Change your Life in 3 Steps | Re-Write your Story through Narrative Identity - Shadé Zahrai

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What differentiates those who bounce back from hardship versus those who get stuck in a pit of despair? It often comes down to the story that they tell themselves about the situation.
We construct our reality based on the stories we tell ourselves and others about our lives - it’s called ‘Narrative Identity’ (McAdams, 2018).
People who believe their lives are meaningful tend to tell stories defined by growth, communion & hope - these are called ‘redemptive stories’. But those who aren’t able to move on and have ‘become’ their experiences tend to tell what’s called ‘contamination stories’, focussed on how difficult and tragic their lives are.
Even making small story edits to our personal narratives has been found to have a huge impact on our lives.
NOTE: This is not about trying to Ctrl + Z parts of your life. We’re not denying what’s happened to us, or trying to change the past - although sometimes that does seem far easier…
What we ARE doing is changing the meaning we apply to events to change the story we tell. We’re redefining challenges as growth opportunities and finding hope in the despair.
Because when you re-write your story, you upgrade your identity.
When you upgrade your identity, you change your future.
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  • @tovidominic3154
    @tovidominic3154 Жыл бұрын

    My take: The story we tell/narrate about ourselves of the past define our perspective on life itself. Choose to remember and narrate positive incidents of yourself and others connected with you . Thank you lady

  • @beckye8799
    @beckye87998 ай бұрын

    I needed this today! Exactly what my husband and I were discussing. I complain, compare, negative, beat myself up, play victim, no purpose. I want to stop. I want to just be happy!

  • @masiursenglish9130
    @masiursenglish9130 Жыл бұрын

    I am happy 100% with my life, though I don't have enough success to tell about, still I feel I didn’t do anything wrong to anybody in this world and could love everybody and could stublish myself at the same time as a singer and a teacher thus a youtuber.

  • @khalidben9940
    @khalidben9940 Жыл бұрын

    It is been an absolute pleasure having people like you with all this value.Thank you for the immense effort you put into this work. You are absolutely killing it and in top of that you give what really we want as individuals to understand and reshape our thinking.

  • @ShadeZahrai

    @ShadeZahrai

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Khalid, we're so glad that the content is of value!

  • @ashitshow1431
    @ashitshow1431 Жыл бұрын

    This is exactly what i was needed this time ... I was feeling so low .. thinking I'm the most toxic person and i hurt everyone and want to relive everything to make things right ... but that's not how things work ... i can't relive but surely can rewrite my story in my head.... and use that for my growth ... I've learned alot and should feel take that as a win ... can't relate more to this ... Thank you for making my mind simpler an thoughtful

  • @adeebnasir6796
    @adeebnasir6796 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Shade! Your assistance to the mental health of this world is truly the work of a light being!

  • @kristinj6298
    @kristinj6298 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you! This is exactly what I needed to hear. What was holding me back from believing I was worth more...everything. Re-write, re-frame and the future is renewed!

  • @ak-kx5jl
    @ak-kx5jl Жыл бұрын

    Your videos are becoming so addictive. I listen to them everyday before going to bed and every morning once I wake up. This is more than something motivational. Your contents are awesome. You are a guiding stars for women like us out there. Thank you so much Shade 💓

  • @ChallHatt
    @ChallHatt Жыл бұрын

    This video is like a treasure for every person who is on the path of self improvement. Changing the narrative can really redefine our whole life and how we perceive it. Shadè you are amazing.

  • @henrychang340
    @henrychang340 Жыл бұрын

    A VERY well thought-out and structured episode on changing the stories we tell ourselves to change our lives. I deeply believe in this for quite some time. This is incredibly valuable for people. Thank you for sharing and helping people change their lives for the better, Shadé Zahrai!

  • @popoduck8309
    @popoduck8309 Жыл бұрын

    I am grateful for these nine minutes that I spend on this video. Ty Shade

  • @chetankothmire6309
    @chetankothmire6309 Жыл бұрын

    Shade you are truly changing Lives,No Words... Thank you from the Core of My Heart Your All Videos are Commendable & Thoughtful! Lots of Love & Keep up the Good Work!!!

  • @blueberrycake2027
    @blueberrycake2027 Жыл бұрын

    Shadé, what a great sharing you gave to us. Yes, it's right, what we narrate ourselves is important, it shapes our minds, being more positive, happy or depressed. Thanks for ur sharing.

  • @ariefmperkasa6815
    @ariefmperkasa6815 Жыл бұрын

    spot on, and more importantly it's timely for me! this differs constructive thinking, that allows further growth, from positive thinking, that tends to ignore what happens. many thanks Shadé

  • @siddu9698
    @siddu9698 Жыл бұрын

    Concept is crafted in another level... It's opportunity to re write our story and to have spark to our perspective... Simply superb

  • @nikhilkumarsingh3637
    @nikhilkumarsingh3637 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for the lovely advice! You explain like a life teacher. It's not how challenging our situations are, it's how we learn from it even if something one feels it's not upto the mark. I tend to perceive everything as negative because I try everything to do as perfect as possible, when that does not happen, I feel that others are better, I am not suitable for this. I should perceive it as a learning experience.

  • @Dryoussefaa
    @Dryoussefaa Жыл бұрын

    Wow so many new notions and technical words. I used to think I am a word warrior, but after listening to this, I have to start learning my vocabulary from scratch. I will take this lesson and spread it around me. Lady you are proving again that we never stop learning. Thank you.

  • @haroldpooler8452

    @haroldpooler8452

    Жыл бұрын

    Yeah,I am the same way.I have a lot of pain in my left hip.

  • @dr.jacobjesurunr.s.5783
    @dr.jacobjesurunr.s.5783 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you dear Shade for this amazing session! Lots to learn from this short yet highly impactful session! Thanks again.

  • @sarahalishah5827
    @sarahalishah5827 Жыл бұрын

    Jazak Allah Shade’ for all kind words and precious advice to decontaminate one’s story ….every one will benefit from your knowledge ….stay blessed…❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @analuciahenrique7739
    @analuciahenrique7739 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Shadé! Very, very helpful. May the light you share always bless you!

  • @ShadeZahrai

    @ShadeZahrai

    Жыл бұрын

    You are so welcome Ana! Thank you for the kind words. 🙏🏽

  • @priyaranjan1970
    @priyaranjan1970 Жыл бұрын

    I coped with my severe trauma the same way as you explained. And it transformed my thinking.

  • @ganeshbalasubramanian5206
    @ganeshbalasubramanian5206 Жыл бұрын

    Great insight, synthesized from multiple, authentic sources 👏🏽 . Grateful for the effort and the message, Shadè 🙏🏽. I am hopeful of following the steps and reaping the benefits 😃.

  • @friarpesel5646
    @friarpesel5646 Жыл бұрын

    A potentially painful concept, beautifully and gently delivered. Thank you 🙏

  • @shekhargupta6718
    @shekhargupta6718 Жыл бұрын

    Your videos really work as booster dose to recycle my negative vibes into positive ones. You are blessed with immense knowledge and you keep sharing your thoughts so beautifully with us that one just keep longing for more to come .

  • @sushilsingh9264
    @sushilsingh9264 Жыл бұрын

    It's been a pleasure listening to all that you have to teach us ... You make us learn from our own experience, a whole new perspective... Thanks a ton

  • @minae1423
    @minae1423 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Shadé, a concept wonderfully delivered and broken down to it's core parts. 🙏

  • @arshsingh8843
    @arshsingh8843 Жыл бұрын

    Never thought a nine minute video can deliver that Enormous amount of value👏👏🙌🙌.. keep this spirit straight up to sky and thanks a lot🙏 namaste

  • @anilshedbal4206
    @anilshedbal4206 Жыл бұрын

    You are simply fabulous. I think you prepare a lot before you appear on the camera. If it is just spontaneous, just can't believe! Your every word in this and other few, i watched, are treasures for self improvement. Hats off to you! May God bless you!

  • @AvecBella
    @AvecBella Жыл бұрын

    Going through a transition right now. This comes at a right time…♥️❤️♥️

  • @Vishalroksc
    @Vishalroksc Жыл бұрын

    I really appreciate your content Shade, you really did a great job by not only motivating people like me but, you also counsel and telling the meaning of live a happy life. Living Krishna you are❤️🙏

  • @shashankemani1609
    @shashankemani1609 Жыл бұрын

    Accept you and accept reality coz accepting yourself is being real! Thanks for such a great information. 🙏🏻

  • @RatishStha
    @RatishStha3 ай бұрын

    Your tone of narrating story is so powerful and so touching that anyone once watch your videos will for it. ..thank you for being so kind for making such a wonderful videos and helping people enriching the experience to live their life

  • @viperrattle3857
    @viperrattle3857 Жыл бұрын

    I must say that after watching much of your practical advice I just got some results. I am a retired Physics professor and always have too many ideas (scientific) to report to Journals and I feel that I have very little time left on this planet. I always used and still do multitask and write about 5 different papers at once. When I concentrate on one to complete sometimes something comes up in the journals that make my priorities change. But I get things done but when one paper is published I immediately start the next one. Sometimes I get 10 different articles in the press. I don't feel the joy of getting published. From now on I will reward myself and enjoy once a project is completed. Basically, I always felt that if I do not get the ideas before too long, nobody ever will. THANK YOU.

  • @nileshshah2644
    @nileshshah2644 Жыл бұрын

    Very beautifully explained. I have heard this so many times from others. Haven't understood so deeply earlier. Grateful to you.

  • @juliahna4988
    @juliahna49889 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for this video. I feel like this is God’s touch for me to rewrite my story for the better. Thank you so much!!! ❤❤❤

  • @DC-fq6mv
    @DC-fq6mv Жыл бұрын

    This video is exactly what I needed to see at this time. I was dwelling in a frustrated and contaminated mindset due to a challenge at work. While I have learned to pivot and see things differently, this really hit home and guided me to fully accept, rewrite and move forward. Thank you so much.

  • @ShadeZahrai

    @ShadeZahrai

    Жыл бұрын

    Glad it was helpful and timley!

  • @michaelokoro2002

    @michaelokoro2002

    5 ай бұрын

    Shade you are a super star.

  • @PawanSharma-oi1vw
    @PawanSharma-oi1vw Жыл бұрын

    You nailed it. Thank you for sharing. Indebted to you for your clarity.

  • @parthahazarika4299
    @parthahazarika4299 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this amazing experience you brought it and how any situation can bring about a positive life approach in dealing with bigger challenges and struggles

  • @priyaramdoo4762
    @priyaramdoo476211 ай бұрын

    I really needed to listen to this again and again to remember to be postive and attract positivity..thank you 🙏

  • @meetshethable
    @meetshethable Жыл бұрын

    Such a wonderful video. We need more people like you on this earth seriously. Please keep posting more. God bless.

  • @nazeemamuscat8479
    @nazeemamuscat8479 Жыл бұрын

    I feel so previliged to find you. The precision in your presentation is awesome. Stay blessed for everything you do for unlifting us. Love you!❣️"The way we communicate with ourselves and others determine the quality of our life" Tony Robins, Unlimited Power

  • @mariam-de4nv
    @mariam-de4nv Жыл бұрын

    You are full of wisdom in your trade. I enjoy listening watching ur channel. Keep them Coming. Thanks you so much. More power to you. We need people like you to help people be better in facing life challenges and accomplishments. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @gauravsinghbedi6536
    @gauravsinghbedi6536 Жыл бұрын

    Brilliant Insight Shade Zahari...God Bles You... Thank You Shade...

  • @FIDA312
    @FIDA312 Жыл бұрын

    Excellent addition of lots of great advices

  • @savedbyhisGrace7752
    @savedbyhisGrace775211 ай бұрын

    I was very toxic, till I began to listen to helpful individuals like you. It's funny, we like to place ourselves as a victim,some times we do it to self or led ourselves into that very predicament and begin the stories. We all have had, failure, trauma, set backs. Instead of stepping back look from another set of eyes and beautiful mind.

  • @niddhimotwani2963
    @niddhimotwani2963 Жыл бұрын

    The right content at the right time helps you work harder for a better you. Wonderful video.

  • @dgsgsgsfh525
    @dgsgsgsfh525 Жыл бұрын

    You are unbelievably superb pack of knowlegde. What you deliver is awesome. Trust me, I needed to hear this video today Shade. Keep up with the work and I promise that I will pass this knowledge to the next required person. Keep up with this work plz. The world needs more of this or at least people like me need such videos a lot. In a world where there are almost never ending content, it is really good to see people like you making a geniune effort for mankind. I am very emotional and falling short of words to describe the gratitude towards you. Thanks again Shade!!!!!!!

  • @donaflordeliez5584
    @donaflordeliez5584 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this video, so timely for me. More blessings!

  • @balraambalraam905
    @balraambalraam905 Жыл бұрын

    I carry the attitude of gratitude with me every day the past is just a story we tell ourselves rarely do we think of the power we hold for ourselves as authors and narrator ❤

  • @mpundee2442
    @mpundee24426 ай бұрын

    I'm so grateful that I found your channel Shade. What you shared is so helpful as I'm practicing in my life now whatever is useful to me when I need it the most. Thank You 🙇

  • @biniamandemariam9911
    @biniamandemariam9911 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing life changing vidoes to make our lifes happier and better if we also take our responsibility. It is so blessing having a amazing sister like you, Zahrai.

  • @user-uv7db9bx3h
    @user-uv7db9bx3h11 ай бұрын

    I was having trouble rewriting my story and your video helped me a lot. You helped to focus on how to do it correctly. Thank you❤

  • @aishnayak
    @aishnayak Жыл бұрын

    Shade, you are a wonderful person and doing a wonderful job! Thank you so much for the video! Watching you is a therapy.

  • @ShadeZahrai

    @ShadeZahrai

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you! So glad that these videos are helpful. 😊

  • @pcadec980
    @pcadec980 Жыл бұрын

    Shade, your sayings are great and penetrate to the heart and mind. Really give lights

  • @SR-um7kd
    @SR-um7kd Жыл бұрын

    Absolutely loved your theory and explanation

  • @rp2804
    @rp2804 Жыл бұрын

    This channel has changed my life!

  • @RishiMalviya10
    @RishiMalviya103 ай бұрын

    Thankyou !! This video is a voice of hope.

  • @k.k3260
    @k.k3260 Жыл бұрын

    Perfect timeing of this video.... Thank you so many for such a nice learnings.

  • @azmat3015
    @azmat3015 Жыл бұрын

    Really This woman is inspiring to me and never forget seeing her video

  • @monicakalil
    @monicakalil5 ай бұрын

    Excellent, Shadé! I love your contents.

  • @Connectingthedots.
    @Connectingthedots. Жыл бұрын

    I love your channel. Thank you 😊 The way you speak and put together videos is amazing ❤️

  • @charleneaiello9241
    @charleneaiello9241 Жыл бұрын

    You are incredible! Thank you for your great videos and keep them coming.

  • @ahmedjamalhumakani
    @ahmedjamalhumakani Жыл бұрын

    Thanks a lot Shadé! This really makes sense.

  • @owaishaider3009
    @owaishaider3009 Жыл бұрын

    AMazing Stuff Shade. Things and situations come accross us in our lives but you have beautifully named them. Great display of addressing the common life issues.

  • @kandarpjoshi2961
    @kandarpjoshi2961 Жыл бұрын

    Beautifully conceptualized.... Ultimately it is "interpretation" That matters..... This video could be life changing for many... Big thanks to you for helping contaminated lives .... 👍

  • @ahmedjamalhumakani

    @ahmedjamalhumakani

    Жыл бұрын

    Couldn't agree more!

  • @syednadirkazmi9778
    @syednadirkazmi977810 ай бұрын

    Shade Zahrai, I was totally stucked before I start listening you. I was thinking why these things are happening with me? Why I have been through this? But, when I started to listen you now I am feeling more confident, back to track and progressing alhmdulilah. More power to you

  • @ibraheemjallad809
    @ibraheemjallad8095 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this important information. Taking lessons from past experiences and applying them in order to grow and develop and prosper .

  • @pokerlovers3529
    @pokerlovers35299 ай бұрын

    I love and admire your thoughts, ma'am.

  • @infantnelson9356
    @infantnelson9356 Жыл бұрын

    This world needs a women like you to encourage others. 👌✌️

  • @kripzadamas
    @kripzadamas Жыл бұрын

    Narrative identity and narrative therapy! Interesting concepts. Very useful. Thanks shadè for making this nice video!

  • @Swapna_Jeevithamastu
    @Swapna_Jeevithamastu Жыл бұрын

    Thank you, great concept... adding an example would have been nice...👍

  • @vizzurd1
    @vizzurd1 Жыл бұрын

    Truly amazing .thank you

  • @fatmaramadan7992
    @fatmaramadan79928 ай бұрын

    Thank you from my deep heart , you enlighten the collective mind with great positivity ❤

  • @snehakantkurale4775
    @snehakantkurale4775 Жыл бұрын

    This was fabulous one. Vry valueable

  • @sihembouaoud1813
    @sihembouaoud1813 Жыл бұрын

    This is beautifully crafted that you for these precious advices.

  • @shivakalaivs2989
    @shivakalaivs2989 Жыл бұрын

    Wonderful explanation and picture perfect ❤ thanks for sharing

  • @adv.premdahake5436
    @adv.premdahake5436 Жыл бұрын

    Every time i get positive vibes from your video, and you gives your idea in front of people, that's very gently, which will be helpfull for those guys who are suffering from his bad experienced, this video will encourage them definitely....... Thank you for this video I love it

  • @tinabhatia1403
    @tinabhatia14036 ай бұрын

    Very well crafted....just felt like watching the thing I needed recently

  • @andrestherock1
    @andrestherock1 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for this video. This information is invaluable.

  • @premakurale147
    @premakurale147 Жыл бұрын

    Loved the technique. This was important to get over setback. Will be revisit this video

  • @Men_After_Gods_Heart
    @Men_After_Gods_Heart8 ай бұрын

    Every person darkside ot trauma is the most strong n creative n untapped resource part of his emotions, if channeled in the right positive course...its very effective

  • @fdiver60
    @fdiver605 ай бұрын

    Shade, Thank you for your commitment, dedication, and hard work. Today..... has been a very hard and painful day.🥺😢💔 Personally, I need this one today.👏💜❗️ God Bless you.💜❗️

  • @abhiagricos1
    @abhiagricos1 Жыл бұрын

    So insightful and informative. Appreciate all your help Shade'

  • @brainnervespsychology41
    @brainnervespsychology415 ай бұрын

    Thank You 💗Loved Your Very Informative Video.

  • @yasirali8158
    @yasirali8158 Жыл бұрын

    Miss you are outstanding. Thanks for this work. Please! Pray for Us.

  • @Swift1756
    @Swift1756 Жыл бұрын

    Superb....Well defined...thanks

  • @sunildamania8184
    @sunildamania8184 Жыл бұрын

    So meaningful and well narrated.. God Bless U Shade

  • @claudiorio
    @claudiorio9 ай бұрын

    This video was very Stoic. Loved it.

  • @ShainaBajaj
    @ShainaBajaj5 ай бұрын

    Thanks dear.....actually needed guidance on this topic...God bless you!!!!

  • @salotenayalo1190
    @salotenayalo1190 Жыл бұрын

    Very powerful n motivational lesson to me💯. I'm so fortunate to watch the videos you provided. Thanks a julian ❤

  • @gaganupreti
    @gaganupreti Жыл бұрын

    Thanks mam, to make all of us author of our life.

  • @derejehamonagebremariamoff2612
    @derejehamonagebremariamoff2612 Жыл бұрын

    Love your message ❤️.

  • @alisonnorth7907
    @alisonnorth7907 Жыл бұрын

    I voted the most important person in KZread right now is this iron young lady kudos my mentor and all the very best

  • @jennyrierosales6429
    @jennyrierosales6429 Жыл бұрын

    This is so relevant to do in practice. Thank you Shade. Hope to meet you one day 😊

  • @sandrasaba8229
    @sandrasaba8229 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Shade 🌹

  • @anitajulaniya1959
    @anitajulaniya19597 ай бұрын

    Fantastic perspective. Thanks

  • @nakulkarle5562
    @nakulkarle5562 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing this idea. It’s very powerful and something which each one of us can relate with. You are amazing! Keep up the good work.

  • @issakhadra750
    @issakhadra75011 ай бұрын

    I strongly agree with your analysis thanks!

  • @srishtikannaujiya2050
    @srishtikannaujiya2050 Жыл бұрын

    Good one ma'am 👍🏻 I came across this concept for the first time.

  • @annadas2760
    @annadas2760 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much 🎉! Loved the video

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