Compassionate Boundaries: The Art of Setting Boundaries WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY (3 step framework)
Compassionate Boundaries: The Art of Setting Boundaries WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY (3 step framework)
The 5 QUESTIONS:
What is this person asking me for?
Do I have it to give?
Why is it making me uncomfortable?
Would I be overextending myself?
If I say yes to this, what am I saying no to?
The purpose of this video is to help you if you’re someone who finds it difficult to set boundaries, because you’re empathetic, you don’t want to be selfish, you don’t want to hurt the other person - YOU don’t want to be a bad person essentially, right.
This is something I’ve struggled with for a long time and Im not perfect yet but getting better at it so I want to share with you what I’ve learnt so far and seems to be working quite well both in terms of effectively setting the boundaries, not feeling guilty, and not hurting the other person.
The lens with which I approach this personally of course is spiritual. My personal north star is the Buddha and when faced with a tricky situation I often ask the question what would the Buddha do?
Which basically means how can we approach this with the right view, the right intention, and take the right action - not hurt anyone .
In this case the idea of course is striking a balance where we don’t hurt anyone but also ensure that we are taking care of our own needs.
It’s understanding the difference between where we’re being selfish vs where is it genuinely good for us to be setting boundaries!
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Hi, I just wanted to tell you please don't stop posting videos as they are really very helpful... Getting less viewers or subscribers is no loss... In Today's world not many people want to gain extra knowledge about life and important principles and stuff. My main point is Don't get demotivated by less viewers or subscribers, just keep going
Thank you, Rishi! It's pleasant to listen to your well-formulated wisdom.
@MeditateWithRishi
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Hi Anna, thank you for the kind words and glad you are enjoying the videos!
Hi Rishi, thank you for sharing this insightful video on setting boundaries with compassion! Your three-step framework and the five questions you presented are incredibly valuable tools for anyone struggling with this challenge. I love how you emphasize the importance of considering what the Buddha would do, aligning our actions with the right view, intention, and balance. It's a beautiful approach that not only helps us take care of ourselves but also ensures we navigate these situations without hurting others. Your genuine vulnerability and personal journey make your advice even more relatable and impactful. Keep spreading this wisdom, Rishi. You're making a positive difference in people's lives!
@MeditateWithRishi
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Hi Adam, this comment is literally the reason why I make videos. Hahaha, I appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts and what parts resonated. Thank you. You're always welcome to suggest questions/topics you may want to see in future videos.
Such a great talk, thank you
@MeditateWithRishi
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Glad you enjoyed it Mariana!