Darlin’ Kay, I have a tip to add to yours: many retirees can’t afford higher quality clothing, and I’m one of them. I’m in the choir at church, in front of the entire parish, & I like to look nice, so what I do is go to the Goodwill used clothing shops in the more wealthy areas in town. I find loads of excellent condition items from Chico’s, Ralph Lauren & other brands, some of which still have tags! Half my wardrobe is from Goodwill, & I call this a victory!! Thx for your hard work.

@sandrah4358

Жыл бұрын

Goodwill is also a good choice for the planet! When we purchase from Goodwill we prevent the manufacturing of too many items!! This is a great tip! Shopping resale at Goodwill also provides jobs in the community! Plus shopping resale is “anti-frump” because all the YOUNG KIDS are doing it! Also, as a side note, church resale shops also get BEAUTIFUL clothes donated with tags still on too! Great way to look sharp and support the planet, people and philanthropy!

@elisebrown3813

Жыл бұрын

Awesome suggestion! I like Vincent De Paul. Thrifting in upscale neighborhoods is fun!

@isbythesea

Жыл бұрын

Accessorizing and matching different pieces makes a big difference, a pair of shoes can make or break an outfit, hairstyling is paramount. Shorter styles are flattering to a more mature woman. Cleaner more natural makeup is a good choice as well. And being well groomed, manicures add something very important.

@noreenconstantine4612

Жыл бұрын

Clothing at goodwill and Salvation Army are much higher quality in the past 10 years. I always dress classy, except when I'm painting, or tired 😅

@sherrylbainbridge4033

Жыл бұрын

Dear Cactus Rose, have you ever been to a high quality resale shop? Rich women drop off their clothes and you can find amazing items for inexpensive prices! Plus they even have sales! Try that, being a retiree on a budget is no excuse for not looking good.

I am surprised that you didn’t mention a well fit bra. That made the biggest change for me. Thanks for reminding me about standing tall with confidence.

@popsicletoes77

4 ай бұрын

SO true. I love going to Soma, the ladies will measure you personally and really help you get just the right bra for your figure. While a little pricey, they are excellent quality and worth it. Keeping the girls perky really feels and looks great! I couldn't believe the difference!

@kam0406

3 ай бұрын

Oh yes! I have a large bust for my size and can’t believe how much a difference a minimizer bra with wide side and back band made! No back fat and the bra pulled the girls front and center, making me look at least 10 pounds slimmer! It also helps shirts fit so much better! Bras are important- and one that is adjusted properly to pull everything up is important! I see a lot of ladies whose boobs are too low and they could easily correct this with the proper bra and strap adjustments!

@quotechew

2 ай бұрын

A fresh new bra does wonders for the back, neck, breathing, and appearance

The issue with older women is that along with our changing bodies, we also change our outlook on fashion. We tend to go more with comfort and relinquish our obsession with looks. We accept our thinning hair, our double chins, our larger bellies. We no longer want to “torture” ourselves with tight bras. Some of us embrace the “frump” with simpler linen clothes that flow, comfortable shoes, and happily abandon the tyrannical fashion demands of society and the marketplace.

@marymoore3625

7 ай бұрын

speak for yourself ;-)

@justgranny9601

7 ай бұрын

@@marymoore3625 They were

@kathleenholt6008

7 ай бұрын

I agree. We soon find that nobody is looking anyway. It takes too much energy to dress to impress other people.

@leighburville2717

7 ай бұрын

@kathleenholt6008 I'm 83 years old and I frankly am tired of seeing old people giving up on themselves and embracing the look that says looks don't matter. I challenge every woman who has given up on their looks to take my free class on pepping your life up without breaking a sweat or breaking the bank. The whole nation needs to prep a bit, stand-up straighter, pep up your looks, raise up your drooping girls. This entire nation is going to the slobs because all ages are just plain sloppy. Be a good example and stop the trend. Get a better bra, stop the old lady haircut of the 1970s, buy some cute running shoes, cute active wear, a cute coat, a sweet dress. Now smile; and dive into life again! Ten little changes totaling less than $100 a year can keep the demon of quitting away and the pill doctor away too. Defeat leads to depression and depression leads to sickness. Quitting on your image is just plain dangerous.

@dailybread300

7 ай бұрын

@@leighburville2717great attitude!🙂💕

The SMILE can take off 10 years and you look happy. It actually can change your own mood! Usually if you smile at someone, they do smile back. Your whole demeanour changes upward! I'm 75 from and in, the U.K. 🇬🇧🙏🏻 Kay. You're delightful. A few tips for my age group wouldn't go amiss. Have a great day xx🤗👌

@geowil2493

4 ай бұрын

I couldn't agree more that a smile is the best way to dress your face. 🙂 Thanks for the reminder. 😊

@martinkent333

3 ай бұрын

I smile and people actually think I am simple minded. Looking like simpleton must be nice. Most folks don't want to appear too happy because it irritates people and infantlizes the smiler. But don't frown and when it's ok, then smile away.

Kay, I wished you would have addressed bra wearing, too. So many of my friends look frumpy, because they have given in to saggy breasts. That causes their clothing to become ill-fitting, increasing the “frump-factor!” 😊

@2atthemill190

Жыл бұрын

There is a good Ted Talk about this. I have seen so many who need to buy new underpinnings.

@barbiec4312

Жыл бұрын

This is so true. Get those girls up! They don’t have to be pushed up like a young girl, but you always look fresher and slimmer with lifted breasts.

@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms

Жыл бұрын

That is definitely a factor and I have indeed mentioned that other times. I was just really trying to keep this list to five. But you are absolutely right.

@terryhenderson424

Жыл бұрын

Under pinnings including tights or the other to helps us have a firmer aesthetic and also pant slips.

@monamorgan8614

Жыл бұрын

I was going to say under garments too. A bad fitting bra ages us fast. Get fitted by a professional at least every two years, we lose most muscle in our chest area which make us look “Frumpy”👍🏻

WOW! When you show the 2 different hairstyles on yourself you can REALLY see how a hairstyle can make you look vibrant and stylish or frumpy. That was an amazing way to show your point.

This is good Kay, thank you. I agree . I have number 6 for you. I agree about wearing no more than two colors but to add to that, leave the patterned and floral print material for throw pillows. Solid colors can show off a beautiful necklace and face without distraction. Spruce it up with earrings and a scarf. A colorful scarf should not be big and puffy, too much going on near the face. One more thing about shoes. If orthotics need to be worn, I find the most comfortable style of shoe are ankle boots. One size larger fits your own insoles and also gives more of a secure feel when walking than a low cut shoe. A couple pair of chelsea boots with different heels like one with a low dressy heel and one lug sole are stylish and comfortable. I hope this helps. I'm almost 66 and am just suggesting what I do to get through the day...... with confidence. :)

Hi Kay, thank you for your tips, but as an 80 year old, who most people think is 20 years younger, I don’t feel that my wardrobe “makes” me, I am what I am, I am happy with my life, I have reasonable health, I exercise regularly and am friendly and unbiased, never consider my, or other peoples dress sense, after all, it’s the personality, not the clothes that “maketh the man”,

@patriciabridges6735

Ай бұрын

Great reply!

Great video! As a 69 year old retiree who moved recently to a small town in the Mid West, my style is more casual than when I was a trial lawyer. I follow several stylists on You Tube, and all say shoes can make or break an outfit. You are the first and only to recognize that some of us simply can’t wear cute, stylish shoes anymore. Thanks for “giving permission” to wear what shoes we must, and focus on all our other style elements. 👍

@nanasloves

Жыл бұрын

Amen Kris!!! I’m so sad I can’t find stylish shoes for my wide feet.

@lisaschooler9992

Жыл бұрын

Agreed! I’ve been wearing pretty much Easy Spirit mules OR Clark’s loafers for 3 years due to a bunion on one foot. I get tired of hearing about shoes all of the time, and I’m only in my mid 50s. Prior health Insurance denied my request for surgery twice, I have changed recently so maybe someday I can do at least a 2” wedge occasionally:).

@cactusrose9601

Жыл бұрын

Amen!!

@moonbaby8743

Жыл бұрын

@@nanasloves i get it!! Have you looked at Vionic shoes. I now have wider feet, and need arch support or wear orthotics. They have really cute shoes.

@nanasloves

Жыл бұрын

@@moonbaby8743 I have but it’s been a while . I’ll check them out again! I have a Tailors bunion, it’s the baby toe, and I’m wondering if that’s why I have a hard time, it’s usually regular bunions that shoe maker think about. Thanks!

Posture is soooo important. I was sitting on the dock with my granddaughter, and my daughter asked us to turn for a picture. Before she took the photo, she said ‘posture, mom’. I straightened up before the click, and the photo turned out great. I can imagine what she saw before coaching me, as I’ve seen many pics of myself slouchy. I’m thankful she spoke up!! I try to remind myself often… posture!

@RC-eb5hq

Жыл бұрын

For motivation on good posture, watch old movies... REALLY old black and white movies when people had class and dressed with style. They all had good posture and looked fabulous!

@harmoniabalanza

Жыл бұрын

yes, this is true. But remember, you were on the dock with your granddaughter. That's the important thing!

@francesskobieranda7312

8 ай бұрын

​@@harmoniabalanzai

@buzoff4642

6 ай бұрын

Good posture says self-respect. I suspect posture and direct eye contact's been the reason I've gotten more than a few jobs.

@carlaeskelsen

4 ай бұрын

​@harmoniabalanza 🏆🏆🏆

When I was in middle school, we had a music teacher who taught us to constantly keep a small smile on our face. Well, she tried anyway. Obviously the vast majority of the kids made fun of her, but what she said made so much sense to me that I started practicing. It has become second nature. Pre-pandemic (when I was out in public without a mask), I often had random strangers waving at me, saying hello, smiling at me, or approaching me for directions. Once, I was even enlisted at the grocery store to help pick out avocados (which I don't know much about). I think it's the small smile.

@shirleybrooks6546

Жыл бұрын

I always told my daughter even at a very young age that a lady is never fully dressed without her smile.

@bernadettem750

Жыл бұрын

A smiling face is always welcoming! However, I know someone who must have heard this smiling tip. She pastes a big smile on her face constantly…she is a sweet and loving person, however, that constant smile is so unnerving…not natural at all.

@SueKnapp

Жыл бұрын

I always try to have a small smile on my face…usually because of my own vanity, but you know it helps with mood too. Great tip!

@wb5408

Жыл бұрын

I teach classes on Zoom. I told my kids "Always smile a little, in case Zoom freezes." :D

@tanja3921

Жыл бұрын

It reminds me of a six hour flight where the older flight attendant was constantly smiling. She didn't say many words during the trip, but her completely natural and incomparably beautiful smile said all the more. All absolutely magical, divinely natural 😊 This was about 25 years ago, I will never forget her beauty 😍

Thank you for the reminder about smiling and facial expressions. Years ago when my husband was a youth minister, one of the sweet teenage guys in our group asked us why the older ladies at church didn't like him. We asked him what gave him the idea that they don't like him. He said that whenever he was around them, they were always frowning at him. Even though we knew all of these precious ladies and knew this was a misperception on his part, we could see what he was talking about. Smiling makes such a difference.

I found freedom in styling from a modern stylist who said black does not look good on every woman and finding our neutral will make us modern and more attractive. Gray, camel and navy are some good alternatives to black and are seen on styleboards everywhere. I was freed when I changed to navy! I don't look good in black but am pleased to note that navy is a much nicer choice for my skin tone. I want all women to feel pretty about themselves. I have mobility issues. I cannot not wear pricey regular brands. Prior to where I now am, I did just that. The good news is that orthopedic brand shoes are coming out with cuter booties and Mary Jane's. And tennis shoes. Some people have severe crippling extremely painful feet and are barely able to walk. They have selected the most attractive shoes they can find. It takes research. Let us remind them we are are proud of their choices and how beautiful their entire fashion looks are. To tell them to ignore their feet is to say to ignore a part of who they are. My feet are a part of me. I feel the same even though I can't wear the shoes I wish I could. Believe me I do not feel frumpy! I find the best shoes for me feet so that I can walk with my walker or canes. I want to feel pretty in my outfits. I choose the nicest shoes for my feet. I live in California and follow fashion influencers from all over. Color is on trend. I think it's fun to see an older woman in bright color clothes because after the pandemic it's fun. We must not get too serious about it. I think if you have too many classics you can get frumpy fast. Get some fun pieces that aren't traditional to modernize your look. You will look years younger. Really. One classic piece is enough for an outfit otherwise it can be too dated sometimes. Life is short. Take a risk. There is room on our beautiful planet for more uniqueness. We are all loved and blessed most highly by being just who we are. Have the most lively day! My neutral accessory is leopard. It goes with everything I think. Used wisely. Like a headband or sunglasses. Hairdos? My hair is thinning too much on top to lift. Can't create layers on the sides. I think the straight parted hair isn't flattering on everyone and I'm happy more styles based on thickness texture wave and curl and shape of faces and preferences are coming back. Soft waves flatter around an aging face. I'd like to have them but my hair isn't growing. So the little I have is pulled back in a tiny bun. The look may be 'unflattering' but is the aging woman's face? It's time for women to appreciate the beauty of aging in a positive light. Our elder women deserve our respect about their lovely appearance. I am 71 an feel like it is a joy to be alive and part of gracing our experience is to accept that women are a positive important feature. Wear all your aspects and charms my lovelies with the knowledge that there are no rules and "If you want it, have it." I send healing prayers to all of you in need of them and unconditional love. May the angels shower you with light beams.

@patriciastewart2537

Жыл бұрын

Cherie Alver, I add body to my hair with the vegetable dye Punky Colors Mix the shades for a "natural " brown shade. Blue and Flame Orange makes :BROWN! Comfortable cute affordable shoes. $$$$ Ugg boots, or $ Walmart Mukluk boots. Not tight anywhere. Easy to put on and kick off. Posture...( mobility!)....I have recovered my mobility this year. It took a year. I was using two canes to walk slowly while moaning in pain one year ago. I now use them to maintain always good straight posture. No pain!

@lafrancehannele6884

Жыл бұрын

@@patriciastewart2537 Motion is lotion! My mother jogged and walked till age 85. She just died 2 years ago. She loved those thin matching jogging suits and always looked younger by 10 years. She was 99 when she past and just slowly slowed down. She did the splits still at 85 and had her hair freely moving. Very youthful lady! She is my example. Never took more than a calcium pill, did not go grey and could wear anything and look good. I am a senior with blond natural wavy hair with no grey at all. People think I am years younger, then my eye exam revealed, that we cannot fool mother nature! Fun channel to visit, because we still want to matter!

@lauriehansel1207

Жыл бұрын

Yes to navy!

@judylongcore5076

Жыл бұрын

Cherish, Love all the advice you are giving. You are loving presence wherever you go. Blessings to you.

I never have “done” my hair routinely, aside from shampooing and drying. My arm gets too sore holding a curling iron or putting in hot rollers, I get burns, and it takes well over an hour. But the main reason is that I suck at doing hair! I might go to my stylist for a special-occasion do, but I long ago decided no-fuss is best for my daily toilette. Keeping my hair around shoulder length helps, too. My consolation is that most French women wear natural hairstyles, too, and they always look great.

Being sympathetic to women with feet issues is a HUGE missing link in the fashion industry. Thank you for researching the great brands that don't scream FRUMPY!

@EBM1966

7 ай бұрын

Thank you for this content. Shoes being the whole outfit together and I cannot tell you how many people I see with old lady shoes. I made my daughters promise that they would never allow me to wear ugly old lady shoes.

@fritula6200

7 ай бұрын

A very, very good point... very clever observation!! Thanks..

@kathycoulter9715

6 ай бұрын

I have had a torn Achilles, plantar fasciitis, a ganglion cyst, arthritis in my knee. Comfortable flats are the only thing I can wear. Plus it’s impossible to buy shoes for my size 11 1/2 feet in my town.

@latteoatmeal7807

5 ай бұрын

so agree Trish, I've had feet issues since young, so I know how limited the selctions are, nothing has changed on that in over 20years.

@sonyabernhardt7508

Ай бұрын

Prone scapular retraction exercises ten reps daily

All great tips - thanks so much! My main goals at 60 are comfort and beauty. The minute we older ladies say “modern,” we date ourselves and automatically sound and feel older. I’ve dressed well all my life, but frankly with my frumpy body I can’t expect to look as chic as I did when I was 25. I do feel Ive learned enough over the years, however, to move with the times and be true to myself as well. If I look frumpy, so be it. Chances are I won’t feel fabulous, but sometimes I do, in spite of what fashions may dictate. What’s important is our confidence and how we feel inside. Whatever you do, own it!

@lisalu910

11 ай бұрын

You have a point there, and it is ironic. Using the word "modern" makes you sound anything BUT! I think the term now is "on trend."

@marcicox5549

4 ай бұрын

So true; another pet peeve of mine is those our age that dress like their children...some can pull it off; good for them, but others try too hard. I think she covered this well in the outfit selection tips. You can accessorize with some contemp pieces but too much is a bit, well for lack of a better word "frumpy."

Here's another tip: As our faces age we tend to get more jowly along our jaw line. I received a tip from a woman about not emphasizing that area when I was shopping for earrings. She said as she aged she started wearing small/shorter earrings that end higher up on her face because earrings longer than 1/2 inch tend to end at or near the jaw line. Earrings just naturally draw attention to the face and when the bottom of the earrings end at or below the jaw line, the eye is drawn there, especially if the earrings are a dangle or has some movement to them.

@elenalissone910

4 ай бұрын

I didn't agree with one of the looks, in that cardigan sweaters will always make you look frumpy. The black pants were un flattering with the high heels. kay, you're a hoot and very enjoyable to listen to. Please keep up the good work.

Great advice. Thank you for not following the crowd and telling us how to look younger. I like the idea of looking confident and put-together as a "mature" woman. I survived and I'm proud of it and your hints show me more of how to show it on the outside.

I am 35. I had my third baby a year and a half ago. I struggle to put effort into how I look (like, at ALL) even though I want to be a blessing to my husband and children by looking nice and also to feel better/more energized by being dressed nicely/more put together (even when I am home most of the day and cooking and cleaning and caring for my baby). I really appreciate your encouragement to stand up straight and smile became the Lord has good work for me today. I actually started to cry, haha. It was just exactly the encouragement I needed. So thank you! And thank you for all the other advice. I know my husband would love for me to dress a little more nicely- he doesn’t say so at all and he is so encouraging and appreciative of my work for the kids and for him, but I want to bless him and I want to know how to dress even for my daughters’ sake so that as they grow I can help them!! Of course they will wear different clothes than I do, but I want to learn more about this so we can wade through the millions of styles and clothing options (so many of which are awful) with wisdom.

I love your polite and non judgmental approach to fashion advice

I’m blown away by the difference in hair styles!!! Thank you for demonstrating it!!! You look 10-15 years younger with your current hair style!!! ❤️

@sarahbazeley9591

Жыл бұрын

I’m not sure about the hair style tips. I’m 45, and thin flat hair below the ear is aging 🥺 and height on the crown is a bit dated….

@galadethlaernis6266

4 ай бұрын

@sarahbazeley9591 I understand. I think she is making a point between her style and the other style which definitely does make her look very frumpy and dated and not in a good way. She doesn't have a teased high top at all. I think she is making a comparison and it's a pretty good one. The dated frumpy look that is sort of like a triangle is not flattering at all. It makes her face look chunky too. My hair is 100% different than hers very wavy with a curl. I could never wear my hair like hers but I do take the advice.... I'm working on making it not look like a triangle LOL .A well-known hairdresser on here specializes in updating hairstyles to make one look their very best & flattering... all different hair types and mostly 40 to 50 and up. He goes into complete detail because he is a hair stylist... shows before and afters and it's amazing. He has said similar things also.

@Patriot0417

Ай бұрын

I actually like the hairstyle that was criticized better than the one that was praised.

Posture is so important...for our appearance and to improve alignment and balance...and reduce fall risks!

I spent most of my life fighting my naturally very curly hair. I’m 70, and I’m not fighting it anymore.

I appreciate the intention of your hairstyle comment. You have beautiful hair! However, there is no way to wear my flat, fine, thinning hair in a modern way. It must be short and, if I work at it, I can get some height with layers…for about 10 minutes. I don’t have the facial features for those cute, super short cuts. Not attractive on me. I found my answer in wigs! These are not your grandmother’s wigs. They take 30 seconds to put on and take 10 years off my face. I have a variety of styles and they are so much fun to wear. I learned a lot about wigs from KZread (Taz’s wig closet) before I bought my first one. I started with something similar in color and style to my own hair on its best day. I get compliments all the time and most women are shocked when I tell them it’s a wig. Just offering a ray of hope for those of us who are struggling with hair loss or thinning and are painfully aware of how grumpy it can look. Thanks for all your recommendations!

@rustyferrel

5 ай бұрын

Wigs❣️ That’s what I’ll look into.

I hate to say shop, shop, shop, but adding a few updated items each season is essential for staying modern and current-looking.

@maryokeefe5351

Жыл бұрын

So true.

My personal mantra when I step out of my car: Put a twinkle in my eye, a spring in my step, and a smile on my lips. It is amazing how much better I feel before I get to the business entrance.

Hey, Kay! I just wanted to say that I found the format of your videos really helpful, especially the video-within-a-video approach. The examples you demonstrated, both the positive and negative together, made it so much easier to understand the points you were making, and really drove it home. Seeing is believing! Thanks so much!!😊

This is the first time I’ve seen one of your videos. I loved it!! I’m 41 but DeFiNiTeLY needed your tips on how to avoid the frump! My very favorite thing was the last one minute of the video. Thank you for the reminder that life is a gift, and each day we’re alive God has a purpose for it. That is truly something to smile about. God know us and loves us. 💗 Trying to remember that always is probably the best tip to fight the frump. It will help me look positive, at peace, and approachable. You’re darling. Thanks for the video, for being you, and sharing your talents with the world. ❤️

Thank you Kay! So timely for me as I am a 72 year old (in body not mind!) who has to meet a new doctor today (my dr. of many years moved to New Zealand! Too far to drive!) Because of a strange phone call from her office yesterday it sounds like she wants to re-invent the wheel and I have been struggling with how to present myself to her so that she takes me seriously. Your suggestions are all right on point and will help me give her the impression of a smart, together woman, not an old thing that she can push around. I will dress for success and hold my head up high as I explain my well refined medical situation! Thank you!!

@triciac1019

Жыл бұрын

How did your appt. go? That is an issue with getting a new doctor. Us olders will have that issue of having to get a new doctor. Mine retired that I had for 20 years. My one after that retired. My new ones seems good.

@valeriebrowning3622

29 күн бұрын

I too am 72. I too am looking for a doctor who will address my "issues"/ concerns. Is it my imagination or maybe the area I live in?...the older I get it seems as though doctors just don't want to be "bothered" with me. Do they prefer wealthy Boomers as opposed to Medicare Boomers?. I can't understand why they don't care about my health and well being as much as I do. Kay, I LOVE all the wisdom you share, in such a sweet, caring way. I admit I took the opportunity to reply to a "dotor forum"..I hope you don't mind. I'm looking forward to viewing more from you and all your admirers as well. One last thing..Would you please address "How to get started". Two closets, two dressers, two shoe bags full of old, Ill fitting, faded stuff, I'm still wearing , all needs to go. How do I begin ? Thanks and God Bless you Kay.

This was very timely! I know I need to up my game and this gave me a game plan. I'm making an appointment to get my shaggy and unruly curls cut into a flattering style as soon as the salon opens. You're right that God has a plan for us, and it's not for us to let ourselves go and give up on ourselves.

@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms

Жыл бұрын

Wonderful. Thanks so much for letting me know you enjoyed it. 💕

A tip I've picked up along the way: If you're interested in the clothes from a certain catalog or see an outfit you really like, check out your wardrobe first! Odds are, you likely already have an outfit similar to the one trying to be sold to you, or at the very least a couple of the core pieces. Also, it helps to decide if you really want that scarf or those earrings or some other item; if it wouldn't go with the rest of your clothes, is it worth the investment?

She cracks me up!"iT`S NOT ABOUT GRAY BECAUSE i`M GOING GRAY".

That was wonderful Kay! I’m 70 years old and a choir director for my community. I see recordings of our performances and the one thing I notice is my posture! With everything else I have to remember, it’s hard to add that to the list. But for my December holiday show I am going to try to focus on it! Thanks so much for all the tips. They were excellent and you delivered them with grace, as always. God bless you!

@starbrightblue4936

Жыл бұрын

Practice some yoga type stretches for shoulders and abs. That helps so much in making us mindful is good posture

@pattyamato8758

Жыл бұрын

I thought of yoga, too. Practicing yoga regularly leads to good posture becoming more automatic- you don't even have to think about it

@captainmol0

Жыл бұрын

A stretch to help posture. Do daily. Stand in a narrow doorway, put elbows on doorframe at about shoulder height and lean forward. This stretches the chest and helps to soften those muscles so your shoulders are less likely to roll forward and in.

@chiarac3833

Жыл бұрын

When you are conducting, observe the vocalists' posture. You must keep good posture to have your full column of air to sing. Look how they all stand tall as a reminder. Good posture will even improve your conducting skills.

@roxannegordon2854

Жыл бұрын

@@chiarac3833 There's no way a chorus can sing out with proper diction and projection unless they are standing straight up, music held up high with feet planted on the floor. Once the music is well rehearsal, it can be held a bit lower. Never try to sing looking down for a long period of time.

Dear Kay...Thank you for your gracious way of encouraging us mature women to be relevant and purposeful. You are a true blessing. I just turned 60 and I have learned so much these past few years from you. Thank you so much!

@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms

Жыл бұрын

Lovely! I’m so glad you liked it. Thanks for sharing. 🥰

I have never been one of those women who does her hair. I have always hated hair spray. But I recognize that hair you are talking about. I am not a fan of black outfits, it can really wash out older women. Of course it looks great on others. I think the number one anti aging thing any woman can do is exercise. I exercise every day. I mix between pilates and yoga flows. And walk! Barre work outs are great too. I have MS and I am 60 and I still set my fitness goals.

I personally think the best part of being older is not having to care what other people think. My great aunt looked her age and was gorgeous.

@edennis8578

Жыл бұрын

I agree. I had a neighbor down the street years ago who was always chic-looking in black trousers, a black sweater, and short, well-cut snow-white hair. In the winter, she wore a 3/4 length white wool coat. Her posture was impeccable. She didn't look younger than she was, but she looked fabulous, and she made an impression on me that has stayed with me for 25 years.

Great tips! My tip is - Because I am short 5’3” I work very hard to stay slim. It makes such a difference . Also avoiding boxy clothing rather than slim line

@dreamscape405

Жыл бұрын

I'm just the opposite. I'm 5'11", and the thinner I get, the older I look. I need that extra fat in my face to fill it out, for a more youthful look. I'm not overweight, but am toned, voluptuous with distinct curves. Genetics plays a big role in how we age too.

@AKayfabe

Жыл бұрын

you aren’t short to me! I’m 5’0

@edennis8578

Жыл бұрын

​@@dreamscape405 Jill St. John once said something similar. She said that she has to maintain a certain amount of body fat, because when she gets too thin, her face looks gaunt.

@Patriot0417

Ай бұрын

​@@AKayfabeI used to be 5'0". Now I'm maybe 4'10", so yes, height makes a big difference! And I CANNOT wear heels!

Loved every single tip, and you illustrated it so well! I too fall in the “major foot problems but love pretty shoes” category (crushed my heel jumping off a ladder). My sister and I just got home from a Danube cruise and spent a lot of time in outdoor cafes watching the fashion parade of beautifully dressed European women, then trying to figure out how we could spot American women instantly. I took ballet lessons for almost 35 years, and you are the first person I’ve heard speak about how posture goes a very long way to a youthful vibe!

@lizannewhitlow1085

Жыл бұрын

Posture. Ballet. ✊🏻✊🏻

@PrincessHVHHDSSS

8 ай бұрын

Thanks to ballet training as a little girl, also, I still have correct posture. I strut, I prance, I twirl. Never have my mouth gaping open like a cod fish. Never slouching. 🌷 Excellent posture goes a very long way, for lifetime good health. Absolutely. 🕊🌿🌳🌲🍀🌱🌴🌾

@paulinerichardson138

5 ай бұрын

So after ballet what did you do ?I'm a Silver Swan but I know I need to look for an alternative one day.?

@roxannebernard9258

5 ай бұрын

@@paulinerichardson138 I do strength training in a gym now and weight bearing exercise because I have osteoporosis.

@alicepersons2823

5 ай бұрын

Yes! I cringe when I see Americans abroad wearing athletic wear, ugly gym shoes, looking sloppy and awful. Europeans know how to be casual but stylish.

Great video! I agree that our presence is so important!! I looked so much older 15 years ago when I had low self confidence and wanted to hide from the world. Now even if I'm just going to the grocery store I carry myself in like I just won an Oscar!! And I look so much better in photos now because of it. Thanks for the tips

First time watching one of your videos. Thanks for all of these tips. I would like to offer one more, which I picked up from the TV show 'What Not to Wear', and that is to wear clothes that fit. Everyone looks frumpy with clothes that are too big or just don't fit your body type. Well fitting clothes make such a difference!

Thank you Kay for the tips and encouragement I also am 58 years old. I have a 15 year old high school freshman. I don’t need to look like the 40 something moms but sometimes I need a little advice on how to look like the mom and not the grandma. Have a wonderful day.

@flowerpower3618

Жыл бұрын

Just be you. You are blessed to be a mama at any age.

@StylewithSerena

Жыл бұрын

I will be in your shoes in 6 years. I'm 52 and have a 9 yr old 4th grader :)

@laurad.kelley8902

Жыл бұрын

I highly value the encouragement that I receive from hearing about other moms that gave birth after 40 so I just wanted to say "hi"🙋‍♀️ I'll be 43 in two months and I have a five month old baby girl:) She's my first baby too:)

@carolferguson

5 ай бұрын

My momma had me in her 40’s. Poor thing wore heals into her 80’s. & panty hose. And I think a slip & girdle. I do not want to be tortured by fashion.

Hi Kay! Your videos are always so thoughtful. I just had my 70th birthday, and do not plan to ever be frumpy! You hit on so many good points and I am pleased that posture was among them. It makes such a difference. I appreciate that you are so gracious regarding women’s individual challenges. Thank you!

I love listening to you. You are so encouraging, warm, and cheerful.

I’m not yet 40, but have started to look closer to my age than I did a few years ago - and I’m so pleased! All of a sudden I don’t look ridiculous in those timeless clothes I’ve coveted for years. So, given a rather rapid wardrobe change is in process, it’s great to see tips I can incorporate into that, both now and in the future. Thanks!

Also, I think clothes that are the right size help. I just went shopping for jeans yesterday and the ladies were soooo helpful in showing me how slimmer fit pants were more flattering even though I'm not at an ideal weight. Too much fabric is not a good thing!

@harmoniabalanza

Жыл бұрын

The young girls are not afraid to show fat, which is not a great idea in my mind. Lose weight. But at least fat doesn't make you look old (in and of itself, LOL). Too skinny is just as bad. But just love life and you'll be fine.

This was great advice, and I love that it was delivered in such a kind and compassionate way! The hair advice was especially helpful. One other thing that I think can make us look frumpy is wearing clothes that are too oversized. That's the case for me anyway. Hope you have a wonderful week, Kay! Your positivity is so uplifting. :)

@lu_re7198

Жыл бұрын

Yes! And the slouchy “oversized” boxy look has been trending for almost 3 years. It has got to go!

@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. I’m really glad you enjoyed it. 😊

@teribunker5223

Жыл бұрын

I CONSTANTLY make sure I smile!

@AKayfabe

Жыл бұрын

lol I have been wearing way oversized clothes since I was about 16. I’m 46 now. I think that is just my style.

@joanforest2434

Жыл бұрын

I’m 74 years old. If I look frumpy I don’t give a sh#&. I dress to be comfortable.

I'm so happy you pointed out how to wear the classics still. I recently bought some very classic twin sets from Talbots - something I'd wanted foever, but couldn't afford until recently. I can still wear the shells and the cardigans, but not necessarily together to be more updated. WOW! What a difference it made changing out your shoes and handbag for something more up to date with your classic cardigan and bow-tie blouse. I can't quite tell, but it looks like you also changed to a slightly longer and more fitted pant. Looks great! How we carry ourselves is a huge factor in how we look. So much so that my mom showed me a tip for how to stand up straight when I was a pre-teen. I still do it now at 66 years old. Lean your back against a flat wall, with your feet about 10' away from the wall and about shoulder width apart. Bend your knees, while pushing your shoulders back against the wall. Do not lift your shoulders, but push them back. Then, while keeping your shoulders back, hipbone pulled back, slowly straighten your legs. Before you walk away, make sure your lower back is touching the wall (accomplished by pulling your hip bone back) so that you can't fit your hand behind your back. Pull your ribcase off your hips too (straighten your spine)! Now, step away from the wall, keeping those shoulders back. Your bust will look more perky and your waist will appear slimmer, because poor posture makes your belly stick out and your bust isn't hanging down in front of your waist. Of course, you'll want to make sure your foundtions fit properly or possibly negate the great healthier look of your new good posture. You'll also have the added bonus of being able to breath better!

I recently cut my hair from a below shoulder length to a pixie. I have gotten so many compliments on it! When I watched this video, I realized that your tip on hair was spot on! You’ve got a new subscriber.

@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! 🥰

Excellent video!! I would humbly add one more tip that is similar to not wearing too many colors in an outfit as we get older. I think another way to avoid looking frumpy is to tone down one's makeup. I am 73 now but when I was your age, Kay, I had a friend who was 9 years older than me. I never saw her without her makeup on which always included a bright lipstick, rouge or blusher, and blue eye shadow (her eyes were crystal blue). One day I dropped in on her unexpectedly and she had not yet put on any makeup. I was amazed at how fresh and much younger she looked without full makeup! I think it is more flattering when a mature woman tones down and pares back the colors she wears on her face as well as the colors in outfits. Thank you for all your spot-on advice.

@maryokeefe5351

Жыл бұрын

Very true. Same with lipstick shades. Going for a makeup application every few years is helpful.

@cynthiajohnston424

Жыл бұрын

@@maryokeefe5351 Agree ! As we age , our skin tone changes & also hair color . Subtle makeup updates are easy & inexpensive ways to lighten 'n brighten our faces - along w/ good dental care / whitening & a smile !

@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms

Жыл бұрын

I completely agree with you. Thanks so much for sharing. 😘

I"m a master stylist and an agree with all of these. At 60, like myself you don't want to look like you are trying too hard, but still with it. It truly is an art form. Nice clip!

@ler5299

Жыл бұрын

You should do some videos.

I completely agree with especially the posture and facial expressions. My mother in law always had what I called “resting grumpy face”. She wasn’t necessary in a bad mood, but her face said that. I constantly fight against that and my posture as well. It really is the #1 thing aging us.

@triciac1019

Жыл бұрын

Boy I know I tend to be that way. It's hard not to have that face when I am hurting. I try to remember to smile.

@bernadettem750

Жыл бұрын

Why do we continue to try to be someone we’re not? Can we just love eachother as we truly are? Is that possible?

@coyotech55

Жыл бұрын

I notice that I get a much better reaction from people I run into when I'm out, if for some reason I look less grouchy than normal. 🙂

@harmoniabalanza

Жыл бұрын

Maybe not, but your whole life shows in your face.

@GardengalAAA

Ай бұрын

You’re born with your face. Resting bitch face is not something we ask for and I can’t stand people who tell me “smile” as if I belong in a straight jacket like I have to have a smile plastered on my face. Respect.

This was so valuable Lindsay ....thank you🎉

It’s challenging to find clothes that look nice but are also comfortable with my less than perfect body. Great tips. Thanks.

I just got to the part where you mentioned Paul Green loafers, a brand I have never heard of. I paused the video, and looked that up, and saw loafers for $375.00. OMG. Lol I cannot imagine.... But I do love your tips, and I'm enjoying this video. I do have joint issues, knee replacement, hip and foot issues, but just wow on that price!

@carlaeskelsen

4 ай бұрын

Yeah, and honestly, pretty frumpy. I think I'll stick to my healthy Keens. My feet will thank me, and I think they're fun and fresh. And they fed my inner kindergartner! 😆😆

@stella-gx8ne

4 ай бұрын

Paul Greene has been around forever Great investment for years

A lot of peoples feet, back, alignment, etc problems are from a lifetime of improperly fitted footwear. VivoBarefoot is a phenomenal company that makes shoes for how feet are supposed to function! They are pricey but worth every penny! I never realized how much my shoes were hurting me until about 6 years ago when I started falling on my face after I would step out of bed in the morning. It was startling & strange! My feet hurt so bad I could hardly put pressure on them. And my knees & back had problems too. Learning to wear barefoot shoes (without actually being barefoot) allowed my tendons, bones, joints, etc to realign in the proper position & I havent had foot or severe knee problems since. 💕🙏🏼🕊️

Agree with everyone of your suggestions. I’m so happy to try your shoe suggestions!!! The only thing I would add is wearing the right color for you. I think it makes a huge difference. Some colors light you up and some remove any color in your face. Love your channel.

I'm so glad you mentioned the hair. I've been struggling with top hair loss and I've heard conflicting things about not having too much body on the crown to give movement. I like the way your hair is styled because it looks natural. Thank you for these tips.

Thank you for another great video! I totally agree that adding modern footwear is one of the easiest ways to update your classic wardrobe. Also, proper posture and a smile makes everything look better.

@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms

Жыл бұрын

Wonderful. Thanks so much for letting me know you enjoyed it. 💕

Oh my gosh! I just found you and was 😂&👍🏻& feeling “Oh, this is my gal!!!”🥰🎉 You remind me of many of my dear friends🙌🏻 I’ve wanted to start flogging for YEARS in a similar manner… just fear the haters!😅 I’m a singer in Los Angeles, 63 now and still singing! Health is so key! But attitude & positive energy almost more so! I just want to thank you for encouraging me to blog without you even meaning to! I’ll be following you and nodding to every humor laced comment about getting older. It’s tough, but we can do it gracefully!💃🏼❤️

I just LOVE your positivity and your very practical Suggestions. I’m 58 too I’m loving your perspective on everything. And your JOY shines through….❤🎉

Oh Kay, I so agree with you about it all. But the posture thing is so important. I have belonged to the same tennis/swim/exercise club for the last 22 years. Now that I am semi-retired, I go in the morning, as soon as I get up. I see women my age (68) looking at the ground as they walk to and from the club. They do not smile, they do not say Hello, they do not pull their shoulder back and stand tall. I am flabbergasted at it. I have known some of these people for 22 years and they still do not greet me or anyone else. My mother used to say, posture is everything. And small talk and a smile goes a long way. They look like life has defeated them and they have given up. All very grumpy. And frumpy. When I walk by, I always say Hello even if they do not answer me. I stand tall, always remember to hold my head up high and I smile at people. That goes a long way. And when you go to a public place you should say Hello and Goodbye to the people who help run the establishment. Some of these women are just so rude, like their mothers never taught them manners or how to be in this world. And they all come from upper middle-class families, they are all well-educated, I just don't get it. I am just floored by it all. But I live in the Boston area, so I just chuck it up to unfriendly Bostonians (or rather New Englanders), even though I am from here too. Thanks Kay, keep up the good work. I always appreciate your work and commitment to us.

@catherinemyers7419

Жыл бұрын

🦋 you really never know what another person might be going through … and compassion rather than judgement or criticism is a wonderful personal quality 🦋

@anitaclemens2609

Жыл бұрын

@@catherinemyers7419 ​ I agree with you up to a point, but this is different from an occasional heart ache and tragedy. These women are very unfriendly and unsmiling and rude. I was speaking to another women who was born in Ireland and she observed the same behavior in these women we work out with every day. She can't understand this "no greeting" thing. I sometimes watch people come into the club. They never acknowledge the people at the desk and they never say Goodbye when they leave. Or Thank you, when the desk people do something for them. Even young people behave like this. It is an epidemic of bad manners and grumpiness. The other day I was in cycle class and since I always sit by the door I always say Good Morning to everyone that enters and passes me by. I said Good Morning to this one women (who is there every time I am there and doesn't sit too far from me) and she looked at me like I have a nerve talking to her. I have seen her for the last 22 years. She stared at me and then went over to another women said hello and started talking, they were obviously friends. So around here I guess you are not suppose to say anything to anyone, just walk by everyone with your head down keeping your eyes on the ground. But I cannot and will not do that. I will keep smiling and greeting people as long as I have breath left in me. No hardship explains poor behavior and bad manners, lots of people have sadness in their life and go on with life. I mean this behavior is every day for the last 22 years. It is very grumpy and frumpy in older women, who should know better.

This was a very good video. I always appreciate how kind you are when giving advice. As someone who has terrible feet, I always feel bad that my footwear is sometimes frumpy. But now I realize, accenting the other four items takes the focus away from my feet! Thanks for always including all of us in your advice!

@nancyinthegarden3160

Жыл бұрын

I always notice the outfit and realize that feet hurt at our age but if we try with a nice outfit the shoes don’t matter except to help the person feel better. We all have gotten fed up with wearing heels at weddings and now it’s the trend to bring flat shoes so we can dance comfortably. So just do you and don’t worry about your feet. I have 9 flat feet and I know people look at them but they’ve carried me 67 years of walking my walks. I have beautiful legs so look away and leave me with my happy flat feet. So, see we all have something that others find bothersome to them if they want to be critical. Be confident with yourself and to hell with anyone disapproving. We don’t require disapproval to thrive in our feee years

@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. I’m really glad you enjoyed it. 😊

@mswtaz94

Жыл бұрын

I wish that actually worked. I had terrible foot problems for a couple after a surgery. I could only wear Birkenstocks. I knew I looked crazy. A lady at church told me she knew something had to be wrong because of the shoes. I had on expensive clothes and they made the shoes really stand out like sore thumbs. She did tell me after I could wear shoes again lol.

I’m a belly dancer, we have long hair into our 70’s. Short hair actually ages you

@Patriot0417

Ай бұрын

That's not true for everyone. Depending on whether you have thick or thin hair, your face shape, etc. Many women look better with short hair than long hair. These generalizations are small-minded and come across as arrogant, thinking that you know what's best for everyone or that one specific thing looks good on everyone. We're all unique. And this comment goes to the creator of this video too.

As a commercial photographer I can say amen to all these points. Especially the posture / smile / presence -- no matter what you have to wear or look like you always look better when you have great presence. Glad I found you -- good stuff.

Good pointers. I particularly agree with over-accessorizing. Some older women I know have the whole matchy-matchy costume jewelry sets (earrings, bracelets, necklaces) AND a bright silk scarf around the neck. When you pair that with overdone makeup, oh boy. (That's a whole other issue. Underdoing it is looks more youthful than overdoing it!)

@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms

Жыл бұрын

Good insight. Thanks so much for sharing. 💕

I loved this video, Kay! Very good pointers and I like the way you modeled the frumpies so it was easy to visualize your points. I need to work on my hair after looking at the frumpy example. I’m letting my hair grow a little longer and then I’m going to ask my hairdresser to de-frump it. I love the way you are wearing your hair. I think one of the most important things to make us feel young is positivity and a genuine smile and laugh.

I appreciate your kind approach. I agree about hair. Find a decent flattering cut but also change it up sometimes. Some women look great with super short hair but in my view, very few women over 50 look good with long hair. Especially long, messy gray hair. Ditch the dark brown or black dye, which is super aging. Shoes: for me a short leather bootie works with many outfits and is comfortable and not frumpy. I can't wear cheap shoes any more at 71. I love color but you're right. Don't overdo the patterns or too much big jewelry. That said, I love stylish older ladies like Iris Apfel, who is all about excess and bright color.

Thin, limp hair can’t be worn casually. Some of us can’t afford hair salons. I buy my cloths used, from quality places. I dress well, flattering clothes, I cover up what I feel is unflattering. I wear makeup, quality makeup, nice earrings, nails done, stylish shoes, slim, straight slacks, no gimmicky shirts, just nice tailored tops. Good underwear. Keep my teeth healthy, light cologne, don’t overdo jewelry.

None of us look that great when we get old no matter what we do. We just look old. But your tips are helpful. No matter how much money you spend once you're old you're old.

My friend's mum is in her nineties and recently lost a lot of hair due to ill health. Her hairdresser gave her a spiky pixie cut that looks great and really boosted her confidence. She is on the mend now and hopefully her hair will grow back.

@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms

Жыл бұрын

Bless her! Thanks so much for sharing. 😊

@gialollobrigida1713

Жыл бұрын

I think hair can be overrated-meaning, there’s so many wonderful wigs out there 😊

You were mentioning putting a smile on your face and years ago someone gave me an excellent suggestion for looking more pleasant and the suggestion is just to think the word smile in your mind and your countenance will look more pleasant naturally

Kay, your advice on trying to have a pleasant expression is so important! When I started substitute teaching I decided the elementary students were already missing their reg teacher and did not need to be looking at a grumpy faced substitute! My own kids,when little, would often sound depressed that they had a substitute teacher that was grouchy. I trained myself to always try and keep that small smile on my face. Plus, at 74, it makes mouth wrinkles less noticeable 😉. Guess what? I was always one of the favorite subs. I try to tell my 34 yr old daughter ,also a teacher, to get rid of her ( so called) natural RBF. She says it’s hard! Maybe by the time she’s 40 she’ll get it 😂

You totally cracked me up today, Kay!! But everything you said is so true. I actually know some women who have definitely fallen into the "frumpy" category at mid 50's! Thanks for the reminder to add something current and to stand straight and confident.

I don’t care what others think of what I’m wearing. I dress for comfort and for myself only.🤷🏼‍♀️

Your hair tip is fantastic. The "before and after" really illustrates how modernizing your hairstyle avoids the frumpy look. Overall, great tips beautifully illustrated. Thanks, Kay!

So true about posture! I work on my posture with upper back strengthening, Pilates, etc. But as Kay says, we have to practice! I try to practice good posture as much as possible, but one thing that really helps is, if I notice someone out & about with a slump, I use their bad posture as a positive reminder to improve my own posture right then & there (and not to think negative things about the other person). Also, good reminder to make a habit of a pleasant expression!

I have curly hair, and I have asked my hair stylist for fullness from crown to temple with layering. When it’s windy or rains ( and it rains most of the time in Georgia, or the humidity is so high here that it might as well be raining ), the “fullness from the crown to the temples” look, on me, frizzes/curles up and sticks out whenever I go outside, so that I look like that guy on the Three Stooges. No amount of oil or hair products prevents this. Although most people do not have curly hair, perhaps you could have a hair stylist visit with you on one of your KZread videos to discuss how older women with curly or very wavy hair, in tropical climates, can tame their hair in constant humidity and rain…and still look less “frumpy”. Thanks for your videos.

@pappyone6062

Жыл бұрын

Kelly York look at some videos of people with curly hair. Jamie Paige is a makeup artist with a makeup channel. She is quite young (about 30) with gorgeous hair. She has had quite a long journey dealing with and learning how to deal with her curly hair. She has several videos talking about it. It will be worth your time. Good luck. I love curly hair. Mine is straight.

@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms

Жыл бұрын

We’re definitely all unique when it comes to hair. The main thing is to find a style you can somewhat easily handle and that looks good on you. I do think that if you have unique hair concerns sometimes that means finding that one style and just sticking with it. Your best bet may just be finding a good hairdresser and sometimes we need to branch out and find a new one. So don’t worry about my tips on this topic. They don’t apply to you. Instead work on finding a good hairdresser who can help you find a modern style for you. Or give the stylist you have now permission to try some new things.

@karahorner2103

Жыл бұрын

I should have read the comments before commenting...lol, this is my problem too!

@maryellenrioux2494

Ай бұрын

Yes yes yes! Im a curly hair and it has been a trial my entire life...

I def agree with monochromatic outfits. I just turned 50 and have noticed patterns of any sort just aren’t flattering for me anymore. These tips are so fabulous!! I’m a new subscriber and anxious to learn more!

@MegInASheathDress

5 ай бұрын

Agreed. I only wear neutrals now and my best colors are navy blue and charcoal gray instead of black. No prints and NO bright colors. Even my pashmina is a neutral color. You don't need "splashes of color." Minimalist wardrobe is the way to go. I've been wearing the same dress every day since jan. 1. Might do it again in 2024 but with a different dress!😂

@kdcraft89

5 ай бұрын

I've been wearing mostly monochromatic outfits for decades. It made dressing for work and travel so much easier. I did my "colors" long ago and got rid of those that didn't suit my skin tone. Huge difference and my clothes then made me feel happy. I'm an artist so sensitive to color. Only recently I've started to wear more prints, but in moderation.

@carlaeskelsen

4 ай бұрын

I'm approaching my 70s and have discovered the joys of tie dye!!! 🌈 The more color, the better! I'm gradually replacing my duo/monochrome wardrobe with rich, watercolor palette clothing, and I'm having the time of my life! Getting dressed every day is like starting a new painting! So fun!

i’m 51…oops 52, i think i look late 30’s but it is so easy to “let go” thanks for reminding us to take pride in our appearance and how we present ourselves to the world

Oh Kay, I so needed to watch this for 2024 like 3 times..... Thank you. Thank you for addressing the shoes. WOW when you talked about wearing all the classic pieces and looking frumpy the updated looked like you had lost weight!! I had to go back and forth to see what you were talking about..... different blouse, low heel, raise the cuff on the sweater?? How about a before and after with the updates arrowed or circled?? Thank you.

Love the video! I have taken your advice on so many things! I’m 60 and a mother of 17 yo twins so I don’t want to look old. I especially needed hair advice as I’ve also gone to a simpler style. Thank you for keeping us looking great!

@flowerpower3618

Жыл бұрын

Wow, that’s amazing .

@StylewithSerena

Жыл бұрын

Hi Angie. So you had your twins at 43? I had my son at 43. He's now 9. Guess there are a few of us old moms here!

@cindycornwall6581

Жыл бұрын

I'm 61 and mother to 19 year old twins. On one hand, it "keeps you young" and on another, the teen years wear you out in your 50's, lol. Not that I was ever a "styling" person, but I have become a bit more complacent since the pandemic. Also, being shorter and somewhat overweight adds to the challenge by having fit issues, both bra fit and length/width of top. Another factor is how much money one has to spend on wardrobe, makeup, hair etc. I just aim for looking respectable and not too dated.

@trinleywangmo

Жыл бұрын

@@cindycornwall6581 Kay's advice about layering the same color goes a long way to hide our changes as we gain/lose weight over time. I have immune issues and sometimes gain 20-30 lbs in a short amount of time (and lose it, too, almost nearly as rapidly, thanks to a malfunctioning, untreatable thyroid and stress), so I had to learn this the hard way. Still, there's so much I can still learn here!

Whew…I am on major frump mode today. I have a terrible cold so I did a few things to help me feel better. Took a hot shower this morning, moisturized my face with 49 layers of cream & mask, put on a cute matching lounge set & I pulled out my new Kate Spade slippers. Tomorrow I’m going to find the energy to manicure/pedicure my nails. 💅🏼 I really loved this video, the one thing I tend not to do for myself is keep a cute haircut. I am working on changing that. Thank you Kay for your kind words ❤🎃

Hi Kay, I love your tips, and the comments below. In my 60s, I go for fake eyelashes to distract from my wrinkles! ...and stand further from the mirror.! Also, I breathe deep to help stay upbeat! ...and sometimes play 'clear all negative energy' on youtube!

Since I retired, I have noticed I have gone down the frumpy trail. Thanks for bringing me back.

What good advice! I was able to take a second look at my everyday outfit yesterday. I especially appreciate your suggestions to stay with no more than two colors. It makes such a difference. I even started thinking about my posture in the evenings as I was getting ready for bed.

I agree with your last point. The other day I had to make Quick stop at the store. I knew my attire wasn't the greatest. So as I went in the store, I lifted my shoulders up and back, lifted my head, put a smile on my face and it was amazing how good I felt about myself and I encouraged others to smile back. I don't think they noticed my outfit!

Thank you so much for this video Kay. I've worked, from a very young age, in jobs that required a uniform. I've worked a lot of hours and didn't make time to be fashionable. I'll be retiring soon and realize I have no idea how to really dress at this age! Your advice is so helpful and inspiring! I'm looking forward to looking my best! Thank you again.

Great simple advice and very easy to implement. I especially loved the advice on posture, which is so important. Thank you for being a shining light and guiding us through the best years of our lives 🙏

Love the pointers! Very helpful on paring down yet keeping it modern. Just adding a smile and standing tall makes such a difference, and it makes you feel better too.

Thank you for your compassionate observations! I feel encouraged and though I do have a back problem I try to dress to not have it show so much. But your suggestion to smile, which I think I mostly do, is great. To put oneself together as nicely as possible, and then focus on a loving attitude toward others - which usually results in a smile, a word of encouragement or compliment, from the heart. My prayer is that God would use me in any way He wants and even though I'm growing older, He still has a plan! And more and more, I don't want to miss an opportunity He gives. You reminded me of that in your sweet understanding of some of our challenges. He is not finished with us yet, and we don't have to be frumpy while He's working with us!! God bless you and much love, Nancy Oyer (from Berkeley, CA, can you believe it?!)

Good lord. I'm speechless! To me, the thing that defines youthfulness is attitude. Modern women have long since shrugged off the idea that we have to look or present ourselves a certain way in order to be acceptable. I nearly choked on my tea when I found out that you and I are the same age, because to me this video belongs in the dark ages! I guess we're all different. You do you, and I shall continue to be happy with me. I wish you well.

You really spoke to me with #4! I absolutely love my classic pieces and in the past, I was afraid to add modern elements because I thought it would look like I’m trying too hard. But I’ve recently realised it’s ok to throw in some modern pieces! Thanks for reinforcing my thought. Mary in Florida 🌺

I loved this video, Kay as I do all of them, but the part about the hair made me LOL! Also, the shoes really resonated with me bc I’ve suffered severe Rheumatoid Arthritis since the age of 23 and it all began with my feet and though through a fused ankle surgery in my right ankle in my early 30’s they’ve really done well, I am now battling some knee issues in my right knee at 56 and I happen to LOVE shoes!!! Oh, Lordy do I love shoes and bags, and GOOD ones! Haha! But you’re absolutely right about it being better to have 3-6 GOOD pairs vs a closet full of “less than” pairs! It is amazing what a good pair of shoes can do for our entire body! Thank you for all you do, my friend! You are such a blessing in so many ways! Hugs!

I love fashion and I've worn orthotics in my shoes since my early 40s. There are shoes out there that are fashionable and comfortable that accommodate whatever you need for your feet. It just takes extra effort to find them. I am a pro at finding shoes that work for me because it is important to me. The shoes make the outfit 🙂

@maryokeefe5351

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So true. I recently found a great physiotherapist who told me that the thinking on orthotics has changed, as they can weaken muscles we need for stabilization.. She said they should be used to get us over a crisis, but not long term. I now only use them for sports. There are some terrific shoes and boots available now that provide great support.

It’s not schlumping, it’s slumping! Also, I believe the #1 culprit is oversized clothes!! Love the two color limit, thanks!!

I immediately loved everything about this, even though I'm guilty of many. Plus, you have wonderful 'presence', gentle and kind, and that really comes across when you speak to your viewers. Thank you. :)

What an amazing video, Kay! Everyone of these tips is exactly what I needed to hear. I am going to be taking your advice with all 5 of these, starting with the hair! Thank you so much.

Thanks for mentioning posture. I teach Pilates to the 50+ age group and it makes such a difference!

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I’ve just started Pilates reformer and even after a few sessions it is already making a difference. 🙌

Nothing would make my hair have ‘fulness’. It is very fine without any ‘heaviness’. If I have layers cut it would disappear.

Proper fit is everything. Proper fit, proper cut, proper shape and the right size. I made a video a few months ago and the jacket I wore was a size or two, too big. I've lost weight and don't want to buy a whole new wardrobe, so I thought I can still make it work. Wrong. If clothes are either too big or too small, it makes you look larger. Make sure your fit and cut suits you before you wear on camera or out....a flattering color works wonders. Belts really help when you're slimming into a 'new you' transition. Eventually, though, you have to tailor professionally or buy a new wardrobe. Can you imagine the cost? I've had many garments tailored or even recut/restyled. ; - )