Lornzie is serving the truth today! If you don't have the emotional capacity, imagine it's not a must.

@wanjirukarago9308

2 жыл бұрын

Yes Not a must thats me.

Am with Lornzie 100%, i can make professional connections without necessarily building to friendships but yet stay open to it if it's meant to be... rather than overloading my emotional capacity.

I like how Jules is in touch with her spiritual self '"I don't think that God can give you a desire for something and not give you the resources to do it".

When Jules said, "Your tone matters" I felt that. I may forget what you said, but never will I forget how you made me feel, so f*ck yeah tone matters.

When Ivy is moderating it really gets that Money Monday vibe. More interviewish less chitchat-ish, really focused conversation and everyone gets a chance to share their side of it

@kangethe7s

2 жыл бұрын

Factsss✴

@hope.n.wilson

2 жыл бұрын

But chitchat is also good sometimes cause we get to learn somethings from their unplanned vulnerability

@winnieroze

2 жыл бұрын

@@hope.n.wilson sure thing. I like the episodes whichever way

Adulting is hard guys. Lately most of my friends have become 'people I know' I realized I have been watering dead plants. Always the one checking up and when I don't they don't.😒 So road to meaningful connections. 💁‍♀️

@lynnieeve

2 жыл бұрын

Good to "see"you here☺️

@ritanjiru4066

2 жыл бұрын

Hey you! Good to see you too.😊

@bettywanjira

2 жыл бұрын

This is soo me! It's exhausting

@lornanaitore4735

2 жыл бұрын

I can feel you on that

@jacklinemariannah9738

2 жыл бұрын

I Feel you 😭😭😭so exhausting

Ivy is serving a look for us today💅🏿

I am those people who don't have friends. I am an introvert and my social battery is kidogo... I feel more energized being alone working than hanging out with people.

@Ichbinthee_dali

2 жыл бұрын

Ooooooooh my God! This is me! 😅

@evelynelilian1972

2 жыл бұрын

Meeeeee 😂😂.Sometimes I sit and Wonder form ni gani.I dont like people

@kristinekiarie7848

2 жыл бұрын

Woooow.....same introvert gal en reqlly selective on who to hang out wit🙆

@geewangare

2 жыл бұрын

I so feel you, I enjoy my space and company most of the time. We should start an introverts group lol!

@HeyPhonsi

2 жыл бұрын

@@geewangare Hahaha we start an introvert group, then who is going to keep it engaged. 😂😂

I relate to Lornzie so much. Introvert struggles😭 Small talk literally kills me. What are we even talking about?

Being an introvert is such a struggle.....I always strive to meet new people but I also cant stand small talk.....but as Lorna said alcohol sometimes helps and having extroverted friends has proven to be quite crucial.....its always nice to see a fellow introvert share their life experience

Ivy's personality is amazing !!! Ivy, Don't dim the light trying to fit in. You are dope as you are !!

@lynnshiro6984

2 жыл бұрын

my sentiments as well

My current struggle tbh. Recently turned 27 and realized I barely have any networks. When ivy keeps saying that your network is your net worth on #moneymondays,it triggers me...I feel poor. I've been so snobbish of people who reach out to me, maybe coz I fear being vulnerable. But I'm actively learning to be better.

@Vansythecreative

2 жыл бұрын

So true..

@Ichbinthee_dali

2 жыл бұрын

This is me, you are me #WorkingOnMe

I realized especially when you need to meet people especially people you want to learn from, you can provide a venue for them to meet and do some fun activities, be the provider because they are so used to giving either resources or advice or just anything, be the giver they will naturally gravitate towards you and ask questions and you'll have changed the game instead of you going to them they'll come to you and they'll remember you.

@Wahsoep

2 жыл бұрын

That's some good advice. Thanks for sharing

@richard-social8125

2 жыл бұрын

especially

@katewamuyu2465

2 жыл бұрын

Perfectly articulated

Lornzie's pony tail is beautiful. Infact all the ladies look amazing and beautiful😍

I used to think I was weird until I heard Lornzie talk today...nimejikubali sasa. I really get worked up when I try to socialize with new faces.😂😭

That Jules point of tone,i had to check my mother on it and now we're best friends.Sometimes to reach the diamond you need force.

Officially turned over 25 yesterday (26) been a huge fan since i was 23 through.

Ivy seems different today. A good different. It seems like she is baring her soul and opening up more. Learning and unlearning is definitely something I'm constantly working on as well.

@fayebagamuhunda65

2 жыл бұрын

Her confidence has grown on this show! The poise with which she stirred this episode is remarkable.

I'm learning to have zero expectations not necessarily in trying to make new friends or relationships but also in life. It not only reduces the chances of you being hurt but also it increases the chances of you being open to what the universe has to offer. Absolutely loved the episode 💯💯💯🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

@chelseakoveti5674

2 жыл бұрын

I am with you on this.. I got the same concept from an author and a public speaker…Wayne Dyer??

@j.mars2547

2 жыл бұрын

@@chelseakoveti5674 not really .... It's just from my personal experiences and some self help books like the Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz . It changed how I looked at relationships. I'll look into Wayne Dyer though 😃💯💯

What a coincidence? Yesterday i was thinking how hard it is to make friends, i have serious trust issues, i question peoples intentions, been done bad in the past. I really long for people whom we can have great conversations and not just gossip

I'm like a fusion of Ivy n Lorna. I can easily make friends but maintaining the friendship weh 😂😂is a hustle. Yet I'm really young Amazing episode ☺️.

Such a timely conversation, this has been on my mind a lot lately.

@carolinemwikali3121

2 жыл бұрын

I agree it's hard making friendships

@Tata-bd9nx

2 жыл бұрын

I'm glad there are men who enjoy Over25 as much as us.😁😁

watching you feels like having 4 beautiful elder sisters who walk me through life... Such a blessing.

I totally agree with Lornzie, honestly my current friendships are like cactus. I barely communicate or meet up that much because adulting is the hood of the hoodest.

I read this somewhere and it has been my mantra for this topic of friendship "I place my friends in three mental categories; (1) Best Friends (2) Good Friends (3) Acquaintances. It's important that I understand where they stand in my life because unmet expectations breed frustration. Some of you are expecting your number 3's to ack like 1's"

The book " How to Win Friends & Influence People" by Dale Carneige is an invaluable resource

@janewainaina9890

2 жыл бұрын

Very true ..

@katewamuyu2465

2 жыл бұрын

I'll have to check this out. Thanks for the suggestion

@kittykitavi6778

2 жыл бұрын

@@katewamuyu2465 Highly recommend

I’m a lot like Julia. If you come at me the wrong way, even if I’m wrong, it shall not go very well. And my family keeps scolding me about it. They say I take things to personally and I’m burning a lot of bridges because of it. But I just feel that your tone and how to communicate to me and your energy is a BIG deal and if it’s not right, I’d rather not pretend to be okay and yet I’m not.

Am glued at ivy’s outfit..that blue is serving looks❤️❤️❤️❤️

@lorrecco

2 жыл бұрын

It's purple

@krystyntyrone3949

2 жыл бұрын

@@lorrecco my bad,looks good either way

@askmethings737

2 жыл бұрын

@@lorrecco I also see blue 😂 interesting

@missmunyao1609

2 жыл бұрын

I also see cobalt blue 🤣

@mercychepkemoi5024

2 жыл бұрын

But is blue

Ivy amesema tusema tulike before tuwatch...whoms am I to refuse?? 😆😆

Really enjoyed todays conversation - Ivy is a fantastic hostess and it was lovely to have her back on the show. This conversation is really important especially in this post (?) covid space - finding your tribe and nurturing those relationships. its a daily struggle for me but I do have some takeaway lessons from the episode. It's so lovely to see Lorna blossom; I loved seeing her contribute more to todays conversation and as a fellow introvert, I identified so much with what she had to say but would encourage her to take on the counsel from Ivy to just try and get out of the shell. It's so difficult for us introverts though 😭😭😭. Jules as usual is a whole vibe on her own - she should have her own talk show. Jules is easily Kenya's Oprah. She is hilarious, relatable, wise, practical, easy to listen to .. I love her!

Nice episode!!, being an introvert, i really get drained by small talk.....i would rather just sit and listen than talk... i thrive best in my own little world than in groups and i love it that way

This year i have really learnt a lot about friendships.. its good to know where your 'friends' have kept you (lack of a better word) because you may be there for them all through and one day you realize you didn't mean all that to them,,, my painful lesson this year , am now making meaningful friendships and its beautiful because most of them we are like-minded.

Watched this just when yesterday I spent a whole afternoon conversing about how loyalty doesn't even exist in most friendships... people stick with other's for selfish gain....and some friends honestly are a whole emotional baggage

Ivy, you should read "The year of Yes" by Shonda Rhymes. She recalls her experiences during her yescapade.

Lornzie has made me feel like i am a normal human being. I struggle with my current group of friends. i cannot deal with a bigger circle

I really appreciate your topics ... I am in my 40s and learning.

Lornzie😍😍😍 you and I are so much alike, small talk, socializing..... Not my cup of tea, it's haaaaard

Tone and words ARE everything😂😂 I'm those people who can think about someone's tone even months later

I just can’t explain how much i learn from you guys I am turning 23 in a month,and I always feel blessed to have known your channel,a was taking notes 📝 the whole time😂,can’t wait for next Monday ❤️❤️❤️

@lisakigenda1859

2 жыл бұрын

Happy 23rd Birthday in advance Vallarie.

Hmm! Was literally thinking about this yesterday. Feels like it's harder to make new friends as I get older.

This combination of ladies with great personalities, beautiful, very informative is just what I need. I feel like you are my friends. Great work ladies...

Haiya I totally related with Lorna in this episode. I fucking hate small talk😂 As an introvert it's really hard to make new connections/friends😅 I'd rather stick to my ride or dies🥂

Lorna is so me…I also feel like I have everything on my phone 😂 ..very intentional about the connections I try to make as an adult and small talk is just something I can’t keep up with.

Jules has just spoken exactly what I have been fighting within myself since USIU...am I a musician or a corporate person. It was really antagonising. I believe that people shouldn't give up but, just grow up. Every experience is part of maturing us.

Absolutely needed this!

As an introvert, this episode was A LOT…. I wish it was easy to just flow! Aki people can be draining… how do you start a conversation? How do you walk away from one?! Small talks ah ah

@fatmaayan5104

2 жыл бұрын

Same sis, it is very hard. It is just too much.

@ilungasaya437

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate . Let’s just start here and be friends lol

@rao023

2 жыл бұрын

Yaaaas. People can be draining esp for an introvert

@lovechild4141

2 жыл бұрын

@@ilungasaya437 yes! 😌have us our own little introverted crew

@patsymusic3985

2 жыл бұрын

Well 5 years back i was like on top of the social circle ....but now am like a social introvert....it exists guys...😂....

Thanks Jules for that point on alignment. Some habits and traits about us cannot be permanently fixed. We'll be triggered and resort to our comfortable defense mechanisms. It's normal. What's important is recognizing when you retreat to old ways and getting comfortable with apologizing to people and promising yourself you will try to handle similar situations much better in the future

Such a cool episode!

Watched this video just when I've intentionally purposed to review my friends/social life and I got so shocked that I actually don't have friends, over the years a lot of people I called friends really hurt me and messed me up and it has really taken some time for me to want to have friends, but again I'm human and I've been feeling particularly lonely lately but I can't seem to bring myself to find friends or just people to talk to but with all this knowledge I've gathered today I feel I'm definitely at a better place to get new and meaningful connections, thanks girls for this talk, really helped.

Been thinking about this a lot lately..thanks for the tips

This talk is soo timely for me… love you gals

So helpful. Thanks ladies.

love love how y'all know yourselves.

23 and loving it here!

First time listening. I am sold, this is so meaningful.

I resonate so much Lornzie 💯💕

Having a Friend who understands you and pushes you to be better other than seeing you as toxic is the best thing 💯, communication solves alot too. Powerful chat 🙌

You're all glowing...Thanks for making our Mondays special ❤️❤️❤️

Ivy being self aware and conscientious has been the highlight of the recent blogs! I am very proud of her!

yaaaaayyy I'm happy to see you guys ...hay atleast I have something to watch in the evening. Yaaayyy

I love how Ivy has grown. You facilitated this session so well. And kudos on your self-awareness

This is such an eyeopener for me.Been struggling to relate with people.Thanks alot ladies.💗💞

Loved it ❤️. So timely 👏🏾

Highlight of my day🤗🤗🤗love you guys❤

Welcome back ivy! 😍

we need more of these conversations .You guys teach alot.

Loved this episode and really needed it, thank you ladies

Love this episode... this is the kind of honesty that's required for friendships to succeed! Keep it up guys!!

The part where Lorna is starting to yawn🤣🤣🤣 and Jules shamelessly points it out

woooo one of the topic suggestions i requested while back ;)

👌👌👍👍👍I love this conversation.

Wueh!!! really enjoyed this conversation. Thank you ladies

Love this topic. There is a podcast I listened to which said that if the intention is not clear it becomes manipulation.. so set the intention for the connection clear

Wow... Enjoyed this! Learnt alot

I have made peace with the fact that am not a good friend and I can be selfish. I am working on correcting that side of me and becoming a better human.

@beckyisaac538

2 жыл бұрын

The struggle is real

AUTHENTICITY!! GEMS!! I really apreciate your input to the society.

i love today's discussion.I am an introvert and I have been trying to break out of my shell.Thank you for the tips1

Loved this episode. 💯

Let's just say your videography and quality are crisp!!! Would love a tour of your setup and equipment. Keep at it!

Julia it's such a delight listening to you!!!

Welcome back Ivy..you look amazing

Much needed, I really needed. I have learnt that I have to be intentional about making meaningful connections with like-minded people, also, I can have a tight circle of friends and still be intentional about seeking other like minded people.

After watching your TED talk then this....you guys are on fire....love all the way

Everything about this video 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thank you so much for this - it is so timely for me in my personal life. Thank you 💓💛💛💓

My two best friends are like Ivy, Shikie and Jules and I’m the lornzie. It’s so damn hard to maintain my own friendships later on make new ones but I realized that in every environment I’ve been in for some time I always make 1 or 2 meaningful connections although some times they’re not so watered all the time.

The content is so relatable now that we're in our 30s. Content worth a watch, channel worth a subscribe! From 🇹🇿

Hi. long time follower first time commenter. Can I just say how much I appreciate the candidness with you lot. Amazing how this talk corresponds with what am going through at the moment, Iove it.

I am so Lornzie at this stage of my life! From 2014 every year my resolution was no new friends and I think this will continue for sometime. Relocating twice the past 3 years has moved me to make friends but I’ve made very few but meaningful connections. I also hear Ivy because when I moved her approach now is what I used to make friends and then filtered them down.

this was a great convo!! I like that every POV on this topic has come through from each one of you but Julz on spiritual alignment you got me...

I am so LORNA NOW,I always relate to Jules or Ivy, but today oh Lorna I feel u!!

Authentic conversation 💯

I'm with Lornzie on these introverted struggles. A glass of wine or fabulous cocktail, really helps me loosen up to interact more with strangers and stop overthinking the situation 💯😂

This is a great topic. Thank you for all the highlights and all the tips you provided. Being intentional and seeing how people are healing their traumas is my big guide when searching for a friend. When making meaningful connections, I attend events and collaborate a lot. A meaningful connection should always be beneficial, targeted and highly intentional. I am an introvert but when it comes to a business I create an agenda in my mind, or I just talk on what I know. Virtual coffee, virtual lunch or a virtual hangout is what I do mostly. I meet people in conferences, virtual conferences, the common activity groups, and through people I have done business with and I liked the experience.

I love this, I have learnt a lot

I totally love and relate to this so so much!

So refreshing!❤️ And to Jules yes please think about the art growth lessons,painting etc..😊 People like I ,would love that kind of community connection.

Looooveeeeed it! I totally relate to Lorna on the introvert issue

I love Jules 💜. I relate with her on so many levels like when she starts quoting the likes of Abraham Hicks, Eckhart Tolle, and other spiritual gurus. Also when she said I'd rather have a best friend than a boyfriend..💯. I look forward to making a real life connection with you Jules 😁

I understand Ivy's struggle. That's so me 😌

@charitymwaura5289

2 жыл бұрын

Me too

@WNK645

2 жыл бұрын

Me tooo😂

@WNK645

2 жыл бұрын

We need a support group!Alpha females☺️

For me, networking is tough for me cause I feel like people think I am forcing myself on them when I have always PRIDED (hahaha) myself in wanting people not to think I want them like that. Same with ordinary friendships. I'll take a number in a party and never follow up cause I'll assume they'll think I want them too bad. Crazy