thank you for being you Professor Sam Vaknin. I've learned so much about myself and others.

Thank you, Professor Vaknin! You're describing in details what I've been experiencing (suffered from) a loved one for years. I keep reminding him: fact check/reality check before you assert or don't fire before you aim etc. But he just ignores me and keeps on acting as if nothing happened etc. You have nailed this in such clear manner and they are life saving!

The movie Apocolypto. I know it’s not based on reality lol but imo it’s a great example of the “ego functioning properly.” A great example of a very high functioning human being having to fight for his life vs a bunch of violent psychopaths. Still he was able to escape because of his strength, intelligence, will to return to his loved ones and also a bit of luck. He is a beast but he is not an animal. They even showed this in a way when they turned him into a black panther in the end when he was covered in mud. At least this is what that symbolized to me.

@jamaisvu8365

3 жыл бұрын

To further my theory... 😅 u will also notice how the main character’s father was a very wise, docile and loving person. The movie shows the comparison of the other father. He was very cruel and unloving to his sons so you see how his group turned out compared to the other. ♥️

@calmcalm6203

2 жыл бұрын

What did this man day abt ego, I can't stand his voice lol 😆 😓 I couldn't listen to it, only trying read comments to try get what he said

This is a great video, I like the different outlook

The ego creates new defense mechanisms object bounded defenses, And if individual is perfectionist and there's a fight toward that perfectionism , ego creates objective processing mechanism under duress, and that's the possibility, highly dependent on the situation, such as brainwashing, firewalling against repression,

Thank you!

I believe the ego that mystics speak of isn't the same as the one in psychology - there are many a mystics who have been known to be enlightened or awake or however you want to call it, with their ego functions as such seemingly perfectly intact, them being perfectly capable of reality checking, being able to discern inside from outside in order to not project, etc. In spiritual circles there's even a name for when loss of ego functions is mistaken for higher states of consciousness - spiritual bypass. But sure, many people seeking out gurus struggle in their own ways, some people who seem themselves as empaths really just project a bunch of stuff and are quite narcissistic, etc.

@samvaknin

3 жыл бұрын

Con artists who pose as gurus and mystics don't even know the appropriate terminology and misuse words such as "ego", "energy" and other nonsense. Watch my video on Buddhism in my Nothingness playlist or channel.

Wonderful!, thank you :)

I guess the thing is we humans are evolved to survive not just analyze reality so, we just do the confirmation bias and similar cognitive dissonances for that. Maybe the ego do the confirmation bias because it knows that too much information will stress it too much and will cause it to break down.

Love your knowledge and wisdom regarding the psyche..."can an ego be created in someone with narrcissism.In other words,can the object that the narcissist has personified create within itself an ego.Or can an ego be created out of it.Thank you for your vids..very helpful

@samvaknin

3 жыл бұрын

Ego is not comprised of other internal objects.

It's a bloody mess about this topic (not only) on KZread😳

@samvaknin

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. Con artists with and without academic degrees take advantage of real victims by telling them what they want to hear and freezing them in a state of victimhood. These “coaches” and “experts” also collude with “empaths” (covert narcissists), laughing all the way to the nearest bank. I have written evidence from a few of them confessing that they don’t know the first thing about narcissism and are in it only for the money.

@dariazukowskapsychologkliniczn

3 жыл бұрын

@@samvaknin what you've wrote,that's pure evil thing. More and more people are writing to me and asking:why no one is doing anything with this (in Poland).

@samvaknin

3 жыл бұрын

Evil, true. But, regrettably, not a crime. KZread and other platforms commercially benefit from such scams (they generate lots of views of the ads) and encourage them.

@dariazukowskapsychologkliniczn

3 жыл бұрын

@@samvaknin That's why You Tube recommend this scams because the money, and because show must go one.

@samvaknin

3 жыл бұрын

And that is why KZread very rarely recommends my videos: KZread made my channel totally invisible because I am attacking their dirty sources of income.

Thank you so much for this highly educational and brilliant video on Ego Functions and their relationship to personal agency, Dr Vaknin. I have picked up some pearls of information that will help me a lot. ❤ Is it possible to free an ego that is completely repressed by the 'bad object'.. so much so that object relations are very difficult?

@samvaknin

19 күн бұрын

If the ego is still there, therapy would help.

Hello sam, thank you for the great content you are making. Do you not think that the narcissistic has his ID functions disabled too and the false self is in response to having lost those primitive desires?

@samvaknin

3 жыл бұрын

No. Only the Ego is missing.

I've thought narcissism to be like some psychotic egoism as they seem extremely selfish, only out for themselves in every way to the point of being psychotic, so this is a very different view from that.. 🤔

Thank you, Dr. Vaknin. How does one who has undergone ego dissolution, been programmed, if I am understanding you correctly, to be narcisstic, at the hands of a coach, guru, religious leader, or even a sub-culture, family member, etc, recover and build one's ego back again?

@samvaknin

3 жыл бұрын

If you had an ego to start with, you need not worry. Away from these con artists, your Ego reintegrates.

@lizafranzoni1029

3 жыл бұрын

@@samvaknin Thank you very much for your answer, Dr. Vaknin. I wish you a good day!

@christinepeach518

3 жыл бұрын

@@samvaknin evolves

So basically is the narcissistic just one uncontrolled ID?

What if you are in a relationship that activates trauma and you behave in ways that are in direct conflict with who you know yourself to be. For instance, if you are in a relationship with a narcissist or someone with BPD who often project onto you their negative traits. Then spend time trying to prove that you are not that way to the person who has activated said trauma. Yet in other relationships and situations that doesn't happen. Would you say that it's still a personality disorder? Wouldn't a cluster B have this issue in all aspects of their life?

@samvaknin

4 ай бұрын

All the time, in most areas of life. Personality disorders are ALL-PERVASIVE.

@venusspringsllc

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for your response. I'm curious, so if a person who says "that's so not me" whose behaviors are out of character and merely a response to abuse, would you still say in that instance they have ego problems? Or would you attribute that to something else, like FLEAS if you believe in that. Or a response to projective identification? @@samvaknin

oh jeez. i think my psyche was built by Boeing.

Is it fair to infer sustained belief in one's being the master of one's own destiny necessitates ego death?

@calmcalm6203

2 жыл бұрын

What did this man day abt ego, I can't stand his voice lol 😆 😓 I couldn't listen to it, only trying read comments to try get what he said