching these! Great tips! Love it!

You are probably the most relatable person on the internet ! Thank you so much for all your input

Oh girl you are my lifeline! Personally I love having a long engagement, it gives me time to entertain all different ideas until I find something that really feels brilliant. My two big problems will be to settle with something and stop coming up with new ideas, and to make sure my fiance is on board. He's a bit more traditional than me and seems to think half of my ideas are crazy. We've been together 10 years so I know him and he's more laid back and chill and I'm definitely the crazy one. Any tips on how to make sure I don't make it MY wedding instead of OURS? Anytime we make plans to plan it ends up with him being a bit sceptical but not really having suggestions himself. I know he doesn't mean anything by it but it gets a bit disheartning and makes my anxiety prone brain go a hundred miles and hour. Since we have a long engagement there isn't a sense of urgent either which I feel is the main reason his so chill about it, whereas I want to make sure we book everything well in advance. So yeah, how do I make sure I dont steam roll over my chill fiance? Lots of love from an constantly over cafeinated swede ❤❤

@katjaoksanen944

6 жыл бұрын

Jamie Wolfer Thanks a million! You my dear are a true gift and a litteral ray of sunshine! 🌞

Jamie you’re such a blessing 💕

Yes that hair looks nice I need to do my hair like that.... I've been binge watching all of ur videos

I am so thankful to have found your channel. Planning is overwhelming but what's keeping me calm is making Google docs comparing all the different vendors.

I watched your video on planning during the pandemic, and now I found this one. My family thinks I am crazy, I got engaged 5/30/2020 and I am planning on getting married 10/2/2021, they think I should have it THIS YEAR YET!!!! We are in no rush to do so and would prefer not to get married during the height of a pandemic, even next fall could be pushing it honestly. But I am getting the big things that I can get done from my couch done now, guest list and addresses are almost collected, this may get edited down once we can officially secure the event hall, right now we are just "penciled in" due to the pandemic. Amazon is amazing as I can get things ordered to start any DIY projects and I don't need to worry about wedding dress shopping until after Labor Day. The shops in my state are already open by appointment only so I can physically go in and look at the dresses. That brings me to a question, by the way, any advice for dress shopping for a plus-size bride, I'm assuming I can't actually try on dresses in a store because they only carry sample sizes. At least this was my experience with brides-maids dress shopping.

This is EVERYTHING

I love it so much 3 years into my marriage life im planning my vow renewal like a whole new wedding

This is such a great help all of these videos .I got engaged Nov 24 of 2017 and ive set the date for Aug 2020 .

Great advice for a bride to be! I get married this October and you hit all the major things that have helped me keep sane: 14 month engagement; planning in bursts (my #1 sanity saver); hiring a wedding planner; and planning ahead by getting any tasks done that you can ahead of time. I would add one thing: SPREADSHEETS. From guest lists to RSVP responses and logging who sent what wedding gifts... spreadsheets are a must!

23 month long engagement for us and we are finally less than a year to go! We have found an all inclusive venue for about $40 a person! I'm so inspired by your videos!! Thanks so much for posting! ❤️

Totally agree on the “never too early to start planning” point! I’ve done it in the extreme... I’ve been planning my wedding since I was 15 years old. What young girl hasn’t at least considered what their special day will be like? Although I’ve never been proposed to (it is now in the cards though!), I’m so grateful for all that extra time that helped me hone in on what I want. Over the years, the general aesthetic has changed slightly (of course I’m not into the same things as when I was 15), and obviously, when my boyfriend proposes we’ll discuss the ideas I’ve come up with so he can have his input - he’s actually seen the planning already and is happy with it and more than okay with letting me take the reigns - but at least this way, when the time comes, I’ll already be months ahead in the planning process! :)

Hi Jamie! Great video!! Could you please do a video on the planning process for 24 months

Needed Jamie!!! Please do some vids on Destination planning tips

I love your outfit! Simple stripes tee and a cute denim vest 😍

New subscriber here! Love ur vids, energy & obsessed w your diff gorgeous hairstyles!!😍🥰🎉 do u have any vids geared towards second weddings? Most of vids & advice are super helpful even tho I’ve done this before!!;) happy new year!❤️

I honestly love planning FH is the biggest stressor along w/ trying to please everyone. Once i got over that it’s been smooth... buying this house on the other hand 🤦🏾‍♀️

I talked to the family and we moved it to a 19 month engagement and I now feel a lot better. I would be lost without these videos

With 7 weeks from engagement to wedding day.. YOU HAVE BEEN A LIFE SAVER!! My fiance and I are completely on track thanks to you and your advice. We have less than three weeks now but it's all been coming together as we've set aside time to do this.

Completely unrelated to the topic of the video BUT OMG YOUR HAIR IS AMAZING! The color and style look perfect on you!! It suits you so well! Absolutely stunning!

I tend to bring a lot of anxiety upon myself so to help keep that at bay, planning as much as possible as early as possible helps me a ton! I ended up doing all of the research and booking all my vendors in 3 weeks which is great! But then I got exhausted so I forced myself to put the laptop down and Pinterest away for a few days which was so mentally refreshing! But working out, doing things that I enjoy doing like getting a mani/pedi, all while taking my time to fill in the details between now and the wedding are helping me keep the stress levels low. Probably until a month before the wedding then I’ll start freaking out again 😅

I love your tips! Do you know what signs people might need for a wedding? Like, actually need. Seating chart? program sign? do I need to point out where the restrooms are?

I got engaged in February 2019 and am getting married August 2020. I have been planning in bursts and it’s been my saving grace. I love planning when I’m in the mood to plan and then when I’m tired of it I just say NOPE. It’s mostly planned at this point!

omg yes!! engaged Jan 2017 and getting married October 2018 so glad we are taking our time and on top of that we are waiting until marriage so taking our time is even more real! lol #notstressed enjoying life one wedding checklist at a time

@lookitskalee1

5 жыл бұрын

Same here! Engaged January 2017, getting married this October... 25 days! We got so much done so early since we had a long engagement but all these last minute details and loose ends are a lot.

I am audazing a borderline between upper division and graduate level algebra class as my stress relief during the wedding planning.

First off, just wanna say you have been a tremendous help during my wedding planning process! And secondly, I was just wondering if you had any tips on how to pick out songs for the wedding. I already have major first dance songs out the way but I'm having more trouble picking out songs to walk down the isle in, and walking into the reception with. If you have any suggestions, I would LOVE to hear them. Thank you so much and keep making awesome content 😊

I freaking love you, you’re such a goofball! I enjoy ALL the wedding tips you give. I just got engaged so everything you talk about helps! 🤗

@priscillabenavides6823

6 жыл бұрын

Jamie Wolfer thank you very much! I have so many questions I don’t know where to start. Like what are the first things I need to do. I have the guess list, budget, and theme but from there I’m lost. I’ve looked at venues but they’re kind of over my budget. I’m all over the place.... I just need guidance! Lol #lost

How to sum up how making youtube video is about in 1 sentence! Btw love your videos! It is helping me soooo much right now to figure out everything.

We are having a very long engagement (28 months), but decided to lock in our venue one month after our engagement. Our ceremony and reception will be at the same place so the rest is details we can chip away at. I’m also very fortunate to have a fiancé who wants to be involved in the process and reminds me when I’m too hyper focused.

Great video

I'm that weirdo that plans stuff super in advance. 8 years ago, I knew I'd marry my FH. So, I've been planning our wedding in bursts since then. Now it's getting to the time that he's finally going to propose and our wedding is basically planned except for things actually being booked.

Do you have suggestions for attendant gifts? I really want to give them something useful that isn't a flask or necklace. Thanks!!

I'm watching all of your videos! Just got engaged a few weeks ago. It's insane how much there is to do! But you are so entertaining and straightforward about it all I'm feeling a little more prepared! PS: Do you have tips for a bride who really hates being the center of attention?! lol

Great videos straight t the point and never boring ! Big thumbs up!

Maintaining sanity somehow because I was totally made for this! 😂 so much fun I couldn’t hand anything to anyone else lol

Watching your videos is so fun! I love your hair like this! How do you style it to look so curly and effortless?

@ericarenfrew1576

5 жыл бұрын

Jamie Wolfer wow, thank you for responding!!! I’d totally watch a tutorial btw. This is awesome

Go to Michaels! They have some awesome decos on sale 70% off right now!!! If you're looking for a rustic/boho/shabby chic style, these signs I found there today that are made of mdf but they're really cute, suspended from a piece of wood (pine?) with twine and you can stencil whatever you want it to read on it with a contrasting color to the white that's already painted on it.

@bncsmom1

6 жыл бұрын

BTW, how I'm dealing with it is by researching! That's my thing. I research everything.

@bncsmom1

6 жыл бұрын

I'll go to your facebook page and reply to one of your posts with pics of what I grabbed up. They're pretty awesome, if I do say so myself. :)

I luckily we have a long engagement (1 yr. 5 months). So each month we have a goal. Visited venues all through March and April, and made it our goal to book our venue by the end of May. Our new goal is to book our photographer by the end of July, so we're searching them now. Then taking our time to book our DJ by the end of September and so forth. Hopefully we find all of our vendors within time, and stress free :)

i haaaate pintrest weddings!!

Apparently, I've been planning in bursts already. lol Except now Im kinda in a crunch.

I understand you mentioned I should not have a friend coordinate the wedding day. But my officemate/friend has had experiences with events. Plus I'm saving. Doing a 12 month process though, and I'm type a A. :D off to my point, what I do to keep my sanity is, (im on my 8th month, wohoo!), I send links of your videos to my coordinator/friend! hah!

I'm having a 3 year and 2 month engagement, so I have been able to do one thing at a time and really focus on getting exactly what I want. Plus we booked the venue last December and the wedding is next December (2019) and there is a ball being held there this December - that is open to the public with really reasonable ticket prices and a theme very similar to what we want to do. So I'm getting tickets and we are going to go check out how they do the decor and get ideas that way. And I destress by baking and giving the goodies away.

@jencasey316

5 жыл бұрын

If you ever do an event in/near MA, I will definitely take you up on that!

Watching this while the pandemic is still raging.... Plan ahead? Trying for a fourth time to have our wedding day. It is 11 days before the wedding and still so much to do!

I am completely loosing my mind over finding a venue..These videos and her up beat personality has helped a lot. Side note: if anyone knows of a woodsy/backyard simple wedding venue in San Diego.. please respond!

I'm having to plan my wedding in about a month :( it's rough.

Best advice! wish I saw this a year ago...oh well

I had 6 months to plan my wedding due to time constraints from my fiance's employer, as my fiance lives outside my state. We'll see how the wedding goes in December lol

"Draw near to God and He will draw near to you." -TheBible🌹

I’m doing a Harry Potter theme wedding for my wedding.

I maintain sanity by watching your channel XD

Seriously putting off planning so I can be a physician Assistant. Got to pass my boards and get a job. So basically in denial.

How do you not have 1 million subscribers?????

Ok

@saschamayer4050

2 жыл бұрын

5:11

I got engaged two weeks ago and it's been non stop since. How I'm keeping myself from being too stressed? Wine, weed, and masturbation lmao

good points but feedback would be to calm down your energy when you're delivering content about mitigating wedding planning stress. I was stressed out after trying to get started on piece of planning, which is why i clicked on the video, but now im feeling more stressed rather than less just based off the chaotic energy in the video. Again, good points overall for us planning brides but this is my honest feedback which can be rare to get from a stranger.

I like a lot of your stuff. But I do think there is a problem with 12+month engagements. Of course, part of the problem is people have no morals these days and live together and have no limits, and then wonder why they have problems… but if you prioritize your marriage, behave, shorten your engagement, plan small, and don’t try to make a “dream” - make a LIFE together. Make long-term marriage the priority over a one day party, by a long shot.

youre so cute jamie

Pray every morning ❤ Better than that, do a devotion to God every morning.

What if my mom controls my budget?

I didn't... I had flowers, addressing invites, and finding a venue keeping me up at night...

Any 2021 brides?

ALSO....calling for prices say it's a reunion not a wedding....they all jack up prices for weddings

my tip don't watch 'say yes to the dress' after u've picked and paid for a dress. NO.