episode 4: TOXIC COWORKERS

In this episode of Work Bestie Business we talk all about challenging coworkers: how to identify them, how to work with them, and ways we can set boundaries to set ourselves up for success.
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  • @ath-har7611
    @ath-har7611Ай бұрын

    I start a junior management role tomorrow in a new company and your video really helped me feel more confident for tomorrow, so thanks. 🙏🏽

  • @onawal931
    @onawal931Ай бұрын

    It's better when you're WFH. Most of the people advocating for Return to the Office are the neediest. You can't schmooze yourself out of your work or dump it on someone else without a trail. WFH is great.

  • @TrynaWurkitout

    @TrynaWurkitout

    Ай бұрын

    That's a WHOLE FACT❤🎉

  • @christinec4919
    @christinec4919Ай бұрын

    At my last position, I had a micromanager and I have ADHD. I'm smart, competent and productive but I work in my own way. She wanted her family member in my position and gate-kept every part of my duties so I was getting dribs and drabs of info while learning the position. Then she was off work for a month. She gave me a bad review when she returned which I have never had one at any job. I really wanted that position but my mental stress level was more important. I asked for help from several sources but none helped. She is now retired and I haven't worked for anyone since. It's not worth it. I'm still looking for ways to work on my own.

  • @KaniniPanini
    @KaniniPaniniАй бұрын

    I really love these episodes. I hope you continue these series. It is nice to have someone share experience that i can implement in my job. I have learned a lot from you.

  • @annt7384
    @annt7384Ай бұрын

    “Done is better than perfect.” Yes. I work with a co-worker who’s a perfectionist who takes as long as possible to get anything done. She has no idea how her lateness and gate-keeping slows down the team. And then asks me to do her work when she gets behind. “I want a chance to look everything over and write up a sheet explaining it all” when no one needs a sheet explaining it all; just let us know the items we need to order.

  • @sirgravacado4885

    @sirgravacado4885

    Ай бұрын

    The gate-keeper metaphor is perfect in my situation as well.

  • @samanthahoos9827
    @samanthahoos9827Ай бұрын

    😊Thank you for the motivation to go into work today! I’m having lots of difficulties with coworkers and going to try some of these tips!

  • @Skarlett_Ravynn
    @Skarlett_RavynnАй бұрын

    0:58 if you haven't dealt with a lazy coworker, you are the lazy coworker 😂

  • @onawal931

    @onawal931

    Ай бұрын

    🔥

  • @damnitfinni

    @damnitfinni

    26 күн бұрын

    I came here to say this 😂

  • @BETH..._...
    @BETH..._...Ай бұрын

    Complainers are the worst. I hear peers around my workstation CONSTANTLY complain about EVERYTHING and EVERYONE ... steady stream of negativity, gossip and foul language. Mostly all leaders and VPs😒. NO awareness of how their language and endless drivel may make others feel. It has completely changed how I see them.

  • @M13C7
    @M13C7Ай бұрын

    currently working with a very bullying boss and feeling lost i totally agree with you, there is no good advice i documented everything but they are the superior, with connections all around the company im the new girl, young, new at the company, and i cant do anything even with all the proof i have. Its called a simple misunderstanding on my part, when clearly they just dont want me to succeed and now are trying to fire me over a misunderstanding. Im just decently upset that bullies get put into these positions

  • @ewestner

    @ewestner

    Ай бұрын

    I had a bully at my last job. Unfortunately, if the higher ups aren't willing to do anything about it, then the higher ups at your company are the real problem. The only way to deal with a situation like that is to find a new job. I hope you can get out asap!

  • @barbarawissinger
    @barbarawissingerАй бұрын

    I once had a job that I wasn’t qualified for. The co-worker who felt she should have had the position made my life hell for the time was there. I got a nice payout & went back to my self-employment.

  • @DuAuskenner
    @DuAuskennerАй бұрын

    We had some lay offs recently and I‘m happy to say the ones let go where exactly this Type

  • @renatobuchert7879
    @renatobuchert7879Ай бұрын

    I'd love to see one on how not to be a toxic coworker. I'm sure some are watching this and thinking, "Oh.... I do that sometimes.... why do I do that? How can I improve my coworkers' impression of me?" I definitely had to change some things about my comportment since I first started working.

  • @davidadams421
    @davidadams421Ай бұрын

    Outstanding insight and tips. One for micro-managers: take it upon yourself to, under the guise of wanting to be more productive, timesheet your day, highlight where improvements could be made, and include the manager on developing those improvements. When they get to the impact they are having it's just a problem to solve, not an attack on their management style or them personally. Of course, if they are not willing to 'fix the problem' with you, you have the empirical evidence needed to escalate.

  • @onawal931

    @onawal931

    Ай бұрын

    Good points.

  • @haileydaisy76
    @haileydaisy76Ай бұрын

    Holding space for other people... I love that. I usually say we all deserve grace and tomorrow is a new day. Thank you for your videos!

  • @mrsHolly12
    @mrsHolly12Ай бұрын

    On our team the person initiating the gossip is also the constant complainer. It is extremely draining. When the conversation starts with " did you hear about..." I always answer," nope, not my business." When they are being negative, I will ask for a positive or remind them of all of the blessings, and also remind them that they choose to continue working and being upset about it makes it harder to enjoy the job. Sad to me. I don't like everything about my company, but I choose to be here, and I get paid to do my job. I might as well choose to do my job well, and I choose to enjoy it.

  • @mariaziarnik6909
    @mariaziarnik6909Ай бұрын

    This was enlighting and I hate office bullying! They act like your friend but stab you in the back with lies to management. I believe in karma and when they least expect they are slapped to reality

  • @SerenityForschen
    @SerenityForschenАй бұрын

    I too encourage when working with people find something good in each person. I have worked with very annoying people but over time they became my favorite people to work with. If you find one thing they person does well and praise them on it and in a sly way work to encourage the good they eventually may start avoiding the bad things.

  • @ssejllenrad561
    @ssejllenrad561Ай бұрын

    Came here expecting the usual comedy content. Ended up listening to legitimately good insight. You get a like, my good lady.

  • @Skarlett_Ravynn
    @Skarlett_RavynnАй бұрын

    My whole team is gossipers but we gossip about the bs we see daily. We work for a call center so for example we'll gossip about how severely an agent avoided taking calls (doing their job) it's how we stay sane, we share the insanity so one person alone doesn't bear it. I know you mean gossiping about personal matters and making rumors -childish stuff. Just thought I would share our version of gossiping as a not bad thing

  • @WeartheGoodSocks

    @WeartheGoodSocks

    11 күн бұрын

    Yeah I used to do call center work. It's just a way to alleviate stress in a situation where you can't leave the desk, and it's a helpful kind of gossip because then others are forewarned about that agent and are better prepared to deal with them.

  • @Skarlett_Ravynn

    @Skarlett_Ravynn

    11 күн бұрын

    @@WeartheGoodSocks exactly 🫶

  • @lesliemoiseauthor
    @lesliemoiseauthorАй бұрын

    Thank you. You said something i really needed to hear about gossip

  • @marydoherty9188
    @marydoherty9188Ай бұрын

    'energy' vampires are the worst :( love your video's, thank you xx

  • @enna1653
    @enna1653Ай бұрын

    A very good point about not necessarily knowing, what causes the unwanted behaviour. As an example, a collegue complained to me about another coworker often dismissing what she says, and repeatedly asking the same guestion from another person after she'd already answered it. I was puzzled for a moment, and after collecting myself informed that the said negative person had a deaf ear, and literally didn't hear everything.

  • @asadb1990

    @asadb1990

    Ай бұрын

    Thats on the coworker with bad ear. Get a pair of hearing aids lol. Most employee insurance plans come with money to change pair every 1-3 years depending on plan.

  • @s.e.m.7767

    @s.e.m.7767

    Ай бұрын

    @@asadb1990 the hearing aids the insurance covers are dog shit tho lol my mom has gotten basically every one that is covered in her insurance and they keep breaking and disconnecting from the bluetooth

  • @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    29 күн бұрын

    Hmmm i could never guessed that majority of gen z is somehow deaf...

  • @okesik
    @okesikАй бұрын

    On the topic of "trying to stay positive", I have become the toxing negative person when I worked on a video game that I also enjoyed playing with my friends after working hours. Both professional and personal spaces were entangled together, so when the title for various reasons tanked the quality of updates with previous issues still being unresolved, and me being just a cog in a much larger machine, I felt powerless. Your passion is then working against you, which is what I see now being exploited in the industry at large, but I digress. The only way i found out how to cease beign such a toxic member of the team was to leave the project behind both on a professional level (i.e. to cease working on it) and on a personal level (i.e. to cease playing it). Sometimes, the only way to be positive is to leave your project to its own fate and move to do something else.

  • @alizackrone2995
    @alizackrone2995Ай бұрын

    Tbh I wish i didnt have to take calls in an open office space but they decided all the project managers who talk and organize meetings for a living need to have un-walled cubes right next to each other 🙃

  • @CHMichael
    @CHMichaelАй бұрын

    New format ... nice (don't stop the old one please) .... remember, there will always be that one. No use changing jobs .... there is always one.

  • @onawal931
    @onawal931Ай бұрын

    I noticed my current micromanager is very anxious. When I first got her, I took her interference as a lack of confidence in my abilities. But after getting similar feedback from other people she interacts with, I learned that is just her personality. That really changed how I interact with her.

  • @cbeuning

    @cbeuning

    Ай бұрын

    Perhaps an indication of less confidence in their own abilities?

  • @onawal931
    @onawal931Ай бұрын

    Energy vampires. Walking around the office telling everyone how dissatisfied they are with life while their bosses come to you to do their work bc they're never available at their desks.

  • @sehrschee
    @sehrscheeАй бұрын

    We have sorft of external workers that join us on a project basis and overheard one of them gossiping about me. BUT: it got shut down HARD by a coworker of mine. I mean it took her one sentence to end the thing. Loved it. That video just reminded me of that situation..

  • @taliateah
    @taliateahАй бұрын

    You should make this series a podcast!

  • @sirgravacado4885
    @sirgravacado4885Ай бұрын

    Thanks for this video. I have had to work alongside someone at my company who is a perfectionist and does their best to hide their insecurities behind constant gripes about how busy they are and how they do so much but never get rewarded. Their excuse for not asking for help is that it's easier to just do it yourself than trust anyone else. Unfortunately, they have become so good with this shield that specialized knowledge never leaves their desk. It's a kind of control. Once they realize they need something from me suddenly they are my best friend after weeks of silence. They don't seem to have skills for interactions between the extremes of constant tugging for help and the ice shield. If I go to other people for help, I get attitude that I should have come to them instead. Much of their negativity is through undocumented communication like walk-ups and cell phone calls, using excuses of how their company tech is not working correctly. It has been draining to say the least, but I have made changes with how often our interactions take place outside of planned meetings. I have also noticed that moving away from 'whisper range' and only working in the office when many others are also there has helped. Also, management will do nothing about it since everyone is needed.

  • @vinceb8852
    @vinceb885229 күн бұрын

    Outstanding stuff, thanks!

  • @NightSpire33
    @NightSpire33Ай бұрын

    I'm stuck in a team of slackers. My manager is off on maternity and I've been asked to manage the team till they come back. It's made me realise how slow and badly the team works. It's so disheartening because complaining makes me feel like I'm always feeling empty 😢 and that I'm being negative. Can't live with it, can't ignore it because it makes the team look bad. It's the worst feeling because my workplace is very nice and flexible so I want to stay.

  • @ewestner
    @ewestnerАй бұрын

    I had a lying, manipulative coworker at my last job, which was about 75% why I left. I didn't think of her as a bully but maybe she was?

  • @WeartheGoodSocks

    @WeartheGoodSocks

    11 күн бұрын

    And the other 25% was due to the managers that failed to deal with them?

  • @NighDarke
    @NighDarkeАй бұрын

    I had one co-worker who constantly dumped their work off on other people and when she tried that with me I simply didn't do her work. So at the end of the day her stuff wasn't done and when her manager, who didn't realize she was doing that, called her out on it she tried to blame it on me saying I didn't do the work and the manager actually said I'm sorry this is your job why would she be doing the work instead of you. It did not end well for that co-worker lol.

  • @richardp6178
    @richardp6178Ай бұрын

    This is very helpful considering that I'm working in one of the most toxic jobs I have ever worked in.

  • @nadiam.7430
    @nadiam.743029 күн бұрын

    @loeWhaley "the micromanagers" deserve it's own video for instructions ... b/c of the work from home policy , we see more managers starting to become micromanagers.

  • @tolstoy21
    @tolstoy2126 күн бұрын

    The hardest part working with micromanagers is that they waste your time with working on things that they will either needlessly redo or, worse, redo in font of you as if your somehow collaborating and not just being nitpicked to death, further wasting your time. Nothing makes me less productive than a micromanager because, never being able to please them, I start putting in the minimal effort required because it makes no sense to spend energy on something that is just going to be redone anyway, and usually for no good reason. I’m not a lazy person, in fact I’ve been very successful in my career over more than a few decades, but nothing squanders my talents more than having me report to a micromanager.

  • @troyhood
    @troyhoodАй бұрын

    If you haven't dealt with any of these co-workers, you *are* the toxic co-worker.

  • @Melanie-mced

    @Melanie-mced

    Ай бұрын

    Or jobless.

  • @madelinekimbro2440
    @madelinekimbro2440Ай бұрын

    I am sure we have all either been or have worked with these stereotypes. Sadly, with the way things currently are with the mass layoffs, most people find themselves having to do the work of three to four people which is challenging for anyone. I would love to hear your input on people that find themselves in the unfortunate position of having to carry the load for others that are not competent, capable or accountable for doing what is required of their role, and have people in leadership positions that are not reliable to do anything about it.

  • @user-qf7ud5de9h
    @user-qf7ud5de9hАй бұрын

    I like that song that says mind your own business and you won't be minding mine, we are not all on the same page. Symbiotic relationships are apparent or not? Not everyone plays by the Golden rule this is true😂🎉

  • @danielpilachowski2424
    @danielpilachowski2424Ай бұрын

    My question is why are these types of workers allowed to get away with this...lol.

  • @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    29 күн бұрын

    Eyes and ears of mgmt.

  • @anthonykarem
    @anthonykarem29 күн бұрын

    Unforutnately, years ago, I dealt with a lazy, narcissistic, gossip spreading, complaining, micromanaging bully of a coworker and she was such a toxic chore to work with that I had to resign. Our personalities clashed and the manager in this situation loved her for some reason and took her side in every conflict that I ever had with her. She would religiously take credit for my work, say that I was a lazy do-nothing behind my back whenever I was not in the room, disrespect me, gossip about me, and weirdly micromanage my work while not doing anything herself. Quite an odd combination of being micromanaging to a sickening degree where she was attempting to control how my work is done while at the same time being so lazy that she wasn't doing her job and complaining that she can't do her job because she "has" to micromanage me. You see where the problem is here?

  • @grannysweet
    @grannysweetАй бұрын

    well done

  • @TheopolisQSmith
    @TheopolisQSmithАй бұрын

    Where I worked for 40 years the older guys talked about an employee back in the 1950’s and early 1960’s when there were a couple hundred people working there. The story was he almost never accomplished anything but always walked around carrying a piece of wood or a pipe or some tools. He knew all the hiding places and worked until he retired. 😹

  • @octopusoctopus9173
    @octopusoctopus9173Ай бұрын

    I have to admit that I'm the complainer of my team. The thing is I get more energy out of complaining, and I would feel so down/annoyed if someone tries to sugarcoat a project that's not going well. I do try to limit my complaining to specific team project review meetings though.

  • @abbyeftink9098
    @abbyeftink9098Ай бұрын

    I have a person who is a slacker, gossiper and complainer. It's super annoying to deal with, but I just stopped interacting with her and the people in her clique. We are a small company so it's tough. Also one of the bosses gives her huge favoritism so she prances around like she thinks she has him tied around her finger. However, what she fails to realize is he will save himself in a heartbeat over saving her.

  • @revilli1753
    @revilli1753Ай бұрын

    Oh god I’m in the middle of this now the my boss is the partner of the big boss and … I really need a new job

  • @TwilightMirage
    @TwilightMirageАй бұрын

    My toxic co-worker chooses to be on-site 5 days a week. Then complains that everyone is never in office. The team is hybrid... they get WFH days. She's upset because people are work from home which is allowed?? I don't get it.

  • @onawal931

    @onawal931

    Ай бұрын

    She wants an audience.

  • @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    29 күн бұрын

    Those are narcissists they need a stage for the show.

  • @mgk2600
    @mgk2600Ай бұрын

    My team slacker....shows up 90min-2 hours late, never attends the morning status call. Never answers emails. Shows up to one call and pretends to be the expert. Leaves 30 mins early. Has told me he sleeps on the job (wfh). I have called him out directly and he just says "yeah I need to do better" and proceeds to do worse, lowering the bar. Management does nothing about this

  • @asadb1990

    @asadb1990

    Ай бұрын

    I had a supervisor who came late and left right on or earlier. But then again he was very helpful. If i needed a contact, he would make it work.

  • @SerenityForschen

    @SerenityForschen

    Ай бұрын

    It can get really bad. I once worked with someone who was so late and out of office so often that we would take bets on when they arrived. I was a designer and anyone assigned to this writer would end up writing their own content or getting other teams writers to do the work. This went on for over 5 years. This person also falsified their education on their resume and everyone knew it. Everyone complained, HR deflected and managers deflected it was just a running joke and really made all of us wonder why we tried so hard when this one asshat got away with so much.

  • @asadb1990

    @asadb1990

    Ай бұрын

    @SerenityForschen well let me play devil's advocate. Lying on resume is standard to keep working after a long layoff lol. It's the way things work. As far as being out of the office, they might have reasons for being out. You don't know. And as far as missing deadlines. Some of us aren't drones who work like dogs to please upper management. Many of us younger folks millenials and genz have strong work boundaries and we stick to them because its not our fault that the bosses set unrealistic deadlines. We the younger generation aren't gonna work more to get unrealistic deadline met. We work at set pace. Somehow it seems like the hr and management are more understanding of the situation. Another example of such accommodation i have seen first hand is for pregnant women who will work for 5 months into pregnancy and then leave and come back after a year. Then get pregnant again and leave and come back in a year. And boy they came back to their job as if they never left. Many times a person was hired temp while the permanent pregnant employee was on leave. Sounds like you are part of the office gossip team that are always complaining about work way harder but in reality are jealous of those who get accommodation. Plus it helps if you have a backing from upper management.

  • @nikolanikolic6625

    @nikolanikolic6625

    Ай бұрын

    Usually when you have lazy coworker, that 90% of time means they are whistleblowers who tip off their colleagues mistakes to higher ups and will become managers in short amount of time. They are also usually highest paid than any of your coworkers.

  • @jtixtlan

    @jtixtlan

    Ай бұрын

    This slacker may actually be quiet quitting on purpose for a reason that coworkers don’t know. Meanwhile, the behavior becomes a burden for the team. I suggest just doing your own tasks and responsibilities - don’t pick up the slacker’s slack. Document with Low E. “The task was completed to the point at which I am awaiting a step/data from Joe. Joe, please update or advise.” Copy only the people who need to know, such as your and his manager(s). Don’t lecture or judge; just keep the focus on where it has you stuck.

  • @cbeuning
    @cbeuningАй бұрын

    I had someone accuse me of "stealing their work"... I answered a question by referring the inquiring person to the report my accuser wrote, and shared some of the information from the report in our conversation. I did not claim to write the report. Did not add my name to. Provided a link to the information.

  • @CCCeramics
    @CCCeramicsАй бұрын

    Assume good intentions! Good intentions obviously doesn't excuse any bad behavior, but it's the mindset that lets you take a deep breath and 'hold space' for someone like she's saying. Get curious. Why did they say that. Why are they doing that. Curiosity leads to empathy and understanding. I hope this doesn't need to be said, but this does not apply if you are straight up being harassed. Good video!

  • @debbeasher-k4764
    @debbeasher-k4764Ай бұрын

    If you haven’t ‘dealt with them, you might be one of them.’ 😮😢

  • @davidadams421
    @davidadams421Ай бұрын

    Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by incompetence (a variant of Hanlon's razor).

  • @jtixtlan

    @jtixtlan

    Ай бұрын

    @davidadams421 Yes! And never accept an insult when it is not intended. Sometimes it really isn’t personal.

  • @SerenityForschen
    @SerenityForschenАй бұрын

    Slackers are very different from those just there to do their job. Don't confuse the person who wants to do precisely what is asked of them and the person who refuses to do the minimum. People who wish to do their job can be very useful; give them the work they are good at and then let them complete it; not everyone wants to move up. They may just be there to do the job and get out. Slackers actively avoid work and are likely unsatisfied or, worse, have settled into having no work and want to keep it that way. I have worked with both slackers and just there to do the job. At least people who are just there to do the job and can be trusted to do a limited work set. While I always try to find what anyone is good at and give them satisfying work, some people don't care at a detrimental level.

  • @gordonm2821
    @gordonm2821Ай бұрын

    I work on large projects and usually get in at 0700. A nice coffee then breakfast in the staff restaurant sets me up for the day with no rush. A manager offered me a colleague to join our projects team. He gets in at 11am hungover does an hour of token work then goes to lunch followed by the onsite gym then starts to wind down.. I said I don’t think I can schedule work round his non-work commitments

  • @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    29 күн бұрын

    The managers proposed you a buddy he drinks with for you to do the work, for slacker to take the credit and to promote him not you.

  • @jtixtlan
    @jtixtlanАй бұрын

    I’ve heard your voice on those animation videos. I assumed they were crediting you. Then I saw one of your followers call it out.

  • @zeno2023
    @zeno2023Ай бұрын

    How do you deal with a coworker who you want to have a better (professional) relationship with, but they won't communicate with you?

  • @onawal931
    @onawal931Ай бұрын

    I tell everyone when I start, I am a narc. Do not involve me in your internecine battles. I will narc you out. They still do it!!

  • @LoveHawaii17
    @LoveHawaii17Ай бұрын

    A co-worker came to me and told me I needed to reschedule my surgery as she didn't feel it was a good time to do it. I have been dealing with health issues and sick, and she didn't care. I told her that I'm not rescheduling my surgery. She went to the boss and complained and the boss emailed me to reschedule my surgery. I was shocked with this and went to the president of the company. She knew my health issues and was not happy to hear about what my co-worker and boss said. She told me that I'm not rescheduling my surgery and she will talk to them

  • @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    29 күн бұрын

    At least you have that email

  • @LoveHawaii17

    @LoveHawaii17

    28 күн бұрын

    @Krlowanigu-mg6eg Yes, I kept that email.

  • @OKCFreecycle
    @OKCFreecycleАй бұрын

    How do you deal with people who have no thought for others? I have a coworker who doesn't clean up after himself. So, to do my own job, I have to clean up after him. Weve worked together for 7 years and I've cleaned up after him for 7 years under the guise of being a team, but I strongly dislike doing it and i want to know how to put my food down and have him clean up after himself.

  • @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    29 күн бұрын

    7 years is too long to teach him new tricks like cleaning. It had to be impuls from outside.

  • @abbyeftink9098
    @abbyeftink9098Ай бұрын

    I have a question though. So I am someone who struggles with trying to make the place where I work successfull and it bothers me when I see slackers and bullies get promotions while when I ask to get things to be able to do my job our site manger could careless. My question is how do you distant yourself emotionally from a company when your inner self just wants to see the company succeed, but your too low on the totem pole to get things pushed through?

  • @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    29 күн бұрын

    Problem is you. It is not your company. You are clearly investing too much time, energy in that job. Find yourself something outside that work, maybe another pt work to keep balance and distance yourself from it. I had the same.

  • @addledbyatmosphere2784
    @addledbyatmosphere2784Ай бұрын

    One note re: done vs perfect - some industries, the work volume isn't manageable to all expected deadlines while at the same time requiring a certain % pass/error rate (heavily audited). The frustration being - management will effectively pick what is the priority according to the whims of the season - high volume and understaffed? GET IT DONE. under accuracy audit? LOOK AT ALL THE MISTAKES YOU MADE, YOU NEED TO CORRECT AND ACCOUNT FOR ALL ERRORS MOVING FORWARD. It's a pick your poison scenario, there's no pleasing the standards any which way you cut it - if we had appropriate staffing with vetted processes we could better achieve both expectations. But we don't. And we likely won't. So the toxic micromanager who nitpicks the work per their/managements whim (without *actually* being concerned about improving team performance, they'd rather be the hero who saves the team from failure), who makes the #'s look passably good, while treating colleagues and clients terribly, gets the "Gold Star". Thus, I've learned to err on getting it right (perfect) within subjective internal deadlines while holding to firm deadlines. Still, I finally had enough of the atmosphere/environment and will be pursuing other opportunities. Life is too short to spend years struggling to get out of somebody else's stinking quick-sand pit.

  • @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    29 күн бұрын

    Yes! I have worked in a company where quality was outsourced to india. Each and every time they have invented their own rules. So it was well documented that you are not so good we are doing you a favor not letting you go etc. Moreover, a girl that the manager liked was given 40 tasks a day while i was given 54 and the manager played dumb after assigning me additional 10 tasks afternnon before going home. The next day she started with why you havent started those task. The issue is the date was noted in the system, but not the time. That is how she put me on pip. I have left after 6 months of that bs.

  • @bwillan
    @bwillanАй бұрын

    For these longer work bestie business videos, it would be handy to have chapter marks listed in the description. It would make navigating the videos easier.

  • @BradSD25
    @BradSD25Ай бұрын

    What if I’m the toxic coworker everyone complains about ?

  • @greed94

    @greed94

    Ай бұрын

    I was a toxic coworker, my eyes were yet to open

  • @bwillan

    @bwillan

    Ай бұрын

    It's rare that the toxic coworker will admit they are the toxic one.

  • @BA-pz3lo

    @BA-pz3lo

    Ай бұрын

    @@bwillanthats true the ones i have met would never admit they are the problem. to them the problem is everyone else. but as soon as that one person leaves then all the problems disappear. but he/she is gone so they will never see how things improved without them

  • @user-kf6lu4dn2r
    @user-kf6lu4dn2rАй бұрын

    Girl your sound files are getting stolen and re-uploaded under a half dozen other channels for the "Veronica' cartoons Might want to check that out

  • @jtixtlan
    @jtixtlanАй бұрын

    We have manager (my peer, not my boss) who is a screamer. I mean he frequently bellows at his people with other people around. Our director doesn’t seem to be addressing it. This is a production environment. He seems to think he can demand speed and quality work just by charging around yelling. He does not yell at me (but occasionally yells about me). He doesn’t yell at his people who would be likely to yell back or file a complaint. He yells at most hourly production workers. This tells me that he CAN control it and chooses this as a management tool. He’s been at the company over 20 years. Ideas on how I might help?

  • @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    29 күн бұрын

    You alone cant. Unions maybe.

  • @davidyates8457
    @davidyates8457Ай бұрын

    Do companies ever post all job descriptions so that everyone knows what everyone is responsible for? Just curious.

  • @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    29 күн бұрын

    No. You can be hired and they can reassign you 5 min after.

  • @markplenty2631
    @markplenty2631Ай бұрын

    i work at a train station and all of us were nice until 2 people came and made themselves kings of the rank and then one at a time they alienated each of us until a couple years later, their business are in the bin and now they have moved 100's miles away..

  • @carolynrisher1080
    @carolynrisher1080Ай бұрын

    Speaking as the slacker, I was told shut up, we don't want you to know that so you can't take that training, was not supported in any way, any suggestion I made was denigrated only to be used in the end but accredited to someone else, and finally not given a promotion that I was told I had clearly out interviewed the other candidate. The reason, they had already paid to train that person for the role. Slacking was not my default until I had been there several years all the while enduring this b.s.

  • @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    @Krlowanigu-mg6eg

    29 күн бұрын

    Understood and you are forgiven

  • @LKMNOP
    @LKMNOPАй бұрын

    I always said that if you have to choose between having a good boss and bad coworkers versus good co-workers and a bad boss choose the latter.

  • @Robert8455
    @Robert8455Ай бұрын

    You have funny and entertaining shorts which I enjoy. I'll offer some feedback here so don't get mad at my comments. I was listening to this while working and at 16 mins in, I realized that you have not taken a break or pause. So I stopped to watch and think this just comes from maybe editing out all the dead space or pauses. That is fine for shorts but for something long it makes you seem like a motor mouth and un-natural. There is no time to lets your point sink in because its just a non stop flood. Okay I think you get the point. That's all. Have a nice day.

  • @princessaome
    @princessaomeАй бұрын

    What about those that use their personal life as an excuse at work? (For those that work remotely) for example, anything child-related. I have to deal with this one coworker that has been there for about 10 years, many people have quit because of her, her supervisor doesn’t hold her accountable to any of her shenanigans, and the rest of us need to try to avoid working with her because she’s so unreliable. She unapologetically says she has a 6 month baby as her reason to why work cannot get done, doesn’t show her face in virtual meetings while everyone else has the camera on, etc.

  • @user-qf7ud5de9h
    @user-qf7ud5de9hАй бұрын

    Stay in your own lane and don't stumble others. Passive aggressive people think they are an obstacle to you. You can only bypass hostile passive aggressive types at the end of the day. Just be delightful anyway.😅

  • @j.anthonybattaglini6650
    @j.anthonybattaglini6650Ай бұрын

    I always outworked everyone in and always a high performer but im a different kind of person. always the first to get voted off the island. Worked my ass off for years and years and in that time developed a booze and coke problem. In my 40s now and never got married or had kids. Im deeply damaged. Not saying im going to off myself but i understand why my demographic leads suicide stats. I appreciate the comedy and insight here but I recommend if anyone is in their 30s and feel empty and like your traveling down dead end road, just quit your job. Find anything else to do

  • @brentkillian
    @brentkillianАй бұрын

    I had this lady who would suck up my time so I had trouble doing my work. She could not even work a computer. I don't know how she even got hired. Or completed the tests. She so annoyed me.

  • @Chhesterification
    @ChhesterificationАй бұрын

    Your procrastinating co-worker may not be lazy but have a disorder that shows up as lazy . People with ADHD will procrastinate. They do better with started deadlines and a sense of urgency.

  • @AsukaS1993
    @AsukaS1993Ай бұрын

    When someone I work closely with (project lead) is passive aggressive, micromanager and low-key bully to me 🙃 I've shown messages to my manager, the project team has seen how this person "treats" me differently... Vet triggered lol

  • @user-qf7ud5de9h
    @user-qf7ud5de9hАй бұрын

    Leviticus 23:31

  • @davidadams421
    @davidadams421Ай бұрын

    May I respectfully offer an alternative perspective wrt your comments about others passing off your work as their own? As a technology consultant I literally have to deal with this every day of my working life. I have found that internalising this in a different way is by far the best approach ... think 'Yay, my work was good enough to be presented to that crowd!' 😊 and feel proud of that, rather than, 'Hey! I should be getting credit, that's my work!!' 😣 It takes time to remap those neurons but worth the effort, imho. Also, after the presentation, offer to provide the presenter with any recent updates or improvements you may have added. At a bare minimum this will improve the relationship you have with this person because they were potentially worrying about what you may be thinking of them and will likely even credit you next time, but also lets them know in a positive context that this was your original work if they didn't know already. Win-win, as they say in those corporate circles.

  • @berenikaw
    @berenikaw29 күн бұрын

    I don’t know if it’s only me, but lately the sound of the videos are not that good :( same for “red flags with managers” maybe it’s an echo in the new office, but I have a feeling like you had to scream and I had to stop the video cause it was stressing me out😢

  • @lovealwaysmom
    @lovealwaysmomАй бұрын

    #LoeWhaley It would be nice to have some skits that show these some of these issues and how they might be resolved. At the minimum, make this a bit better.

  • @jamesoncross7494
    @jamesoncross7494Ай бұрын

    Take a breath. WOW, your incessant talking is draining. I think this video could be done in 10 minutes. I normally like your videos and I am a subscriber.

  • @ewestner

    @ewestner

    Ай бұрын

    You are complaining about someone talking incessantly on a video that is, literally, explanations? How else can she explain this stuff, via semaphore?

  • @user-qf7ud5de9h
    @user-qf7ud5de9hАй бұрын

    Gossip is a sin the bible says, gossip is just the vocabulary of drama. I think of it as people whom do not know how to form a full sentence. If all you have time for is cyberstalking someone and gossiping about someone at that point they are just deemed drama queen. Good luck with that. Render to Caesar what belongs to caesar, and to God what belongs to god.

  • @user-dh6bj2me5p
    @user-dh6bj2me5pАй бұрын

    You've been complaining more often lately. I'm going unsubscribe and check back in a year or so. Your negatively is toxic and you don't realize it.

  • @laurienesdahl6817

    @laurienesdahl6817

    Ай бұрын

    I am going to refer all of my co workers so they can benefit from her insight. I am sure you’ll be missed 😂

  • @user-dh6bj2me5p

    @user-dh6bj2me5p

    Ай бұрын

    ​@@laurienesdahl6817 Tell me how toxic negativity is valuable. You can't.

  • @laurienesdahl6817

    @laurienesdahl6817

    Ай бұрын

    I won’t try. Toodaloo

  • @davidadams421

    @davidadams421

    Ай бұрын

    I do wish the first response had been 'Toodaloo'! But we got there by comment 3, which is 'better done than perfect' and so perfectly aligned with the today's theme!😎