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1. moderate volume 2. tailored appearance 3. good manners, etiquette, and respect for others 4. good eye contact 5. remember names 6. take an interest in others and listen carefully 7. pause before speaking 8. positive attitude 9. not long-winded 10. know when not to speak

Classy people talk slow. There's no rushing them. I definitely agree with all.

I think classy people don't dramatize and repeat the same subject again and again so that they keep the attention to themselves. They speak with facts and in a structured and consistent way.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Good one!

I started life out as an Army brat in the mid 1950's and mostly raised in the South. Before leaving the house growing up we always had THAT TALK. You know the one. This helped me to learn how to behave, etc. In the Army I learned how to deal with people from different walks of life. As an over-the-road driver it came in handy. A few places even offered me jobs or because of the way I dress thought I was a vendor. I've also been in stores and had people mistake me for someone who worked there. I mostly wear Dickies, which are way more comfortable than blue jeans, with my shirt tucked in. I was taught when you enter a room and someone is already there you greet them. From my experience I don't think it is taught in our northern states and some plains states. Don't get me started...

@tameishalcampbell

10 ай бұрын

I grew up in the south and now live in the north and I agree with this.

A subject I love, thank you. Another i would like to hear is what does a classy person do when facing either a person endlessly talking or one that violates polite boundaries asking a question.

I aspire to live by these traits. I do fail and have lots more to practice. Very motivating and encouraging video - thank you!

@worldfromnwa2305

Жыл бұрын

Props to you for that

Classy people don’t brag or try to impress you.

@ariston111

Жыл бұрын

They brag politely. Otherwise, how will they win a client's trust?

These are great tips! We should all strive to be Classy! Classy people do not jump to defend themselves, they are able to consider any criticism in an objective manner as they are humbly looking to improve themselves. An example of looking out for the interests of others; a classy person will notice when someone drops something and will move to pick it up for them, but in a way that is subtle as to not embarrass that person or draw attention to themselves.

Excellent tips! I needed these last week when I was on a business trip that involved daytime seminars and nighttime dinner mixers. Definitely need to improve on all of these. Thank you!

Thank you so much Mr. Lyon. That was very helpful 😮

Love love love One of the best simple yet substantial videos on youtube❤️❤️ Keep doing these brilliant videos

I would add choice of words, no superlatives or (unnecessary) swear words. Good video.

Hi Alex, As always, your videos are very helpful. This one came in at a great time for me. I've been thinking of and building up my personal communication style. Now I'm ready to say that it'll be classy with a playful twist. Thank you, and I'm looking forward to seeing you on Zoom tomorrow evening!

El mejor canal para aprender comunicación interpersonal. Saludos desde Ecuador.

I'm going through your series to prepare for a pageant. I want to do well during the judges interview. Thanks for this series! God bless you.

Thanks Alex, God Bless you, I've learned a lot from you.

Great topic. Two things those traits all exemplify one who walks with humility, meakness, and integrity. Also the contrast of one who is power hungry, or “A” type, so such an interesting topic. I see a book title: When Does Classy End? Also, you look great man 😎.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, brother. And still adding subs I see!!!

Great tips once again, also very clearly communicated!

Really good tips, thank you.

Just found you on KZread this afternoon and am enjoying your communication tips!

Thank you! ♥

Great observations. Thank you and God bless you.

Good and nice to see you once again, Prof!

Loved it! ❤

Thanks a lot Sir. These are extremely helpful tips.

Loved this.

This was so great! Thank you! New subscriber here! Love your channel!

💐 Thank you for all the helpful pearls of wisdom 💎 really appreciate all your knowledge 🌹just wish had this kind of content when was growing up.. really did not have a voice bless you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Love this topic Alex, and your bow-tie!

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Thanks, Kara. I'm trying to keep it classy! Ha. Truth be told, I rented that tuxedo. Don't tell anybody! ;-)

@kararonin

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon now that's dedication 😁

Excellent!!

Thank you Alex!

@alexanderlyon

4 ай бұрын

You’re welcome!

GREAT VIDEO! GREAT CONTENT!

I think you've nicely covered the gamut of verbal and some-non verbal communication do's and don'ts. I remember some body language expert relating that about ninety percent of the time, our bodies tell others more about us than what we do verbally. So demeanor is very important in human interaction. I'm a new subscriber and just love your show. I really tried to avoid too much eye contact when watching your show....

@kathrynkildow3743

7 ай бұрын

😂

Let's acknowledge the hosts use of "the testimony of others" as he refers to "people he knows" like the professor and the physician, to lend credence to HIS presentation

Hi, Alex and I love this so much and english as second language. It helps me a lot to socialise better in Western country.

I can work on at least 6 of those. Thank you for your content, It's challenging me to look within as I'm working on myself.

Hi, thank you for your candid presentation. You have that X factor that makes for a great example- performed rather than spoken - even though you speak throughout .What I've just is actually funny. How can you express so much in non-talking. 😂

Thank you.

Love your classy look 😊

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Thanks!

Great video ❤

Thank you sir

Hi, Thank you for sharing these tips! This video is helpful and encouraging. I definitely should work on eye contact (staring slightly too long at the person I am speaking to).

Thank you

Good points! I feel like I reach classic level people close.

Best wishes from Brazil 🏖️🌈🌻🌼🍄🌳🌴🪴🌿🐊🐍🦎🦚

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Best wishes from New York state.

Nice to know 🎉

Classy people respect other’s opinions and different perspectives 👍🏻

MODERATE VOLUME, GOT IT 💥

Looking smart!

So true . 👍

Alex, Thanks for sharing all of these tips in your video and in your accompanying article! I would say, in answering one of your questions, at the end of your video, #1, #5, #7, #8, #9, and #10 are key areas I need to improve upon. In response to another question you asked, I think one tip that could be added to the list might be "Asking Questions for Clarification". Warmly, Sanjay

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, Sanjay.

@sanjaypaul9159

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon Alex, You are most welcome. I am excited to watch more videos and to learn more about your online programs.

@sanjaypaul9159

11 ай бұрын

@@alexanderlyon Anytime!

I found the tip with the pause very helpful. Unfortunately, I always fall into people's words, because I can not wait until they are finished. But I'll definitely try that with the break!

Self-respect 🙌

Great video! Also, class people don’t try to make themselves seem more impressive by name dropping, exaggerating, boasting accomplish, etc.

@alexanderlyon

9 ай бұрын

Great point!

I always thought being classy growing up was similar to a James Bond movie because he had a quick witted sence of humor .Janes Bond always appeared sophisticated and quit witted in a time of danger. Still a gentleman with good manners " Kalif🌅

I love a matchy outfit. I'm trying to bring it back ❤

Sir, I'm from Bangladesh. Take a rose of my love🌹

@alexanderlyon

3 ай бұрын

Many thanks.

Classy people are humble, they don't talk about themselves only. I know you said that they take time to get to know the other person but you can tell when someone is genuine about it, not working at it. They really show they're interest and I think it's because they don't rush, don't get distracted by others or their surroundings. Maybe add that classy people are not distracted! They keep their focus on what's in front of them: the person they are speaking to, the conversation, and that's a huge difference in what people are doing now. Distraction by phones, peoplem other bright and shiny things that make the other person feel insignificant or like they don't matter. We all need to work on that focus and presense.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Great additions!

@alexanderlyon Alex, the pausing before speaking is an interesting point. What is your mental model around situations where the other person keeps talking, or there are 2 other people who wont leave any gap for the 3rd person to speak. How is the best way to use the pause? Or is it that the mental model is to speak only when there is a gap and until then just listen and understand?

@alexanderlyon

10 ай бұрын

It's an interesting question but it sounds so specific and situational that I'm not sure I would be able to provide any useful guidance on that in the abstract. When I'm in a tricky or complex situation with multiple communicators, I mainly focus on making sure each person in the group has the opportunity to be heard and be included. It doesn't always look pretty but the goal itself will help guide the conversation there.

Hi, can you analyse whistleblower David Grusch's Interview about UFO disclosure? Thanks

It may have more to do with being a genuine and balanced person than "Classy." But then again, the authentic and sincere, balanced non judgmental listener is in a class of their own! No matter their "class."

Wow this is so good!! Do you know your myers briggs type? I think you are an ISFJ.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Last time I checked, I was an ENTJ! So, you got the J correct.

@moneymanagement24

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon that’s awesome I’m an INTJ we are similar in behavior I read . I know many ENTJs

All of these definitely take practise and discipline, although it seems to come more easily for some than others. As a verbal processor and an extrovert, I used to be much more of a "motormouth" than I am now, but sometimes I still fall into the old habits. It's challenging because I can literally FEEL my energy increasing as I sort things out and share information. One thing I try to ask myself, is this: "Am I serving myself or the conversation/relationship right now?" Is the higher value to add adequate info to the Shared Pool of Meaning, or to push my opinions and views? Is it to listen? Once that's determined (and the correct answer is consistent), it's easier to have the right motivation to cool my jets.

Hi Alexander. Did you watch the video of Robert Downey Jr with Krishnan Guru-Murthy?

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Yes, I've seen it. I doubt I'll do a reaction to it, though. Most of it has been combed over pretty well already. It's a VERY interesting moment, though. I'm not surprised you suggested it.

Okey

"Classy is not about income...it's about how they act." Tip 2: Classy people have a tailored appearance...recent haircut...local tailor...high quality materials...

Classy people recognize and appreciate diverse communication styles to foster understanding and inclusivity. For example, when encountering a person who is talking about themselves, they don't immediately attribute bad intentions to that person. By remaining curious, said classy person learns that the other person is trying to connect by talking about themselves as an invite for said classy person to then share about themself. Not all cultures communicate in the same way. I ask you a question, you ask me a question is a very white American neurotypical way of communicating. Classy people realize other people are classy too in their own way.

I would absolutely love to hear your opinion on the recent exchange between Krystal ball and Robert F Kennedy jr… it was a juicy one.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

I 99.9% stay out of politics on my channel. It's just not my passion.

A rare breed.

A firm but appropriate hand shake and this includes women

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Yes!

What about the saying "when money speaks, everybody keeps silent"

You have to wear that for every video now!

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Ha! I must admit, it was a rental.

@BostonSpeaks

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon haha

It's kind of classy when someone asks questions in order to make his or her point from other people's answers.

They don’t look at their phone (unless there’s an extenuating circumstance) when they’re talking to you.

I'm like 10 p.m. No class.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Oh! That's a funny line.

@rodneyadderton1077

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon hey thanks

I am friends with a very smart lady who has a master's degree in education. She's also been a school principle for many years. The one thing that I cannot get over in her speech pattern is speaks in a sing song type of voice. To me it is so annoying. As a principal, I would think that she would be a lot more straightforward and measured. For example when she says hi, it's more like "hiyeee!" It comes off as immature.

@alexanderlyon

6 ай бұрын

Yes, I agree. The sing-songy voice doesn't sound settled and mature. It sounds performative.

Non of the president candidates are classy

Great video 👍 . How many % people are considered classy😅

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

That would be a great research question. What % number would you estimate?

@ResonantSun17

Жыл бұрын

​@@alexanderlyon it depends what circles you are in?

11. Respect boundaries and privacy 12. Good cultural awareness 13. Punctual and reliable

Better than Slassy loll

You have nice hands.

Fantastic topic!! Appreciate this so much, it helps to reconfirm my own opinions of others and values I hold for myself! I would Love for you to dig deeper in how to master some of these points!❤🙏🏽🙌

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Good idea. I'll think about some points that might benefit from additional details and examples.

@yogawithdenise

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon You mentioned the volume of your voice while speaking, inside voice… I have a friend who is sweet, so bright and well traveled, a professional but the volume of her voice is too loud and tho I have gotten use to it my husband has not nor my other friends, how do I politely say something to her??

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

I usually don't recommend giving advice unless somebody directly asks for it. It's a tough call.