I only feel embarrassed when people genuinely believe the stigmas/stereotypes associated with being trans. I think being trans is a beautiful thing but the world tries to make it such an ugly thing. Lowkey it’s 2nd hand embarrassment for ignorant folx and less so of me being embarrassed that this is my path if that makes sense.

@honchokzeetv1569

Ай бұрын

I feel that too 2nd hand embarrassment I think that’s more of what it is than anything

@DewieWZ

Ай бұрын

I feel this too. Like the media has built up such a bad image of what being trans means, and now the developing generations believe it. They think they are doing the right thing, but they are teaching little kids how to hate everyone. The amount of trans kids being killed in schools in certain states is crazy to me. Idk how someone could live their lives knowing that they just killed a kid trying to be happy and comfortable in their body.

I’m mainly embarrassed at the thought of meeting people who knew me before transition. I’m getting a lot better at being less ashamed of being trans which is good, but there’s always that level of shame I carry.

@honchokzeetv1569

Ай бұрын

I feel u

@DewieWZ

Ай бұрын

Meeting someone who knew you pre-transition is one challenging feat. It gets awkward when you have to tell them everything. It can honestly ruin relationships and/or friendships. I'm glad that you're learning to not be so ashamed of your identity. Hopefully you can overcome that shame and be happy as yourself. 💖

@Amourbeauty_mua

Ай бұрын

Yikes 😬

Personally, I find it exhausting to be trans. I often wish I could just go back to being cis. Not out of genuine regret over my transition, but because people are telling me that I regret it. Or that I'm a delusional misogynist who's too scared to be who "she" really is. At the end of the day, what you are isn't who you are. Everyone chooses who they want to be. The real you is the you that exists right now. Persevere, sibs. Trans, detrans, non-binary, gnc, are all beautiful things to be. It's all in how you perceive it. Despite it all, it's still you

@DewieWZ

Ай бұрын

Wonderfully said. I agree, sometimes I wish that I wasn't trans because of how close I am with my family. Losing those ties would hurt more than being depressed. I just know that if I don't transition, I will end up dead either way. When I came out, my mom instantly started asking all of the stereotypical questions. Do you want boobs? Do you want dresses? Do you want makeup? Do you want a vagina? Do you like boys? Like it really broke me and made me think she was going to throw me into conversion therapy. If she ever brings up the topic again, I might just tell her that the reason I lied about it just being a "phase" was because of my fear of her resenting me or throwing me into conversion therapy. I'm sure she knows the risks of CT, but if she doesn't, then it could've ended BADLY.

I'm blessed enough to have a few friends and a small support system. But it's there, and because of them, I have shifted my perspective and how I perceive myself and my identity as well. 'Their opinions don't matter' is something I hold onto on the bad days. To reassure myself that "I don't have to be loved by everyone, but to the only people that truly care and love me" is how I get through it all.

It's an honor to share the same planet with you.

The best thing is knowing your emotions, You would ask yourself ...being embarrassed, where it comes from, is it from inside or other people? Remember when you are being yourself ,walking with love and being love then it's not your work to make people comfortable taking space.

I feel other people are embarrassed cause of me. For example someone may like me but they are to embarrassed to embrace the relationship because of my indentity. I get that feeling from people sometimes.

@DewieWZ

Ай бұрын

Relationships are a brick wall in my opinion. It traps your partners embarrassment and true feelings on one side, but kicks you onto the other side. You don't know how they truly feel because they are always silent. The one couple that gives me hope is Chella Man and MaryV. Chella is a trans man and MaryV is a cis female. MaryV is probably one of the most understanding individuals of this generation. Her and Chella have been together for almost a decade, and the love that they show for each other is amazing. On Chella's channel, they have made a few videos together, and MaryV goes over how to be in a relationship with someone who is transitioning. I feel that even though the videos are old, they can still be beneficial in teaching people how to have genuine relationships with trans people.

Title wild gang

@DewieWZ

Ай бұрын

When I first clicked, I was like "wtf does that mean????" But of course I knew what he actually meant. Sometimes it can be embarrassing because of how family and friend can/do view your identity.

just subscribed to you after watching a couple of your videos. we have very different personalities, but i still related to a lot of what you were saying. as a trans guy myself, i had to go through a lot of self-work and depression and life reevaluation to accept myself (even if it meant stop caring what your family thinks of you), and i can't believe i'm saying this after all these years of suffering and ripping off band-aids, but i'm accepting of this part of me. however, even after all this work, i still sometimes get this feeling of embarrassment (it's really minor to what it used to be, but still), so i get your struggle. thanks for being real and honest

Thank you I saw the title and I am so glad I watched 😊

it definitely be second hand embarrassment, a lot of ppl are followers subconsciously so for them to avoid being judged by being around you , they judge you along with the crowd

@DewieWZ

Ай бұрын

Yeah, definitely. One of the worst things to have happened over the last decade is the normalization of transphobia on the media. Conservatives keep saying these incorrect things about trans people, and in the process, they are creating stereotypes that little kids are following. So many trans kids die in school just because they want to live their lives as a person who is comfortable and happy in their own body. But now they will never experience that because they're getting their lives taken from them.

I appreciate you sharing your perspective on this cuz that shit be real 🙌🏾 great video

I feel embarrassed around friends and family because they are all conservative christians (not the good chrsitan. the bad newly developed type of christian). I am constantly bombarded by the fact that I am trans and I know that I wont be accepted, so I just play myself off as a cishet male.

@honchokzeetv1569

Ай бұрын

Definitely

@DewieWZ

Ай бұрын

@@honchokzeetv1569 Like if every transphobe/conservative fascist could understand what it feels like to be trans, and to know what it feels like to see something that you hate everytime you look in the mirror, then they might actually start to understand how we feel everytime we wake up. I have been depressed since the age of 12, and have had little to no energy to do anything because of it. I have felt suicidal, but have had friends who supported me along the way. Support is all you need when you're trans. That is the way to protect us. Understanding is what leads us to happier lives.

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I told you and this is why I’ll never transition , it gets to become a situation with anxiety when you have to confess that your trans to a lover

I think transwomen have given your community a bad name

@honchokzeetv1569

Ай бұрын

I disagree on that one but why do u think that

@rosejackson6708

Ай бұрын

Yeah I also disagree with this one

@zvezda4701

25 күн бұрын

Leave us alone, stop trying to divide us. Sincerely, a trans woman who just wants to live her life in peace