CEO Coach Matt Mochary - Coaching Tim, Why Fear and Anger Give Bad Advice, and More

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Matt Mochary (@mattmochary) coaches the heads of top Silicon Valley tech investment firms and companies on how to be the best leaders and build the best organizations possible. His philosophy and method are captured in both the Mochary Coaching Methodology (which is available as a free Google Doc) and in his book The Great CEO Within, which is available on Amazon and online (also as a free Google Doc).
As a former founder, CEO, and investor, Matt knows firsthand the challenges of those roles as well as solutions to the most commonly encountered problems. His coaching is not questions-only; there is real guidance. Matt specializes in helping CEOs and their companies (or investment firms) transition from freewheeling startups to dominant enterprises.
Please enjoy!
00:00 Start
01:54 Fear and anger give bad advice.
06:56 Dispelling dating dread.
14:43 The power of prediction.
25:02 Next actions.
29:06 Turning conversations into action items.
31:51 Accountability for introverts and extroverts.
37:01 What is Focusmate?
37:33 Separating decision from implementation.
42:02 Firing well.
49:05 Effective and efficient recruiting.
59:36 Getting honest feedback from past managers.
1:02:22 The energy audit.
1:09:12 Running effective and efficient meetings.
1:17:51 Reducing and removing energy-depleting obligations from the calendar.
1:34:06 Assistance with assistants.
1:45:13 Why did Matt stop making documentaries?
1:56:58 Why Matt’s building a startup.
2:01:40 Rules, guide rails, and exit protocols.
2:05:29 Downregulating anger and feeling the pain.
2:22:28 Parting thoughts.
Mochary Coaching Methodology:
docs.google.com/document/d/18...
The Great CEO Within:
docs.google.com/document/d/1Z...
Tim Ferriss is one of Fast Company’s “Most Innovative Business People” and an early-stage tech investor/advisor in Uber, Facebook, Twitter, Shopify, Duolingo, Alibaba, and 50+ other companies. He is also the author of five #1 New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestsellers: The 4-Hour Workweek, The 4-Hour Body, The 4-Hour Chef, Tools of Titans and Tribe of Mentors. The Observer and other media have named him “the Oprah of audio” due to the influence of his podcast, The Tim Ferriss Show, which has exceeded 900 million downloads and been selected for “Best of Apple Podcasts” three years running.
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  • @timferriss
    @timferriss Жыл бұрын

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  • @JD-hb5fo
    @JD-hb5fo Жыл бұрын

    Tim I have a new dimension of respect for you. So vulnerable and courageous! Maybe I don't know enough people but it seems few men (famous or not) would share personal thoughts and fears so publicly. Can't see how you will not end up with exactly the match you seek (authentic trustworthy beautiful etc.)

  • @EddyLeeKhane

    @EddyLeeKhane

    Жыл бұрын

    Check his background, there is si much more intimate stuff he shared. After, you won't be ashamed for your own negative experiences and be able to take on challenges beyond comprehension Thank me later by buying 2 homeless kids food for a month

  • @OrganizationMagicCalgary
    @OrganizationMagicCalgary Жыл бұрын

    I don't often watch or listen to podcasts more than once. But this is my third time through, and I will likely listen to this periodically for the rest of my life

  • @steven.pacheco
    @steven.pacheco Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing something so real, this definitely helps a lot of people!

  • @drewgoodman7932
    @drewgoodman7932 Жыл бұрын

    When Tim said he gets angry at himself for not automating the process of him specifically having to track down a single K1… I felt that.

  • @CoachJJ
    @CoachJJ Жыл бұрын

    As a holistic corporate life & leadership coach, LOVE the openness, honesty, and authenticity you two held throughout this conversation. So many people would devolve to "playing to the crowd" with the camera rolling, but this felt pure with great guidance from Matt. I appreciate this shows some of the best aspects of coaching when it's truly present and not performative. Thank you!

  • @joesdailybeat

    @joesdailybeat

    5 ай бұрын

    No doubt, excellent listening and reflecting from Matt

  • @anasofiapinho
    @anasofiapinho Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing so much of your stories and inner struggles - you know more than anyone how profoundly helpful they are for your listeners/viewers. Hoping that some time from now you'll meet again, and then you'll tell us all about how things went way better than you expected. Good luck! 💚

  • @hemannft4744
    @hemannft4744 Жыл бұрын

    Potentially your best Tim. Thank you so much for being vulnerable 💜🙏🏼

  • @OrganizationMagicCalgary
    @OrganizationMagicCalgary Жыл бұрын

    Tim! Your perfect person is out there man! People would be hard-pressed to find someone who has worked on themselves as much as you, and that alone is the trademark of a good life partner - the ability and willingness to change one's self. You work to see your blind spots, and that's all anyone can ask for. Wishing for you, and everyone else reading this, to find their perfect person in this beautiful Human Experience.

  • @JamesDecker7
    @JamesDecker7 Жыл бұрын

    Love the interviews where you engage with interviewers in their areas of counseling expertise and we get to see how their techniques work on someone and the structure of those techniques. Even better with video (IMHO)! Also funny the parts of therapeutic/cognitive techniques that are in multiple fields.

  • @liquidlightsa7640
    @liquidlightsa7640 Жыл бұрын

    You are not the only intelligent, sensitive and evolved being out there. Let go of expectations....but in the same light, visualize ane TRUST the outcome!

  • @georgeallen846
    @georgeallen846 Жыл бұрын

    Wow, really enjoyed hearing from Matt , I’ve never heard of him, usually skeptical about these types of coaches, but seems like a really solid guy

  • @IamRaeen
    @IamRaeen Жыл бұрын

    You are amazing Matt. I am grateful to Tim for giving me a chance to look at your perspective.

  • @bridgetekunboyejo4294
    @bridgetekunboyejo4294 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much Tim. You and Matt were open & vulnerable which made the entire episode very relatable. Thank you for asking the difficult questions. 🙏🏽

  • @yanabalnikova4609
    @yanabalnikova4609 Жыл бұрын

    There's a mourning period after the end of any type of relationship, especially one with a person that was/is evidently so special to you. So, yeah, by all means, go to dinners with friends, explore new people, but also - understand that in as much hurry as you might be to find that partner, to have kids, you might need a breather before you dive back into the whole relationship thing. You are a healthy individual of 45 years, not 80, there's plenty of time. So maybe give yourself the time to process and mourn. And have fun while doing it. Someone down in the comments suggested traveling to Argentina :) Why not? Nothing like taking yourself out of a situation to gain some perspective. Maybe instead of Argentina, explore a place you've never been... Hope you find exactly what you are looking for at the end, Tim! 🤞 You certainly deserve to find happiness! 🍀

  • @smhcharan
    @smhcharan Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Tim for bringing up great speakers and enriching our lives with actionable insights. The recruitment process Matt outlined works very well do Senior leadership hiring who have the maturity to appreciate the reference process but people who are viewing this should not misconstrue that it will work for every position and every market.

  • @loudcottonshirts4335
    @loudcottonshirts4335 Жыл бұрын

    This is one of your best podcasts! I found it very moving and transformative personally!

  • @jeanbaardsen2863
    @jeanbaardsen2863 Жыл бұрын

    I found this fascinating. Thank you Tim and Matt.

  • @wickedhyperstyler
    @wickedhyperstyler Жыл бұрын

    Feeling vulnerable myself for a couple of weeks/months (probably years tbh) at the moment. You both inspired me a lot and sparked a great sense of hope within me. Going to revisit this episode.

  • @edithmc1182
    @edithmc11829 ай бұрын

    New beginnings? Just go back to Japan! (...maybe far from Tokyo for more quietness) Really appreciate the labeling in your podcasts. Jumping to the specific info-bit you are looking for THAT moment is perfect Tim, just like your books! Thanks!!!

  • @simini1837
    @simini1837 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this wonderful podcast and the vulnerability on both sides. Really learnt a lot from all the advice. I don't know you Tim but I am confident that you will meet a wonderful and beautiful woman who has great EQ and IQ and a warm heart. My impression is that you overthink life too much, I hope you are able to feel more and quiet the mind every now and then! All the best to you!

  • @shirleytorres3005
    @shirleytorres3005 Жыл бұрын

    Dear Tim and dear Matt, thank you so much for such exceptional podcast. I have learnt so so much from it and is helping me with the making of a "fear experiment" I want to carry out in Barcelona, where I live. With regards to the situation of anger you experienced Tim and, thank you for sharing it, I loved how Matt also manages to explain the word anger in such an easy manner and one of the solutions he offers, which is to address the writer and share the boundaries that were crossed. etc. Can I ask if the other solution can be the following? I have been reading and learning a lot about ego and learning to trust absolutely everything that happens in our life. In this case, it is clear that Tim's ego was badly affected but once you are conscious of it (by writing and accepting the pain in detail) can the other solution be to just leave the situation as it is? simply, accepting and understanding what happened and believe that whoever read the article and doesn't want to even try Stoicism then is because it has to be like that, and those who are meant to start practicing, the article will not even cross their paths? In this situation this is how Ego vs Conscience would react. Ego (this is what I believe, what I have gone through and want to prove a point or just be heard) Conscience ( I will not let this media piece affect me in any way and there is no need for me to react, my good intentions remain untouched and I will not "fight" for any cause or argue my points) because the minute you "fight" for something as much as you believe in, your ego is being fed. Ego loves being right, proving a point whereas conscience accepts and there is no need for anger, distress, just let it flow and let it be as it is. I would love to hear from any of you guys regarding my comment and I thank you for taking the time to read it.

  • @PC-gp4pw
    @PC-gp4pw Жыл бұрын

    Amazing podcast. Many thanks!

  • @peggyon1
    @peggyon1 Жыл бұрын

    Matt has a heart

  • @neilquinn
    @neilquinn Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing Tim. In a very similar place in life and this really resonated and was helpful.

  • @yn3481
    @yn3481 Жыл бұрын

    Wow this was masterful example of coaching

  • @AndriiS_23
    @AndriiS_23 Жыл бұрын

    Fantastic conversation

  • @TTimeFTM
    @TTimeFTM Жыл бұрын

    Tim, what's the mic, you are using? The sound is so good 👍

  • @marcusstarkensjo
    @marcusstarkensjo Жыл бұрын

    Amazing coaching!

  • @liquidlightsa7640
    @liquidlightsa7640 Жыл бұрын

    Trust your process! Spend time visualizing who would like to be with you rather than reiterating what you dont want to repeat..

  • @gavinreadman
    @gavinreadman Жыл бұрын

    Tim was together for 18 yrs and found the wonderful amazing woman I am now with by doing what Matt suggested And I’m not famous but in a small community you get the same type of reaction especially if you earn enough suggest you try it it I got the advice from a good friend and I thought she was galloping mad But it worked, 8 years in now and getting married next year if she says yes, life has no guarantees

  • @gavinreadman
    @gavinreadman Жыл бұрын

    That is one of the most used podcasts I have ever watched

  • @Vicky-Blue
    @Vicky-Blue Жыл бұрын

    Wow Tim. Good for you

  • @moniquemichelle7295
    @moniquemichelle7295 Жыл бұрын

    To have to come to the realization that crime is rational is a privilege I’ll never know. Of course it is! It’s survival and trauma. Jesus. Phew. That triggered me but the rest was great. You’re effort to help them is amazing. People just need belief and a second chance.

  • @jon_______
    @jon_______ Жыл бұрын

    So so good Thank you

  • @dialamark7863
    @dialamark7863 Жыл бұрын

    Tim, I am sorry my friend. But I wish you the best luck to find and be always with the right people. Lots of love from UK.

  • @jwheaton60
    @jwheaton60 Жыл бұрын

    Manage energy not time. Focus on those energy producing value generating activities. Time and energy are limited. Energy is restorative. Time is not. Maximize impact. Decide what to "delete" and "not to do".

  • @Josh_Ward
    @Josh_Ward Жыл бұрын

    Appreciate the 1:45:00 mark very much. 👏👏

  • @soulcostume
    @soulcostume Жыл бұрын

    Matt is a genius of efficiency. Tim, come to Mediterranean. Here you won't be as famous and I'll walk you through the fields of gold.😍😍

  • @walterwischmob2914
    @walterwischmob2914 Жыл бұрын

    That's a good wisdom.

  • @michellefurneaux
    @michellefurneaux Жыл бұрын

    Matt's a cool Dude ♥️ from Australia.

  • @Decocoa
    @Decocoa Жыл бұрын

    Book a flight to argentina Tim

  • @Ryan.G.Spalding
    @Ryan.G.Spalding Жыл бұрын

    Holy shit, this guy is amazing!

  • @mpthan
    @mpthan4 ай бұрын

    About checking references, I am wondering what are his views if the candidate asks the interviewer to connect him with ex-employees to get feedback for his/her managerial style and if they would work with this manager again? :) 59:59 At some point, I thought he would advise you to do the same on the dating scene. "Connect me with your exs, I want to check how good you were and if he wanted you back" Also deciding on the first 5 minutes as he suggested, based on your intuition, by definition is biased, this "gut feeling" many cases is a result of mood, stereotypes or subconscious past experiences that maybe irrelevant, and for these reasons large organisations try to tackle this by training interviewers to focus on objective criteria. Your gut feeling is irrelevant. Having a scoring system, like you suggested Tim you do, and applying conscious reasoning is more relevant approach 55:50.

  • @PaulCAmerica
    @PaulCAmerica Жыл бұрын

    not the best lighting situation. Natural light + recessed lights behind the speaker. The window and ceiling lights are harsh to look directly at. Speaker himself is illuminated harshly and artificially from behind camera. The speaker should rotate this whole setup towards the window. Let that window be the primary light source.

  • @Lazarsebaolar
    @Lazarsebaolar Жыл бұрын

    Wow!❤

  • @gabriel_augustob
    @gabriel_augustob Жыл бұрын

    I see a upload, I click

  • @TAGraham
    @TAGraham Жыл бұрын

    go to south america now!

  • @Ryan.G.Spalding
    @Ryan.G.Spalding Жыл бұрын

    This is a fantastic podcast. I hope there is a follow up. I think an accountability partner can be a bottle of wine… Lol

  • @annway5484
    @annway5484 Жыл бұрын

    I hope your notes during this podcast remained relatively organized so you don’t inadvertently apply his recruiting tips to your dating life- “Here’s a list of all my worst qualities..” 😅

  • @falcone9412
    @falcone9412 Жыл бұрын

    Women always worry if a guy just wants them for s@x the same way guys worry if ladies only want their wealth. In both situations, it's impossible to tell. All you can do is hope to attract those with true intentions.

  • @peggyon1
    @peggyon1 Жыл бұрын

    There are millionaire matchmakers

  • @user-md6gr9dj2b
    @user-md6gr9dj2b5 ай бұрын

    If you are sirious about it, Tim, announce publically that you made a bad call on investment and lost it all, in debt up to the ears. Then see what sticks. Aka remove the percieved "threat".

  • @Ryan.G.Spalding
    @Ryan.G.Spalding Жыл бұрын

    Tim, why don’t you have a CFO/family office to handle everything in your life regarding finances and legal. I do this for clients. Just like Birchall for Elon Musk. I bet even Elon spends very little or no time doing these things. You can have that kind of service even if you aren’t a multibillionaire.

  • @jeffbeamer9882
    @jeffbeamer9882 Жыл бұрын

    ummmm ... you CAN read Ayn Rand AND Marcus Aurelius btw ...

  • @JamesDecker7

    @JamesDecker7

    Жыл бұрын

    You can. And hopefully have the insight to realize the foolishness of Ayn’s philosophical narrative and how it failed her. She ended up being a taker and not a maker…

  • @jeffbeamer9882

    @jeffbeamer9882

    Жыл бұрын

    @@JamesDecker7 Is writing a novel that continues to sell 100,000s a year (sales have doubled and redoubled every decade since the 80s) and inspires millions what you would call being a "taker?"

  • @JamesDecker7

    @JamesDecker7

    Жыл бұрын

    @@jeffbeamer9882 Yup. When you wind up on social security after your fundamental philosophy is that such social safety nets should not EXIST…you are a hypocritical person who’s philosophy is obviously flawed. That’s a taker in her OWN words.

  • @smhcharan
    @smhcharan Жыл бұрын

    I also have disagreements with the though process of saying NO - it looks deeply rooted it is all for me mindset rather than the more accommodative and holistic approach.

  • @BryanClayton1
    @BryanClayton1 Жыл бұрын

    Tim, I promise you there are tons of attractive single women who have no idea who you are.. learn cold approach, pick up, and you can meet your future wife and be certain of no preconceived, ulterior motives .

  • @PLEASE-FOCUS
    @PLEASE-FOCUS Жыл бұрын

    Make the sacrifice to wait until marriage for the next one and she'll come. Trust first. Give it to God and work on the thing that caused you two to fail. She will come when you will be ready for her. Do not go seek her until you know you're ready no matter how long that takes. Sorry to hear about your breakup, man. You have so many good years left. Sending you love

  • @BedrockLeadership
    @BedrockLeadership Жыл бұрын

    INTJ? Color me skeptical.

  • @manholeeunuchsbane6197
    @manholeeunuchsbane6197 Жыл бұрын

    CEO coach? Lulz. If you knew how to be a CEO, why wouldn't you just do that? Holy crap.

  • @niklaszillig7282

    @niklaszillig7282

    Жыл бұрын

    He did it successfully already? And he is not even getting money out of it as he stated towards the end, he just has fun with it and those CEOs seek him out because they find his advice helpful

  • @cantbendknee
    @cantbendknee Жыл бұрын

    Tim's view of women is so bad I almost don't want him to date any because they don't deserve that attitude towards them.

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