The realization that relationships never provided lasting peace & joy for me was a clear sign that I had to work on self. It's been challenging but highly rewarding. I now know what parts need to be healed, what I bring to the table and what's required of me.

@Tata-bd9nx

3 жыл бұрын

I like this...and i completely agree.As cliche as it may sound happiness starts from oneself.You can only pour from a cup thats full

@theaterofgaming5153

3 жыл бұрын

@@Tata-bd9nx ww

@joycewatetu1892

3 жыл бұрын

I love this and i can totally relate. We need to deal with the skeletons in our closet before we bring someone else into the picture.

I just came across this quote last week "People attend therapy to resolve trauma caused by people who do not want therapy" and honestly it made me realize that everyone needs to seek therapy because there is always something to work on and improve.

Are we just going to ignore Lonrnzie's posture. 🤐😎 I mean she doesn't slouch at all!!

@fezilesithole5882

3 жыл бұрын

I love it so much.

And a big congratulations to Lornzie, We cant wait for Jules to also find her perfect soulmate

@kijana2030

3 жыл бұрын

I'll just congratulate Lornzie.

@jmandelax

3 жыл бұрын

Tongue ring is the secret 😉

@Benny-ss3iu

3 жыл бұрын

No pressure though💞

i have several talked abt them in my channel too. 1.He treats you like trash 2. Communication reduces 3. Giving excuses for not doing things 4. He starts random fights 5.Switches situations on you when he is on the wrong last but not least he just doesnt care

Another red flag: When your partner is not concerned about your safety e.g when its late at night and he isn't concerned about how you get home etc

@kijana2030

3 жыл бұрын

Why are you out late at night without him?

@mwaahdimejanet

3 жыл бұрын

@@kijana2030 I do not always move with my significant other. I have a social life outside our union. He does too.

@kijana2030

3 жыл бұрын

@@mwaahdimejanet Maybe I'm too protective 😔

@mwaahdimejanet

3 жыл бұрын

@@kijana2030 Maybe you are.

@kijana2030

3 жыл бұрын

@@mwaahdimejanet I think it's another red flag. When your partner is too concerned about your safety.

Shikies earrings😍😍

Everything you ladies have talked about is true. There’s always a price to pay once you start negotiating what were once non negotiables. It’s basically selling pieces of yourself. Men never negotiate , they want what they want and if not they leave. I’ve observed this in many men and it’s about time more women stood their ground. Whoever is meant for you will not pass you by. Thanks ladies xx

@kijana2030

3 жыл бұрын

Don't forget that a woman's role in marriage is to help her husband. If this is maintained, the marriage will thrive.

@KiKi-cx5rv

3 жыл бұрын

@@kijana2030 a marriage is a partnership. A wife is not less than her husband just because she’s a woman. Your view is skewed and primitive.

@kijana2030

3 жыл бұрын

@@KiKi-cx5rv marriage in Christianity, which I subscribe to, is based on the teachings of the Bible. Given the Bible spans over 2000 years ago, I concede that it is primitive. So If you want to be in a "modern" relationship where men and women are equally yoked, get married outside the church.

@maxinemvoka4128

3 жыл бұрын

@@kijana2030 but even biblically there are rules of engagement for both husband and wife. Corinthians talks about treating your wife like a church the way Jesus did... Meaning serve your wife. As much as it talks about serving your husband. The Bible isn't primitive, YOU are primitive

@maxinemvoka4128

3 жыл бұрын

@@kijana2030 and even biblically husband and wife are infact equally yoked so wherever you buy your bibles should be put to question. Man is the head, woman the neck... Equally yoked because one cannot function without the other. Marriage is a SERVICE to your spouse. That is what my very Christian parents have subscribed to for 21 years

On a lighter note: Akianza kuongea vibaya kuhusu Avocado. Run my sister, run! 🚩🚩

@LolaBugzy85

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@emmaschwab5789

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣 Avocado is bae

@kezmaina-doktari

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@wanguithiga298

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

@fu_raha

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

Shangwe NA vigelegele Lorna🥳🥳🥳 May your marriage be filled with love, laughter and adventure NA mbarikiwe hadi mshangae 💕

@laurabrown937

3 жыл бұрын

THE GIRLS:18+ ARE DATEPOINT.UNO KZread: THIS IS FINE SOMEONE: SAYS "HECK" KZread: BE GONE однако я люблю таких рыбаков..

😂😂😂😂Julz with the eye roll. Hahahaha.... Congratulations to Lorna on her new level, it's a big step to get married. I wish you nothing but love. I have a suggestion, could you guys talk about how this channel has affected your relationships, with parents, spouses, children, friends and work colleagues

Being single has taught me to learn what my non negotiable are, having talking stages has helped me point out what I want in a partner and its been very informative journey

@kijana2030

3 жыл бұрын

Wait until you get kids and then try and have that discussion with them. You'll learn that EVERYTHING in life is negotiable.

@digitallocations1423

3 жыл бұрын

@@kijana2030 No it's not. You're all over the comments spreading negativity. How idle are you?

No one: Jules:These streets have shown us dust 😂😂😂

Thank you lovely ladies...what a good way to start the week...love-love-love

21. Measuring your worth by how much hustle you take your partner through to make sure you are pleased. Then the envelop keeps getting pushed further till they don't care anymore. ADD TO LIST

Congratulations Lorna 🥂🎉🎉

I agree love is a skill people need to learn

Congrats Lornzie .... Wishing you all the best in your journey

Love that you said that you have to stay true to yourself. We need to not loose ourselves in relationships.

Lornzie is literally glowing!!!

Feels like 'The talk' from big sisters with so much love and care.🥰

A wifey is glowing ...sending lots of love,lornzie

I really love you ladies, you've no idea how you've helped me. Things I go through ave realized uve gone through some. Congratulations to Lornzie

loved this episode! Red flags should not be ignored...

Can I say you all look so damn pretty this morning❣️❣️. And to our new Muhiki💞💞 congratulations.

Lornzie the body goals is coming thruuuu😍😍😍😍 I'm in love.

Lornzie congratulations on your marriage🎉🎉God bless your union.

Congratulations Lornzie

Congratulations Lornzie! This video was much needed, thank you ladies.

Congrats Lornzie, you will be having twins🤗🤗

Always looking forward to your videos 🥳

Hearty congratulations to Lornzie Praying for Jules as well Her dawn in marriage is now almost

Great job guys. The topic is 💯💯💯. You all look gorgeous. Congratulations Lorna. Have a blessed and happy marriage. Julez you'll get your person in due time.

Congratulations Lornzie❤

Y'all are looking so beauriful!!😍😍❤️

Lorna!! Congratulations 🎊🎊🎊👏🏽

Congratulations to Lonzie... Aki can't wait for harusi ya Julez

Shukran...highly insightful

Thank you over 25, awesome content as usual. Congratulations Lornzie, God bless your union. Just an observation, the sound keeps flactuating. Kindly look into it. Thanks.

I need to rewatch this at home again

Blushing coz Lorna smizing 😍 congratulations!

I love you guys❤️, I just relate to every conversation you post... don't leave us hanging for long again,my notification bell missed you sana😊

Wow! Harusi ilishafanyika😄Congratulations #Lornzie now Mrs👏🏾🎊🎉💐💐❣️❣️wish you mob blessings and all the happiness in your marriage. Interesting topic.

Congratulations Lornzie And pray for Jules ❤️to find her perfect match❤️

Lornzie, I loved your smokey eye during your wedding. Very bedroom eyes manenoz.

I feel like your videos on love, sex and relationships catch more of my attention 😁 kudos guys

there's always that one thing for sure,great talk .

Am I the only one who did not want this conversation to end?? currently @ 21 and single, if I do say so myself and you guys feel like that elder sister that I clearly do not have .

Never been this early, proud subbie🤗

Definitely more complicated than the list but your "non-negotiables" should not be negotiated on. Be flexible ONLY about things that you can accept on a long term basis...

and the week begins👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 asanteni!

First one on the comments ☺️ 🥂 lemmi grab my coffee n keep watching 💕. N congratulations Lorna 🥂

Congratulations lonzie

great episode guys!! @shikie kindly share the lipstick brand you have on

Love is a skill..wow that's my take home.I need to learn this skills.thanks ladies

I love Jules!!!!😂😂😂😂dust!😂😂.Congrats Lornzie!!!!!

Loved this episode ❤️💯👏🔥

You guys are so beautiful.. and today lornzie is looking extremely gorgeous

@h.o.tchannelbackedupbyjesu8477

3 жыл бұрын

It's the beauty of marriage/significant other 😺

I love the advice on here.

Hi guys😀 Mimi I run for the heels whenever I encounter red flags usually between 3-6months nakuanga nishaona hakuna mahalo tunaenda😅 but tbh I don't think I'm ready for a relationship I want to take my time and grow me love me be the best me. My non-negotiables> God fearing (I love my spirituality and God is a big part of my life I want so badly to share that with my partner) confidence, financial stability, goal oriented, kind and generally good vybes 😍

To Jules....focus on how the guy makes you feel...more than what he has to offer...you get my point?

@kijana2030

3 жыл бұрын

If you value money more than anything else, stay single.

@Tata-bd9nx

3 жыл бұрын

@@kijana2030 Even those that have valued those things you deem "deep",.have been lost solo without a care from their partners.So let people value whatever they feel is important to them.Simple

@marionakinyi8570

3 жыл бұрын

True100%

@sincerelykendi

2 жыл бұрын

Totally

😂😂😂😂😂 I just love Jules' vibe always

Jules you pretty. I love your vibe❤️

🎉🎉🎉🎉the first and enjoying the topic

Me: sounding like Jules advising my siblings Me also:🙊 gosh I sound like my mother Me also also: guys live your life 😆🙌

@thoughtsofgertrude8163

3 жыл бұрын

You people 😂

Hi Jules...remember yiu could also br jobless and have to relearn to rely on someone else without jisdging yourself harshly that you are 'kudoeaing' someone else...

ya'll looking sooo cuuuuuute

Congratulations Lorna and Dee guys you make a beautiful couple.. and you all ladies respond to my dms thank!!!❤️❤️

You guys are just Amazing

Thank you luvies 😘😘😘😘

Fighting/ Conflict can also be toxic if you never come to a resolution. You just fight, then you walk away because it has become too heated. Then you remember you didn't finish the fight then you fight again and it's always just a perpetual fight! With good conflict, you have to come to some sort of agreement afterwards. My two cents.

@lorrecco

3 жыл бұрын

That is the description of relentless fighting

@miannegoro8006

3 жыл бұрын

This is so real

Jules tupe lessons you have learnt in your singlehood....as far relationship is concerned...invite other single ladies to share experiences dos and donts..thanks ladies am loving your channel..#newbiehere

Am atleast early today....always loving it ❤

Congrats Lornzie waiting for Julia's wedding

100k subscribers goal tunayo, tunayo!!! Almost there ladies!!!

Congrats lornzie,you gal's looking fabulous as always... loving the topic.which hairdo is shikies I really love 💕

Aren't they just amazing❤️

Loved the video

My all time big sisters🤗

A great discussion as always ladies 👏 👏 Just to add on Lorna’s point about ‘don’t forget about who you are’ .. this can also mean changing yourself to fit your spouse’s/partner’s mould ie dropping your friend’s, family, religion etc just because they are not up to your partner’s ‘standard’, and before you know it you are someone even you don’t recognise! It happens more often than we think…

I have fought enough in relationships. Not settled. I am in a space where I just want and value peace of mind. Plus trying to intentionally staying away from negative energy. I know it is inevitable in human relations but let it be a small percentage of the relationship. Not ati fighting every time over everything

Congratulations sis

I always find my self being requested to give advice to both singles and married but am still single af 😂😂😂. But am happy to help when needed. Am able to detect red flags from a mile..and most important advice.. try not to get married because of circumstances rather marry because you 2 are compatible and you choose to be life companion. At this day and age don't let society expectations pressure you to unhealthy marriage.

@marionakinyi8570

3 жыл бұрын

I agree 100%,, and why is it that single people have the best advice? 😂😂

@itsme_Andi

3 жыл бұрын

@@marionakinyi8570 probably we use logic? 😂. I have very short term talking stages with guys but my friends rely on me to give them advice

@marionakinyi8570

3 жыл бұрын

@@itsme_Andi it's crazy 😅

@trecyatieno735

3 жыл бұрын

Hello Linda where can I find you for that advise

Am I the only one who struggled with the audio? Even with earphones, the volume was still too low.

@sharzsharone9970

3 жыл бұрын

Me too, shiks voice is soo low

@Nimzy254

3 жыл бұрын

Made worse by crunching on cookies I have no business crunching on at 11.00 p.m.... SMH 🤣🤣😭😭

@loreenkomora

3 жыл бұрын

@@Nimzy254 Sis 😂😂😂😂😂

@beckymasha1901

3 жыл бұрын

Me too🥲🥲🥲

@gladysthitu6223

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

Jules skin complexion is to die for! 😍

@MsMak03

3 жыл бұрын

BRUH! 😍

I love y'all😍❤

Who still hasn't subscribed! Button iko pale...

The Jogoo was cheering Julz :)

Second😍🤧 y'all look so lovely ladies.

Jules skintone😍😍 i love it

I think the frequency and multitude of fights doesnt affect two people that want to be together. The longevity of a relationship can only go as far as the two people want it.

Ciku's earrings are extremely nice. paste the link to the source kindly

can you do a live episode so as you can answer some of our questions in relationship

i love you guys

For me, when I'm indifferent, I'm done with the relationship

I used to start fights every time because I wanted this man to break up with me.

@judithoweje7729

3 жыл бұрын

You're on a another level😂

Waited with bated breathe (hand to the heart, clenched fist on the other) 🤣🤣🤣 Rolling on the floor!!

Early today 🎉🎉

hi guys,great video but is there a problem with the sound on this video or maybe its just me

new member here...nipewe chai