When I came out as trans, my mom instantly jumped to the wild questions. Do you want boobs? Do you want a vagina? Do you like boys? Do you want dresses and girly stuff? It made me so uncomfortable because she didnt start with "I accept you for who you are." or "I want to help you, so what can I do to start?" After that interaction, I ran to my room and cried because I felt ashamed of my identity. I have learned to accept it and once I am out of the house, I am going to finally start living my life as myself. If my family wont accept me, then I will just let them go. I am sick and tired of living a lie to make others happy. Your content is amazing and you earned yourself a new sub KZee.
@onikageTK2 ай бұрын
humans are terrible, why can't we just love each other.
@henrybitencourt
2 ай бұрын
Human narcisism and heiarchy
@TheDikHeadVegan
5 күн бұрын
That! And look what we do to the animals. They are kept in small spaces, throats slit and used every way for human advancement. Soooo how would they know how to love?
@Artemiss_VАй бұрын
my man, that's the absolute truth you told us. Let 'em all bite on their tongues for ever making anyone feel not right. Shame on those folk
@thatoldcrow5 ай бұрын
this is so unrelated but you’re incredibly handsome & well spoken. thank you for being so vulnerable with this vid, ik it’s helping people
@provocativeinpink5 ай бұрын
This is a great reat topic. While I have been living Trans mtf for 32 years, post-op for 24 years, and live a very selective life, I have no regrets. However, I will say there's a lot that is favored in our community that I did not sign up for, and my perspective usually doesn't align with many of the mtf. Some of which is because it seems like there's a lot of fluff going on. I definitely can relate to finding out that many family members and friends don't really approve of you as they initially lead on. You will find out in the worst way that they were only tolerating you. This made me appreciate all those who just hated outright. One will pick up on this when they're not willing to appease themselves in superficial and opportunistic relationships. This may be why mtf experiences high incidents of homicides. They don't discern or analyze those who seek to come into their lives. Yes, the hate, fake, and deception are real. P.S. you covered your topic sticking to the point, in less than the average 2+ hours videos, which shows mtf's feel just let it rip as they go on about the same problem they're going to have next week, next month, and the following year!
@jdncat
5 ай бұрын
Yeah it's crazy how someone would tolerate you just because. Maybe they are trying to avoid conflict or something. That's the worst feeling ever though. I've filtered out a few people in my life that just are outright transphobic though, at least they openly admit it and it makes my life so much easier not to just find out later and waste my time with them. I've had the same realization as well and a kind of appreciation for those types. Just curious but what do you mean by fluff in the mtf community?
@provocativeinpink
5 ай бұрын
@@jdncat when some Transgender women go out of their way to portray that while so many are transparent with sharing the dark reality of their experience, they are so valued, appreciated, and revered than most. I'm not talking about fame, I'm referring authentic relationships and treatment thats given with no exchange, other than respect and humanity. What most are sharing is based on being tolerated because the person also benefits from the relationship.
@sato0076
2 ай бұрын
Mtf here i can totally agree and i have only been out for 2 years now working on getting the rest of my transition done. The outright haters are whatever, the ones that tolerate you that stuff can flip fast they are the scary ones.
@RouVie2001Ай бұрын
I watched a movie i believe was called boys dont cry so that part about people want to hurt you really hits home. Its really sad that people can hurt someone for being who they truly are. Its not our fault that while we were in the womb our brains developed differently than the rest of our bodies. Good vid bro, keep up the grind!
@palapeura3755 ай бұрын
I´m a middle-aged trans guy who´s still fighting to get treatment and it makes me very happy to see that you´ve gotten this far in your youth. Subscribed because I enjoy your grounded ideas and calm demeanor. I´m super high anxiety myself, estrogen doesn´t exactly help with that, so listening to you feels grounding
@sunshineleon64645 ай бұрын
Thanks for this video! I appreciate how you didn’t sugarcoat these downsides, but also didn’t try to make them seem terrifying and world ending. It’s hard to find videos like this that don’t romanticize OR demonize the trans experience. Because like everything in life, it’s really not one or the other. There are beautiful parts and painful parts. I came out when I was 12 and started HRT at 14. I’m 21 now and I wish I had seen this video as a kid. When I first started transitioning, I had only seen romanticized videos on being trans. I only saw how great and fun and wonderful it was. But once I came out, I was ruthlessly bullied and had to leave the private performing arts school that I had auditioned to get into and spent years dreaming of attending and transfer back to public school. I was ostracized and harassed by not only my peers, but by teachers and faculty. I got into physical fights over being trans. I was outed without my permission many times. I was sexualized and fetishized. I was looked down upon. Things got a lot easier in high school, and are significantly easier now that I’m an adult, but the trans experience is really not anything like what tiktok or KZread makes it out to be. There are people who will hurt you for being who you are. When I first came out, it was a year after gay marriage was legalized in America. I was so hopeful and optimistic that things were going to continue to get better and better for LGBT people, but now we’re seeing some regression due to social media and the amplification of transphobic voices. It will never be easy for us. But, like I said, it’s not just negative. Being trans is beautiful and wonderful and I urge all my trans siblings to find solace with the LGBT community. Hold your queer friends close and laugh with them at the absurdity of our current political climate. Have fun, be proud, and don’t give up!!
@WackyDemonFire5 ай бұрын
I've only been transitioning for 9 months ftm, it's been a crazy experience and I'm lucky to have a family that supports me. I appreciate this type of content, I feel like most trans content on KZread is overly positive yet the trans lifestyle can come with many consequences that people tend to ignore. Even with good support, it's still fairly difficult for me, and I'm scared every day when out in public. I'm lucky I can pass well too, but I still worry about being clocked. People tell me not to worry because every body supports me, but there's so much anti trans content online that I'm not sure I can put down my walls. Being trans for me means struggling to make it through life. If I'm not doing great, I can't imagine what it's like for trans people less lucky than I am.
@jdncat5 ай бұрын
Youre 100% right, i dont see a lot of people talking about the emotional changes. As a nonbinary transfemme, on estrogen I've had so much more enotions than ive had before. No idea how to explain any of them or even what they all mean. It's all part of the transition process to try to figure out your new refreshed sense of self. Its really scary to think about how there's deceptive people out there. I know I've learned to start to love myself first, so if that does happen its no sweat off my back. That's the one important lesson that i think everyone is should take away. You can always get more friends and loved ones in your life, but you can't replace yourself. Thanks for the video, you've summarized what's been on my mind for quite awhile.
@crubip29763 ай бұрын
You touched on this but my least favorite thing about being trans is when someone finds out and suddenly its like they're suddenly imagining themselves on the show "what would you do?", i am a passing transguy and the amount of times that once someone whos only ever known me as a guy finds out (usually from seeing my legal name somewhere) they're calling me she and then do like that weird exaggerated apology and then just not referring to me altogether. And like, I cant blame them. Theres so much fear mongering and misinformation over trans people, they've just come to the conclusion that they think is best but still, I'm just a person
@apryltshabalala75695 ай бұрын
Hi, I just came across this, and for a while I've been struggling to find trans content that talks about real things. Most of the time it's just a lot of trolls around being trans. But it's good to see that some people in the community still have substance and depth to them, and it's good that we can still have real conversations that can strongly benefit us.
@FemboyKaiSaku2 ай бұрын
Interesting to think about, coming out can change your entire life like i lost most my friend group for coming out bi. Couldnt imagine losing family too. its like when i came out is when i realised who my real friends was
@robinosborne31772 ай бұрын
I really appreciate your communication. You are very clear in what you map out. To be transgendered is only for the brave. And but I think you have been hurt in all the ways you describe. What I believe in to my core is...souls. how could any loved one stop loving a soul. A body might change. A changed body might bring much more personal authenticity. But a soul is a soul.
@sawyerbobrosky93895 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video! I am not trans but this was very insightful and helped me understand the struggle's y'all go through. Keep spreading your message❤
@bootgrease2 ай бұрын
What a beautiful young man. These are truths…keep showing your light. I love seeing a young trans person of color being strong and positive. I transitioned 22 years ago, before it was popular. I wish you happiness on your journey.
@AnnaGreenMoon14 күн бұрын
I am still figuring out everything, but I can say for sure that I never was cis. I talked about my feelings and experiences with my spouse and therapist because I am so scared to be wrong, I am scared that I am lying to myself, I am scared to see because I was never able to see myself… I don’t know if this even makes sense. And for now, in my area, you can’t transition medically or socially, even when you have a dx for gender dysphoria. It’s really dangerous to be open about that stuff, so, many people hide it… it’s really sad. Thank your for talking about your experience. (Sorry for mistakes, Eng is not my first language)
@AngelicaSims-ig8sm24 күн бұрын
You would never know you was Trans if you never said anything love your video.well said.
@raeofsunshinexo86935 ай бұрын
Thank you for this is what I needed to hear I've been in a very dark place since I started transitioning because everyone started abandoning me the moment I got on estrogen but before that they didn't care and it was fine.
@saharkhalili53035 ай бұрын
It's true people can arbitrarily not like you for you and that hurts
@laurielv4 ай бұрын
Man is handsome ash. Nice video. I subbed!💯
@fcknhorrible28515 ай бұрын
Bro is so handsome
@YoshiYami-fo1qn5 ай бұрын
Bless your heart very intelligent person! One day you and your family will be able to find peace with one another through prayer! There is a God and he is watching over you through your journey come to him in your time of need my friend
@gmail2liamg3 ай бұрын
really deep insight. and the interesting part is - wgen you're changing as a person (even not trans, just ur identity) ur going through a similar crisis in a lighter form, u rediscover yourself and relationship with everyone around u. and yeah, accepting ur new self in a first place makes ones who value u for who u are becoming accept u as well, and it may be bring up new sides of those around u or a whole new circle of people, but u just feel much more happier with them. and with ur new self
@SweetPinkCherry5 ай бұрын
Whooooo mistreating you who wouldn't want to have you to hold you to know you to love you❤ I wish you the absolute best 🌟 you deserve it 🍒
@Ghostenthusiast1352 ай бұрын
You are so real
@xtlxtlxtlxtlxtlxtlxtlxtlxtlxtl5 ай бұрын
such a great video!
@kosuzumotoori5 ай бұрын
Good luck man you're very brave going on KZread as openly trans nowadays. It's awesome I wish you the best
@joyhappiness5 ай бұрын
what about the light truths?
@honchokzeetv1569
5 ай бұрын
Good idea I gotcha I kinda highlighted some in the gender dysphoria & acceptance video
@777Rowen5 ай бұрын
Cool discussion
@LifeOnCoach5 ай бұрын
✌🏾
@nikkikilgore981225 күн бұрын
But you have a Adams apple
@TrippXOXO5 ай бұрын
cool
@anezce3 ай бұрын
In India trans people live separately from mainstream, thats good for trans, stay as a group away from everyone.
@yurironoue588827 күн бұрын
I hope that you can always feel gender euphoria! ❤️🩹❤️🩹🙏🏽🙏🏽🧿🧿🪬🪬
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Off topic but bro is so handsome
@DewieWZ
Ай бұрын
on god. he is majestic.
When I came out as trans, my mom instantly jumped to the wild questions. Do you want boobs? Do you want a vagina? Do you like boys? Do you want dresses and girly stuff? It made me so uncomfortable because she didnt start with "I accept you for who you are." or "I want to help you, so what can I do to start?" After that interaction, I ran to my room and cried because I felt ashamed of my identity. I have learned to accept it and once I am out of the house, I am going to finally start living my life as myself. If my family wont accept me, then I will just let them go. I am sick and tired of living a lie to make others happy. Your content is amazing and you earned yourself a new sub KZee.
humans are terrible, why can't we just love each other.
@henrybitencourt
2 ай бұрын
Human narcisism and heiarchy
@TheDikHeadVegan
5 күн бұрын
That! And look what we do to the animals. They are kept in small spaces, throats slit and used every way for human advancement. Soooo how would they know how to love?
my man, that's the absolute truth you told us. Let 'em all bite on their tongues for ever making anyone feel not right. Shame on those folk
this is so unrelated but you’re incredibly handsome & well spoken. thank you for being so vulnerable with this vid, ik it’s helping people
This is a great reat topic. While I have been living Trans mtf for 32 years, post-op for 24 years, and live a very selective life, I have no regrets. However, I will say there's a lot that is favored in our community that I did not sign up for, and my perspective usually doesn't align with many of the mtf. Some of which is because it seems like there's a lot of fluff going on. I definitely can relate to finding out that many family members and friends don't really approve of you as they initially lead on. You will find out in the worst way that they were only tolerating you. This made me appreciate all those who just hated outright. One will pick up on this when they're not willing to appease themselves in superficial and opportunistic relationships. This may be why mtf experiences high incidents of homicides. They don't discern or analyze those who seek to come into their lives. Yes, the hate, fake, and deception are real. P.S. you covered your topic sticking to the point, in less than the average 2+ hours videos, which shows mtf's feel just let it rip as they go on about the same problem they're going to have next week, next month, and the following year!
@jdncat
5 ай бұрын
Yeah it's crazy how someone would tolerate you just because. Maybe they are trying to avoid conflict or something. That's the worst feeling ever though. I've filtered out a few people in my life that just are outright transphobic though, at least they openly admit it and it makes my life so much easier not to just find out later and waste my time with them. I've had the same realization as well and a kind of appreciation for those types. Just curious but what do you mean by fluff in the mtf community?
@provocativeinpink
5 ай бұрын
@@jdncat when some Transgender women go out of their way to portray that while so many are transparent with sharing the dark reality of their experience, they are so valued, appreciated, and revered than most. I'm not talking about fame, I'm referring authentic relationships and treatment thats given with no exchange, other than respect and humanity. What most are sharing is based on being tolerated because the person also benefits from the relationship.
@sato0076
2 ай бұрын
Mtf here i can totally agree and i have only been out for 2 years now working on getting the rest of my transition done. The outright haters are whatever, the ones that tolerate you that stuff can flip fast they are the scary ones.
I watched a movie i believe was called boys dont cry so that part about people want to hurt you really hits home. Its really sad that people can hurt someone for being who they truly are. Its not our fault that while we were in the womb our brains developed differently than the rest of our bodies. Good vid bro, keep up the grind!
I´m a middle-aged trans guy who´s still fighting to get treatment and it makes me very happy to see that you´ve gotten this far in your youth. Subscribed because I enjoy your grounded ideas and calm demeanor. I´m super high anxiety myself, estrogen doesn´t exactly help with that, so listening to you feels grounding
Thanks for this video! I appreciate how you didn’t sugarcoat these downsides, but also didn’t try to make them seem terrifying and world ending. It’s hard to find videos like this that don’t romanticize OR demonize the trans experience. Because like everything in life, it’s really not one or the other. There are beautiful parts and painful parts. I came out when I was 12 and started HRT at 14. I’m 21 now and I wish I had seen this video as a kid. When I first started transitioning, I had only seen romanticized videos on being trans. I only saw how great and fun and wonderful it was. But once I came out, I was ruthlessly bullied and had to leave the private performing arts school that I had auditioned to get into and spent years dreaming of attending and transfer back to public school. I was ostracized and harassed by not only my peers, but by teachers and faculty. I got into physical fights over being trans. I was outed without my permission many times. I was sexualized and fetishized. I was looked down upon. Things got a lot easier in high school, and are significantly easier now that I’m an adult, but the trans experience is really not anything like what tiktok or KZread makes it out to be. There are people who will hurt you for being who you are. When I first came out, it was a year after gay marriage was legalized in America. I was so hopeful and optimistic that things were going to continue to get better and better for LGBT people, but now we’re seeing some regression due to social media and the amplification of transphobic voices. It will never be easy for us. But, like I said, it’s not just negative. Being trans is beautiful and wonderful and I urge all my trans siblings to find solace with the LGBT community. Hold your queer friends close and laugh with them at the absurdity of our current political climate. Have fun, be proud, and don’t give up!!
I've only been transitioning for 9 months ftm, it's been a crazy experience and I'm lucky to have a family that supports me. I appreciate this type of content, I feel like most trans content on KZread is overly positive yet the trans lifestyle can come with many consequences that people tend to ignore. Even with good support, it's still fairly difficult for me, and I'm scared every day when out in public. I'm lucky I can pass well too, but I still worry about being clocked. People tell me not to worry because every body supports me, but there's so much anti trans content online that I'm not sure I can put down my walls. Being trans for me means struggling to make it through life. If I'm not doing great, I can't imagine what it's like for trans people less lucky than I am.
Youre 100% right, i dont see a lot of people talking about the emotional changes. As a nonbinary transfemme, on estrogen I've had so much more enotions than ive had before. No idea how to explain any of them or even what they all mean. It's all part of the transition process to try to figure out your new refreshed sense of self. Its really scary to think about how there's deceptive people out there. I know I've learned to start to love myself first, so if that does happen its no sweat off my back. That's the one important lesson that i think everyone is should take away. You can always get more friends and loved ones in your life, but you can't replace yourself. Thanks for the video, you've summarized what's been on my mind for quite awhile.
You touched on this but my least favorite thing about being trans is when someone finds out and suddenly its like they're suddenly imagining themselves on the show "what would you do?", i am a passing transguy and the amount of times that once someone whos only ever known me as a guy finds out (usually from seeing my legal name somewhere) they're calling me she and then do like that weird exaggerated apology and then just not referring to me altogether. And like, I cant blame them. Theres so much fear mongering and misinformation over trans people, they've just come to the conclusion that they think is best but still, I'm just a person
Hi, I just came across this, and for a while I've been struggling to find trans content that talks about real things. Most of the time it's just a lot of trolls around being trans. But it's good to see that some people in the community still have substance and depth to them, and it's good that we can still have real conversations that can strongly benefit us.
Interesting to think about, coming out can change your entire life like i lost most my friend group for coming out bi. Couldnt imagine losing family too. its like when i came out is when i realised who my real friends was
I really appreciate your communication. You are very clear in what you map out. To be transgendered is only for the brave. And but I think you have been hurt in all the ways you describe. What I believe in to my core is...souls. how could any loved one stop loving a soul. A body might change. A changed body might bring much more personal authenticity. But a soul is a soul.
Thank you for this video! I am not trans but this was very insightful and helped me understand the struggle's y'all go through. Keep spreading your message❤
What a beautiful young man. These are truths…keep showing your light. I love seeing a young trans person of color being strong and positive. I transitioned 22 years ago, before it was popular. I wish you happiness on your journey.
I am still figuring out everything, but I can say for sure that I never was cis. I talked about my feelings and experiences with my spouse and therapist because I am so scared to be wrong, I am scared that I am lying to myself, I am scared to see because I was never able to see myself… I don’t know if this even makes sense. And for now, in my area, you can’t transition medically or socially, even when you have a dx for gender dysphoria. It’s really dangerous to be open about that stuff, so, many people hide it… it’s really sad. Thank your for talking about your experience. (Sorry for mistakes, Eng is not my first language)
You would never know you was Trans if you never said anything love your video.well said.
Thank you for this is what I needed to hear I've been in a very dark place since I started transitioning because everyone started abandoning me the moment I got on estrogen but before that they didn't care and it was fine.
It's true people can arbitrarily not like you for you and that hurts
Man is handsome ash. Nice video. I subbed!💯
Bro is so handsome
Bless your heart very intelligent person! One day you and your family will be able to find peace with one another through prayer! There is a God and he is watching over you through your journey come to him in your time of need my friend
really deep insight. and the interesting part is - wgen you're changing as a person (even not trans, just ur identity) ur going through a similar crisis in a lighter form, u rediscover yourself and relationship with everyone around u. and yeah, accepting ur new self in a first place makes ones who value u for who u are becoming accept u as well, and it may be bring up new sides of those around u or a whole new circle of people, but u just feel much more happier with them. and with ur new self
Whooooo mistreating you who wouldn't want to have you to hold you to know you to love you❤ I wish you the absolute best 🌟 you deserve it 🍒
You are so real
such a great video!
Good luck man you're very brave going on KZread as openly trans nowadays. It's awesome I wish you the best
what about the light truths?
@honchokzeetv1569
5 ай бұрын
Good idea I gotcha I kinda highlighted some in the gender dysphoria & acceptance video
Cool discussion
✌🏾
But you have a Adams apple
cool
In India trans people live separately from mainstream, thats good for trans, stay as a group away from everyone.
I hope that you can always feel gender euphoria! ❤️🩹❤️🩹🙏🏽🙏🏽🧿🧿🪬🪬