Do Mexicans Prefer Dating Foreigners?

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I asked Mexicans on the streets of Mexico City if they would rather date someone from Mexico or a foreigner. We talk about Mexican dating, from jealousy to machismo, to cultural differences when it comes to dating foreigners and lots more.
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Intro: 0:00
Mexican or foreigner: 0:23
Dating a Mexican vs foreigner -- cultural differences: 2:55
What is important in dating? 5:50
Who pays in Mexico? 6:27
What do you think about gender roles? 8:40
Are Mexicans dramatic and jealous? 9:17
Are Mexican men very romantic? 11:20
Mexican relationships are toxic? 12:00
Why it's great to be a foreigner dating in Mexico: 12:40
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Mexico City, Mexico

Пікірлер: 106

  • @adrianadrian3510
    @adrianadrian3510Ай бұрын

    Love mexican people (especially mexican women). Greeting from Indonesia ❤❤❤

  • @johngonzalez4298
    @johngonzalez4298Ай бұрын

    Have a wonderful Thursday, Marina and great video today. Sending love from Miami, Florida, USA 🇺🇲

  • @erikflh1
    @erikflh1Ай бұрын

    Toxicity and bad behavior exist everywhere, it is not about nationalities, but it is true that some cultures are warmer than others. The situation is to find a good partner, local or foreign, with the right compatibility. Do not close yourself only to nationality. And, sure, human beings like the exotic, so in many countries they will respond that they prefer foreigners, but that is a focus mainly on the physical aspect.

  • @henryqu19
    @henryqu19Ай бұрын

    The first mexican guy already said how direct the people from Europe usually are , well , seems like the way people say "i love you" can be different from each perspective , but i like people who normally are like that

  • @milksmoothie
    @milksmoothieАй бұрын

    I love your videos! In this video again is very interesting and entertaining! I appreciate a lot your nice work. Thanks for your content❤

  • @DatingBeyondBorders

    @DatingBeyondBorders

    Ай бұрын

    Happy you liked!

  • @diofromyozgat
    @diofromyozgatАй бұрын

    great video! Much love to Mexicans, especially to Karla, she seems such a fun person lol.

  • @LazerBeamm
    @LazerBeamm29 күн бұрын

    Great video! So many things to be said... There’s both toxicity and great things in every culture. Most people aren’t balanced and aren’t trying to heal their life wounds. Though there are some great women out there that are fun, loving, educated, creative, and wholesome we just have to filter them out. Clear and upfront communication is key. Good luck to everyone out there looking for love!

  • @BecomingMexican
    @BecomingMexicanАй бұрын

    Becoming fluent in Spanish will help you however becoming culturally fluent is equally important.

  • @tobiojo6469
    @tobiojo6469Ай бұрын

    Awesome video

  • @eneacreativedesign
    @eneacreativedesignАй бұрын

    Muy bueno! Me gusta mucho Mexico!

  • @einunbekannter498
    @einunbekannter498Ай бұрын

    Argh! It's so hard to adapt. As someone who grow up with a german father and a romanian mother in Germany I often struggle which act of kindness or action is more appropriate. Everyone pays his own stuff (german way) or the lady is invited (romanian way). Altough I must confess that I prefer the romanian approach. It's also easier to meet Romanians than Germans since they're more open like the Latinos and Latinas. That's why I think I felt more comfortable in Colombia amongst people than in Germany.

  • @BecomingMexican

    @BecomingMexican

    Ай бұрын

    I understand how you feel. It’s what ever you’re comfortable with and aligns with your values.

  • @einunbekannter498

    @einunbekannter498

    Ай бұрын

    ​@@BecomingMexican If it was up to me, I'd pay for the date. At least for the 1st ones. Because I'm the one who asked her out, so she's invited. Not that I don't see her as an equal partner, but by this I want to show that I'm really interested. Later she can pay if she insists, but for me small acts of love /kindness are sth. I'm okay with also. E.g. buying a new perfume for me with a smell she likes.

  • @RevanSurik
    @RevanSurikАй бұрын

    The argument that Mexican men can be too traditional is valid, and true for most of LatAm I'd say. But Mexican and other Latin-American women should ask themselves if the same isn't true for them too. Women raised in patriarchal cultures internalise patriarchal notions of masculinity too, and if a guy is nice and kind to them, they automatically see him as "not man enough", or even think he's homosexual. Foreign men may not fall into what patriarchal culture defines as "real, manly men", but they have the benefit of being white and (on the average) financially well off, two traits that "make up" for their lack of "traditional Latin-American manliness". Bottom line is: yeah, Mexican and other LatAm men must be better, but Mexican and other LatAm women should do some soul-searching too and reconsider their expectations of men.

  • @artguz5807

    @artguz5807

    Ай бұрын

    This

  • @flowershower6857

    @flowershower6857

    Ай бұрын

    We like their money and passport

  • @davidcervantes9336

    @davidcervantes9336

    Ай бұрын

    Wow wow are you holding women accountable for their actions mate!? That’s a no-no around here bro.

  • @JavierGonzalez-ts5iq
    @JavierGonzalez-ts5iq23 күн бұрын

    I’ve noticed some of the women in this video want to pick and choose when they want a man to be traditional… this simply cannot work, especially if you want all the benefits of a traditional relationship without being traditional yourself. It’s a two way street, and both partners need to know their roles in a functional relationship. If you want a non traditional relationship then get a man who is somewhat feminine, passive, and submissive. That way both your energies balance out. This isn’t to say there isn’t a machismo problem in MX, but I think 3rd wave feminism has misdirected women in modern relationships. Just my 2 cents. Love.

  • @jennyhammond9261
    @jennyhammond9261Ай бұрын

    (from US living in Mexico) I've had several dates tell me they love me on the first or second date....or even when we were still just texting before meeting!!! (However, there are two degrees of "I love you" in Spanish.) In fact, I was just told yesterday and he was aware of this cultural difference, so we talked about it a bit. I told him, for me, I just want to say I like you, which translates to "Me gustas". He told me that is more for if you see someone on the street and you're intesrested in him, so you tell your friend, "Me gusta" (I like him). I've also had someone have my meet his entire family the day I met him, trying to be touchy in front of them as if we were actually a couple. The main struggle I'm having is people not knowing how to make plans. I'll tell them I'm interested in going on a date and throw out some days I'm free. One would expect that they would then return some days and times he is free, but instead he'll make some sort of not quite related comment like, "Oh nice, are you usually off on the weekends?" instead of ever answering directly.

  • @amiquigonzales7917

    @amiquigonzales7917

    Ай бұрын

    He may be respectful so as not to be perceived as "pushy". On the other hand, he is "thinking", he has to look at some details before proposing alternatives. Doesn't want to be misunderstood, he is careful.

  • @BecomingMexican

    @BecomingMexican

    Ай бұрын

    Hi Jenny. I know what you mean. My husband was the same when I met him. The time thing takes time to adapt to. In Mexican culture it’s important not to push. You’ve let him know your availability, if he is interested he’ll make plans with you, be busy with your own life. I have learned so much about myself from dating and now being married to a Mexican, I’ve learned to go with the flow and make time and space for life to happen. There is so much freedom in that.

  • @amiquigonzales7917

    @amiquigonzales7917

    Ай бұрын

    @@BecomingMexican Absolutely RIGHT : In Latin America it is important NOT TO PUSH, otherwise it may be perceived as rude, impolite: a person (especially a lady) has to be respected. That's a gentleman's attitude. Good luck.

  • @BecomingMexican

    @BecomingMexican

    Ай бұрын

    muchas gracias 🤩

  • @franciscoantonio5306
    @franciscoantonio5306Ай бұрын

    If marina isn't already married, something tells me she's about to be, being in mexico lol

  • @xpmedia8660
    @xpmedia8660Ай бұрын

    1) One of the girls sounded extremely contradicting. First you want interdependence, then you want to be taken care of. I can't exactly understand what she wants. 2) when I first dated a Mexican girl it was heavy, I never really got used to the constant I love you being North American, you never really say you love them unless you actually mean it.

  • @wspek

    @wspek

    Ай бұрын

    1) You just described a woman.

  • @Time4aKiss

    @Time4aKiss

    Ай бұрын

    1) Female illogic. They mean they want special privilege & to not put in any work themselves.

  • @el_equidistante

    @el_equidistante

    Ай бұрын

    first of all Mexico IS North America, second that's a complete lie, in the US they don't "say you love them unless you actually mean it".

  • @xpmedia8660

    @xpmedia8660

    Ай бұрын

    @@el_equidistante okay maybe I exaggerated on the second one lol. In my own experience I never tell a woman I loved them unless I meant it. I'm married now, but my wife told me she loved me a month in...and I was like..erm...thanks 😂

  • @davidcervantes9336

    @davidcervantes9336

    Ай бұрын

    @@xpmedia8660she probably meant “te quiero” which is a lower degree of I love you. Or did she say “te amo”?

  • @natebusch2266
    @natebusch22662 күн бұрын

    The pretty fun girl sitting during the interview with the white dress hit the nail on the head: if she’s going to spend a long time getting dolled up for the date, he definitely should pay. I suspect she will end up married to a good guy 😇

  • @victoriac286
    @victoriac2867 күн бұрын

    I live in Switzerland and i work for an international company. There are so many mexians in the company all married to Europeans! Definitely see a pattern here.

  • @9y2bgy
    @9y2bgyАй бұрын

    I kinda get the comment about some toxic behaviour in courtship being glamorized or misappropriated as desirable trait. As a Korean Canadian I know that in Korea alcohol consumption - which is I think the highest in the world - is encouraged and glamorized everywhere from TV drama to SM and such. It's crazy that they treat cannabis on par with heroin and cocaine, but alcohol which destroys more people than all drugs combined is a wonderful thing that brings people together and "lubricates" social relationships. Likewise, to think that overt jealousy and physical and emotional abuse are ok as long as they are for the reason of passion, is loco. No behaviour that overtly tries to control someone else is anything good.

  • @veeral01
    @veeral01Ай бұрын

    Its all money that matters in the end for women

  • @domizzi626
    @domizzi62627 күн бұрын

    Liberal Mexicans will tend to date outside their race/nationality. Conservative Mexicans will not.

  • @kem1233

    @kem1233

    24 күн бұрын

    there is reason why so many foreigners go to mexico city, and as someone from jalisco. im sorry this annoys me. these chilangos are more americanized. sorry even people from tijuana is more mexican than ones in mexico city ones who are atttractive mexicans are in campos, and they are very tradtiional

  • @mutilatedhatred4868
    @mutilatedhatred4868Ай бұрын

    Generalizing is wrong

  • @joshfulmer3689
    @joshfulmer3689Ай бұрын

    This is fascinating to me. I was a adopted from Peru, and I grew up in white culture. I have never dated a latina woman, i have mostly dated white women. Recently I've been wanting to date Latina woman, but after watching this I must say. At this point in my life I'm over the extra drama in relationship. That goes with all woman. Hate to say but these Mexican women almost come across as American women. It turns out not really knowing what they really want in a relationship.

  • @daniellarkins3849

    @daniellarkins3849

    Ай бұрын

    Are you American by any chance?

  • @ericktwelve11

    @ericktwelve11

    Ай бұрын

    ​@@daniellarkins3849he's Peruvian adopted by white family, so he's pretty much Americanized

  • @TheReverses78

    @TheReverses78

    Ай бұрын

    U won't know until you tried....

  • Ай бұрын

    There is white and black latina woman . I don’t understand your phrase

  • @Maria-oh1nq

    @Maria-oh1nq

    13 күн бұрын

    Latinas and white americans are very different, they want macho men period and chilvary and to also be respected as a partber and decision maker

  • @fbspin
    @fbspinАй бұрын

    I like the latin american videos!

  • @GlobalandInternational
    @GlobalandInternational21 күн бұрын

    I have dated gorgeous Mexican women, sexy Hondurans, exotic Brazilians, German ladies, Indian and American and you know what I have learned the most? I'm still learning 😂😂

  • @elchapojr6219
    @elchapojr621929 күн бұрын

    What El Compa said at the end is true

  • @KirimotoTV
    @KirimotoTV7 күн бұрын

    5:45 to 6:45 is basically mexican women in a nutshell

  • @burak489
    @burak489Ай бұрын

    That Karla wants sugardaddy😂😂😂

  • @wilgarcia1
    @wilgarcia1Ай бұрын

    😻😻😻😻😻😻

  • @zeryphex
    @zeryphex15 күн бұрын

    I live close to the American/Mexican border, and I see many attractive Mexican women on dating apps ... but they rarely speak English to me, and they don't want to cross the border ... so I am not able to date them.

  • @keinusername6855
    @keinusername6855Ай бұрын

    Black is your color, Marina!

  • @lavonnealexander6936
    @lavonnealexander6936Ай бұрын

    😂my brother just came back from Mexico 🇲🇽 on Tuesday, the Mexican women are very friendly and passionate. I think most women in Mexico 🇲🇽 prefer foreigners. They called my brother “Papi”.

  • @scotthearts9634

    @scotthearts9634

    Ай бұрын

    😂😂🥰

  • @donaquinilator4959

    @donaquinilator4959

    Ай бұрын

    Passionate? Mexican girls are the most boring girls to date, well at least in my case

  • @jacqueslee2592

    @jacqueslee2592

    Ай бұрын

    He was probably in the red light district. It is legal in Mexico and Asia, and this is why foreign men go there. Red light district in other worlds does not necessarily mean drug addicted woman like in the US. You actually find good looking women who are looking for foreign currency.

  • @yourpadre10

    @yourpadre10

    Ай бұрын

    Well, surely your brother was in areas where there are prostitutes.

  • @user-vs6dx5eu1v
    @user-vs6dx5eu1vАй бұрын

    I’m French, my wife is Mexican from Monterrey , and yes if I’m not jealous enough it’s because I don’t love her enough , if I don’t say I love you it’s because I don’t love her anymore etc etc 😅😅😅

  • @moleahy6880
    @moleahy6880Ай бұрын

    I could date a modern woman or a traditional woman. But I refuse to date a modern traditional. That's just a woman who wants to take the best parts of both while ignoring the accountability and responsibility. So if she wants me to think that she is independent and empowered, she'll have to prove it by going 50-50. If a woman is relying on a man to take care of her, she is neither of those things.

  • @Jhon_wick03

    @Jhon_wick03

    Ай бұрын

    Well said

  • @awesomeirlable

    @awesomeirlable

    22 күн бұрын

    I’m a woman and I agree with this statement 100%

  • @sammmmmyyyyy
    @sammmmmyyyyyАй бұрын

    What if im not white 😭😭

  • @elchapojr6219
    @elchapojr621929 күн бұрын

    It’s interesting that Mexican people interview like to date foreigners 😂

  • @kem1233

    @kem1233

    24 күн бұрын

    these are people from mexico city, they are very americanized, due to massive influx of gringos aka foreigners. because mexico city is basically design to replica of western nation outside of mexico city, alot of mexicans dont like them at all

  • @tru3sk1ll
    @tru3sk1llАй бұрын

    You know what's funny is how everyone thinks deportation is the worst thing for you , but honestly Mexico city and the people there feels better than America, deportation is like a prize in my opinion

  • @davidcervantes9336

    @davidcervantes9336

    Ай бұрын

    Deportation to Mexico city would be hell for me. Other parts of the country are great tho.

  • @kem1233

    @kem1233

    24 күн бұрын

    mexico city is basically gringoville now, so many expats n foreigners want to go there, because mexico city is very very americanized

  • @Trace7173
    @Trace7173Ай бұрын

    I have yet to meet a Mexican girl with a non-Mexican boyfriend/husband

  • @FernandaLlusa
    @FernandaLlusa8 күн бұрын

    Mex

  • @PortfolioPL
    @PortfolioPLАй бұрын

    5:45 Feminism ends when the bills comes :)

  • @IoT_
    @IoT_Ай бұрын

    3:42 a Canadian can be easily spotted by being sorry 😅

  • @lavonnealexander6936

    @lavonnealexander6936

    Ай бұрын

    😂😂😂😂we do say sorry too much.

  • @lawrencelawrence3920

    @lawrencelawrence3920

    Ай бұрын

    I am sorry for saying sorry , so sorry.

  • @PortfolioPL
    @PortfolioPLАй бұрын

    6:14 "Spend money on MeMeMeME! I simply cannot sit down with a coffee and talk to get to know you as I only care about you buying me an expensive dinner. Cause you know I washed my hear before the date"

  • @BH6242KCh
    @BH6242KChАй бұрын

    Middle-age man, I had a young lesbian best friend for several years and we always greeted each other with an informal "Luv Ya!" During that time I started dating a girl and said it without thinking, same way, but she took it a romantic "Love You." That was awkward.

  • @2Rugrats9597
    @2Rugrats9597Ай бұрын

    When a woman says happy life happy wife, I run like forest gump! What she really is saying is “Hey, it’s all about me or else”. No thanks

  • @BecomingMexican

    @BecomingMexican

    Ай бұрын

    😂😂😂

  • @maousb
    @maousbАй бұрын

    RedPill is the answer

  • @Jhon_wick03

    @Jhon_wick03

    Ай бұрын

    True😂😂😂

  • @Sam97-oi4vc

    @Sam97-oi4vc

    Ай бұрын

    How? So the men can get more lonely and bitter?

  • @elperro3056
    @elperro3056Ай бұрын

    Dating in Mexico City suck too much femist energy 😅

  • @Frivals
    @FrivalsАй бұрын

    🤦‍♂️If you want to be loved, never ever pay for a female. If you want to be used, go on and pay.

  • @NPDrives
    @NPDrivesАй бұрын

    Did anyone else catch what the canadian modern woman was saying? I found it humorous she was surprised that her western woman ideas were not welcomed.

  • @BecomingMexican

    @BecomingMexican

    Ай бұрын

    In a cross cultural relationship you need too meet your beloved half way. Be flexible, learn and understand an important part of his identity. It’s more than just ll earning the language to communicate. Cook the food, learn the slang, sing the songs embrace all of it for a truly magnetic connection

  • @JamieBettison
    @JamieBettison28 күн бұрын

    And for those of us who dont date the opposite gender? ..... Do we matter ?

  • @DatingBeyondBorders

    @DatingBeyondBorders

    28 күн бұрын

    One or more of the people we interviewed was gay actually. But it's tough to talk about gender roles and machismo when it comes to LGBTQ relationships

  • @hiphipjorge5755

    @hiphipjorge5755

    18 күн бұрын

    ​@@DatingBeyondBorders I agree, that would be a different conversation

  • @nimarastegar2785
    @nimarastegar278521 күн бұрын

    I had a German friend and she had only dated Mexican 3 men, apparently she can't find one with her desirable shade of passion, they were either spoiled Mama's boys or one pure a**holes with extreme mommy and daddy issues. But she's got her own issues:) I would love to date a latin woman though. I've met a number of them randomly, and culturally saying, should be super affectionate. But I also heard a lot of broken families exist in Mexico

  • @normanharo7785
    @normanharo7785Ай бұрын

    Happy King, Happy Kingdom. None of this "happy wife, happy life" bullshit.

  • @Sam97-oi4vc

    @Sam97-oi4vc

    Ай бұрын

    But the word for female ruler is Queen, not King, so your motto doesn't make sense.

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