Deafening Silence of Growing up Gay in a Heteronormative Society | Ross Rossouw | TEDxYouth@KCISLK

“I hope to spread awareness on the struggles and difficulties that minority groups like the LGBTQ+ community face every day as a result of lack of education. As an educator, I feel it’s my duty to inform communities and be a voice to the voiceless''.
His speech will spark curiosity among people to ask more questions and to do more research before they come to a conclusion. “I want people to question the values and norms of society and understand why they are there and how these values and norms are used to uplift certain people but at the same time oppress others”. Ross Rossouw is a teacher in KCISLK. He is from South Africa and moved to Taiwan in 2015. As time flew by, he began to find the purpose of this trip was not only just to teach, but learn more. His profession as a teacher provides him with the opportunity to inspire young minds, and this also pushed him to constantly seek growth in both his professional and personal life. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @ldh781
    @ldh7815 ай бұрын

    I am so proud of you, and so happy and proud to have you in my life as my boyfriend! You did incredibly well!❤

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Ditto❤

  • @petelovesbevsills

    @petelovesbevsills

    2 ай бұрын

    Geluk julle twee!

  • @diandierossouw101

    @diandierossouw101

    25 күн бұрын

    ❤​@@wernerrossouw8479

  • @jakebe4915
    @jakebe49156 ай бұрын

    Superbly presented.... Your courage is applauded. Bravo....

  • @user-yw4un6wn7g

    @user-yw4un6wn7g

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you, I really appreciate it.

  • @kellyharrison5184
    @kellyharrison51846 ай бұрын

    What a lovely, and brave, young man.

  • @user-yw4un6wn7g

    @user-yw4un6wn7g

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you Kelly. Far from brave but I try haha

  • @thomasmulroney2065
    @thomasmulroney20655 ай бұрын

    So enlightening especially on British colonialism. Thank you for your courage. I loved the symbolism of moving out of the red circle.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for watching Thomas. ❤

  • @timothyj1966

    @timothyj1966

    5 ай бұрын

    WTF are you dating about British Colonialism!??? LMFAO!!!

  • @chrisjeffries2322
    @chrisjeffries23226 ай бұрын

    Thank you, Ross, for speaking up to society.

  • @user-yw4un6wn7g

    @user-yw4un6wn7g

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for the comment Chris.

  • @ryanmrh4006
    @ryanmrh40066 ай бұрын

    This video was a great find, at the right time. Thank you for your vulnerability, it helps those of us that relate.

  • @user-yw4un6wn7g

    @user-yw4un6wn7g

    5 ай бұрын

    I'm glad that it meant something to you. If this touched one person, then I've reached my goal.

  • @johndurham1633
    @johndurham16336 ай бұрын

    Thank you for shining light & clarity

  • @user-yw4un6wn7g

    @user-yw4un6wn7g

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you for your kind words

  • @michaellewis9839
    @michaellewis98395 ай бұрын

    Beautifully done!!! Well, done!!

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much❤

  • @TotRevalution
    @TotRevalution3 ай бұрын

    This was so moving. Thank you! Made me emotional ;-;

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    3 ай бұрын

    No, thank you❤

  • @user-gs4ez5lf3e
    @user-gs4ez5lf3e5 ай бұрын

    Thank you for your beautiful presentation…😊❤️🙏

  • @user-yw4un6wn7g

    @user-yw4un6wn7g

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you for watching!

  • @johannalberts8029
    @johannalberts80295 ай бұрын

    Thank you for what you are doing here. How wonderfully explained 👏👏.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for watching ❤

  • @cowinwatts9025
    @cowinwatts90256 ай бұрын

    I fully understand being outside the circle! But why is there nobody in the audience??? It's like no body is listening.. Very sad! We all have the right to live and thrive!😢 Amen

  • @umbertopapale428

    @umbertopapale428

    5 ай бұрын

    Of course there's an audience! What you saw, the empty hall, was the Parliament building!😊

  • @user-yw4un6wn7g

    @user-yw4un6wn7g

    5 ай бұрын

    This event was organized by my school and run completely by the students. Initially it was a closed event, only for students and school staff, but only two weeks before the talks did the school decide to open it to the public, so I'm afraid it wasn't advertised as much. The picture you saw of the empty seats was a slide in my presentation and not the audience I was speaking to.

  • @joecutro7318
    @joecutro73185 ай бұрын

    Thanks, Ross. Like any day on the freeway, I am grateful for those who use their mirrors. 😉 🪞 Keep the faith. 🏳️‍🌈👍🏼☮️

  • @terryhuggins8414
    @terryhuggins84146 ай бұрын

    Ross...brilliant! Thank you....

  • @user-yw4un6wn7g

    @user-yw4un6wn7g

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for watching. I really appreciate it.

  • @curthill7646
    @curthill76465 ай бұрын

    Thank you Ross for this talk!

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for watching Curt❤

  • @johnphillips3054
    @johnphillips30546 ай бұрын

    First, he is stunning, just saying wow very handsome. And great Ted talk

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Haha😂 thanks

  • @no2gaysaboutit
    @no2gaysaboutit5 ай бұрын

    Beautiful talk. Thank you 🌈❤️🌈

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for watching❤

  • @bigRed90
    @bigRed903 ай бұрын

    A beautiful presentation of the truth.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    3 ай бұрын

    Just sad that some are blinded by the truth. Thanks for watching❤

  • @raisingruckus1
    @raisingruckus16 ай бұрын

    Agreed. To all. Where is the audience?

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    It was an event run by my school and the students actually planned and set up everything. Initially it was a closed event only meant for students and teachers but only later did the school decide to open it up to the public. By then, there wasn't enough time to do proper advertising. Also, I'm in Taiwan, so not a big English speaking community.

  • @CostaComedian-rn2zr
    @CostaComedian-rn2zr6 ай бұрын

    Bravo ❤ thank you

  • @user-yw4un6wn7g

    @user-yw4un6wn7g

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you for watching :)

  • @paestum70
    @paestum703 ай бұрын

    @wernerrossouw8479 what a wonderful presentation. Eloquent, insightful and heart-felt. Congratulations and thank you.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    3 ай бұрын

    I appreciate the kind words. Thanks for watching😊

  • @Michael_Livingstone
    @Michael_Livingstone5 ай бұрын

    Amen Brother!

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you ❤

  • @alfredbooth6854
    @alfredbooth68547 ай бұрын

    Thank you for continuing to speak for all of us. You have the soul of a beautiful Human Being.

  • @fabiodutra7053

    @fabiodutra7053

    6 ай бұрын

    🌈🥰👍

  • @michaeljohndennis2231

    @michaeljohndennis2231

    6 ай бұрын

    Plus, Ross is so handsome looking as well 🥰🥰🥰🥰

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you for watching. It means a lot to me.

  • @ericknea
    @ericknea3 ай бұрын

    thank you

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    3 ай бұрын

    Thanks for watching❤

  • @jackstrubbe7608
    @jackstrubbe76086 ай бұрын

    As a survivor of the bashings at Stonewall, they have never managed to silence this lifelong 75 year old activist. I fear we are having all our work undone now. Vote Blue.

  • @briandbenson

    @briandbenson

    6 ай бұрын

    I’ll do my best to make sure your work isn’t undone. Thank you for fighting for our right to exist. ❤

  • @rjcarter2904

    @rjcarter2904

    6 ай бұрын

    Good for you!

  • @mikeg8276

    @mikeg8276

    6 ай бұрын

    I think it’s amazing you lived through Stonewall, but can you really call yourself a “survivor of the bashings” when no one died? To quote Willam, “Nobody was killed at Stonewall.” You definitely endured something and I’m not trying to minimize that. I just don’t want people to read this and misunderstand the history of the event.

  • @donhamill5939

    @donhamill5939

    6 ай бұрын

    Thanks, but I don’t need a political party to validate my life. My friends and associates make a difference in my life, not political parties.

  • @lance694

    @lance694

    6 ай бұрын

    @@donhamill5939 congratulations? 🤷‍♂️

  • @DannyLara-pf4vy
    @DannyLara-pf4vy5 ай бұрын

    Beautiful

  • @user-yw4un6wn7g

    @user-yw4un6wn7g

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you for watching.

  • @kaseyford1490
    @kaseyford14904 ай бұрын

    I can only hope that the audience in these Ted Talks learn something from this. 😊🏳️‍🌈

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    3 ай бұрын

    ❤❤

  • @anthonyjames4648
    @anthonyjames46484 ай бұрын

    Baie dankie Ross❤

  • @a-complished4406
    @a-complished44067 ай бұрын

    It’s depressing. Good talk, but we have two options: disappear, or be on everybody’s face all the time, which is exhausting

  • @selispeks

    @selispeks

    6 ай бұрын

    I decided to be in everyone's face all the time. If we don't speak up for those who are being persecuted we don't deserve anyone speaking up for us if/when it happens to us.

  • @yt_n-c0de-r

    @yt_n-c0de-r

    6 ай бұрын

    @a-complished4406 Rephrase the "in the face all the time" maybe, as it sure sounds negative and exhausting, and understandably drags you down. Maybe say it like the dude literally says in the talk: reach a point in life, where we are seen as normal people. Once it's normal, being in everyone's face all the time becomes a no-brainer. So rather than using bad wording (which is a mental excuse for inaction often), try to be just "in the face of people", not everyone's, at all time, but just "normal" - like straights do mostly. Just normal.

  • @yotubr08

    @yotubr08

    6 ай бұрын

    Both are exhausting - Disappearing and being in others face and costly.

  • @bayrum9803

    @bayrum9803

    6 ай бұрын

    How about just existing and not giving a sh!t what other people think. It's worked fine for me for half a century.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Normal, that's the take away❤

  • @Twenty20kmusic
    @Twenty20kmusic6 ай бұрын

    Needed this video so badly. Thank you.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    I am so happy to see that it touched you and helped you in some sort of way. Thanks for watching ❤

  • @jethrotaylor2614
    @jethrotaylor26146 ай бұрын

    I grew up in country Western Australia 1969, life was tough.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Same in South Africa. Thanks for watching

  • @klauskotowski6588
    @klauskotowski65886 ай бұрын

    Danke schön für diesen Beitrag!!! You are great ❤

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you for watching❤

  • @scubawrestler
    @scubawrestler6 ай бұрын

    Beautiful Presentation! Thank You.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you for watching❤

  • @paulnovosel9469
    @paulnovosel94696 ай бұрын

    This is one of the BEST TTS EVER. Well thought through with impeccable logic and meaning. A+++

  • @bayrum9803

    @bayrum9803

    6 ай бұрын

    You're kidding. Right?

  • @christianslater2736

    @christianslater2736

    5 ай бұрын

    @@bayrum9803 no hes not..troll

  • @steviemitchell9373
    @steviemitchell93736 ай бұрын

    I, too, knew from an early age. You beautiful human ❤

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Appreciate, thanks for watching

  • @F80armitgod369
    @F80armitgod3696 ай бұрын

    New Iran people are more where of homosexuality In big plac like Tehran its far mor accepting specially in yung generation its far more accepting but out tahran whete people are closed minded and religion such crimes will hapen i lucky i live in tehran but thos who are out of tehran are in danger with far more% and taht so 😭😭

  • @bayrum9803

    @bayrum9803

    6 ай бұрын

    Woke Westerners focus on themselves too much as victims, not on LGB people, transsexuals and women who really ARE oppressed.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Sorry to hear this, but glad you're safe❤

  • @davebarrett33
    @davebarrett336 ай бұрын

    100% agree and empathize

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for watching❤

  • @fabiogiacometti7518
    @fabiogiacometti75186 ай бұрын

    thank you for this interesting and very well delivered speech. I really appreciated the perspective and the message.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you for watching, I appreciate that❤

  • @sweetbb125
    @sweetbb1257 ай бұрын

    Dankie dat jy jou storie so professioneel met die wêreld deel.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Di's 'n groot plesier❤

  • @YesItsMeGuys68
    @YesItsMeGuys686 ай бұрын

    He is a natural speaker ! Very well done .

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much. I really appreciate that

  • @joaoeuqueres1739
    @joaoeuqueres17396 ай бұрын

    Well spoken! Thank you!!!

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks so much❤

  • @jamesjames1364
    @jamesjames13646 ай бұрын

    Ditto & BRAVO To You! :) Great job. I could listen to you all day long.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Really appreciate it, thank you so much

  • @cowinwatts9025
    @cowinwatts90255 ай бұрын

    Yes, I am a lost soul.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    You're not❤

  • @cowinwatts9025

    @cowinwatts9025

    5 ай бұрын

    I want to meet and know you! Do you ever come to Australia?

  • @donseiler1307
    @donseiler13076 ай бұрын

    Wow. Thank you. Very brave.

  • @user-yw4un6wn7g

    @user-yw4un6wn7g

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for watching. I really appreciate it.

  • @michaelhovden7846
    @michaelhovden78466 ай бұрын

    Wow - great, brave talk - thank you so much! Perfectly said, and the message needs to continue to be carried forth.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    I really appreciate this. Thank you so much for watching.

  • @juliussmith4001
    @juliussmith40016 ай бұрын

    BRAVO!

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you

  • @maitlandbowen5969
    @maitlandbowen59696 ай бұрын

    Thank you, Ross. I am 68 years old and, yes, I’m damaged to this day (“permanently”) despite all the changes in our world that have occurred over recent decades of my life. I am of the LGBTIAQ people. Today, for example, I so endorse the inclusiveness that has now arisen, at least within this division of people. However, it should never be forgotten that it wasn’t until 1984 that the illegality of homosexuality was removed from the statutes in NSW (I worked on that campaign), and a fuller law reform did not occur in that state until 2003. Both basic and fuller law reform emerged only on a piecemeal basis throughout the states and territories of Australia. And then, this is only pertaining to the law of course; the rest is even harder to achieve (as this video well captures some of the myriad of other aspects). When I see worthwhile presentations such as this, and portrayals of other LGBTIAQ matters (along with matters relating to humanitarianism, or considerations of ‘the other’), I often want to ‘show and tell’ to people significant to me. My sister, for example, remains as one of those people (she is the only example of a family member still available to me today). I guess, via this kind of process, I am forever seeking recognition, understanding and ‘validation’ for my ‘outsider’ status. But, doing this is difficult because one just feels as though one is climbing onto a soapbox each time (& that’s not really acceptable, somehow)! There seem to be no solutions.

  • @blanchefan
    @blanchefan6 ай бұрын

    Outstanding--much needed--vital--common sense, for heaven's sake! Thank you, Ted Talks and Ross R-- :)

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    I chuckled at this. Thanks for watching and putting a smile on my face😂

  • @fireflymary9269
    @fireflymary92696 ай бұрын

    Same here. Hi my brother who fought the good fight in NY. 63 years fighting and watching our hard work become undone and if Republicans get their way they will kill us for real instead of slow psychological death

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    There are still good people out there, keep the faith. Thanks for watching❤

  • @christosegkos
    @christosegkos6 ай бұрын

    Beautiful speech 👏🏽

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much

  • @kevinlapointe74
    @kevinlapointe746 ай бұрын

    Some time people show hate by not saying nuthing and treating it like its not a problem, silence can be louder then word's

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    This👆 and thanks for watching. I appreciate it.

  • @Bobby-kp6ln
    @Bobby-kp6ln6 ай бұрын

    Its amazing how much hate there is towards lgbtq and still alive. People have done so much to shape the opinions of people towards discrimination of others for anything to differentiate one another, although we are all gods creation. How many messed up straight people do you know? Why is someone so obsessed over someones elses bedroom....thats sick

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    I don't get it either❤

  • @AutomaticDuck300

    @AutomaticDuck300

    5 ай бұрын

    Because “it’s a bad example for society” apparently

  • @michaeldonohue-ju6hm
    @michaeldonohue-ju6hm6 ай бұрын

    I feel validated!

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for watching❤

  • @user-dm2ny2ph4e
    @user-dm2ny2ph4e6 ай бұрын

    This has been the honest and caring thing I have ever seen on KZread it is so true and hit me to my very soul

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    I am so happy that you enjoyed watching this and that it meant something to you. I appreciate that a lot, thanks❤

  • @davidoran123
    @davidoran1236 ай бұрын

    the malignant mythology of religion and the repression of anyone who is 'different' can be deadly when shame and blame are used to manipulate. Find and be your true 'self'. Orientation is not a lifestyle choice, religion is.

  • @backhand4

    @backhand4

    6 ай бұрын

    But for the speaker to blame the current totalitarian regimes' rampant bigotry ingrained in radical Islamism in most of the middle east on Western colonialism from hundreds of years ago - while simultaneously overstating the alleged openness of the middle east society prior to colonialism - is simply ahistorical nonsense. It's a prime example of presentism - that is, taking what you want to be true and backing history into that lens while being intentionally devoid of all nuance. This talk was of exceptional poor quality and framing even if you agree with the overall message.

  • @Mcfreddo

    @Mcfreddo

    6 ай бұрын

    @@backhand4In other words, the militant Islam is their own doing? Of course that's true. Islam is quite abhorrent on it's own and you see this every day. Moderates are just not following the book to the hilt. Just like Catholicism and the now quite insane the evangelical cults. Moderate Christianity is just not following all texts. All the Abrahamic religions destroy knowledge given complete power. Of course the colonists put in place horrendous laws. All religion stinks.

  • @bayrum9803

    @bayrum9803

    6 ай бұрын

    Listening to woke victim mentality claptrap is also a choice.

  • @cuahutemocrex2871

    @cuahutemocrex2871

    6 ай бұрын

    The only difference between mythology and theology is faith

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    ​@@backhand4thanks for your comment. This TEDx Talk was organized by a group of grade ten students and for a first time organozing an event like this I'd say they did a pretty good job.

  • @RosebeeVids
    @RosebeeVids6 ай бұрын

    Because of our heteronormative society, I grew up in the 80s & 90s thinking I was a broken straight woman. It wasn't until my late 30s that I first heard the word Asexual. It took me until I was 40 to realize I was actually Ace & bi-romantic. More conversations like this need to happen.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    I'm so happy for you. Thanks for watching, I really appreciate it.

  • @joecutro7318
    @joecutro73186 ай бұрын

    Difficult and complex topic to address in a TED nutshell format. Major kudos for his courage and willingness to be who he is and state his Truth. We all need to watch out for our brothers, sisters and others, no mattah what. ❤ Love always wins.

  • @bayrum9803

    @bayrum9803

    6 ай бұрын

    So courageous to come out to a TED audience in the 2020s and spew woke victim mentality claptrap. Are you kidding?

  • @joecutro7318

    @joecutro7318

    6 ай бұрын

    Nope, not kidding and I am fully aware of and understand your sentiments. It is a perspective for which you are equally entitled. I just wish you could have expressed it more respectfully in a social media context, but hey we all need to thicken our skin if we value the 1st amendment, right?

  • @stinooke

    @stinooke

    6 ай бұрын

    There is no such thing as "his truth". Truth is not relative. This is his opinion.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    ​@@joecutro7318thanks for watching. I think it comes down to the way we listen. We either listen to get offended or we listen to understand. And you are right, everyone is entitled to their opinion but if your opinion demerits the existance of someone else I think it's time to take a look in the mirror. Once again, thanks fro your encouraging comment, I really appreciate it.

  • @skymuffn
    @skymuffn6 ай бұрын

    …well said and will still sadly resonate in the decades to come. One thing I am grateful for is my entire extended family who always has been there for me. My exceptional folks has been the key to my well being. My Filipino Father, an immigrant conservative engineer who had a worldwide Industrial Engineering Corporation who with my modern American born Mother who is understandingly kind who instilled my sense of awareness and self worth which gave me the confidence to be who I am. Then my 2 sets of Grandparents who has showed me the value of respect with a good dose of humor will lead to an amazing journey. Now at 54, comfortably aging and happy to be where I am in life.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    This is beautiful and I'm so glad you have such amazing support from your family. I really appreciate the watch, thanks you❤

  • @3506Dodge
    @3506Dodge6 ай бұрын

    What country is this?

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Taiwan, I'm South African though

  • @stud28gr
    @stud28gr6 ай бұрын

    Story of my life...

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    I'm sorry, keep on living your truth and shining your light.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for watching btw❤

  • @martincampbell7774
    @martincampbell77746 ай бұрын

    Well said, much needed...but how many will listen? More than previously I hope. Most societies need to change their outlook on LGBTQ+ people, because they are people that should have the same behaviors exhibited to them as non LGBTQ+ people.

  • @jaredleemease
    @jaredleemease6 ай бұрын

    Thank you Ross. 🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    No, thank you Jared❤ I appreciate

  • @davidcwitkin6729
    @davidcwitkin67297 ай бұрын

    He must have had to work hard to get up the courage to speak in such a huge space

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    I have awesome friends and colleagues who supported me.

  • @JoseMendez-bq6st
    @JoseMendez-bq6st6 ай бұрын

    Very moving, compassionate and painfully real speech. I hope we can continue to support our younger generation to develop a healthier sense of self without the stink of homophobia.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much. You paved the way for us and therefore I had the privilege of going on a stage. Thanks for the watch❤

  • @stevengarman4848
    @stevengarman48486 ай бұрын

    The hatred of us has existed for centuries, not years.

  • @vorpal22

    @vorpal22

    6 ай бұрын

    Yes, you are right, but if you trace back to the origins of early Christian thought, rejection and criminalization of homosexuality are geographically correlated with it. In very few places was homosexuality a problem until Christianity and then western thinking based on Christianity spread.

  • @stinooke

    @stinooke

    6 ай бұрын

    @@vorpal22 That is absolutely untrue. Homosexuality as you know it today was not socially accepted in Greek or Roman Societies, and it may have in fact been more accepted in Christian medieval Europe than in classical antiquity. Widepread homophobia and criminalization of homosexuality is a Rennaissance-era idea.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    ​@@stinookehow sure are you about your claim on the Greeks😉

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for watching❤

  • @MaoChio
    @MaoChio11 ай бұрын

    So trots op jou Werner, wel gedaan! ❤️🏳️‍🌈❤️

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Dankie Mia❤❤

  • @dobwatches
    @dobwatches6 ай бұрын

    “We won’t die secret deaths anymore. The world only spins forward. We will be citizens. The time has come. Bye now. You are fabulous creatures, each and every one. And I bless you: More Life. The Great Work Begins.” Tony Kushner

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Love this. Thank you so much for sharing and for watching❤

  • @RossCompose
    @RossCompose6 ай бұрын

    Another Ross! We're rare.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Are we? Haha, thanks for watching❤

  • @user-gw2cu3xr6k
    @user-gw2cu3xr6k9 ай бұрын

    nice!

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you❤

  • @mdgraystone
    @mdgraystone6 ай бұрын

    Nice talk. Too bad there wasn’t a live audience there to appreciate it.

  • @Mister_Listener

    @Mister_Listener

    6 ай бұрын

    Agreed! Weird, then, that there is such a weird problem with the sound.

  • @ldh781

    @ldh781

    5 ай бұрын

    There was an audience, I was there.

  • @Mister_Listener

    @Mister_Listener

    5 ай бұрын

    @@ldh781 oh good! 😊

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    The entire talk, sound, video, and organization was done by the students of my school and I think they did a good job. I also wish the sound could have been better❤

  • @Jim-bh7gs
    @Jim-bh7gs6 ай бұрын

    Islam permissive!??

  • @cuahutemocrex2871

    @cuahutemocrex2871

    6 ай бұрын

    What a thing was should not be confused with what a thing is

  • @ak5659

    @ak5659

    6 ай бұрын

    I don't even to pretend to understand it, but it seems that Islam is as varied as Christianity and like Christianity there're groups that have opposing views on many things. I know that in Poland the Muslims who've been living there since at least the 1400's and the Muslims who've moved there recently apparently disagree on many things.

  • @youseftumeh4166

    @youseftumeh4166

    6 ай бұрын

    Historically yes....but not any more Homosexuality was prevalent there once upon a time indeed

  • @m.akbr.1201
    @m.akbr.12015 ай бұрын

    😇🙏💖💕🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🌟✨

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    3 ай бұрын

    ❤❤

  • @hanssolos3699
    @hanssolos36996 ай бұрын

    'nuff already!!! come to 🇲🇾 and u will understand.

  • @claudiopoles9672
    @claudiopoles96726 ай бұрын

    🥱🥱🥱🥱

  • @CaioThatDreamer
    @CaioThatDreamer6 ай бұрын

    Anyone has his IG or social media? He’s brilliant.

  • @hanslagewaard5083
    @hanslagewaard50836 ай бұрын

    I find this talk unconvincing. I'm 60 years old and even though underrepresentation was the norm. But zero representation certainly wasn't the case. Also, colonialism isn't the only reason why homosexuality is problematic in the non-Christian parts of the world. To represent it as such is more an expression of the imperial mindset than the speaker realizes. Other cultures can come up with ghastly outcomes just as easily. Don't deny their agency just because you ruled them for a short while.

  • @backhand4

    @backhand4

    6 ай бұрын

    This talk is utter nonsense...

  • @freddenker9537

    @freddenker9537

    5 ай бұрын

    see buddist Thailand !!!!! not evere Religion eats the Brain !!

  • @emtee5432
    @emtee54326 ай бұрын

    Great talk... is Ross single? asking for a friend...😉

  • @ldh781

    @ldh781

    5 ай бұрын

    Nope!😂

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for watching❤

  • @emtee5432

    @emtee5432

    5 ай бұрын

    @@ldh781 😄

  • @embreis2257
    @embreis22576 ай бұрын

    this need for validation he is talking about in a society which claims to favour individualism and diversity comes down to our mores and morals ludicrously out of date with modern standards. why? because most mores and morals go way back and were formed long before our modern laws were introduced, let alone modern concepts like being free of discrimination etc. sure, mores and morals change but it takes time - we are talking many decades here. our modern laws get changed all the time but most we adhere today are much younger than 100yrs old while the law itself often is influenced by the mores and morals of the day it was introduced. discriminating against homosexuals and practically outlawing it climaxed in Victorian times with criminal codes all over the world made in the 1860s. that was a time when modern concepts of basic human rights and liberties had a different ring to it. just remember what was accepted back then (slavery in the US, death penalties all over the globe, no female suffrage etc pp.) - heteronormativity was accepted back then and the christian churches were preaching it for several centuries before. unfortunately, many things the churches preach do not pass modern standards but are very difficult to get rid off. people needlessly suffer for it. we need to accept the fact that heteronormativity only serves roughly 90% of any population, the rest is left out and discriminating against 10% of any population who can't escape it is neither democratic nor just, sustainable or fair, especially when their needs to live a normal life do not harm anyone. heteronormativity therefore needs to get discarded in all walks of life asap

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for watching, I really appreciate the support❤

  • @habicht6
    @habicht66 ай бұрын

    danke...cheers... spasibo... merci..

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you for watching❤

  • @CajunGators
    @CajunGators6 ай бұрын

    I highly disagree with him and wish he’d just speak on his experience. It’s really not that difficult.

  • @dexterdexter9760

    @dexterdexter9760

    6 ай бұрын

    well it depends on society, community and people around you growing up

  • @cuahutemocrex2871

    @cuahutemocrex2871

    6 ай бұрын

    It can be.

  • @CajunGators

    @CajunGators

    6 ай бұрын

    @@cuahutemocrex2871 I’m sure it can in many many places. He can still speak on his experience without blanket statements. This is how stereotypes happen.

  • @riccardo50001
    @riccardo500016 ай бұрын

    So depressing speaking to an empty auditorium, what the point? I guess if it's posted here that helps get the message out. I think most straight people are not interested. They have their traditional families and don't have the need to questions. They are probaby often horrified about what gays in bed. On the other hand, bravo for him standing up and doing the talk anyway!!!

  • @patocyc

    @patocyc

    6 ай бұрын

    I believe that was just a slide in his presentation, meant to illustrate some of his arguments. You can hear the live audience clapping towards the end of his talk.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Yes, that was just a slide in my presentation to represent the stage I "perform" my life on. There was an audience, although not big, but I live and work in Taiwan so the language barrier also contributed to not as many people showing up. I appreciate the support though❤

  • @pereinarolsson3928
    @pereinarolsson39284 ай бұрын

    If your intention is to educate and teach the world to be and act in a certain way - what a sisyfos job and impossible. Change your inner world instead because there is nothing on the outside that is not on the inside. Much easier - not easy but possible. But I do not exclude that what you are doing might be your mission - who knows.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    3 ай бұрын

    The intention is to educate, I however was told to be and act in a certain way. Thanks for your comment❤

  • @Nomadic813
    @Nomadic8136 ай бұрын

    What a strange coincidence that all these queer struggle tedx videos are of classically handsome white men.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    First of all, thanks for the compliment. Secondly, privilege is one of the numerous topics I discuss in my Grade 12 elective course. If we are aware of our privilege we can use it to do good. I volunteered to do this TEDx Talk and a lot of research and preparation went into it. It was open to anyone and I wasn't chosen😊. If my privilege as a white "handsome" man can get me on a stage to talk about something that matters, I'll use that privilege and do just that❤

  • @sanjoserock1
    @sanjoserock16 ай бұрын

    Wrong is wrong no matter who says it’s right!

  • @jakeharvey6692

    @jakeharvey6692

    6 ай бұрын

    What are you talking about?

  • @user-mx8wt2nz6b

    @user-mx8wt2nz6b

    6 ай бұрын

    Right is right no matter who says it's wrong...

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    If I'm not mistaken, slavery wasn't considered a bad thing.... so wrong is right depending on who decides it's right? Don't know, you tell me?

  • @user-mx8wt2nz6b

    @user-mx8wt2nz6b

    5 ай бұрын

    @@wernerrossouw8479 Some people just enjoy dictating other people how to live...

  • @thevalkyrie8
    @thevalkyrie86 ай бұрын

    He is talking about individualism, but I bet he’s a socialist

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for watching.

  • @wotan10950
    @wotan109506 ай бұрын

    A brave speech. But it’s a little easier to pontificate when you’re as fit, young, and handsome as Ross. Ask yourselves honestly if you would’ve even bothered to watch if the speaker had been a senior, overweight, and very plain. Yeah, didn’t think so.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    Privilege is one of the numerous topics we discuss in my Grade 12 elective course and if we are aware of our privilege we can use it for good. To answer your question, yes, I personally listen to the content instead of judging the looks❤

  • @andrewstevenjo9621
    @andrewstevenjo96216 ай бұрын

    This is what indoctrination looks like.

  • @jakeharvey6692

    @jakeharvey6692

    6 ай бұрын

    What part specifically?

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    I'm curious too?

  • @1hayes1
    @1hayes16 ай бұрын

    The love that dare not speak its name won't shut the f up.

  • @winderwonder
    @winderwonder6 ай бұрын

    Boooooooo

  • @brianmatthews1736

    @brianmatthews1736

    6 ай бұрын

    This shows just what a miserable, hate filled person you are. One of the people who thinks God will welcome them into heaven with open arms, and then gets told by him for your hatred "I never knew you", and sends you to the fire. Enjoy your hate, and misery. So sad.

  • @venusslolita

    @venusslolita

    6 ай бұрын

    Filled with sht, can't learn

  • @Mcfreddo

    @Mcfreddo

    6 ай бұрын

    You've got 8 'o's in that one. I guess there's no more in the letter pot?

  • @kissed_by_sunshine_10
    @kissed_by_sunshine_106 ай бұрын

    Lost me at the acceptance in the schools.

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    And yet I did this talk at my school in Taiwan and the entire event was organized by the students, also teach a subject on social awareness, my students love it😊 Thanks for watching❤

  • @getrealnow73
    @getrealnow736 ай бұрын

    thank you

  • @wernerrossouw8479

    @wernerrossouw8479

    5 ай бұрын

    No, thank you for watching and for being you❤