Enneagram Type 8 | Overview | eight
0:00 - Intro
6:51 - Heroes & Underdogs
16:55 - Desire & The Bosses
28:20 - Using Anger for Mission
40:46 - Rebels
54:03 - Lust Vs. Gluttony
1:10:20 - Grace Patience & Solitude
1:23:08 - Soft Underbelly, The Kid Inside, Child Work
1:35:48 - Importance Of Having A Tail
Just trying to help you get a good look at how the 8’s operate in this episode. I’ve worked with the Enneagram for years with my clients. I am an enneagram 4 and love helping folks walk through this life with more confidence, exploration, and fun taking themselves seriously as a heart attach and not taking themselves too seriously. Feel free to reach out for individual work at these contact points.
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Dating an 8w7 as a sexual 4 and learning about 8s. I identify so much with him but the emotional issues are the only disconnect
Brutal…and pretty accurate.
@drewnewkirk
11 ай бұрын
That should be on my grave stone 😂
It was a long one, but like a good 8 (ENTJ, 8w7), I haven't stopped until I finished it, hehe... Thanks! ;-)
@drewnewkirk
Жыл бұрын
That’s what I’m looking for, a grinder. Very resilient my friend! Drew
You had mentioned most of my empowering songs, mostly I play them when I'm pissed off and can´t release my anger to not to hurt people... I'm a sexual 8w9, female, and live in a very man praising country...so, same song repeating over and over until I calm down lol.
@drewnewkirk
11 ай бұрын
I totally understand this!
Love your insight and your way of presenting. As an 8, I'm really looking forward to the Social 8 video which I hope is coming soon.
@drewnewkirk
2 жыл бұрын
Tomorrow my friend. Tomorrow! Thanks for watching 🙏🏼 Drew
This is super interesting to be because as an 8, ( and a cat lover lol ) I CANT STAND 3s. I see them as frauds and as weak because they are so dependent on the attention and approval of others. I am, admittedly a loner and an introvert and maybe that’s part of the reason why I find them so grating - they are all so extroverted and demanding of undeserved attention.
@drewnewkirk
Жыл бұрын
This is a very ate thing to say 😂 Pretty black and white. So I guess it’s settled. To hell with them all.
My men's group has two 8's and it's a hoot. Ain't nowhere to hide.
@drewnewkirk
Жыл бұрын
Ha! That must be an intense group
I have learned so much about myself and need to dig deeper into my 8. Thank you so much!🙏
@drewnewkirk
22 күн бұрын
@@antoinepaul78 No problem, glad it helped. I appreciate you sharing 😉 If interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Hope all is well and thanks for reaching out Drew
As a self-preserving 4, I loved your video on us, but THIS....this is so amazing and I can't imagine anyone better than a sexual 4 (who's also a therapist) that can get into the psyche of an 8 with as much depth and compassion. If I were an 8, I would feel so damn understood and accepted right now. You get their Shadow and gently hold that scary mirror up to them, all the while telling them the tool they need to face it with is already in their instinctive arsenal; to use their anger to face their fear. Ugh.. loved it.
@drewnewkirk
2 жыл бұрын
I’m gonna say this ranks as one of the best feedbacks I’ve ever received. Very humbled and honored to hear your words Rachelle. Thanks for inspiring me today Drew
@olahalicka37
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry, but what you say simply doesn't make sense. If you were an 8 with an 8 brain you would not be looking for understanding and acceptance in a video on YT (or even at all). Most probably you'd be primarily looking for straightforward information that's well organised and just in the way it approaches the subject. Only the non existing 8 with a 4 brain could indeed "feel so damn understood and accepted" after watching a video about 8s. No offence. I just don't appreciate this construct of "If I were xyz, I would feel/do/think/etc." and my fascination with enneagram is pretty much in the way it teaches us why we should never do it. And how wrong we can be if we do :)
This was so amazing- it hurt and healed. The gluttony and lust section, I grabbed the fries and sauce. 😅 and yes to need to have strong people who can push back.
@drewnewkirk
2 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching Rebekah and for the affirmation! If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Either way, I appreciate you Drew
Trainspotting OMG Right up there with the movies Pi and Requiem for a Dream. It took twenty ------ years. Boom baby. Keep on dropping these gems on the wheel world brother!!!
I didn't bully, but I was bullied. I definitely seek justice for wrongs that I see. I have been called the silent hero by a CIO at a previous organization.
@drewnewkirk
2 ай бұрын
So sorry for the delay. Thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one. If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Hope all is well and thanks for reaching out Drew
My big brother is a definite 8w7 sx and has never heard of the Enneagram. Have sent him this and I'm intrigued to learn how he takes it. Much love to you Drew, I really appreciate your work, hope life is treating you well.
@drewnewkirk
10 ай бұрын
I’m getting the best out of is David! The good bad and ugly. Hope your bro gets it in his system but pre grief him doing so for sanity reasons Drew
My interest has recently been peaked for learning about the enneagram & I found you here. I am also a self-preserving 4, like the commenter below, with a 5 wing. That's probably the reason I have been binge listening to all of your overview videos in numerical order to find out more about my type (I took a test), my daughter & my husband's (he did not take a test). This really hit the nail on the head about him! He is a Get 'R Done kind of guy! I really appreciate all your insights into the nuances of this number & what can be beneficial for an 8's balance and health. Now, let's see if I can get him to watch this video. I look forward to learning about the sub-types of this number & learning about wings. I second the comment about a wanting to see video about the relationship between a 4 & an 8. I will look for it on your channel. Thanks again!
@drewnewkirk
2 жыл бұрын
Oh it’s definitely there. I have a video on that 4/8 connection. Thanks so much for watching and so cool you’re doing it in order. Now that I finished the 4 overview I’ve got all the numbers covered. Let me know if he ever watches 🙌🏼 Drew
I'm a cat and dog 8. I love all size cats. My favorite dog breeds: Rotties, Pitties and Greater Swiss Mountain Dogs. I’m not MMA, but I LOVE being around that energy and I do enjoy that type of exercise. Lifting weights too. All of my 8 traits are based in childhood experiences/traumas. When you are taught what happens in the family stays in the family, it’s hard to be vulnerable and trust who you tell. And this is why I do the work I do; for myself and others! I definitely look for the unicorn, but that is because at this point it is very rare that I find a therapist who tells me something I don’t already know about myself. But then again, I overthink, over evaluate, highly self-analyze, self-criticize, and I’m a psychotherapist who has been in therapy on and off since I was 5yrs old. I use my clients as my mirror, I give them the power to tell me what is beneficial about how I show up as a therapist and what I need to work on. I do these check in’s with them every time I feel the therapy is at a standstill, if they are discharging from the program, or they are choosing to switch therapists. Thank you for this video and I'd love to connect fellow therapist to therapist, if you're interested @the.atypical.therapist
@drewnewkirk
2 ай бұрын
So sorry for the delay. Thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one. Reach out on Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com And remind me of this message 👍🏼 Hope all is well and thanks for reaching out Drew
The closet might be the best thing to get the eight through the chasms.
Covid forced solitude on us. It’s been quite an exercise in patience, yes ! As you stated. I get tired of myself when forced to be alone. Ironically I’ve been solitary most of my life tho not by my design. I remember hugging my child self around the same time God led me to forgive my mom. A time of tender emotion
@drewnewkirk
2 ай бұрын
Covid, what a mind screw we went through. So sorry for the delay. Thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one. If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Hope all is well and thanks for reaching out Drew
I’m an 8w9 so/sx and to answer your question- I am most definitely a cat person. I love that they don’t need me around much and we can just do our own things- they occasionally sit in my lap and I sometimes pick them up. My lovable little assholes. I’m also 5’3” and approaching 50 y/o. I’ve always felt big, strong and capable. Now, I definitely feel the comment about how our bodies pay the price for the grinding pace. Having to learn how to pace myself and ask, “I know I can do it, but should I do it?” Then face having to ask or pay for help doing the thing- right now that would be laying new vinyl floors in my house. I know I can, but also know I probably shouldn’t.
@drewnewkirk
Жыл бұрын
Great reflection Sherri! Love it
Been waiting on this! Can you do a relationship between 4 and 8's please!!!!!! Do you know that relationship personally? Thanks for the content..... (Stimulating)
@drewnewkirk
2 жыл бұрын
You know I’m on it brother! It’s finished but may take a bit before I post it as I’m away for a bit but actually really loved doing it and it’s filmed. Subtypes coming tomorrow Thanks again for investing the time Drew
@reysabelr4343
2 жыл бұрын
Yes please!
@drewnewkirk
2 жыл бұрын
@@reysabelr4343 it’s up you two, I told you I got you! Drew
@reysabelr4343
2 жыл бұрын
@@drewnewkirk YAY thanks! On the way to watch it 💅
@drewnewkirk
2 жыл бұрын
@@reysabelr4343 I had fun with that video
😢so hard to love the 8 and the pain almost isnt worth the wait
Crying because you truly get my misunderstood 8 husband. A therapist like you would be life-changing for him. Do you take international clients?
@drewnewkirk
2 жыл бұрын
Yep! Have clients all over since starting KZread Reach out at drew@drewnewkirk.com or @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy on instagram and reference this call and let’s do some life-changing shit 👊🏼
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Mission acquisition is forever a job ONE
Not me binging in my researching habits the past month and neglecting my own health (brain fog is crazy), while watching this. Yet I’m still not confident of myself being an E8. By the way, what’s your opinion on tritypes?
@drewnewkirk
11 ай бұрын
I buy in to tritypes Really creative way of layering our understanding of ourselves
Lol, Brother, My 4w3 fixations kept getting triggered through 'Rebels' then I remembered the song Breathe by Anna Nalick.. Cheers
@larrycheek3588
2 жыл бұрын
Lol "just breathe here" cool. Good show man.
Hi Drew! Hope you are doing well. I have a question for you. I just re did an enneagram test. I tend to do sometimes as my awareness of myself opens up with new situations. I did the truity one. My results show that dominant is 5 close followed by 9 and 7. The 4th one is number 4. From reading and reading over the last 20 years. I feel more connected to the fear of being weak. But in terms of results..if I am a true 8, I would be using more my wings and the 5 where I would go down to. I put à lot of attention into seeing the positive into things and I like to just accept things as they are .. like life is life we just have to accept it the way it is. Emotions, mind etc etc also I fear conflict and understand à lot other people motive... I study a lot a lot my world around and especially peoples inner life. I need to understand a situation to feel more ready to act in it and need to be Alone and time to process my emotion toward something before I can express myself and how I feel. My question is... could I be an 8 who, because of an abusive past, pushed more the wings and desintegrated type reaction because it was unsafe for me to fight for myself at the time. Or would I be a 5? That was more in the 8 as a child and the more I "grew" the more I returned to it hence why I'm feeling closer to 8 now ? I relate much to the description of the type 5 fears... I'm very confused. But can our wings dominate? Thank you so much
@drewnewkirk
Жыл бұрын
This will be an unsatisfying response. We are so unique and our stories so complex. I would hate to even try to shed light on this without way more information that would require more than one session. What I’d suggest is that you find some other eyes, a therapist or coach, that can lend wisdom to this at a deeper level with more time spent with you. it would be unfair for me to even guess or guide in this way without way more connection to the narrative. But I love the question and think it is worth you exploring more.
@MajorieRoyal
Жыл бұрын
@@drewnewkirk thank you Drew! No no I love your answer and yes, if it's worth exploring because it's a great question, I will do so. I really want to understand myself ahah 🙏
@drewnewkirk
Жыл бұрын
@@MajorieRoyal keep exploring my friend 😉
I hear some of the similarities with 4. I am finding myself to be a SP 4w3. Can you share more differences between the 8 and 4 subtypes? Thanks always!!!!! I love your videos!
@julieschrag2805
11 ай бұрын
I found your video on 8 and 4!!🎉 Thank you!
@drewnewkirk
11 ай бұрын
@@julieschrag2805 good good! I was gonna say, that was probably as good as I could do for now 😂 Hope it helped, Drew
@julieschrag2805
11 ай бұрын
It did, thank you. I actually had an appointment with you a few years ago and decided I figured it out or had some family issues... I can't remember now. At 63 I resonate with the 4 deeply (not feeling unique but longing for unique and soecial) and with other numbers. But, not 7 because I'm fine with dark feeling and experiencing, and not 2 because I'm ultimately too selfish to do- I only want to be with to experience (other than working with children), and not 9 because I'm too emotionally vigilant. 8 is meaningful, like 6....I am learning a lot in this dive and your work is very helpful, again. Maybe I'll figure it out. 😉 Thanks!!!
@drewnewkirk
11 ай бұрын
@@julieschrag2805 keep at it my friend. And if you ever want to schedule again in the future I’m here for ya 😉 Love that you keep digging in Drew
Miley Cirus 7w8?, "Wrecking Ball." If Bruce is 7w8 that song lyric you mentioned is a perfect example of a hard wing 8. The hard 7w8 and 8w7 might have to be hit with chasms of life to really grow. Don't we all? But I feel ya! Ha!
@drewnewkirk
2 жыл бұрын
Bruce is certainly not a 7 😂
@larrycheek3588
2 жыл бұрын
@@drewnewkirk Is he a countertype?
Did you say, "Hey I'm sorry," by Blink 182?
Big Balls by AC/DC. It's all fun and games till someone catches a case of epiditymitis.
Please link the Seinfeld video.
@drewnewkirk
11 ай бұрын
I did this video so long ago I’m not even sure what you’re referencing 🤦♂️ I talk about Seinfeld a lot 😂
I hate your ability to hurt me But I am thankful that you did hurt me
@drewnewkirk
Жыл бұрын
Ha! Sorry and did not sorry 😂 thanks for watching along and trusting me to not be a total asshole but just a bit of one. Hope it helped. Hope you are following my Instagram if you’re on it, @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy Drew
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