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@angelarodriguez5444

Жыл бұрын

The times were crazy... I'm 69 and just found out that my (sista) was my aunt. How many times didn't we get hit in those days because we didn't tell the truth!!! and all their lives lied to us..

@philipcramer940

Жыл бұрын

What a sad story. A wonderful person living in shame.

@zeroounce8874

Жыл бұрын

Stop interrupting!!!! It’s very annoying… let her talk…ask questions later.

@laurenbaker8803

Жыл бұрын

She’s lucky she didn’t inherit or have any serious genetic defects. That’s why siblings and cousins etc. are not allowed to marry.

@tinahatchman7380

Жыл бұрын

@@laurenbaker8803 Of course you can marry your cousin.

My Dad told me there are no “illegitimate children”, only illegitimate parents. Bless this woman…

@belindadunne4312

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your Dad's thoughts on the subject. That is beautiful. :)

@77thTrombone

Жыл бұрын

That's an excellent interpretation. I wish the interpretation had been divined centuries ago. It might've saved generations of resulting abuse or other dysfunction.

@angaleimotu

Жыл бұрын

What a beautiful description. Should have come so much earlier

@pauly254

Жыл бұрын

Your dad is a wise man

@George.Andrews.

Жыл бұрын

Wise word

When I found out that my dad wasn’t my biological father, a friend (who had a similar experience), told me something that I hold in my heart today. “There is your biological dad,” she said. “And then there is your logical dad. Your logical dad raised you with love, support, protection. He taught you how to be a good person, and how to be a good parent in turn. You were his daughter - nothing can change that. You are your Logical Dad’s much-loved daughter.” That was such a balm for my truly broken heart. I have one dad - that’s my logical dad. I love him, and miss him every day. ❤

@rethav8304

11 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@extraolive2006

11 ай бұрын

10% of people's alleged bio-fathers are not (and don't know!) so you are in good company.

@bladedemissary

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this! What a beautiful statement from your friend that rings so true! I too have a beautiful logical dad whom I treasure and is my best friend. I was adopted and have known from an early age I was adopted. He's always told me "you are the daughter we chose, because we could not create one. You're more special because we picked you." But, to be fair I like the logical father statement a bit better. The one my dad says is nice, but makes me feel like I was the top pick of the pile of produce at the supermarket. So again, thank you for sharing this beautiful statement - Have a great day! ❤

@Rain9Quinn

11 ай бұрын

Wow, i wish i had had a logical dad! 😂😢

@michelehood8837

11 ай бұрын

@@bladedemissary much love to you! ♥️

The fact that her biological parents rejected her as an adult breaks my heart. They did not want to deal with the emotional issues they had caused her. What selfish cowards they were. I’m so glad she was blessed with a loving, adoptive family.

@Rain9Quinn

11 ай бұрын

Right? And the fact that the incestuous brother & sister were there together, still, 20 some years later… a sick family… she was fortunate to get free of it!❤

@louniece1650

11 ай бұрын

@@Rain9Quinn Extremely fortunate.

@qwandary

11 ай бұрын

@@Rain9Quinn They might not have been together, siblings might have chosen to connect together to see their kid but thought it might traumatise her to be introduced to them as siblings. Also it's unclear if they rejected her or ended up moving suddenly, does seem odd after only a few days pause though. I don't know what would cause a 16 yr old to have sex with her 14 yr old sibling, but usually those situations happen when there is family abuse, sometimes sexual abuse already happening. The whole family may have a lot of trauma to work through and the reunion may have opened up old wounds she never got to learn of.

@timpete78

10 ай бұрын

​@@qwandarywhy are you making excuses for what they did? It was sick and caused this poor woman a lifetime of shame. She's at least fortunate she has her health. They knew what they did was wrong but did it anyway.

@jordanm436

10 ай бұрын

​@@timpete78I don't necessarily think they were giving an excuse, but merely explaining a possibility of why they acted the way they did. Not that they should be forgiven of it. People who do bad things, usually have a reason based on their upbringing. If they don't change it, then it shouldn't be forgiven but it still gives some reasoning to their actions.

She didn’t mess up. No one should keep questioning women who don’t marry or have children.

@TejubescDM

7 ай бұрын

Exactly!

@Clutching.My.Pearls

2 ай бұрын

I applaud women and men who know they don't want marriage or children. Societal pressure to marry and procreate is ridiculous.

@Jedi007c6

2 ай бұрын

It's mostly birth control that does that it makes women more manly, and Tricks their body into thinking their pregnant for years on end. Causing long-term mental issues . Look it up.

@coachingservicesforwomen

Ай бұрын

I don't think anyone is implying that she messed up because she didn't want to have kids. She said herself that she did originally want to marry and have kids and even later on after she became an aunt. What everyone is feeling, including myself, is that it's just so sad that she kept this information inside herself out of her own fear and shame. She then chose to drastically change her whole perspective about herself and her life direction because of it. She certainly didn't deserve to feel that way and to be put in that position of having no one offering her counseling before or after finding out about her biological parents. It's just so incredibly sad that she felt for so long how she did about herself and that she also felt that she couldn't get married and have healthy kids because of her situation. It's having empathy for her and what she put herself through. She deserved more than she gave herself. It's just tragic how much it all reshaped her life and more importantly tremendously hurt her and her sense of self-worth.

@blueStarKitt7924

21 күн бұрын

​@@coachingservicesforwomenYes.😔

I hid childhood abuse from everyone, including my parents, for over thirty years. This led to me turning to alcohol to self medicate. I'm now 64, and both my parents have gone. I could never bring myself to tell them, which only left me in another battle it's only in the last couple of years that I have been able to speak to trusted people about it. With the help of someone from AA, I'm nearly 2 years sober 👍

@mrsjulia3

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations on being sober.

@janecooper1425

Жыл бұрын

Well done 2 years sober - my son did 48 days and relapsed on Wednesday, just came out of hospital today. I hope he finds his way like you 🙏

@mawmawvee

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry you suffered like that. You had no say in the matter, as you were a child and at the mercy of the adults around you.😪

@lynamor2959

Жыл бұрын

God bless you now & always. Speak your truth!! It ALWAYS sets us FREE!!! 🙌❤️

@nadig9524

Жыл бұрын

I am so sorry for your painful experiences and I'm so happy that you have chosen to give yourself the healing and grace you deserve. congratulations on 2 years and I truly wish you the best. you should be proud of yourself. ❤

This woman is incredibly brave to tell her story. I admire her.

@imnotimpressed420

Жыл бұрын

How brave

@dianaveronicakambanis9690

Жыл бұрын

That not brave .She carried thier sin ruined her Life by holding onto something She had no control

@mikemann1960

Жыл бұрын

@Diana Veronica Kambanis says the one who believes that the entire world was populated by two people! So that means you're holier-than-thou God made sure to do the same? You might want to get off your moral high horse asap!

@mikemann1960

Жыл бұрын

I, for one, admire her, just for sharing her story so that; other's would not do the same thing.

@dianaveronicakambanis9690

Жыл бұрын

@@mikemann1960 It still happens!!

This woman is amazing and her story breaks my heart. I’m sad she didn’t have children - she would clearly have been a wonderful mother.

@lanamay198

10 ай бұрын

There was no real reason for her not to have children. No reason at all. Just the prejudices. False stereotypes. Very unreasonable decision.

@BrittMFH

9 ай бұрын

​@@lanamay198I wouldn't have wanted to take the chance if it had been me. I would have looked into adoption.

@MrsSlocombesPuddyCat

8 ай бұрын

​@@lanamay198 HUGE risk to take. She made the right decisions

@vittoriahawksworth8117

8 ай бұрын

@@lanamay198exactly that, and it is a tragedy that she gave up the chance because of poor understanding of the risk.

@chocolateearrings

8 ай бұрын

Right. The dangers of misinformation.

You did have the right to be angry . Your life was turned upside down . You are a good person

@GeorgeMorgan6600

2 ай бұрын

@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?

As a "adopted person," you always wonder "why" you were given up for adoption. I can honestly say, "I am sooo blessed to have been adopted." Ive always known because my mother always told me, "you were chosen; we chose you and we love you dearly." There was always someone in their, "my parents' circle of friends" that would openly say, "well you know they adopted her?" I overheard that comment and I repeated what my mom would say, "I am chosen. My mommy and Daddy chose me and because they chose me, that makes me special." Ive always known i was dearly loved. RIP MOMMY AND DADDY

@allinadaysworkhakunamatata9187

Жыл бұрын

You had such beautiful parents and they raised a fantastic child , just by reading your post.

@zeeqq105

Жыл бұрын

When you think about it being chosen is very very special❤️❤️

@silkqueen8498

Жыл бұрын

@@allinadaysworkhakunamatata9187 they did damn well! I love hearing the positive side of things... this is awesome...

@silkqueen8498

Жыл бұрын

So sorry for your losses ... they raised you with honor and I'm sure you are proud of your parents, I've always wanted to adopt I have 3 biological children myself... 🙏🙏🙏

@johnlincoln7994

Жыл бұрын

I used to feel the same way .... but time and hard facts can turn all those lovely things on their head in an instant there is no such thing as a white lie when your adopted but l'm glad you are still happy.

How wonderful that she doesn’t have genetic issues. And looks like she was raised with love. How wonderful

@pausenthink3524

Жыл бұрын

There are not automatically genetic issues. The inbreeding in the royal families went on for generations which is why they had the problems that they did. This woman could’ve had children.

@kck9742

Жыл бұрын

Because it was only one generation. Usually physical and mental issues don't appear until you have a few generations of inbreeding.

@wanderall2712

Жыл бұрын

Truly! We know there are others out there who aren't as lucky. We count the blessings where we can pray or hope, depending on what you believe in, that others who are suffering from the same dilemma today get the peace they deserve.

@matildadhumxoxo5801

Жыл бұрын

I love it!

@trawlins396

Жыл бұрын

She probably does have a few issues that she's unaware of. It's genetic.

I just want to hug her. I can’t imagine the strength it took to carry such a secret.

She's just adorable. Guess her adoptive parents must have been amazingly loving to her.

My children were born in the 80’s through donor insemination, back then I was told to keep it a secret from everyone, especially my children. My husband and I went against this advise and spoke quite openly to our children from a very young age about how they were conceived. I spoke to them about finding their biological father but they have no interest in doing so, if they ever change their mind we’d be happy to help them. Secrets in families cause untold problems, be open and honest.

@blsckhairbysharon662

Жыл бұрын

Karen I Agree With You 1000 Percent. Keeping Secrets Is The Most Selfish & The Most Horrible Thing Families Could Do. It Hurts The Next Generations That Come Along.

@missyjo2475

Жыл бұрын

@@blsckhairbysharon662 When it comes to insemination, absolutely. Stuff like that can affect medical treatment later in life so it's always good to know where one comes from.

@karensmith4203

Жыл бұрын

@@missyjo2475 in 2004 my son needed medical information from the donor, the authorities refused to give any information and wouldn’t contact the donor asking his permission. Thankfully the law has now changed in this regard and donors can now receive information with the donors consent, they can also go on a registry to make contact if both parties agree. It took way too long for the law to change in favour of the children and donors having some rights, much like adoptive children have access to a registry. Had I told the authorities back in the 80’s that I intended to inform any children I had of how they were conceived, I wouldn’t have been accepted onto the programme. Had I not told my children they were conceived by a donor, they would’ve learnt the truth when my eldest had a medical emergency at 17, honesty is always the best policy.

@veneyebony

Жыл бұрын

I love that you opened this door for your children. Who knows if health matters will arise and they’ll need his medical history. Kudos to you!

@francpez7564

Жыл бұрын

Sickening!

I am a genealogist and I have done my own family tree, an ongoing project for over 40 years and I discovered one instance in my ancestry of this happing over 300 years ago. It was in Massachusetts and it showed that the parents were both put to death for the act and there was a court hearing to determine if the baby should also be put to death. Then a family member came forth and offered to raise the child and in the court record it stated that the family member was ordered not to reveal to the child where they came from. But since it's preserved in the record I was able to learn about it. This happened around the time of the witch hysteria, circa early 1690's.

@selfesteem3447

Жыл бұрын

Nunya, interesting account.

@JG-mt3rp

Жыл бұрын

fascinating stuff I would watch the video about that

@melindaunknown6411

Жыл бұрын

Very interesting. This brother/sister thing happens a lot more than people think. Very sad.

@debt4717

Жыл бұрын

@@dmsilfies4762 She said it was in 'her' history, so the child obviously had children or she wouldn't be here.

@Julia-uh4li

Жыл бұрын

@@debt4717 She did not say it was "her history" but her families history/family tree, ya know, where she traced back to the 1690s and there are from that point on maybe many hundreds of family members since. Nothing she had written in her comment indicated a direct link to her. You're silly, Deb 🙃 Edited out "daft" since someone thought it was too unkind. I've updated the use to the North American version in my correction. I didn't mean to come off as unkind.

My heart aches for this sweet lady. Giving up a relationship and children the way she did, had to be beyond painful. Absolutely awful. God bless her.😢

@Maikeru110572

Жыл бұрын

Scientifically, from a genetic standpoint, it is the right thing to do. Kudos to her. But from an emotional perspective, she could have adopted orphans/other children instead without having biological ones and successfully raised a family of her own. She has denied herself that chance she might have longed for, but I hope she did not regret it later. Nothing wrong with what she did. She made that decision based on the available knowledge she had back then. Based on that, personally, I believe it is a sound decision, I don't blame her for the anger she felt and she admits to it and I believe she grew up well-adjusted and luckily has a loving, supportive adoptive family to lean on. She is still very lucky, I should say.

@Lilian040210

8 ай бұрын

@@Maikeru110572back in her day, it was probably expected of women to be, how do I hold myself from putting it worse, making children for a man, so she thought that if she can't, her life's over. A victim of patriarchy as much as her degen producers

@marandaholley9760

4 ай бұрын

it really is but there is a huge chance her kids would be absolutely normal, she is...

I lost my Mum Dad and step Dad all within 7 months of each other in 2020. If I could bring just one back for the day it would be my step Dad every time. He was and still is my hero ❤

@sophiagrey8456

2 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I pray you will meet them again some day in heaven 🥺❤

I'm so sorry that she felt shame. She had done nothing wrong!

@lostinspace699

Жыл бұрын

every one has shame ,,,

@faithrada

Жыл бұрын

@lost in space And yet they shouldn't. Shame is the result of our wrong identification with our false ego. It is a misdirected, needless waste of energy that robs us of our God given Joy. God does not CARE who our physical parents are.. "He"only cares about the condition of OUR Heart. As one matures and PERCEIVES THEY have done something wrong... then correct it if you can. Have honest remorse, if necessary... and move forward. NEVER allow your ego to play the Shame game. Shame serves no one. Btw.... It should be obvious that Babies are free of all Shame because they are FREE of ALL DOership. They have done nothing to be shameful for. Shame is taught! A human's TRUE IDENTITY comes directly from God... who is Perfect Love. When we listen to our ego self we can get misdirected and lose our way. We are a creation of God, who is Absolute Perfection.... not Man. Always remember your TRUE Source.

@Bee-ly4gx

Жыл бұрын

@@lostinspace699 I don’t know but this should not be her shame. As for your reply, shame on you!

@mary-janereallynotsarah684

Жыл бұрын

Not everyone carries around such shame. Don't invalidate her struggles.

@cc1k435

Жыл бұрын

It is only very recently that people weren't publicly shunned for illegitimate birth or interracial status. Didn't matter that those are tales as old as human history.

My mother was the result of an incestuous union between her mother and her mother's older brother. When I found out the truth at the age of 34, I felt like someone had punched me in the gut. I cried a lot during those first few days afterward, but what can you do? They were dead and gone by then. I haven't openly shared this information because I can't imagine people wouldn't look at me differently.

@judithtaylor6916

Жыл бұрын

You are precious just like your mother was. Dont feel you are less loved if the circumstances were different.

@deerhaven3350

Жыл бұрын

@@judithtaylor6916 Thank you for your kindness. It means so much.

@bidenneedshisbuttwiped

Жыл бұрын

Thats not something that needs to be shared generally. You should feel no shame.

@cl5193

Жыл бұрын

That's something that's no one else's business. Everyone, and I mean everyone, has skeletons in their closets of one type or another. Sometimes I think we are living in the 'too much information age.'

@WarandFlame

Жыл бұрын

It’s not your fault sweetie. God always turns bad things into good and you are one of those things

This genuinely affected me deeply. I felt instantly so compassionate for Theresa, having had to go through what she did alone without anyone to support her emotionally for so many years. I don’t think I’ll ever forget her bravery. She is such a lovely person in every way. I also felt physically sick, almost immediately upon hearing her story, but not because of her background but rather because of the burden she carried for so long. She is a beautiful person, and she has blessed so many by sharing her story.

@ChrisReimann-rg1gg

9 ай бұрын

Exactly my feelings. Well said.

This poor sweet woman. My heart bleeds for her. I want to cry for her. I wish I could wrap my arms around her and hug her!! None of this is her fault, yet she's the one who has carried the shame! That's just so wrong. And the fact that it ruined her life makes it doubly wrong.

@Smorss2011

2 ай бұрын

She is not ruined. She is an articulate, beautiful person.

Mental, spiritual, and emotional intelligence abounds within this remarkable women. One in a million.

@MrsQ22

Жыл бұрын

Woman

@bernadetteglancy4439

Жыл бұрын

So well said and absolutely.

@monicabonetti95

Жыл бұрын

Perfectly described her intelligence, capacity and strength!

@M_SC

Жыл бұрын

No mention of spirituality

@Limeyfrog

Жыл бұрын

Well you can get that with pureborn.

This is just so sad. She lost out on being a mother and believed for so long that she is unworthy. She is an absolutely amazing woman.

@elsagrace3893

Жыл бұрын

She is only a victim of herself. 🙄🙄🙄

@susanb5058

Жыл бұрын

@@elsagrace3893 you should try some compassion. It’s horrible what happened and no fault of her own.

@mariachavez8173

Жыл бұрын

@@elsagrace3893 victim of herself? What of comment!

@BettyAlexandriaPride

Жыл бұрын

@@elsagrace3893 Let's not feed the troll, everyone.

@fivemjs

Жыл бұрын

@@BettyAlexandriaPride right? Why give attention to those that want it for the wrong reason. Only my opinion 😁

The host is lovely and compassionate with her questions etc.

I almost did not comment . . . I can totally relate to her feelings of shame and embarrassment of her conception because I feel the same way about mines. It is something that you learn early on to "sweep under the rug" and never discuss with anyone under any circumstance, no matter how close you become. The worst part is that it's always there and never goes away. My heart truly goes out to her and hope that she can go on to live fully after having told her story and no longer being captive by her conception.

@cotrelllovessugar

5 ай бұрын

we don’t control how we come in to the world we only control how we conduct ourselves with kindness and love

@naelyneurkopfen9741

2 ай бұрын

I came to exist in a not great way, and I was taught to keep it a secret. I understand why and I have no ill feelings about that aspect of my birth. But I've long felt,(and, it's true) that I am someone who should have never existed. But I also know that I personally bear no shame for the circumstance, I'm merely the result.

This woman is phenomenal. She looks like a truly decent human being, and she cannot help how she was conceived.

@judys5767

Жыл бұрын

"Looks like a decent person"?? Why would she look different? Ridiculous judgement!

@seaglass1111

Жыл бұрын

And think of what the world would have missed out on if the mother had her aborted, because of the situation of the pregnancy. Yes I said that. I couldn't keep it quiet and maybe at least one person will think more about the devastation of abortion.

@valeriewhite1459

Жыл бұрын

@@judys5767 I think she probably meant "seems" or "behaves."

@skyelark5511

Жыл бұрын

@@seaglass1111 Do you really believe that there is *NO GOD* or that humans can do anything to thwart God's plan for His Creation? Because that is the *ONLY* way the world can miss out on something it needs.

@pouponcrazycat5987

Жыл бұрын

This happens all the time. Not so much Now as much but from 1925 to 1970 there were many secrets. In my family too,when my mom gave birth her child was deformed they switched at birth.1950. so I am looking for my brother Sept 30,1950. In Brooklyn NY,I am having a hard time to find him.

What a beautiful soul! I'm so glad that she was finally able to release all sense of shame for something that was not her doing, and never hers to bear. May she live a long and bountiful life full of love, light, joy and peace! ❤🙏

@obscurelyvague

Жыл бұрын

"Persephone" I would never feel shame for what my ancestors did. There were times when life was less complicated but more complex and society was not sophisticated or enlightened.

@dianaveronicakambanis9690

Жыл бұрын

No shame you were the victim

@missycitty9478

Жыл бұрын

@@obscurelyvague Persephone wasn't suggesting that she SHOULD feel shame. She was simply stating that she was glad that this lovely woman was able to RELEASE any feelings of shame ( that she carried with her for some time; decades) for something that she had no control over.

@jo8260

Жыл бұрын

@@obscurelyvague Do you really know that? Have you lived though an experience that is, in any way, close to being equivalent? A lot of people give themselves too much credit when judging what they may or may not do in a given situation.

@persephone1062

Жыл бұрын

@@missycitty9478 TY for clarifying my point. .. Your words are exactly what I was trying to convey. I was one of the ppl who gave @L Martinez a 👍, thinking that s/he was agreeing w/my comment. I hadn't realized that s/he thought I was saying something entirely different... ❤🙏

Why do the children always feel the shame of what adults do? Bless her.

I am glad that this lovely lady is physically healthy mentally and has no physical deformation or disability. She is quite blessed, and may she continue so. 💕

For such a traumatic experience of learning about her parents and the guilt and shame she carried for so long, this lady is incredibly strong.

@debbylou5729

Жыл бұрын

Why would she carry any guilt or shame? How old are you?

@kikkiannas

Жыл бұрын

She said it herself in the video.

@eh-i1841

Жыл бұрын

@@debbylou5729 because some people do.How old are you?

@Narrow-Pather

Жыл бұрын

We are as strong as we're forced and capable of being....Not through desired or inspired acts of bravery, but as an effort of self preservation. *Speaking from experience.*

@joaniem3817

Жыл бұрын

@@debbylou5729 She said so herself in the video. Did you not watch it?

A brother and sister having a child at 14 and 16 (and conception was possibly at 13/15) tells me that there was something extremely sinister going on at home on TOP of the obvious.

@annmarieholland4242

Жыл бұрын

Catholic

@jacquiereeves2108

Жыл бұрын

@@annmarieholland4242 , if you think it is just something that is among the Catholics you are greatly mistaken

@KasieMusic

Жыл бұрын

No sweatheart, you didn't listen - the adoptive family were catholics.

@melindarobino2930

Жыл бұрын

Maybe. But maybe hormones just kicked in and they experimented.

@kifi672

Жыл бұрын

doesn't HAVE to..

It is my great pleasure to be an Aunty. I think you must be a wonderful aunt. Thank you for your bravery and candor. ❤

She’s clearly a very good woman. The choices of her parents have nothing to do with her value. I’ve got similar events in my family & have also actively chosen to not have bio kids. I’m so very glad she had such a wonderful adoptive family. I hope she’s happy in her life - because she absolutely deserves it. ❤❤❤

@omp199

11 ай бұрын

Is she _very_ good, though? The sense of revulsion and shame that she felt when learning about her parentage shows that she harboured some deep and nasty prejudices. She broke up with her boyfriend for no good reason, likely breaking his heart, just because she was ignorant of basic genetics and couldn't be bothered to research it. And then when her mother was good enough to meet up with her she was, by the sounds of it, very rude to her. It's good of her to share her story publicly, as this shows that she has made admirable progress towards honesty and openness and is using that in a way that will no doubt lessen the sense of shame in other people in similar positions, but I didn't get the impression that she had entirely atoned for her previous poor treatment of her boyfriend and of her mother.

@shonabeggs4640

11 ай бұрын

@@omp199 I could never have guessed you are not local, your attempt at painting that woman as ignorant and holding deep prejudices to cover for other, out groups doesn't wash. You should go look at some stats for the in breeders you boast of. Your touting for that here is a big NO!. Your views on in breeding are not and never will be looked at as anything other than degenerate child abuse.

@oohlookatthatdoggo

Ай бұрын

@@omp199How is the view from your high horse?

@omp199

Ай бұрын

@@oohlookatthatdoggo I'm not claiming to be better than her. My comment isn't about me. It's a comment about what we learnt from the video. That's what comment sections should be for, primarily.

@natv55

Ай бұрын

​@omp199 she found out about her biological parents in the early 80s - it's not like today where information on anything is widely available online. Of course she thought having babies was a no no. She explained how horrified she was of her origins - who was she going to speak to about her ability to start a family?! She ended it with her boyfriend so that he could go on to have children... she was young and had had the shock of her life! Yes she was angry at her mother but again this was a whole different time, I think she can be forgiven for that, she probably was not thinking about poss SA situations because no-one spoke about that kind of thing back then. Her parents then disappeared which is tragic really - they didn't want to have the conversation, which I can also understand because they must have had feelings of shame... I wonder if they are still alive...

The thought of her carrying so much shame on her own for so many years, had me tearing up. I am so glad she finally opened up, and allowed those she loved to help her carry all those feelings. Very strong, brave woman.

@claudiahaynes9363

Жыл бұрын

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@carlisclosetedphgt3666

Жыл бұрын

Hmm why her chins and jaws are not 22 inches long ? It shaped normal 🤔🤔

@mawmawvee

Жыл бұрын

@@carlisclosetedphgt3666 ???

@eleanortaylor5901

Жыл бұрын

🎉❤😂😂

@littleme3597

Жыл бұрын

@@carlisclosetedphgt3666 Yes. She has no abnormality. Half siblings?

How sad that a totally innocent person, through no fault of her own, internalized years of shame alone for the actions of others. What a brave and lovely woman who is worthy and deserves all the love due to her. So glad she is moving forward and helping others by telling her story.

@latinaforever4892

Жыл бұрын

Would be a beautiful movie about her’s life , how strong she really is 🙏💕👏🏼

When you got to the part where you told your parents, that made me cry. It must’ve been so hard for you and for them. To know your child is hurting and can’t do anything about it until 20 years later, must have hurt them so much.. as a parent we want always want to protect our children and make their life easier. So glad you finally told them you must all feel so much better. God’s blessings

It was really unfair that having her biological father in the corner was sprung on her like that. Like she wasn’t already upset. Her biological mother probably knew she wouldn’t have agreed to a meeting with both of them right off. It was deceitful and manipulative, and that woman didn’t even have the grace to allow her biological daughter the right to be upset. It’s just selfish.

@70snostalgia

11 ай бұрын

Need a license for a car, a gun, a trade, to dive, to fly etc etc but ANY DAMN FOOL CAN BE A PARENT. Something wrong here.

@bojanalukic8515

11 ай бұрын

And they knew about it for about 20 years, and she knew about it for a month or two. Immature, egotistical and sick creatures

@omp199

11 ай бұрын

She says in the interview that her mother told her that the man in the corner was a friend, so for one thing, we don't know that he was the father in the first place, and even if he was, the fact that the mother said he was a friend shows that she wasn't "springing" anything on her daughter. And I have no idea what you are going on about at all when you say that the mother "didn’t even have the grace to allow her biological daughter the right to be upset". She obviously had no control over her daughter's emotions and there is nothing to indicate that she tried to exert such control. All she did was make the perfectly sensible and thoughtful suggestion that she should write down her questions so that they could discuss them later when she was less upset.

@user-yj2ss9tq8z

11 ай бұрын

Plus there's no telling what her bio grandparents did to bio mom & dad (bro/sis) either... Maybe they were also abused. There's a story to their background.... & no way of finding out what it is.

@tootoo3172

11 ай бұрын

@@omp199she agreed to meeting with her mother. The fact she wasn’t informed there would be someone else there is disingenuous to say the least.

She took on the burden of her parents past, when she was the product of it. That poor woman felt tainted for her beginnings. She sounds like a lovely soul. She is so articulate and told her story really well. Thank you for sharing it. I wish for your own good, you had unburdened yourself decades before you did.

@elizagrogan9454

Жыл бұрын

@BLT Even more distressing is the thought that her biological mother might have been sexually abused by her brother. That was a real issue in the past, when such matters were swept under the carpet.

@olivelane7903

Жыл бұрын

God bless u u poor lady l have been feeling sorry for myself as my parents abused me and hit me shut me in a dark cupboard under the stairs etc which led to me being a very insecure person all my life l shall be eighty on Saturday l have a lot wrong with me now just live with severe pain

@nightnyungwe5945

Жыл бұрын

​@@elizagrogan9454 I must say I found it strange that they chose to meet her together.

@charlittacarter6038

Жыл бұрын

>Night, they may still be in a sexual relationship.

@evacameron8670

Жыл бұрын

it is beautiful you are free now

There is absolutely nothing wrong with this woman. She is incredibly calm, sweet and compassionate. I think this happens more than we realize.

@nancybarricklo2079

Жыл бұрын

I agree. When I worked in social work years ago, I learned that his mom was actually his grandma; his sister was his mom and his brother was his dad. He did not know this. Nevertheless, he had a lot of emotional issues that were probably more about the family secrets than any genetic problems. I'll never forget him.

@shepberryhill4912

Жыл бұрын

@Kelly Kelly People can heal from their pasts and become spiritually fulfilled without forfeiting reason and succumbing to evangelical nonsense. It's unethical to use every pretext as an opportunity to pump your deluded religion.

@newmove4378

Жыл бұрын

@@shepberryhill4912 YES!

@newmove4378

Жыл бұрын

@@kellykelly6805 "Is there anything else you think you need to school me about?" Boundaries, most people DON'T practice your ideology so why foist it on them. ""Forgive them Father for they not know what they are doing."" Oh the irony.

@teecop4735

Жыл бұрын

@@shepberryhill4912 THEY never said they couldn’t ! Why so angry ? What happened to you? What made you so rude and so nasty ? Just to be rude and nasty ? This is their point of view which they are entitled to ! Just like you are only they didn’t insult you in any way . Does it make you feel good to be a key board bully ? Had this been any of the other of the two big religions of the world you would have said NOTHING ! But you feel embolden to say rude things because this person is Christian . If you can’t use or need their comment why not just move along and give your own opinion without trying to insult another’s ? Your snide remarks aren’t necessary for anyone but what it does for you . Sad at your age still throwing what is tantamount to an adult temper tantrum because you didn’t agree with someone else’s opinion you felt the need to try to step on someone you don’t even know ?

What a lovely lady. I'm so sorry she went through this.

@smiththomson95

Жыл бұрын

Hello Pamela How are you doing today?

What an amazing lady. So brave. Kinda want to give her a hug!

It doesn’t matter who your parents are, all that really matters is who you are.

@klausrostock4163

Жыл бұрын

It does matter, cmon . She is resilient

@greyhorses5223

Жыл бұрын

God is your Father who will never leave you or stop loving you. You always have your Heavenly Father, for eternity.

@thecrimsondragon9744

Жыл бұрын

​@@greyhorses5223Ah yes, the same God that condemns innocent children like this woman to live entire lives of loneliness and secrecy because of their parents' sins.

@greyhorses5223

Жыл бұрын

@@thecrimsondragon9744 Once again, Satan, has misconstrued scripture to lead people astray.

@Terry-lh8cn

Жыл бұрын

It matters when you might have a genetic problem because of who they are, like in this case.

What a lovely, intelligent, articulate, woman. Inspirational! Thank you for speaking out.

She's a brave woman and I feel nothing but compassion for her.

@Ame3thyst3

Ай бұрын

What courage!

I am in awe of Theresa's bravery in sharing her story. It is unfortunate and sad that she carried this secret for 20 years, afraid of how society would treat her if she revealed her story.. I am glad that we now live in a world that makes it easier to share these stories, so that people like Theresa don't feel they have to carry such a heavy burden alone. I hope she has gone on to be blessed with a family of her own and is happy. She deserves to be.. What a lovely woman.

"I was revolted at me so what would other people think? If I thought that of myself I couldn't take the risk, and I thought that people would turn their backs on me." I can relate to this 100%. I am, just as this woman is, a victim of someone else's actions. Neither one of us should have ever had to carry all that shame.

@luannasheridan2316

Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry that you had to go through that.

@laurathomas6416

Жыл бұрын

Sara Svendsson you are Gods child. That is the truth and all that matters. Others actions themselves or upon you, hurt you in your mind and heart, things happened to me too, but when I asked, I was healed in mind and spirit. I hope you have been too. May God bless you right now.

@M5TABBYCAT

Жыл бұрын

Forgive my ignorance and curiosity. But people these days care so little about others' opinions unlike say in the 70's etc. Why feel ashamed? I'm wondering if I'd feel that? I'm not sure what I'd feel...I'm thinking I wouldn't feel ashamed. But then again I'm thinking about it outside of being in that position so I'm just speculating.

@dolcepescas6153

Жыл бұрын

@@M5TABBYCAT I think all people (in general) want SOME sort of validation from others.. It's in our nature to want to fit in, have friends, be liked. When you have some 'taboo' that others view as negative, they often view YOU as negative, and that alienates you. You didn't ask me, but that's what I would guess. People still care about others' opinion, just not everyone's opinion

@patriciacathcart9233

Жыл бұрын

Religion has taught people to be judgemental, taught shame, and fear.. not just the days, the religions.

This lady is a credit to herself, to her family, and to all of us. She generates huge, immense respect!

@matildadhumxoxo5801

Жыл бұрын

I love her!

@latinaforever4892

Жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏💕🙏

No-one chooses the circumstances of their birth. No-one should feel shame as a result of those circumstances.

My daughter was adopted because I couldn't look after her, we did meet, and are now fairly close, but I made it very clear to her when we met, that it was totally acceptable if she was angry with me - and my circumstances were far less weird than that.

Theresa: you are incredibly brave. You may not have had your own biological children, but your goodness and generosity have impacted 2,000,000 people around the world, who have heard your brave testimony. Blessings on you! and thank you!

@macolga100

2 ай бұрын

4,000,000 Millionen ;))

I was married for 23 years to a man who had been adopted. Before he died (a robbery victim) he was lucky enough to be found by his biological half sister. They had 5 years together before his sudden death and she and I continued to be best friends until her death from cancer 9 years later. None of us were ever able to piece together the whole story and because of family secrets are left with nothing but half truths. Only a month ago I was contacted by a family member who was making the family tree and even more bits and pieces turned up. It is all a confusing mess. I wish my husband had gotten his answers before his death though. Family secrets are so damaging.

@danatmonst3594

Жыл бұрын

My heart goes out to you. My condolences for the loss of your husband and his half sister. Both traumatic ways to go. As far as I know I grew up with the two who created me but they never talked about family. I only realised this Christmas that I dont even know what my grandparents' names were. Just big Grandma/Granddad or Little Grandma/Granddad. Tradition on my dad's side makes his father's name James (same as my dad) but thats as much as I know. Family secret? I dont know.

@sitcomsTV

Жыл бұрын

That's what I wish for this woman. For her to get her answers. She should go and do some DNA ancestry test. Maybe a sister, brother, uncle would turn up. As a result some questions could get answered. Although, after so long, one falls into the category you mention: half trues or a bunch of lies. The only person that could have given her absolut truth would have been her biological mother. So sad! I hope she gets answers!

@rainbows9060

Жыл бұрын

I so agree, the saying "secrets keep you sick" so hold true in my family of origin.

@noneofyourbusiness9369

Жыл бұрын

One of my parents was adopted the sister was adopted first. My so called grandparents went on a trip leaving my aunt with the house help and came back a week later with my father and my so called grandmother said to my aunt here's your bother, take care of him. And stranger still so called grandparent says I finally got my chubby Indian baby and no adoption papers exist. My aunt believes as I do he was stolen and paid for like a pair of shoes.

@trapped7534

Жыл бұрын

@@noneofyourbusiness9369 ,Oh my word. I am so sorry. I at least know my parents.. if not the rest… see my post ^^^.

I hope this beautiful woman continues to feel the love of her family and nieces and nephews! She is so very brave!

When your birth mother agreed to meet you, she should've done it on her own and no bombarded you with her family members. That was so wrong and that's what I'm sure made the situation worse. If you'd have met on your own in a mutual place things may have been different. I'm so sorry you've lived your life based off your story. You are a beautiful lady, I wish you had someone sooner that could've been there for you x

As a 25 year career RN working in mental health thank you for telling your story...You are an inspiration and incredibly brave...

@AdelineCowgirl

Жыл бұрын

Why does it matter that you're an RN or work in mental health? This is just as relevant to everyone who isn't as "qualified" and special as you.

@sweetcaroline6724

Жыл бұрын

@@AdelineCowgirl I am very sorry for whatever is making you so terribly angry...Please try to seek help.

@acousticshadow4032

Жыл бұрын

@@sweetcaroline6724 ~ I think if you had posted your credentials, and followed up with something like, "I have heard similar testimony many times in my career, and thereby realize how much courage it took for you to share your experience...etc, etc.", it may have been more relevant.

@sweetcaroline6724

Жыл бұрын

@@acousticshadow4032 Hi I wasn't attempting to be "relevant" just spoke from my heart as I know how important it is for people to hear this story and how difficult it must have been to tell.

@farmcat3198

Жыл бұрын

And how often do you see this dynamic?

What a lovely woman. You were never illegitimate, the parents bear that label. I am Catholic too, so I understand your reaction. I am happy you were adopted and had a caring family. You evolved into a woman to be admired and respected. You are doing something so unselfish for so many children experiencing your situation. God bless you.

@jwsuicides8095

Жыл бұрын

He parents were children when they conceived her...maybe have a think about that? Just an eensy weensy think??

@icturner23

Жыл бұрын

This interview isn’t about illegitimacy, which no one cares about any more. You’re disrespecting her by not engaging with the actual issue.

@stephanieyee9784

Жыл бұрын

This interview was not about being illegitimate. It was about being the issue of siblings.

@mandycote5662

Жыл бұрын

Catholic? Jesus invited man to be born again- spiritually It’s a command from God and the work of Holy Spirit Having one’s own immaculate conception The only Church Christ is returning for are the New Testament The ekklessia of God the Bride of Christ Catholicism is a religion and a doctrine of demons

@mandycote5662

Жыл бұрын

her parents were brother and sister/ siblings

My heart goes to out to this lady. To want children and have that taken away by the actions of the two people who made her is so cruel and heartbreaking. We never know what may come in life and her finding out about her parentage was one almighty shock to her system, so so sad 😢

Incredibly strong woman. Cheers to you.

My heart goes out to this lady. All the years she carried this burden alone. I wish her biological family had not abandoned her for the second time and that she would have been able to get some answers in a civil and dignified manner. God bless you.

@sidstovell2177

Жыл бұрын

One wonders if they were only curious about her. One wonders about them, period. Brave woman.

@cassieoz1702

Жыл бұрын

It's quite likely they were damaged young people in their own right. It must have taken enormous courage on their behalf to set up the meeting and her (understandable) anger just buckled them under. They couldn't go on with the meeting

@CraigsOverijse

Жыл бұрын

it is possible that her birth Mother also feels that sense of shame for all we know it was maybe not consenual but sexual abuse or if not a very complex family dynamic if siblings end up sexually active with each other.

@natnielsen8472

Жыл бұрын

@@CraigsOverijse The relationship must have been consensual for the biological mother to have her brother there for the meeting.

@MareRS357

Жыл бұрын

Very disturbing news to this lady. I would rather not know. The only reason to know would be not to have children herself. Very sad. 😢

I am profoundly touched by this woman’s story, and I wish her all the love and happiness the world can offer her. She is a precious soul.

What a brave woman. I’m so sorry she lived in fear and shame for something over which she had no control. I’d like to tell her that Aunties are far more important than most people think. My mum’s sister was my second mum. I called her mummy ***. I’m certain her nieces and nephews feel the same way about her. ❤😊

I am PROUD of you for having this courage to unburden yourself of the shame you understandably held on yourself. It wasn't your fault in any way. I was sexually abused by a Catholic priest in my young teens and held onto this horror for over 30 years before I unburdened on a friend at a director's retreat. Through my own shame all those years made me physically sick into my 60's with high anxiety. We are kindred spirits in this understand of one another with our stories. I found through my own story, like you, in sharing with others, to come forward to the table and lay the terrors down and learn peace. I wish for you to find the happiness in what pleases you most and know how very many you are helping. Thank you!

@GeorgeMorgan6600

2 ай бұрын

@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?

@pjeaton58

2 ай бұрын

Catholic priest - well that says it all, what a surprise.

Poor woman. What a burden she had. Peace and Happiness to her

@ramose83

Жыл бұрын

Not poor woman; brave woman I would say ...

@wm8982

Жыл бұрын

Just a woman... Not alone in living with difficult memories... Brave ? Unlikely. All witnesses dead ? Good time to bring it up... How much are they offering for the story ? Better get my hair done... ...and here we are...

@mollyh1056

Жыл бұрын

@@wm8982 you sound miserable

@wm8982

Жыл бұрын

@@mollyh1056 You look terrible !

@dalia5378

Жыл бұрын

@@wm8982 your right, they should’ve told her when her parents were alive, because she could’ve had questions?!

Sad. Brave lady for sharing her story. I’m now 86yrs. Two yrs ago I learnt, my cousin was my brother. He died shortly after I was told. No contact as adults. I always thought I was an only child. Secrets in families can scar one’s lives!

@matildadhumxoxo5801

Жыл бұрын

I do family trees for free and have found so many terrible secrets in peoples family trees that it would shock most people. Sometimes I have to stop looking for a few days.

@anahabat8210

Жыл бұрын

@@matildadhumxoxo5801 Now I' m curius! Do share some..

@mytravls

Жыл бұрын

Having a cousin as your brother isn’t shocking to me at all. I’m from where cousins are just like sisters and brothers from different set of parents Ofcourse. Some families in the past adopted from their sisters or brothers if they had no child.

@carolnolan9439

Жыл бұрын

Two of my half brothers are my second cousins

@julien2912

Жыл бұрын

Cheral Geen So you are saying that your Aunt and Uncle was raising your brother as their own child and that's why he was believed to be your cousin but he was really your brother?

I was sorry to hear her biological parents chose to ghost her after their meeting, but I was sure that reaction was rough on them as well. They probably changed their minds thinking she was better off not knowing them, or that she would only reject them again. I'm glad at least they could be in the room together after what happened, they probably grew up in a bad situation. I'm glad she was able to tell her family, and sorry the stigma prevented her from pursuing her dreams of becoming a mother.

@ExplorewithSarahlouise

8 ай бұрын

Yeah I felt the same would be interesting to hear their side. I’m sure that a lot went on with them too and I’m sure they carry round a ton of shame too and like you said possibly thought it was a bad idea and it might mess her up even more than staying out of her life. They rly needed a third party to converse with them both separately.

@MsCDante

2 ай бұрын

Yes. I've heard of things like this in families. Some situations is too painful to face. Probably let her go so that she wouldn't be just as hurt physically and emotionally... maybe even just as confused.

So much undeserved shame and suffering! This story left me deeply touched. What a brave human! Much love and respect.

I was taken from my biological father due to sexual abuse when I was 13. Back then, 54 years ago, no one knew enough to share this information with my foster family or to provide counseling for me. If that had happened I would not have had 2 bad marriages due to choices I made as a result of the abuse. I am glad that I was able to have complete healing and recovery of the effects it had on me. I am glad that there is so much help for people who have had a less than perfect past and who are able to reach out for it.

@snuassauns

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry that you had that experience. It's great that you were able to get help to recovery from this.

@janelensch6168

Жыл бұрын

Bonnie. Nice to meet you. Yes, I agree. You had a obstacle as you lived with a secret and effects of your emotions and mental kindness you needed. I would hope you have a mature woman you trust and give you a hug of support. Your bravery should be celebrated and may you know how to pray and results will continue to bless you. Life is to live and love. May you walk with confidence and know the Lord is willing to love you more.

@KrisD007

Жыл бұрын

I've had 2 bad marriages and no sexual abuse..l

@ettbattresverigenu

Жыл бұрын

I'm glad for your brave healing 💖. That's fantastic ❣️

@princessjada3808

Жыл бұрын

💪💪💪

What a lovely lady. She is a credit to her adoptive parents.

@kimkrebs451

Жыл бұрын

I agree

Such an incredible amount of pressure on this lady. Her biological mom and dad chickening out of further discussion. The shame and anger visited upon herself. So very sad and infuriating 😢

Powerful lady, I respect her deeply for her willingness to speak up and share her story.

I’m so very proud of her. She must have left a lasting impression as an aunt.

@bernadetteglancy4439

Жыл бұрын

Great observation 😊

@interabang

Жыл бұрын

How can you be proud of someone you've never met, have no connection to or connection to the circumstances she described ?

@EASTSIDERIDER707

Жыл бұрын

@@interabang Get over yourself

@interabang

Жыл бұрын

@@EASTSIDERIDER707 It's like me saying I'm proud of Neil Armstrong or Sir Edmund Hilary, I have zero connection to either of them but by saying that I'm virtue signaling that I'm a great person as well.

What an amazing woman! I honestly don’t think she realizes how much she may have helped someone just by sharing her story! I wish her all the best.

@HiltonBruce

Жыл бұрын

Hello How are you doing today❤

Bless her! She’s very brave and I hurt for her pain but am so grateful she shared her story. I think she will be a great inspiration to others.

My heart goes out to this nice lady. Having commercials jump in in the middle of her heartbreaking sentence is very rude!

Such eloquence despite years of shame. What a caring woman raised in an accepting family

I have a similar situation. I grew up not knowing who my biological parents were. Apparently I was raised knowing my biological mother as friend of the family . Everyone knew that secret. I felt deceived

@AlwaysLisaLisa

Жыл бұрын

❤ People usually do their best. Much love to you❤

@camellia8625

Жыл бұрын

I can imagine that would feel absolutely awful. I hope you have found some more transparent and straightforward people now.

@sidstovell2177

Жыл бұрын

Children used to be lied to for their own good, it was thought. Broken trust starts feelings of puzzlement, anxiety and depression, depending. Very sorry for your situation.

@RevertedRashidah

Жыл бұрын

@@kbo730 quick heads up-she already feels this way. You literally can’t tell someone to NOT feel what they’re feeling. She was lied to. You’re also allowed to feel however YOU do about your life. Keep that separate

@ellecampbell3271

Жыл бұрын

You were totally deceived . You were born innocent and pure of sin. You are a lovely woman.❤❤❤

What a good mama teaching her to share. How sweet the way she hugs and patty pats! Love it. So happy you are feeling better. Stay well.

Thank you for speaking out and sharing your life.

What a lovely lady she seems, I'm heartbroken that she gave up her dream to be in a relationship and become a mother. I can't imagine the sadness she carried alone.

@florenceblackman8081

Жыл бұрын

So sad for her. Fear is real.

@jjones9395

11 ай бұрын

My thoughts exactly. I hope she has or will find a partner in life to grow old with and cherish her.

@omp199

11 ай бұрын

She was obviously upset, but I think she should bear some blame for doing no research into the matter. She broke up what sounds like a perfectly good relationship - which can be characterised as cruelty to her then partner - and pointlessly decided not to have children, all because of an ignorant prejudice she had about tainted blood, or some such thing. If she had just learnt some basic biology, she would have known that unless she was closely related to her _partner,_ her children would have no greater probability of harmful genetic conditions than anyone else's.

@lhl9010

11 ай бұрын

but she didn't have too

@lhl9010

11 ай бұрын

@@omp199 i agree she researched some but didn't look into other things, her choice

My partner was born under similar circumstances. He had a very difficult early life with eye sight issues and hearing issues as well as a learning disability. I am not sure whether his bio sibs have any of these problems. He is a fine human being, very intelligent and compassionate. I am very lucky to have him as my partner and admire him more for all the character strength he has. Like you he was graced with really good adoptive parents. I honor you for your strength and mission. My partner found out in the last few years and it was traumatizing for him. Many blessings to you.

@janetcw9808

Жыл бұрын

Bright Blessings to you both, may you have a long and peaceful life together 💕

@krissy.x

Жыл бұрын

Unlike my grandfather who was extremely unlucky on the adoptive parents front and was heavily abused throughout his childhood and it destroyed our family. He ended up abusing my mother who grew up to be a narcissist who then abused me. Fun life

@stephaniek1076

Жыл бұрын

@@krissy.x Thank you for sharing; you were heard. I wish you increased gentleness and abundant love and healing.

@elouise5593

Жыл бұрын

@@krissy.x I hope you were able to break that cycle. Sorry that you have had such a hard upbringing!

@sandyvictor7368

Жыл бұрын

@@krissy.x om

You are a brave woman and I commend you for telling the world your story in hopes of helping someone else that is suffering. God bless you!🙏🏻💖

Thank you for being courageous enough to share your/this story!

She's an inspiration, for mental health in general. Marvelous interview.

Adoption is a strange path to walk without the secrets this woman carried. She's incredibly brave!

What a brave woman to share her story. I hope she is doing well.

What an amazing woman to open up. I feel for her having gone through so much trauma. Thank you for sharing.🐨

What a brave, articulate, kind woman. I am so glad your adoptive parents loved you and gave you a happy childhood.

I am so sorry this woman went through this experience alone. She is so brave for sharing and I’m sure she’s helping so many people.

@kenhartman9981

Жыл бұрын

Hi Rose how are you doing, merry Christmas to you 🎄💓

@kenhartman9981

Жыл бұрын

Where are you from?

@Totalchaos0228

Жыл бұрын

It must feel good to get it out after all those years...and to a mire accepting society.

Thank you for sharing your Story! Prayers for peace and comfort🙏🏼

I just want to wrap my arms around Theresa and tell her what a wonderful woman she is.

As an adoptive Mommy I just want to hug this beautiful woman. I would have loved to have her as my Auntie. I hope she knows what a GIFT she is on SO many levels to so many people. Her story matters, her life matters. She was put on this earth for a reason. She has a purpose and God has a plan. It is my prayer that telling her story, gives her a freedom and a peace that passes all understanding. What a beautiful soul. If you know her, please, give her a hug for me and tell her she is BEAUTIFUL. She is PRECIOUS and she is a GIFT to the world.

@TheHookahSmokingCaterpillar

Жыл бұрын

There is no plan as there is no god.

@Eleftheria_i_thanatos

Жыл бұрын

I was with you right up until "God".

@jf7243

Жыл бұрын

Beautifully said and what grace and mercy this story bespeaks.

@denome3725

Жыл бұрын

It is fine to believe in God for the sake of your sanity but making others to believe in it just to reinforce your own belief is kinda selfish. By the way, in some two hundred years from now on nobody will even know that we existed because there will be nobody left to remember anything about us. p.s. so much for our purpose in this world

@veemcg3682

Жыл бұрын

What a lovely kind comment and I agree with everything you've said as I too believe wholeheartly in God and His goodness and you are right that He has plans for this lady as He has for all of us. God bless you for you are also a beautiful person and I'm sending a virtual hug your way which would be real if I knew you personally.

That awfully difficult meeting with her biological parents ... she is so brave ! So sweet and intelligent. I am so sorry that she was afraid of having her own family.

@connievino4226

Жыл бұрын

Me too.♥️

@bevfrench3496

Жыл бұрын

yes very sad considering that it wouldn't effect her children she should have looked up genetics. even being siblings won't matter as along as certain genes don't match.

@rdb4996

Жыл бұрын

@@bevfrench3496 this took place about 3 to 4 decades ago, access to information like that was not that easy. Especially information that is true, not from media and religion.

@tb8827

Жыл бұрын

@@bevfrench3496 I am appalled at how little people actually know about this topic.

@bevfrench3496

Жыл бұрын

@@tb8827 yes, including me

What a brave, strong person.. to help others cope with such a distressing situation. You deserve happiness..🌻

I'd love to know her natural parents' story. How on Earth did they survive and continue a relationship for all those decades? Imagine the shame and lies in the family when they conceived as adolescent siblings in the 60s!

Her parents were little more than children themselves. It's sad she never got the answers to her beginnings

I’m so glad she told her parents eventually. The idea that your child would be carrying that shame and pain and not be able to tell you, or that they would even have thoughts of you leaving them cold is absolutely heartbreaking as a parent. Friend and sibling too for that matter. I’m also glad she found a friend that was safe for her to start talking about it to. I’m sure her people are so proud of her and all the work she’s doing to help others not feel so alone, ashamed and afraid.

@willj1598

Жыл бұрын

That is probably the thing that struck me most about the story. My wife and I have always been there for our daughter and tried so hard to make it so she could come to us. More than once we have been surprised by things she didn't come to us with. I think very empathetic people do this, in part because they are more worried about how things will affect other people than themselves.

@soriero1338

Жыл бұрын

@@willj1598 Your siblings also? What!

@claudiaholmes8468

Жыл бұрын

God bless this lady’s beautiful soul.. 💔💝

@Travelling_with_my_dog

Жыл бұрын

@@soriero1338 the parents she told were her adoptive parents, not her biological parents

@WarandFlame

Жыл бұрын

She was adopted?

You are an amazing warrior, I love you, and yes my eyes were tearing up from hearing your story, I feel so very sorry that because of all, and how affected and change your life forever! I hope that today you are living happy, guilt free, and totally embraced by love and hugs. You are beautiful and I love you!

I'm sorry about what you found out. Im sorry you carried this alone and missed out a different kind of life. I think you're an absolutely wonderful person and it doesn't matter (by that I mean I don't think any less of you, you did nothing wrong) to me where you came from. You are you and that's all that matters to me and others. I sincerely hope God will bless the rest of your with much happiness. Your story will help others to speak up and hopefully get the help they need sooner rather than later. I'm very glad people are more open about the abuse they suffered. It really does help those of us who suffered threw it to come forward and get the secret out and to get help.

Found my biological father after 50 years, after my mum told me he died before I was born. I had him for 18 months before he died. It’s definitely nature not nurture. We were so alike not just in looks, but also personality. Am close to his wife, my step mum, and she wanted me to know that they never stopped looking for me, and it broke his heart when my mum left him when I was 6 months old. It’s changed me forever, and I no longer trust anyone, only my husband, and my 2 grown up sons. If your own mother can lie to you for 50 years, then it’s hard to trust anyone. Thankyou so much to this lady for telling her story, it was very brave.

@socksyuielkmf

Жыл бұрын

Unforgiveness will harm you

@raaf4678

Жыл бұрын

Were you able to tell your mom about how you felt about her lie, or did this happen after she died?

@RowenMyBoat

Жыл бұрын

In some cases this could be a blessing but it’s absolutely heartbreaking to think of all the Dad time you both missed but can’t dwell on that or it would drive one mad.

@balarion539

Жыл бұрын

@@socksyuielkmf that's ridiculous. Ops mother stole their father from them. Op got 18 months with him, she stole 50 years from them. That can't be righted

@lynarystic

Жыл бұрын

@@socksyuielkmf she says her trust was affected. Said nothing about not forgiving.

This reminds me that it is never too late to heal and process trauma. Imagine how many older folks, her generation and older, who are holding onto stories like this, who did not grow up with access to mental health services, who could benefit from having a counselor available in their retirement community or nursing home, or senior center etc. I used to work in a nursing home and it was shocking to eventually hear about the sexual trauma many residents experienced. One woman was so crass and rude, viewed as difficult to work with, but revealed an extensive trauma history to me casually over a game of uno. The two other ladies at the table chimed in, "me too." We owe it to our elders to offer them opportunities to heal and live out their last few decades with happiness and peace, rather than hold onto trauma in shame and secrecy.

@missmayflower

Жыл бұрын

We still don’t have access to mental health services.

@Yosetime

Жыл бұрын

Well said! Thank you!

@interestingvideos4me

Жыл бұрын

This is a great comment. And while it is true that we still don't have access to mental health services, we do live in a time where talking about mental health issues happens way more often in movies, tv, news, and as we are doing now. I think this in itself is already a great thing compared to the burdening silence around these issues that prevailed until recently. Thanks for sharing your experience. I think it is a very good insight into an often neglected population - the elderly.

@interestingvideos4me

Жыл бұрын

@@missmayflower it's true but we do hear a lot more about mental health issues through tv, movies, music, and everyday life in general. This in itself is a great help compared to the silence around these issues that existed a couple of decades ago. I guess that is the point that the person was making in the comment above.

@eunicedavis7530

Жыл бұрын

I'm ABSOLUTELY TOTALLY SPEECHLESS meaning that in a great respectful way very well said 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💁🏼‍♀️🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🥺😞😞😞😞🥺🙇🏽‍♀️🙇🏽‍♀️🙇🏽‍♀️🙇🏽‍♀️

Thank you for raising this subject which is more common than most of us would think. You are a very brave lady.