She could have been happy with any of these guys, but none of these guys would have *made* her happy. And if she defined her happiness solely by "ending up" with a guy, she would have ultimately been left unhappy without them, and without the tools to find internal joy and fulfilment.

@Lilagrace326

3 жыл бұрын

YES

@g.m.1821

3 жыл бұрын

Omg Sarah Z! Holy moly I- wow😳😳😳

@g.m.1821

3 жыл бұрын

Seriously i read this is your exact tone and cadence

@zitronentee

3 жыл бұрын

'How do I live without you' is probably sound romantic, but it's also an indication of something wrong with self.

@mefi9788

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

Stupid thing to take away from this scene, maybe, but I like that it refutes the idea of a "soul mate", which Rebecca seemed convinced she and Josh were at one point. Instead, there are multiple people with whom she could have a fulfilling, loving relationship. And even then, it won't matter if she won't address her own issues and clings to these relationships as her sense of identity or primary source of happiness.

@etcbarbara

Жыл бұрын

the movie look both ways has a similar message I think, in both realities she ends up with someone else and is still happy :)

@omg9261

Жыл бұрын

True. They've done such a wonderful job deconstructing that trope of a "happy relationship" being the climax of one's life and being equal to happiness.

In case you had trouble keeping up, it's not that anyone there will make her unhappy, it's that none of them are the key to her happiness. Brilliant finale and it's something that's been reinforced since season 1. Heck, since episode 1, I'd say. "This is what happy feels like, right?"

@Lililililili333

2 жыл бұрын

“in case you had trouble keeping up”??? wtf is that?😂😂😂😂😂 it was pretty obvious, i’m sure NO ONE had trouble keeping up!

@victoriaacrage6342

2 жыл бұрын

@@Lililililili333 and yet people are still asking who she ended up with like that’s the takeaway from the scene 🙄

@JustAHolyFoolBaby

Жыл бұрын

@@Lililililili333 Jeez, this was such a waste of comment. It was addressed to THOSE WHO HAD TROUBLE KEEPING UP. Anyways, GREAT SERIES. What an underrated show!

i love the fact that this means rebecca subconsciously knew that marriage and a family wouldnt make her happy

@7kraska

2 жыл бұрын

It wouldn't make her unhapy tho...

@billygabrielz

Жыл бұрын

@@7kraska It would definitely bring her joy. But not happiness. No one can give a person happiness, and Rebecca has been struggling to come to terms with that since episode 1

@randomgeekcrap

Жыл бұрын

She would be happy but not complete

@YoYo-sb1yr

Ай бұрын

true

4:35 it was so triggering to watch this series bc this happened to me too. married and feeling empty. but i got help for bpd and I've come a long way since then. much happier now

@MsSonnencreme

3 жыл бұрын

That is wonderful, you can be proud of yourself!

@Lililililili333

2 жыл бұрын

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

I can't believe Rachel is actually pregnant now

@TinthiaClemant

4 жыл бұрын

She had the baby!

@chiayu120689

4 жыл бұрын

It reminds me of The miracle of birth.😉😉

@ms.rstake_1211

3 жыл бұрын

@@TinthiaClemant awesome isn't it❤️♥️

That empty stare, it's bpd...I want to watch this series so bad!!!

@3.stockholland851

4 жыл бұрын

Go ahead and watch it its sooo goooood

@TinthiaClemant

4 жыл бұрын

I've worn that empty stare. I soooo get it.

@princesseuphemia1007

4 жыл бұрын

It's on Netflix!

Clearly she has the deal with her issues before she's with anyone, but let's be real Nathaniel is endgame

@mmabelmm22

Жыл бұрын

right? josh is too immature and greg is just... greg. nathaniels the only one who grew with her

@beckhampang191

9 ай бұрын

Nah it's Greg. Last episode was proof. They would return to each other

Not sure if it was intentional, but I love the varying symbolism you can see behind each relationship if all these flashbacks were to be taken at one set point in time. Rebecca and Greg: despite their time apart, Rebecca sees them as the couple who would take things slow, finally getting married once Greg mulls it over and asks her. Rebecca and Nathaniel would move a little faster with marriage, pregnancy soon following after, with Nathaniel seemingly the “breadwinner” while Rebecca stays at home, nesting (hence her finding the plush toy, while shopping and preparing for their baby). And finally, Rebecca and Josh - they had been circling around each other for so long, history from as long as their teen years, that they’d immediately throw themselves into marriage and have two kids already at this point, handling the field trips and the PTA meetings. Again, it’s probs not that deep but that’s how my CXG-loving mind sees it 😅❤️

@irongirltoni

4 жыл бұрын

Your total right! So smart

@emmawaters766

3 жыл бұрын

truthfully i think it could be that deep! the show writers are sooo thoughtful and intentional about everything they are doing. i have ultimate faith in the show

@erikas.6790

7 ай бұрын

I thought that simply Rebecca would take different time with everyone of them to realize she wasn't happy, with greg as soon as they get married, with nathaniel once she get pregnant and with josh well in the relationship

As much as I love all of these endings, god damn that ending with josh kinda got to me. It was so kindhearted to see him as a dad and rebecca as a mom gee it made me fucking cry. I did not prioritize josh as the one she should choose but shit that one made it feel like glitter was exploding inside of me

It 's so important scene in my life. Sometimes, I feel like Rebecca. I don't have any mental illness but I can't forget my last relationships. I think I find myself.

This was a great. Rebecca finally gets it!!!

i know that empty stare too well

i wish she ended up with nathaniel. like i get the meaning of this being that no guy could make her happy she had to do it herself, but that didn’t mean she couldn’t also have a relationship at the same time especially after all the work she did about healthy relationships.

I like that they reinforced the fact that none of them would be the key to her happiness, but I wish she could have had a long term relationship with Greg or Nathaniel. It’s just sad because the fact that whenever she saw a future she was like ‘of course it’s him’ implies it isn’t any of them, which isn’t my typical ‘happy ending’ 😂

@juviaseagray3223

3 жыл бұрын

That’s the point. This whole show was never building towards the typical. We got the right ending. Rebecca taking the time to work on herself before considering a relationship at all. It’s the realistic choice. There were no fireworks, and it might feel anticlimactic, but... that’s life. Life is anticlimactic. “Real life isn’t a movie.”

@hkazu63

2 жыл бұрын

It isn’t any of them, because its not about finding the soulmate. Any of the three could theoretically give her a happy, fulfilling relationship - even Josh could. It could be someone else completely. But nothing will make her happy and fulfilled until she can do that for herself and realise who she is. Thats the best part of it. You can believe that whatever you wanted to happen eventually did, but the main focus is that Rebecca must choose herself, before she actually chooses a man.

@d_teex09x44

Жыл бұрын

I love it because it's not a happy ending 😊! This scene really sticks out and it probably will help a lot of people who feel the same way that Rebecca does

My hope is that once she found happiness on her own terms, without pinning it on a relationship with another person, she and Nathaniel found their way back to each other. It's so telling that the first future she specifically CHOSE to see was the future with him.

@beckhampang191

9 ай бұрын

Are you like blind? Greg is the first one she saw... Nathaniel was second. How did this get so many upvotes. Is everyone blind

@mifigue.miraisin

6 ай бұрын

@@beckhampang191 the dream ghosts bring her to greg first yes but rebecca didnt choose that. After that, she specifically asks her to see nathaniel saying he must be the one and then asks to see josh cause hes the only one left. She sees greg first yes, but the first one she CHOOSES to see is nathaniel

People in the comments saying that she should've ended with Greg or Nathaniel completely missed the point of the show

@Kitamurasama

3 ай бұрын

No we get it, but we can still wish for a romantic ending down the line, I do love the ending of the show but In my head years down the line Rachel and Nathaniel reconnect and get married.

Glad she maintained a friendship with Josh but in my mind she ended up with Greg later. I get why it ended the way it did. It made the most sense even though I wanted to see her get fairy tale ending with Greg or Nathaniel. But she learned to love herself. I’d like to think her and Greg found there way back lol

@micahgoldson1253

4 жыл бұрын

You’re missing the point a little, though. It doesn’t matter who she ends up with; Greg, Nathaniel, and Josh are all wonderful for her. We see that in the dream, all the lives turn out great. But Rebecca will only truly be happy if she is her own person, doing what she loves. Who she ends up with shouldn’t define her, and it shouldn’t matter to us. What the show is trying to tell us is that romantic love is not an end all, fix all. Rebecca believed this at the beginning and it only caused misery. Self-love is what is truly important in life.

@aoifemcn1153

3 жыл бұрын

@@micahgoldson1253 yeeaaaaaaahhhhhh, a but it’s Greg.

@agranger1087

3 жыл бұрын

I LOVE Greg but he deserves better. She and Nathaniel just ... Fit. They understand each other. Greg and her had good moments but they don't understand each other most of the time. They're bad for each other. And for anyone who thinks shipping her with someone goes against the show, you have a one track mind. The show isn't anti relationship; it's anti making your selfworth depend on a relationship. Rebecca and Nathaniel, once they have happiness with just themselves, belong together. They just do. Greg and Josh both had a pattern of being into Rebecca when she was in a good place but peeling away when she was at her low points. That's not what you need from a partner. Nathaniel saw her at her absolute worst and still loved her even when she was in a terrible place. Besides, Greg belongs with me. Lol

@agranger1087

3 жыл бұрын

@@micahgoldson1253 Just because the point of the show isn't about romantic love doesn't mean it doesn't matter or shouldn't matter. It just needs to take a back seat to making yourself happy. It doesn't demean the show if after she discovers how to love herself she ends up loving someone else.

@micahgoldson1253

3 жыл бұрын

@@agranger1087 I think you missed the entire point of my comment. It doesn’t matter WHO she ends up with (if anyone). Not that romantic love doesn’t matter.

So I am actually crying my eyes out that she isn’t with Nathaniel

@MistressOP

4 жыл бұрын

who did she end up with?

@kriskeler2118

4 жыл бұрын

I’m not gonna spoil it for you if you haven’t seen it

@VictorJimenez-jq9im

4 жыл бұрын

I loved this end! It was so beautiful! 😍

@kriskeler2118

4 жыл бұрын

Víctor Jiménez noooo

@VictorJimenez-jq9im

4 жыл бұрын

@@kriskeler2118 Why not? She ended doing what she loves!

I’m happy to say I’m finally in my finale. It took me so long to get here but I finally stopped dating for 6 months and I’ve been stable ever since. Yes I have anxiety but my bpd symptoms are gone. I get a little lonely some days but it’s not as hard. I think part of it was overcoming the trauma of my dads heart attack. But I feel like I’ve made growth that takes people years to overcome in less than a year. But I just wanna say, anyone struggling, there will be a day you can say you’re stable and mean it.

@lateisha.

Ай бұрын

Thank you, hope you're well

Love this but special shout out to Baby Ruth Gator Ginsberg 😆

Happiness is something to be created by ourself not to be found.

I wanna break my heart again... So I'm here 😭♥️

@3.stockholland851

4 жыл бұрын

Looool same

Giving someone the responsibility to make you happy is selfish and delusional. That’s too much pressure to put on someone’s shoulder.

@krisk3363

2 жыл бұрын

That is a VERY harsh and blunt analysis. The idea that you need someone to be happy is ingrained in all of us since childhood, most people don't go through the self aware journey because LIFE IS HARD and is full of responsibilities and commitments and jobs.

Come on you people there is no endgame like a fairytale The show has been telling that since the beginning! I already agreed on the message here but I took it harder after my parents got divorced. My mom depended on my dad too much that she didn't know who she was. I took her to the theraphy and made her go hang out with her friends so that she could finally find her life and what she wanted to do. Now she's better and we sometimes talk about how I was right about "there is no endgame or soulmate"

Neither marriage, neither a succeful career, made Rebecca happy,

Omg she's wearing my wedding dress!

I needed this so much.

DREEEEEEEEAAAAAAM GHOST!

“There’s nothing wrong with Josh,” I MEEEEEEAN

crying my eyes out right now

This show is so brilliant. I miss it. I wanna see Rebecca as a musical star

But I do believe that her & Nathaniel should’ve been endgame

How’d you screen capture this?

I cried again

I would love to see how she is doing with self love,having a dream career and a relationship. I was and think still like Rebecca and. falling easily in love. I go to therapy and my self love and finding myself got better. But still since I have my awarness I dont know anymore how to have a rpmantic relationsship that is no unhealthy. I am afraid to get lost again, afraif that my aprtner would be my world again. The series helped so much, thats why I eished to see a future where she is also able to have a healthy relationship, is happy with being herself and have Partner that she doesnt priotize like before. I dont know if I will be ever able for love again...

Has no one put up the clip of the final moment of this episode?

I'm %100 sure that she's gonna end up with Natheniel not Greg. Cuz Greg said that he's not gonna wait for her.

I just finished the first season. I feel like this 6m clip saved me having to watch 3 more seasons of drama back and forth show. Good for her. We need to learn how to be by ourselves before we can know how to be a partner to someone else.

@dazzlingburritoes5693

2 жыл бұрын

To be honest, if you have free time you should watch the other three seasons. It exceeds expectations and obviously for the songs.

In my mind, she and Greg got together a few years after this

Everybody : Greg, Nathaniel or Josh Me : Jason

I always get bothered that she doesn't wipe haha

Men are conditioned to believe that making money and achieving status will make them happy and that as men they are entitled to sex whenever they want with whoever because that's what women are "for". Women are conditioned to believe that they have no social standing in society without a man with money and status to legitimize her worth and be perceived as a woman with highly sought after sexual value. She is taught to do all things in life with the aim to position herself for a potential high quality suitor to "notice" and "pick" her by remaining in shape, seek higher education, maintain a career that is eye catching but humble so it doesn't put off men from pursuing her, remaining youthful, remaining virgin yet knowledgeable of how to please a man's needs perfectly while also allowing him endless amounts of space to spend copious amounts of male to male bonding time and status boosting activities to glorify himself at her expense as she gracefully and demurely takes it all in stride as he is sowing his wild oats outside the relationship with a random assortment of short terms flings with other women while she is expected to keep sweet and loyal and keep a perfectly sound mind about the whole ordeal. And she is supposed to "just get over it" if he abandons her after her years of thankless service and devotion to him. He is not expected to have any remorse for his actions, he is celebrated for switching her out for a "newer younger model" every few years to keep up appearances with his equally status obsessed peers. She is expected to accept her lot in life as the "used car with the mileage racked up" and put out to pasture from society, out of sight out of mind. And not lose her mind but "be the bigger person" by letting him go galavanting off to the next woman and all his misogynistic buddies and brosephs like she never existed even though he told her he loved her and she believed him at first.

I've said it for so long, and I'll say it again: She. Picked. Greg. She asks "Dr Akopian" to show her who she should be with, which is just her subconscious telling her what she wants, and it picked Greg. Rebecca wanted greg. When she saw that she was "unhappy" she looked at the other two as backups to find the one that made her happy, which neither did. But what is truly important is that her last choice was Josh. Which is good because josh sux

@wpbn5613

4 жыл бұрын

Josh doesn't sux it's just his relationship with Rebecca that sux

@Carolina57685

3 жыл бұрын

You're clearly missing the point. The Rebecca she talked to said that ALL the guys would make her happy. It doesn't matter who she ends up with, the show literally told you this. What matters is that she works on HERSELF first. Romantic love isnt a substitute for inner understanding and growth as an individual.

@nanusantos1696

3 жыл бұрын

The Finale throws some strong-ish inclination towards Greg, he's the only one she doesn't properly reject, the scenes with him are completely different from those with Nathaniel or Josh, and there's WhiJo's comment on not feeling safe until "either one of them is married" But that's not the point, they didn't want to and definitely won't confirm who it was, because it undermines the actual point behind the finale.

@thebingus7243

Жыл бұрын

The show depicted over and over again that no one was the true person she should be with. Hell, the ending was deliberately open-ended so the audience decides. Saying that Greg was the right choice all along is completely misses the point because there is no right choice in choosing. Greg being the first one shown doesn't mean anything if the future still depicted her as being unhappy without figuring out who she is.

Can someone tell me who she ends up with?? It's pretty confusing 😂😂

@Barrylocke

2 жыл бұрын

She ends up pursuing her own happiness and mental health. There's potential for romance and companionship im the future but she needs to start with her.

@jennygreat4846

2 жыл бұрын

@@Barrylocke This! But also *spoiler* After this you find out a year later, Josh gets a girlfriend (so it seems he's out of the running). Nathaniel and Greg are potential partners though. It is left ambigious after that, but the comment section seems to think Greg is the one.

@Rockleefan3

Жыл бұрын

All three wanted her during the last episode before the timeskip and she said to Josh and Nathaniel that she doesn’t want them, to Greg on the other hand, that he had to wait until she finds herself. After the Timeskip we don’t know much, just that Josh had found someone and Rebecca had found herself.

I know this is a fictional show but this is selling a lie to most women. What are you supposed to do after 45? You will always be replaceable in a job but you wont be in your family. Even if you sleep around and not marry, you will be as confused as you started and most likely more traumatized from all the failed relationships. You think she really has these options? Most average 30 plus women are finding it hard to settle down after sleeping around in their 20s and that's the truth.

@-_-3315

Жыл бұрын

This isn’t a general advice to all women, it’s advice for Rebecca specifically. She INDIVIDUALLY wouldn’t be happy in these relationships because there’s a part of her identity that needs healing outside of a relationship. Also this comment is kind of begging the question? Like the main thesis of this video is that happiness is not automatically found because you’re married, and you’re talking about how unrealistic it is for anyone past her age to get married. Like okay? That isn’t the point. Is every single woman who married young happy? Is every single woman who is single in their 40s happy? Of course not! Some are happy some are not, just like literally every group of people. The point of this clip and the show as a whole is that Rebecca as an individual has trouble finding meaning in her life outside of love and external perception and needs to learn to be human while not chasing after love as a panacea to all her problems. It’s irresponsible to expect one fellow flawed human being to heal all your traumas and hang ups, she needed to do some work on her own as well. Will she ever get married? Who knows, that isn’t the point of the show. But I do feel as though you’re being intentionally cynical here. People get married well into their 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, and on and on till they croak. Love doesn’t need a timeline or to work out the way it does for everyone else. Being human is a journey, and while it can include have 2.5 kids at age 25 and living in a house with a white picket fence with a breadwinner husband, it doesn’t have to. And that’s okay.

@impedimentahamartia9864

Жыл бұрын

You don't need a relationship to be happy, because families can be nontraditional. In many countries, single women can adopt children. And some people just need friends, or to marry later in life- there's whole dating apps *only* for people above 45.

@charlottep4222

9 ай бұрын

Wow this definitely seemed to push your buttons, dear.