I’m getting angrier the more I think about this. For two years, while she could’ve been out finding someone who actually wanted to be with her or learning to love herself, he just kept her around because he didn’t want to be alone. It took him two years to find value in her beyond keeping him company. She’s been in a relationship for six years, while he’s been in for four. The gall. The audacity.

@ZanyaZalkran

2 жыл бұрын

Since he said he had to go see a therapist, what MAY have been going through his head was if I leave her I'll go back to that dark place, this is better than before or even oh I don't like this but it's better than my shitty ex. I have seen a lot of girls compromise and stay with people they don't like because they've been with worse. I am HOPING that that's what he went through and not just let's waste this girls time because I'm bored

@JW-vd4il

Жыл бұрын

Hijacking top comment to say: I (a woman) had a guy friend who told me about blowing off a girl he'd been dating. I told him he shouldn't have done it that way and he said: She asked ME out. I didn't ask her out. Yet they dated for a while! But he still thought he could treat her more crummy because she initiated the relationship! I asked a bunch of guys I knew, and a DISTURBING amount said they wouldn't value the relationship as much if she asked first. WTF. Meanwhile, I do know some guys who were very appreciative of their SO initiating. But it was really upsetting to me how many guys thought there were different rules of respect if SHE asked the guy out. Yeah, EFF that. Hijacking top comment so you all know it is out there!!!

Mine told me he “wanted to be with me because he thought he could change me into his version of perfect” 🤮 I’m taking our kids and leaving after Xmas… so there’s that lol

@TwoHotTakes

2 жыл бұрын

Ugh noooo. Hang in there! You deserve the most loving, supportive partner.

@renatal.129

2 жыл бұрын

I hope you have a big and healthy support system!! this obviously isn't easy for you, especially for the kids, hope everything is alright 💕💕💕

@GetOuttaMyFae

2 жыл бұрын

@@renatal.129 thanks ❤️ my support system is 2,000 miles away and I can’t take the kids across state lines without permission which I don’t have 😭 so they are cheering me on from the sidelines which helps. My best friend just got married and pregnant, I’m not trying to mess up her happiness or put the focus on anything but her and her beautiful little fam bam ❤️ I got this though. I’m figuring it out the best way I know how!

@redcabbage8133

2 жыл бұрын

Wait- I remember your comment from that one episode where op's sister in law invited her bsf to op's and her husband's house to use the pool. SIL insulted op and called her a fat whale, I believe? I recall your comment being something along the lines of your fiance couldn't keep his hands off of you when u were pregnant. I'm so sorry this happened to you, I rlly wish you the best, you deserve a partner who isn't a total ass. Red flags can appear years into a relationship. Hang in there :)

@meghanhenderson8417

2 жыл бұрын

That’s awful! I’m so glad you’re taking the initiative to leave!! He doesn’t deserve you or any woman for that matter ❤️

I get the, "But I fell in love over the years" Thing. But, why didn't he say no. If he didn't like her, why did he say yes. What made him so desperat that he said yes to anything. 2 years is a really long time, he should have said no when asked to be her girlfriend. Glad they broke it off and that everything turned out for the better

@philifinnsuwu7336

2 жыл бұрын

Ikr!

@FallenAngel7538

2 жыл бұрын

he literally said it, he just wanted a girlfriend it's so selfish and shitty

@izzisart

2 жыл бұрын

That's the bit that gets me. I get maybe not being super into them at first but then going on a few dates just to try and then realising "Hey, this person is actually pretty great!" But two years? No way.

@briannad9155

2 жыл бұрын

@@izzisart exactly. I understand if OP’s “fiancé” was like “I didn’t really like her until a month into a relationship and then fell in love with her later” but it’s the TWO years shit that gets me. That’s so fucked up

I had this happen, but after we were married. About three months in he casually tells me that a couple months after we got engaged an old girlfriend called and wanted to get back together. He said the ONLY reason he didn't was because, and I quote, "I had already given you the ring and figured I'd just go ahead with it anyway". To say the least, I was crushed, but it didn't end there. On more than one occasion he would tell people, in front of me, that he didn't believe in true love, but that he thought people could learn to love each other over time. For anyone wondering why I didn't leave him, we were both raised in a strict religion and our marriage wasn't, "till death do you part", it was a temple wedding, "for time and all eternity ". Every time something went bad in our marriage, there was the brainwashed mentality of being the wife and making it work. I'm now 52 and thankful I've been out of that marriage for 20 years and out of that religion for 15.

@suranimabe3635

2 жыл бұрын

Well done 👏

@jenl7094

2 жыл бұрын

So happy for you on both accounts…getting free of that “religion” and that person who didn’t deserve your time, love and care.

@Fingerscrossedout

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, you really are super human! To have the guts to leave that shit hole! I'm so happy you choose your own well being!

@kenmakozume4478

Жыл бұрын

Very happy for you

@Rainface9

Жыл бұрын

Temple wedding, I'm wondering if you were previously Mormon?

If he didn’t even like her for the first 2 years, I wonder how faithful he was during that time.. poor girl

@kimberlyjones8152

2 жыл бұрын

My thoughts too. Like what if he cheated

@daisyo.6666

Жыл бұрын

@@kimberlyjones8152 I doubt it, he said he wanted a relationship and would have said yes to anyone, so it is unlikely he was a player XD

Looking back at those two years with this new knowledge I would be shattered he didn’t even like me or find me attractive. What the absolute hell is wrong with him.. at least it came out before the wedding and they did part ways.

It’s one thing to be like “I’m not totally attracted to this person but they asked me out and I’ll give them a chance” but then immediately enjoy being around them and getting along after a date or two but two years?!!! That’s too much

I think the fact that it was TWO years is the red flag. Not being physically attracted at first wouldn’t be a dealbreaker for me because love grows beyond appearance. But at this point it’s the comfortability for him. He got “used” to her and used her as a crutch. She made the right decision leaving that relationship.

Not him saying this in a public gathering with her there. That is the most humiliating way to realise you've been wasting 6 years in a relationship with an emotionally stunted coward. That's me instantly leaving.

My ex said that to me and then when we broke up he was like “I told you I wasn’t attracted to you! Why are you surprised?” Like, idk Steven, you’ve been sleeping in my bed for almost 3 years and living in my apartment for 2 years, I just assumed. Sorry.

That’s so messed up! Not only is it incredibly upsetting that he admitted he wasn’t attracted and didn’t even like her personality he also embarrassed her in front of their friends. He’s a scrub & she needs to leave his a**

the fact that he brought this up INFRONT of other people as well… he wanted to embarrass her it was genuinely so malicious

I can understand not knowing 100% if you like the person you're dating in the beginning but 2 years is a really really long time. One thing that always gives me butterflies is knowing that my bf was into me from the get go. I would be devastated to learn otherwise ☹

@lindseyhendrix2405

2 жыл бұрын

Incredibly well said and couldn’t agree more! The butterflies just thinking about that person is unmatched >>>

He wasted her time, and for what? He was wasting his own too. I can not stand people who do things like this, she could have found someone who liked her right from the start of hed just not played her like this. Why do people do this?

Were they saying “I love you” within those first two years? Because that’s real fucked up if he did. I would have to end it. Now knowing that for two years you lied about loving me and wanting to be with me just because you didn’t want to be alone? Gone. Done. If you can lie to my face like that for that long, I’ll never trust you again.

The fact that he didn't even see anything wrong with it, and that it's apparently just a quirky secret for him makes it so much worse

Imagine being the friends seeing this all go down from start to finish oh my god

@suranimabe3635

2 жыл бұрын

You deserve better! Wishing you love that is pure and kind.

Personally, I'm a person who takes a really long time to develop attraction to someone (somewhere on the asexual/demisexual spectrum) so the actual idea that it might take me some time to truly be attracted to some one is pretty normal for me. That is something that I would communicate with to a partner if we were getting to the point where intimacy was expected, as so far I usually tend to show a little hesitation. What gets me is that he said he didn't even LIKE her, which means he didn't even value her as a person when he agreed to be in a relationship with her! That's really low. You can develop physical attraction to someone over time but to not even CARE about them that whole time is so shitty. And then to use that as a casual party story, knowing that you'd be embarrassing your partner in front of all your friends???? That's messed up.

@Swaggerpede

2 жыл бұрын

honestly as long as you are upfront and honest there's no fault. communication is king. like, okay, even if this guy had been upfront that wouldnt have been so bad. at least she would have not had her time wasted because she had all the information up front.

@Ashbrash1998

2 жыл бұрын

Im in a similar situation, but with my partner we met in school. He fell in love at first sight and I just went to my class lol I took longer to fall in love with him but it was okay since he had a head start. But I never ever "disliked" him, if I did I would have never gone out with him. Feel so bad for OP because it has to feel like a betrayal

@spaceinveda7408

2 жыл бұрын

Same. I need to know your personality to like you. It took me 3 months of hanging out with my current partner as friends before we started dating. We've been together 6 years now. It just makes sense in my mind I guess lol. I need emotional connection to feel the physical.

@AndreaPerez-kz4ib

2 жыл бұрын

I was going to say the same thing, that it takes me some time to feel sexually attracted, but the base has to be there from the start. You need to like the person you're getting to know.

@LydiaTaylorMusic

Жыл бұрын

Yes and the fact that he also was embarrassing himself because it looked like the friends weren't super happy to hear all that either. He just wanted to get it off his chest

There is a difference between growing in love and having never liked them and then seemingly tolerating them lol

Dude, Justin and I simultaneously said, "Fuck No!". 😂

HAHAHA HE REALLY HAD TO STOP AN APPRECIATE HER HOLDING THAT STUFFED ANIMAL I LOVE IT 😭😭

Imagine dating someone for 6 years who is not attracted to you! Like that is literally the most soulcrushing reason to break up cos they never fancied you in the first place! But after they got past a two year patch of depression they started to love you, like a friend. Like wtf what a selfish d***.

"you kinda know at that point, the whole thing is done" i'm convinced, he said that to finally tell her, because he didnt want to cut it off.

@Brenaylmao

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely

What’s even worse, is now she’s going to doubt every relationship after. How can you trust anyone again. Do they like me? Or do they just not want to be alone?

I feel a lot for her. I'm really sorry for her heartbreak. So difficult to reconstruct after that.

just think of they didn’t all meet up with their friends she may have never known or have found out like years down the line imagine that?

@Rashi0220

2 жыл бұрын

Imagine him telling that as a Christmas story in future to their kids and that's how she finds out 💀💀

He was looking for an out. Dude got comfortable and once the wedding gets closer and panics

Achievement unlocked! New fear to keep me up at night.

When I first met my husband in person, I was kind of taken back... 😲 he looked different from his Facebook profile. His smile was bigger and he had a heavy Spanish accent which kind of threw me off because I didn't know he spoke Spanish. We only texted in English lol 😆 after a few dates I grew to like him. I even moved states and he was still there for me during my hard times. I grew closer to him over a short amount of time. Even though, initially it wasn't "love at first sight" we grew a bond and I was direct with him in establishing friendship first and then when I started developing feelings, I wanted to be his girlfriend. The fact that it took this guy two years to like her while dating her... means for those two years that girl was dating a fake boyfriend. I would definitely never go back to him. He wasn't honest about his feelings/intentions in the first place. Which means he can never be honest to her unless he's wasted 🙄 he's got to go 🗑🚮

One of my exes told me he only found me “cute” but never “hot” or “sexy”… it completely stunned me and I had no idea how to feel, luckily my current partner has definitely made me feel more secure in myself.

Omg no get out!!! My husband said he felt this way about his ex. He said he was insecure and was just surprised a girl would date him. Granted he was 18 when they started dating. He confessed this in one of our most honest talks and how he was glad they had broken up because that wasn’t a real relationship. So they should break up. One of my friends married a girl he felt like this about and it did not end up well. He called her ugly for the first 3 years of their relationship. Girl…RUN!!! You deserve the world.

my ex told me that for the first month we dated, he also wasn't into me. he just said yes cause he felt bad but fell in love with me after a month. just that was hard to move past, I COULD NOT imagine 2 years...

She’s been in a relationship for six years and he’s been in one for four. Id be thinking the entire time what if he’s lying now what if he falls out of love and doesn’t tell me? Id be beyond hurt and lost just like her because how do you trust him how do you know if he’s telling the truth? What do you do?

That poor woman. 2 years??!!; 4 months maybe but 2???

See, this is why we don't talk about Bruno

One of my abusive ex-boyfriend told me that you don't have to love someone to be in a relationship with them. So fucked up.

I hope the woman that wrote this hears this, sees the video, or even these comments. Men do this, they’re at a point in their lives that they’ll just settle down with anyone because it’s what they believe it’s what they have to do. Get married and have kids. I’m sure everyone that’s watched this podcast is familiar with men marrying women that they don’t actually love, meanwhile the woman they love either got away because of circumstances or because it was an ex. Leave this man, this isn’t love. He doesn’t love you, it wasn’t love in the beginning. He said it himself!!!! Walk away, in the long run it’ll be better for you. It’s going to be painful, but you deserve your forever happiness especially romance and LOVE!!! There needs to be LOVE.

Oh, that hit close to home. I’m actually a child of a similar union. My parents were friends for a long time. My mom wanted a kid, and my dad loved her and wanted to be with her. So she agreed to date him and live together. It took her some time to develop an affection to dad and fall in love with him, but since then they’ve become very close and got married. And even though there is, unfortunately, some toxicity from both sides, I’m 100% sure they love each other. I think the difference in my family story is that dad knew what he’s been into. He was more than welcome to say “nope, don’t like it, don’t want it”, but he chose to be with mom despite the fact their feelings weren’t mutual. But even though it all worked in the end, it's kinda weird for me, when I think about it. Would I agree to be in this kind of relationship? I seriously doubt it. Is it healthy? Hell no. But the situation here is worse, because the guy just lied to his girlfriend and used her as some kind of stress-relief toy. So good for both Gigi and Bruno that they’ve chose to part ways, even though it’s definitely going to be hard for them. I hope they both find their peace and happiness.

@mitsjudith

Жыл бұрын

Well at least your parents were friends so your mom valued your dad and cared for him from the start In this story the guy didn’t even like her for two years

@kemmustwhat

Жыл бұрын

@@mitsjudith well, it’s more complicated with my mom, actually, but yeah, good point still I can’t really imagine what could motivate someone to date someone you not only don’t care about but straight up don’t like/can’t stand I mean, he was SO lonely and insecure that he decided it would be better to inevitably hurt and traumatise someone but not to be alone?… but that’s just messed up, dude definitely needs therapy

I’m 5 years in with my boyfriend and I’m telling you..if I heard that..it would send me off the edge. That’s a lot of time and commitment to one another and it’s just gone.

This isn't a "I dunno how I feel about this person but I'll give them a chance" situation. This is a "I'm lonely, I guess you'll do just fine" situation

When my husband and I first met, we became really good friends, but very firmly did not like each other romantically. I was dating someone else at the time, and he was just disinterested in relationships at all. It took a couple years, but eventually I began growing feelings for him, to the point where I couldn't have a healthy relationship with another guy because of it. He was pretty honest at the beginning that he wasn't sure if he liked me that way. As time went by, he realized that he was growing to care about me more deeply as well. We agreed to give it a chance and see what happened, and several years later, we're happily married. Here's the difference: HONESTY! Oh my gosh, why did this guy lie about his feelings? I mean, who knows, they could have possibly had a healthy relationship if he had been honest and then allow his feelings to grow naturally instead of lying to her, wasting her time. I'd never be able to trust him again.

'Fiance of 6 years' really conveys the vibe enough as is tbh.

Ive been in a relationship for 8 years and 2 months im 24 hes 25 we started dating in high school… seeing things like this worries me cause hes told me one he was afraid to be alone…. But says he loves me and its not just him being fearful of being alone, what a world to be in.

I dated a guy for a year and early on I’d bled on his mattress one night. That morning he’d said he loved me for the first time. He told me later that he’d considered breaking up with me after that. I wish I’d broken up with him right then because that means he didn’t love me at all. He lied to me that morning. It took a lot more major issues for me to figure out he didn’t care about me, but I should have known right then. I’d have saved myself a lot of pain.

All I needed to hear was “Bruno” and could just think “Bru-no-no-no” This is why “we don’t talk (to) Brunoooooo” **song reference from Encanto

@crazyredhead0932

2 жыл бұрын

Same!!!

Ok so I think if I didn’t find someone physically attractive I would say yes only if I liked their personality BUT this guy didn’t like her looks nor her personality and STILL SAID YES why lead someone on for so long 2YEARS?!?! Honestly tho-

I had a friend who told me she hated me in the beginning and found me annoying, but had to tolerate me because she was interested in my roommate, who I was very close to. But that she eventually came to like me. That friendship fizzled out after that, because every time I was with her I would wonder whether I annoyed her or not. I could not get over it. I can't imagine finding that out about a romantic partner

Honesty is the biggest principle. My husband and I were very open with our intentions from the start which was a bit unorthodox at our age then (teenagers). We knew we wanted long term, we knew liked eachother physically and personally, and we knew (with time) that we wanted to be married one day. I think the most damaging thing of social media these days is the environment around relationships. Honesty is discouraged and distance is used for protection. Relationships are about closeness. I encourage everyone; you will get hurt the least the most open you are. When it’s out there, the choices are obvious. When it’s not… heartbreak happens.

Yeah I’m not sure I could come back from this. Two years is a long time to feel that way and it changes how you feel about your partner

Weird. I remember not liking my husband when I first met him. I thought he was too short and talked too slow… But after three months or so I was definitely in love.

My heart breaks for OP, I'm so mad omg.. it must've been so hurt for her, and how he said that in front of their friends?? It was so unforgivable. Leave him for someone who values you from the very first start baby.. you deserve so much more than that ungrateful jerk. 6years??? FGS! Throw that ring to his face!

I can understand not being fully dive in committed at the start of a relationship but to say you weren’t even attracted to your partner, and that you would have settled for anyone…your whole relationship is built on a lie. Two years of false feelings. Did they just “fall in love” with you because you were that constant person who was dedicated to them…not because they wanted you.

Morgan holding the stuffed animal 😂😂😂

6 years and no marriage while being engaged is already a big enough red flag

That fact he was soooo desperate he said yes to someone he didn’t like and said he probably would have said yes to anyone is a huge red flag. That’s weird as fuck. I would worry he would feel like that about the marriage too. She needs to runnnn

And this is why it's best to rather stay single

When my partner first asked me out I also told him no. I had too much else going on in my life and couldn't consider a new relationship, I knew it wouldn't have been fair to either of us. He stayed around and helped me deal with lots of it as a friend. When we talked about stuff again a few weeks-2 months later I did like him enough to see if it would go anywhere, so we tried it out and 5.5 years later we are engaged and have been living together for a few years.

You said conscious right!!! Lol but I agree it sounded weird the more you said it🤣🤣 Funny how if you say a word so many times it starts to not even sound like a real word anymore lol

The fucking AUDACITY! Good fo her, geting rid of him was the best choice. I don't think I could break it up amicably

I believe it's "a guilty concience weights heavy on the mind"

this is amazing

I did this. With my current partner. The first four months of our relationship, I didn’t even care for my partner. The second I realized I actually did, and actually wanted to be with her, about six months in, I told her. We grew more from it. The way he did it, waiting two years before he figured it out, and never told her, would’ve helped her a lot. I thank everything every single day that my partner stayed. We’re celebrating our two year anniversary soon.

I read the title and I thought it meant on the first date, not 2 years.

Prob already named him but 'Conscious' would be a great name as he is part of a pod that really digs deep and always has conscious in mind ;)

It's a good thing this happened so OP got the chance to peek at a truth that the guy held. In another perspective, the guy did not need to tell anybody about it since he is now in a different place towards her. This is one of those things that need not be said/ shared in life coz it would not change the past nor improve the present. He did this on purpose for whatever reason. Glad to know they had that much needed conversation and part ways. He came into the relationship for the wrong reasons and fucked up 6 years of her life. This is why you don't treat a partner as remedy for your own personal demons. Get professional help, not play out a relationship with a person.

Hope he can box and likes to tussle cause he can catch these hands for lying to me and wasting my time

i once accepted someone asking me out with out having any feelings towards them, i thought they were attractive physically but other than that nothing, and romantic feelings grew in under a month, the fact that this guy says it toon TWO YEARS is BAFFLING

New fear: Unlocked

I'm 23 and became friends with my current boyfriend at the age of 12 I had no attraction to him and had him friend zoned for 6 years. Now we have been together for 5 years. Living together for 3 years, we have 3 cats and have a great relationship. I love him more then anything. If he didn't already know how I felt when we were younger I would have NEVER of told him

Dang I read the title and thought he meant he didn’t like her BEFORE they dated, and then got to know her and then liked her, and I was like “okay that’s common….” But DAMNNNNN.

My narcissistic ex used "I didn't think you were pretty when I met you " when we were breaking up... I honestly had to try so hard not to laugh. At that point in our relationship, that was one of the least hurtful and more unrealistic things he'd said.

So funny.. it was only weird the first time u said it...pronunciation wise lol but then it got better......but then weird again hahahahha roller coaster of consciousness

The way he went off on such a tangent even though no one was enjoying what he was saying, makes me think that this is still a huge issue on his mind. He was STILL to that very day considering whether he truly liked OP or not, why else would that come out in such a long drawn out tangent. Especially considering again, everyone else reacted negatively by going silent

I experienced similar situation , we met 8 years ago, he jump into relationship with me to piss his ex.. i just know that he never really love me because he often disconnected/absconed from me ... on 3 year i finally have the gut to end the relationship.. he said he thinks that i like that he gave me space and he said he will try harder ... but all it was is he missing his ex .. stupidly i said okay we give it another try. Recently he said the same thing to someone , he never love be earlier on our relationship. it broke me. i told him i wont go through the wedding this September , but my family and his family said i am over reacting and i should just bury it away as our wedding preparations almost fix down to every little things. he also said he love me now but i don't feel in love with him ... after knowing this, it broke my heart because my family does not understand how sad i am.. and i really don't want to continue the relationship ... I don't nobody listening ..

I'm not sure how old these people are. As this sounds like something a high schooler would do. As I've definitely dated people in high school I did not find appealing at all but I just wanted to fit in. But obviously no longer together. It was also during a time realizing I might be gay. And now into my 20s zero attraction at all to find I'm asexual. Again this seems like an immature teenager thing. As I've seen it a lot in high school. But past that I don't see it being in college and having that idea. Unless it was pressure from outside forces like parents of wanting you to be in relationship of a certain social class. As many relationships in early years were based on alliances between families. But this is the modern day. I'm not excusing this behavior, I'm just like only thing that makes sense is teens.

@jasminebarnes108

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t think they started dating until they were in college, so there’s honestly not a good explanation for it

@nellysmith6006

2 жыл бұрын

They met in college so between ages 18-23. A bit too old for this behaviour to be justifiable for a hetero cis male.

I think it's a guilty conscience Weighs heavy on the mind

The guy shows his character - character of who he was when he chose a relationship with someone he didn't like, and character of someone who would casually announce the truth. I don't give a crap that he was drunk. Do you forgive a drunk driver for killing someone? Do you forgive a drunk abuser? Would you forgive a drunk a-hole?

This sounds so similar to what my ex's sister did to her husband. She told him to his face (right after the 2 year marriage anniversary) that she was unsure of if he was her soulmate, and she's been unsure of it since before they even got engaged. What a dick move.

We don’t talk about Bruño

1:17 self esteem booster

Legit my husband told me this recently. It really fucks with me sometimes 🙃 esp since I already have a bunch of things I'm dealing with mentally

I like the name ‘Phil’ for the pup 😭😊

i feel like this is actually more common than people think - though usually it's with young people, like people under 20, but i've overheard many conversations of people talking about how much they hated their partner or people saying that they were terrified of being alone and they just wanted a boyfriend/girlfriend so bad. usually though those types of relationships fall apart after a couple months. for him to have kept it up for two years... that's kind of insane. i hope she gets out of there and finds someone better who will actually like her from the start.

I get dating someone to see if it goes anywhere, I don’t understand getting into an official relationship if you are not sure

If nothing else he showed that he isn’t someone who values honesty, and he won’t be honest when it’s uncomfortable for him.

My first relationship I gave 100% my all into it and when he broke up with me It felt like I died and a huge part of me was missing and since then every other relationship is just fell like I was trying to fit them into a hole that I couldn’t fill despite the massive amount of time I spent In between relationships. Yes I’d give them everything that was left to offer, but I didn’t love them fully or as much as I did the first guy I dated. I am convinced he is the love of my life despite everything he has put me through I’m ruined for everyone else who can truely love me which makes me so sad because I want a family with someone I love with the whole of my heart

Morgan’s toes going crazy during the story😭

We don't talk about Bruno..

I admitted a year in to our current relationship to my boyfriend that initially when we dated that I was using him as a rebound.. NOW THE DIFFERENCE between that and this.. We broke up, the rebound relationship only lasted a few months and then we broke up due to unrelated things. After a year of both of us (me staying single and him having a few small relationships that are whole stories in themselves) I realized I actually had feelings for him and later told him not expecting anything to happen. We got back together and have been for 3 years. Now to my confession, I admitted to him before things got very serious that in our first relationship I used him as a rebound, it was a private conversation where we were both talking about the whole story of how we got together and the drama surrounding it so I felt like I could. And in the end he didn’t care, because he separates our relationship then to what we have now. Nowhere close to what this asshole did.. like around a bunch of people and openly saying a good portion of their relationship was a lie, like geez..

This one hurts. I really hope this poor girl finds someone who adores her. I can't even imagine how this would make me feel. Ever since some shit that went down when I was in high school, the thought that no one around me really likes me but just tolerate me out of pity or some ulterior motive has been one of my biggest fears. I cannot imagine someone I loved, was so intimate with, was planning on MARRYING confirming that fear in a moment of drunken stupidity like it was no more serious than a questionable tattoo or embarrassing moment. I would never be able to look at him again. Like. The thing that blows me away is the amount of time. This girl spent SIX YEARS nurturing a relationship with this man when he was just using her to feel better about himself for a third of that. One date with someone you're not sure about I get. A few months even. And taking time to go from like to love I TOTALLY get. But TWO YEARS? With someone you don't even LIKE?? Unfathomable.

If he would make a joke out of her and their relationship by finally revealing this in front of his friends, drunk or not, he STILL doesn’t really love her & possibly was looking for a way out.

Bruh Morgan burned 1000 calories wiggling her feet

Biittttccchhhhhhhh! I thought we were talking first impressions. 😕

I’m glad they parted ways, I think had they stayed together she would have questioned what parts of their relationship were real

Absolutely you are not over reacting. That is definitely a situation we’re you leave him. That’s not ok. Also that’s just pathetic that he said that. There are plenty of people who would want you.

puts a whole new meaning to "we don't talk about bruno"

Lmaooooo I asked my husband what he would do if I said that to him and he said, “oh well it’s in the past and you love me now”. 😂😂😂😂😭

Omg I would run

That's how my first relationship was and I am so glad I got off that mindset. I used to think that there is no such thing as true love, it HAS to be one sided, cuz what are the chances? Best thing you can do is tolerate 🤷🏻 I let him know off the bat that I was not interested and had no feelings. He asked me out like 5 times till I said, sure let's see how this goes. We both agreed that these feelings will grow over time but a year and a half later I called it quits cuz it was seriously going nowhere. He was even getting on my nerves. Moral of the story, don't think like that. You will find someone! They should feel like they are your best friend, someone that supports you and COMMUNICATES!! If I had to be the A-hole all over again I would still let them know from the beginning and let them decide if this is a waste of time. I seriously didn't know what love was so, trial and error!

I have a feeling he was exaggerating when he said 2 years. I could see a couple weeks/months but 2 years just doesn't make sense. I'd give him a chance to explain himself rather than cut it off without talking but that is tough!

@jayvon96

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Nah. No one needs to waste energy on a thing like that.