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The renaissance bride is accidentally finding out who all the narcissists are in her family...go low to no contact after the wedding. You will never please those folks. They proved it themselves.

@stygiandragon3865

Ай бұрын

The fiancé clearly supports the OP. Since his response was not to listen to them. So I don't think OP should worry about it.

@nromk

Ай бұрын

Or themed weddings are a bad idea that exclude family members that aren't interested in the same hobbies, that don't have time or money or skills to put on an outfit or that may have mental issues.

@nadinesharp9766

Ай бұрын

Mule muffins. People are NOT "narcissists" because they're not interested in creating, buying, or wearing Renaissance Era costumes. It's a wedding, not a Halloween party or Renaissance Faire, and it's not about money like was mentioned in the story. While the couple are of course allowed to wear whatever they want to be wed, and it's okay to tell people a theme and ASK them to wear a costume, they are the "narcissists" for thinking that everyone should be or is comfortable going along with their lunacy. They should just be grateful that people they love or care about want to come to their wedding instead of having bugs up their butts about what people wear. If they're going to get married, they should grow up first. Holy moley.

It’s literally YOUR WEDDING! You absolutely have the right to decide a dress code. NTA

@WHATISAHANDLEANDWHYDOESITNEED

Ай бұрын

NTJ, this is the knock off🤓

@OrangeCarrotBunny

Ай бұрын

​@@WHATISAHANDLEANDWHYDOESITNEED I don't even know if this is a joke

@Jake_Gotthard

Ай бұрын

@@OrangeCarrotBunnyNTA = Not The Asshole. NTJ = Not The Jerk. AITJ is a knockoff of AITA (AITJ = Am I The Jerk? AITA = Am I The Asshole?)

@WHATISAHANDLEANDWHYDOESITNEED

Ай бұрын

@@Jake_Gotthard don't forget the 🤓

@lorenzocampanella8651

Ай бұрын

​@@WHATISAHANDLEANDWHYDOESITNEEDhere take this 🤡 it's useful sometimes

The sister is not a roommate, she's a freeloader. Roommates contribute. They don't mooch.

Last Story: LOL, That girl is just mad that Karma came her way. OP's not at all the jerk. What this chick was doing was just messed up. All she cared about was just getting free meals, not the men. If I was the OP, I would 100% tell Donald about the BS this friend was doing. There's no way I'm gonna let someone like this coworker use my friend for a free meal, especially after this man LOST HIS WIFE. The OP did the right thing by telling Donald about this hoax, and Donald did the right thing by getting seperate checks

@QuickManEXE

Ай бұрын

Not only all that, but it was made even worse when Linda openly bragged about doing it too... calling it a "life hack".

story 1: With the details of what they suggested people could wear, that sounds very nice and reasonable. Almost every wedding has some sort of dress code; $100 says that even if all they'd asked for was people to wear a certain color pallet, these "family members" would still be whining that they hated the colors.

As a person with ADHD, hawing ADHD dose not make you trashy, so even if the sister in story 3 has ADHD it's no excuse for being trashy.

@Just-A-Chill-Gamer

Ай бұрын

I do, and don't agree. I also have added, and while I am trashy, it's just I forget to clean ... because I'm lazy...😅

@kristoforosz

Ай бұрын

Ok@@Just-A-Chill-Gamer

@smolcake582

Ай бұрын

I have ADHD also, but for me it's just clothes on my floor (I actually try to clean it) And I work full time and I pay for rent and my own stuff like bro that's insane

Last story- you did well warning your friend. He's just lost his wife, seriously looking for some companionship, and runs across an abuser. He doesn't need heartache from Dine-n-Dash Linda. There are multiple websites out there that give people heads up on people like her. Linda needs to be a cover story in one.

I'm sorry if you have a problem with the wedding outfit theme then don't go.😂😅

To the bride, may I get an invite that sounds like it would be an absolute blast!! By far one of the coolest wedding I've seen.

Story 2: The following question is 100% serious: is the OP’s friend bipolar?

Story 1: No way is the OP a jerk here. The in-laws sound like complete buzzkills here. Themed weddings like this are usually pretty awesome. From everything being told here, i would probably uninvite the in-laws and anyone else who is against this. The OP is be no means a "bridezilla" here and she seems to be helping people with ideas for the clothing and outfits. Don't have a single second thought here and do this renaissance wedding. Too bad we couldnt see the finished result, i'm sure it would look great. Story 2: The OPs friend here is really weird here. First off, the friend is in a very terrible relationship and really needs to leave the guy once and for all. He's a complete loser and doesnt deserve anyone, much less her. Second, why is she demanding to meet the OPs fiance and keep trying to avoid her own? An odd double standard here. Something tells me theres something not being told about both the friend and her bf. Third, why is the friend so quick to go on all these double-dates? Is she trying to hook up with other guys here? I think that could be possible and the OP may want to be mindful of that. Story 3: Simple here... if the sister keeps disrespecting you, your fiance and your house/home, then tell her to shape up or ship out. I get that some people may struggle financially and arent always the cleanest, but at least try to be an adult here. I say threaten to evict her if she doesnt shape up. Story 4: OP would not be the jerk at all for not watching that kid... and i cant see anyone that would. The OPs friend has done a pretty poor job raising that boy if this is how he is acting. He's 14 for crying out loud... most of that stuff, if not all, he should be able to do on his own, but he cant because mommy always does it for him, so why should he? All of this stuff should not have to fall onto the OPs shoulders at all. Story 5: No, not the jerk at all and i think the OP did the other male co-workers a favor here. If the OP didnt tell them about Linda, then others very likely wouldve. Its one thing to go on nice dates and pay, but when you only go on them because you are basically just because you want a free meal... then eventually others are going to become bitter about it and realize that you're using them, and Linda is 100% using them, made worse by the fact that shes proud of it too. Linda is the jerk here and a big one and good on the OP for warning Donald.

Story 3 I can relate too with the cleaning issues and I have always had this issue with this I live with my dad and I’m so ashamed of it and trying to find ways to stop this if anyone has advice for me as well pls feel free to share that

If she, a grown woman, can't keep things clean then give her an ultimatum. Keep it clean, or get your own place.

A theme isn't quite the same as a dress code...a theme is something that matches a distinct vibe, that doesn't have to be one solid thing, a dress code is cookie cutter similarities for the sake of uniformity. It is your big day, if you want a theme, you can have a theme, if others want to complain about it, deny them a spot in your celebration. All it really sounds like, is that the entitled family members don't want to go out of their way to do something fun because it's 'disruptive' to them. It's not like you're forcing them to dress up like unicorns from MLP.

I wanted a ren faire wedding too, mom fought with me saying "nobody is going to dress up for it!" never mind the fact that I was forced to wear ugly ass clothes she approved and giant helmet hair for my special events in my life. huge fuckin' shocker there, I'm the one that has to make allowances for everyone but they can do as they please. we never got married anyway.

Game in the background is Subnautica.

@karimog3525

Ай бұрын

Thanks !!!!

@FerventLotus

Ай бұрын

@@karimog3525 Enjoy it. I recently finished the game, and it was quite a ride!

The person saying OP had no business informing Donald about Linda's "life hack" is nuts. Donald outright asked for OP's opinion, which makes it OP's business.

I would have a fucking blast at a resonance themed wedding. I love fantasy and stuff like that, I would come in some sort of cute dress with a leather belt and maybe having my hair in a loose bun. I think the whole wedding that is a great idea and I wouldn’t let anyone tell me otherwise. You go girl!

Most weddings have a dress code. No one is saying you have to go all out.

Some people, plain & simple, do not like to wear costumes. You should have let these people come in every-day entire, if you really wanted them there. They can then decide if they feel 'under-dressed' and odd-man out when they see the large majority of guests got in the spirit. While you gave wide breadth for women just to wear a floral dress (I have none & detest), what about the men? What was theirs? It could be MIL & SIL sticking up for them.

If I went to a Renaissance themed wedding I would go full on Jester and be in character.

Last story: Absolutely NOT the jerk! The OP saved a grieving friend from having his heart played with. And what that woman does is messed up!

Last story, OP NTA, Anyone saying you are can’t honestly say they wouldn’t warn their good friend. Linda and anyone saying you’re the AH absolutely are AH’s

Dress codes are already bad enough; themed weddings?! That's outrageous, if you want your in laws at your wedding you're a jerk, if you don't want them at your wedding well you're not a jerk.

I'm kind of on the fence with the wedding thing. On the one hand, yes you are all going to look stupid. There's absolutely no getting out of that. On the other hand, if you all go into it knowing you're going to look stupid then it could be a lot of fun. Grab your wizarding hat, your staff of the archmage you keep in the closet, and your +3 beard of wisdom, and go ham.

@Jake_Gotthard

Ай бұрын

THATS WHAT IM AAYING, YOU THINK ITLL BE SO STUPID BUT IMAGINE- THE ABSOLUTE CHAOTIC GROWNASS MEN BEING WIZARDS WITH +4 WISDOM-ASS LOOKING BEARDS, IT WILL BE PURE ADHD AND AUTISM FUEL AND EVERYONE WILL SO LOVE IT AND IF THEY DONT THEY ARE WEIRD

Dude, Story 1: It's your wedding, you choose and your spouse choose what you want people to wear. You want it to be a special day for you. Your family members who think it's stupid clearly don't get that a wedding isn't about what they want, but about what the people getting married want. It's THEIR special day. Story 4: That boy needs to do his own things. It's your house, and he's just staying there. You don't need to wake him up for anything, or clean up after him. He's the one making the mess and staying in YOUR house, he needs to pick up after himself, wash his clothes he used, wash the dishing that he used, and start pulling his weight. Story 5: I hate people like that. Like yeah, maybe someone would be the only one to pay at a restaurant, but that someone should be the only wanting to go to that place. This lady also has some type of problem if she thinks everyone she goes on date's with is just going to pay for her. She literally ghost them afterwards and only uses them to try different foods or go to different places. That's just wrong. At least she got what she deserved though.

Story 1: I've heard some unreasonable dress codes for a wedding... this is not one, especially since you are providing ideas for low cost. NTJ

@nadinesharp9766

Ай бұрын

Yes, this IS one. The couple are absolutely jerks. They should consider the comfort of their guests as well as what they themselves want. It's not even about the cost, as any rational, intelligent person would realize. Many people don't do costumes, not for Halloween or any other reason. Maybe they feel foolish in them, I don't know. But if the couple gives two flying craps about the people they've invited, they should just accept that not everyone will do costumes. If they're concerned about people being in photos not in costume, the clothes can be changed out in editing.

*Story 1:* I don't get why these in-laws have a problem with this dress code that OP suggests. I don't think there should be any *"dress code"* for a wedding. As long as you're wearing something comfortable. While a tuxedo with a cummerbund across the waist may look attractive and formal, and a traditional dress for the bride, I think it should be optional, not a requirement. Not all weddings have to look formal. They can, and should be whatever the bride and groom wants. 🙂

story 1 people are my kind of people

@zettacraig8122

Ай бұрын

i mean the people getting married

Messy sister. You need to lay down the law with sister. Tell her there is no more eating ANYTHING in her room, and no beverages except water because she is a health hazard. Tell her she will be given ONE slip-up, and a second will mean expulsion from your home. Period. Then stick to your word and do it if necessary. She will never respect you or your home if you don't. She does this because she's been allowed to get away with it her whole life. Only dire consequences will get her attention.

Don’t let them take you down go on

8:29 oh, she totally has a crush of this girls fiance

Is it bad that I also have a problem with keeping my room clean? BUT I DONT LEAVE FOOD IN MY ROOM!

Im giving my perspective, Wedding is not something like Birthdays, which repeats every year. Wedding is s very special event where two people unite to become a couple. So on that day, almost all Close Family Members and Friends are expected to show up, for such a Grand Event. Also, people not only from your Family show up, but your husband's as well. And It is not really about the money, but People may find It uncomfortable to wear those dresses, and at the same time want to be present at the wedding, so they may call this whole thing stupid and stuff. Like do you expect any Family to be full of Open Minded People? There are going to be Millenials, Generation X, Generation Z, and even Generation Alpha, all of them have different tastes, and would expect a Normal Wedding. Now, the Mom in Law, is someone who is one of the most Important people to be present in the wedding, especially if it is her own son, Such an Important day in their Son's life would kean a lot to their mother, and Imagine how frustrating it would be if she was asked to get in a costume for the wedding, she would obviously be frustrated on this whole thing. Alternatively you could have held a private ceremony pre or post wedding for this Dress Code stuff.

For the first story, it would depend if her parents are contributing money to the event and reception. If they are, then don’t require it. If they aren’t then not the asshole. I’m happily married, and my parents and in laws paid a lot to help us have a decent wedding. The thing that gave me a reality check was them inviting folks to my wedding that I didn’t know. They were all super nice people, but my folks insisted that because they paid for it, they had a right to have a say in who comes.

Story 1: my ass would show up in full knight armor

I personally despise Renaissance Faires, so I would either not go but send a gift and my best wishes, or compromise with a “future time traveler” costume (if approved).

@lunamorningstar5488

Ай бұрын

The future time traveler sound so dope, you are planning on to be a researcher or tourist or is it doctor who situation? (Theoretically speaking)

@Jake_Gotthard

Ай бұрын

You’re cool asf. You depise it but you would act like a mature adult (very rare) and send a gift n your best wishes instead or simply go with a time traveler costume if approved lmao.

Story 1. I wouldn't say anything like the family did however i would decline the invite. You can't be mad if people would prefer not to dress in costume

Can you tell OP 1 about a certain series by Nicole Conway named Dragonrider Chronicles? I really think they'll enjoy it.

I want to go to that wedding.

Story 1 - It is YOUR wedding. They (the guests) can do as they're told or they can be uninvited. It's that simple. Story 3 - Kick her out. Send her back to your parents house. Whatever happens to her living situation afterwards is HER problem, not your problem. Story 4 - Don't let him stay there at all. Make him do all of his own stuff. And make it crystal clear to his mother to either set him straight or he isn't welcome in your house.

Honestly renaissance is a nice theme

Rena issuance theme wedding ing a no go for me. I won’t go bridezilla.

Story 1: the original poster needs to just tell all her family that they don't have to follow the dress code if they really don't want to. But in doing so they won't be allowed at the wedding. They have the choice of either sucking it up for one day or simply not showing up. Story 4: I don't feel sorry for that girl. That's honestly what she gets. Karma and all that

Story 2... Sounds like the friend could be lying about her bf and doesn't want OP knowing

In the first story: at least the bride and groom aren't having a Betazoid wedding!

Story 2 it seems like the friend is wanting to take op partner. And last story Linda is getting her karma.

Story 3 sounds like Illumanaughtii to me

Omg just say boyfriend or girlfriend. This partner bs is beyond stupid

Sorry, not spending money on an outfit I would never wear again. Maybe if I could get things at goodwill or a dress I already have.

Bro I'm 12 and I'm STILL more mature than the kid in story 4!

Marriages need to stop smh 🤦‍♂️ same goes for gender reveals and using plastic products and balloons and such no ifs ands or buts

@QuickManEXE

Ай бұрын

Marriages maybe, but gender reveals definitely need to stop.

With shit like this, its okay to encourage "hey dress like this" but most people wont have whats needed for it. Whereas; most people will have a normal suit or dress. Having a themed wedding is okay, just dont expect everyone to follow the theme. The only people you can tell "hey buy this" is the bridal party. Even then there's only so much you can insist on

While i can appreciate the idea of a themed wedding, i honestly think requiring ALL your guests to dress up in what essentially are costumes is overkill. This isn't a case of having an outfit you can wear for any occasion, it's asking people to invest into clothing they're probably not going to wear again. That actually is asking too much. Have it be optional for guests, required for anyone in the party, but imo YTJ for making it mandatory for all. Even a minimal amount for clothing that's going to be discarded isn't reasonable. Some people just don't like costumes.

@TheChitowngirl23

Ай бұрын

Most women have a Maxi Dress in the closet. You can buy cheap accessories. I made a flower crown from the dollar store. If you were going in cocktail attire a dress would be $100+...you can probably buy some cheap accessories for less then $20.

Do more with subnautica plsssss

either my phone/youtube is bugging but vid is 5 mins made ago but his comment is 9 days old

@darkmage9252

Ай бұрын

Could have been on patreon first

yes you are a bridezilla

Dress cobe at weddings is not common in my country. So, I generally disagree.

Let the in-laws come dressed however they want and when they realize they're the odd ones..... they'll be embarrassed. Screw em!

@Jake_Gotthard

Ай бұрын

*_comes in suit and tie_* *_realizes they are missing out on the fun_* *_is fucking embarassed_* Perfect plan

@nromk

Ай бұрын

​@Jake_Gotthard it's a wedding not a Halloween party

Story 2: this isn't a judgement, but the pal already has a husband, if i understand correctly. Why does she also have a boyfriend?

Then say don't show up if they can dress for a normal wedding then they can dress or don't show

under 20 mins W

Story 2 sounds like this lady is in a very abusive relationship. Especially when hearing about the constant breakups & then the euphoria part It seems that he keeps breaking up so he can sleep with others & then gets back together with her telling her how she is the only one for him, or something similar like this He then likes to make her very uncomfortable by ignoring her when a woman (without a partner in close proximity) is around & then putting all his focus on the other woman I bet he later takes glee in the gaslighting by telling her it's all in her head The OP keeps going on insisting to meet up with them without her fiance even though the friend keeps saying it's so everyone is comfortable & if OP would be a little considerate she would understand that it is her friend who is very uncomfortable just based on that one short meeting where he had completely ignored the friend & had not even thanked her for that expensive jacket & had only talked to OP In my opinion, he is also financially abusing her & yes the jacket was expensive but I'm sure she had clear instructions which jacket to buy & there would have been hell to pay if she had gotten anything else. This lady is stuck in this abusive relationship because she doesn't seem to have anyone she can talk to especially considering that they work together & only keep meeting up with colleagues & their SOs Make no mistake, by working in the same place he has incredible control over her She also doesn't feel comfortable to confide in OP because OP doesn't pick up on the subtle hints, which is probably because she has never been or met anyone else in an abusive relationship The first step for me was my ex actually making a miscalculation by being greedy & telling me to work for another company because the job paid a bit more, so that he had more money to take from me. I ended up with a lovely manager who helped me to reach out to Women's Aid, even paid the taxi out of her pocket so my ex wouldn't find out. And I also met my best friend (who unfortunately died last May) there who made me see that the situation I was in was in fact not normal Because of them I managed to stand up to my ex. Unfortunately it seems this lady has nobody to help her right now

Why is it you being a bridezilla and not saying anything to the groom.

Yeah, no with the first story she is in the wrong. They should wear whatever they want to wear not to mention she mentions not wanting people to wear a suit what the fuck did she think the rich people because yes even in the Renaissance there were suits

@ThatSoCalledPenguin

Ай бұрын

It's her wedding. Every wedding has a dress code. This wedding just happens to have a renaissance theme. If you don't like the dress code just don't go.

@Jake_Gotthard

Ай бұрын

I’d say if she had the money she couldve tried buying some of the less-financially-stable people some accessories and clothing, but overall, THEIR wedding, THEIR dress code, THEIR theme.

Am i the jerk for stand up for people who where getting bullied by some girls who where I am a 9 year old male what happened was I was playing on a playground and I noticed that some girl was blocking everyone from the slide and I said “If you keep bullying everyone I will carry you off” and she said something like make me I kept trying to get her off and then she finally got off I thought that was the end of it but no then her sister came out of nowhere and started talking to me about how I was telling her sis to get off the slide and let me stop telling her to get off the slide and they threw they shoes at me and threw the shoes farther and everything just became me and them verbally abusing each other am I the jerk for standing up for The people getting bullied

0:18 I only got 18 seconds in the video and Ill tell u OP is the 🍑🕳️. I'm so happy I'm Gen X and people had normal 🖕🏿-ing wedding. So u have to buy a wedding dress you'll only wear once so I have to buy something I'll only wear once? This theme wedding and color coordinating dress code is BULLLLLL SHIT. Edit: "it happens all the time" YES for rich people that have something like a black tie wedding not some Halloween party/wedding

People still play Subnatica?

🙂

Nta

i would say 800th to like and 83th to comment but i just did

…. F the mean people!….

I want to care for being my own son or daughter if they'd have some stupid wedding like that I just would not go. These theme weddings are just idiot people. Sounds like these people have too much money

Sorry but OP #1 is the jerk.