To all players, when the dm asks, "are you sure?" Always take a second and think about the actions you are taking and reevaluate if it really is the best option. The dm doesn't have to give that slight heads up, take advantage of those if you get them.

@dwaynejackson551

Жыл бұрын

I have dense players at times and I have even said: "Handy DM hint, Don't do that. It won't end well." I only have one story of a player who tried to derail my campaign after ignore that. He did not have a fun time.

@Ghostface2252

Жыл бұрын

@@dwaynejackson551 Oh please share your story, I would love to read it.

@dwaynejackson551

Жыл бұрын

@@Ghostface2252 Short version because it takes me hours to tell this story even when just speaking. So I will tell you only about the times that matter. He was allowed to make a hybrid monster and he chose vampire/halfling and ended up with a baby halfling vampire that would never grow up. He was brought up on child endangerment, animal cruelty, assault and battery charges, possession of a controlled substance, and many more charges that he tried to jump bail on. Ratted out the demon whom another player had an on going partnership with to open court when the demon was going to have all charges dropped. Got an entire church to want to shoot him on sight. Hit on every female NPC or tried to make them take care of his halfling baby so he could go drink. He actually pissed off the Goddess Athena so bad she moved out of her man cave. Hit on an obviously disguised terminator style robot who fell from the sky only because she was a hot blonde (They took the form of anything that would attract their prey.) Worst of all he got into it with a higher level NPC who was literally able to dodge him while playing a Gameboy by smashing the Gameboy and then calling her a bitch who needed to fight like a man. After all this and more he got mad at me when his luck was bad because he wanted to be super powerful at level one. He never made it to level two.

@ninjagregshow9423

Жыл бұрын

It is an unwritten rule if the DM asks "are you sure" you say "no"

@schwarzerritter5724

Жыл бұрын

@@ninjagregshow9423 So you believe the player in the story was in the right?

Okay players, we are gonna do a somewhat serious game. No revivals. Realistic battle strategies. Everyone got it? An army of serious soldiers are in front of you. Okay player, what do you do? With the power of anime and video games on my side I run straight into the army!!! This is my battle to win!!!

@DnDDoge

Жыл бұрын

I have the power of god and anime on my side. I forgot about that quote, lol

I have Autism Aspergers and ADHD so my main problem is a short attention span. I am getting better at managing it but I will at least tell my DM about it before session 0 instead of using it as an excuse last minute.

OP of the first story definitely did the right thing. There's a clear difference between not giving people a chance like some in his server thought. Then, there's giving the player multiple chances to back off and rather than try to compromise, the player tries to force it in anyway. Yeah that at least warrants a "You're not playing in my game."

On the autism story, I unfortunately had to deal with a woman who behave the same way. In my case, however, she was trying to flirt with me even though she knew I already had a girlfriend. When we both called her out on it, she started freaking out. People who use their disability as an excuse for bad behavior make me sick. I am legally blind, and I have enough problems in my life without other disabled people making it worse.

@Elyseon

Жыл бұрын

Not to mention that half the time, those "autists" are just self-diagnosed creepy manchildren.

Story 1: Agreed, not the a-hole. That Guy gives off the vibe of someone who doesn't believe rules apply to them Story 2: Definitely not the A-hole. Hexblade got given every chance to not die as well and the DM never needs Permission to kill off a character. I would say the moment you sit down at the table you are accepting your character may die. Story 3: It is a pretty generic greeting but so what? The correct response should have been something like "Hi there newbie, why don't you introduce yourself?" Story 4: Wow, at "didn't want to read the players handbook because it was too long" I thought this was actually going to be a horror story. What a turnabout!

@MWH12085

Жыл бұрын

Maybe should've opened with "WHATS CRAKIN' YOU F**KING POLE SMOKERS!?"

@AmaryInkawult

7 ай бұрын

​@@MWH12085something tells me that wouldn't matter and they'd still be pissed that you didn't mind read their absurd standards.

As the DM (or GM for those that prefer) it's your world. You decide what is and is not in it. Players decide if they want to play in that world or not. Some negotiation is possible, but ultimately if the player wants some thing different, they should go find something different than hijacking your world. I guarantee a player that will hijack your world won't stop with just you, they will also hijack the party and the party's agency as well.

@spectrelead

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. I've seen it as a player, where another would get a bit of main char synd

Ok ok ok, as an autistic I find straightforward communication VITALLY important. If you can’t tell me straight up “this isn’t a good idea.” Or something like in words than there is a complete likelihood I will not understand. Sometimes I can understand “are you sure?” But really sometimes I genuinely can’t tell or It doesn’t cross my mind. My brain isn’t always in tone translation mode. But that’s something I ALWAYS tell my DM or players (I’m a game master sometimes as well) at SESSION 0, right at the gate. I think communication is important! telling a game master randomly a few sessions in after the event? That’s so dumb!!!

Being a person with autism, I always get VERY angry when people try to get away with stuff, just based on autism. One thing about being autistic, is you follow a strict routine and demand rules and regulations. It is autistic persons, who usually knows the rules of a game. Autistic people have problem with understanding social rules, not spoken or written down rules. "The social rules" is a big give away about autistic people.

@Xylarxcode

Жыл бұрын

See, the fact that OP specifically mentions that she was capable of picking up on social cues in previous sessions makes me doubt that she was any form of autistic at all. To me, it sounds like she was using it as an excuse to get what she wanted because no one would dare to argue with someone who is autistic. It's so easy to paint someone who argues with an autistic person as an uncaring asshole, so she used that fact to get what she wanted because she knew they wouldn't dare argue with her. I would love nothing more than to be proven wrong about that, but that's the vibe I got from the story. It's a tough thing to assess from just one story, though. We weren't there. We don't know these people in real life. They could be lying, they could be hiding important information or they could be telling the full truth and be 100% upfront. We'll never know for sure, so all we have to work with is our own impression based on what we were told. And my impression is that she didn't have any form of autism and used the excuse to get what she wanted, because she knew OP wouldn't argue with her and if he did, it would be very easy for her to paint has as the asshole.

@hellkitelord8319

Жыл бұрын

Same here. I was going to say something similar. You did it better than I could have.

I was a bit worried at the start of that glory story, with somebody refusing to read the rules wanting to DM. But then they mentioned Handbooker Helper, and my fears were brushed aside. It's a great series, and I'm glad it went well. As far as modules, Doge, Lost Mine is a classic for a reason. And if you're not too mad at WotC to spend money, I've heard the new Stormwreck book is great.

Great video :) as someone with ASD it upsets me that people will use our condition as a means to escape responsibility, though it’s hard to read from a text post whether or not the cue was obvious. Still, DM made the rules pretty clear from the jump so that player really only has theirselves to blame for not being more cautious with their character. As far as a good module for beginner DMs, I had a blast running Princes of the Apocalypse for my group.

2:46 It could be Chaotic evil. You could be of any alignment and have loved ones. Of course, it doesn't necessarily mean that they'd be better off with you than the danger you saved them from.

@jinmurasaki

Жыл бұрын

Agreed, one of the better ways to explain evil in D&D can be selfishly motivations to the detriment of all others. Love can cause someone to do horrible and evil things and if said person is willing to cross any line to do what they feel is necessary then that's pretty chaotic evil to me. The best kinds of evil party members are the ones that care about their fellow group members but not about the greater good.

I had a similar situation with an autistic player. In werewolf the apocalypse the pack went to a neighbor market to get some snacks for the trip back to the caern. She said after entering the car she'll shift into lupus form to eat her steaks. And she did, in the middle of a Walmart parking lot in public view. We had a huge argument about what had or haven't been said after the session. The autism defense was used, even had side bars from other players about the Philodox player. Ultimately decided to kick her from the group, and it was a mutual agreement cause she was talking in side bars about quitting.

It’s a good idea to tell the DM if you’re neurodivergent! Preferably in session 0! So before the game starts! Make sure there’s a common understanding, especially if there’s a tendency to miss cues, also if it’s only in some situations!

@DellikkilleD

Жыл бұрын

yes, so they can weed you from the table before you damage the game for others.

@gorillaguerillaDK

Жыл бұрын

@@DellikkilleD What a idiotic take!

@simonO712

4 ай бұрын

​@@DellikkilleDSimply being neurodivergent isn't a reason to be weeded. Her being autistic isn't what ruined the game; her being an asshole did.

I'm autistic. I'm sorry some people use this condition for personal gain. That being said, there are a few things I'd like DM's to do because I am austistic. 1. Please don't assume I intended to be an asshole or jerk. I likely honestly didn'tknow what I did or said upset someone, as most friend groups seem to enjoy being mean to each other. I don't understand how or why, but I emulate it because if I don't people think I'm not their friend for some reason? 2. Understand that if I get real quiet I'm not mad, and I am still paying attention... I'm just overwhelmed with something (likely a loud noise that happened) and processing it.

Dragon of Icespire Peak is a great starting module. It's in a box set with everything you need. An a bridged rule book, the module book, cards for initiative, quests, magic items, and even NPC hirelings. There is also a double sided map of the starting town and surrounding area, a set of dice and a DM screen.

As someone who is actually autistic, I can't stand it when people fake being autistic so people will forgive them for being shitty people. Also, that last story just made me depressed. Some people are just blessed with natural talent while the rest of us can only struggle in vain. Finally, "Handbooker" is pronounced like "handbook" with an "-er" at the end, as it's a Hamburger Helper for the Player's Handbook.

@DeathsHood

Жыл бұрын

I've run across more than one person who uses "sorry, I'm autistic, lol" as an excuse for bad behavior. My response is usually "so am I, your disability does not excuse your attitude or behavior."

@kylethomas9130

Жыл бұрын

Most of my group is on the spectrum. Which I honestly cannot confirm 100%, but I try to accept peeps however they want to describe themselves. I do try to make certain aspects of the game clear under no uncertain terms. However tbh, I'd probably do so anyways because I'm always afraid of miscommunication causing a rift either in or out of game. Especially since it's my 1st time as an extended DM. Luckily my group consumes a lot of D&D memes, so "are you sure" sets off alarm bells most of the time. I think as that DM in the post, the 'best' they could have done in game would be to remind the player of their options. To do more would be patronizing I think.

@GarkKahn

Жыл бұрын

Even if you truly are autistic doesn't give you the right to act like an asshole It's like beating my wife and daughter because my mom or dad did that to me as a kid, it's a cause not an excuse

@Enjoy_the_climb_back_up

Жыл бұрын

To be fair not all autistic people are the same dude i am autistic as well and i know for sure everyone acts differently

@JacobL228

Жыл бұрын

@@Enjoy_the_climb_back_up Yes, there are different types of autism; as someone with high-functioning autism, I absolutely hate it when people lump me together with people with low-functioning autism, too. However, even if she is autistic (which I doubt) that's no excuse for being a total bitch to everyone.

Lost mines of Phandelver is always a good starting point, very well layout for new DMs and its short. You can easily continue the group through other modules too from Storm Kings Thunder module which takes place close to the end of LmoP or even go deeper into the mines and play Out of the Abyss module . If your going for a long module to start off with there always Curse of Strahd but that one is more horror themed.

@DnDDoge

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, getting a lot of that as a suggestion. Think that will be the starting module, and I'll go from there.

I asked my group's forever DM for recommendations since I don't consider the modules I've run (Tomb of Annihilation and Curse of Strahd) beginner DM friendly, and here's his answer: "Either of the starter sets modules (Lost Mine of Phandelver or Dragon of Ice Spire) are good. Dragon Heist could work if they're feeling ambitious, but I'd stress THOROUGHLY reading it before starting the game"

It often baffles me how players can get angry at a DM for having their NPC opponents use their brains. If your enemies have a 16 intelligence commander directing the battle, even if none of the other NPC's are smart enough, he's still gonna point out the cleric wearing full priestly garb devoted to the god of healing and call out "that's their healer, focus your attacks on the priest!" and in a world where a bonus action can make your character hop right back up again ready to fight, when one of the PC's go down, they'd make sure they're *staying* down.

I think the second AITA story is a case of "Everybody Sucks Here". Killing the campaign so swiftly over one jerk who was cut out of the game is unfair to the others.

@DrTimeSCPPsych

Жыл бұрын

Except it wasnt just over one jerk. The other players became her flying monkies blowing up his dms. So fuck them all

@Kconv1

Жыл бұрын

That game was dead anyway, she was clearly going to pull the players away if the DM didnt kill the game anyway.

Autistic/ADID female... and i DM and play, it takes awhile to learn cues but ive never met a GENUINELY autistic person that didnt go out of their way to try and learn things, from my observations we tend towards 'obscure' cues, usually idiosyncratic, but generally we're aware of out deficits so tend to overcompensate especially when excited... overall, we learn enough if we care and tend towards 'sorry i missed that' then 'angry tirad'. 'Are you sure about that?' Is so obvious even we'd get it. ppl that try to manipulate or use ASD to excuse asshole behavior to throw a tantrum imo arent aspies, theyre narcissistic assholes using ASD as an excuse to get what they want. I call them changelings and throw them off bridges~ And bro, ive played dnd for 20yrs, learned from my uncle on 1st/2nd and never touched a module, often bouncing off players and going down the rabbit holes pcs want to~ if you have an imagination, know how to engage and be flexible, and a basic idea and acceptance for pc shenanigans, make up numbers on the fly, and fiddle for drama, you can play or dm~ so long as youre having fun, its fine~ Also Doge, if your brain hurts by the end, and your pcs are happy, you did good 👍

I'm pissed about the second one. I just found out I'm autistic at nearly 20 and that is just bs. I am bad at social cues so I normally tell someone "if I say anything rude or offensive or annoying I dont mean it" also even if she is shes 100x better of an rper than me so she shouldnt be making the autism excuse

@schwarzerritter5724

Жыл бұрын

Has it ever happened to you that people suddenly get angry at you, because you did not understand something they say they communicated properly?

@blazingsword2578

Жыл бұрын

@@schwarzerritter5724 I think I did. But I have a horrible memory so I'm not sure

@blazingsword2578

Жыл бұрын

@@schwarzerritter5724 but I know for a fact if the dm says are you sure I should take a second to reconsider and not be a dumb ass

@schwarzerritter5724

Жыл бұрын

@@blazingsword2578 It is part of the autistic experience. Communication is difficult and people will explain to you why you re being obtuse on purpose.

@DellikkilleD

Жыл бұрын

@@schwarzerritter5724 thats on you then, you need to work on that. your disabilities are your responsibility to monitor, not everyone elses. when someone says 'you will die if you do that' you dont get to use 'I didnt understand' as an excuse.

“A most potent brew” is an excellent choice for a first time DM as well as first time players. It’s regularly voted as the most recommended initial introduction, and it believes you can find it free online. Good luck!

Best of luck with your first DMing session! Just remember to have fun and go with the flow and I'm certain you will do great!

Op of the first story: Nah, you did the right thing. If you're already trying to force your views on a new table then you need to leave out the gate. There's no sitting there having the game get dragged down by a bad player. Op of the second: While they're in the right of removing her for her actions, not sure not why they punished everyone for the actions of one player. They could have taken a break to let it wash away before just nuking the game. NTA for kicking her but....YTA for punishing everyone for the actions of one person. Op of the third: You did, if someone attacks you just for basic politeness is a group you don't want to stay in. Group comes off as elitist. Op of the fourth: Surprisingly, some people actually do better with their own style and heart over running it from a book. All it takes is a few people behind them and supporting them to allow a new DM to shine and evolve. Doge's Question: Lost mines of phandelver is a decently easy one for New DMs to try out. It's not too complex in what it wants/ask from you or the players. It's also some what open enough to allow you to inject a bit of your own style into it if you want to stand out a bit from just a direct run of the module.

I'm gonna be DMing my first DnD campaign in around a year and I'm genuinely praying that it'll go well. The party includes 2 friends that I've both DMed for and played alongside, one really close friend that'll be helping me with encounters and a new player that has heard of DnD before but has never played so I'm nervous as hell lol

A Golden rule I live by in DND is to not defy the party. Your a team for a reason. Bending rules is ok but if the group says don't do it then you should always reconsider your actions. I once had a wizard friend charge into a room of mirrors only to be sliced in half for his trouble. An example of pointless dead because you don't want to listen to the dm and your group.

Can't have mixed Sith/Jedi parties in Star Wars tabletop without a really experienced player playing double-time. Just like with Evil and Good together, generally doesn't work unless it is a single player being evil and hiding it.

Thank you for the "glory story" I love guys like yourself, Crab, and drake. Yet I would always come away with a negative mindset. This helps. Now I want too share my own stories. We have a great quirky squad and it's nice to know I have a slim chance too get a post read.

That final story was wonderful. Always nice to end on a Win.

Asking “What does Reddit think” is not a question a sane or well adjusted man asks 😂

Hey Doge, good luck to you and your players! May your 20's be mighty and your pencils sharp. Have fun!🎉

I have been wanting a place to share so many of the grand glory stories.

1: Yeah. The player despite having a neat concept was quite adamant in going against DM's wishes and thus had to go. 2: Bullet point 3 might be going too far but it's DM's world. Oh come on! Another one using their issues as a crutch! 3: Uh... wow. Hello Lucky. 4: Nice! My go to was JoCat's Crap Guide to DND to getting the basics but I may wanna give that other guide a try. I have ran 3 one-shots and prepping a 4th before I move onto my first campaign. All of it homebrew and the first party thought I have been a DM for a while as I had maps and everything. It made me feel good and I be sad to not run this one shot for a long while.

My first time as a DM i did not use a module; however, many DMs use either Lost Mine of Phandelver or Waterdeep: Dragon Heist, which start the players from level 1 and continue up to level 5. XP to level 3 has made a couple videos on which 5e modules he prefers both running and being a player in. I'd look into those videos if you're unsure

For the Star Wars story, people telling the DM to “give him a chance” The DM DID. He gave him a chance to play in the game by the rules set forth. He gave him a chance to change his mind and make a character who would play with the group. The player refused each time

Glory story reminds me of my days at school when i discovered i was a good storyteller, one day at class i had to read out loud a story and someone pointed out how good i was making voices for the different characters, and i didn't realize i was doing it until they told me haha

Story 1: what I've noticed is that players that played exclusively online tend to play it almost like a video. Main character syndrome style of gaming I suppose. Video games are about you imposing your will upon the world and only you. It was a good call and if he did take multiple times to tell him to shape up or ship out, then I see no problem Story 2: yeah sometimes people don't take cues. It's best to do the flavour and then explain the game ramifications. I do want to point out autism is not a mental Health condition... That implies it can get better. I have several experiences with people who are on the spectrum... I've learned from my mistakes.

"dming for the first time myself" jesus that explains the video where you shit on dms for not letting players bypass house rules

My psychiatrist calls this "Monetary trauma". Where someone refuses to heel because they found a way to turn their pain into social currency. I have autism as well and I have many bleeding memories of bad times, so I am learning the fine line between acknowledging my feelings and not keeping the pain for social currency.

I'm dming for the first time next week myself, so I wish you luck! I'm going to be doing The House of Lament. A short horror but intense module about exploring a haunted house. It has a heavy emphasis on rping which is a talent I think you pick up as much as a player as a dm so it's something I have more developed than say encounter-balance or management. Plus it's just a great creepy theme with alot of room for improv and customization as players take time to explore the big mansion. For example I'm adding in a twist that multiple of the pc's have been told they are inheriting the house through a mysterious contact, while also rumored somewhere on the grounds is the former owners treasure, as they did not trust banks and hoarded everything. My players have been great so far, and I hope you have as much fun as I'm finding it!

Goodluck on first time DM'ing Dooooge!!💪💪💪

While it can be fun occasionally, it's usually best to avoid making enemies that are just player characters with levels in DnD.

I'm close to ending my first campaign with my group. It is Curse of Strahd. I couldn't think of a more epic campaign to play. We are one or two sessions off facing down the BBEG and I have loved my first outing into a campaign module. My character was utterly awful, but she is more of a personality than a mechanical marvel to the game, but she was also my first serious character. Our DM is just amazing in just rolling with this. And some how she hasn't died this whole run. Would highly Recommend Curse of Strahd.

The PC being in the game IS permission for the DM to kill your character, if it’s appropriate to the emergent situation and established rules of course, which it absolutely was in this scenario

I would love to hear your first DM. I am sure you will knock it out of the park and it will be amazing for your players.

The easiest modules to start with are the ones that come with the starter kits. Lost Mines of Phandelvar and Dragon of Icespire Peak. I have run both and they are entertaining, adequately detailed and you can add or subtract as you please.

I cut my teeth as a DM with Lost Mine of Phandelver last year and tied it into Wild Beyond the Witchlight which my players are about down with the first section of Prismeer now. One of my players is now a fellow DM running Curse of Strahd and doing well. All 3 have very different aims for their players with Phandelver being combat heavy, Witchlight RP focused and Strahd a balance of the two but with much deadlier encounters

As a DM, I've mostly played modules (Descent into Avernus, Tomb of Annihilation and Witchlight to name a few). The amount of original campaigns I've run can be counted on one hand, and even then, it coincides with a module. Lost Mines, Dragon Heist or any of the starter set games could be a good place to start.

If you want to do a module for new players, I suggest "Mines of Phandelver" For experienced players, I suggest "Hidden Shrine of Tamoachan" from Tales of the Yawning Portal (or anything from that book, really.) After running those short modules, you can decide if you actually like running modules or if you prefer making your own campaign

That last story was great! Having a DM birth another DM is always such a fantastic milestone and is something I suspect all good DMs hope to achieve at least once in their lifetimes.

Been in situations like the 3rd story-- yep- that’s a NOPE for any normal person. They did good. 👍🏻

OP in the hex blade/autistic story is my type of DM. I don’t understand why death in an RPG is such a catastrophic thing to some people. I understand getting attached to your character and if you get art commissioned for them it can be a drag to have them die. But if you join a Dungeons and Dragons game, you should expect a certain tone. Double that since the DM explicitly stated no revivify and was grimdark.

S2. Skeptical. It sounded okay, until he abandoned the entire group. Same level 5v5 where his team is likely optimized, 4 tankys plus a caster, vs Frontline warlock and non optimized party.

For a first time, I would advice the Essentials Kit, Dragon of Icespire Peak. It has a quickpaced story, lots of tips, and came out when the rules were fleshed out, but not too complicated yet. Also, do not be afraid to set boundaries with players on alignment or even what books they can use for character creation. The first time can be overwhelming if you allow everything all at once

good luck in your first time of dming! have lots of fun.

I am also autistic, but more DM than player, with a psychology degree and enough time in customer service to handle most kinds of problem people in a constructive way. As far as I am concerned, the second story did not just have problematic player, but also an inexperienced DM. Remember the difference between intelligence and wisdom. The fact that the DM is technically correct, there are wiser ways to deal with the aftermath than immediately blocking the player and kill the campaign. Sometimes learning how a personality type that aren't your own ticks is part of making a good game.

ugh, I've encountered several text based rp folks who fucking HATE being said hello to. some of these people are fucking delirious

She said he shoukd have paused the game and spoken to her, what does she think those "Are you sure"s were? The PC fighter's asking?

Autism is no excuse for bad behavior. I get it can be difficult, and if you do feel like it might be an issue, you should maybe tell someone about it. That being said, if you're playing a game and you die, you can't blame autism for it. I do understand the girl was probably attached to that character, and learning that your character isn't permanent can be a hard lesson for any new player to learn, but characters die. As for the commissions... what? Why would your character's death affect anything on that front?

My first time DMing, I went with Dragon of Icespire Peak. I personally wouldn't do that one; it felt kinda stiff to me as a DM and I think I would've felt the same as a player. I could do it now, with a lot of adaptation to make it flow better. Then I went to Princes of the Apocalypse in a group with two experienced players and two new players. We're still playing that game now and it's been a blast! Though I think I had more problems adjusting to the sandboxiness than I thought I would. Lost Mine is also a classic for beginners of all kinds, players and DMs alike. I've never run that one but I've played it twice, and it's super interesting to see how different DMs make the game so different. Anyway, that's just a fairy's opinion.

For an easy, low commitment module - “Frozen Sick” is a mini-adventure that is free on DnD Beyond. It’s only a handful of sessions long and let’s you have some fun as a DM as well as put the players under a ticking clock. I loved it.

Hi Lucky, that's for being the cringe kitty to close out my week. Doge, I think you'll do a great job as a DM - you know what NOT to do.

Candlekeep Mysteries is a good introduction. I've run a couple of games for new comers and they enjoy the model as well as a bit of my input

2nd: If you keep trying to do stuff after the DM says "are you sure?" then you've only got yourself to blame. 3rd: I've encountered a few idiots like that elsewhere on social media. Had one person message me with just an emote, only to complain that I wasn't socialising properly when I responded with just "hi".

When you "risk it for the biscuit," you do just that, take a risk. My character of about half a year now got bodied last night in one hit because I took the risk to run in and take down a mook. It happens and I will now get a chance to play a backup that I've been interested in trying for a while.

All the stories from both rpgs and other sources where someone uses autism (real or fake) to try and justify shitty behavior has made me genuinely afraid to tell others im autistic when I’m having a rough time, because I’m afraid people will think I’m just using it as an excuse for things. These people make me sick…

As a GM, you have the right and authority to allow or disallow whatever you want. It is your world. People want to play, then they obey the rules. Insofar as killing PCs, if the character does something stupid, they suffer the consequences of their stupidity. That isn't the matter of the DM being a gashole, but the matter of a player being incapable of making a good decision. I've lost plenty of characters due to foolhardy actions. I only ever argued with a DM once about it. Not that I thought I shouldn't have died, but that the number of mobs attacking me was just physically impossible. Something like 16 orcs hacking me up. Couldn't see how you could fit 16 orcs around a hobbit, when they're all using clubs and axes and spears. The thing is, he only kiled my character because I refused to be railroaded. It was one of those deals where the party is supposed to surrender to capture. I decided to try to make a run for it. He didn't like it.

I love your stories and narrative style .. and would like to say your obvious charismatic edge and obvious way above-average intellect will give you all that you need to be successful I have been a forever DM since the days of THACO like 77-78 and can read instinctive good fits for D& d .. you will be fine ..lol if not ask for help from your loved ones .. you got this!!!

I think Dungeon of the Mad Mage is actually a great first module as it follows a sort of video game style progression track with the level ups corresponding with levels of the dungeon.

I suggest the Questonomicon by XP to Level 3. Its fun and can start you off on any theme youd like in levels 1-3 oneshots and can lead into a homebrew or other module. Its super fun. Otherwise, I suggest Humblewood. Its super cute to play bird and animal people

With the second story there were red flags "Dark and Gritty world" and "banned forms of magic" It's hard to side with the OP on that one. Not to mention a classic quote that backs up the autistic player "The worse thing about having mental health problems is others demanding you act just like you would if you didn't have them"

@DellikkilleD

Жыл бұрын

so, a dm isnt allowed to set up their own world? And I'll match a much more relevant quote. 'Don't make your issues someone else's problem.'

@Insane234

Жыл бұрын

@@DellikkilleD Whenever a DM gos "Dark and Gritty" they tend to be obnoxious edgelords. Also limiting what spells a player can use smells of a control freak. Edgelord control freaks are not good DMs (as players they are likely to be "That Guys") Edit: That quote sounds like an excuse to ignore the struggles of the disabled. Imagine saying that shit to someone paralyzed. Mental health is health!

@DellikkilleD

Жыл бұрын

@@Insane234 Its not my job to help carry a paralyzed person around either. Again, your needs are your responsibility. He didnt limit the spells the players could use, he limited the spells that exist. pretty big difference. literally every single spell is up the the DM if it exists or not. And wanting a more realistic game in no way indicates an edgelord. what are you, 15?

@Insane234

Жыл бұрын

@@DellikkilleD first of all do you know of the ADA (Americans with Disabilities Act) basically saying that all things need be accessible by the handicapped. So with the paralyzed person if you have a building you have to have access ramps etc. Also people play games to escape reality, to make a D&D game realistic may as well have O&O (Obligations and Offices)

@newbienoah9461

Жыл бұрын

​@@Insane234 grim dark games exist for a reason. Why don't you get off your high horse over your own preferences.

@DnD Doge If you're intent on running a module, I don't have any recommendations since I haven't run a lot of them myself, but there are plenty of lists you can find online which explain why they are good for first-time DMs. However, I will suggest making a list of modules you would like to run and then check with your group to see what they'd prefer. This will give you an idea of what they want out of the game (combat/RP/exploration) so you can tailor the story to their preferences and hopefully everyone will enjoy the experience. Personally, after having DM'ed both homebrew and pre-written campaigns, I've found it **easier** and more enjoyable to run homebrew games for many reasons, with just some of them being: 1) I'm not worried about improvising new plot points, characters, and events as the need arises, since there aren't any future scenes/events that might be ruined by them 2) the players feel more free to make their own choices, as opposed to guessing what the book expects them to do next and/or being unsure if certain actions are "allowed" 3) the players are unlikely to spoil the story by reading lore or watching D&D related videos and 4) It's much easier to incorporate each player's backstory into the narrative, which has been critical for their enjoyment and investment in the game I'll admit I am relying on my creativity and improvisation skills to keep things exciting and interesting, and it requires a different kind of preparation. However, the time spent for preparation is comparable to using a pre-written campaign, at least for how I run my game. Final note, you could find a sweet spot between running a module and improvising. You can use a module's assets, characters, and narrative as a foundation, but then add and remove things as you see fit, once you've gotten comfortable running your game. My advice is to not feel trapped by what a book prescribes if you believe you and your table will enjoy something that deviates from it here and there.

It bears repeating, Autism (and other such disorders) might EXPLAIN Behavior, but not excuse it

@simonO712

4 ай бұрын

There are some behaviours I'd say it does actually excuse, but this certainly isn't one of them.

I'm a very new dm, I did Icespire Keep and loved it. Very easy, and I could add some of my own unique stuff to the module too

"Should have paused the game and spoken to her out of character". He did. That's exactly what "Are you sure?" is. No mercy from me - a fellow autist. That said D&D Doge - autism is a little more involved than "mental health", I would be very careful about mislabelling it that way.

Autism is irrelevant. Inability to read social cues isn't the problem. The player made repeatedly stupid decisions on how to have her character act.

I've heard the in the mmo, light side Sith warrior is some sort of samurai.

Man, this stories are good and all. Although I can't help but feel like most of these AITA stories only have that question to reinforce the OP's version when they are so clearly not the assholes.

@DnD Doge Go for it. Yeah Lost Mine of Phandelver is the best for new DMs. I would go so far as to it being a Setting all in itself if done right.

Obviously the best starting modules are the ones from the starter and essential kit Namely lost mine, Dragon of icespire peak and Dragons of Stormwreck isle

You should do Old Man Henderson some Friday. That's the ultimate RPG Glory Story in my opinion.

You can try Lost mine of Phandelver as a first module. It's fun and fairly easy as a first adventure to GM.

I'm always driving when i listen to these videos so i never get to see these cats. and Lucky Looks just like my runt of a cat Lucy! just bigger.

The second is also why I don't commission my characters, even if I dislike dying (lucky only character I've actually lost was because the other player was an idiot, shooting enemies who were letting us leave before I could get free of a flank right after I went down and got back up, but got rezed. Changed characters though as that broke the trust as a class reliant on trust) Ofc I draw my own chars before the game usually to show the other players

I'm so tired of hearing about this safe game mindset. You know I actually enjoy stories about less powerful heroes that are actually in danger, like the old wild west movies. I've never once been able to play in a game that manages to feel like that.

About the autism story: "Are you sure?" Is not as clear of a phrase as you think it is. Let me put it this way: Explain to me in a single sentence what "Are you sure?" means, like if I was not a native english speaker. It is quite a big leap in logic that the phrase means: "The enemies will keep attacking you if you go down again." I was in a game where taverns would offer a special wine that have "various funny effects". As it turned out, getting dealt enough damage to instantly go unconscious and automatically fail 2 death saving throws (or instakill a wizard) was not only a possible, but a very likely, outcome. Had one of the characters not been a barbarian with very high constitution and a Potion of Healing as common starting item, that would have been a TPK right there; during breakfeast. Wouldn't you get angry if you died because of a houserule you feel like has not been properly communicated?

@DellikkilleD

Жыл бұрын

lmfao, Before the dm asked 'are you sure' he publicly had the leader of the other group tell his guys to kill anyone that goes down. whats not clear about that? Not grasping something that clearly spelled out isnt autism, its flat out retardation

Lost mine of phandelver, it’s literally designed for beginner DM coming from the D&D starter set and all that.

While it's clear from later events the player's reasoning was entirely off, I think the hexblade's action was rational. The most reliable options for successfully retreating were already gone by the start of the confrontation, and while it seems like the other side didn't already know who they were up against and have a plan of action ready that may not have been clear. Not fighting at all would have been the good option here, but that requires everybody to cooperate and once it's off the table then this will be a fight with an organized, equally competent and far better prepared adversary: the reasonable expectation is a total party kill and avoiding that means going up the risk/reward curve. Some losses are better than all losses. It seems to me that the DM was trying from the start to push the players' sense of immersion and investment by removing a lot of the cheap ways out of narrative points, and then picked a setup to further push the players that happens to depend on things like teleportation and resurrection - the same "cheap ways out of consequences" - being there to not go off the rails. (Although in this case, it isn't rails but fences. You don't need a fully scripted confrontation with no player actions, just a way to make it clear at the start that no side is going to be winning this fight so the stakes don't justify... what happened.) I wouldn't have complained about my character dying, and I probably wouldn't have been playing in that campaign anyway, but I might have made the same choice, and I also wouldn't have tried for any drama about my character's death. It shouldn't have been a dramatic moment.

@DellikkilleD

Жыл бұрын

was her disengage action removed? lol, all she had to do was disengage, and full move out of range. Hexblade was fucking retarded and childish. The entitlement is literally disgusting. 'I didnt give you permission to kill my character." what kind of backwards inbred line of thought is that?

Last story, was very nice. It is hard to come by talented people in certain hobbies, but don't really participate in them.

Lucky makes a convincing argument

4:48 *radiation hazard has entered the chat

Maybe I'm looking too much into this but I don't think the op in the autism story is entirely blameless. Why? Because "orbiter" is a term used almost exclusively by the incel, nice guy and "alpha" male crowd. Short hand for "beta orbiters" and used to refer to any guy that hangs out with or follows (meaning social media, not stalking) a woman they aren't dating. Again, I could be looking into this too much but I feel that op is an unreliable narrator. I wouldn't trust someone who claims half his group "orbiters" because they tried to defend "the only female in the group". With that language I would sooner believe that he asked her out, she rejected him, he targeted her character and killed her before she could role death saves as punishment, then when half the group called him on his bs, he took to reddit and warped the story to receive validation but forgot to proof read out the nice guyisms at the end.

I don't know. I feel weird about the autistic story because I am completely neurotypical and have been in situations where I was being given clues and hints that what I'm doing is a mistake that the DM figured was obvious, but I completely missed. I think if what is happening WILL kill a character or change them fundamentally, you should always explicitly tell the player that will be the outcome. No reason to risk miscommunication and fights later.

@TheBones1188

Жыл бұрын

I feel the lines "They have a healer. Finish the job" is a pretty direct way of saying this is will be lethal with that lead up

@phatcavy98

Жыл бұрын

@@TheBones1188 I fully agree, provided the DM isn't prone to dramatic statements by his bad guys. If your DM had the villains saying stuff like "bring me that one's head, and slaughter the rest" instead of mroe generic statements like "kill them all" then a reasonable player could take the statement "kill the healer" as anything more than dramatics. However, if the DM had stopped the game and said "they will target you if you get knocked down and kill you specifically. Do you want to continue?" then you have no misunderstanding and the player deserves it.

@callmecharlie4250

Жыл бұрын

@@phatcavy98 it wasn't "kill the healer," it was "completely kill anyone that drops because they have a healer." I feel like that pretty obviously states that they're going to make sure you're dead now instead of just leaving you gravely injured and able to be healed.

@phatcavy98

Жыл бұрын

@@callmecharlie4250 I'll concede that point. However, it doesn't address why the DM, seeing the player not making a sensible decision wouldn't stop the game to make sure they and the player are on the same page and both parties know the outcome. Seems like an easily avoidable horror story thst would leave both parties happy in the end.

@mads2357

Жыл бұрын

I feel the same as an autistic person. I think the player handled it horribly if the narrator is to be believed, but I'm also a bit cautious about how much I believe them as them ending the campaign like that seemed a bit suspicious to me. I feel like they either left out something the other players did, didn't care for the campaign or they themselves did something not in the story.

I cracked up at the thumbnail lol

You should run "out of the abyss" definitely not bias from the abyss being my favorite plain in d&d

Doge cats are so cute.

Does anyone know what game is being played in the background?

in story 2, the OP is in fact the asshole for ending the campaign instead of just kicking the betas and running it for the people who were on his side. he let some girl and her beta male orbiters kill the campaign for everyone and thats not ok.